Hi, this is regarding my retired dad who in his late 60's started doubting my working mom. After fights raised up he is normal now but he is not agreeing that his doubt was wrong. I am worried that may be again he may raise up with his doubting. Do I need to take him to a psychologist which he would never agree or is there any other medicine to let go off his imaginations? please help.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist47yrs exp

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I think that his not being occupied is probably bothering him. He may also feel insecure that he is not working whereas his wife is. And anyway a little suspicion is good because of their age: mom should feel elevated that he still has possessive feelings for her! no, there is no need to take him to anybody after he has become normal. I doubt it will rise up again but you need to do something for him. Keep him occupied but not busy all through the day. When mom comes back from work have her give him a lot of attention and love: even a little fussing will do no harm. Give him the importance in all matters of life in the home and around the family. Mom in particular must show him a lot of regard, and play down the fact that he is not earning and she is. Let him still feel that he is the decision maker and is in charge: essentially pander to his ego but do not overdo it. As long as he feels important he will be okay. 

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