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Asked for female, 29 years old from Chennai
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Hello doctor, Am 30 years old. I have 1.5 year old kid. Now my problem is my husband. He is having illegal affair with his old class mate. It has been continuing for past 1.5 year. His family come to know all this. Because I have intimate everything to them. That lady crossing her limits. My daughter living with my mother home. Because I need to give positive environment to my daughter. More over he likes me much. He is my official manager. Am earning nice. If I create any problem he ll stop giving projects to me. Many times he used to threatened me. For my daughter am tolerating all this shits. His parents spoke to that lady and warned. But she is not listening. She looks very bad. But I don't know y he get addiction towards her. He is drinking heavily because of this. Am sure if she get rid of him he ll be very fine. She is living in abroad along with her husband and kids. She is still cheating. My husband sleeping alone. Because mid night she used to call him. I have seen they had sex chat, video sex. By this way they r getting satisfy. But it's not pure love. Doctor please advice me how to make him understand and how to make her stay away? We planned to speak to her parents about her cheating. Also she has sent many love gifts to him. His family took everything from our home. After long fight he come to know that her gifts are with them. He is very eager to get that gifts. But I strictly ask them do not give those gifts to him. Because that's only evidence for her affair. He is trying to safeguard her. But I want her to off from my life permanently. Because I come to know she is emotionally making him very weak. So he couldn't realize reality. Doctor please advice how to handle this.

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Ph.D, M.Phil - Psychology

Psychologist•Mathura
VERY SORRY TO HEAR ALL THIS. BUT, YOU GOT TO BE VERY BRAVE

I ADMIRE YOU FOR ALL YOUR COURAGE AND TRYING YOUR LEVEL BEST TO MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE WORK.

BUT, WE MUST FACE FACTS AS THEY CAN NOT BE CHANGED!

1. YOU SEEM FINANCIALLY DEPENDENT ON HIM- PLEASE TRY TO GET A GOOD JOB- WELL, THIS IS WHAT HE WANTS- YOU OUT OF THE WAY!- BUT, THIS IS A MUST SO THAT HE CAN NO LONGER THREATEN/BLACKMAIL YOU.

AS OF NOW, HE FEELS YOU JUST CAN NOT LEAVE HIM AS YOU ARE DEPENDENT ON HI...more
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Homeopath•Thane
This is quite personal thing you have shared overhere and it would be better if you can talk to her about it without any judgment or doubt in your mind. People cheat in relationship due to many reasons like no attention from partner, something is bothering her so much that she is not able to share with you and many other factors could be there.
Inspite of starting the blamegame, you should give her a lots of attention and affection so that she herself cut the new habit down.
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I am a married woman of age 25. I am married for 5 years. I am very much depressed. I have no one to share my grief. Me and my husband were on and off in a relationship. And we were not able to lead a normal relationship as of other couples. He is the one who chased at back of me saying that he loved me and made me fall for him. Yes ours is a love marriage, but It never felt like it from the beginning. We had lots of issues even before marriage. Lots of his behaviour changed after I accepted his proposal. He totally changed into a different person and all of his behaviors were bad. I am the one who took care of all the expenses of him even before marriage but still He stole money from me. He would lie to me for unwanted things. Even though I knew all this He was my first love As I loved him so much truly I couldn't change my feelings for him. My parents didn't accept as he was uneducated unemployed and of his family status etc. After a long struggle my parents accepted our marriage as I was so stubborn. I thought he would change after marriage. But I was wrong, it even became worse after marriage. Most of my nights were sad and lonely. I always cried myself to sleep. We didn't even have sex from the beginning. He was always sleeping. He doesn't seem to have any interest in me. At first I didn't think it as a big problem. I thought he might be tired. But as days rolled by this distance even grew even wider. I wanted a baby so bad. Many times I even expressed my desire to have sex leaving behind my dignity. But he refused saying any petty reasons and never gave any importance to my feelings even once. He totally neglected me. He constantly picking up fights argue with me hit me and leaves the house wouldn't show up and wouldn't even pick up my calls. every time I would be worrying crying without knowing where he was. He would steal money from me. He even stole my engagement ring and sold it. I found the receipt and When I asked about it he was so adamant and he argues he didn't do it. He kept all my jewelry in pawn broker shop and never got them back. I have been facing issues my whole married life But each time I was the one who apologizes and make things normal. He doesn't even accepts his mistake. Even I have been in same house without talking to him for days which he does even care to bother. I have been adjusting so much to make things work and I am sick of it. So I couldn't take it anymore I came back to my parents house. Since then I have not heard a word from him. I am very much depressed and stressed. I lost my father earlier this year who was my only support which broke me down even more. I have no one else so I called my husband for help. But nothing functions for him if money is not involved. So I gave him a lakh and so to take care of the last rituals of my father. And after that he would come and sleep at my house at night as I was alone. One day I was going through the cupboard and found out that my father's jewelry was missing. But I have seen them the previous day took them cleaned them and kept it again in the cupboard. I was searching the whole house turning it upside down. Only my husband came he was the one who stole it. It was my father's favorite ring he was wearing it almost 30 years ever since he got engaged to my mom. I treasure it in his memory. I was begging him to give it back I even told him I would give him how much ever money he asked but he was so cruel showed no mercy I was shattered. I don't know what to do. I don't know how much does I have to go through to be in this relationship. I don't have any other choice. I am afraid to live alone in this cruel world. Is there any way for me. Please help I don't have anyone.

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Psychologist•Gurgaon
Hi lybrate-user Sorry to hear about your suffering Immediately consult with me or any psychologist for therapy and counseling Talk about it in detail with a mental health professional Connect with me through audio on Lybrate app.
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Psychiatrist•Chennai
Those who post happy pics may not be happy. Since it has broken, leave and forget it and think ahead. You can even stop seeing her pics and posts for better peace of mind. All the best.
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General Physician•Mumbai
There might have been some motive behind him coming to your house for staying and you will have to decide whether to deal with him on temporary basis or permanent basis
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Psychologist•Palakkad
Dear user. I can understand. Please don't be panic. I suggest you to consult a psychologist in person. We are here to help you in every aspect of your mental and physical health. Any sexual or psychological problems can be cured with the help of various methods and therapies. I suggest you to post your query with every detail here. We will help you in overcoming your problems certainly. Take care.
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Homeopath•Nashik
Ask your husband why he is behaving like this with you. Is there any reason for it. If he is telling you about your problems firstly listen to him and then tell him that I don't like this things you are doing, It hearts me a lot. Don't compare me with any lady, you tell him I'm perfect in my own way. Talk all this things with your husband and don't afraid for this. Don't worry if you have any questions or if you want any help contact me.
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Psychologist•Delhi
Hello Lybrate user
you need to talk to your husband and discuss the matter, don't force for anything, give some time and space ,some time it happens ,please take help of any professional to rule out the cause of problem, if you need my help you can contact online.in the meanwhile try few things make yourself busy, go for movie or somewhere and do what ever you like with your friends, make some hobbies, in short do
whatever makes you happy and with the help of any professional rule out th...more
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MBBS, DNB (PSYCHIATRY)

Psychiatrist•Delhi
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There must be something lacking up in present relationship that you ended up with al this mess. Do not allow guilt to dominate urs emotions. If something is bothering you hard, you can go for relationship counselling to understand the things.
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