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Dr. Vijaya Savithri

MBBS

Psychiatrist, Bangalore

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Dr. Vijaya Savithri is a renowned Psychiatrist in Vittal Mallya Road, Bangalore. She is a MBBS . You can visit her at Dr. Vijaya Savithri@Mallya Hospital in Vittal Mallya Road, Bangalore. Book an appointment online with Dr. Vijaya Savithri on Lybrate.com.

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Why does it happen whenever I go to my relatives house or party or nowhere I don't feel good as mera dimaag mere bf m lga rhta h bas mann krta h usk sth rhu koi aas pas na rahe kahi jaane ka mann ni krta kahi jao to aisa lgta h door hjaege even though mere ghr m he marriwh par I am nt al. Ol excited as mje kanpur jana h 2 days k liye but yai dimaag m h k door hjaege y this fear is dere our relationship is good I want to know what's the reason behind this?

M.Sc Applied Psychology, Advanced Diploma Child Guidance & Counselling
Psychologist, Delhi
Dear Lybrate user it's k to have such feelings but at the same time you need to understand these feelings will not be helpful for your relationship only. These feelings seemed to be cause of some kind of insecurity or fear of loss. Try to identify the reasons for it. Discuss and communicate with your BF about this. It will help you. It natural to be with someone whom you love and continue to be with him forever. But at the same time v have other relations too. Those people also play important role in our life and need same amount of time and love. Nowadays v have technology in our hand which makes distance shorter. You wil be always be connected to your BF Through technology. There is also a famous saying distance makes heart go fonder. So this 2 days distance may increase your love for him and soon when you will be keen to meet him and will enjoy more. I hope these tips will help. Take care.
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I am a 26 years old boy, I am suffering from anxiety for last 4 years, symptoms are problems in breathing when getting fear, feeling pain in chest, uncomfortable, negative thoughts makes me disturbed all the day, sometimes fall in depression, what should I do for permanent relief?

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
If you look too far into the future, you will be scared. Most of what you are scared about does not happen: as I remember in the last count 90% of what we worry about will not happen. In fact if you look back and see from all the worrying you have done so far, has any of those things really happened?! In other words we simply trouble ourselves. There may be another contributor, and that is, if there were any past influences that have made your system prone to worry. You will need to check into your background for that information. When you do find out meet with a counselor and work this out. We have now video counseling and if you are interested I can help you out on that platform. Counseling will help in training you will skills and techniques to cope with the daily challenges in life and will give you a fair chance to manage your life. You must also develop your constitution to make it fit enough to cope with fear, felt many times unnecessarily. You may be taking normal fear and converting it into abnormal fear like anxiety and so on. Take care of the following: Mental stability can be achieved by learning a few skills in handling emotions in an appropriate manner. Stress management skills, which have a lot to do with expressing emotions, will need to be a major part of your recovery program. Emotionally you need the help of a counselor and that will help you tremendously to move from anxiety to normal fear. Please persevere and cooperate through all the support you need and you will come through successfully. Develop your body’s health by physical fitness through exercise, good rest (sleep), and a proper diet. Any way what you need to focus on is to do vigorous exercise of the aerobic kind for the heart’s fitness; meditation for the brain’s fitness; sleep for a well rested mind and body; a sound spiritual well being for good confidence and stability; and a diet with lots of vegetables, fruits, and whole grains. Vigorous exercise, especially of the callisthenic kind, will make your heart, which is a muscle, grow larger; and then your heart will need to beat less often and you will respond to the anxiety with a calmer disposition. If your mind, constitution, and your emotions are in check and fit, you will never be disturbed again. The earlier you tackle this, the easier it is going to be. You can also take two measures: To slow your heart beat breathe deep and slow into your diaphragm, it utilizes an extra 80% of your lungs to absorb more oxygen. The heart beats faster due to more oxygen requirement and slow breathing also reduces stress.
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Is Nuhenz is antidepressants. Is Nuhenz harmless. Can we take it for a month without any Doctor's prescription.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lybrate user. Nuhenz Tablet is prescribed for the treatment of low hemoglobin, loss of sensation along with several other problems. Nuhenz is not an anti-depressant. Never take any medicines without a doctors prescription. Take care.
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I'm 34year female my problem is high and low b/p are up and stress in my mind. Pain are so much in head please give me advice.

MD - Medicine, MBBS
General Physician, Kangra
u r suffering from two disease one is hypertension and other is tension type headache.i would advise you to go for fasting blood sugar, lipid, rftand thyroid function test. reduce salt and fat in your diet ,take brisk walk 30 min everyday...if still ur b.p is high u need antihypertensives...for tension type headache i can prescribe u meds if u want...good luck
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I m 47 years old. I m suffering from generalized anxiety disorder with depression. So I can't travel alone.

DNB in Psychiatry, completed course from Asha Hospital, Hyderbad
Psychiatrist, Salem
Is the anxiety present only while travelling? if so, please take 0.25 mg anxit while travelling. If it is present in other time also then consult psychiatrist.
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I have a hobby of smoking and drinking, what should I do to stop smoking and drinking, please suggest me as early as possible. Kindly request your.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Only by using strong will power and avoiding all situations where you feel like smoking, chewing tobacco or drinking or using drugs avoiding friends who smoke and diverting mind by reading or chewing a gum, like NICORETTE and taking a walk when you crave for a smoke can all help. You can chew Nicorette gum which is nicotine replacement. There are medicines available. Which can be prescribed if asked personally Cigarette smoking is a leading preventable cause of mortality. It kills more than 60 lakh people worldwide every year. More than 50% of regular smokers would invariably die from tobacco-related illnesses which includes heart attack, cancer or asthmatic lung diseases. Best age to stop smoking is before 40 Only strong will power, determination, attending AA meetings and diverting mind when tempted will help you stop alcohol or may need professional help from a psychiatrist or de addiction centre. Try to do meditation and yoga. Read good books and listen to music and if you are believer attend Bhajans Alcohol causes 7 types of cancer, including breast, mouth and bowel cancers. When you drink alcohol, cancer-causing chemicals are formed. Alcohol also affects hormone levels and makes cells even more likely to be damaged by smoking. The less alcohol you drink, the lower the risk of cancer. No type of alcohol is better or worse than another, it is the alcohol itself that leads to the damage, regardless of whether it is in wine, beer or spirits. And drinking and smoking together are even worse for you. Not everyone who drinks alcohol will develop cancer. But on the whole, scientists have found that some cancers are more common in people who drink more alcohol than others. Every year, alcohol causes 4% of cancers .Tips to cut down on alcohol. There are lots of simple ways to cut down on the amount of alcohol you drink. It can help to work out if there are particular times or situations when you tend to have a drink, whether that’s a bad day at work or a weekly pub quiz tradition, and plan what you’ll say and do differently next time. Have more alcohol-free days a week. For liver health it’s best to have at least 2 days off alcohol in a row each week. Try agreeing on certain days with your partner or a friend and help each other and stick to it. If you are planning to drink alcohol, decide on a limit in advance and make sure you don’t go over it. Swap every other alcoholic drink for a soft one – starting with your first drink. Try shandy instead of a pint of beer, or swap some wine for soda and have a spritzer. Don’t stock up on beer, wine or spirits at home. Finish one drink before pouring another, because topping up drinks makes it harder to keep track of how much you’ve had and when you planned to stop. Avoid buying drinks in rounds, that way you don’t have to keep pace with anyone. Tell a friend or partner that you’re cutting down on alcohol, they can support you – or even join you.
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Hi i am 20 years old boy height 5'7 weight 57 kg I have high negative vibes in any scenario is there were there is family isue regarding my girlfriend I always doubt her my studies I always masturbate thats a very bad thing please advice to how to build positive vibes and attitude and personality by this it is effecting my studies please help me guide me when ever girl is passing by or she is with me I feel like touching their body and staring their outfits coz of negative thoughts happening I want to stop this though I have a gf I feel shy I do not know how to deal with her if she will get to know i m like that she will dump me please help me I want to change my self my everything I want a human revolution please guide me doctor please.

M.Sc - Applied Psychology
Psychologist, Bangalore
hi ...appreciate your courage to seek help! You seem to be struggling with boundary issues and thats creating alot of confusion in your mind. Your issue requires lot more details and exploration , thus I suggest you to seek counselling as it will help you immensely . Regarding masturbation, its not harmful if done in moderation and only to release your sexual excitement to give pleasure to yourself. but if you are masturbating compulsively and not enjoying the act, then you need to seek help. Counselling can help you with this issue too. All the best.
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Hello sir I am saleem's friend sir how can I solve my friend's problem and the problem is he has fail in exam and had gone in depression sir please tell me hiw can I get him confident.

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Homeopath, Muzaffarpur
Hello lybrate-user. You give following homoeopathic medicine 1. Ignetia 200 one drop twice in a day 2. Kali phos 6x 4 to 6 tablet three times in a day, report after 15 days. Thanks.
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I am 77 years old. I have led a healthy life. I was smoker but quit smoking 25 years back. I am a severe case of COPD For last 5 years. I am taking one puffs daily twice a day of Salmeterol.

PGFCP, PGDEMS, Bachelor Of Ayurvedic Medicine And Surgery
Ayurveda, Satara
Hi if you can follow few basic things then you will get better results in short period of time, 1) drink only 100-150 ml of lukewarm water during meals, 2) don’t drink water one hour before meals and one hour after meals, l 3) avoid oily, fermented and stale foods, 4) drink lukewarm water regularly as possible, 5) sleep upto 10.30 pm, 6) do anuloma viloma pranayam regularly early in the morning, 7) avoid cold things, intermittent eating, heavy foods, contact with dust and pollen grains, day time sleeping, A) TAKE 20 ml of ginger juice with 1 tsf of jiggery before meals, B) take 2 tablets of SWAS-KASA-CHINTAMANI RASA, early in the morning on empty stomach along with 1 tsf of honey and ginger juice, C) take ½ tsf of lavanbhaskar churna after meals, Do all these things for 30 days, gives you good result. THANKS.
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How to stop misconceptions which comes in the mind. And once It enters it gets very very much difficult to come out of that, I try to do different things even though I change my place after I get fed up of it then to where ever I go I remains in my mind and I feel very much depressed and not being able to do any work.

M.Sc Applied Psychology, Advanced Diploma Child Guidance & Counselling
Psychologist, Delhi
Dear Lybrate user these misconceptions or negative thoughts are result of your negative thought process. These negative thought process may be induced by some negative event that may have happened in your life. So try to evaluate the reasons of these thoughts, analyse the event leading to these thoughts. Try to pen down these thoughts on the paper. Make a diary and write your thoughts daily. Try to discuss your issues with closed one. Sometimes discussing your deepest painful experience may help alot. Try these methods if things still bother you try visiting a clinical psychologist for help. Take care.
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I am having memory lose and low memory so I can't remember some thing. So in exams my memory was emty.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
7 Strategies for Remembering 1. Become interested in what you're learning. We're all better remembering what interests us. Few people, for example, have a difficult time remembering the names of people they find attractive. If you're not intrinsically interested in what you're learning or trying to remember, you must find a way to become so. 2. Find a way to leverage your visual memory. You'll be surprised by how much more this will enable you to remember. For example, imagine you're at a party and are introduced to five people in quick succession. How can you quickly memorize their names? Pick out a single defining visual characteristic of each person and connect it to a visual representation of their name, preferably through an action of some kind. Remember: Memory is predominantly visual. 3. Create a mental memory tree. If you're trying to memorize a large number of facts, find a way to relate them in your mind visually with a memory tree. Construct big branches first, then leaves. Branches and leaves should carry labels that are personally meaningful to you in some way, and the organization of the facts ("leaves") should be logical.. 4. Associate what you're trying to learn with what you already know. It seems the more mental connections we have to a piece of information, the more successful we'll be in remembering it. This is why using mnemonics. Write out the items to be memorized over and over and over. 5. When reading for retention, summarize each paragraph in the margin. This requires you to think about what you're reading, recycle it, and teach it to yourself again. Even take the concepts you're learning and reason forward with them; apply them to imagined novel situations, which creates more neural connections to reinforce the memory. 6. Do most of your studying in the afternoon. Though you may identify yourself as a "morning person" or "evening person" at least one Study. suggests your ability to memorize isn't influenced as much by what time of day you perceive yourself to be most alert but by the time of day you actually study—afternoon appearing to be the best. 7. Get adequate sleep to consolidate and retain memories. Not just at night after you've studied but the day, you study as well. Far better to do this than to stay up cramming all night for an exam.
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I am a 54 years old man. I am suffering from anxiety. This anxiety makes me wake up 3 o' clock in the morning and I can not sleep back. The cause of this anxiety is due to my new business which is not doing good. If u advise me to do meditation, then what should be the meditation. Please help me.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
As you are already aware that your anxiety and stress is due to your new business, then you need to do meditation to ease your mental stress. Initial step is the awareness. If you know your business you can do it well. If you worry about money, then stress will be more. Exercise, think positively and do breathing exercises. Any meditation if done systematically for 20 minutes every day will be stress releiving and be suitable for you. Take care.
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Language Disorder - How to Diagnose it?

Consultant Dyslexia, Autism & Child Psychologist. Consultant Clinical & Mental Health Psychologist., Post Masters Doc in Behavioural Medicine , Post Masters Doc Psychology
Psychologist, Noida
Language Disorder - How to Diagnose it?

Language disorder is commonly known as language impairment, it is a common childhood disorder, which makes it difficult for kids to understand what the people around them are saying to them and to face difficulty in following simple directions, it also includes difficulty in expressing the thoughts and feeling through speech.

Language disorder can be classified as:

  1. Receptive language disorder: This disorder makes it difficult to understand what the other person is saying to the one suffering from it.
  2. Expressive language disorder: Kids suffering from it are not able to express themselves and their thoughts.
  3. Mixed receptive expressive disorder: These kids have combined symptoms of receptive language disorder and expressive language disorder, making it difficult to understand and to make someone else understand.

Symptoms of language disorder:

  1. Difficulty in understanding: The ones suffering from language disorder, finds it difficult to understand what the people around them are saying.
  2. Limited vocabulary: It is one of the prominent symptoms, in which the vocabulary of the kids is very limited as compared to other kids of that age.
  3. Trouble learning new things: Learning new things is a difficult task for the kid suffering from language disorder
  4. Repeat usage of certain phrases: Kids tend to use the same phrase again and again, which is one of the basic symptoms.
  5. Frustration: As the kid is either not able to understand or to make other understand or both, kids with this disorder tend to remain more frustrated in comparison to other kids, as they are unable to do things. 
  6. Sentences which do not make sense: Making incomplete or senseless sentences is a key indicator of language disorder.

What you should do?

  1. Speech therapist: The treatment may include speech therapy, in which the speech therapist will work towards building the vocabulary and improving the grammar of the kids suffering, making the kids more confident and feel good about themselves.
  2. Psychotherapy: If the kid is also suffering from emotional issues because of the language disorder, then one should also undergo Psychotherapy, as it not only improves the morale of the patient, but also provides the guidance on how to keep improving further from the language disorder.
  3. Positive Atmosphere: The kids suffering from such a disorder should be made comfortable enough to enjoy their being, giving plenty of time to your young ones is the best way to cure such disorder, so one should always communicate well with his kids and make them learn new things, sing to them, listen to various sounds, show different pictures, colours, shapes to make them learn.
  4. Parental Support: The parents should also understand the issue well, be patient, and should support the kid to work out on the disorder. Parents should also interact with other parents, who have been there, to learn more about the language disorders and how their kids overcome the disorder.

As language disorder is one of common issue in kids, this can be managed and cured well to improve after all the required knowledge and best practices to follow. If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult a psychologist.

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I'm 21, I'm using smartphone every time very addicted to phone which causes lonely, frustrated, anger, depression, obesity, headache, moody, lees concentration in study etc. Help me how to avoid using smartphone, I'm really addicted to this net.

M.Sc - Psychological Counseling, B.A ( Hons) - Psychology
Psychologist, Delhi
Hello, set an alarm on your phone for a particular time in the morning (e. G. 6 am) which says" start using cell phone" and another alarm at a perticular time in the night (e. G. 10 pm) which says" stop using cell-phone. After the night alrm rings immediately turn off your cell-phone. Hope this helps.
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MDS - Oral Medicine and Radiology, BDS
Dentist, Ahmedabad
If you are a smoker or a tobacco chewer and you see white patches in your mouth, be alert and quit your habit !
White patches in tobacco smokers or chewers are generally pre - cancerous. Quit tobacco and prevent cancer !
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5 Ways You Can Beat Depression Blues

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Pune
5 Ways You Can Beat Depression Blues

Discussions and consideration of ailments begin and end with those which pertain to the physical health of an individual. Matters of the body are inevitably prioritized over the matters of the mind. However it goes without saying that your overall well-being is as much dependent on your mental health as it is on physical health. However, there are few simple measures which can be undertaken to beat the depression blues.

  1. Exercise: What works for the body may also work for the mind and exercise is a leading example of that. It is recommended that every day you set aside at least some time for exercising. It will not only benefit your physical constitution, but will also keep your thoughts away from the issues which are tormenting you in the first place.
  2. Converse: It is a given that depression alienates people, drowns them in solitude. However, seclusion is merely a temporary refuge, one that can hardly benefit you in the long run. Hard as it may be, try talking to people and engage in conversations with people. In the course of the conversation, try putting into words what exactly you are suffering from. Reaching out for an extended arm goes a long way in recuperating from this condition.
  3. Meditation: When you suffer from depression, you inevitably are, in the process, trying to grapple with plenty of tumultuous issues. It is imperative therefore that you find a way to calm your mind and there is no other way to do it than indulge in meditation.
  4. Find a confidante: When suffering from depression, it is crucial that you find yourself a confidante. It is important to talk to others but it is perhaps more important to find the right person. Irrespective of your relationship with him or her, by all means find a confidante in whom you can unflinchingly confide.
  5. Break monotony: Monotony not only triggers depression but in most cases, breeds it. It is important therefore than you break the monotony. If not a drastic change, go for small changes initially and try to change your daily routine as much as possible.

If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult the doctor and ask a free question.

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I am a 25 years (m) guy. Suffering from gender issue. Even my voice has not changed. How can I come out of gayness. Is there any medicine to follow. This is became very trouble in my life. Can you suggest me the valuable steps, I would be grateful to you. Thank you.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear, do you have any other female hormone imbalance issue like low hair growth at face, gestures that resemble women etc. In that case, you need hormonal treatment. Please consult an endocrinologist. Take care.
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I am 25 years old and I use to smoke and my lips are getting darker day by day please suggest me how can I get rid of it asap and make my lips pink?

MD - Psychiatry, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Hyderabad
You need to get rid of smoking completely. The treatment depends on various factors like how long you have been smoking, how many cigarettes per day, stress level etc etc. Then an appropriate method to quit can be suggested.
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My cousin is having several anger outbursts. She is cursing and hating her parents and throwing unreasonable tantrums. She is not listening to anyone and constantly doing things out of her behaviour. She is fooling her parents and making demands out of their financial status. Please guide how can we handle her and are the do's and don't.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Anger management: 10 tips to tame your temper ANGER: There is a saying "Frustration begets anger and anger begets aggression. Direct anger, is expressed toward the object perceived as the cause of the frustration. If a machine does not work, you might hit it or kick it. If someone gets in your way, you could verbally threaten them or push them aside. If the source of the frustration is too powerful or threatening for direct aggression, displaced aggression is often used. The aggression is redirected toward a less threatening and more available object. An angry person often acts without thinking. The person has given in to the frustration and they have given up restraint. Anger can be a healthy response if it motivates us to positive action but all too often the actions we engage in when angry are destructive. Indeed, if we could see a videotape of ourselves getting angry, the humiliation might well help cure us of anger. When you feel frustration building, you have to practice learned responses that lead to healthy actions instead of destructive ones. GIVING UP: Giving up on a goal can be productive if the goal is truly out of reach. However, more often giving up (quitting or being apathetic) is another form of giving in to frustration. When repeatedly frustrated, people can drop out of school, quit jobs, or move away. Apathy is giving up all of your goals, so you cannot be frustrated by trying to reach them. We live in difficult time and we have to be persistent in order to accomplish. Consider how many projects you began, and then gave up, because you became frustrated and lost patience. Make a list of things you started and quit because they seemed too difficult. Now calculate the disappointment and loss you suffered by not dealing with the frustration in a more healthy way. Try to remember that quitters never win, and winners never quit. Losing your temper means you're a quitter. LOSS OF CONFIDENCE: is a terrible frequent side effect of giving up and not fulfilling your goal. A loss of self-confidence and self-esteem, means that If we quit once, then the next time we plan a goal, we may not be able to accurately assess our ability to carry it out and we stop trusting ourselves and our own abilities. This became a self-fulfilling and self-destructive attitude. You need to be able to learn that when the going gets tough, you say to yourself "It is worth it! and by following through, it not only gets the job done, but it builds self-confidence. STRESS: is the "wear and tear" our body and mind experiences as we adjust to the frustrations our continually changing environment. Too frequently, extreme, or prolonged frustration and stress strains us and generates distress signals. Our body experiences distress signals in a variety of ways, often in the form of: irritability, anger, fatigue anxiety, headache, depression, stomach aches, hypertension, migraines, ulcers, heart attacks, or colitis. DEPRESSION: Depression can affect almost every aspect of your life. It affects people of all ages, income, race, and cultures. Depression can affect the way you eat and sleep the way you feel about yourself, the way one think about things, and the way you interact with others. While we all feel depression at various appropriate times in our lives, excess or inappropriate depression cannot be easily dismissed or wished away. OTHER REACTIONS: abuse of drugs & alcohol is self-destructive and usually futile attempt at dealing with frustration, as are many eating and weight problems and addictions Whenever the immediate effects of the addictive behaviour wear off, users find themselves back in the same, or even worse, frustrating situation. Anger is among the gamut of emotions we exhibit as a reaction to a situation, and it is a 'normal' emotion too as long as it is kept under control. Some people have the propensity to explode when pushed to the extreme. They keep swallowing their emotions until they can finally do it no more, and erupt like a volcano. Others dealing with extreme anger are like a ticking time bomb. You'll never know what you unwittingly say or do can trigger an explosion. In either case, anger that cannot be controlled comes with a physical reaction. Your heart beats faster preparing you for both action and reaction. Your breathing quickens. You may clench your fist, tighten your shoulders and go into a defensive position. The problem arises out of the fact that it is almost impossible to feel anger and empathy at the same time. An angry person is seldom sensitive to the wellbeing of his victim, and hence may lash out verbally and sometimes physically. Such things done in the heat of the moment mostly leaves us with regrets. So here are a few ways to deal with extreme anger. 1.Approve it / Acknowledge it: The first step in solving a problem is recognizing that you have one. The fundamental problem here is that people believe they are on the right track and refuse to budge from their views. It is essential to realize that this step is not about deciding whether you are right or wrong, but acknowledging the fact that your reaction to the situation can be channelled in a better way. When getting someone to acknowledge their anger problem, be careful as to not use negative words like wrong, false and shouldn't. Instead, influence with positive words like can and should. Instead of saying 'You are wrong to react like this' you can say, 'I understand what you are feeling. Is there a way we can resolve this situation? 2.Understand / recognize the signs: Once you know that your problems exist, you can try devising ways that will work for you in dealing with the situation. You can count to 100 to calm yourself or simply decide to not speak until you can calm yourself. Knowing that you may enter into an argument in a situation, you can list down the points that you feel strongly about and discuss each of them one by one. Working your way through a finite list gives a better opportunity to reach closure at the end. 3.Free the mind/Find ways to let it go: Not all arguments end in closure. A lot of unsaid justifications cloud our mind repeatedly leaving us seething from the inside. Research has shown that the normal or neurological anger response lasts less than two seconds. Beyond that it takes a strong will to stay angry. Once you realize how much your anger is consuming your mind, decide to free your mind with meditation and other calming exercises. Tell yourself that some people and issues simply don't deserve your anger, emotion, reaction or time. If you or someone you know is suffering from anger management issues, consult a doctor today.
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