Hi i Am 43, male, married for last 18 years +. We havens a child after ten unsuccesful years via ivf. Our married life was very peaceful until two years ago, when my wife started suspecting me of having an illicit relationship with a girl, an employee of mine, which was totally baseless. No matter how much i, my family, her family or either of our friends tried, we never succeeded in clearing her suspicions. Life became and is still a hell. Its very disturbing. I cannot tolerate anymore. Is this schizophrenia or any other mental disorder. Is it true? can it be treated? can she be normal again? what should I do to get my that loving family back? please help. Here I want to submit that we had a child, a boy, after 10 years of marriage, so that may not be the problem. It seems like a case of morbid jealously. Please help.

Ms. Samiksha JainPsychologist11yrs exp

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There could have be more reasons for suspicion to develop before the 2 years. However, it is difficult to lay down all your cards in front of family members who can be biased and have their own judgements. A couple counsellor would be an ideal, non judgemental and neutral person who can listen objectively to both sides and help you both to get the broken trust and peace back. Both of you can be honest and say what you want from each other, what you can give in the marriage and what you cannot and your true personality, likes and dislikes. The counsellor will help you both to have open communication with each other without blaming and develop better understanding and awareness of each other. 

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Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist48yrs exp

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You cannot label her with any pathological diagnosis by one suspicion, even if persists for a long time. She may have become quite disturbed with the numerous efforts to conceive with iyf. Her mind could have become fragile and some incident or reason may have triggered the suspicion. You have not said so but I guess when she argues, she must be presenting some reason. Since you have not succeeded to sort out matters so far, I suggest that you two go for counseling. If there is a diagnosis, then you can look at treatment. All problems can be resolved, if the person is cooperative, if there is sufficient motivation, if there is good support, and if the prescription is adhered to in every detail. In the course of the medication, she must go for extensive counseling too. 

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