Hello doctor, I am arrange married. I have a past love and we had sex with each other for many times. But due to some reasons we broke ourselves. I married another girl. Almost 10 months but still I coundnt able to forgot my ex and her memories esp the sex scenes we had in past. So that I can't able to involve myself completely to my wife. I am acting. Esp during intercourse, my tongue slips to spell my ex's name. I m struggling. I know past is the past we can't get back it. But I don't know how emote, hope you understood what am trying to say? Please show me some way. Please rescue me otherwise I may lose my wife and life.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist46yrs exp

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If you treasure your wife that much that you don't want to lose her, then it is a good sign. You must first of all consciously get that girl out of your mind, especially during sex, and her memory will slowly atrophy. Then it is important to explore a variety of sexual poses and acts that will be new and different to make your experience with your wife rather unique and highly pleasureful. If you seek the guidance of a sexologist he may help you along the way with different approaches but the person may also help you with all he five factors involved with the act: physical, emotional, intellectual, social, and spiritual. This multi-dimensional approach will be wholesome and very gratifying and bring a lot of adventure into your sex life. Your history will fade away into oblivion, forever. 

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