Hi. I have a problem with me. I m a tall n smart guy. I have a problem. I wanted to have sex each day. Sometimes I m unable to control my urge. Even during nite tym with my gf I have sex many times with her. I want to control my urge.
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Sex is interesting and wonderful, when done with the right person; but until then, it is necessary to keep our desires in check. In order to control your urge for sex, these are some of the things you can do: 1. ACCEPT THAT IT IS PRETTY NORMAL TO HAVE SEXUAL URGES To control your sexual urges, you must first accept that there is nothing wrong in wanting sex or thinking about it. It is a pretty normal phase everyone goes through, unlike what we have been made to believe by some societal factors like religion that sex is evil and having sexual urges is a complete taboo. You have to know and accept that your sexual desires are just one of those basic physical needs that seeks to be fulfilled one way or the other and that we are wired to think about sex. Once you have accepted this fact and you strongly wish to put it in check, you can control it. 2. KNOW WHAT TRIGGERS THOSE FEELINGS In order to control your sexual desires, you must know what it is that actually sets it off. For someone who is sexually starved, it is easier to be drawn by sexual signs, making it tough to control your urges but once you have identified those things that these feelings, you mind will be alert enough to steer clear of them. Avoid reading books with x-rated contents or watch pornographic movies or any form of object that can stimulate your sexual urges. 3. TRANSLATE YOUR SEXUAL URGES INTO CREATIVE OUTPUTS To curb your sexual desires, you have to do more to think less. Channel all those feelings into something that will keep your mind off sex and then, get busy. You can read books, go out with friends, watch movies, learn new things etc. Transfer your urges into something you have always wanted to do. At the end of the day, you would have successfully managed not to think about sex and you will also be satisfied at the things you did. If one of those hobbies trigger a sexual response in you and you are feeling aroused, do not masturbate. Think of non-sexual images or take a long walk.. 4. TRANSFER YOUR ENERGY INTO EXERCISE Engage your body in exercise that will keep you busy and keep you from feeling frustrated from not having sex. You can jog in the morning, swim or hit the gym. You can also try yoga and other exercise that will help stimulate both mind and body. 5. STAY AWAY FROM DRUGS AND ALCOHOL Only few can drink heavily or do drugs without losing control of themselves. Stay away from alcohol and drugs if they will cause you to do something you will regret when you are sober. If you must drink, drink with friends you can trust and you know will watch over you. 6. PURSUE NON-SEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS In order to control your sexual urge, you should enter into a relationship with no sex. If you wonder what you both will do without the sex, there are countless things couples can do to bond like going on a field trip together, taking up a joint hobby, learning new things together. Far from what most people think, you can have a very satisfying relationship without sex. 7. TALK TO SOMEONE If you feel like you can?t control it all by yourself, you can talk to your doctor, pastor, parents, close relative or friends. Sometimes, having someone to talk to about how you feel helps better than trying to curb it all by yourself. Who knows, the person you want to meet may have had difficulty curbing his own desires too. What then is better than learning from someone?s experience. Don?t be shy or scared of being judged. 8. GET SPIRITUAL HELP Get spiritual help that engages your mind in spiritual activities that are far from sex. Being around people pursuing the same goal as you, especially in chastity can also be a strong supportive measure. That way you have someone holding your hands all the way.Trying doing BRAMARI PRANAYAM for 10-15 minutes in morning for Mind control. 9.Actually your Mind and Urge for sex are acting in opposite direction Sahil.Your Mind is alerting you not to have sex but it is only after you are done with it.Means no control on Mind because your Urge for sex is not letting you to have control over your Mind.With the help of above 8 points try to have control over your mind. 10.We should enjoy everything in this universe at the right time,at right place and with full confidence and pleasure but excessive sex before marriage will make you loss charmness in sex after marriage and you cannot either yourself enjoy those moments making worse for your better half. Sahil, don?t think of the present only,think of your future,you are going into nowhere zone by just thinking of just yourself ,satisfying your own lust going away from your near and dear ones.Because such persons only think of sex and forgets all other relations. As you would handle the viruses on your system, so should you handle the thoughts of sex, especially when you are trying so hard to be chaste. Tackle your thoughts before it translates into an action you may regret later.
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