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How I'll be increase my memory power? What have to do me? I want to memorize more knowledge.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lybrate user. I can understand. Memory and mind power depends on understanding, retention and recollection. To retain anything in your brain, you need understand properly. To understand properly, you need proper concentration, interest and dedication. You must be serious about what you are doing. Vegetables, fish, milk, egg, nuts, cereals etc help brain active. Physical exercise, games, entertainment etc also plays a big part. I suggest online educational counselling. Take care.
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Hi I am 30 year old. I am suffering from depression and occasional headaches for a long time. I am taking medicines but not fully improved. I am not at all active and my weight is 83 Kgs with 174 cm height. I am taking park cr 12.5 at nite and sulpitac 50 alternate days. Pls suggest me what to do. Pls help me.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Hi I am 30 year old. I am suffering from depression and occasional headaches for a long time. I am taking medicines b...
You may have hypothyroidism and need to check up and headache is migraine .5 Ways to Fight Depression If you feel depressed, it's best to do something about it — depression doesn't just go away on its own. In addition to getting help from a doctor or therapist, here are 5 things you can do to feel better. 1.Exercise. Take a 15- to 30-minute brisk walk every day — or dance, jog, or bike if you prefer. People who are depressed may not feel much like being active. In addition to getting aerobic exercise, some yoga poses can help relieve feelings of depression. Two other aspects of yoga — breathing exercises and meditation — can also help people with depression feel better. 2.Nurture yourself with good nutrition. Depression can affect appetite. One person may not feel like eating at all, but another might overeat. Proper nutrition can influence a person's mood and energy. So eat plenty of fruits and vegetables and get regular meals (even if you don't feel hungry, try to eat something light, like a piece of fruit, to keep you going). 3.Identify troubles, but don't dwell on them. Try to identify any situations that have contributed to your depression. When you know what's got you feeling blue and why, talk about it with a caring friend. Talking is a way to release the feelings and to receive some understanding. 4. Express yourself. With depression, a person's creativity and sense of fun may seem blocked. Exercise your imagination (painting, drawing, doodling, sewing, writing, dancing, composing music, etc.) and you not only get those creative juices flowing, you also loosen up some positive emotions. Take time to play with a friend or a pet, or do something fun for yourself. Find something to laugh about — a funny movie, perhaps. Laughter helps lighten your mood. 5. Try to notice good things. Depression affects a person's thoughts, making everything seem dismal, negative, and hopeless. If depression has you noticing only the negative, make an effort to notice the good things in life. Try to notice one thing, then try to think of one more. Consider your strengths, gifts, or blessings. Most of all, don't forget to be patient with yourself. Depression takes time to heal. If you are happy with these answers please click on "useful” link so that I can know my efforts are not wasted. If you want more clarifications or prescription for medicines consult me on this site to ask me directly and not in open questions session It's not easy to say exactly what causes depression and anxiety – it's different for everyone. Sometimes a difficult time in you or your mates' life can set off depression or anxiety, sometimes it's caused by a combination of things that has built up over time and sometimes, there's just no obvious cause at all.
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I always thinks of what others think of me and I lose my peace of mind due to this, I can not sleep at night thinking that somebody had a wrong opinion on me. I have unusual fears which do not have any cause. I can not sleep at night because of this.please help me

Masters in Clinical Psychology & Certified Cognitive Behaviour Therapy Practioner, Certified Neuro linguistic programming Practioner, Masters in Clinical Psychology, Post Graduate Diploma in Child and ADolescent Counselling
Psychologist, Pune
I always thinks of what others think of me and I lose my peace of mind due to this, I can not sleep at night thinking...
Everyone wants to be liked and accepted, but many of us spend too much time and energy worrying about what other people think. You might not even realize you're doing it, but these kinds of mental gymnastics are unhealthy and stressful, making us feel unworthy and removing our attention from the present moment. Here are four steps to help you stop worrying about what other people think, designed to help you maintain healthier and happier relationships with yourself and others. 1. Understand why you care. In order to break the cycle, it's important to understand where the energy is coming from. We've been socialized by a culture that sets norms for our belongingness. From birth, we're taught we should act a certain way, dress a certain way, buy certain products, and adhere to certain ideologies to be liked and accepted. Social media brings the popularity contest to a whole new level, where how many friends we have, and how much they" like" us, is now publicly broadcast and recorded. We are stressed and exhausted trying to manage our real and online personas to make sure that people continue to like and accept us. Many of us have spent our whole lives in this cycle, believing that a certain set of actions would bring us acceptance, only to repeatedly find that this is not the case. This is a form of social conditioning that we must now give ourselves permission to release! 2. Learn this mantra: What Other People Think About Me Is None of My Business! The root of the problem with caring about what people think about you is that you're attaching yourself to an outcome that you have absolutely no control over. That’s right, you have NO CONTROL over what people say, do and think about you! You can have the best intentions, or you can do something ridiculous: It doesn’t matter. You do not control the way people will respond, just as they do not control the way you respond to them. The belief that you have any ownership of or control over people’s opinions about you comes from a place of ego. The reality is that what other people think about you is none of your business! Take a moment and begin to process and accept this perspective. See how the mantra makes you feel, and note the resistance you might feel from your ego. This is normal. (In fact, with all this time spent worrying and managing expectations, this mantra can feel downright strange at first!) 3. Direct the energy to something positive. This new perspective frees up an immense amount of time and energy to live in the NOW and experience your authentic flow. It also breaks the cycle of conditioning that if you could only do X, say Y, and buy Z, people would like and accept you. Deep inside we know that true acceptance comes from within. So instead of caring so much if someone might be talking about you behind your back. Breathe, repeat your mantra, and then direct the excess energy towards something positive, like following your passion and doing what you love! And if you don’t know what you're passionate about, go and find out! Try a creative new activity, such making art, dancing, playing music, building something, or frolicking outside. You'll be amazed at how happy and free you feel when you spend time doing what you love instead of worrying about what other people think! 4. Practice daily self-love and acceptance. When you're living and creating from a place of genuine love and acceptance, you will know that what other people do, say, and think about you really has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. If you don’t like what they have to say about you, you can walk away knowing you are being true to yourself. A regular, daily practice of self-love and self-acceptance is key for releasing attachment to outcomes and maintaining happy, healthy relationships. For many people, this journey begins with meditation, breath-work, yoga, eating healthy, spending time in nature, and creating art. No matter what you do, make sure to do something that reminds you how much you love yourself every day. As you feel more self-love and self-acceptance, you will attract more of it into your space. This is a life-long mission, not an instant transformation that happens overnight, so please be kind and forgive yourself if you fall back into the cycle of worrying about what other people think. If you find yourself feeling attached to their opinions of you, just remember that they, like you, are walking a long journey of internal healing and growth, and that their attitudes are unique and personal to them. And truly none of your business! Hope this suggestion would help you. Regards,
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I am very much interested in sex. I am 28 years old. I see porn videos. I don't want to see these videos and want work on something important but I am unable to do that. Can you please help me on this. When I am in stress or depression porn videos helping me a lot. How can I overcome this problem?Please help me.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
I am very much interested in sex. I am 28 years old. I see porn videos. I don't want to see these videos and want wor...
Dear, watching porn videos occassionally is not a crime or you don't have to worry about that. If you watch many porn videos in a same day, then it can be called addiction. Are you addicted in that sense? also understand, this addiction is mind based. So instead of calling it an addiction, we call it impulse reaction. Impulse reaction is a mental disorder and not a mental disease. Psychotherapy should clear your impulse reaction and please stop worrying about it. Take care,
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I am 30 year male. I am suffering from dysthymialast 9 year but diagnost last year. I have takenserta 1006 month. Again I am suffering from same symtom.

(MRCPSYCH-UK), MD - Psychiatry, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Hyderabad
If you have responded to serta before, consult a psychiatrist and request him to prescribe the same medicines now as well. If not, he might increase the dose or change to a different medicine.
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Sir In my mind only negative questions come why due to financial weak we are facing this problem and please try to solve my problem.

B.A PSYCHOLOGY HONOURS, M.A PSYCHOLOGY, M.Phil - Psychology, PhD PSYCHOLOGY
Psychologist, Delhi
Sir In my mind only negative questions come why due to financial weak we are facing this problem and please try to so...
You are experiencing lot of stress. You need to calm yourself by focusing on solution and not on problem. Watch astha channel daily 5-7: 30 am and practice side by side. You will feel tremendous relief.
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Accident Trauma - How To Get Over It?

B.A.(H)Psychology, M.A.Psychology, Ph. D - Psychology
Psychologist, Noida
Accident Trauma - How To Get Over It?

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) can occur after one has been in an accident or has faced an event that has left a scar in their memory. The accidental trauma overpowers you with sentiments of misery and weakness, which in turn can trigger PTSD. Here are a few ways in which you can get over the trauma.

Tip 1: Get moving

  1. Exercise can help your nervous system relax and be unstuck on the trauma by discharging endorphins.
  2. Rhythmic exercises that use both your arms and legs, instead of concentrating on your trauma, can help you divert your mind. Eg. walking, running, swimming etc.
  3. Exercises like mountain climbing, boxing, weight lifting, or combative training can make it simpler to concentrate on your body developments and make you stronger.
  4. Plan to exercise for 30 minutes every day or if it is less demanding, three sets of 10-minute workouts are also good.

Tip 2: Self manage your nervous system

  1. Discovering that you can change your arousal framework and quiet yourself down can specifically question the feeling of vulnerability, which is a typical symptom of PTSD.
  2. Careful breathing is a fast approach to calm yourself down. Take 60 breaths, centering your concentration.
  3. Similar to how particular sights, actions or smells can transport you back to the traumatic event, so can sensory information rapidly calm you down. The key is to locate the sensory information that works for you.
  4. Reconnecting to uncomfortable feelings and emotions without getting to be overpowered by them can have a positive effect on your brain to adjust your state of mind.

Tip 3: Connect with others
Once the reflex has been activated, face-to-face association with people who make you feel protected and safe is the fastest and the best method for bringing your nervous system into its right place. The kind backing of others can be important to your recovery. Search for someone you can converse with for a long period of time, somebody who will hear you out without judging you or constantly being occupied. That individual might be your better half, a relative, a companion, or an expert advisor.

Tip 4: Make healthy life changes

  1. The side effects of PTSD can be difficult for your body. So it is important to deal with yourself and build up a healthy lifestyle.
  2. Take out some time to relax. For example, meditation, deep breathing, back rub, or yoga can initiate the body's relaxation reaction and get rid of the side effects of PTSD.
  3. Stay away from liquor and medications. When you are dealing with troublesome feelings and traumatic memories, you might want to opt for elf-cure with liquor or medications. Eat a healthy diet. Begin your day with breakfast, and keep your energy up and your mind clear with adjusted nutritious meals for the entire the day.
  4. Get enough rest. Lack of sleep leads to outrage, irritation and grumpiness. Sleep for at least seven to nine hours each day.
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I am suffering from mental depression .and fear to face any situation please give some solutions. I feel some times very low is it mental disorders?

POST GRADUATE DIPLOMA IN CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGY, Masters in clinical psychology
Psychologist, Mumbai
I am suffering from mental depression .and fear to face any situation please give some solutions. I feel some times v...
Hi Librate user Feeling down from time to time is a normal part of our life, but when your emotions such as hopelessness and despair take hold and just won't go away you may have depression. You should try to be brave and face each and every situation in your life. Try to think positive. You should share your feeling and emotions with a close friend or relative. Try to spend some time for outdoor activities. There are many things you can do to lift and stabilize your mood. Be happy and try to live a healthy life.
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I am very thin right now and prolong time of anxiety in my recent past is the main reason of my thinness I think so. Now my anxiety is gone and I want to gain muscle now. Please suggest me any way. So that I become healthy.

BSc
Ayurveda, Ujjain
I am very thin right now and prolong time of anxiety in my recent past is the main reason of my thinness I think so. ...
Change food habites add in your food calcium vitamins minirales proteins milk end milk products dry fruites fruites. Do arobeick excersices yoga will help you take Ķeva weight gain capsule 1 in morning 30 minutes before lunch end dinner for a month than consult me for further treatment.
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Sir m 26 years old yesterday I shared my problem with Lybrate team doctor's and they suggested me which I realy appreciated nd so thankful to them. Bt sir I forgoted to share one major problem that I also facing from last 3 -4 months Nd problem is that sir in my head sometimes bubbling or vibration type occurs and continuously for 5 to 10 second. Nd this would happen from last 3-4 month and m so worried from ths prblm so please kindly tell me sir what is it. And what should I do?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Sir m 26 years old yesterday I shared my problem with Lybrate team doctor's and they suggested me which I realy appre...
Dear lybrate-user. The bubbling and vibration feeling could just be your imagination. Can happen with many people. This happen mainly because of anxiety and obsession. Cognitive behavior therapy should be good for you. Take care.
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I had sex a day before my periods and a day after my periods. We used condom and also I took ipill after that. My periods date was 28, but now its about 13 days more after my due date, can there be any possibility of getting pregnant. I can't feel any changes in my body nothing. I'm very tensed. Kindly please answer.

International Academy of Classical Homeopathy, BHMS
Homeopath,
I had sex a day before my periods and a day after my periods. We used condom and also I took ipill after that.
My per...
Plz do usg on 20 th day if no menses also you can do upt test you can take take sepia 200 one dose puls 30 one dos per dy for wk kali br 12c one dos a day for 10 days.
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Hello I am 30 year , I can not learn answers. I forget very early. And study at night. I woke early in morning and start memorizing answer. But as the day pass at night I forget all answers. Please help me as my exams are near.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
If you feel excessive sleep or tiredness/ head spinning or vertigo like feeling you have to make sure you have no anaemia or hypothyroidism by doing a blood CBC & TSH and inform me directly 10 Study Tips to Improve Your Learning Study Tip 1: Underlining Underlining is one of the simplest and best known study tips. It’s easy to highlight the most significant parts of what you’re reading. One key sentence per paragraph and a few important phrases here and there. You can only retain a certain amount so it’s best to retain the most important information. Study Tip 2: Make your own note and taking notes is one of the most widespread study skills out there. Essentially the aim of note-taking is to summarise lectures or articles in your own words so you can easily remember the ideas. Study Tip 3: Mind mapping A good Mind map can save you many hours of study and further consolidate your knowledge for your exams. Mind Maps are an extremely versatile tools. They can be used for brainstorming, outlining essays or study topics and for general exam preparation, ExamTime offers the ability to create Mind Maps quickly and easily which makes them the ideal tool when it comes to exams. Study Tip 4: Flash cards:- Using these are a particularly effective method of learning when trying to assimilate different facts, dates, formulas or vocabulary. Subjects such as History, Physics, Maths, Chemistry, Geography or any language are made much easier if you incorporate Flashcards in to your study. Study Tip 5: Case Studies Sometimes it can be difficult to grasp the implications of some theories. This is where studying case studies can be a big help. Case studies can help you visualise a theory and place it in a more familiar and realistic context. This is especially useful in business or law subjects. Study Tip 6: Quizzes are an excellent way to review study notes in the weeks and days before an exam. Quizzes can show where your strengths and weaknesses are, so it allows you to focus your efforts more precisely. Moreover, if you share your Study Quiz with your classmates and test each other as much as possible you can discover even more details and areas you may have overlooked. So before any exam, make sure you create and share a bunch of different Quizzes with your Friends. Study Tip 7: Brainstorming This is another study technique that is ideal for studying with friends and/or classmates. Brainstorming is a great way to expand every possible idea out of any topic. Just get a bunch of friends together and shoot the breeze, there are no wrong answers when brainstorming – just talk and capture the ideas, you can review afterward. Study Tip 8: Mnemonic Rules Mnemonics are especially useful when memorising lists and sets. Mnemonics rules basically work by associating certain concepts with other concepts that are more familiar to us. There are many different ways to make mnemonics and these can be individual to the person. Study Tip 9: ORGANISE your study One of the most effective study skills is also one of the most often overlooked; this is organising your study. Creating a TIME TABLE gives you goals and a time in which to achieve them. Having a study timetable as you study is greatly motivational Study Tip 10: Drawing Many people find it easier to recall images rather than text that is why they are better able to memorise concepts if they associate them with pictures or drawings. If you find answer helpful please click on “helpful” tab for knowing my efforts are useful CONCENTRATION TIPS Here’s some tips to get into a state of deep concentration where work / or studies flow easily so that you can do well in examinations/ and or do your work well. 1) Cut Off the Noise Getting into a state of concentration can take at least fifteen minutes. If you are getting distracted every five, you can’t possibly focus entirely on your work. Request that people don’t interrupt you when working on a big project. If you are required to answer phones and drop-in’s immediately, schedule work when the office is less busy. 2) Structure Your Environment The place you work can have an impact on your ability to focus. Try to locate yourself so you are facing potential distractions such as doors, phones or windows. This way you can take a glance to assess sounds that would otherwise break your focus. 3) Clarify Objectives Know what your goal is clearly before you start. If you aren’t sure what the end result is, the confusion will make it impossible to focus. 4) Divide Blobs . If you have a large project that needs work, clearly identify a path that you will use to get started working on it. If the sequence of actions isn’t obvious, it will be difficult to concentrate. Taking a few minutes to plan not only your end result, but the order you will complete any steps, can save hours in wasted thinking. 5) Know the Rules Get clear on what the guidelines are for the task ahead. What level of quality do you need? What standards do you need to follow? What constraints are there? If the rules aren’t clear from the outset, you will slip out of concentration as you ponder them later. 6) Set a Deadline Deadlines have both advantages and disadvantages when trying to force concentration. A deadline can make it easier to forget the non-essential and speed up your working time. If you give yourself only an hour to design a logo, you will keep it simple and avoid fiddling with extravagant designs. Time limits have disadvantages when they cause you to worry about the time you have left instead of the task itself. 7) Break down Roadblocks Roadblocks occur whenever you hit a tricky problem in your work. This can happen when you run out of ideas or your focus wavers. Break down roadblocks by brainstorming or planning on a piece of paper. Writing out your thought processes can keep you focused even if you might become frustrated. 8) Isolate Yourself Become a hermit and stay away from other people if you want to get work done. Unless your work is based on other people they will only break your focus. Create a private space and refuse to talk to anyone until your work is finished. Put a sign on your door to steer away drop-ins and don’t answer your phone. 9) Healthy Body, Sharper Mind What you put into your body affects the way you concentrate. Nobody would expect peak performance if they showed up drunk to work. But if you allow yourself to get chronic sleep deprivation, overuse stimulants like caffeine or eat dense, fatty foods your concentration will suffer. Try to cut out one of your unhealthy habits for just thirty days to see if there is a difference in your energy levels. I’ve found even small steps can create dramatic changes in my ability to focus. 10) Be Patient Before I write an article, I often sit at my desk for a fifteen or twenty minutes before I put finger on the keyboard. During this time I feel a strong urge to leave or do something else. But I know that if I am patient, I’ll stumble upon an idea to write about and enter a state of flow. Without a little patience, you can’t take advantage of flow when it rushed through you. If you need strong concentration I recommend periods of 90-120 minutes. Any less than that and you will waste too much time getting started before the flow can continue. More than this is possible to sustain focus, but you will probably benefit from a quick break. These are the general guidelines for concentration, studying well or doing your job. Regards.
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I am in very stressed condition for over a month and sometimes getting panic attack randomly for over a minute. I am really confused with my life what to do please tell.

CERTIFICATION IN BACH FLOWER REMEDIES OF ENGLAND, Ph.D DOCTOR OF PHILOSOPHY IN BIOCHEMISTRY, B.S.M.S BACHELOR OF SIDDHA MEDICINE AND SURGERY,
Alternative Medicine Specialist,
I am in very stressed condition for over a month and sometimes getting panic attack randomly for over a minute. I am ...
Rockrose, a bach remedy take 5drops with little water twice daily for a month. Review after the month.
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This I bit awkward. I had suffered an accident when my head (neck) got too much turned and I heard a cracking sound. Although it did not cause any pain it made me believe I have broken a bone or two. I have consulted with a psychiatrist but he found no problem in me then. It's been 8 years since then but that thought still sometimes gives me trouble. I have learnt to live with it. But I would rather want a better solution to cope with it. please tell me how do I deal with it and how do I stop to bother?

B.Sc(Hons) Mumbai Univ., ND, MD - Alternate Medicine, Aroma Therap., Bach Flower Rem, Mental Health Cert.
Alternative Medicine Specialist, Mumbai
This I bit awkward. I had suffered an accident when my head (neck) got too much turned and I heard a cracking sound. ...
Hi I will prescribe some harmless but effective flower remedy available in homoeopathy shops. Try to buy original medicines. Mix 3 drops of mimulus + 3 drops of white chestnut. Mix these with 100 ml water and drink it every morning and night.(same dose) on empty stomach.
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I am 24 years old and I have a lot of family issue as well as relationship issue. Its like in both case I am avoided. My parents ignore me as well as my partner avoid me. I just feel like dying and I do not eat food for hours and days if something goes wrong and I just take pills to harm myself. Please help me.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
You are definitely suffering from the Rejection Issue. What you do is set up the rejection, and then blame yourself and want to hurt yourself. This will go on until you succeed to do something very harmful to yourself. You have a lot of work to do on yourself with a professional, immediately. Otherwise I see that you may loose your family and friend, forever.You are just 24 and life has only begun and you already want to end it! You sound more and more like someone with a serious rejection issue. You try to do the best for other people so that they don’t reject you but yet they do. This means that you need to look at what you are doing to make others reject you. It has become so bad that I feel you are now rejecting yourself in contemplating suicide through these pills! You may be angry about something and because you think that it cannot be expressed, you are turning it inwards. The identity crisis is a typical issue of someone who is dependent on others for acknowledgement and tends to identify with other personalities. You probably suffer from low self-esteem. But far worse than that is my fear that you have this rejection issue, which is compounded with abandonment issues and separation anxiety. The fear of acceptance may then trigger a performance-oriented individual who will depend entirely on other people’s opinion and assessment of herself. This will make you even more vulnerable and susceptible to rejection, and you may hurt very badly and easily at the slightest sign of rejection. There is a way about this, but meet with a counselor first and see what can be worked out to learn to accept yourself first. If you did this you will naturally perform well and will not depend on others, entirely, for their acceptance. If you know of any reason to believe that this rejection is true from your childhood it would help tremendously. Talk to your parents and find out what they remember or you could take them with you to meet with the counselor. If you learn to accept yourself first then the identity may be formed, but the best way to develop an identity is to know your emotions and how to express them. Your feelings are a very good indicator of who you are. A counselor will help you do this well.
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I want to improve my brain how it is possible Because I am not concentrated on my study. So help me please Reply me.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lybrate-user. Concentration or attention span is based on your interest. If you have a solid aim and dedication, you will have interest in your study. You need motivation therapy. Take care.
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My relative is suffering from wiered issue. She is washing her hand every time. She don't want to touch wall also. She is feeling that this is dirty. Is there any possiblity to recover from this issue?

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
This is called ocd or obsessive-compulsive disorder. The obsession is a repeated thought pattern that is not productive and it leads to a repeated action behavior that is compulsive and also non-productive. The person will usually believe that if the behavior is repeated a certain number of times, the problem will disappear. In some people it can be quite crippling. So if it has not reached serious proportions take her to meet with a counselor to resolve the same. The ocd is founded on fear, and the compulsive behavior is magically believed to resolve the same. The counselor will help her identify the fear and help her deal with it in healthy and normal ways. She must be cooperative and very communicative for any success. The therapy may be for long-term and so she has to be patient and never drop out thinking that she is done with it. Let the counselor decide that with her. You must also involve her parents in all this. If the counselor thinks it is serious enough that medication is required, that person will send her to a psychiatrist. Whatever happens do not discontinue the therapy until she feels completely out of this problem. Her particular problem is a fear of infection: the fetish is about cleanliness and germs, which is in fact all over the place and cannot be completely eradicated except in very sterile surroundings. Our immune system can quite easily handle it but if she is stressed by the fear, she can in fact become infected due to lowered immunity, and will not know it or accept it anyway.
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Strategies and Medications to Stop Smoking, and Benefits of Stopping Tobacco Use!

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Delhi
Strategies and Medications to Stop Smoking, and Benefits of Stopping Tobacco Use!

The Mind of a Smoker 

There are a few instances when our body and mind refuse to acknowledge rationality, and quickly give in to carvings. Alcohol abuse, junk foods, depressant medications are a few of them. Among these, the most harmful is undoubtedly, smoking. In today's time, almost everyone knows about the ill-effects of tobacco. But despite our knowledge, we continue to give in and smoke. Let us have a look in depth about the usage, and the various steps one can use to come out of this dangerous habit. 

Ill-Effects of Smoking 

Smoking is dangerous for your health, and quitting can vastly reduce your risk of getting a disease related to the heart or lung. There is also a 50% chance that your life expectancy will be less due to smoking. On an average, a smoker has 10 - 12 years of lesser life expectancy than that of the nonsmoker. Also, quitting tobacco products can greatly reduce your chances of getting cancer. A smoker is always in the higher risk group of getting a tumor in the voice box (larynx), mouth, throat, intestines, kidney, and pancreas. Smoking can also hamper your sexual urge and erectile strength. Pregnant women who smoke carry a greater risk of having babies with many complications. 

How to Curb Smoking 

Quit smoking, and you can see visible differences right away. Your breathing will improve, and your asthma symptoms will likely to get better once you quit. Apart from a healthier you, you can also avoid health complications for your family members. Passive smoking is as harmful as active smoking, and a passive smoker is also easily susceptible to the complications of that of a smoker. Do not opt for lighter nicotine content cigarettes, as they have advertised that they contain less tar and nicotine. They simply do not, and they are equally harmful to you. Once the decision has been made, quit it altogether. Also stay away from chewing tobacco products. There are many ways by which you can quit smoking. Consult with your doctor in case you need medications for staying away. 

There are safe non-nicotine gums and chewing tablets for curbing the smoking feel and sensation. There are also self-help groups and treatment centers that can rehabilitate you from your habits. Indulge yourself in activities that keep you happy and passionate. Try signing up for your favorite sports and keep yourself occupied at all times. Always be positive, and do not give into temptation. Believe in yourself and always remember that you are also spoiling the health and wealth of your near and dear ones. Your children follow you, and they can easily be misguided. Be a role model to them and quit smoking, and inculcate the healthy habit now and forever.

2-3 months ago I had depression and suicidal thoughts, suicidal thoughts were very frequent and I started cutting my skin in hand and I also attempted suicide once by cutting my wrist and got 4 stitches. But after some days these thoughts were not coming frequently. 1 or 2 times in a week, but now my depression is relapsing and suicidal thoughts are also coming again. I am afraid that I would harm myself again. Please help me.

MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Chennai
You seem to be suffering from Borderline Personality or Emotionally unstable personality. The cause is unknown but research suggests there is an interaction between adverse life events and genetic factors. Neurobiological research suggests that abnormalities in the frontolimbic networks are associated with many of the symptoms There is a pattern of sometimes rapid fluctuation from periods of confidence to despair, with fear of abandonment and rejection. There is a particularly strong tendency towards suicidal thinking and self-harm. Transient psychotic symptoms, including brief delusions and hallucinations, may also be present. It is also associated with substantial impairment of social, psychological and occupational functioning and quality of life. People with emotionally unstable personality disorder are particularly at risk of suicide. Its course is variable and, although many people recover over time. Kindly consult a psychiatrist for remedy.
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I am a 39 year old male. I have never had sex. In d past I was used to smoke marijuana and consume alcohol too. It has been an year since I hv been a teetotaller. At the age of 28, I had got the opportunity to hv sec but could not as the moment I was ready my erection went off. At age age of 36 again I got the opportunity twice but then the same happened. Now I am into a stable relationship. I want sex now. Its not that I do not get erection or its a case of erectile dysfunction. Also on getting second opportunity to hv sex I consumed a pill vigora for stable erection but that did not work. Suggest what could be d possible cause. What precaution should I take to make it happen. Thanx n regards,

BDS, Certification in hypnotherapy, Certification in N.L.P, Certification in Gene and behavior, Psychology at Work
Psychologist, Gurgaon
I am a 39 year old male. I have never had sex. In d past I was used to smoke marijuana and consume alcohol too. It ha...
The center of sex is in the mind and not in the organs. The fear of outcome in any action hampers it. So the performance pressure, you are putting on yourself is causing the current problem just go with a mind-set of having good time and not as if you are going for a competitive exam, where you should outscore others! also don't fear of losing her. Just relax.
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