I am 44 yrs old having wife and 2 kids age 10 & 6. I am working in merchant navy. Due to my job I am out of my family about 7 to 8 months. I had love marriage I am hindu and she is catholic and there is lot of difference in culture and I cant understand her language and we are staying close to her parents house. She does not allow any my family member to come to my house. Last one year she started mens hostel business and due to this she ask me lot of money and I never ask and she never tell me what she is doing with money. Now a days she leaves house about 9 in the morning and comes back 9 in the night. I need to do all my house work. When ever I ask her to come back early she start shouting on me abuse me and says you dont believe me. And she abuse my parents after that we start verbal fighting and she calls her mother and say everything I cant understand anything. She gets phone call till night 12. 30 and if I ask she says why you want to know. I am getting disturb bcz I have only few months leave after again I will go back to ship. I am feeling very lonely and cant understand whats going on her mind. Sometime feel to suicide and end my life. She start saying that I am mad and need to go to doctor. Doctor pls let me know what should I do.
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Running a hostel can be a 24-hour job. She could be very busy, but when you come she needs to make some arrangement to spend time with you. Where are the kids in all this? how has your sex life been all these years? perhaps she could also be frustrated being without you for such long periods of time. I don? t know for how long she has been running this hostel but she should be earning substantially by now, if it is a profitable business, as I know it to be. Why is she talking to people so late in the night? why does she have to talk to her mother in her language only? there are too many loose ends and some investigation needs to be initiated. You can appoint a reliable detective agency to find out and to keep a tab on her dealings. If it is proved that it was all in vain, then at least you can rest peacefully in your mind. But if there is something going on, it is time to confront the same. You need not be foolish about it all. There has to be some account about the money that is being spent, her time, the children? s upkeep and definitely spending quality time with you when you come down. She seems to brush you off with weak arguments which are not good signs. Now if it is proved that she has been playing up, is she worth dying for? not at all. Nobody is worth dying for, period. Before getting into any speculation, find out and then do what is needful. You have a right to know about your wife, her dealings, her time of 12 hours out, and the wellbeing of your kids. Have a serious talk to her, if possible, after you have some evidence. Unless your parents have interfered or were rude to her, she should not be disrespectful to them. In all inter-caste marriages, the differences pose problems and can lead to a lot of complications, if the couple are not very adjustable people.
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