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Mr. Alfred Mascarenhas

Psychologist, Bangalore

Mr. Alfred Mascarenhas Psychologist, Bangalore
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Hello and thank you for visiting my Lybrate profile! I want to let you know that here at my office my staff and I will do our best to make you comfortable. I strongly believe in ethics; a......more
Hello and thank you for visiting my Lybrate profile! I want to let you know that here at my office my staff and I will do our best to make you comfortable. I strongly believe in ethics; as a health provider being ethical is not just a remembered value, but a strongly observed one.
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My son is appearing for CA final what diet can I give to boost his memory and help clear exam.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Not only diet, there are some other things to consider too. So let him use some of the suggestions given below: Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem-solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning, at least, five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position, you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. There is some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid sugar and junk food. You may also include these noted foods that are good for your brain health: Brain-Friendly Foods MIND stands for Mediterranean-DASH Intervention for Neurodegenerative Delay. But the MIND approach “specifically includes foods and nutrients that medical literature and data show to be good for the brain, such as berries,” says Martha Clare Morris, ScD, director of nutrition and nutritional epidemiology at Rush University Medical Center. You eat things from these 10 food groups: •Green leafy vegetables (like spinach and salad greens): At least six servings a week •Other vegetables: At least one a day •Nuts: Five servings a week •Berries: Two or more servings a week •Beans: At least three servings a week •Whole grains: Three or more servings a day •Fish: Once a week •Poultry (like chicken or turkey): Two times a week •Olive oil: Use it as your main cooking oil. •Wine: One glass a day You avoid: •Red meat: Less than four servings a week •Butter and margarine: Less than a tablespoon daily •Cheese: Less than one serving a week •Pastries and sweets: Less than five servings a week •Fried or fast food: Less than one serving a week.
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Avoid Alcoholism

MBBS
General Physician, Indore

How to avoid alcoholism

Alcoholism can easily sneak up on you if you aren't careful. When your social life revolves around going to bars or there's a keg party every weekend, it's hard to keep things under control. Changing your routine and making a serious plan to cut back on your consumption is a good way to start. If the time comes when you think you've crossed the line from casual drinking to alcohol abuse, it's time to seek outside help. If you follow a few simple steps, you can learn more about how to reign in your drinking habit before alcoholism becomes a reality.

Part one of three:
Reducing the amount you drink


1

Keep alcohol out of your house. It's a lot easier for alcohol to become a daily, insidious habit if you always keep it within reach. If your liquor cabinet is always stocked, you can easily be tempted. If there is a half-drunk bottle of wine or a six pack is chilling in the fridge, it's going to be tough to avoid drinking. The first step to avoiding alcoholism is to keep it out of your house when it's not serving an immediate social purpose. If you don't want to stop drinking but just cut back to a healthy amount, not surrounding yourself with it is a good place to start. Stock your kitchen with other tasty drinks you can substitute for alcohol when you want something comforting to drink. Tea, sparkling water, lemonade, root beer, and soda are better for you than alcohol.
If you have a party and there's a lot of leftover alcohol, give it away to friends. If no one wants it, pour it down the drain. Don't get trapped into thinking you have to finish it because you don't want it to go to waste.



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Don't drink when you're feeling bad. Drinking when you're bored, lonely, stressed, sad, or feeling any other negative emotion can lead to a dependency on alcohol. Since alcohol is a depressant, it can actually make things even worse. Try drinking only on social occasions, when everyone's having a good time and there's a reason to celebrate. Don't fall into the trap of making every day a day to celebrate. Make sure you save drinking for truly special occasions when someone has something worthy of celebration.


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Slow down your sipping. If you tend to guzzle your drinks, you'll be more likely to drink too much on any given evening. Slow yourself down by sipping your drinks slowly, taking more time to finish each drink. You can help this by ordering your drinks straight, so the taste of sweet mixers doesn't mask the alcohol and make you think you aren't drinking any. You should also drink a glass of water or a soft drink for every alcoholic drink you consume. Drinking water will help fill you up and keep you hydrated. You will be less likely to guzzle drinks if you are properly hydrated and feel fuller. Do not engage in beer drinking contests or any activity that involves chugging excessive amounts of alcohol in a short period of time.



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Stop going to bars as often. Since the purpose of bars is to sell drinks, you're automatically going to feel pressured to buy one. The low lights, the smell of alcohol mixed with perfume and cologne, and the sexy vibe everyone's exuding present an atmosphere that may be hard to resist. Since the whole environment is geared towards drinking, it's best to avoid bars altogether when you're trying to cut back.
If you're invited to a social function that takes place at a bar, like happy hour with your boss and coworkers, try ordering a club soda or another nonalcoholic drink. If the place has a food menu, order yourself a treat so you'll still feel like you're indulging. When you do go to bars, choose places that have more going on than just drinking. Go to a place with pool tables or bocce ball, for example, so the focus isn't solely on how much alcohol you can keep down. You may find it easier to drink less when there are distractions.


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Do activities that don't involve drinking. People spend a lot of time in bars when they could be doing something more active. Suggest alternatives to your group of friends next time you have a get-together. You could play a pick-up sport, go for a walk or bike ride, go to a movie or play, or go to a music show or art opening. Choose a venue that doesn't sell alcohol or an activity that isn't conducive to drinking. This will not only make you cut back on your drinking, it will make you healthier overall by getting you more active.


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Hang out with people who don't drink. Some people are going to insist on drinking, even when you invite them to activities outside the bar. They'll brown bag it at the movie theater or pack a flask to bring on your hike. If you're seriously trying to avoid alcohol, make plans with other people who are in the same boat. That way you won't be faced with the presence of alcohol every time you want to have a little fun. This may mean cutting people out of your life if it becomes a problem. If you really like the person that drinks all the time, learn to say no instead when they are around. Just because he is drinking doesn't mean you have to. Maybe they will pick up on your attempts to cut back and do the same.


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Take up exercising. Exercising is a great way to help yourself kick an alcohol habit. Drinking makes a lot of people feel slow and sluggish, and it can also lead to bloating and weight gain. If you make it a goal to be physically fit, you'll soon get frustrated with alcohol's effect on your progress. Try signing up for a 5k or joining a community soccer or basketball team. You'll soon find yourself passing on alcohol the night before you need to be at your physical best. Along with exercise, make sure you're eating well, getting sleep, and generally taking care of yourself so you'll be less prone to drinking.



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Recognize withdrawal symptoms. If you cut back significantly on your alcohol consumption, you may start to experience some withdrawal symptoms. There are both physical and mental withdrawal symptoms that you might experience. Withdrawal causes trembling hands, irritability, shaky and tired feelings, difficulty sleeping, poor concentration, and bad dreams. If you were a heavy drinker, you may experience some additional symptoms, such as sweating, nausea, headache, lack of appetite, vomiting, and palpitations.
 

My son is 4 years old but he can't talk properly. He speaks only few words. He cannot concentrate. If I want him to repeat words he will not do solos help.

MASLP, Bachelor of Audiology & Speech Language Pathology (B.A.S.L.P)
Speech Therapist, Nashik
Hello, the reason for child not able to speak could be many. It could be purposeful or due to some other problem. Consult a speech therapist for sorting out speech problem for reducd attention you can consult an occupational therapist. Regards.
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I am in depression I want to study in 1 months I am having my 1st sem please help me out.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I am in depression I want to study in 1 months I am having my 1st sem please help me out.
At your age this claim is serious. If you have depression then there are some major ramifications to take into account. I believe there may be some genetic predisposition or there has been some childhood issue, related to anger, that needs urgent attention. You must go and meet with a counselor immediately and if that person advises that you meet with a doctor you must do so and cooperate to your utmost. Please visit these professionals along with your parents. In the meantime please do the following sincerely because you could resolve the problem better with good cooperation: Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. I suggest you do the opposite of what this depression makes you feel like doing (actually, not doing): you will need to fight this condition. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least, 30 minutes but not in the scorching heat. Whatever happens, please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate your sufferings. Don’t wait for others to help. Use your own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but persevere and win this battle. Above all to be really happy, you need to live in love and for love. Learn all about emotions and how to handle them and that will get you out of the depression rather easily and quickly. A counselor is there only to facilitate you, all the hard word must come from you, and your cooperation with that person is very critical for your success. Be positive every day and learn to be contented with what you have. Do some left brain exercises: it is the happy brain. Here are a few suggestions: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. Whatever happens please cooperate with the therapy and do not discontinue until the condition is completely resolved. As regards the concentration you are sure to have hormonal imbalances which may impact your memory because of the chemical but also the distractions that come with it; together with depression I can imagine your problems. But you may work on the following even if the hormones kick in: Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning at least five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There are some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling.
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Mam/sir Im not sure but I think I might be suffering from anxiety since few years as I have read the symptoms of this disorder online. Kindly please provide suitable solution. Im going through hard times due to this. Please reply as soon as possible.

MD - Alternate Medicine, BHMS
Homeopath, Surat
Mam/sir Im not sure but I think I might be suffering from anxiety since few years as I have read the symptoms of this...
Take stramonium 200 1 dose and then start taking cosmos 200 2 doses in a day for a week and then revert me back.
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I am in too much confusion, I think either I gonna mad or really need a psychiatrist. Sir my problem is that I have a sexual fantasy that includes the threesome sex . Whenever I imagine having sex with my gf with including a other male guy I turns on.I asked for this to my girlfriend initially she said no directly but now she is ready for the same, we also arranged a guy wo will join us, ultimately this guy is her colleague and he is also ready for the same, when everything done, then this time I am stepping back from this fantasy but when again I thought of it it turns me on badly. . Please help me whats wrong with me?Should I go for it?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
The fantasy you are talking about is OK, but practicing it with your girl friend and another person is bad. Such a step will ruin your and her life. Sincerely, if your girl friend is willing for that action, ditch her. She cannot be a good girl friend to you. Take care.
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I got bad marks in board exam that's why I am feeling very Depressed and that's why I started drinking alcohol. How can I get rid of this bad habit?

M.Sc - Psychology
Psychologist, Kolkata
I got bad marks in board exam that's why I am feeling very Depressed and that's why I started drinking alcohol. How c...
Good. Introspection is the first step to success. Since you can reason yourself that drinking is a bad habit, it will be easy for you to get rid of it. Avoidance of difficult situation and preconceived estimation of other's reaction cause people to indulge in unhelpful habits. If you pick up biographies of great people you will find that after lot of failures and consistent effort towards desired goals led them to achieve, what they are today. Board exams are important in getting admission for pursuing higher studies. How you want yourself to be looked upon as is more imortant than that. Sometimes self identity and image are affected by low self esteem. Life is a journey and live it to its brim. You cannot predict your future.
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How to forget someone who doesn't love us? How to stop loving them? And how to move on?

M.B.S.(HOMEO), MD - Homeopathy
Homeopath, Visakhapatnam
Make newer, better friends. If you're looking for a change in your life, try changing the company you keep. The world is a big, wide place, and though your sweetheart might have seemed like the bee's knees when you were dating, they're not the only fish in the sea. New friends bring new perspectives, activities, and conversations—and you'll soon be wondering, "ex-who? This advice is especially important if, after a breakup, you find that some of your friends have "sided" with your ex. Pay these people no attention—focus your energy on finding friends who respect your choices. Fall back on your friends and family for support. The people who love you - your family members, personal mentors, and close friends - want to see you happy. If you're unhappy after a breakup, don't be afraid to ask these people for a little extra love. After all, we all need somebody to lean on. Talking to an old friend, a parent, a sibling, or someone else who's close helps you eliminate built-up stress and patch the whole in your heart. Your love was not the only person that loved you—you just have to remember that and spend time with those that matter. Even if you find that the advice you receive from your close confidants isn't perfect, the sense of comradeship you get from your close relationships can be exactly what you need when you're reeling from the loss of an ex. Some of the people you may consider talking to are professional therapists, psychiatrists, school and occupational counselors, and, if desired, authoritative voices in your community like priests or rabbis. Just find a voice you trust and you're in good hands.
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This started in feb 2011 since I was having inferiority complex towards my short hight. Sometimes I felt like socially abused due to this. i developed social anxiety due to this .things related to hight or to improve it keeps running on my mind and I was unable to come out this. Latter I diagnosed as a case of OCD. Finally in july 2011 I admitted to the hospital due to depression and diagnosed as a case of bipolar disorder (taken carbamazepine 800 mg for 3 years) then stopped by my Dr. After 6 month I again relapsed and now taking lithium 800 mg daily and stable .my problem other than depression is a kind of ocd. Due to my short height I developed sever social anxiety. I keep on checking my height to others and to give me assurance I think of some person who are of my height and looks better. When I pass to a person of my height I compare it with mind in my mind only. Latter on images of those people keep running on my mind. Those images of short people and thought related to my height bothered me a lot when I told this to doctors they told that it will go away with the time. Latter on situation improved and these thought and images gone away completely. I started living a normal life like others. Now these thoughts and images still comes but after many months and only for a week or two and then goes off automatically. This time after so many months (almost a year) it came back and bothering me lot. Now these image and thoughts keeps running on my mind so frequently that it interrupts daily routine .unable to focus on things like tv and all. I do not want to those images to irritate me. Now from few days I am having problem with my sleep. It gets interrupted and I feel like frightened, anxious and wake up with little racing heartbeat. By the time I have started lorazepam 2 mg at night. How to stop these racing thoughts. Is there any medicine or therapy can help me? Can I live a secure life? Will it be passed to my son?

MBBS, MD Psychiatry, DNB Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Nagpur
This started in feb 2011 since I was having inferiority complex towards my short hight. Sometimes I felt like sociall...
Dear lybrate-user you seem to be running a commentary of questions. First of all, let me reassure you that it is not at all compulsory that your son would have your illness. Psychiatric disorders have a hereditary role but the risk if calculated as compared to general population (I mean the ones that do not have any diagnosed psychiatric disorder) is greater. As far as your complaints are concerned being a case of bipolar your treating psychiatrist must have informed you about the nature of illness. It is characterised by relapses. The time duration between episodes may vary. Whenever a relapse occurs it is quite possible that you may have varied symptoms, even OC symptoms. So consult your treating psychiatrist for appropriate changes in your medications so that OC symptoms are dealt with. Also you may go fir behaviour therapy under a trained therapist or psychologist.
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My mother is 45 years old, she feels like hearing some unknown voices ,abusing her threatening to kill her. She is having this problem since last year, we have shown some doctors they have prescribed olanzapine 25 mg, therebis no improvement ,she feels sleepy all the time after taking medicine and severe back pain.

BHMS
Homeopath, Raebareli
My mother is 45 years old, she feels like hearing some unknown voices ,abusing her threatening to kill her.
She is ha...
Please do a Thyroid profile test -m T3/T4/TSH Monitor her blood pressure/blood sugar - FBS/PPBS If there is any fear she is hiding and not able to expresses this can happen - hence speak to her on this while she is alone. Give her Aconite 30 - thrice daily 4 pills for next 7 days Based on the reports further treatment would be suggested.
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I can not remember that what I am study after 1 hour and also some times I have forgetting immediately as the same time I was thanked. Haw can relief from it?

BHMS
Homeopath,
Dear Mr Rahul.....You should try Homeopathic ANACARDIUM ORIENTALE 200, 5 drops in water, thrice daily
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Hi Doctor. I am male with age 25. I like male to male relationship. I need some suggestions how to perform it in a complete manner. Please suggest me some ideas, precautions for doing it.

Ph. D - Psychology
Psychologist,
Hi Doctor. I am male with age 25. I like male to male relationship. I need some suggestions how to perform it in a co...
This kind of relationship is a physical as well as emotional gamble. The first thing to make sure is that you are absolutely ready for it. While it is easy to give into our urges, it is also necessary to take precautions as follows 1. You have to be mentally and physically prepared. 2. Check for stds sexually transmitted diseases before entering into a relationship. 3 ensure you are not being taped. 4 use condoms take your time to decide if you are really comfortable with the idea and only proceed if you are.
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I am 27 years old. I have backache and legs pain as I am trying to quit smoking. I used to smoke weekly. Could you please guide me how to quit smoking so that it be easy and painless?

DNB (PSYCHIATRY), DPM, MBBS,
Psychiatrist, Gurgaon
I am 27 years old. I have backache and legs pain as I am trying to quit smoking. I used to smoke weekly. Could you pl...
You can use nicotine gum to supplement nicotine. Nicotex/ nicorrette/ nicogum are available over the counter. If it doesnot help, seek psychiatric consultation.
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Dr. I have exam stress that make me exhausted fully and I feel tired early and I due to this I am not following study time table I have made. I am lacking concentration that's main concern please help me out. In this. Thanks in advance.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dr. I have exam stress that make me exhausted fully and I feel tired early and I due to this I am not following study...
Dear lybrate-user, exam stress is a category of performance anxiety. Due to the stress and anxiety involved, you will not be able to concentrate. You should be able to understand exams and prepare for it. Exams are not a fear factor. They just test your knowledge. If you have the knowledge, why worry about exams? I suggest you to see a psychologist for exam stress counseling. Take care.
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How can I help the lady who are having the low self confidence and I am always telling him that do not take tension. Help me plzz.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
How can I help the lady who are having the low self confidence and I am always telling him that do not take tension. ...
1. Stay away from negativity and bring on the positivity This is the time to really evaluate your inner circle, including friends and family. This is a tough one, but it's time to seriously consider getting away from those individuals who put you down and shred your confidence. Even a temporary break from Debbie Downer can make a huge difference and help you make strides toward more self-confidence. Be positive, even if you're not feeling it quite yet. Put some positive enthusiasm into your interactions with others and hit the ground running, excited to begin your next project. Stop focusing on the problems in your life and instead begin to focus on solutions and making positive changes. 2. Change your body language and image This is where posture, smiling, eye contact, and speech slowly come into play. Just the simple act of pulling your shoulders back gives others the impression that you are a confident person. Smiling will not only make you feel better, but will make others feel more comfortable around you. Imagine a person with good posture and a smile and you'll be envisioning someone who is self-confident. Look at the person you are speaking to, not at your shoes--keeping eye contact shows confidence. Last, speak slowly. Research has proved that those who take the time to speak slowly and clearly feel more self-confidence and appear more self-confident to others. The added bonus is they will actually be able to understand what you are saying. Go the extra mile and style your hair, give yourself a clean shave, and dress nicely. Not only will this make you feel better about yourself, but others are more likely to perceive you as successful and self-confident as well. A great tip: When you purchase a new outfit, practice wearing it at home first to get past any wardrobe malfunctions before heading out. 3. Don't accept failure and get rid of the negative voices in your head Never give up. Never accept failure. There is a solution to everything, so why would you want to throw in the towel? Make this your new mantra. Succeeding through great adversity is a huge confidence booster.
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I lost somebody close last year and since then feel very depressed and prefer keeping to myself all the time. Please help me.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
I lost somebody close last year and since then feel very depressed and prefer keeping to myself all the time. Please ...
Dear lybrate-user. Welcome to lybrate. I can understand. Loosing someone near and dear is called grief and depression related to grief is pretty normal. But this sort of depression does not stay for long. This depression gets cleared within a span of some weeks. The best option for you is to undergo counseling and depression related therapy. Take care.
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Hi am a groups aspirant preparing since two years. Am unable to remember and recollect vt I HV learnt previously. Hw to improve memory power and vt to do to activate the brain as an abundant of storage? Please suggest am losing confidence on myself.

CCPH, BHMS
Homeopath, Bhilai
Do meditation daily. Only you hve to do is sit in silent early mrng close your eyes n concentrate, hear whtevr is gng around u. 15 to 20 or half n hr wl b mre beneficial. Ths wl help gain your confidence n concentration.
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My father is 49 years old. He is retired air force personal. He always gets angry in high degree on very minute topics. He also has very negative thinking. He always tries to avoid this and to become calm but cannot do that. Please suggest something for him- any cure, therapy, or medicine.

D.P.M(psychiatry) [Diploma in Psychological medicine] , MBBS
Psychiatrist, Jalna
Hi , some people have a tendency to react to minor issues with explosive anger. They often feel guilty after the anger episode is over. This is classified in psychiatry under impulse control disorder and is termed" intermittent explosive disorder. A combination of both, medicines and anger management techniques is used to deal with the same. Consult privately for more help. Take care.
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Going through a Family, job and financial problems, Depression etc. I am working on several things to start my life all over again. I find that I am not able to use my brain to full potential. I am looking for a medicine/ drug which will help me improve my brain function. Make me mentally so powerful and clear which will help me achieve my goals. All my concern is I want to focus and concentrate on things I want to do and not what happened so far. I really need something to turn my brain into a computer. Can you please suggest? Thank you in advance. Wasim.

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry, DNB (Psychiatry)
Psychiatrist, Thrissur
Going through a Family, job and financial problems, Depression etc. I am working on several things to start my life a...
Respected Sir, I am very sorry to hear that you have been dealing with a lot of problems but you have to remember that it is a part of Life. Everyone goes through the problems that you have mentioned viz Job, Family, Financial. However, Depression, if not self diagnosed, is not something everyone suffers from. If there was a drug that could turn your brain into a computer, I am pretty sure, in today's competitive world, everyone would be on that drug from the day of their birth. Unfortunately for you, there are no such shortcuts to achieve your goals. Yoga, meditation, relaxation exercises could all help you increase your focus and concentration and maybe even make you "mentally powerful" but these will require a huge amount of input and hard work from your part and will also take time. Apart from these, eating right and getting adequate sleep, having good friends and a supportive family could all eventually help you. So, sorry to disappoint you, but I wish you All the Best in trying to rebuild your life.
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