Emotional problems make simple things harder. High feeling, bubbling disappointment and hurt emotions motivate the person. Certain people become very protective. Protectiveness causes us to prey on others. Others might want to disconnect completely and resolve issues in a different manner. Many people manage their emotional issues by opposing, quelling and overlooking them. At this point, your brain feels uneasy and you end up making rash decisions. However, there are ways to deal with emotional problems. These are as follows:
In case you continue facing this frequently, you will soon find that your relationship with your mind will begin to change. You will build up an intense metacognition (the capacity to face your reasoning) which helps you to handle your emotions and feelings in a great manner.
The effects of an abusive relationship are sometimes not visible until it is too late. While most of you will think of the emotional torture that the person goes through, there is more than what meets the eye. Imagine a female who is in a relationship with a guy who is very strict with finances. She might even be reluctant to ask for money so that she can buy her medicines regularly. For someone with asthma or epilepsy, this could be a devastating situation.
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We live in a world where goddesses are worshiped and women get tamed, harassed, abused, raped, and kidnapped every single day. Keeping a check on a number of women-related cases, the government of india provides crucial rights to indian women.
" human rights are women's rights and women's rights are human rights, once and for all" - hillary clinton
Unfortunately, many of the women do not know their rights.
On the grounds of gender equality, here are 111 rights an indian woman holds in India -
1. Women have the right to equal pay -
According to the provisions listed under the equal remuneration act, one cannot be discriminated on the basis of sex when it comes to salary, pay or wages.
Working women have the right to draw an equal salary, as compared to men. Women are eligible to get an equal pay under the laws of india.
2. Women have the right to dignity and decency -
In an event that the accused is a woman, any medical examination procedure on her must be performed by -- or in the presence of -- another woman.
3. Women have the right against workplace harassment -
The sexual harassment of women at workplace act gives a female the right to file a complaint against any kind of sexual harassment at her place of work. Under this act, she can submit a written complaint to an internal complaints committee (icc) at a branch office within a period of 3 months.
4. Women have a right against domestic violence -
Section 498 of the indian constitution looks to protect a wife, female live-in partner or a woman living in a household like a mother or a sister from domestic violence (including verbal, economic, emotional and sexual) by the hands of a husband, male live-in partner or relatives.
The accused shall be punished with a non-bailable imprisonment for a term which may extend to three years and shall also be liable to fine.
5. Female sexual assault victims have the right to keep their identity anonymous -
Protests against rape in india. To ensure that her privacy is protected, a woman who has been sexually assaulted may record her statement alone before the district magistrate when the case is under trial, or in the presence of a female police officer.
6. Women have the right to get free legal aid -
Under the legal services authorities act, female rape victims have the right to get free legal aid or help from the legal services authority who has to arrange a lawyer for her.
7. Women have right not to be arrested at night -
Unless there is an exceptional case on the orders of a first class magistrate, a woman cannot be arrested after sunset and before sunrise.
A woman cannot be arrested before sunrise and after sunset. In addition, the law also states that the police can interrogate a woman at her residence only in the presence of a woman constable and family members or friends.
8. Women have the right to register virtual complaints -
The law gives women the provision for filing virtual complaints via e-mail, or writing her complaint and sending it to a police station from a registered postal address.
Further, the sho sends a police constable to her place to record her complaint. This is in case a woman is not in a position to physically go to a police station and file a complaint. Laws for women in India.
9. Women have the right against indecent representation -
Depiction of a woman's figure (her form or any body part) in any manner that is indecent, derogatory, or is likely to deprave, corrupt or injure the public morality or morals, is a punishable offence.
10. Women have the right against being stalked -
Section 354d of the ipc makes way for legal action to be taken against an offender if he/she follows a woman, tries to contact her to foster personal interaction repeatedly despite a clear indication of disinterest; or monitor the use by a woman of the internet, email or any other form of electronic communication
11. Women have a right to zero fir -
An fir that can be filed at any police station irrespective of the location where the incident occurred or a specific jurisdiction it comes under, the zero fir can later be moved to the police station in whose jurisdiction the case falls under. This ruling was passed by the supreme court to save the victim's time and prevent an offender from getting away scot-free.
Most of the developed countries of the world have witnessed a massive shift in both the attitudes and inherent thoughts about women’s equality and emancipation.
Women in the west are more secure, liberated and aware to fight the oppression or injustice at any given point of time.
However, in developing countries like India, women are still struggling to get equal rights. It is very painful to witness that in 2018 when the world is moving towards an economic and technological revolution, we are still struggling for equal rights. It is depressing to see that the women in India continue to be ill-treated, oppressed and exploited.
In the context, it’s imperative women are aware of their rights under the law.
I present a list of five laws that you must know of, so that the right action is taken, at the right time.
1. Stalking is punishable. Don’t avoid it, report it.
In one of the many aftermaths of the Nirbhaya case, stalking was added as an offense as section 354d of the Indian Penal Code (IPC) under criminal law (amendment) act, 2013. In a shocking state of affairs, after this ordinance came into effect, as many as 203 men were arrested and 259 cases were registered in the first six months of the enactment of the law, according to a report by Times of India. However, even these numbers are far away from reality.
Stalking is, unfortunately, not given enough attention in India, because of the casual attitude of the society and women getting uncomfortably used to it. “getting-used-to” stems from the idea of self-preservation or being taught, if not actively, to not retaliate in case of any danger.
Stalking is strictly censured as per the criminal law (amendment) act, 2013. Section 354d enables the state to take legal action against the offender.
Even after the law is in place, why do you think the women are not reporting incidents of stalking?
Most women are either intimidated by the stigma of reporting, or by the casual attitude of police officials, who most of the time dismiss such cases as trivial.
If you are being stalked, you can report the crime through an online application to the national commission for women (NCW). Once the ncw is intimated about it, they will take up the case with the police. You can visit the website of NCW. If you are being stalked, and need immediate assistance, you can also dial 1096 or 0111-23219750.
2 Lodge an fir - don’t worry about the jurisdiction
You can only register an fir in the police station of your own jurisdiction or where the crime has been committed. This is one of the primary reasons why police officers often refuse to lodge a fir and ask you to visit a different police station. It often leads to the aggrieved individuals being stressed, frustrated and eventually giving up on even filing the complaint.
But, if you are a woman who seeks to file a complaint, you can file a zero fir. It came as an after effect of Nirbhaya rape case with an intention to initiate the investigation or an action by the police officials without taking the place of crime into account.
3. Sexual harassment at the workplace is not acceptable, report it
As per a recent survey of 6, 074 participants (both male and female) conducted by the indian national bar association, around 38 percent of respondents confessed to being sexually harassed at their workplace. The same report reveals that around 69 percent of respondents decided against complaining to the management.
In addition, 65 percent of the participants revealed that most of the companies did not follow the procedure prescribed under sexual harassment (prevention, prohibition, and redressal) act, 2013 (‘the sh act’).
Sexual harassment at the workplace is more common than it may seem. However, as a woman it is your primary duty to know your rights, keep yourself updated and complain in case of any discomfort.
4. If you are married that does not mean you can be abused
One of the major stigmas associated with the Indian society is, “irrespective of what happens, the marriage shouldn’t break.” this idea has been glorified in various Bollywood movies, speeches of various politicians and protectors of religion and culture. These ideas are so deeply embedded in the mindset of a majority of women that they often suffer domestic violence without raising a voice.
This situation gives a huge boost to the individuals who demand dowry or subject their wives, daughters-in-law or newly married women to domestic abuse.
A report revealed that from 2005-2015, 88, 467 women (on an average of 22 women each day) died due to dowry-related cases. In 2015 alone, 7, 634 women were killed over dowry. This situation is worrisome.
Section 498a of the IPC aggressively condemns dowry death. In addition, section 3 and 4 of the prohibition of dowry act, 1961 not only provide for penalty for giving or taking dowry but also for demanding dowry.
The fir once registered makes it a non-bailable offense in order to ensure that a woman’s safety is not put under question and further abuse can be avoided. Any abuse, be it physical, verbal, economic or sexual is covered under section 498a.
5. No one can upload your pictures/videos without your consent
Call it fortunate or unfortunate, but we are living in a world of technology, where the internet has connected thousands of individuals under one umbrella, and cell phones are easily accessible and a mobile camera is in everyone’s pocket.
With the kind of technology available, it is not uncommon to find nude or smutty pictures, indecent videos shared through WhatsApp becoming the biggest nightmare of women. You can easily find changing room videos or maybe the most intimate moment between a couple doing rounds on the internet. As per a report by the news minute, the transmission of obscene content in electronic form witnessed a sudden explosion in the number of registered cases with a 104.2 percent increase from the year 2012 to 2013. The real number could be higher as many victims do not come forward due to fear or embarrassment.
What are the remedies available in such a case?
The first priority is obviously to have the videos or images removed from the portal. You must know that Google has the policy of removing revenge porn or pictures/videos shared without the consent of the victim. You need to directly approach the website that has published your pictures or videos. These websites are subject to laws and are obliged to comply with them. Extorting money for removing the content is equally illegal. You can also opt to get an injunction order from the court so that the images/videos cannot be circulated further.
Section 67 and 66e of the information technology act (it act), deal with punishment for violation of privacy and explicitly forbids capturing, publishing or transmitting the image of a private area of any person without his or her consent. Section 354c of the criminal law (amendment) act 2013, also known as the ‘’voyeurism section’’, criminalizes capturing and sharing images of a woman during a private act.
All you need to do is be bold and go ahead with the complaint. Be assured that the content will be taken down. Rest assured, the law will back you.
In the end, all I can tell you is: I see my mother, sisters, and friends and keep wondering how difficult it might be to be a woman. These challenges can be easily avoided with knowledge, awareness and a little courage.
We all have come across the situation where we have to deal with difficult people in our life. Emotional abuse is a worse form of abuse as it destroys your self-esteem. Emotional abuse takes place when an individual intentionally or otherwise, involves in a kind of behaviour that puts other people down and exert control over them. Threats, intimidation, betrayal are a harmful form of emotional abuse which a person can face.
Many examples of emotional abuse are seen as in a parent-child relationship, those faced by co-workers at the workplace, in a sexual relationship. For e.g. In case of a sexual relationship, where the other partner wants to leave the relationship because of the abusive sexual behaviour of his/her spouse, the abuser will manipulate by convincing the partner in threatening, abusive way, by putting you down making you feel guilty. Unwanted sexual acts which would make you feel uneasy like “if you love me you would do this for me” this is beginning of abuse in which partner is trying to take control over others.
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Relationships are either delicate or strong, depending upon the bonding with your partner. The bonding depends on various factors. Some of the most essential ones being an emotional attachment, friendliness, sense of ease, mental compatibility and a feeling of sustained emotional support from the relationship. This is applicable to all relationships; be it a relationship with your spouse, a parental relationship with your children, a relationship with your friends, relatives, etc.
Whenever we talk about abusive relationships, we picture black eyes and bruised cheeks. However, violence in a relationship usually doesn’t start with physical harm right away. It begins with subtlety and slowly builds up to mental and sometimes physical abuse. Here are some of the warning signs which should immediately raise red flags that a relationship is abusive or violent.
There are no certain ways to tell that particular instances are warning signs of an abusive or violent relationship; the victim might not even realize, but friends and well-wishers must take notice and come forward to help.
As much as we would like to ignore it, domestic abuse is a very common problem. Not every woman has the strength to fight against it and confide in someone. As a friend, it is your duty to look out for them. You don’t have to be an expert in psychology to know the warning signs of domestic violence. Here are 8 such warning signs.