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Dr. Ravi Abhyankar

Psychiatrist, Mumbai

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Dr. Ravi Abhyankar Psychiatrist, Mumbai
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I am a drug addicted please tell me the negative things of this drug called MDMA. Please advise.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
The most serious short-term physical health risks of mdma are hyperthermia and dehydration.cases of life-threatening or fatal hyponatremia (excessively low sodium concentration in the blood) have developed in mdma users attempting to prevent dehydration by consuming excessive amounts of water without replenishing electrolytes.even without excessive water intake, mdma can increase water retention through syndrome of inappropriate antidiuretic hormone secretion,[28] so that water intake must be restricted (unless heavy sweating occurs).non-primary source needed the resultant hypervolumia can simultaneously cause both dilutional hyponatremia (which can cause seizures) and hypertension (which can cause stroke). In the case of excessive water intake, salt can be administered to increase osmotic pressure, but while this improves hyponatremia it can also further worsen hypertension. Both are associated with a sensation of intracranial pressure, either in the brain's arteries as in hypertension, or in the brain's tissues as in hyponatremia.[medical citation needed] the immediate adverse effects of mdma use can include: dehydration hyperthermia bruxism (grinding and clenching of the teeth) increased wakefulness or insomnia increased perspiration and sweating increased heart rate and blood pressure loss of appetite nausea and vomiting diarrhea erectile dysfunction mydriasis after-effects the effects that last up to a week following cessation of moderate mdma use include: physical trismus loss of appetite insomnia psychological anxiety or paranoia depression irritability impulsiveness restlessness memory impairment anhedonia long-term effects mdma use has been shown to produce brain lesions, a form of brain damage, in the serotonergic neural pathways of humans and other animals. in addition, long-term exposure to mdma in humans has been shown to produce marked neurotoxicity in serotonergic axon terminals. neurotoxic damage to axon terminals has been shown to persist for more than two years.brain temperature during mdma use is positively correlated with mdma-induced neurotoxicity in animals. adverse neuroplastic changes to brain microvasculature and white matter also seem to occur in humans using low doses of mdma. reduced gray matter density in certain brain structures has also been noted in human mdma users.in addition, mdma has immunosuppressive effects in the peripheral nervous system, but pro-inflammatory effects in the central nervous system. babies of mothers who used mdma during pregnancy exhibit impaired motor function at 4 months of age, which may reflect either a delay in development or a persistent neurological deficit. mdma also produces persistent cognitive impairments in human users. impairments in multiple aspects of cognition, including memory, visual processing, and sleep have been noted in humans; the magnitude of these impairments is correlated with lifetime ecstasy or mdma usage. memory is significantly impacted by ecstasy use, which is associated with marked impairments in all forms of memory (e. G, long-term, short-term, working). dependence and withdrawal some studies indicate repeated recreational users of mdma have increased rates of depression and anxiety, even after quitting the drug.other meta analyses have reported possibility of impairment of executive functioning. approximately 60% of mdma users experience withdrawal symptoms, including, but not limited to: fatigue, loss of appetite, depression, and trouble concentrating. tolerance is expected to occur with consistent mdma use.
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During lavatory (dry cough) it pains me in the right below the lungs since 5 days. I had kidney stone past 1 year but was drained before. I smoke 7 cigarettes a day, Age 21 Male.

PGFCP, PGDEMS, Bachelor Of Ayurvedic Medicine And Surgery
Ayurveda, Satara
During lavatory (dry cough) it pains me in the right below the lungs since 5 days.
I had kidney stone past 1 year but...
Hi lybrate user. At first you have to follow some basic things so that you get better results in a short period of time. 1) take food twice in a day only 2) drink only 100-150 ml of lukewarm water during meals 3) avoid oily, spicy, salty, junk, fast and fermented foods 4) avoid late night sleeping habits. 5) do yogasan and pranayam regularly. 6) avoid cigarette smoking. A) take 50 ml of draksharishta and 30 ml of aloe vera juice along with 50 ml of lukewarm water at night before sleep. B) take half tsf of avipattikar churna and half tsf of lavanbhaaskar churna after meals. C) take 30 ml of ginger juice and 30 ml of honey before meals. Do all these things for fifteen days and give your valuable feedback for further suggestions. Thanks.
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I am willing to quite alcohol I drink once a week What can be side effects of withdrawing What can stop or kill the urge.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
You are making a big issue where there is none. There will be no side-effects from quitting with this low-level consumption and the urge will also diminsih easily.
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Make Sure You Will Be Available At All Times For Your Wife

Panchkula & Delhi
Mother and Child Care, Panchkula
Make Sure You Will Be Available At All Times For Your Wife

From a husband's point of view 'A Happy Wife Means a Happy Life'. To keep most women happy is giving them unconditional love and support. If a husband wants to love his wife unconditionally, he should always be sure that her emotional tank is full. One of the best ways to do that is to affirm her constantly, let her know by words and actions that you value her, respect her and lover her.

For ages a husband's role has been that of a provider and protector. Men earn money to support the family and women would take care of home and children.

In the present scenario, most husband and wife are equally qualified but still women are and will always be mothers too, so they can never be free from the responsibilities of taking care of home and above all taking care of their children. While carry out all these responsibilities, her own goals and dreams take a back seat.

Give her the confidence: When a wife is handling various roles, her husband's support is very important for her to succeed. A husband supporting his wife through all phases also gives a very positive message to their children it indirectly evokes extreme confidence in them throughout their life.

Support her: A husband needs to give his wife confidence that you can do it and I will help you do it. Be it in taking care of children, progressing in career, adjusting with the in-laws and small or big things men should encourage and support their wives achieve happiness.

Treat her as an equal: Husband and wife in marriage are meant to be equal partners. Both need to work as a team in order to have a successful family. Though husbands and wives have different skills and characteristics, each of them contributes to the success of a happy home.

Make her feel special: Helping her in her responsibilities or small actions to make her feel special are enough. These give her the reassurance that you are around.

Be there when times are difficult: The best is when you there to sort out her problems and to make things easier for her. Be there to support her in times of stress. It could be work, family or a personal issue, handle it together.

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My is always in distribution can you help me even after I got up from a sleep I can't control my anger.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Try mind control, yoga. Art of living and meditate.For further assistance you can concern me privately.
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Hi I wanna know 1 thing and that is I always or I frequently get very angry as well as aggressive in small fights or even when somebody do not complete my wish etc so now I wanna know that is this is the symptom of any mental illness or not.

Bachelor of Ayurveda, Medicine and Surgery (BAMS)
Ayurveda, Chitiradurga
Dear Sid, it is quite common for few people especially at your age. So, kindly ignore the same. Enjoy your childhood. Do practice pranayama techniques.
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Sir, since last three years I feel palpitation in my left upper elbow specially while resting/sleeping where as all cardiac tests are okay, underwent anxiety treatment for three months but all in vain, no specific stress, is it tennis elbow or something else, which specialist I should consult, please suggest.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Anxiety disorders are a category of mental disorders characterized by feelings of anxiety and fear, where anxiety is a worry about future events and fear is a reaction to current events. These feelings may cause physical symptoms, such as a racing heart and shakiness. There are a number of anxiety disorders: including generalized anxiety disorder, a specific phobia, social anxiety disorder, separation anxiety disorder, agoraphobia, and panic disorder among others. While each has its own characteristics and symptoms, they all include symptoms of anxiety. I need to know more about your anxiety so that I will be able to diagnose it properly and provide you tips to overcome and manage your anxiety.. Take care.
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I have hoarseness of voice for last two weeks. I am a smoker. Smoke 8 cigs daily. Is there anything to concern? Should I visit any ENT doctor.

Internal Medicine Specialist, Ajmer
Yes you must. Sudden onset hoarseness of voice must be taken seriously and you need an indirect larygoscopic examination by an ent surgeon.
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I'm having body pains daily. please advise.

MBBS
General Physician,
I'm having body pains daily. please advise.
Hello, body pain may be due to 1. Fever 2. Abrupt start or stop of exercise 3. Any other medical disease like anaemia/ hypoproteinemia/ thyroid problem 4. Vit d deficiency 5. Multi Mineral and vitamin deficiency 6. Stress/ anxiety 7. Over exertion (physical and mental) kindly measure your temperature take mental and physical rest bathing also reduce body pain Consult physician for further management.
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I am a 21 years old female and I need some help related to my health issues. I get angry very quickly on anything or on any persons starting from strangers to my parents. I am going through many problems through out my life, starting from family problems, studies, carriers, health issues, no friendzone and lots more. How can I get control over it?

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
I am a 21 years old female and I need some help related to my health issues. I get angry very quickly on anything or ...
Anger management: 10 tips to tame your temper ANGER: There is a saying "Frustration begets anger and anger begets aggression. Direct anger, is expressed toward the object perceived as the cause of the frustration. If a machine does not work, you might hit it or kick it. If someone gets in your way, you could verbally threaten them or push them aside. If the source of the frustration is too powerful or threatening for direct aggression, displaced aggression is often used. The aggression is redirected toward a less threatening and more available object. An angry person often acts without thinking. The person has given in to the frustration and they have given up restraint. Anger can be a healthy response if it motivates us to positive action but all too often the actions we engage in when angry are destructive. Indeed, if we could see a videotape of ourselves getting angry, the humiliation might well help cure us of anger. When you feel frustration building, you have to practice learned responses that lead to healthy actions instead of destructive ones. GIVING UP: Giving up on a goal can be productive if the goal is truly out of reach. However, more often giving up (quitting or being apathetic) is another form of giving in to frustration. When repeatedly frustrated, people can drop out of school, quit jobs, or move away. Apathy is giving up all of your goals, so you cannot be frustrated by trying to reach them. We live in difficult time and we have to be persistent in order to accomplish. Consider how many projects you began, and then gave up, because you became frustrated and lost patience. Make a list of things you started and quit because they seemed too difficult. Now calculate the disappointment and loss you suffered by not dealing with the frustration in a more healthy way. Try to remember that quitters never win, and winners never quit. Losing your temper means you're a quitter. LOSS OF CONFIDENCE: is a terrible frequent side effect of giving up and not fulfilling your goal. A loss of self-confidence and self-esteem, means that If we quit once, then the next time we plan a goal, we may not be able to accurately assess our ability to carry it out and we stop trusting ourselves and our own abilities. This became a self-fulfilling and self-destructive attitude. You need to be able to learn that when the going gets tough, you say to yourself "It is worth it! and by following through, it not only gets the job done, but it builds self-confidence. STRESS: is the "wear and tear" our body and mind experiences as we adjust to the frustrations our continually changing environment. Too frequently, extreme, or prolonged frustration and stress strains us and generates distress signals. Our body experiences distress signals in a variety of ways, often in the form of: irritability, anger, fatigue anxiety, headache, depression, stomach aches, hypertension, migraines, ulcers, heart attacks, or colitis. DEPRESSION: Depression can affect almost every aspect of your life. It affects people of all ages, income, race, and cultures. Depression can affect the way you eat and sleep the way you feel about yourself, the way one think about things, and the way you interact with others. While we all feel depression at various appropriate times in our lives, excess or inappropriate depression cannot be easily dismissed or wished away. OTHER REACTIONS: abuse of drugs & alcohol is self-destructive and usually futile attempt at dealing with frustration, as are many eating and weight problems and addictions Whenever the immediate effects of the addictive behaviour wear off, users find themselves back in the same, or even worse, frustrating situation. Anger is among the gamut of emotions we exhibit as a reaction to a situation, and it is a 'normal' emotion too as long as it is kept under control. Some people have the propensity to explode when pushed to the extreme. They keep swallowing their emotions until they can finally do it no more, and erupt like a volcano. Others dealing with extreme anger are like a ticking time bomb. You'll never know what you unwittingly say or do can trigger an explosion. In either case, anger that cannot be controlled comes with a physical reaction. Your heart beats faster preparing you for both action and reaction. Your breathing quickens. You may clench your fist, tighten your shoulders and go into a defensive position. The problem arises out of the fact that it is almost impossible to feel anger and empathy at the same time. An angry person is seldom sensitive to the wellbeing of his victim, and hence may lash out verbally and sometimes physically. Such things done in the heat of the moment mostly leaves us with regrets. So here are a few ways to deal with extreme anger. 1.Approve it / Acknowledge it: The first step in solving a problem is recognizing that you have one. The fundamental problem here is that people believe they are on the right track and refuse to budge from their views. It is essential to realize that this step is not about deciding whether you are right or wrong, but acknowledging the fact that your reaction to the situation can be channelled in a better way. When getting someone to acknowledge their anger problem, be careful as to not use negative words like wrong, false and shouldn't. Instead, influence with positive words like can and should. Instead of saying 'You are wrong to react like this' you can say, 'I understand what you are feeling. Is there a way we can resolve this situation? 2.Understand / recognize the signs: Once you know that your problems exist, you can try devising ways that will work for you in dealing with the situation. You can count to 100 to calm yourself or simply decide to not speak until you can calm yourself. Knowing that you may enter into an argument in a situation, you can list down the points that you feel strongly about and discuss each of them one by one. Working your way through a finite list gives a better opportunity to reach closure at the end. 3.Free the mind/Find ways to let it go: Not all arguments end in closure. A lot of unsaid justifications cloud our mind repeatedly leaving us seething from the inside. Research has shown that the normal or neurological anger response lasts less than two seconds. Beyond that it takes a strong will to stay angry. Once you realize how much your anger is consuming your mind, decide to free your mind with meditation and other calming exercises. Tell yourself that some people and issues simply don't deserve your anger, emotion, reaction or time. If you or someone you know is suffering from anger management issues, consult a doctor today. FrustrationLife is full of frustrations. From the minor irritations of losing something to the major problem of continued failure towards a desired goal. Since many of the things we truly want require a degree of frustration, being able to manage frustration is required in order to allow us to remain happy and positive even in trying circumstances. Understanding Frustration Frustration is an emotion that occurs in situations where a person is blocked from reaching a desired outcome. In general, whenever we reach one of our goals, we feel pleased and whenever we are prevented from reaching our goals, we may succumb to frustration and feel irritable, annoyed and angry. Typically, the more important the goal, the greater the frustration and resultant anger or loss of confidence. Frustration is not necessarily bad since it can be a useful indicator of the problems in a person's life and, as a result, it can act as a motivator to change. However, when it results in anger, irritability, stress resentment, depression or a spiral downward where we have a feeling of resignation or giving up, frustration can be destructive. What Causes Frustration? Frustration is experienced whenever the results (goals) you are expecting do not seem to fit the effort and action you are applying. Frustration will occur whenever your actions are producing less and fewer results than you think they should. The frustration we experience can be seen as the result of two types of goal blockage, i.e. Internal and external sources of frustration. Internal sources of frustration usually involve the disappointment that get when we cannot have what we want as a result of personal real or imagined deficiencies such as a lack of confidence or fear of social situations. Another type of internal frustration results when a person has competing goals that interfere with one another. The second type of frustration results from external causes that involve conditions outside the person such as physical roadblocks we encounter in life including other people and things that get in the way of our goals. One of the biggest sources of frustration in today's world is the frustration caused by the perception of wasting time. When you're standing in line at a bank, or in traffic, or on the phone, watching your day go by when you have got so much to do, that's one big frustration. External frustration may be unavoidable. We can try to do something about it, like finding a different route if we are stuck in traffic, or choosing a different restaurant if our first choice is closed, but sometimes there is just nothing we can do about it. It is just the way life is. Our goal in dealing with external sources of frustration is to recognize the wisdom of the Serenity Prayer. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. One can learn that while the situation itself may be upsetting and frustrating, you do not have to be frustrated. Accepting life is one of the secrets of avoiding frustration. Responses to Frustration Some of the "typical" responses to frustration include anger, quitting (burn out or giving up), loss of self-esteem and self-confidence, stress and depression.
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I have a lot of pain in my lower back. As I study generally 8 hrs a day, so that it pains alot. I also do yoga (for back pain only) in the morning and walking too. Sometimes pain increase upto the extent that I have to put moov or volini. Please help me with proper treatment. Hoping for proper and prompt response.

MPT - Orthopedic Physiotherapy, BPTh/BPT
Physiotherapist, Noida
I have a lot of pain in my lower back.
As I study generally 8 hrs a day, so that it pains alot.
I also do yoga (for b...
Firstly avoid yoga and all exercise ok then posture correction must. Use soft pillow for back support and tk break between long sitting. Do physiotherapy treatment for 5 days after relief start stretching exercise. Keep straight your legs between long sitting.
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I am 32 year old married and a mother of 5 years old. Facing symptoms of stress, anxiety, frustration since many months. Many times feel doing suicide. Please help me whether it is a mental illness or something else which cause for some time only? do I need to consult psychiatrist or to take mental therapy? I am tired. Please help me.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
I am 32 year old married and a mother of 5 years old. Facing symptoms of stress, anxiety, frustration since many mont...
Dear , you should understand the difference between mental disorder and mental disease. Mental disease needs psychiatric treatment and mental disease needs psychological therapies. You are having stress and anxiety and they are classified under simple mental disorders. Therefore you will need psychological therapies. Online counseling, psychotherapy and life style changes should help you. From the given information, I am unable to get the full details. Post a detailed private question to me. I will help you manage your anxiety disorder. Take care.
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I have been suffering from weakness since 3 days and little bit body pain and little bit headache too. Ac to me Its because Of irregular in my day meal.

MBBS
General Physician, Mumbai
I have been suffering from weakness since 3 days and little bit body pain and little bit headache too. Ac to me Its b...
For pain take tablet paracetamol 650 mg and Eat nutritious food and have adequate fluid intake and take physical rest
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Issues in a Marriage

Post Graduate Diploma in Pyschology
Psychologist, Noida
Issues in a Marriage

The institution of marriage is a herculean task; little does it rest on the sanctified rituals and other vows of commitment. Tying of the knot is perhaps symbolic of the several ups and downs a couple faces together. Marriage is challenging precisely because of the myriad problems it entails. What makes a marriage successful is how two loving individuals face and combat each of these issues.

Let us take a look at the common marital issues:

  1. Money could grab a place between partners: Monetary problems can come in the way of happy living. Monetary constraints can make partners bicker as they lead to severe tension. If making both ends meet is a constant worry or if one individual earns way less than the other, friction in the marriage is but expected.
  2. Relatives and in- laws could irk your bond: Officious relatives, in- laws and other apparent well- wishers can do loads to spoil your marriage. They tend to create differences between husband and wife. There are times when they convey lies between the couple. Their unnecessary curiosity can also dampen your bond.
  3. Domestic responsibilities could also be the issue: Husbands and wives may have arguments and serious fights over issues related to the household; cleaning, washing, buying grocery can trigger disputes within the family. Housework should, therefore, be shared and done by both the partners.
  4. Decisions with regard to rear up children are often problematic: Married couples can behave in bizarre ways when it comes to taking decisions on behalf of their children. A difference in opinion in decision- making can make partners review their choice of one another. They may even doubt their child's secure future in the hands of their partner.
  5. Irregular sex can be a threat to emotional intimacy: Marriage endows a couple with so many duties that they may fail to make love that frequently. Lack of sexual intercourse can create marital problems.
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Sir, I am suffering from piles problem from last 8 year, it is kind of muscles that block my anus and faces problem, there is no bleeding and pain. But now having problem when I continuously seat for study for 8-10 hrs. It feel a soft pain.

FMAS, MS
General Surgeon, Gandhinagar
Sir, I am suffering from piles problem from last 8 year, it is kind of muscles that block my anus and faces problem, ...
Respected lybrate-user hi basically you have to avoid prolonged sitting & when required in between take walk of 10 min to avoid constant pressure over anal muscles. Use soft cushion to sit. Try to avoid hard stools by avoiding oily spicy nonveg. Have more liquids green leafy veg fiber fruits curd. Consult later if problem dear thanks regards.
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My son age 17yrs but he using drugs, alcohol, chigaratee and others. How can I de addicted him? please advice me?

Diploma in Child Health (DCH)
Pediatrician,
You must consult psychiatrist & if you are in a bigger city there are deaddiction centres. These people need proper supervision and positive reinforcement. You alone can't do it. It is ateam work. But your involvement is most important. Wish you all the best.
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Can bipolar depression be cured, if not how is the balance between a high and low phase maintained?

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Faridabad
Can bipolar depression be cured, if not how is the balance between a high and low phase maintained?
Respected lybrate-user Ma'am. Bipolar disorder can not be cured. We use mood stabilizer to to prevent high and low phase and maintain a stable phase. Mood stabilizer can be stopped after 3 to 5 years if there is no episode during these years. All thing need to be under strict psychiatric supervision. All d best!
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Hi my name is Saikat and my age is 32yrs. Presently I am suffering from depression and negativity. I never had faced like this ever before. I found that I am running out of confidence and feel like I will fail in everything that I will do. I am a banker and is into this profession for last 8 yrs. I had passed through all my assignments and got all my promotions throughout my carrier. But for the last one year I am going down and also missed my promotion once. I know presently the team and the branch I am handling, is a branch with negativity indisciplined non-professionals people and there demotivating and negativity effected me a lot. But another reason is that I feel that I started thinking about my x-gf a lot and sometimes wen I am too much depressed about my work and personal life and also with my married life or arguments with my wife or nagging of my wife, I feel like I might be more happy, if I had married my Ex. I am confused with her and my wife. My wife is 8 months pregnant and taking full care of her and maintaining all her requirements, I come with a regular complain from her that I cannot forget my Ex and still I am in love with her. And this allegation sometimes make me confused that whether I still love my Ex-GF or that I can not forget her and also feel like if I had stand against my family and might had married her, would I be more happier. She was my first GF and I had good quality time with her as I was young and had ample time to spent with her. But presently I am so much bough down with my work that I have hardly quality time to spent with my wife. I am confused with she and my wife. Sometimes I feel that I still miss her a lot. Sometimes I forget about her totally and only think about my wife. And also people around me in my office now a days are so much negative that I also started feel like them that nothing will happen good in my life. I failed to crack many interviews in last few months due to lack of confidence. I was never like this before. Please guide me in this matter and help me to come out from this situation.

M.S. Counselling and Psychotherapy
Psychologist, Bangalore
Hi my name is Saikat and my age is 32yrs. Presently I am suffering from depression and negativity. I never had faced ...
Dear lybrate user, you are 32 and your professional life is expected to be very busy at this stage in your life. You have achieved most of your goals till now, and hence missing this promotion is a big set back for you. But please understand that there will be set backs in life, and they are temporary. It is possible that you missed this promotion not because of lack of performance, but because of somehting else. You can try harder next time. Regarding your personal life, it appears that you are getting pulled towards both - your ex girl friend and your wife. It is advisable for you to concentrate on your present than your past. If you are unable to spare time for your wife, she might be feeling lonely and not loved. Try to spend quality time with her. Girl friend and wife have different roles in life. Wife will demand certain things which you might think as" nagging" listen" to her, understand her needs. She herself must be under stress, as she is in the advance stage of pregnancy. I think you need" closure" of your relationship with your exgirl friend. Unless you do this closure you will not be able to give 100% to your wife. This uncertainty of feelings is disturbing your professional life. Consult a counsellor so that you are aware of your actual thoughts and feelings. More of self awareness would help you to take rational decisions. Once you are clear about your own feelings and what you want from life, things will become easier for you. Take care.
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How to over come the body pain and feel so tired over the entire day.

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General Physician,
How to over come the body pain and feel so tired over the entire day.
Hello, body pain may be due to 1. Fever 2. Abrupt start or stop of exercise 3. Any other medical disease like anaemia/ hypoproteinemia/ thyroid problem 4. Vit d deficiency 5. Multimineral and vitamin deficiency 6. Stress/ anxiety 7. Over exertion (physical and mental) kindly consult physician for further evaluation and management.
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I am male 36 year old and i suffering from depression last 2 month. What should I do? Please help me.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I am male 36 year old and i suffering from depression last 2 month. What should I do? Please help me.
This is the only condition were you are required to literally do the opposite of what you feel like doing. Depression makes you want to withdraw, lie down, sleep, become lethargic, slow down, make you too lazy to even think etc. So when I suggested doing the opposite, you will need to fight this disease. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, and wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, eat more of proteins and vegetables, attend yoga classes etc. Watch a lot of sitcoms on tv or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least 30 minutes but not in the scotching heat. I hope you can find someone to love and be loved too, if you are not already married. Whatever happens please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three things, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in god to alleviate your sufferings. If you are still not relieved from the depression, then go first to a counselor and later to a psychiatrist, if the counselor advises you.
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