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Ms. Bala is a renowned Psychologist in Anna Nagar, Chennai. She is currently practising at Asha Dinesh Sugam Psychological Counselling & Research Centre in Anna Nagar, Chennai. Don’t wait in a queue, book an instant appointment online with Ms. Bala on has a number of highly qualified Psychologists in India. You will find Psychologists with more than 25 years of experience on You can find Psychologists online in Chennai and from across India. View the profile of medical specialists and their reviews from other patients to make an informed decision.


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I have a friend who just quit smoking and is wondering kind of diet he should follow while he exercises and also how to not relapse.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lybrate user. I can understand. You can choose any diet pattern which is nutritious. Include lots of vegetables and fruits in your diet. Do exercises and drink lots of liquids. Within 6 months, your lungs will be restored. Take care.
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Sexual Abuse In Kids - How It Affects Them?

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry, MBA (Healthcare)
Psychiatrist, Davanagere
Sexual Abuse In Kids - How It Affects Them?

Child sexual abuse is a pressing issue in society today. Statistically, there has been a considerable increase in the number of cases related to juvenile sex abuse over the past decade. Most of the cases report the abuser to be a close family member or a family friend rather than a complete stranger.

Future Consequences-

  1. A sexually abused child may develop severe mental health conditions and have major difficulties coping with as an adult. One of the most common disorders affecting survivors of child sexual abuse is Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). This involves the individual reliving the trauma all his/her life, thus leading to panic, stress and difficulties in living a healthy life in the longer run.

  2. The individuals who were abused as a child normally suffer from a very low self -esteem. They continue to blame themselves for the events that occurred and hence have a rather demeaning view of themselves, leading to adjustment issues in the future.

  3. They may also be diagnosed with clinical depression owing to the previous trauma. This hampers the everyday functioning of the individual. The individual may continue to relive the past traumatic events in the mind that further fuels their depression and contribute to the vicious cycle, eventually.

  4. Most often, survivors of child sexual abuse have a rather impulsive nature owing to the hampered functioning of impulse-control. They have lesser control over their emotions, especially anger and are rather quick to act on it.

  5. Because of all the complications, they might be less socially competent and thus fail to build firm peer relationships. They grow up to be adults with severe trust issues; they are hence, often side-lined because of their cynicism which leads to further depressive symptoms.

  6. Genophobia or the fear of sex is another complication that they may experience as adults. They may avoid sex altogether or engage in sexual activities that are rather violent in nature. Some survivors may develop certain sexual fetishes that can be rather dangerous; the most common being ‘paedophilia’ or the sexual arousal involving prepubescent children.


The seriousness of the condition is often undermined. In treatment, various therapeutic techniques are used according to the need and age of the patient. Therapists work to promote positive thinking among the sufferers so that it becomes easy for them to accept their past and move on in life with a better outlook. With proper guidance and help, the individuals are able to overcome their mental health issues and live a wholesome life. Consult an Expert & get answers to your questions!

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I cannot control my anger when others react in selfish manner this leads to continuous fights with in-laws and husband result is we are heading towards divorce.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Anger management: 10 tips to tame your temper ANGER: There is a saying "Frustration begets anger and anger begets aggression. Direct anger, is expressed toward the object perceived as the cause of the frustration. If a machine does not work, you might hit it or kick it. If someone gets in your way, you could verbally threaten them or push them aside. If the source of the frustration is too powerful or threatening for direct aggression, displaced aggression is often used. The aggression is redirected toward a less threatening and more available object. An angry person often acts without thinking. The person has given in to the frustration and they have given up restraint. Anger can be a healthy response if it motivates us to positive action but all too often the actions we engage in when angry are destructive. Indeed, if we could see a videotape of ourselves getting angry, the humiliation might well help cure us of anger. When you feel frustration building, you have to practice learned responses that lead to healthy actions instead of destructive ones. GIVING UP: Giving up on a goal can be productive if the goal is truly out of reach. However, more often giving up (quitting or being apathetic) is another form of giving in to frustration. When repeatedly frustrated, people can drop out of school, quit jobs, or move away. Apathy is giving up all of your goals, so you cannot be frustrated by trying to reach them. We live in difficult time and we have to be persistent in order to accomplish. Consider how many projects you began, and then gave up, because you became frustrated and lost patience. Make a list of things you started and quit because they seemed too difficult. Now calculate the disappointment and loss you suffered by not dealing with the frustration in a more healthy way. Try to remember that quitters never win, and winners never quit. Losing your temper means you're a quitter. LOSS OF CONFIDENCE: is a terrible frequent side effect of giving up and not fulfilling your goal. A loss of self-confidence and self-esteem, means that If we quit once, then the next time we plan a goal, we may not be able to accurately assess our ability to carry it out and we stop trusting ourselves and our own abilities. This became a self-fulfilling and self-destructive attitude. You need to be able to learn that when the going gets tough, you say to yourself "It is worth it! and by following through, it not only gets the job done, but it builds self-confidence. STRESS: is the "wear and tear" our body and mind experiences as we adjust to the frustrations our continually changing environment. Too frequently, extreme, or prolonged frustration and stress strains us and generates distress signals. Our body experiences distress signals in a variety of ways, often in the form of: irritability, anger, fatigue anxiety, headache, depression, stomach aches, hypertension, migraines, ulcers, heart attacks, or colitis. DEPRESSION: Depression can affect almost every aspect of your life. It affects people of all ages, income, race, and cultures. Depression can affect the way you eat and sleep the way you feel about yourself, the way one think about things, and the way you interact with others. While we all feel depression at various appropriate times in our lives, excess or inappropriate depression cannot be easily dismissed or wished away. OTHER REACTIONS: abuse of drugs & alcohol is self-destructive and usually futile attempt at dealing with frustration, as are many eating and weight problems and addictions Whenever the immediate effects of the addictive behaviour wear off, users find themselves back in the same, or even worse, frustrating situation. Anger is among the gamut of emotions we exhibit as a reaction to a situation, and it is a 'normal' emotion too as long as it is kept under control. Some people have the propensity to explode when pushed to the extreme. They keep swallowing their emotions until they can finally do it no more, and erupt like a volcano. Others dealing with extreme anger are like a ticking time bomb. You'll never know what you unwittingly say or do can trigger an explosion. In either case, anger that cannot be controlled comes with a physical reaction. Your heart beats faster preparing you for both action and reaction. Your breathing quickens. You may clench your fist, tighten your shoulders and go into a defensive position. The problem arises out of the fact that it is almost impossible to feel anger and empathy at the same time. An angry person is seldom sensitive to the wellbeing of his victim, and hence may lash out verbally and sometimes physically. Such things done in the heat of the moment mostly leaves us with regrets. So here are a few ways to deal with extreme anger. 1.Approve it / Acknowledge it: The first step in solving a problem is recognizing that you have one. The fundamental problem here is that people believe they are on the right track and refuse to budge from their views. It is essential to realize that this step is not about deciding whether you are right or wrong, but acknowledging the fact that your reaction to the situation can be channelled in a better way. When getting someone to acknowledge their anger problem, be careful as to not use negative words like wrong, false and shouldn't. Instead, influence with positive words like can and should. Instead of saying 'You are wrong to react like this' you can say, 'I understand what you are feeling. Is there a way we can resolve this situation? 2.Understand / recognize the signs: Once you know that your problems exist, you can try devising ways that will work for you in dealing with the situation. You can count to 100 to calm yourself or simply decide to not speak until you can calm yourself. Knowing that you may enter into an argument in a situation, you can list down the points that you feel strongly about and discuss each of them one by one. Working your way through a finite list gives a better opportunity to reach closure at the end. 3.Free the mind/Find ways to let it go: Not all arguments end in closure. A lot of unsaid justifications cloud our mind repeatedly leaving us seething from the inside. Research has shown that the normal or neurological anger response lasts less than two seconds. Beyond that it takes a strong will to stay angry. Once you realize how much your anger is consuming your mind, decide to free your mind with meditation and other calming exercises. Tell yourself that some people and issues simply don't deserve your anger, emotion, reaction or time. If you or someone you know is suffering from anger management issues, consult a doctor today. Anger is good. It protects you. But intense, uncontrolled anger may destroy valuable relationships. Anger is a result of anxiety and fear. When we assume that our expectations will not be met, we become anxious. When we feel unsure about our own capabilities we become anxious. This anxiety creates fear. Anxiety comes from our beliefs. All beliefs can be modified. Anger has lots of energy. Avoid arguments/confrontations when you are very angry. When you are very angry you are likely to use rough language which may damage your relations and you are likely to behave impulsively. All this you might regret later on. Following are a few techniques which will help you to manage your anger in difficult situations: 1.Sit down and have a glass of water, slowly. This will help you to calm down a little. 2.Avoid or go away from that room or situation. Tell the people concerned, that you are angry and would like to discuss it some other time. 3.Deep breathing exercises help a lot. Close your eyes, take 10 deep breaths, turn your attention towards your body. See what is happening to your body. Tell your body muscles to relax. If your heart is beating fast, if you are breathing fast, continue deep breathing, till it normalises. 4.Now understand what is making you angry. Understand your own anxiety and fear related to the issue. 5.Let the other person know how you are “feeling”. Start your statements, “I feel hurt/insulted/let down/neglected etc. When you do this”, instead of saying “You hurt/neglect me”. When you express your feeling in this manner, the other person does not feel blamed, which makes the other person more receptive. 6.Focus on the current issue, don’t bring in past situations. 7.Tell the other person, what you want or expect, instead of telling what you do not want. E.G. Instead of saying “I don’t want you to go out now”, say “I would like you to stay at home today”. 8.Listen carefully what the other person wants to tell you. Give others a chance to voice their opinions. 9.Make an eye contact and be firm but polite while communicating your point of view. 10.Understand everyone’s responsibility in the situation. Try to see, what is your share in the problematic situation? Work on that. 11.Understand what change you want. 12.Have realistic expectations from others and also from yourself. If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult me by clicking consult option.
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I don't know anything about my self what is happening to me y I'm lyk this . I am 24 but I Do not even know my bood group.

Psychologist, Pune
I don't know anything about my self what is happening to me y I'm lyk this . I am 24 but I Do not even know my bood g...
Hello lybrate user, first of all you need to accept yourself as you are. Once you accept yourself then you will realize how many good qualities you have within your personality. If you always think the negative side about yourself then you will never find out about your positiveness. Our thoughts guide us to select our lifestyle. So if you want to enjoy your life always try to find the positive side in every negative situation. All the best for your beautiful journey of life.
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Manic Depressive Disorder: 11 Signs You Should Know!

MD - Psychiatry, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Bhopal
Manic Depressive Disorder: 11 Signs You Should Know!

Manic depression, also known as bipolar disorder in recent days, is a major mood disorder characterized by hypomanic or manic episodes (deviation from one's usual mood along with abnormally high energy levels). Mania involves sleeplessness, along with psychosis, hallucinations, rage, grandiose delusions or paranoia. Mania or hypomania isn’t usually harmful to the patient and they might exhibit increased capacity for work and creativity. Depressive episodes however, can be debilitating and often life threatening as the person becomes self-destructive and suicidal in many instances. 

The extent of mood swings can vary from extreme to very mild. They can occur progressively or suddenly and might last for few days to weeks. Patients affected by bipolar disorder may experience disturbances in thinking apart from depressive or manic episodes. Distortions of perception and impaired social functioning are also not uncommon. The cause of bipolar disorder is not fully understood like most mental health conditions and is often thought to be hereditary.

The extent of the seriousness of the bipolar symptoms varies from person to person. In some people, the disorder is not full blown and they don’t exhibit all the symptoms. Others who aren’t that lucky might have to be hospitalized multiple times in their lives as the symptoms creep into their work and personal life and make living a normal life a tough challenge. 

Psychotic symptoms such as disorganized thinking, hallucinations and delusions might make a person do things that demand the urgency of hospitalization to keep them safe from their suicidal impulses. These symptoms might need to be urgently addressed by a psychiatrist and with the help of medications, the person might be able to regain control of their lives.

The symptoms of bipolar disorder are many and can be mainly categorized into two (sometimes overlapping) categories of mania or hypomania and depression:

Manic symptoms include: 

  1. Grandiose delusions (delusion of grandeur) 
  2. Racing thoughts which are often disconnected
  3. Sense of euphoria or false elation
  4. Irritability without cause
  5. Hampered social functioning
  6. Increased sexual inclination and risky sexual behavior
  7. Hyperactivity
  8. Increase in talking volume or speed
  9. Impaired judgment
  10. Reduced sleep requirements owing to extra energy levels
  11. Increased productivity and creativity

Depressive symptoms include:

  1. Abnormal eating patterns like over or under-eating to the extent of severe medical complications accompanied by drastic changes in weight
  2. Difficulty in concentration, making decisions and remembering
  3. Lack of energy or fatigue 
  4. Contemplating about death for prolonged periods of time and suicidal behavior
  5. Oversleeping, insomnia or early awakening
  6. Persistent pessimism 
  7. Irritability and restlessness
  8. Feeling of hopeless and negative attitude

Mood stabilizers, such as lithium are commonly employed to treat bipolar disorder. Anticonvulsants, benzodiazepines and anti psychotics can also be used in the treatment. Along with medications, support from family and friends is of the utmost importance as they need to help provide all the support required in making the person functional and healthy.

In case you have a concern or query you can always consult an expert & get answers to your questions!

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Hi, I am Samiksha, age 28 and mother of two daughters. After my first child was born, I left my job and became a full time mother. Before that I worked as Legal Manager in Thompson Routers. I feel easily frustrated, depressed, my BP and sugar level goes down, unable to control my anger and thousand other bad things happening with me which in contrary ruining my Marriage. Since past 7 year, I have been suffering from thyroid mal function. Many times due to depression, I had suicidal thoughts but then I feel bad for my small kids. My husband is also a independent Lawyer. I stay at home alone for whole week with my kids and no one talking and sharing my feelings. I keep thinking all crazy and junk. My husband feel I m reason for every bad things happening. I lost my job, career, hopes, patience and peace of mind. I want to make my self happy so that I can make my love ones happy. PLease help.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Wow, that is a whole lot of complications for one person, in one lifetime and with no resolution at the end. I am glad that you gave up on the suicide idea, but not for the reasons you mention. You need to first live for yourself and then the others i.E. You daughters and husband will benefit. Your husband?s assessment is not at all justified. There is no such thing. However, you must look at your life and see, is God a significant part of it? I don?t hear that at all. You must turn to God in all these times of good and bad. ?When God is for you, who can be against you, very true and sensible. Please do cultivate your spiritual wellbeing and you will see some wonderful affects in your life. Then you need to take life into your own hands and make things happen too. Perhaps you are not made to be a mom-at-home kind of person. If the kids are old enough, get them some nanny-care and get out into the vast world full of opportunities. You will make good in the field out there with your background. Do also take charge of your wellness: exercise, eat and sleep well, spend time in the sun every day, meet people, do something productive with your time, work at improving your married life, and bring back your hope, love, peace of mind and activate your career. Things do not happen to us, we do things to attract them to us. If you are positive, you will find positive things happen to you. As you think, so are you. Change your thoughts and you will change who you are. It is as simple as that. Your husband will not find labels and accusations to throw at you. If you let things be as they are, it will become overwhelming and everything can be lost. You end your plea rather beautifully and correctly: I want to make myself happy so that I can make my loved ones happy. Now go out there and do it. Keep me posted with all good developments.
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I think I have some memory problem. I cannot remember something for a long time. Give me some advice to remember my study notes. Thank you.

DHMS (Diploma in Homeopathic Medicine and Surgery)
Homeopath, Ludhiana
You are distracting from your aim. It shows weakness of your mind and nothing else. Just control your mind and think about your future. Studies is the easiest way to attain success and sometimes even glory. You will realise my words after few years. Just concentrate your mind on your studies and be focused because you will be known by your own name only after you attain heights and studies is a short cut to attain new heights. So always keep this in mind and target your goals, you will never forget. I will help you in this direction by prescribing you homoeopathic medicines------------------------------ bacoppa monneri (wilmar schwabe india) chew 2 tab twice daily------- bren-up (allen) drink 2 spoon 3 times daily-------- bramhari pranayam daily for 15 minutes ------------ report after 30 days--------------------
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I am having depression from past 3 years , I am taking medicines regularly. I have become very lazy and I do not feel like getting up in the morning at all. I am unable to get sleep in the night. From past 2 weeks I have started going to work. Please let me know how to rid of my laziness? Please help me.

Masters in Clinical Psychology & Certified Cognitive Behaviour Therapy Practioner, Certified Neuro linguistic programming Practioner, Masters in Clinical Psychology, Post Graduate Diploma in Child and ADolescent Counselling
Psychologist, Pune
I am having depression from past 3 years , I am taking medicines regularly.
I have become very lazy and I do not feel...
Hi lybrate-user, generally we desire to be idle, to do nothing and resist effort. It is a state of passivity and of letting things stay as they are. Simple tips for overcoming laziness: 1) break down a task into smaller tasks we often avoid tasks because we find them too big, too overwhelming, too tiring, or taking too much of our time. Breaking a task into several smaller tasks can solve this problem. Then, each one will not seem so difficult or intimidating. Instead of having one big task, we will have a series of small tasks, which do not require too much effort. This approach can be applied not only to tasks, but also to goals and everything else we have or need to do. This will tend to melt much of the laziness and inner resistance we often experience. 2) rest, sleep and exercise in some cases, laziness is due to being tired and lacking energy. If this is true in your case, you need to give yourself the rest and sleep you need, and also give your body enough exercise and fresh air. 3) motivation in some cases, the reason for laziness is due to lack of motivation. You can strengthen your motivation through affirmations, visualization and thinking about the importance of performing your task or chore or achieving your goal. 4) have a vision of what and who you want to be frequently reflecting on the person we want to be, the goals we want to achieve, and the life we want to live, can motivate us to act. 5) think about benefits think about the benefits you will gain if you overcome your laziness and take action, instead of thinking about the difficulties or obstacles. Focusing on the difficulties of carrying out the task, leads to discouragement, avoidance of taking action and to laziness. It is important that you focus your mind and attention on the benefits, not on the difficulties. 6) thinking about the consequences think about what will happen, if you succumb to laziness, and don't perform your task or chore. Thinking about the consequences of not acting, can also push you to take action. 7) doing one thing at a time focus on doing one thing at a time. If you feel you have a lot to do, you will probably feel overwhelmed and let laziness overcome you, instead of you overcoming laziness. 8) visualization your imagination has a great influence on your mind, habits and action. Visualize yourself performing the task easily, energetically and enthusiastically. Do so before starting with a task or goal, and also when you feel lazy, or when your mind whispers to you to abandon what you are doing. 9) repeat affirmations tell yourself" I can accomplish my goal" I have the energy and motivation to act and do whatever I want or have to do" doing things makes me stronger" doing things makes things happen. 10) regards a task as an exercise consider each task as an exercise to make you stronger, more decisive and more assertive. 11) procrastination avoid procrastination, which is a form of laziness. If there is something you have to do, why not do it right now and get through with it? why let it stay nagging at the back of your head? 12) learn from successful people watch successful people, and how they do not let laziness win. Learn from them, talk with them and associate with them. Overcoming the habit of laziness is achieved through a series of daily actions and activities, when you choose to act, instead of remaining passive. Every time you overcome your laziness you get stronger. Every time you choose to act, you increase your ability to win, achieve goals and improve your life. If you have any further query do get back.
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I am 23 years old my prblm. Is when I study my concentration is soo lose I am not study well please hep mi and suggest mi help mi plz.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
10 Study Tips to Improve Your Learning Study Tip 1: Underlining Underlining is one of the simplest and best known study tips. It’s easy to highlight the most significant parts of what you’re reading. One key sentence per paragraph and a few important phrases here and there. You can only retain a certain amount so it’s best to retain the most important information. Study Tip 2: Make your own note and taking notes is one of the most widespread study skills out there. Essentially the aim of note-taking is to summarise lectures or articles in your own words so you can easily remember the ideas. Study Tip 3: Mind mapping A good Mind map can save you many hours of study and further consolidate your knowledge for your exams. Mind Maps are an extremely versatile tools. They can be used for brainstorming, outlining essays or study topics and for general exam preparation, ExamTime offers the ability to create Mind Maps quickly and easily which makes them the ideal tool when it comes to exams. Study Tip 4: Flash cards:- Using these are a particularly effective method of learning when trying to assimilate different facts, dates, formulas or vocabulary. Subjects such as History, Physics, Maths, Chemistry, Geography or any language are made much easier if you incorporate Flashcards in to your study. Study Tip 5: Case Studies Sometimes it can be difficult to grasp the implications of some theories. This is where studying case studies can be a big help. Case studies can help you visualise a theory and place it in a more familiar and realistic context. This is especially useful in business or law subjects. Study Tip 6: Quizzes are an excellent way to review study notes in the weeks and days before an exam. Quizzes can show where your strengths and weaknesses are, so it allows you to focus your efforts more precisely. Moreover, if you share your Study Quiz with your classmates and test each other as much as possible you can discover even more details and areas you may have overlooked. So before any exam, make sure you create and share a bunch of different Quizzes with your Friends. Study Tip 7: Brainstorming This is another study technique that is ideal for studying with friends and/or classmates. Brainstorming is a great way to expand every possible idea out of any topic. Just get a bunch of friends together and shoot the breeze, there are no wrong answers when brainstorming – just talk and capture the ideas, you can review afterward. Study Tip 8: Mnemonic Rules Mnemonics are especially useful when memorising lists and sets. Mnemonics rules basically work by associating certain concepts with other concepts that are more familiar to us. There are many different ways to make mnemonics and these can be individual to the person. Study Tip 9: ORGANISE your study One of the most effective study skills is also one of the most often overlooked; this is organising your study. Creating a TIME TABLE gives you goals and a time in which to achieve them. Having a study timetable as you study is greatly motivational Study Tip 10: Drawing Many people find it easier to recall images rather than text that is why they are better able to memorise concepts if they associate them with pictures or drawings. If you find answer helpful please click on “helpful” tab for knowing my efforts are useful
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I was very good at studies in school and college till 3rd year. Then I fell in a one sided love situation with a friend of mine and it was very depressing for me. I lost my spark I used to have in studies. As a result I didn't get any job still after 3 years of completing college as I am not able to study with heart and soul as I used to do before I developed feelings for a friend of mine which was quite a tragedy in my life. What should I do to regain my spark back to study as I used to do before and put my life back on track. Please help.

M.A in Clinical psychology, B.A - Psychology
Psychologist, Faridabad
Hi, lybrate-user Love can be compared to a strong, habit-forming drug The Two Sides of Unrequited Love. As such, it holds the "possibilities of agony and misery" when feelings are not returned, the authors explain. Just as there are methods for coping with withdrawal from a controlled substance, there are ways to deal with the heartache of unreciprocated romantic feeling. Avoid False Assumptions Much of the pain associated with romantic rejection doesn't have to do with the lack of reciprocation, but with the false assumptions that people attach to the experience of rejection, "Psychology Today. Cognitive distortions such as overgeneralizing and personalization can contribute to negative feelings that can be difficult to manage. Keep in mind that when your feelings are not returned, it is not your fault. In fact, the person you are focusing on may not even know or appreciate the real you, Nicholson says. Keeping this in mind, move on, remembering that it takes time to find the right person and that you may need time alone to find healing before moving on in a new relationship with another person. Acceptance Focus on what you can control, advises social psychologist says Changing Your Stripes. When it comes to attraction, other than being your best self, there is nothing you can do to truly influence another person's actions or feelings. Accept that for whatever reason -- almost certainly something that has nothing to do with the size of your thighs or an unfortunate haircut -- the person you desire simply doesn't share your feelings. Shift gears and think about how to work on improving yourself so that when you do meet the right person, you'll be in a place where you can fully appreciate the relationship and have healthy interactions. Respect When you have strong feelings for another person, it can be almost impossible to accept that they don't share at least a little of the same desire. However improbable it may seem, you must take her at his word. Respect the boundaries that She has set. If She's told you that She's not interested, don't call or stop by. When you see her, give her his space and resist the urge to give her an enthusiastic hug or snuggle up close to her. Distraction While attending your younger cousin's school play doesn't begin to compare with the joy you would feel while going out with the girl you are enamored with, it is what you must do to get your mind off of her. Rather than regale your best friend with yet another tale of how you're convinced she might yet be the one, accept all invitations that come your way. It's better to be distracted watching a figure-skating competition with a friend than to sit home contemplating what might have been and what will never be. I suggest you need more proper evaluation in relationships. Consult a psychologist. Our Everyday Life. How to Deal With One Sided Feelings" Accept, move through and move on"
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I am 40 years old, 65 weight and height 5.8" I have been having short bouts of thrills at the center of my chest. They come and go. Sometimes 3-4 times day and sometimes 0 times a day. I do smoke an occasional cigarette (4 times a week). Is this just anxiety or an underlying heart issue?

DHMS (Hons.)
Homeopath, Patna
I am 40 years old, 65 weight and height 5.8"
I have been having short bouts of thrills at the center of my chest. The...
Hello, You are suffering from gastric disorder owing to irregular life style, insomnia, intake of alcohol, nicotine, junk food. Tk, plenty of water to hydrate your body. Go for meditation to reduce your stress. Your diet be regular, easily digestible on time. Tk Homoeopathic medicine:@ China 200-6 pills, thrice. Avoid, junk food, Alcohol, caffeine, nicotine. Tk care.
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Hello doctors please help I am addicted to smoking for the last 4 years (due to cigrate my weight is putting on despite of moderate exercise no other problem is found as consulted by doctors, I want to quit it. So should I start nicorette gums.(plz tell me the effect of nicorette on my body)

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Faridabad
Dear lybrate-user, you can start nicotex gums but these gums have to be taken with a pattern. These have their own side Effects. Apart from these thr are other medicine for craving. For that pls consult psychiatrist or call us.
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Suicidal Thoughts - Ways To Overcome It!

MD - Psychiatry, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Chennai
Suicidal Thoughts - Ways To Overcome It!

Although there is no single reason why someone may have suicidal tendencies, certain things can increase the risk. An individual is more likely to have suicidal thoughts if he has a mental health condition like depressionbipolar disorder or schizophrenia. The vulnerability also increases in cases of alcoholism, drug abuse or poor job security. It may not be possible to prevent suicidal thoughts, but keeping one's mind healthy with regular exercise, healthy eating and maintaining friendships can help one deal better with stress.

It can be very upsetting, when someone says things which sound as if the person is considering suicide. One may not be sure what to do to help,  as to whether one should take talk of suicide seriously or if intervention might make the situation worse. Taking action is always the best choice. One of the best things one can do if someone is feeling suicidal is to encourage them to talk about their feelings and to listen to what they say. One can provide the best help by listening and not being judgemental. If the person has been diagnosed with a mental health condition like depression, one can take advice from his care team. 

One should avoid offering solutions. While listening, do not give in to the temptation of providing a solution. One should ask open ended questions so that the person remains in control and expresses his feelings. On the contrary, it will offer an opportunity to talk about feelings, which may reduce the risk of acting on suicidal feelings. Ensure that the person is not left on his own, if there is immediate danger. One cannot always tell when a loved one or friend is considering suicide, so one must be on the lookout for warning signs. The warning signs could be talking about suicide, buying or stocking pills, withdrawing from social life, increase in alcohol or drugs, personality changes like severely agitated and saying goodbye to people as if seeing them for the last time. It is also important that one does not make judgements about how a person is thinking or behaving. 

After listening to their feelings, one may feel that certain aspects of their thinking and behaviour are making their problems worse. But pointing this out will not be particularly helpful to them. Reassurance, respect and support will only help someone during these difficult periods. As a final note, one must realise that talking to someone about their feelings is not long lasting and can help them feel safe and secure temporarily. A professional help can provide the long-term support to help someone overcome their suicidal tendencies. That will the person to deal with the primary issues behind someone's suicidal thoughts, besides offering advice and support. If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult a psychiatrist.

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My mother have problem of High pressure, sometimes she becomes angry and it also effect on her sleep, what should I do?

General Physician, Delhi
My mother have problem of High pressure, sometimes she becomes angry and it also effect on her sleep, what should I do?
her problem appears to b stress induced high bp what r her b p readings what treatment is she taking?
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I feel stress in my body 24 hours in a day. Actually I work on a shop n stand there 12 hours without any rest. So I feel very tired n do not know what to do? I m depressed. Plzz suggest something.

DHMS (Diploma in Homeopathic Medicine and Surgery)
Homeopath, Ludhiana
I feel stress in my body 24 hours in a day. Actually I work on a shop n stand there 12 hours without any rest. So I f...
Homoeopathic medicine--------------------------- rhus tox 30 (dr reckeweg) drink 5 drops direct on tongue 3 times daily.-------------- vitamin-d plus (bakson) chew 1 tab daily---------------- drink 2 glass milk daily--------------- take a minimum of 8 hour sleep daily------------ bramari pranayam daily------------ bramari pranayam or bee breath 1. Close your eyes. Focus on your breathing. 2. Place your thumbs in your ears, your index fingers above your eyebrows, and your remaining along the sides of your nose. Keep each pinky finger near a nostril. 3. Breath in deeply through the nose. First, feel the diaphragm move down, allowing the lungs to expand and forcing the abdomen out; then feel your chest expand with your collar bones rising last. 4. Use your pinkies to partially close each nostril. Keep your lungs filled. 5. Breathe out through the nose while humming. Note that the humming sound should originate in your throat, not as a result of your partially-blocked nostrils. 6. Repeat twenty times. Starting from 5 times---------------- drink plenty of water daily-----------------
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I am a sports person with thin body I have problem while bending my knees. With a popping sound coming out of it.

Physiotherapist, Noida
I am a sports person with thin body I have problem while bending my knees.
With a popping sound coming out of it.
Quadriceps exercises- lie straight, make a towel role and put it under the knee, press the keen against the role, hold it for 20 secs. Repeat 20 times twice a day. This will help relieve some pain.
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Sir what is happening with me I can not understand if I talk with any person I get fear and my conscious say he is judging what he will be thinking about me in my mind it starts point of view of others please suggest me something.

B.A. Psychology, M.A. Psychology, Ph. D - Psychology
Psychologist, Delhi
Sir what is happening with me I can not understand if I talk with any person I get fear and my conscious say he is ju...
Dear Ranjit The fear that people are judging me generally occurs when we have very low self confidence. You will have to practice some relaxation exercises , breathing exercises and have to monitor your self talk. We are all the time talking to ourselves. Most of the self talk is telling us 'how we are incapable' 'what people are thinking about me' etc. Question yourself - how many times you think about what people do ? No one has the time to think about what others are doing . If someone comments on you all the time, such people should anyways be avoided- because well meaning people appreciate also . Indulge in positive thinking and surround yourself with people who are positive and encouraging.
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Whenever I try to make my self fit physically I suddenly get ill because of which I loses my strength please suggest me something so that I can remain fit both physically and mentally as recently I have started doing workout.

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Dietitian/Nutritionist, Kolkata
Whenever I try to make my self fit physically I suddenly get ill because of which I loses my strength please suggest ...
Falling sick often is an indicator of low immunity. To enhance immunity, 1. Drink 3 litres water daily 2. Avoid outside food due to poor hygiene 3. Maintain personal hygiene (wash hands with soap before eating, always carry a hand sanitizer, take regular bath) 4. Have lots of fruits & vegetables (5 servings) as these are rich source of antioxidants that help fight against diseases. 5. Include enough protein- dairy, nuts, oilseeds, soyabean, sprouts, egg, chicken, fish 6. Avoid skipping meals 7. have small frequent meals at regular intervals chewing food well 8. Reduce stress via yoga & meditation 9. Exercise regularly
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Stress Management - Ways to Relieve Stress!

MBBS, MD Psychiatry, DPM Psychological Medicine
Psychiatrist, Kolkata
Stress Management - Ways to Relieve Stress!

Stress management encompasses techniques intended to equip a person with effective coping mechanisms for dealing with psychological stress.

Definition of stress: Stress management defines stress precisely as a person's physiological response to an external stimulus that triggers the "fight-or-flight" reaction.

Causes of stress: Many things can trigger the stress reaction, including danger, threat, news, illness, as well as significant changes in one's life such as the death of a loved one.

Techniques of stress management include:

  • Self-understanding (e.g. self-identification as a Type A or as a Type B personality)
  • Self-management (e.g. becoming better-organized)
  • Conflict resolution
  • Adopting a more positive attitude
  • Self-talk
  • Breathing exercises
  • Meditation
  • Exercise
  • Altering your diet
  • Taking more regular and effective rest

Time Management Techniques

Some techniques of time management may help a person to control stress. For example:

  • Becoming more organized and reducing the generation of clutter 
  • Setting priorities can help reduce anxiety
  • Using a "to-do" list of tasks that a person needs to complete can give a person a sense of control and accomplishment

Effective stress management involves learning to set limits and to say "No" to some demands that others make.

Manage and Reduce your Stress

If you are one of the many people who want to alleviate your stress, you can learn some simple techniques to help you get out of the vicious cycle of leading a stressful life. Your stressful life does not just affect you, but everyone around you. It affects your relationships as well as any children or co-workers. Most of all, it can actually make you physically ill.

There are many facets to stress. Stress manifests itself in many different ways and can be either self-induced or something that occurs in life. We can never eliminate stress from our lives as stressful situations are part of life. However, we can learn to react to stress in a positive manner and take control of the situation rather than allowing the stress to remain in control. This book will teach you different tips as well as old secrets on how to identify the stressors in your life as well as learn to manage them. If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult a Psychiatrist.

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Hello sir mere sar me bahot dard hota or gussa bhi bahot atat h or jab so uthte h to thora chakker ata h or aaj kal bukhar bhi rhta h.

MBBS, MD - Community Medicine
General Physician, Jaipur
Hello sir mere sar me bahot dard hota  or gussa bhi bahot atat h or jab so uthte h to thora chakker ata h or aaj kal ...
Get checked your eye sight and blood pressure. Take Tab. PCM 500 mg for fever as when required then consult again after that.
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