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Dr. Shweta Sharma

Diploma - Guidance & Councelling, B.A. Psychology, M.A. Clinical Psychology, ...

Psychologist, Gurgaon

10 Years Experience  ·  600 at clinic
Dr. Shweta Sharma Diploma - Guidance & Councelling, B.A. Psychology, M.A. C... Psychologist, Gurgaon
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Hello and thank you for visiting my Lybrate profile! I want to let you know that here at my office my staff and I will do our best to make you comfortable. I strongly believe in ethics; a......more
Hello and thank you for visiting my Lybrate profile! I want to let you know that here at my office my staff and I will do our best to make you comfortable. I strongly believe in ethics; as a health provider being ethical is not just a remembered value, but a strongly observed one.
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Dr. Shweta Sharma is a renowned Psychologist in New Gurgaon, Gurgaon. She has had many happy patients in her 10 years of journey as a Psychologist. She is a qualified Diploma - Guidance & Councelling, B.A. Psychology, M.A. Clinical Psychology, M.Phil - Medical & Social Psychology . You can meet Dr. Shweta Sharma personally at Metro Hospitals and Research Institute in New Gurgaon, Gurgaon. You can book an instant appointment online with Dr. Shweta Sharma on Lybrate.com.

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Diploma - Guidance & Councelling - Barkatullah University, - 2007
B.A. Psychology - Barkatullah University, - 2007
M.A. Clinical Psychology - Barkatullah University, - 2009
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M.Phil - Medical & Social Psychology - Institute of Behavioural & Medical Sciences, - 2011
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Registered Clinical Psychologist from Rehabilitation Council Of India
Life Member of Somatic Inkblot Society from September 2012 vide SIS LM: 395
Professional Annual Member of Indian Association of Clinical Psychologists PAM 1/11/01/12.

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How to Overcome Snoring

MBBS, D.P.H
General Physician, Gurgaon
How to Overcome Snoring

1. Loose weight. Can reduce fatty tissue in the back of the throat and decrease or even stop snoring.

2. Exercise can also help to stop snoring. As well aiding weight loss, exercising your arms, legs, and abs, for example, also leads to toning the muscles in your throat, which in turn can lead to less snoring.

3. Quit smoking. Smoking irritates the membranes in the nose and throat which can block the airways and cause snoring.

4. Avoid alcohol, sleeping pills, and sedatives because they relax the muscles in the throat and interfere with breathing.

5. Establish regular sleep patterns. Create a healthy bedtime ritual with your partner and stick to it.

6. Clear nasal passages. If you have a stuffy nose, rinse sinuses with saline before bed. If you have allergies, reduce dust mites and pet dander in your bedroom or use an allergy medication. Pt nasoclear nasal drop inboth nostril before sllep.

7. Keep bedroom air moist. Dry air can irritate membranes in the nose and throat, so if swollen nasal tissues are the problem, a humidifier may help.

8. Change your sleeping position. Elevating your head four inches may ease breathing and encourage your tongue and jaw to move forward. Sleep on your side instead of your back.

 9. Try an anti-snoring mouth appliance.

10 throat exercises to prevent snoring

A. Repeat each vowel (a-e-i-o-u) out loud for three minutes a few times a day

B. Place the tip of your tongue behind your top front teeth. Slide your tongue backwards for three minutes a day.

C. Close your mouth and purse your lips. Hold for 30 seconds.

D. With mouth open, move jaw to the right and hold for 30 seconds. Repeat on left side.

E. With mouth open, contract the muscle at the back of your throat repeatedly for 30 seconds.

 

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I had a relationship with my girlfriend and she broke up with because I was not giving her time but realized the same now I an trying to give her time but she is moved on and she is hanging out with my friends who are staying in my p. G when I see her with my p. girlfriend I feel very low, its start paining in my heart please help me what should I do?

Masters in Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Lucknow
Change your PG. Avoid painful triggers for time being sooner or later you will get adjusted to it. I can understand the pain and hurt. You should focus on making your career and focusing on establishing yourself. If someone realizes your worth they will come to you, its they who should realize your efforts and time, you cannot force on someone. Remember, love cannot be bought or forced upon someone. Respected and dignity is earned and is much more attractive to a girl
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I lost someone last year and I am in depression. You will give me some idea for relief depression.

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
I lost someone last year and I am in depression. You will give me some idea for relief depression.
What you are going through is greaving. Loosing loved one is not easy to deal with emotionally. I am sorry for your loss. When you are greaving, your mind is continuously engaged in sad and disturbing thoughts and feeling of loss and perhaps guilt. When sadness over powers you it is difficult to feel any other feelings. Even feeling happy makes you feel guilty and uneasy. Slow but effective way to over cone sadness is to engage yourself in some neutral activities such as cleaning. Walking or readjng a light book. Once you try that for few days you may be ready for following things. There are few things I would like you to try. 1. When you feel sad. Feel the feeling of sadness fully. You may close your eyes and let that sadness flow through your mind and body. If tears flow let them flow. Cry it out. Feeling what you feel fully and totally is healing. Once you feel your sadness fully. You might feel the lightness in your heart. Feel that too and say out loud. How wonderful! and engage your mind remembering some good qualities and good times you spent with the person you are missing. 2. Regular simple breath awareness meditation also help manage your loss. 3. You may also l write daily 3 to 5 things you are grateful to every morning. These things could be as simple as having a bed to sleep and food to eat. Affirm what you write and add new thing in your list for 7 to10 days. If you are not feeling any change over next 2 weeks or if you lack motivation to initiate and maintain above activities feel free contact me and we could work together for few weeks to months to reverse your cycle and help you appreciate what you have. Hope this helps wishing you very best.
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Since 2015 I have been suffering from derealization a special case of depression I took the weight gainer last year and also I took stress as 12 class result was unexpected I consulted to doctor and I had Ecg test which suggested weakness of brain nerves Since than I have taken medicine from 3 different doctors but still I will as if I am in dream. World appears footy to me It specially happens in evening time around 6 . Sometimes I feel to suicide due to illness. Please let me know the proper treatment for it I will be thankful to you Thanks

B.A PSYCHOLOGY HONOURS, M.A PSYCHOLOGY, M.Phil - Psychology, PhD PSYCHOLOGY
Psychologist, Delhi
Since 2015 I have been suffering from derealization a special case of depression I took the weight gainer last year a...
See a qualified and trained psychologist at the earliest. Psychologist is an expert in diagnosis by psychological testing and counselling/psychotherapy i. E. Treatment without medicines. Psychiatrist gives medicines only. Treatment started earlier will control the problem very fast. Get proper diagnosis first followed by right treatment. Please get diagnosis confirmed first then take medicines as advised. It is possible that problem is psychological-then it will not be cured by medicines. You will need psychotherapy.
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I had taken 20mg of prozac for one month along with hydroxyzine 50 mg 4 times a day and 100 mg? It may have any side effects?

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
I had taken 20mg of prozac for one month along with hydroxyzine 50 mg 4 times a day and 100 mg? It may have any side ...
Side effects may include: cold symptoms such as stuffy nose, sneezing, sore throat; drowsiness, dizziness, feeling nervous; mild nausea, upset stomach, constipation; increased appetite, weight changes; sleep problems (insomnia); decreased sex drive, impotence, or difficulty having an orgasm; or. Dry mouth.
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How to reduce obesity at high level and how it is related to tension enhancing. Please explain me?

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
How to reduce obesity at high level and how it is related to tension enhancing. Please explain me?
You may be into emotional eating for this weight gain. Whenever you are in tension, sometimes it may be depression, then you will tend to eat more to deal with the tension. You need to identify the emotion that is behind the excessive eating: are you sad, angry, afraid or happy that you tend to want to eat every time? When you have done that it is as simple as addressing the feeling that feeds into the over-eating and you will cease to have a problem. This can be done with a counselor, ideally. Many of us over-eat when emotionally distraught. You are already over-weight. Apart from that it is likely that your metabolism might have reduced considerably making you susceptible to gain weight even with small quantities of food. If you still want to eat (I mean healthy food of course), you can consume more, if you did some noteworthy exercise, after getting approval from your doctor. Exercise boosts your metabolic rate. Foods also boost metabolism: egg whites, lean meat, water, chili peppers, coffee, green tea, milk, whole grains, and lentils. Cucumber is a zero calorie food and takes long to digest and much metabolism too. If you have it before each meal and any amount too, it will curb the amount of consumption. Even so, the addictive aspect of eating involves the obsession and compulsion i.e. your mind will be always thinking about food and then it will feed into a compulsion to consume something. So, if you occupy yourself, (not busy) then the mind will not think too much on food and therefore it will negate the compulsion. Meet with a counselor and be very cooperative to true success.
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Im 18 years old. I want to increase my memory power. I forget anything at anytime. I have Very bad memory power. Its causes me bad marks in my exams. Help immediately. Please!

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lybrate user. I can understand. Memory depends on understanding, retention and recollection. To retain any information for long time, you need to understand perfectly and to recite more. Once the information is understood, retained, the recollection becomes easy for the brain. Physical exercise, outdoor games, entertainment, social activities etc also helps immensely. Diet rich in fruits and vegetables, nuts, cereals etc helps. I suggest online educational counselling and effective learning methods. Take care.
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I am 28 years. I am suffering mentality problem. I am not fullfill my work. And I am leaving in tension.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
I am 28 years. I am suffering mentality problem. I am not fullfill my work. And I am leaving in tension.
Dear . Tension means anxiety. Anxiety is fear about unknown happening or fear about future. Anxiety about things which we do not know or anxiety about things we are not experienced are common. Please tell me what makes you anxious? past? present? future? career? economic status? health matters? anything else? let me know. Take care.
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I am 29 years male my wife is 26 we married it's love marriage 3 years back as she is suffering with vaginismus till date we dint had sex I contacted doctors too they told why of take her to Gynaecologist but she is not coming. Not allowing touch her private part. Please help.

MD - Obstetrtics & Gynaecology, MBBS
Gynaecologist, Gurgaon
I am 29 years male my wife is 26 we married it's love marriage 3 years back as she is suffering with vaginismus till ...
Hi lybrate-user. No treatment for vaginismus is possible without an examination and therapy. However persistent pressure for treatment at times psychological trauma which deters the patient from visiting the doctor even more. I suggest first you relieve of her anxiety. Take her to a psychologist who can prescribe her medicines for anxiety. Sometimes in some cases anti anxiety medicines in itself treat the vaginismus. You never know, it might actually do the trick.
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I am 30 years old . I am suffering with high blood pressure from last 2 years and presently I suffering from negativity.Please do help.

M.B.B.S., F.I.C.A. (USA), P.G.D.I.H, F.C.G.P., D.C.A.H
Psychiatrist, Vadodara
This is due to all stress and worries of life. May be issues of married life/future marriage, you are having insecurities and fear. Just relax. Ask yourself what bothers you? have a positive self-talk, and learn what are those things you don't like. You need to accept your self and move on. You need to take care of your lifestyle and learn to be happy. If you cant do it yourself, meet a life coach/ stress management super-specialist like me. Once you open your heart out, you will feel free and begin to fly in life. I assure you that I can manage this and help u. Proper treatment is needed. You may consult me.
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I am a 39 year old man with no health problems but I am passing through a very stressful phase (stress related to my kid, parents, job etc). I had lost my wife to cancer a year back. I am planning for a remarriage and have been involved with a female since past 4-5 months). Off late I am having a bit of body pain, forgetfulness, excessive sweating when not in ac, sleepiness. What can be the reason. I am worried by these symptoms.

BHARAT JYOTI, MRACGP, INCEPTOR, MD-PhD, MD - Psychiatry, FIPS, Fellow of Academy of General Education (FAGE), DPM, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Bangalore
I am a 39 year old man with no health problems but I am passing through a very stressful phase (stress related to my ...
You have to decide. You are in 100% stress followed by the death of your spouse. You have to wait and see if have resolved the bereavement and stress in relation to family and children. You have to be assessed with you family and and pros and cons of remarriage,
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I am 25 years old and I want to know about nicotine patches everything about it dosage and consumption.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Nicotine patch is used for: Helping you to quit smoking. Nicotine patch is a smoking deterrent. It works by providing low levels of nicotine, which may help you to quit smoking by lessening the physical signs of withdrawal symptoms. Do NOT use nicotine patch if: • you are allergic to any ingredient in nicotine patch Contact your doctor or health care provider right away if any of these apply to you. Before using nicotine patch: Some medical conditions may interact with nicotine patch. Tell your doctor or pharmacist if you have any medical conditions, especially if any of the following apply to you: • if you are pregnant, planning to become pregnant, or are breast-feeding • if you are taking any prescription or nonprescription medicine, herbal preparation, or dietary supplement • if you have allergies to medicines, foods, or other substances (including adhesive tape) • if you have skin problems at the application site • if you have heart problems, irregular heartbeat, or if you have had a recent heart attack • if you have high blood pressure • you continue to smoke, chew tobacco, use snuff, or use any other nicotine-containing products (eg, nicotine gum) • if you take medicine for asthma or depression, or if you are using another medicine to stop smoking Some MEDICINES MAY INTERACT with nicotine patch. Tell your health care provider if you are taking any other medicines. Ask your health care provider if nicotine patch may interact with other medicines that you take. Check with your health care provider before you start, stop, or change the dose of any medicine. How to use nicotine patch: Use nicotine patch as directed by your doctor. Check the label on the medicine for exact dosing instructions. • An extra patient leaflet is available with nicotine patch. Talk to your pharmacist if you have questions about this information. • Do not apply to skin that is oily, burned, irritated, or damaged in any way. • Remove backing from patch and immediately press onto a clean, dry, hairless part of your upper arm or hip. Press firmly and count to 10 to be sure it sticks well. • Wash your hands after applying or removing the patch. • Apply a new patch at the same time each day. Be sure to use a different skin site to avoid skin irritation. • Do not cut the patch in half or into smaller pieces. • Do not wear more than 1 patch at a time. • Wear each patch for 16 to 24 hours. Do not leave the patch on for more than 24 hours because it may irritate your skin and lose its strength. • After removing the used patch, fold it in half with the sticky sides together. Discard the patch out of the reach of children and away from pets. • If you miss a dose of nicotine patch, use it as soon as possible. If it is almost time for your next dose, skip the missed dose and go back to your regular dosing schedule. Do not use 2 doses at once. Ask your health care provider any questions you may have about how to use nicotine patch. Important safety information: • Nicotine patch comes in different strengths. Talk to your doctor about which strength is right for you. • Do NOT use more than the recommended dose or use for longer than 10 weeks without checking with your doctor. If you feel the need to take nicotine patch after 10 weeks, check with your doctor. • If you begin to have vivid dreams or other sleeping problems, remove the patch at bedtime (after wearing it for about 16 hours). Put on a new patch when you wake up the next day. • Avoid getting nicotine patch in your eyes. If you get nicotine patch in your eyes, wash them out immediately with cool tap water. • Do not smoke or use tobacco products while you are using nicotine patch. This includes times when you are not wearing the patch. • Nicotine patch should be used as part of a larger program to help you stop smoking. If you need help choosing a program, talk with your health care provider. • Tell your doctor, dentist, or other health care provider that you use nicotine patch before you receive any medical or dental care, emergency care, or surgery. • If you will be having a magnetic resonance imaging (MRI), tell your doctor that you use nicotine patch. You may need to remove the patch before having the MRI. • Nicotine patch may cause harm if it is swallowed. If you, a child, or a pet may have taken it by mouth, contact your poison control center or emergency room right away. • Use nicotine patch with caution in the ELDERLY; they may be more sensitive to its effects. • Nicotine patch should not be used in CHILDREN younger than 18 years old without first checking with the child's doctor; safety and effectiveness in these children have not been confirmed. • PREGNANCY and BREAST-FEEDING: Nicotine patch may cause harm to the fetus. If you think you may be pregnant, contact your doctor. You will need to discuss the benefits and risks of using nicotine patch while you are pregnant. Nicotine patch is found in breast milk. If you are or will be breast-feeding while you use nicotine patch, check with your doctor. Discuss any possible risks to your baby. When used for longer than a few weeks or at high doses, some people develop a need to continue taking nicotine patch. This is known as DEPENDENCE or addiction. Do not suddenly stop taking nicotine patch without your doctor's approval. If you do, you may have WITHDRAWAL symptoms. These may include anxiety, craving, impaired concentration, increased appetite, irritability, nervousness, sleep disturbances, and weight gain. Possible side effects of nicotine patch: All medicines may cause side effects, but many people have no, or minor, side effects. Check with your doctor if any of these most COMMON side effects persist or become bothersome: Abnormal or vivid dreams; mild redness, itching, or burning at the application site; trouble sleeping. Seek medical attention right away if any of these SEVERE side effects occur: Severe allergic reactions (rash; hives; itching; difficulty breathing; tightness in the chest; swelling of the mouth, face, lips, or tongue); blurred vision; fast or irregular heartbeat; nausea; severe or persistent dizziness or headache; swelling or persistent (more than 4 days) redness at the application site; vomiting; weakness. This is not a complete list of all side effects that may occur. If you have questions about side effects, contact your health care provider. Call your doctor for medical advice about side effects. To report side effects to the appropriate agency, please read the Guide to Reporting Problems to FDA. General information: • If you have any questions about nicotine patch, please talk with your doctor, pharmacist, or other health care provider. • Nicotine patch is to be used only by the patient for whom it is prescribed. Do not share it with other people. • If your symptoms do not improve or if they become worse, check with your doctor. • Check with your pharmacist about how to dispose of unused medicine. This information should not be used to decide whether or not to take nicotine patch or any other medicine. Only your health care provider has the knowledge and training to decide which medicines are right for you. This information does not endorse any medicine as safe, effective, or approved for treating any patient or health condition. This is only a brief summary of general information about nicotine patch. It does NOT include all information about the possible uses, directions, warnings, precautions, interactions, adverse effects, or risks that may apply to nicotine patch. This information is not specific medical advice and does not replace information you receive from your health care provider. You must talk with your health care provider for complete information about the risks and benefits of using nicotine patch. Disclaimer: This information should not be used to decide whether or not to take this medicine or any other medicine. Only your health care provider has the knowledge and training to decide which medicines are right for you. This information does not endorse any medicine as safe, effective, or approved for treating any patient or health condition. This is only a brief summary of general information about this medicine. It does NOT include all information about the possible uses, directions, warnings, precautions, interactions, adverse effects, or risks that may apply to this medicine. This information is not specific medical advice and does not replace information you receive from your health care provider. You must talk with your healthcare provider for complete information about the risks and benefits of using this medicine.
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When I drink Achlchol my face and back get red and get many pimples for some 3 to 5 hrs and then it get normal what should I do to avoid this problem please tell me the solution not to avoid alcohol.Please tell.

MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Chennai
When I drink Achlchol my face and back get red and get many pimples for some 3 to 5 hrs and then it get normal what s...
You might be sensitive to alcohol, what the of drink you take, it might be allergy to the particular typeof alcohol, change the type. Don't take more than a social drinker.
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How to improve physically and mental ability? What is short seeing in eyes? How to improve health?

DHMS (Diploma in Homeopathic Medicine and Surgery)
General Physician,
How to improve physically and mental ability?
What is short seeing in eyes?
How to improve health?
Health is wealth brother physically at gym and yoga at home, mentally you built your self with devine thoughts as positive attitude makes you strong.
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I am 21 yeas old lady and from few months I was suffering from anxiety disorder. What should I do?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Anxiety disorders are a category of mental disorders characterized by feelings of anxiety and fear, where anxiety is a worry about future events and fear is a reaction to current events. These feelings may cause physical symptoms, such as a racing heart and shakiness. There are a number of anxiety disorders: including generalized anxiety disorder, a specific phobia, social anxiety disorder, separation anxiety disorder, agoraphobia, and panic disorder among others. While each has its own characteristics and symptoms, they all include symptoms of anxiety. I need to know more about your anxiety so that I will be able to diagnose it properly and provide you tips to overcome and manage your anxiety. Take care.
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Hiii! I am a 18 year old male. I had very bad temper some times I can't control my anger. What should I do to be calm.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Being all of 18 years there could be some implications if this anger was of recent origin. There may be unresolved issues regarding unexpressed anger from childhood that needs some attention now. Meet with a counselor along with your parents to explore those influences. None of the feelings are to be controlled. The way you express them has to be appropriate. Now anger is pure energy and people mistakenly think that they must express anger violently, or aggressively, or they can damage something, or throw a fit, or kill, or hurt, or withdraw, etc. These expressions can be followed, if they are appropriate to the situation. You can instead simply talk about the feeling, write about it and share it with someone who understands; scream and shout in a situation which warrants it and so on. When the expression is most suitable, the repercussions are minimized and the other person tends to understand and is willing to apologize and sort out the matter. Many of us are inclined to worry about the consequences of expressing anger and use fear to suppress the legitimate expression. You can exorcise your anger out of your system by exercising, but it is the energy that is expended not the feeling. Unexpressed feelings will hurt you back by clinging on to a favorite organ and troubling it enough to cause it to malfunction or lead to its total dysfunction. You can also hand over the feeling to God, if you are a spiritual person, and very effectively too. All feelings must be expressed without exception.
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HI, We got married last December (2014) & ours is a love marriage with parents consent. My wife's age is 21 & myself 25. My wife hardly knows any work, but my mom & I tries to teach every work her very softly. If we show more love & affection and teach politely she turns into non-hearing mode, which means she starts to dominate us & dont learn/work at all. If I start to show some anger she starts to cry & start to learn/work. But I do not want her to have pain while she learn the work. Neither we want to see dominance from her. What is the best way to go forward. We use to love a lot & care for each other before marriage. Still now we love & care each other when things are fine. When things are worst it goes to extreme extent of thinking why did we marry each other. Kindly suggest your opinion. We want to lead a happy life together & forever with my wife learning all the work with out any pain. I cannot see anyone pointing at my wife for not knowing basic house hold activities.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
You sound like a very reasonable chap and this girl is blessed that she has found a husband like you. Now this peculiar behavior of your wife may be some of the effects of her upbringing. So do not become too harsh on her, and I like that you do not want her to go through pain to learn all the household chores. So I advise you to sit down and have a talk to her and tell her what you have conveyed to me. If she is spoken to and made to understand where you are coming from I am sure she will be able to comply. Sometimes she may have this fear that once she shows she is capable of doing work that she might be dumped with all the work over time. Now you need to give her that assurance that this will not happen, ever. In the first two years of your marriage there will be a power struggle to establish who wears the pants in the house! There is an establishment of who is the final authority between you two. Of course being in your own house gives you some advantage. However this need not become a struggle if you two play complimentary roles i.e. where she is good you play a supportive role and where you are dominant she has to compliment you. This will remove the power struggle. It is very important to sustain the love you both enjoyed before marriage: never talk about any regret at all and ever. Love needs to be worked upon for the rest of your lives. It is too precious to be dismissed under stressful circumstances so easily. And don?t ever worry about what people will say about your wife: what you say and do about her is important. Love her and share with her your expectations and find out her difficulties and if there is any need to meet with a counselor please do not hesitate to ideally nip these issues in the bud and get on with your lovely life. If it will help you can share this response with her and start the ball rolling.
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I am 27 yrs old man my girl friend cheated me now she is going to marry someone I totally depressed that I dont like to touch some one my girl what should I do doctor.?

M.B.B.S., F.I.C.A. (USA), P.G.D.I.H, F.C.G.P., D.C.A.H
Psychiatrist, Vadodara
This is due to all stress and worries. You will find another girl. You cant force her to continue with u. Just relax. Ask yourself what bothers you? have a positive self-talk, and learn what are those things you don't like. You need to accept your self and move on. You need to take care of your lifestyle and learn to be happy. If you cant do it yourself, meet a life coach/ stress management super-specialist like me. Once you open your heart out, you will feel free and begin to fly in life.
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What is the best way to being more focused to your work without being stressed. Need it urgently!

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
What is the best way to being more focused to your work without being stressed. Need it urgently!
Dear lybrate user, welcome to lybrate. You must be able to understand concentration, attention span, recollection and distraction. If you are able to watch a movie for two hours continuously, if you are able to play a game for an hour, then you do not have any concentration problems. You can't be attentive towards your studies because you are not interested in it. You are able to watch movie and play game because you are interested in it. Human cannot be attentive towards anything for more than 10 minutes. If the task is boring, it is natural that that person will sleep or feel sleepy. Then you should study in such a way that your attention is continued and make the subjects are interesting to you. Effective learning techniques should help you. Recollection depends on anxiety, stress and other physical and circumstantial factors. Distractions while studying are plentiful. You should be able to overcome distractions or avoid distractions. Please understand the above. Change your study style and attitude accordingly. Please search internet for" effective learning" techniques. Take care.
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