Understand the situation
Whether the first time or the millionth your vagina is no different, it’s designed to have sex without pain as when aroused it will relax, lubricate, open and increase in size, as it’s flexible it will also stretch to accommodate a penis and then return to normal after sex.
Most commonly if sex hurts the first time it is due to the woman not being ready, either not emotionally ready so tensing-up or not physically ready so not aroused enough for penetration. This means penetration is forced, causing pain and damage which increases risk of STDs and infection, your vagina is not designed to make sex unpleasant or harmful, it’s designed for pleasure.
Use more foreplay, ideally orgasm at least once before intercourse, and use lubrication if/when needed, go slowly and communicate with your partner. Enjoy sex without penetration for a while and if that develops into intercourse, if he can slide himself easily into you during foreplay then carry on like that - allow some natural progression, rather than stopping and saying 'Now it is time for penetration' take pressure off by letting it happen naturally.
The only possible difference to your vagina would be if your hymen is intact - which is rare as by the time you have sex it’s likely to have worn away, stretched or torn from foreplay or masturbation – sex doesn’t necessarily tear your hymen as it can stretch, even if it tears it doesn’t always hurt.
If you believe the myth that sex hurt the first time then you NEED to educate yourself a lot more about how your vagina works and about sex before you have sex, these are basic things someone of your age and someone who is about to have sex should know. Learn how to prevent possible pain rather than accepting it as inevitable, because it's really not. If you are nervous then this will also help ease those nerves (nerves can make sex painful) because you'll know what to expect and how to prevent problems such as pain during sex - knowledge combats fear.
Dear, reason I am not suggesting you any numbing cream because it would be dangerous as you can't feel when damage is being done - this means you cannot stop him when he's causing you harm, so he may cause even more harm putting you at higher risk of infection and STD's, also when the numbing cream wears off the pain may remain.
If you want you can use lubricant but avoid numbness cream Thanks.
Erasmus Mundus Master in Adapted Physical Activity, MPT, BPTh/BPT
The piriformis muscle can also irritate the nearby sciatic nerve and cause pain, numbness and tingling along the back of the leg and into the foot Treatment of sciatica pain, low back pain and leg pain from piriformis syndrome, using stretching, exercise, physical therapy, ice and heat.
It looks like you are anaemic. If you have back pain after you sit for long hours then it is due to your haemoglobin levels as it is important to check that. Anaemia always leads to the symptoms of being tired and also having back / leg pain though there may not be any pathological reasons for back pain. The lower end of the vertebral column is inflamed and that bone is called coccyx bone and the condition is called Coccydynia. The conservative management would be to keep ice in that inflamed area during one time in a day and also to sit in a hot water bowl where the penetration of the heat would help to reduce the inflammation. And to reduce the weight falling on the inflammed surface we suggest patients to use air cushion pillow (also called as doughnut pillow) where in the buttock's weight will not fall exactly on the painful tail bone and that would automatically reduce the pain.
Bachelor of Ayurveda, Medicine and Surgery (BAMS), MD - Alternate Medicine, CFN
It's ok to use a local anesthetic for first time sex if you are scared of pain. It's better if your partner wears condom . Otherwise his penis will also become numb and he may have erection issues because of lack of pleasure .
Apart from taking symptomatic treatment we should plan to take tablet Alprazolam 0.25 at night after clinical examination and Few diet tips - Not to eat fried food items and Can eat All green vegetables, moong , chana , Dal , rice etc And to apply ghee over chappati and don’t apply oil over chappati And to drink milk mixed with turmeric powder twice a day And If possible eat eggs on alternate days And If possible in breakfast eat atleast one bajra ka rotla And Eat seasonal fruit
Apart from taking symptomatic and your ongoing TB treatment I will suggest you to take injection vitcofol 2cc intramuscularly every fourth days for five pricks over the buttocks through a health professional
its a Good news that nothing came out in MRI. But pain, numbness is something that has to be taken care of as its been an year. I would suggest you please start with hot water formentation thrice a day with application of local ointment. But do not massage. Start wearing wrist-finger binder asap to avoid more wear and tear of the muscles. I even suggest you to take 7 days of Ultrasound Session from the Physiotherapist and as the pain subsides immediately start with the Strengthening Exercise for the wrist and finger both. Do let me know how is the pain after 7 days.
Thank You Get Well soon.
BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology, Positive Psychiatry and Mental Health
Your neck is made up of vertebrae that extend from the skull to the upper torso. Cervical discs absorb shock between the bones. The bones, ligaments, and muscles of your neck support your head and allow for motion. Any abnormalities, inflammation, or injury can cause neck pain or stiffness. It will take a little time to clear the stiffness. don't worry. Practice yoga and physiotherapy. You will be alright in around a month.