Actually. I have so much tensions That's why i feel irritated all the time. Tell me what i should do now ?
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You are going through the final phase of adolescence and these ?tensions? you talk about are expected. During this time there will be a spurt in the production of the male sex hormone, testosterone, which has a duration of two years. Due to this chemical alone there are three identified features that present itself over which you will have poor control: you will be sexually active, aggressive and rebellious, and you will have acne and pimple problems. Then if you have unresolved childhood issues, they will compound the situation and fuel uncontrolled behavior. Please remember that you may not be aware of all this. If by tension, you mean fear-related, then talk about that fear. If you don?t you will typically act angry and people will relate to your anger not realizing that you need help with the fear. Nothing gets resolved and now you have made others angry with your anger and you stand to lose their friendship. Exercise will channelize a lot of your energy and help you to deal with the situation better. Meditation will also help. Make sure you get good sleep, a minimum of 8 hours and do not exceed 9 hours. You will need social acceptance especially from your friends. If you are not faring well in that area, then at least develop one or two close friends with whom you can share feelings and other matters. The social acceptance includes having a boy friend but do not get too close as in a romantic relationship now ? you will get easily drawn in with the hormones not yet fully settled down. Talk to a counselor, if there are unresolved childhood issues.
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To deal with your irritation, you need to sort out the source of irritation. Also the fact that people will not behave as per your expectation every time. So being realistic about what you expect from whom and how much, would help you in the long run. If you are a person who doesn't speak her mind out when irritated and holds it within is also not good for your emotional health. Irritation is a superficial feeling, hiding underneathe real feelings of hurt, shame, embarrassment, disappointment etc. Try to understand what is it that you are feeling just before you start getting irritated. Sometimes sharing without blaming that you are upset, hurt, disappointed etc with the other person will also help you. Do give a valid reason for it to support your feelings. All these things require a lot of self aweness which a counselling psychologist will help you to achieve. Do visit one in your city. I work in Bangalore and offer Skype sessions too for outside clients.
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