My 3 years old daughter doesn't speak much. She says words to explain what she wants but she doesn't talk fluently. She is good with her motor skill, body balance. She even tries to trick me. I'm a single parent. My ex husband was violent with me in front of my daughter till she was around 2 years old. Is it possible that violence that my daughter has witnessed has effected her growth or language skill in someway. Also I work long hours each day, I hardly give my daughter 3-4 hrs a day. She is mostly with her maid. Should I seek some psychological treatment for my daughter?

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist48yrs exp

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Yes, the divorce and all the violence she has witnessed will have a bearing on this child. Being a girl child, she will also miss her father quite a bit now, and more later. It does not help that you don?t have much time to give her too. These years are most important to her and any way you can spend more time with her will diminish the total impact to a reasonable level, at least. Believe me, this is an investment with good dividends: otherwise you are looking at paying a great price for her and yourself, later. At this age she must talk incessantly, so this break up is certainly impacting her. She is angry and probably very sad. Divorce is always bad for the adults and worse for the kids. You have a responsibility to help her tide over the effects of this huge void in her life. You cannot obviously be father and mother to her, so a male figure around her will somewhat compensate this loss. You could go to a child psychologist both for assessment and some therapy. Don?t try to delay helping her on any front because it is easier to set things right as a preventive measure than as a curative one. She is already in a disturbed state but further negligence will lead to serious situations that at a later time even curative efforts may only nudge the issues and make it very difficult to do real justice. 

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