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Dr. Bharat Shah  - Psychiatrist, Mumbai

Dr. Bharat Shah

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry

Psychiatrist, Mumbai

36 Years Experience
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I pride myself in attending local and statewide seminars to stay current with the latest techniques, and treatment planning....more
I pride myself in attending local and statewide seminars to stay current with the latest techniques, and treatment planning.
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Dr. Bharat Shah is an experienced Psychiatrist in Bandra West, Mumbai. He has been a practicing Psychiatrist for 36 years. He is a qualified MBBS, MD - Psychiatry . You can meet Dr. Bharat Shah personally at Dr. Bharat Shah@Lilavati Hospital and Research Centre in Bandra West, Mumbai. Save your time and book an appointment online with Dr. Bharat Shah on Lybrate.com.

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MBBS - Grant Medical College and Sir JJ Hospital, Mumbai - 1981
MD - Psychiatry - Grant Medical College and Sir JJ Hospital, Mumbai - 1984
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English
Hindi
Awards and Recognitions
President of Bombay Psychiatric Society
President of IMA,Chembur
President of Bombay Psychiatric Society
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President of IMA,Chembur
Professional Memberships
Indian Psychiatric Society
American Psychiatric Society
Indian Association of Private Psychiatry
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Bombay Psychiatric Society
Geriatric Society of India

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I hate myself and my life because my biggest enemy and weakness is me. I am the biggest trouble maker of mine. I am a stupid and fool. I’ve grown up in the environment of too much care, fear and adopted fear in my nature. I have too much of hesitation and assertiveness. My communication is very poor and can't express in polite manner give an impression like arrogant. I feel inside is good but express as it ease because I feel Ego. My biggest problem is fear. I shout loudly in sleep sometimes. I always feel I don't know anything and others feel bad about me and I will be shameless. I used to depend the most on parents and I used to do what they say. My life decisions also I can't take myself and did what they said. I came to Bangalore for pursuing B. Tech, I felt inferior by looking at the environment. I used to stay in a small room and I dint even know any languages properly, not even my mother tongue because that slang was not that good. I tried and could not complete B.E, wasted that fee also. When I got backlogged, for exam fee and attendance shortage, I had to keep my dad's watch in pawn broker's shop. Later my dad came to know and screwed up like anything. I dint like all these by hurting my parents and cheating them. 10 years got wasted. I did fraud things like this. After that long gap, I was in big trouble and mind became blank. Don't know what to do. I feel shame on myself. Started Orkut and fb chatting to overcome my emotions and addicted. I wanted get easy money so I attracted by Lottery but never got anything. I tried online easy money sites also. I got a small job in a hospital for 6500/- per month, that also closed after two years. I searched for some other jobs, I got offered for small pay and my dad suggested doing a business with the help of one of my uncles. Deposited some amount to start the business in our town itself. We completed the project on time and submitted, but he dint pay and said client cheated. Started searching for other projects, but all looked like fake or some other risky things. Depression got doubled. Then I joined RK Math, and did a personality development course and attend some classes on Impact foundation, Hyderabad. As per my brother's suggestion, I learned SAP and did certification, could clear it successfully. I studied B. Sc in correspondence Due to the long gap in education, I dint get a job in any good MNC. So I had to join some small company without pay. After 8 months, they sent me to Jamshedpur for a project on TATA Steel. I struggled a lot to adopt with Hindi, atmosphere and work environment also. It took almost 6 months to get adopted in those circumstances. I worked there for around 2 years. I had to leave this job because of less pay and homesickness. I applied for many companies and placed in a small company in Bangalore. I felt a bit relaxed. I did well in the interview. I proud this moment, because I got it with my own efforts. Good MNC's not accepting me for the gap in education. I feel every time work pressure and insecurity of loosing job. My parents are very much worried about me. I am no more can avoid this worry from them. Whatever I don't want to give them any worries and let them enjoy and live peacefully. I feel like ending my life and let my parents be relaxed and live peacefully since I am no more supporting my family and becoming like a big burden on them. My age crossed 34 and not married where all of my friends settled and married, living happily. All good things happening late. I need discipline, good daily routine, good attitude, enjoy the work and the way of life. I should behave politely and confidently. Enjoy work and challenges I am facing. I want to lead happy life with peace and enjoy all challenges and grow in life honestly.

Bachelor of Ayurveda, Medicine and Surgery (BAMS)
Ayurveda, Varanasi
I hate myself and my life because my biggest enemy and weakness is me. I am the biggest trouble maker of mine. I am a...
Some rules 1.develop a hobby ,and make your world colourful now 2.Whatever in the past happened can never errassed but you should not let it errassed because at least those things given you experience 3.Watch movies make friends fight love and build good experience at the present moment of life 4.Fearing is not bad every one have fear so you don't worry about fear just chill and enjoy it also follow these rules and we will talk more on it but Frist you have to follow these rules strictly up to 1 months do not just learn achieving learn loosing also take care bro good luck.
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For depression (diagnosed by college counsellor and behaviour problems -anger, doesn't like being checked ,lack of routine . Whom to consult a psychologist or a psychiatrist?

L L. B..,, M.Sc psychy,, N L P, P.G.D.G.C, M.S psychotherapy,, M.A child care, M A, clinical psy, M.A,social psychiatry,, M.Phil., psychology., Ph.D .,psychology
Psychologist, Vijayawada
For depression (diagnosed by college counsellor and behaviour problems -anger, doesn't like being checked ,lack of ro...
Psychologist is a behavioural therapist and psychiatrist is medical doctor in related to psychiatric disorders. In your case psychologist is the best person. There is no need of medication. Psychiatry medicine has side effects. There is no side effects of psychological counselling. You can continue your regular work after consultation of psychologist. There is no other problems. You need behaviour therapy and lifestyle modification and psychotherapy. Better to consult a very good psychologist. Please do go medicine. It leads to some other problems. Ok best of luck. My best wishes.
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I am feeling very depressed I can't even trust my family. I am feeling hopeless regarding my future I am not able to c any hope coz I hate my family.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I am feeling very depressed I can't even trust my family. I am feeling hopeless regarding my future I am not able to ...
It appears like issues with your family have triggered the depression. I suggest that you get some professional help to sort both the family issues and your personal issues with them. Not being able to trust your own family speaks volumes about some serious developments probably for a long time. Surely there may be some senior extended family member who can be of some assistance. For your own depression I suggest some of the following measures: You must go and meet with a counselor immediately and if that person advises that you meet with a doctor you must do so and cooperate to your utmost. Please visit these professionals along with your parents, if possible. In the meantime please do the following sincerely because you could resolve the problem better with good cooperation: Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. I suggest you do the opposite of what this depression makes you feel like doing (actually, not doing): you will need to fight this condition. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least, 30 minutes but not in the scorching heat. Whatever happens, please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate your sufferings. Don’t wait for others to help. Use your own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but persevere and win this battle. Above all to be really happy, you need to live in love and for love. Learn all about emotions and how to handle them and that will get you out of the depression rather easily and quickly. A counselor is there only to facilitate you, all the hard word must come from you, and your cooperation with that person is very critical for your success. Be positive every day and learn to be contented with what you have. Do some left brain exercises: it is the happy brain. Here are a few suggestions: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. Whatever happens please cooperate with the therapy and do not discontinue until the condition is completely resolved.
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I am 18 years old. I am having problem of getting short tempered. Now what should I do?

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
I am 18 years old. I am having problem of getting short tempered. Now what should I do?
Start by considering these 10 anger management tips. 1. Think before you speak In the heat of the moment, it's easy to say something you'll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything ? and allow others involved in the situation to do the same. 2. Once you're calm, express your anger As soon as you're thinking clearly, express your frustration in an assertive but nonconfrontational way. State your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them. 3. Get some exercise Physical activity can help reduce stress that can cause you to become angry. If you feel your anger escalating, go for a brisk walk or run, or spend some time doing other enjoyable physical activities. 4. Take a timeout Timeouts aren't just for kids. Give yourself short breaks during times of the day that tend to be stressful. A few moments of quiet time might help you feel better prepared to handle what's ahead without getting irritated or angry. 5. Identify possible solutions Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand. Does your child's messy room drive you crazy? Close the door. Is your partner late for dinner every night? Schedule meals later in the evening ? or agree to eat on your own a few times a week. Remind yourself that anger won't fix anything and might only make it worse. 6. Stick with 'I' statements To avoid criticizing or placing blame ? which might only increase tension ? use "I" statements to describe the problem. Be respectful and specific. For example, say, "I'm upset that you left the table without offering to help with the dishes," instead of, "You never do any housework." 7. Don't hold a grudge Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If you allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. But if you can forgive someone who angered you, you might both learn from the situation. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want at all times. 8. Use humor to release tension Lightening up can help diffuse tension. Use humor to help you face what's making you angry and, possibly, any unrealistic expectations you have for how things should go. Avoid sarcasm, though ? it can hurt feelings and make things worse. 9. Practice relaxation skills When your temper flares, put relaxation skills to work. Practice deep-breathing exercises, imagine a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase, such as, "Take it easy." You might also listen to music, write in a journal or do a few yoga poses ? whatever it takes to encourage relaxation. 10. Know when to seek help Learning to control anger is a challenge for everyone at times. Consider seeking help for anger issues if your anger seems out of control, causes you to do things you regret or hurts those around you.
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I do not have memory I think I can not concentrate on things. I think I have no concentration due to multi tasking. How can I get concentrate on things.

B.A. Psychology, M.A. Psychology, Ph. D - Psychology
Psychologist, Delhi
Do one thing at a time. Multi tasking can confuse you. Write down all tht ylu want to do. Pick up what is most important and needs to be done first. Give yourself a timeframe to finish that work and prepare a outline of how you want to proceed. Eat right, exercise and rest properly.
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I am 26, male. My problem is comparing to others and deep thinking. Afraiding of crackers. How should I avoid these. Please help me doctor.

MBBS
General Physician, Mumbai
I am 26, male. My problem is comparing to others and deep thinking. Afraiding of crackers. How should I avoid these. ...
Know who you are, Be who you are! In this way you won't be envious to compare self with others. The crackers of keeping mind and heart busy are much better than outdoor crackers, so so when you keep yourself engaged in service then automatically the crackers won't disturb you.
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I'm 25 years old I had anxiety disorder. i consulted doctor he prescribed medicine like neuvilaz 20 mg and etibliss es 10. Can you please suggest is it medicine is proper for treatment for anxiety.

MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Chennai
I'm 25 years old I had anxiety disorder. i consulted doctor he prescribed medicine like neuvilaz 20 mg and etibliss e...
Etibliss is fine, but neuvilaz is a new drug just launched in market, it s efficacy is unknown/ poor, but only eats into the purse, so kindly get another opinion and get ur prescription revised
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I wanna quit smoking let me know best way to quit instead of that can I have chewing gums like that.

BHMS
Homeopath, Delhi
You can use ginseng power, grape juice, vitamins a, c & e content foods, ginger and water whenever you craving for smoking.
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I am getting angry easily. I am feeling something is going away from very painfully. It effects on my mental condition. How can I cool.

MBB, DPM
Psychiatrist, Noida
I am getting angry easily. I am feeling something is going away from very painfully. It effects on my mental conditio...
Try breathing and relaxation exercises. Make little changes in your life style and you will see the improvement in your condition.
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I'm suffering from depression and anxiety. I met a psychiatrist and she prescribed me one risdone plus and one oleanz 5 per night for six weeks. I have been taking medicines as prescribed for thirty days though I don't feel any improvement. Will I get result within the period of time as prescribed by doctor?

Ph.D Psychology, M.Phil - Psychology
Psychologist, Jaipur
I'm suffering from depression and anxiety. I met a psychiatrist and she prescribed me one risdone plus and one oleanz...
Dear lybrate-user, if you are only taking medicines you will not improve completely. And if you are feeling well due to medicines this wellness stays as long as you continue to take medicines, but short after you stop the medicines the synonyms will return. If you want to get rid from anxiety and depression you have to work on your thought process, you require regular counselling sessions which will help you to stop medicines and improve your physical and mental health.
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I can not learn anything from books and can not concentrate in studies and the worst thing is that before 2 years maths is my favorite subject but now nothing what should I do.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I am not surprised by that development. Two years ago many matters were normal but now there is the effect of the hormones. At your age I suspect that the adolescent issues with regard to hormones may be affecting your ability to concentrate. When the hormones play up, it lasts for a period of close to two years and during that time you could be influenced by three signs directly impacted by the chemicals: you will tend to become aggressive and rebellious, you will become sexually active, and you will have acne and pimple problems. The hormonal imbalances may not only impact your memory because of the chemical but also bring some distractions that come with it. But you may work on the following even if the hormones kick in: Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning at least five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There are some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling too. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid all junk food.
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Sir can you please tell me the treatment or type of medicine name which I should have. I am 17 year old boy and I felt some type of memory loss, irritating, lack of concentration, lack of calmness, lo ts of weakness and I couldn't focus on my studies though. Due to excessive masturbations. Please do help.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear Lybrate user. I can understand. Memory and mind power depends on three aspects. Understanding, retention and recollection. Recollection is easy if your retention is proper and flawless. Retention is possible when you are able understand what you read or learn. To understand you should have concentration. Concentration comes from effective learning techniques based on creative and active learning. Physical exercise, outdoor games, entertainment, socializing coupled with systematic learning improves your memory and mind power. Vegetables, fruits and nuts are perfect for memory. Brain games like sudoku and jigsaw puzzles helps too. Avocados, Beetroots, Blueberries, Broccoli. Celery, Coconut Oil, Dark Chocolate etc are good for improving concentration and memory. I suggest online education counseling. Take care.
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I am 20 yrs old. I am not suffering from any physical problem but it its mental. I think I m suffering from depression what should I do?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
I am 20 yrs old.  I am not suffering from any physical problem but it its mental. I think I m suffering from depressi...
Dear , you should be able to distinguish between disappointment and depression. Disappointment also brings on symptoms identical to depression but they are short lived. Were you disappointed in the near past? please post a private question to me with every detail. I will help you. Take care.
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I am suffering from depression from more than one month due to break up . Can you suggest me how could I get rid of it .

L L. B..,, M.Sc psychy,, N L P, P.G.D.G.C, M.S psychotherapy,, M.A child care, M A, clinical psy, M.A,social psychiatry,, M.Phil., psychology., Ph.D .,psychology
Psychologist, Vijayawada
I am suffering from depression from more than one month due to break up . Can you suggest me how could I get rid of it .
Break up means you learned good lesson. Do not do that mistake again. Take some gap of the relations. Better to maintain friendly relations with boys. Maintain distance with girls. Concentrate on your work. Better to spend most of the time with family members and friends. Dot be alone. Feel always comfortable. Do not feel and think about depression. Feel always I am ok. I have no problems. Think always in a positive manner, ok best wishes.
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Iam a 20 years male searching 4 a job. Usually am always alone in my home. Iam always become nervous about my future. Iam always tensed. Because of this kind of thoughts iam not interested in going out and iam afraid of facing other peoples. How to reduce my tension and related problems?

(MRCPSYCH-UK), MD - Psychiatry, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Hyderabad
Iam a 20 years male searching 4 a job.
Usually am always alone in my home. Iam always become nervous about my future....
Your symptoms suggest depression or anxiety disorder. Kindly visit a psychiatrist. Eat well, sleep on time, maintain a regular day structure, meditation, breathing exercises, focus on the task, all these will improve apart from psychiatric treatment.
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What are the home remedies useful in stopping the craving of smoking? How is cayenne pepper used for quitting?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear Lybrate user, Welcome to Lybrate. Tobacco is addictive. Cigarette also contains 4000+ carcinogenic chemicals other than nicotine. Nicotine and other chemicals can cause cancer of different types and areas. Throat cancer, mouth cancer, lung cancer, stomach cancer and brain problems can result. Over and above smoking may also increase the risk factor of heart attack and brain stroke. Please quit smoking. The best method is to leave it and continue with your will power. There are other methods like Nicotine Replacement therapy and pharmacotherapy combined. If you’re ready to stop smoking and willing to get the support you need, you can recover from nicotine addiction and abuse—no matter how bad the addiction or how powerless you feel. The first step in treating nicotine addiction is accepting that you have a problem. Confronting an addiction and accepting responsibility for your actions isn’t easy. But it’s a necessary step on the road to treatment and recovery. You should then consult a psychiatrist / psychologist who fill follow this treatment. 1. Detoxification using medicines. 2. Behavior modification with the help of therapies. 3. Counseling. 4. Medication to sustain and 5. Long term support. These given steps are essential for any addict to get effectively rid of smoking. Therefore, you need to stick to the treatment plan and cooperate with your psychiatrist / psychologist. Mind power building therapy, motivation therapy etc should help you doing so. Take care.
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11 tips to overcome loneliness

Hypnotherapist, DCS, BSIC, Advanced Trainee of Transactional Analysis, Advanced Skills in Counselling
Psychologist,
11 tips to overcome loneliness

11 tips to overcome loneliness

I have seen in my practice as a counsellor too often, that people are living in big cities, full of people, but they feel very lonely from within and at the brink of anxiety and depression.

Simply defined, loneliness is a condition of emotional disconnect, socially feeling misfit and never ending solitude. Lonely people often feel insecure and pessimistic about finding desirable and compatible friendships. Poor self-esteem and an underdeveloped sense of one's worthiness, likeability and attractiveness prevent the lonely person from taking risks and venturing out into new relationships. Hence, they typically lack confidence and enthusiasm to pursue new relationships or nurture existing ones. As a chronic condition, it can be emotionally and psychologically debilitating.

Contrary to what many people believe, loneliness isn't just a result of being alone or an absence of friends. It is a deeper problem that is caused by thoughts and feelings of inadequacy, imperfection and shame. Chronically lonely people are often holding onto pessimistic predictions about the prospects of finding companionship, social connections and supportive relationships.

The lonely often suffer in silence. For many, it is hidden behind a facade of normalcy. While smiling and having fun, many hide their core feelings of loneliness. For these people, loneliness is not a reflection of what is happening in their lives at any given moment, but what occurs secretively and silently within them. When around people they know, they pretend to be upbeat, positive and happy, while at the same time feeling unworthy and insecure. Since it is a shame-based experience, it is typically kept a secret.

Lonely people inadvertently put themselves in a catch-22 situation: social opportunities seem like a heavy burden fraught with the potential of rejection or abandonment. The more you feel lonely, the more you feel inadequate and unworthy, the more you stop believing anyone will ever like or love you, the more you isolate. With a belief of potential rejection or abandonment, the lonely person is unable to put their best foot forward in any given social situation. Hence, loneliness feeds on itself.

The causes of loneliness are varied and multi-dimensional, including social, psychological and physiological factors. The major cause of chronic loneliness is often attributed to early developmental factors such as a child's lack of attachment to their adult caregivers who only conditionally love (love with strings attached) their children. Similarly, childhood neglect, abuse and abandonment are early childhood factors that eventually manifest into adult loneliness.

Since loneliness is a deeply embedded psychological experience (condition), having enough friends can never result in feeling secure and lovable. Building up one's self-esteem and ability to love, respect and care for oneself is fundamental in solving and healing the deeper psychological conditions that create chronic loneliness. Counselling helps people to explore their early childhood wounds in a safe and confidential space and learn new ways to 're-parent' themselves by learning to love, acknowledge and appreciate themselves.

Life is too short to waste on suffering from core loneliness. Please heed to my suggestion: open up, take a chance and access the hidden part of you that deserves true and loving companions. Heal your childhood wounds. Learn to love yourself and eliminate loneliness from your life!

The following are 10 tips to battle and conquer loneliness:

1. Catch your inner critic's attempts to sabotage yourself. Pay attention to self-degrading thoughts like 'I am too fat for anybody to want to date' I wish I were funnier and had interesting things to say 'or' people never seem to understand me,

2. Replace negative self-talk with affirming messages, such as 'I am perfectly lovable just as I am' and 'I welcome love, friendship and support into my life'

3. Fight the urge to isolate. Isolation validates your fears that you are not worthy of the love and support you absolutely deserve. Sometimes you have to force yourself to do exactly that which you are dreading -- like putting yourself out there.

4. Weed out the toxic relationships and create space in your life for relationships that fuel your spirit. You can't grow lovely succulent vegetables with a large patchwork of weeds.

5. Nurture your support network. Even if there is only one person to start with, you can build on it. Don't underestimate the importance of what you have to offer.

6. Expand your social network. Online social sites such as meetup. Com is an ideal place to meet people and to explore hobbies, interests and social groups.

7. Open your self-up, take risks, and allow yourself to be vulnerable. Since loneliness results in isolation, experiment by sharing aspects of yourself, including experiences, feelings, memories, dreams, desires, etc. This will help you feel more known and understood.

8. Ask for what you need. Find your voice. Tell people what you need from them to alleviate the loneliness. Friends respond to direct messages for help and support. Give it a try, you might be surprised!

9. Take action. Don't wait for an invitation. Be willing to take a risk, be proactive and invite people to share in your life, whether it is for coffee, lunch, a walk, an event or a gathering in your home.

10. Recognize the importance of being alone and enjoying solitude. Being alone is not the same as being lonely. Peace, quiet, freedom, space and the opportunity to connect with your deeper self.

11. Consider therapy. Counseling is something that is healthy and proactive that can help you overcome the self-defeating behaviors that exacerbate loneliness. With the support of a therapist, you can change your thinking and relationship patterns and achieve the life you want!
 

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How to have a better and heathy life because I want quit smoking, alcohol, marijuana everything and live a simple and good healthy life. Please help me.

Ph.D - Ayurveda, FFAM-Post Graduate Fellowship, MD - Ayurveda
Ayurveda, Delhi
How to have a better and heathy life because I want quit smoking, alcohol, marijuana everything and live a simple and...
Congratulations, thanks god and your parents that you got such a track changing thought, now bring in to reality. Have firm decision, decide time limit, take oath before god or parents. Leave every thing gradually to avoid withdrawal symptoms. Do reasonable exercises, yoga postures, meditation, chant liking mantra, visit temple, worship parents by touching feet, do all regular. Have regular sleep, both two times, be in 2-3 good friends company. Consume fruits, fresh juices, dry fruits etc. You need detox process
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