We have 2 kids of ages 2.4 years (son) & 2 months (daughter) respectively. While my wife was pregnant, we had worked with our son to teach a fair positive impression about his upcoming sibling & he had also responded quite well. Since the pregnancy, I had taken primary responsibilities to take care of him with fair support & company from my parents, while my wife also tried to do as much as she could. Also, around the age of 1.6 yrs, we worked with him to get rid of the habit of breastfeed by educating him that he is now grown up & he should let his sibling to take that, which had also worked pretty well. After my wife has come back after delivery with our daughter, we found he likes his sister quite well & loves to play with her too. However, we also started noticing a few changes in his behavior as follows, which I would like to share to make sure we are not ignoring any major problem. 1) We heard him saying 4-5 times in past one month that feeding is for sister & not for him, after which he sadly lies down on the bed. 2) He is quite possessive about his grandfather & does not allow him to take his sister at all. Even when I try to spend time with her, he does not take it in the right spirit. 3) Now he is reluctant to sleep with us & prefers to sleep with the grandparents, however, if I sleep with him separately, while the mother sleeps with the daughter, apparently it works better for him. What we are afraid is if he continues to sleep with grandparents, he might feel himself deprived of the company of his parents during sleeping. 4) He looks a little less focused in his daily study (with me), although he has the ability to pick up things really fast. Considering all these aspects, do you think I should continue to sleep with my son separately while the mother sleeps with the daughter to make things peaceful? Please advise in terms of overall well being of the entire family.
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Accordingly my suggestion is that you all can sleep together and enjoyed the life in a better way he want love of mother also so that can be filled her only
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Sibling rivalry is common .This has to be dealt with sensitively. Both of you have to spend time with your son also. He should be made to feel equally special, like his sister. This phase will slowly pass off.
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Hello, Lybrate user, present action makes your desirable future. You should sleep with your son to keep him cool to discard the issue in future, gradually with the development of age and understanding. Give him homoeopathic medicine:@ Kali phos 3x-1tabs, thrice. Tk, care.
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Every child behaves differently in such circumstances. Parents feel so as you have narrated. A child is not expected to behave the way parents desire. Fortunately child is attached to his grandfather n may be getting what he likes. This is your apprehension that later child may not be attached with u. It entirely depends on you how to make feel baby that you are equally attached to him as grandfather is attached n similarly you r attached to his young sister. If you wish you may consult either pediatrician or psychologist.
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I am very impressed by the way you have handled everything and he has sibling rivalry even without his conscious mind knowing it. The 2 month old daughter needs utmost support now and all you can do is spend as much time with him as possible and feed the newborn when his attention is away and you can allow him to sleep with ou while taking care to feed the baby properly and console him and make him involved in baby care like changing napkins etc.. You can talk in detail with me via the site
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