I am 24 years old female I doubt if am having a psychological mental problems. I can not bear feelings if am going to have sex am really scared about that my partner is very much suffering due to that i am not allowing him to do anything because of my fear what will I do.

Dr. Rahul GuptaSexologist10yrs exp

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Hello- 1. The fear of having sex might be due to feeling a bit insecure about your body. But the thing is, men aren't that confident either. Both of you guys love each other the way you are, and focusing on your flaws and being too hard on yourself won't do you any good. We'd recommend you let go of the fear of having sex and focus more on how you present and carry yourself. And what matters the most is the emotional connection both of you have together. 2. Another helpful tip to overcome the fear of having sex is to set up the right mood and atmosphere in the room, one where you can relax and use things such as candles and roses or whatever you personally fantasize about. 3. Of course this goes without saying, but make sure that the man you're married to is understanding and you can easily talk to about anything bothering you. If you're scared of having sex, he needs to know that to also consider how to help you overcome your fear of having sex. You could perhaps ask him to guide you through it and show you what he likes. 4. Try to think of sex as a fun activity between you and your husband, as it brings you closer on many levels. Try not to think of sex too much and worry about it, instead let your emotions take the lead. 5. Obviously if you're worried about having sex, then you'll need to take things a bit slow. Beat your fear of having sex and start off with kissing and plenty of foreplay to step into the right mood. A nice massage with some oil would help get you both ready for the night. 6. Introduce playfulness and humor to sex without having your partner think you're laughing at him. This certainly helps you overcome the fear of having sex and makes the situation much calmer and relaxed. 7. Remember to breathe! Breathing is very helpful when it comes to overcoming the fear of having sex. If you feel a bit uncomfortable just remember to take a deep breath and try to relax!  

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