I am a last year college student. I was good at public speaking and I got a lot of prizes during my schooling and good at studying as well. But from my childhood I was an introvert. At +2 time I started reading myself and started changing my behaviour but still I couldn't achieve the same. Now I am not that much introvert as before but still my behavioural skills are bad. I always fails to keep my relationships alive and making or interacting with people in a new place. Also fails to talk to someone for a long time. I would like to change this attitude but couldn't do that. Please help me to become more social.
Quite a few of us are introverts and yet are very successful. Many times we can 'put on' and assume a personality to serve a particular performance and go through it very adequately. However, when it comes to your actual nature, you will always know the truth and that may not be that encouraging. At later adolescence, when you were in your +2, some unresolved issues will come up for the last time seeking a resolution. If that is not sorted out, you are likely to carry permanent negative traits into adulthood, which is what has happened, I believe in your case. You may be looking at a poor self-image and self-esteem that needs some attention. It will have to do with fear of something in the social context. You will need to meet with a counselor to deal with that. In the meantime, you could attend a good personality development course, public speaking skills course, personal grooming course, good conversational skills course, bodybuilding by attending a gym, eat properly, sleep adequately, become emotionally stable etc.
Social anxiety disorder is a very common condition and affects about 5 people in 100 in one's lifetime. I believe you should consult a psychiatrist to be able to go back to baseline which is to be able to interact socially for better functioning and also to achieve success in your daily life. Medications along with counseling is better than talk therapy alone. Group therapy may also be needed ultimately.
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It is good that you understand yourself so well and are trying to gain insight into yourself and seek help. I feel half of your battles is won already. Try and analyse yourself every now and then, pracitice some communication skill programs, inculcate them in your daily life and see how far you can go from there. To become social you need to stop worrying and just start enjoying company of other people.
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