I have a girlfriend and I m madly in love with her. I m an 18 year old guy and my friend told me that it is not love. It's infatuation. He told me that one cannot be in love with someone before 23 years or around till the brain gets fully developed. I know it is love and not infatuation but I wanna ask you whether my friend is wrong or I? Is it related with hormonal or brain development or something?

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist47yrs exp

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I have never known the brain to get fully developed by 23 years! And yes, you are all of 18 years and can never say that this is your true love because you are still very young to realize, what true love is. So in all probability you are infatuated, however real this feeling of yours is. Now is there something wrong with infatuation? Don?t you feel great for being in your infatuation? Of course it does and that is all that matters. You just enjoy this feeling and the relationship as long as it lasts. I am also sure that this girl is either the same age or younger than you and so her feelings are also subject to hormones and she is still quite immature. This is a phase all youngsters go through and you need not feel bad about it or feel the need to defend yourself. Just enjoy yourself and let people call it what they want. 

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