Hello Doctor. I might have been problem or not I don't have any perfect idea about but the life is no more joyousness as i am in a age of 26 now and bachelor and a student of pg. And when I go to meet through my girlfriend (not actually girlfriend we like each other purely) in college time only, means saying anything about enthusiastically like as i am loving her then it does not prevail long enough to talk so confidently as before even not more than 5 minute although still talk but not romantically and most time try to ignore her in a general conversation (this happen to me after a heartache between me and her since one year before) still talk sometime. Please doctor. Would you guide me in this field of love and health and anything that lead to through health fitness or anything else that I reported. Thanks.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist47yrs exp

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I am not sure that I get your drift. If I understand it right, it sounds like you may have gone off of this girl after that? heartache! that might have been quite serious to have this effect. If you can identify that and know that whatever put you off is genuine, then this may be the end of this relationship and it may not be worth pursuing. This may be good for the girl too because you should not mislead her into believing that there is some scope and future in this relationship. However, there is another angle which needs consideration: you could be depressed because of that incident and may be feeling like it is all over and that could be a wrong perception under the influence of the depression. You could visit a counselor and check out this thought and see if it is true. Then when you deal with the depression, you could see her rather differently. There is also the possibility that this relationship has run its course and there is no longer any appeal or yearning for this girl, i. E. The attraction has died for some reason and you cannot see any future in the situation. I think that you will need to be honest and have a discussion without it being too hurtful and see what her take on these matters are. In fact both of you could visit a relationship counselor and find out more on these lines and take it to its logical conclusion. 

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