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Dr. Ponnudurai R.

Psychiatrist, Chennai

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Dr. Ponnudurai R. is a popular Psychiatrist in Royapettah, Chennai. You can meet Dr. Ponnudurai R. personally at Siva ENT Hospital in Royapettah, Chennai. Don’t wait in a queue, book an instant appointment online with Dr. Ponnudurai R. on Lybrate.com.

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I know I overeat at meals, but I can't help it. If I limit my portions, I'm hungry an hour later. How can I avoid overeating and have better control of my appetite? My stomach aches, thought it becomes fine in a day, but still it pains regularly, what to do?

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I know I overeat at meals, but I can't help it. If I limit my portions, I'm hungry an hour later. How can I avoid ove...
For stomach pain take tablet Meftalspas-Ds and Avoid spicy food in your diet and eat only curd rice or khichdi for few days and drink only boiled water

I am engaged with my boy friend and getting married soon. I have 10 years of relationship with my boy friend. We both love each other so much. But he is very aggressive . He abuses me . I am addicted to him badly. Whta shayd I do.

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You must learn to be assertive. Learn to say no when it is needed. This does not mean that you are disregarding him. Each person is made of many different aspects, rejecting a small part does not mean rejecting the entire person. So let him know that you love him dearly but you cant stand the abuse and aggression. Give him more attention when he is being nice to you. ignore him when he becomes abusive. It is important not to offend him or confront him as a person but to convey to him that your objection is to a particular act of his. You have every right to do it.

How much time does it require to change the nature of person. My nature is creating problems for me as I think negative and my automatic thoughts are all negative ,I have to make conscious effort to think positive but I failed . Its difficult to change.

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How much time does it require to change the nature of person.
My nature is creating problems for me as I think negati...
Hi I will prescribe some harmless but effective flower remedy available in homoeopathy shops. Try to buy original medicines. Mix 3 drops of mimulus + 3 drops of aspen + 3 drops of white chestnut. Mix these with 100 ml water and drink it every morning and night.(same dose) on empty stomach.

I am having pain in my head when I bow my head down and having pain in body also.

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I am having pain in my head when I bow my head down and having pain in body also.
check your BP, check your eye sight. take crocin pain relief one sos for severe headache.take rest and proper sleep. avoid stress. inform if not ok.

Can I have sex with my gf? We r in a relationship for 1 year happily. We are 18 years of age? Is it healthy for us?Please tell.

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Can I have sex with my gf? We r in a relationship for 1 year happily. We are 18 years of age? Is it healthy for us?Pl...
Not at all. Sex is something that is sacred and must be had ideally in a committed situation. I know I sound old fashioned but if you do have sex just like that it is quite a disrespect to the girl and to sex. If you ever get married later, you will have nothing new to offer in the legally permissible situation! So it is up to you to either listen to me or go your own way but if you regard this person, then you will not even put her under any pressure. Even if both of you want it, it is not advised. That is why you should never put yourselves in a situation where this becomes possible and tempting.

I am 50 years old. My memory power and brain is very weak. Is there any suitable medicine which can increase the efficiency of brain.

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Hello, you can take homoeopathic medicine Kali Phos 6X ( 3 tabs) twice a day for 15 days and revert.

Iam suffering from vaginal discharge thick n smelly light abdominal pain and pain in right side below rib continuing pain in right leg, ichthing burning sensation in urine.

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Iam suffering from vaginal discharge thick n smelly light abdominal pain and pain in right side below rib continuing ...
Hi, Welcome to lyberate. I understood your problem. You most likely have uti along with vaginal infection. You need oral antibiotic treatment. You can also be prescribed local vaginal pessaries, in case you are sexually active. Drink plenty of water, around 10-12 glasses daily to wash out the infection. Before I prescribe any medication please get a urine routine and microscopy and urine culture done. Let me know the results soon so that I can help you. All the best. Hope you get better soon.

I am suffering from work tension and lot of stress, and tension for the last 6 months.

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I am suffering from work tension and lot of stress, and tension for the last 6 months.
The stress that you feel is not dependent on the stressor i.e. the work. It is entirely dependent on your perception of stress. Life is difficult no doubt, as a general rule, but what we do adds to the stress in our response. We add to the stress of life instead of reducing it or learning to deal with it. Many of us follow a policy of avoidance. We cannot do that all of our lives. So the first thing to do is to change your perception. For example, look at it as a challenge that you would like to meet with a positive outlook. See everything as a gift from God to perform as though you are doing it for Him. God never gives us work to do beyond our capacity. Now you may argue that it is the company that is giving all the work. That is true in the overt sense, but if you look at it with spiritual eyes, you know that it is ultimately given by God. Secondly, build a good constitution mentally, emotionally and physically to combat stress. Eat healthily, sleep well, and exercise regularly. Talk about your emotions regularly to a good friend every day. Learn stress management techniques. Do Yoga and meditation. Pray every day to God to give you the strength, and offer your work as a prayer to Him – you will give your best and you will feel so satisfied when you do it well. You must also talk to your superior that the workload is getting beyond your means and that you need more personnel to support you. Finally, learn to delegate much or some of your work to subordinates. If you do not trust, you will find it difficult to delegate.

I forgot everything which I read, so can you give me some suggestion to get out of this? Please help me.

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1. 7 Lifestyle-Based Ways to Improve Your Memory 1. Eat Right. The foods you eat ? and don't eat ? play a crucial role in your memory. ... 2. Exercise. ... 3. Stop Multitasking. ... 4. Get a Good Night's Sleep. ... 5. Play Brain Games. ... 6. Master a New Skill. ... 7. Try Mnemonic Devices. There are mind training and some memory boosting medicines also. Ask me privately. Eight Ways to Remember Anything Research-based strategies to boost your memory and keep it strong 8 Strategies for Remembering 1. Become interested in what you're learning. We're all better remembering what interests us. Few people, for example, have a difficult time remembering the names of people they find attractive. If you're not intrinsically interested in what you're learning or trying to remember, you must find a way to become so. 2. Find a way to leverage your visual(link is external) memory. You'll be astounded by how much more this will enable you to remember. For example, imagine you're at a party and are introduced to five people in quick succession. How can you quickly memorize their names? Pick out a single defining visual characteristic of each person and connect it to a visual representation of their name, preferably through an action of some kind. For example, you can remember Mike who has large ears by creating a mental picture of a microphone (a "mike") clearing those big ears of wax (gross, I know?but all the more effective because of it). It requires mental effort to do this, but if you practice you'll be surprised how quickly you can come up with creative ways to generate these images. Here's another example: How often do you forget where you left your keys, your sunglasses, or your wallet? The next time you put something down somewhere, pause a moment to notice where you've placed it, and then in your mind blow it up. If you visualize the explosion in enough detail, you won't forget where you put it. Remember: Memory is predominantly visual. 3. Create a mental memory tree. If you're trying to memorize a large number of facts, find a way to relate them in your mind visually with a memory tree. Construct big branches first, then leaves. Branches and leaves should carry labels that are personally meaningful to you in some way, and the organization of the facts ("leaves") should be logical. It's been well recognized since the 1950's we remember "bits" of information better if we chunk them. For example, it's easier to remember 467890 as "467" and "890" than as six individual digits. 4. Associate what you're trying to learn with what you already know. It seems the more mental connections we have to a piece of information, the more successful we'll be in remembering it. This is why using mnemonics. Write out the items to be memorized over and over and over. Among other things, this is how I learned the names of bacteria, what infections they cause, and what antibiotics treat them. Writing out facts(link is external) in lists improves recall if you make yourself learn the lists actively instead of passively. In other words, don't just copy the list of facts you're trying to learn but actively recall each item you wish to learn and then write it down again and again and again. In doing this, you are, in effect, teaching yourself what you're trying to learn?and as all teachers know, the best way to ensure you know something is to have to teach it. This method has the added benefit of immediately showing you exactly which facts haven't made it into your long-term memory so you can focus more attention on learning them rather than wasting time reinforcing facts you already know. 5. When reading for retention, summarize each paragraph in the margin. This requires you to think about what you're reading, recycle it, and teach it to yourself again. Even take the concepts you're learning and reason forward with them; apply them to imagined novel situations, which creates more neural connections to reinforce the memory. 6. Do most of your studying in the afternoon. Though you may identify yourself as a "morning person" or "evening person" at least one Study. suggests your ability to memorize isn't influenced as much by what time of day you perceive yourself to be most alert but by the time of day you actually study?afternoon appearing to be the best. 7. Get adequate sleep to consolidate and retain memories. Not just at night(link is external) after you've studied but the day before(link is external) you study as well. Far better to do this than to stay up cramming all night for an exam.

Can my stress level be a reason for my bad memory?How?

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Hello there, simple answer YES. Stress does affects attention, concentration & in turn memory too causing memory problems. Real question is why are you stressed out? Does your family, your work colleagues & friend circle etc. also suffer from similar stress related problems? How is your sleep, appetite? Do you also get symptoms like pounding heart, sweating, trembling body? If you need help; do not hesitate to get back to me with this information. Good Luck

Hi I am 24yrs. I m having problems of anxiety and deppression for last two months. Please help

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Dear, you must be able to distinguish between mental disease and mental disorder. Your problem is a mental disorder. Not a mental disease. These mental disorders are usually treated with a combination of medicines and other means like awareness, meditation, psychotherapy techniques, life style changes etc. I think two or three counseling sessions and psycho therapy techniques should solve your problem. Let me know if you are willing to undergo counseling sessions and tailor made psycho therapy through mobile. Take care.

I am 19 year old male. I have these headaches, these are due to gastric problem or tension. My eyes start paining very easily after using laptop for few minutes and sometime I also have this anxiety problem. Like sometime when I am with my friends or family. It feels like am I really belong here, and then it become hard to breath. And I also have this suicidal mind more than 10 times a day I feel like ending my life. I already lost interest in my classes/studies. I do not like to do anything new. And sometime I become depressed but sometime not very frequently. So I am asking that it is possible that these all problems are made up by my brain. Because when I become angry I harm myself like I punch on the wall, or scratch myself till bleeding or beat myself up with stick. That make my headache low. But sometime I do it these thing without any situation. Sometime my hand shake, I think that is due to my smoking habit but I am not chain smoker. So please tell me is there any problem or just my mind playing with me.

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I am 19 year old male. I have these headaches, these are due to gastric problem or tension. My eyes start paining ver...
You are indulging in self-harm which is providing you temporary relief from headache. Has something traumatic happened in your early life? I will suggest you to visit a psychiatrist as soon as possible. You may need some medications to stabilize before you can begin with psychotherapy. You need to go for counselling to talk about the real issues bothering you deep inside. Do help yourself.

I always thinks of what others think of me and I lose my peace of mind due to this, I can not sleep at night thinking that somebody had a wrong opinion on me. I have unusual fears which do not have any cause. I can not sleep at night because of this.please help me

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I always thinks of what others think of me and I lose my peace of mind due to this, I can not sleep at night thinking...
Everyone wants to be liked and accepted, but many of us spend too much time and energy worrying about what other people think. You might not even realize you're doing it, but these kinds of mental gymnastics are unhealthy and stressful, making us feel unworthy and removing our attention from the present moment. Here are four steps to help you stop worrying about what other people think, designed to help you maintain healthier and happier relationships with yourself and others. 1. Understand why you care. In order to break the cycle, it's important to understand where the energy is coming from. We've been socialized by a culture that sets norms for our belongingness. From birth, we're taught we should act a certain way, dress a certain way, buy certain products, and adhere to certain ideologies to be liked and accepted. Social media brings the popularity contest to a whole new level, where how many friends we have, and how much they" like" us, is now publicly broadcast and recorded. We are stressed and exhausted trying to manage our real and online personas to make sure that people continue to like and accept us. Many of us have spent our whole lives in this cycle, believing that a certain set of actions would bring us acceptance, only to repeatedly find that this is not the case. This is a form of social conditioning that we must now give ourselves permission to release! 2. Learn this mantra: What Other People Think About Me Is None of My Business! The root of the problem with caring about what people think about you is that you're attaching yourself to an outcome that you have absolutely no control over. That’s right, you have NO CONTROL over what people say, do and think about you! You can have the best intentions, or you can do something ridiculous: It doesn’t matter. You do not control the way people will respond, just as they do not control the way you respond to them. The belief that you have any ownership of or control over people’s opinions about you comes from a place of ego. The reality is that what other people think about you is none of your business! Take a moment and begin to process and accept this perspective. See how the mantra makes you feel, and note the resistance you might feel from your ego. This is normal. (In fact, with all this time spent worrying and managing expectations, this mantra can feel downright strange at first!) 3. Direct the energy to something positive. This new perspective frees up an immense amount of time and energy to live in the NOW and experience your authentic flow. It also breaks the cycle of conditioning that if you could only do X, say Y, and buy Z, people would like and accept you. Deep inside we know that true acceptance comes from within. So instead of caring so much if someone might be talking about you behind your back. Breathe, repeat your mantra, and then direct the excess energy towards something positive, like following your passion and doing what you love! And if you don’t know what you're passionate about, go and find out! Try a creative new activity, such making art, dancing, playing music, building something, or frolicking outside. You'll be amazed at how happy and free you feel when you spend time doing what you love instead of worrying about what other people think! 4. Practice daily self-love and acceptance. When you're living and creating from a place of genuine love and acceptance, you will know that what other people do, say, and think about you really has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. If you don’t like what they have to say about you, you can walk away knowing you are being true to yourself. A regular, daily practice of self-love and self-acceptance is key for releasing attachment to outcomes and maintaining happy, healthy relationships. For many people, this journey begins with meditation, breath-work, yoga, eating healthy, spending time in nature, and creating art. No matter what you do, make sure to do something that reminds you how much you love yourself every day. As you feel more self-love and self-acceptance, you will attract more of it into your space. This is a life-long mission, not an instant transformation that happens overnight, so please be kind and forgive yourself if you fall back into the cycle of worrying about what other people think. If you find yourself feeling attached to their opinions of you, just remember that they, like you, are walking a long journey of internal healing and growth, and that their attitudes are unique and personal to them. And truly none of your business! Hope this suggestion would help you. Regards,

I am suffering from depression from the day I joined the job and feeling to quit it.

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I am suffering from depression from the day I joined the job and feeling to quit it.
Job dissatisfaction is one of the reasons for depression, if you r not happy why cling on, quit. But make sure about your finances, if finances r weak, better get another job before quitting. All the best.

My problem is that I can't understand any thing my memory got very weak. And feel very tired I don't know what's happened with me.

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How To Prevent Forgetting 1. Intend to remember. Remembering well requires that you want to remember. If you have not made a decision to remember what you are reading/studying, you will forget almost immediately. a. Describe the place where you usually read. (Is it quiet? No TV? No stereo? No talking?) b. Are you motivated to remember what you read/study? For example, can you give a reason for remembering these ideas: ? score of the football game ? directions for "jumping" a dead battery ? when your battery is dead ? directions for getting to a job interview ? textbook material for a test c. Even though you are not interested in the subject you must read about, are you willing to use good reading strategies? ? Do you preview before you read? ? Do you ask questions and then read to answer your questions? 2. Don't overload the memory. Seven items is the most our memories can comfortably handle in one bite, but even seven is too much for most people. Your memory prefers to have only three, four, or five things at one time. Therefore, if you need to remember something that has more than four or five items in a group, you will have to break up the group into smaller bites. 3. Understand before you try to remember. If you don't understand something, your memory will have difficulty storing it. Work on understanding before you try to remember. 4. Select the most interesting points. You can't expect to remember everything you read. Select the most important points by looking for answers to questions you have formed. No one can remember everything. If you try to remember every idea, you will probably not remember much of anything. 5. Organize the material to be learned. Your memory works best when the information is organized. Organize first. Use formal or informal outlines or use mapping, and your memory will work for you. You may understand something when you see it, but if your mental filing system isn't working, you may not be able to find the right information when you need it. 6. Relate the ideas to what you already know. Your memory will store new ideas if you relate them to old ideas. Make an association, create a mental picture, or use mnemonic devices to relate unknown information to information you already know. 7. Use mnemonic devices. These memory devices aid memory, but should be simple, clear, and vivid. You remember the unusual, the funny, or both. a. Rhymes ? This method uses rhyming words to help you remember. Example: "I before E, except after C, or when sounded like A, as in neighbor and weigh." b. Acronyms ? A word made from the first letters of other words aids memory. Examples: "I. R. Soul" from the 6 strategies for better memory I ? Intend to remember R ? Relate the information S ? Select important ideas O ? Organize the details U ? Understand the ideas L ? Limit the amount "PRELIMINARY" to help police officers remember what steps to follow when called to the scene of a crime P ? Proceed to the scene. R ? Render assistance to the injured. E ? Effect the arrest of the perpetrator. L ? Locate and identify witnesses. I ? Interview complainant and witnesses. M ? Maintain the scene and protect evidence. I ? Interrogate suspects. N ? Note all conditions, events, and remarks. A ? Arrange for collection of evidence. R ? Report the incident fully and accurately. Y ? Yield Responsibility to detectives. c. Sentences ? Memory sentences are made where the first letters of words in the sentence are the same as the first letters of words that need to be recalled. Examples: "I Remember So Little Unless Organized."- from the first letter of each of the 6 strategies of memory (listed previously). "Please Excuse My Dear Aunt Sally."- for the order of operations in a math problem (parentheses, exponents, multiplication, division, addition, subtraction). Mnemonic devices are handy when studying for tests, but they should not be used as a substitute for understanding. 8. Test yourself repeatedly. Memorize the material through repeated self-testing. Look at the first item in your notes; then look away and try to repeat it to yourself. After you learn each new item, go back and test yourself on all the previous items. 9. Over learn the material. If you study a subject beyond the time needed for perfect recall, you will increase the length of time that you will remember it. 10. Study before going to bed, but not ON your bed! Study thoroughly the material to be learned. Then go right to sleep without watching a late movie or allowing other activities to interfere with your new learning. Your mind will work to absorb much of the material during the night. In the morning spend a few minutes reviewing to solidly fix the material in your memory 11. 7 Lifestyle-Based Ways to Improve Your Memory a. Eat Right. The foods you eat ? and don't eat ? play a crucial role in your memory. ... b. Exercise. ... c. Stop Multitasking. ... d. Get a Good Night's Sleep. ... e. Play Brain Games. ... f. Master a New Skill. ... g. Try Mnemonic Devices.

I have severe depression and anxiety and panic disorder along with ptsd. I also have a mess if?

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I have severe depression and anxiety and panic disorder along with ptsd. I also have a mess if?
Hi, practice Mindful Breathing The primary goal of mindful breathing is simply a calm, nonjudging awareness, allowing thoughts and feelings to come and go without getting caught up in them.  Sit comfortably, with your eyes closed and your spine reasonably straight. Bring your attention to your breathing. Imagine that you have a balloon in your tummy. Every time you breathe in, the balloon inflates. Each time you breathe out, the balloon deflates. Notice the sensations in your abdomen as the balloon inflates and deflates. Your abdomen rising with the in-breath, and falling with the out-breath. Thoughts will come into your mind, and that’s okay, because that’s just what the human mind does. Simply notice those thoughts, then bring your attention back to your breathing.  Likewise, you can notice sounds, physical feelings, and emotions, and again, just bring your attention back to your breathing. You don’t have to follow those thoughts or feelings, don’t judge yourself for having them, or analyse them in any way. It’s okay for the thoughts to be there. Just notice those thoughts, and let them drift on by, bringing your attention back to your breathing. Whenever you notice that your attention has drifted off and is becoming caught up in thoughts or feelings, simply note that the attention has drifted, and then gently bring the attention back to your breathing. It's okay and natural for thoughts to enter into your awareness, and for your attention to follow them. No matter how many times this happens, just keep bringing your attention back to your breathing. Consult me for discussing the nature of problem in detail.

I am 26 year male I use to musturbate regularly, due to some reason I have stoped it. My aggression is rising day by day. What to do? thanks.

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Dear , masturbation is natural and almost every person masturbates. Masturbation in moderation is healthy and is a stress buster. At your age you can masturbate thrice in a week or alternate days. No harm at all. Don't be apprehensive about its after effects. Just enjoy. Take care.

I am student of chemistry I am a smoker but I can not left cigarette what can I do to left the cigarette.

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Tobacco cessation clinics are located at various places in india. Consultation with local psychiatrist will be more helpful to quit smoking. Treating doctor may use nicotine or non nicotine replacement therapy along with counseling.

Lady of 59 years age(HF) High BP (150/90).Thyroid Tri-iodo(T3) -0.74, Thyroxine(T4)-5.42,Thyroid Stimulating Hormone(T S H) 26.41 Thlasemia is present, Hemoglobine-11.2. Body swelling persists, Knee pain ,middle finger of hand numbs,both legs have paralytic tendency after walk of few distance chest pain occasionally and suddenly for 2/3 minutes

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Treatment for thalassemia major often involves regular blood transfusions and folate supplements. If you receive blood transfusions, you should not take iron supplements. Doing so can cause a high amount of iron to build up in the body, which can be harmful. Persons who receive a lot of blood transfusions need a treatment called chelation therapy. This is done to remove excess iron from the body. A bone marrow transplant may help treat the disease in some patients, especially children.

From child hood onwards I never live in hostel after 10th my parents put me in hostel I was not able to adjust with the hostel environment. The food and rooms are very good but some feeling arise in my mind it kills me until I came out of the hostel it do not leave. It feels like very difficult to live and fear .so I returned home and did my intermediate in my village. Later for short term course (40 days) I myself asked my parents to join in hostel to crack eamcet exam even then I feel the same feeling I can not live one day even I returned to home the next day itself. So again I did my b.tech in a small engineering college near my village (daily service just 4 kms away frm house) From 3rd year onwards I started thinking of carrier and took GATE coaching weekend batches in vijayawada (which is 35 kms apart from my village) I thought I am matured as I did my b.tech and I am a 22 years old. As I got admission in amrita university coimbatore which is 1000 kms apart from our village I prepared everything and happily joined in college but I feel the same feeling which I felt in intermediate .again I returned to home I am not able to stay in hostel in my life like others my parents are worrying about me Some times I am thinking that my life is waste I can not do anything so better commit suicide. All my friends are staying out and no one is in my village .even then I am fearing to go out .please tell me is there any solution for this problem. Please help me.

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From child hood onwards I never live in hostel after 10th my parents put me in hostel I was not able to adjust with t...
Dear lybrate-user It happens with many students and this condition is called Homesickness. Homesickness like any other vaguely communicable disease won't go away over night but it does't mean that it can not go away what it requires is your determination. Consider few things practically-- from here if you will leave the college and will do job then also same thing will happen as you have done your B.tech it is less possible to get proper job and growth near your village, you cannot run from this situation again and again ,someday you have to face this situation. I am suggesting you few things try to this-- 1.Try to make some good friends. 2.As per many studies on Homesickness those individual who have girlfriend or boyfriend overcome from homesickness easily ,so you can try this also. 3.Involve yourself in some activities or join any hobby class although in starting you will feel that you are not getting enough time for studies but it will help you in adjustment once you will adjust then you would be able to study more effectively. 4.you can plan some short trips with your friend. 5.Share your feeling with any close friend. 6.Try to avoid social contact for few days as it will divert your mind from hometown's environment ,once you will adjust you can contact them. 7.you can take help of any counsellor. Good luck.
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