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I had been in a relationship with a guy for almost 4 years now. We broke up last week. The reason wasn't very simple neither was it complex which is why I need help. He needed physical intimacy in the relationship whereas I on the other hand did not really like getting physical. I liked being cuddled or kissed but getting naked and getting physical wasn't something I enjoyed. Most of the times, I used to pretend that I liked doing it only so as to make him happy. He would call me over to his home to spend some time but it had never really happened that we just held hands or kissed each other. It always got into getting undressed and doing things I never really liked. So eventually I stopped going to his place and started giving him reasons and avoided going to his place. We always used to have a fight on this topic. There were a few things he wanted me to change in myself. He said I was very short tempered and trust me I changed myself in that aspect a lot. Even he had a few habits that I wanted him to change but he never did. Basically I broke up because even after doing so much for the relationship, all he wanted was I to get physical with him. He did not want to respect my choice of not getting physical at all. This really put me in a dilemma that is getting physical in a relationship way more important than forming a strong emotional connection let alone with your partner, my partner's parents had already considered me their daughter and they love me so much. So basically when I weigh physical intimacy with the emotional bond in the relationship what weighs more?


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