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Lots of men have low sex drive, for a lot of reasons. Low libido for a long period of time may cause concern for some people. It can sometimes be an indicator of an underlying health condition. 

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Lots of men have low sex drive, for a lot of reasons. Low libido for a long <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/period-diet' target='_blank'>period</a> of time may cause concern for some people. It can sometimes be an indicator of an underlying health condition.

Low Sexual Desires In Men!

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Sexual arousal requires good blood circulation, yet tobacco exerts a negative effect on blood circulation by constricting blood vessels. <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/smoking' target='_blank'>Smoking</a> can also negatively affect <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/fertility-diet' target='_blank'>fertility</a> and promote certain sexual diseases.

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Hello, Welcome friends. Once again this is Dr. Hitesh Shah on Lybrate looking after your sexual health, emotional health and relationship health. Friends our today's topic is narrow introitus or small vaginal opening and how it affects the first sexual intercourse. Well friends as you are aware every virgin girl who gets married and will have a small vaginal opening smaller relatively smaller vaginal opening and will have initial difficulties for penetrative intercourse but generally through a little forceful penetrative attempt, it happens. Then can be bleeding, there can be pain but then she overcomes it gradually. But it's a spectrum so some women have very narrow opening, very small opening is even difficult for them to insert even one single finger, forget two fingers and erect penis is generally more than 4 fingers thick, so it is difficult for any erect penis to enter; that leads to pain, that pain leads to again fear and often narrow opening is associated with penetration phobia or even vaginismus. So things get little more complicated for those women. Similar situation in exist in men. You know they were very narrow foreskin which is called phimosis. So coming back to women now this problem and it exists its difficult for them to have penetrative sex. Often they undergo surgery also to open up their introitus and remove the hymen but there is a limitation to surgery because you can't make the opening so big you know and because there's a urethra above, there is a perineum and anal canal below. So beyond a point it cannot be opened up and if the elasticity is not developed the even after surgery we get many cases where the penetration does not happen; even if there is no fear, no vaginismus but just penetration cannot happen. Now when we encounter with such cases where couple cannot have a first intercourse because even if the husband has a good erection, proper positioning is there but they can't insert at the right spot because the opening is relatively small and elasticity has not developed, we help them non-surgically. There are homeopathic remedies which help to develop elasticity and there are certain techniques which we guide couple through and they are able to develop that elasticity and very smoothly they come out of this problem. In fact we have many unconsummated cases one year, three years, five years, ten years, fifteen years of marriage you could not consummate because of this kind of problem and once they undergo right kind of guidance techniques and treatment they are able to consummate, in fact practically without any pain. We also get such situation of narrow introitus even post delivery. Post delivery there is a sometimes suture is taken after that episiotomy cut; if the suture is over taken it can narrow the natural opening. So in that case when the woman comes to us again there is a treatment and without surgery we can help this woman. This problem also can happen in the later stages post-menopause, when there is a very low level of oestrogen, lot of dryness in the vagina and constriction happening and women finds it very painful and difficult. Again homeopathy helps, non surgical techniques helps. So friends, there is a treatment, there is a cure you need not stay with your pain and fear and you can have your marital harmony. Thank you so much. You are always welcome for any query, any solution on Lybrate. Thank you.

Hello,

Welcome friends. Once again this is Dr. Hitesh Shah on <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/lab-test/free-doctor-consultation-on-lybrate/health-feed' target='_blank'>Lybrate</a> looking after your sexual health, emotional health and relationship health. Friends our today&#39;s topic is narrow introitus or small vaginal opening and how it affects the first sexual intercourse. Well friends as&nbsp;you are aware every virgin girl who gets married and will have a small vaginal opening smaller relatively smaller vaginal opening and will have initial difficulties for penetrative intercourse but generally through a little forceful penetrative attempt, it happens. Then can be <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/bleeding' target='_blank'>bleeding</a>, there can be <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/pain' target='_blank'>pain</a> but then she overcomes it gradually. But it&#39;s a spectrum so some women have very narrow opening, very small opening is even difficult for them to insert even one single finger, forget two fingers and erect penis is generally more than 4 fingers thick, so it is difficult for any erect penis to enter; that leads to pain, that pain leads to again <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/fear' target='_blank'>fear</a> and often narrow opening is associated with penetration phobia or even vaginismus. So things get little more complicated for those women. Similar situation in exist in men.

You know they were very narrow foreskin which is called phimosis. So coming back to women now this problem and it exists its difficult for them to have penetrative sex. Often they undergo <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/surgery' target='_blank'>surgery</a> also to open up their introitus and remove the hymen but there is a limitation to surgery because you can&#39;t make the opening so big you know and because there&#39;s a urethra above, there is a perineum and anal canal below. So beyond a point it cannot be opened up and if the elasticity is not developed the even after surgery we get many cases where the penetration does not happen; even if there is no fear, no vaginismus but just penetration cannot happen.

Now when we encounter with such cases where couple cannot have a first intercourse because even if the husband has a good erection, proper positioning is there but they can&#39;t insert at the right spot because the opening is relatively small and elasticity has not developed, we help them non-surgically. There are homeopathic remedies which help to develop elasticity and there are certain techniques which we guide couple through and they are able to develop that elasticity and very smoothly they come out of this problem. In fact we have many unconsummated cases one year, three years, five years, ten years, fifteen years of marriage you could not consummate because of this kind of problem and once they undergo right kind of guidance techniques and treatment they are able to consummate, in fact practically without any pain. We also get such situation of narrow introitus even post <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/delivery' target='_blank'>delivery</a>.

Post delivery there is a sometimes suture is taken after that episiotomy cut; if the suture is over taken it can narrow the natural opening. So in that case when the woman comes to us again there is a treatment and without surgery we can help this woman. This problem also can happen in the later stages post-menopause, when there is a very low level of oestrogen, lot of dryness in the vagina and constriction happening and women finds it very painful and difficult. Again homeopathy helps, non surgical techniques helps. So friends, there is a treatment, there is a cure you need not stay with your pain and fear and you can have your marital harmony. Thank you so much. You are always welcome for any query, any solution on Lybrate.&nbsp;

Thank you.

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Narrow Introitus

Hello friends, Welcome once again. This is Dr Hitesh Shah on Lybrate looking after your sexual relationship & emotional health. Our today s topic is stress & sex. Stress I believe is everybody s experience right from a child to a teenager to a young adult a married couple or senior citizens everybody passes through some or the other kind of stress. A working woman has an extraordinary level of stress. So nobody can escape stress of today s demanding life. Stress largely can be divided into 4 categories. One intra personal two interpersonal three situational & four environmental. The intra personal stress is due to our own nature. Many of us are programmed or by birth have a nature to invite trouble. We have a negative way of thinking perceiving & reacting in various situation & in various people. So the stress primarily also belongs to our own nature. The 2nd category is inter personal. As a person as an individual we are happy at peace with ourself but when it comes to certain relationship we are not happy in a particular relationship. So that inter personal relationship strain also creates lot of stress in day to day life or emotional burden. The 3rd category is situational sometimes there are severe situations like financial troubles or somebody sick in the family or sudden loss of a loved partner it can be anything. So the situations are beyond our control. And they do give us certain kind of stress. And the 4th stress is due to environment. It can be chemical it can be electromagnetic it can be pollution or or of various nature. So various kind of stress get generated in our system. In men women and as a couple. Now when we speak about sexual health sexual is an integral part of our entire being our entire health. So what happens to our emotional health our relationship health will ultimately reflect in bed on all our sexual health sexual desire or sexual performance. And hence it can result into lower desire lower performance men may not get adequate erection men may not be able to maintain that erection or out of lack of stamina may climax fast due to over excitement & lack of control. Women also tend to lose desire lose lubrication. So stress seem to affect a lot. Now at different age we have different kind of stress. For example children is a different matter but teenagers for example teenagers & young adults they have stress of their careers studies establishing their careers or they have issues with their new relations or heart breaks which often happen in this age. Then young adults who are settling in their work job or in early part of their business or just before marriage they have a different kind of stress. So they have a stress of survival stress to cope up with situation stress to really grow further in life you know different kind of stress. And then as you grow as you have higher responsibility you have different roles different responsibility gives different kinds of stress. In corporate often you have a job where the time of coming to office is fixed but the time to go back from office is never fixed. The long hours of work the global time bounds which you have to address to and lot of work pressure performance pressure you have time deadlines you have. If you are into business, business have different kind ecostructure and there are lot of other stresses regulations competitions the pricing the payments creating a market and a good business is not easy nowadays. So everybody have different kind of stress. Once you get married the issues in a relationship because as an individual you are happy like a free bird but now as a couple you have to adjust to each others expectations, you have to compromise with your own needs & expectations for the happiness of your partner which often doesn t becomes easy. There are temperamental issues ego issues emotional issues communication issues intimacy issues so couple passes through lot of stress of different nature day in & day out. Then things tend to unfold even in a love marriage often there are unexpected shocking occurrences is having in couples relationship. And ultimately when you are hurt when your ego is hurt but when your feelings are hurt you tend to loose your desire your passion you know for intimacy for sex and the desire is affected or if desire is there your performance with the same partner gets affected. So all these lead to a vicious cycle the more there is a stress emotional stress or work stress or day to day life stress it leads to lack of desire lack of performance which leads to another kind of stress and that is performance pressure performance anxiety because you cant perform in the bed you cant fulfill each others sexual needs. So again it creates another kind of stress. You have lower self esteem you loose your confidence you become nervous you become unhappy. There are again further fights in the relationship so emotional problems spill over sexual health sexual problems spill over to emotional bonding. So its a vicious cycle where the couple go into a downward spiral. And its really very difficult to come out of it. So what is the way out? How do you help this out? Well in this fast pace world in this fast pace life you need to take stock of the situation. Give a pause try to understand what happening with you whats happening with your nature whats happening with your temperament behavior perception reaction whats happening in your relationship what are the demands on you in your life. Be humane to yourself & to your partner all right and take help of the counseller and as a counsellar as a therapist we try to understand the stress which is affecting you in your life. So you are a working man working woman looking after entire family waking up early making tiffins and then going to work and then the work pressure the commutation & travel problems like in metro cities you reach workplace after travelling 1 hour 2 hour 3 hour in lot of traffic. And that itself takes away lot of toll on your system. You become fatigue loss of energy at the end of the day. Stress also leads to lot of stress disorders like high blood pressure diabetes cholesterol you tend to become addicted to tea coffee smoking alcohol and it is a visicious cycle that affects your sleep lack of sleep again leads to another kind of stress. So you are totally enveloped into this kind of atmosphere. So we evaluate what kind of stress are affecting you how is it affecting your sex life your emotional state your quality of relationship your communication your mood & temperament. And also we do lot of medical test to rule out if there are any stress disorders which are developing in your system. And we assess the exact nature & severity of your sexual problem. Once this is done then what we do is that we have a very noble approach a very unique a very innovative approach. We help you very comprehensively very holistically we integrate various modalities of treatment. And the top of the list is homeopathy. Homeopathy is fantastic its nature s boon mankind. It s a healing remedy. It helps to solve your negative perceptions you re your negative emotions effect of stress on you and the stress disorders it helps you solve your sexual problems which are resultant of your stresses of various kind. With homeopathy we integrate counseling personal counseling marriage counseling relationship counseling and also we help you with the right kind of yoga meditation pranayama. And of couse lifestyle guidance related to your nutrition & exercise. So friends there is a way out you can come out of stress in fact sex is the biggest stress buster. And right now what has happened is stress has resulted into your sex life have gone for a toss. But we will help you to come out of it and we will fill you with new energy freshness happiness & harmony in your relationship. So wake up early sleep early and remember don t become habituated to electronic gadgets do exercises take nutritious foods do meditation & prayanama be humane to yourself & partner and beyond this learn meditation & pranayama when you are suffering with any of these problems stress stress disorders or sexual dysfunctions. Come to us we will help you with homeopathy integrate with various other modalities as described. And this will give beautiful results & you will experience a transformation in your system in your sexual health in your mental peace in your relationship. So friends lets take stress as a challenge deal with it proactively aggressively and in the right way and you will be filled with more and newer and better and bigger and greater energy and have a greater health & greater sexual health. Wish you good luck. All the best. So for more information yes you are always welcome to us contact us through Lybrate and solve your sexual emotional & relationship problems. Thank you.

Hello friends,

Welcome once again. This is Dr Hitesh Shah on <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/lab-test/free-doctor-consultation-on-lybrate/health-feed' target='_blank'>Lybrate</a> looking after your sexual relationship &amp; emotional health. Our today&rsquo;s topic is <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/stress-disorder' target='_blank'>stress</a> &amp; sex. Stress I believe is everybody&rsquo;s experience right from a child to a teenager to a young adult a married couple or senior citizens everybody passes through some or the other kind of stress. A working woman has an extraordinary level of stress. So nobody can escape stress of today&rsquo;s demanding life. Stress largely can be divided into 4 categories. One intra personal two interpersonal three situational &amp; four environmental. The intra personal stress is due to our own nature. Many of us are programmed or by birth have a nature to invite trouble. We have a negative way of thinking perceiving &amp; reacting in various situation &amp; in various people. So the stress primarily also belongs to our own nature.

The 2nd category is inter personal. As a person as an individual we are happy at peace with ourself but when it comes to certain relationship we are not happy in a particular relationship. So that inter personal relationship strain also creates lot of stress in day to day life or emotional burden. The 3rd category is situational sometimes there are severe situations like financial troubles or somebody sick in the family or sudden loss of a loved partner it can be anything. So the situations are beyond our control. And they do give us certain kind of stress. And the 4th stress is due to environment. It can be chemical it can be electromagnetic it can be <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/lab-test/wellness-1-1/health-feed' target='_blank'>pollution</a> or or of various nature.

So various kind of stress get generated in our system. In men women and as a couple. Now when we speak about sexual health sexual is an integral part of our entire being our entire health. So what happens to our emotional health our relationship health will ultimately reflect in bed on all our sexual health sexual desire or sexual performance. And hence it can result into lower desire lower performance men may not get adequate erection men may not be able to maintain that erection or out of lack of stamina may climax fast due to over excitement &amp; lack of control. Women also tend to lose desire lose lubrication. So stress seem to affect a lot.

Now at different age we have different kind of stress. For example children is a different matter but teenagers for example teenagers &amp; young adults they have stress of their careers studies establishing their careers or they have issues with their new relations or heart breaks which often happen in this age. Then young adults who are settling in their work job or in early part of their business or just before marriage they have a different kind of stress. So they have a stress of survival stress to cope up with situation stress to really grow further in life you know different kind of stress. And then as you grow as you have higher responsibility you have different roles different responsibility gives different kinds of stress. In corporate often you have a job where the time of coming to office is fixed but the time to go back from office is never fixed.

The long hours of work the global time bounds which you have to address to and lot of work pressure performance pressure you have time deadlines you have. If you are into business, business have different kind ecostructure and there are lot of other stresses regulations competitions the pricing the payments creating a market and a good business is not easy nowadays. So everybody have different kind of stress. Once you get married the issues in a relationship because as an individual you are happy like a free bird but now as a couple you have to adjust to each others expectations, you have to compromise with your own needs &amp; expectations for the happiness of your partner which often doesn&rsquo;t becomes easy.

There are temperamental issues ego issues emotional issues communication issues intimacy issues so couple passes through lot of stress of different nature day in &amp; day out. Then things tend to unfold even in a love marriage often there are unexpected shocking occurrences is having in couples relationship. And ultimately when you are hurt when your ego is hurt but when your feelings are hurt you tend to loose your desire your passion you know for intimacy for sex and the desire is affected or if desire is there your performance with the same partner gets affected. So all these lead to a vicious cycle the more there is a stress emotional stress or work stress or day to day life stress it leads to lack of desire lack of performance which leads to another kind of stress and that is performance pressure performance <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/anxiety' target='_blank'>anxiety</a> because you cant perform in the bed you cant fulfill each others sexual needs. So again it creates another kind of stress.

You have lower self esteem you loose your confidence you become nervous you become unhappy. There are again further fights in the relationship so emotional problems spill over sexual health sexual problems spill over to emotional bonding. So its a vicious cycle where the couple go into a downward spiral. And its really very difficult to come out of it.

So what is the way out? How do you help this out? Well in this fast pace world in this fast pace life you need to take stock of the situation. Give a pause try to understand what happening with you whats happening with your nature whats happening with your temperament behavior perception reaction whats happening in your relationship what are the demands on you in your life. Be humane to yourself &amp; to your partner all right and take help of the counseller and as a counsellar as a therapist we try to understand the stress which is affecting you in your life. So you are a working man working woman looking after entire family waking up early making tiffins and then going to work and then the work pressure the commutation &amp; travel problems like in metro cities you reach workplace after travelling 1 hour 2 hour 3 hour in lot of traffic. And that itself takes away lot of toll on your system. You become <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/fatigue' target='_blank'>fatigue</a> loss of energy at the end of the day. Stress also leads to lot of stress disorders like <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/high-blood-pressure' target='_blank'>high blood pressure</a> <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/diabetes' target='_blank'>diabetes</a> cholesterol you tend to become addicted to <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/benefits-of-tea-and-its-side-effects' target='_blank'>tea</a> <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/benefits-of-coffee-and-its-side-effects' target='_blank'>coffee</a> <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/smoking' target='_blank'>smoking</a> alcohol and it is a visicious cycle that affects your sleep lack of sleep again leads to another kind of stress. So you are totally enveloped into this kind of atmosphere.

So we evaluate what kind of stress are affecting you how is it affecting your sex life your emotional state your quality of relationship your communication your mood &amp; temperament. And also we do lot of medical test to rule out if there are any stress disorders which are developing in your system. And we assess the exact nature &amp; severity of your sexual problem. Once this is done then what we do is that we have a very noble approach a very unique a very innovative approach. We help you very comprehensively very holistically we integrate various modalities of treatment. And the top of the list is homeopathy. Homeopathy is fantastic its nature&rsquo;s boon mankind. It&rsquo;s a healing remedy.

It helps to solve your negative perceptions you&rsquo;re your negative emotions effect of stress on you and the stress disorders it helps you solve your sexual problems which are resultant of your stresses of various kind. With homeopathy we integrate counseling personal counseling marriage counseling relationship counseling and also we help you with the right kind of <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/yoga' target='_blank'>yoga</a> <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/meditation' target='_blank'>meditation</a> pranayama. And of couse lifestyle guidance related to your nutrition &amp; exercise. So friends there is a way out you can come out of stress in fact sex is the biggest stress buster. And right now what has happened is stress has resulted into your sex life have gone for a toss. But we will help you to come out of it and we will fill you with new energy freshness happiness &amp; harmony in your relationship. So wake up early sleep early and remember don&rsquo;t become habituated to electronic gadgets do exercises take nutritious foods do meditation &amp; prayanama be humane to yourself &amp; partner and beyond this learn meditation &amp; pranayama when you are suffering with any of these problems stress stress disorders or sexual dysfunctions.

Come to us we will help you with homeopathy integrate with various other modalities as described. And this will give beautiful results &amp; you will experience a transformation in your system in your sexual health in your mental peace in your relationship. So friends lets take stress as a challenge deal with it proactively aggressively and in the right way and you will be filled with more and newer and better and bigger and greater energy and have a greater health &amp; greater sexual health. Wish you good luck. All the best. So for more information yes you are always welcome to us contact us through Lybrate and solve your sexual emotional &amp; relationship problems.

Thank you.

Stress And Sexual Life

Hello! Welcome friends, I am Dr. Hitesh Shah, a Sexologist from Mumbai. Once again welcome to this educational video series on Lybrate. Today's topic is Vaginismus. This is a fairly common disorder, sexual dysfunction in women and what does it means? Vaginismus means involuntary closure or spasm of vagina whenever there is an attempt at intercourse. Now this is of two types. First is the primary variety and the second is the secondary variety. Primary variety means which is from beginning. So when a woman gets married during first night of honeymoon when the couple discovers that she is not able to allow or go ahead with the penetrative intercourse and then she suddenly tends to close her thighs, it becomes too tight, tend to push away her husband and she experiences complete closure or involuntary closure of her vagina. So the penetration does not happen in this couple. They are not able to consummate their marriage. Now what is the reason for this involuntary closure of vagina. Obviously this is a kind of defensive or protective mechanism of mind and body. Why does it happens? Often there are cases, there is a history of subconscious fear. The fear can be due to various reasons. Often there is a history of child sex abuse so during the childhood or teenage years they can be an abuse experience or sexual trauma to the girl. Also often there are psychological fear just because of hearing somebody else's experience of sister or brother or sister in law or friend who have passed through painful intercourse and this leads to severe fear in woman's mind. Then there are women who have such fearful personalities. They are very timid, very nervous type and they tend to have fear very easily. They are afraid of pain even when they go for blood test simple needle pricking they tend to faint or they see accident on the road, they see blood they tend to faint. So this kind of women who have very fearful personality, they tend to get vaginismus. So women also passes through lot of agony and she just can't overcome her fear. Even if she has desire when the moment comes for penetration she is full of fear and she just can't allow her husband to move ahead or go ahead with the penetration part. As a result there is a lot of guilt inside her. She feels helpless, she feels very sorry, she feels responsible for not able to give pleasure or her happiness to husband. Obviously husband also passes through all kinds of frustration in spite of all his support to his wife. So as a result the couple lands up with a unconsummated marriage for lot of years. They cannot conceive and have a child and they live a very miserable life but there is a definite solution to this once we discover what is the underlying factors the reasons why the woman has developed that fear and there is a way to come out of it. There is a way, there is something called sex therapy, homeopathic medicines. All this things beautifully helps the couple. Also there is second factor or secondary variety of vaginismus which is after some surgery or after a delivery when stitches are taken. So what happens is the opening becomes too narrow for the penetration. There could be some actual pain which leads to vaginal spasm or closure. So all these things needs to be properly diagnosed in the given case. Once the problem is diagnosed there is a perfect treatment for every case of vaginismus including homeopathic remedy which takes away the subconscious fear. So friends you are welcome for any kind of treatment or solution or guidance. I am Dr. Hitesh Shah on Lybrate.

Hello!

Welcome friends, I am Dr. Hitesh Shah, a <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/sexologist' target='_blank'>Sexologist</a> from Mumbai. Once again welcome to this educational video series on <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/lab-test/free-doctor-consultation-on-lybrate/health-feed' target='_blank'>Lybrate</a>. Today&#39;s topic is Vaginismus. This is a fairly common disorder, <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/sexual-dysfunction' target='_blank'>sexual dysfunction</a> in women and what does it means? Vaginismus means involuntary closure or spasm of vagina whenever there is an attempt at intercourse. Now this is of two types. First is the primary variety and the second is the secondary variety. Primary variety means which is from beginning. So when a woman gets married during first night of honeymoon when the couple discovers that she is not able to allow or go ahead with the penetrative intercourse and then she suddenly tends to close her thighs, it becomes too tight, tend to push away her husband and she experiences complete closure or involuntary closure of her vagina. So the penetration does not happen in this couple. They are not able to consummate their marriage. Now what is the reason for this involuntary closure of vagina. Obviously this is a kind of defensive or protective mechanism of mind and body. Why does it happens?

Often there are cases, there is a history of subconscious <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/fear' target='_blank'>fear</a>. The fear can be due to various reasons. Often there is a history of child sex abuse so during the childhood or teenage years they can be an abuse experience or sexual trauma to the girl. Also often there are psychological fear just because of <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/hearing' target='_blank'>hearing</a> somebody else&#39;s experience of sister or brother or sister in law or friend who have passed through painful intercourse and this leads to severe fear in woman&#39;s mind. Then there are women who have such fearful personalities. They are very timid, very nervous type and they tend to have fear very easily. They are afraid of <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/pain' target='_blank'>pain</a> even when they go for blood test simple needle pricking they tend to faint or they see accident on the road, they see blood they tend to faint. So this kind of women who have very fearful personality, they tend to get vaginismus.

So women also passes through lot of agony and she just can&#39;t overcome her fear. Even if she has desire when the moment comes for penetration she is full of fear and she just can&#39;t allow her husband to move ahead or go ahead with the penetration part. As a result there is a lot of guilt inside her. She feels helpless, she feels very sorry, she feels responsible for not able to give pleasure or her happiness to husband. Obviously husband also passes through all kinds of frustration in spite of all his support to his wife. So as a result the couple lands up with a unconsummated marriage for lot of years. They cannot conceive and have a child and they live a very miserable life but there is a definite solution to this once we discover what is the underlying factors the reasons why the woman has developed that fear and there is a way to come out of it. There is a way, there is something called sex therapy, homeopathic medicines.

All this things beautifully helps the couple. Also there is second factor or secondary variety of vaginismus which is after some <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/surgery' target='_blank'>surgery</a> or after a <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/delivery' target='_blank'>delivery</a> when stitches are taken. So what happens is the opening becomes too narrow for the penetration. There could be some actual pain which leads to vaginal spasm or closure. So all these things needs to be properly diagnosed in the given case. Once the problem is diagnosed there is a perfect treatment for every case of vaginismus including homeopathic remedy which takes away the subconscious fear. So friends you are welcome for any kind of treatment or solution or guidance. I am Dr. Hitesh Shah on Lybrate.

Painful Intercourse

Hello Friends! Welcome once again! I'm Dr. Hitesh Shah, a sexologist from Mumbai. So, our today's topic is low sexual desire in women. Well, this is a very common problem amongst our Indian population specially. The reasons are many. If we try to understand, why does a woman feel low desire or less interest in sex, we need to evaluate it at various level. Of course, there are women who have constitutionally low sexual desire but are few. Most of them have either psychological factors or relationship factors or many of them also have medical or hormonal factors. So, let&#39;s try to understand them in detail. Now, we must rule out all possible medical factors. Whenever a woman, especially when they come after marriage, the couple is frustrated/depressed because the woman feels she's not able to respond to her husband. Husband tries to cope up, tries to cooperate. He's very understanding, but at the end of the day he's a man, he's a human being. He has his own desire and passion, he doesn't get response from wife so he's also frustrated. Many years pass through for many couple. Sometimes they come when they have pressure to conceive babies, sex life is just forgotten. So, even for conceiving, they need sex and the wife just doesn't feel the desire to have sex. And all of these also leads to various marital issues, disharmony, fights, quarrels or extramarital affair by husband or depression in wife or husband. So, it's very important that this problem is quickly communicated between the couple and they come to the doctor for the right treatment. Once the diagnosis is made, treatment is possible. So the common medical factors are any chronic disorders or disease in the system, person tends to feel low desire. Common hormonal problem in women like PCOS, hyperthyroidism and low haemoglobin - anaemia which are very common apart from diabetes which also cause low desire along with some lubrication disorders. So these are very common medical factors, so first we evaluate whether there are any medical factors or not. If not, we simultaneously try to understand in detail the psychological relationship aspect. As for psychological reasons are concerned, we understand the makeup of the woman, the personality, the upbringing, the attitude, and the cognitive factors of the woman about sex. There are women who feel sex is bad, sinful, is just for having baby and something what animals do so one shouldn't indulge in sex except for having a baby. There are women who have negative impact about sex because they heard somebody s experience of painful first night, or they have seen rape scenes in television or a movie or they have heard someone's experience which is very painful and they develop a kind of disinterest or aversion or they start camouflaging their own sexual desire. There are women who are very psychologically shy or reserve so they don't explore their own sexuality or they are also not free or they are too much controlled by their husband in the bed so their desire don't really come up and they also feel really ashamed that if they would feel free on the bed, then what would their husband think! So, these are all psychological complex or controls which a woman develops within herself. It also can be her forced marriage, they don't want to marry the guy but are forced and they don't develop the sexual interest. There are few women who are probably having a lesbian orientation, the attraction for only same-sex so they don't indulge in sexual desires for the opposite sex. Then, there are relationship issues between husband and wife. They feel alone or left out, or not being loved by the their husband or not respected by their husband or issues within the joint family or in-laws. All these keep them indulged in stressed out situations. There are also working women who are working entire day, the kitchen, and they really feel fatigue after the entire day. There can be vitamin deficiency also, these can be due to lack of nutrition, so these all stresses are phases that every woman passes through at some stage of their life. And the stress leads to low desire in woman. There are women who don't want to have baby so show less interest in sex. Also, they are women who want to conceive and there is more conceiving pressure than enjoying sex life. So, there are multiple reasons why women can have low sexual desires. There can be multiple factors as stated above. Any of these factors in given case, we can help the women out in experiencing the desire, we can help the couple out once, when diagnosed. Also, what is important is the sexual chemistry in the bed. What kind of foreplay they do, how husband is taking interest in woman, how he's boosting his self image as lots of woman lose their self image. They feel less appealing, less attractive, questioning whether their husband likes them or not or if, are attracted to someone else. These self esteem issues lead to low sexual desire. In short, we evaluate all these factors in every case and try to help the woman as an individual and both of them as the couple. So, problem can be sorted out and you both can get back to your privileges of happy marriage. Right? So all the best to you and in case of any queries or concern, you're welcome to meet us at Lybrate platform. I'm Dr. Hitesh Shah once again. See you again with some more educational videos. Thank you!

Hello Friends!

Welcome once again! I&#39;m Dr. Hitesh Shah, a <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/sexologist' target='_blank'>sexologist</a> from Mumbai. So, our today&#39;s topic is low sexual desire in women. Well, this is a very common problem amongst our Indian population specially. The reasons are many. If we try to understand, why does a woman feel low desire or less interest in sex, we need to evaluate it at various level. Of course, there are women who have constitutionally low sexual desire but are few. Most of them have either psychological factors or relationship factors or many of them also have medical or hormonal factors. So, let&amp;#39;s try to understand them in detail. Now, we must rule out all possible medical factors. Whenever a woman, especially when they come after marriage, the couple is frustrated/depressed because the woman feels she&#39;s not able to respond to her husband. Husband tries to cope up, tries to cooperate.

He&#39;s very understanding, but at the end of the day he&#39;s a man, he&#39;s a human being. He has his own desire and passion, he doesn&#39;t get response from wife so he&#39;s also frustrated. Many years pass through for many couple. Sometimes they come when they have pressure to conceive babies, sex life is just forgotten. So, even for conceiving, they need sex and the wife just doesn&#39;t feel the desire to have sex. And all of these also leads to various marital issues, disharmony, fights, quarrels or extramarital affair by husband or <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/depression' target='_blank'>depression</a> in wife or husband. So, it&#39;s very important that this problem is quickly communicated between the couple and they come to the doctor for the right treatment. Once the diagnosis is made, treatment is possible. So the common medical factors are any chronic disorders or disease in the system, person tends to feel low desire. Common hormonal problem in women like <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/pcos' target='_blank'>PCOS</a>, <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/hyperthyroidism' target='_blank'>hyperthyroidism</a> and low <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/lab-test/haemoglobin-urine/health-feed' target='_blank'>haemoglobin</a> - anaemia which are very common apart from <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/diabetes' target='_blank'>diabetes</a> which also cause low desire along with some lubrication disorders. So these are very common medical factors, so first we evaluate whether there are any medical factors or not.

If not, we simultaneously try to understand in detail the psychological relationship aspect. As for psychological reasons are concerned, we understand the makeup of the woman, the personality, the upbringing, the attitude, and the cognitive factors of the woman about sex. There are women who feel sex is bad, sinful, is just for having baby and something what animals do so one shouldn&#39;t indulge in sex except for having a baby. There are women who have negative impact about sex because they heard somebody&rsquo;s experience of painful first night, or they have seen rape scenes in television or a movie or they have heard someone&#39;s experience which is very painful and they develop a kind of disinterest or aversion or they start camouflaging their own sexual desire. There are women who are very psychologically shy or reserve so they don&#39;t explore their own sexuality or they are also not free or they are too much controlled by their husband in the bed so their desire don&#39;t really come up and they also feel really ashamed that if they would feel free on the bed, then what would their husband think! So, these are all psychological complex or controls which a woman develops within herself.

It also can be her forced marriage, they don&#39;t want to marry the guy but are forced and they don&#39;t develop the sexual interest. There are few women who are probably having a lesbian orientation, the attraction for only same-sex so they don&#39;t indulge in sexual desires for the opposite sex. Then, there are relationship issues between husband and wife. They feel alone or left out, or not being loved by the their husband or not respected by their husband or issues within the joint family or in-laws. All these keep them indulged in stressed out situations. There are also working women who are working entire day, the kitchen, and they really feel <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/fatigue' target='_blank'>fatigue</a> after the entire day. There can be <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/vitamin-deficiency' target='_blank'>vitamin deficiency</a> also, these can be due to lack of nutrition, so these all stresses are phases that every woman passes through at some stage of their life. And the <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/stress-disorder' target='_blank'>stress</a> leads to low desire in woman.

There are women who don&#39;t want to have baby so show less interest in sex. Also, they are women who want to conceive and there is more conceiving pressure than enjoying sex life. So, there are multiple reasons why women can have low sexual desires. There can be multiple factors as stated above. Any of these factors in given case, we can help the women out in experiencing the desire, we can help the couple out once, when diagnosed. Also, what is important is the sexual chemistry in the bed. What kind of foreplay they do, how husband is taking interest in woman, how he&#39;s boosting his self image as lots of woman lose their self image. They feel less appealing, less attractive, questioning whether their husband likes them or not or if, are attracted to someone else. These <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/doctors-for-treatment-for-self-esteem-issues' target='_blank'>self esteem issues</a> lead to low sexual desire. In short, we evaluate all these factors in every case and try to help the woman as an individual and both of them as the couple. So, problem can be sorted out and you both can get back to your privileges of happy marriage. Right? So all the best to you and in case of any queries or concern, you&#39;re welcome to meet us at <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/lab-test/free-doctor-consultation-on-lybrate/health-feed' target='_blank'>Lybrate</a> platform. I&#39;m Dr. Hitesh Shah once again. See you again with some more educational videos.

Thank you!

Low Sexual Desire In Women

Hi friends! I am Dr Hitesh Shah from Mumbai, Sex Educationist, Counselor therapist homeopath Wellness Consultant and corporate stress management expert. So today's topic is non consummation of marriage or unconsummated marriages. Surprisingly many couples face this difficulty they had married yet they had virgin, means they cannot do penovaginal penetrative intercourse, surprise right. Well so we see lot of couples in fact in my field I am know as a super specialist to treat such couples who cannot consummate their marriages. To put in right perspective let me tell you there are so many categories under which different couple can fall into further reasons for unconsummated marriages- male factors, female factors, position posture and movement factors to name of few and the most prominent once. The common malefactors which can lead to non consummation are males inability to achieve or sustain a good erection number-1, number-2 to severe premature ejaculation where during foreplay itself the men tend to climates, number-3 severe phimosis and having painful attempt at intercourse these are the common malefactors, of course, some males are having very low sexual desires as well for some other reasons. So these are all common malefactors, of course male also pass lot of performance anxiety pressure or they tend to lose erection when they wear condom or take the position, so these are common malefactors. Coming to common female factors lot of females may not have sexual desires, there are female who have problem with lubrication, the lubrication disorder, then there are women who have severe phobia the penetration phobia with or without vaginismus, vaginismus is a painful or non painful contractions, involuntary contraction or spasm of vaginal walls when the husband is trying to do intercourse. So that it closes and husband cannot penetrate inside. Also there are issues like small opening, vaginal opening small interior or narrow or stiff or tough hymn or stiff vagina so these are the common female factors and there are various position factors lot of couples face difficulty in adopting the right posters in different position they try or even after adopting the right posture they don't know how to do the thrusting movement how to enter first and then do the thrusting moment. So we evaluate all these three categories in thorough detail this is a couples issues, often couple comes, is its husband problem or a wife problem but we assure them as a individual you both are normal, but the problem is coming in having a sexual union as a couple. So let's evaluate as a couple and come out of the blame game. Often non consummation of marriage leads to misunderstanding blame game, you know calling each other impotent or frigid and then things escalate into family and social tension even up to divorce. But if they come at the right time to the doctor things can be sorted out, often couple tend to live a very compromise life without sex. They go for even conceiving with IUI or IVF but without having intercourse they have children also but never had intercourse. So couple did not live such a compromise marriages and sex life, they can come and find out the solution. Unless one of them has a same sex orientation or is not interested in marriage due to another love affair or anything, or is having psychiatric illness, or some chronic illness, all these cases can be solved 100% that is kind of assured to every couple. And once we evaluate all the three categories and thus we pinpoint the specific factor in each given case, then we plan out the whole management. It is matter of time it can take one week, or one month, but couple soon start there complete sex life with penetrative intercourse in a very pleasurable way without any anxiety, tension, , depression, stress and they start living there fulfilling marriage life. So there is a complete solution for unconsummated marriage, don't feel shy, don't feel afraid things can be sorted out hundred percent absolutely with medical way, without surgery and proper guidance. So you are welcome for any problem for any point of time. I am Dr Hitesh Shah in Mumbai you can contact me through Lybrate and get rid of your problem.

Hi friends!

I am Dr Hitesh Shah from Mumbai, Sex Educationist, Counselor therapist <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/homeopath' target='_blank'>homeopath</a> Wellness Consultant and corporate <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/stress-disorder' target='_blank'>stress</a> management expert.

So today&#39;s topic is non consummation of marriage or unconsummated marriages. Surprisingly many couples face this difficulty they had married yet they had virgin, means they cannot do penovaginal penetrative intercourse, surprise right. Well so we see lot of couples in fact in my field I am know as a <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/lab-test/swasth-super-4/health-feed' target='_blank'>super</a> specialist to treat such couples who cannot consummate their marriages. To put in right perspective let me tell you there are so many categories under which different couple can fall into further reasons for unconsummated marriages- male factors, female factors, position posture and movement factors to name of few and the most prominent once. The common malefactors which can lead to non consummation are males inability to achieve or sustain a good erection number-1, number-2 to severe <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/premature-ejaculation' target='_blank'>premature ejaculation</a> where during foreplay itself the men tend to climates, number-3 severe phimosis and having painful attempt at intercourse these are the common malefactors, of course, some males are having very low sexual desires as well for some other reasons. So these are all common malefactors, of course male also pass lot of performance <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/anxiety' target='_blank'>anxiety</a> pressure or they tend to lose erection when they wear condom or take the position, so these are common malefactors. Coming to common female factors lot of females may not have sexual desires, there are female who have problem with lubrication, the lubrication disorder, then there are women who have severe phobia the penetration phobia with or without vaginismus, vaginismus is a painful or non painful contractions, involuntary contraction or spasm of vaginal walls when the husband is trying to do intercourse. So that it closes and husband cannot penetrate inside. Also there are issues like small opening, vaginal opening small interior or narrow or stiff or tough hymn or stiff vagina so these are the common female factors and there are various position factors lot of couples face difficulty in adopting the right posters in different position they try or even after adopting the right posture they don&#39;t know how to do the thrusting movement how to enter first and then do the thrusting moment. So we evaluate all these three categories in thorough detail this is a couples issues, often couple comes, is its husband problem or a wife problem but we assure them as a individual you both are normal, but the problem is coming in having a sexual union as a couple. So let&#39;s evaluate as a couple and come out of the blame game. Often non consummation of marriage leads to misunderstanding blame game, you know calling each other impotent or frigid and then things escalate into family and social tension even up to divorce. But if they come at the right time to the doctor things can be sorted out, often couple tend to live a very compromise life without sex. They go for even conceiving with IUI or IVF but without having intercourse they have children also but never had intercourse. So couple did not live such a compromise marriages and sex life, they can come and find out the solution. Unless one of them has a same sex orientation or is not interested in marriage due to another love affair or anything, or is having psychiatric illness, or some <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/chronic-illness' target='_blank'>chronic illness</a>, all these cases can be solved 100% that is kind of assured to every couple. And once we evaluate all the three categories and thus we pinpoint the specific factor in each given case, then we plan out the whole management. It is matter of time it can take one week, or one month, but couple soon start there complete sex life with penetrative intercourse in a very pleasurable way without any anxiety, tension, , <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/depression' target='_blank'>depression</a>, stress and they start living there fulfilling marriage life. So there is a complete solution for unconsummated marriage, don&#39;t feel shy, don&#39;t feel afraid things can be sorted out hundred percent absolutely with medical way, without <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/topic/surgery' target='_blank'>surgery</a> and proper guidance.


So you are welcome for any problem for any point of time. I am Dr Hitesh Shah in Mumbai you can contact me through <a href='https://www.lybrate.com/lab-test/free-doctor-consultation-on-lybrate/health-feed' target='_blank'>Lybrate</a> and get rid of your problem.

Unconsummated Marriage

Dr. Hitesh Shah, M.A. (Scholar), BHMS, is a sexologist in Mumbai. He has 29 years of rich experience in the field of practice. During this tenure, he has treated numerous patients and helped them recover.

Sexology is the scientific study of human sexuality. It includes human sexual interests, behaviors as well as functions. The specialist who deals with all these problems linked with sexology is known as a sexologist.

Dr. Hitesh Shah is one of the best Sexologists in Kandivali - West, Mumbai. He sees his patients at his clinic in Purnam Health Centre. It is located at 301, Sanjar Enclave, Opposite Milap PVR Cinema, S. V. Road Kandivali - West, Mumbai. He consults with his patients Mon-Sat from 11:00 AM to 08:00 PM. Apart from being a Sexologist, Dr. Shah also specializes as a Homeopath and a Counselling Psychologist.

Despite having 29 years of experience in this field, he charges a fee within Rs 1500 in his clinic. On the other hand, for online consultation, he charges a fee of Rs 300 per patient. You can easily book an appointment with the doctors online through lybrate.com.

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