Sir i am married (3 years old) and my wife is not ready to have sex And if i asked she told me i dont like it and she is have more anger at so many times . She is not looking if all persons arr there also she is start shouting and she s not see any body .Shr is shouting for all person like her mother , me , sister and her friend.So kindly suggest wat to do and i cannot take her to doctor because i tried lot to take her to doctor but she is not coming.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist48yrs exp

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You are looking down the barrel of a very difficult situation: She is making public her displeasure and is unwilling to seek help from a professional outside the home too. I think that she may have some inhibitions around sex, for many reasons, from her family of origin. In that case, you must be gentle in your approach and find out her discomfort and address that with a lot of understanding and some education. You say that she is also complaining of the frequency of your demands, or is it about how many times you want sex? If the latter, am I to understand that she does let you have sex but not so many times that you want it? If this is true, then again you must be gentle and coax her into the act, and reduce the frequency until she becomes more amenable. One thing to do, to make her more amenable, is to increase the foreplay to a level that is close to orgasm so that the experience is exhilarating that she may want more of it. It is also possible to get a close friend/relative (close also in age to hers), whom she respects to talk to her. In spite of all this, if there is still resistance, you may have to call her parents into the scene and have them intervene to remove whatever is holding her back. And if that fails too, then you will need to call in a spiritual leader to talk her into some compliance. Ideally, you want her to concede on her own volition but if she is playing this hard, you may have to resort to these measures recommended. My other concern is if she is volatile and does something drastic to herself because this is too much for her, we may be taking an undue risk. Consider all this before taking any chances that provoke an adverse reaction. 

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