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Dr. Utkarsh  - Psychologist, Vadodara

Dr. Utkarsh

PhD, MS - Psychology

Psychologist, Vadodara

7 Years Experience  ·  300 at clinic  ·  ₹200 online
Dr. Utkarsh PhD, MS - Psychology Psychologist, Vadodara
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Dr. Utkarsh is a trusted Psychologist in Ajwa Road, Vadodara. He has helped numerous patients in his 7 years of experience as a Psychologist. He is a PhD, MS - Psychology . You can consult Dr. Utkarsh at Sambandh Clinic -Centre for Mental Health & Wellbeing in Ajwa Road, Vadodara. Save your time and book an appointment online with Dr. Utkarsh on Lybrate.com.

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PhD - Baroda Medical College - 2014
MS - Psychology - Tamilnadu Open University - 2010
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I am 33 old and mom of 4.5 years old - I am having tough time in my personal life and I feel that I am getting panicked very easily and unable to think anything positive at this moment - however I want to come out of this depression - I cannot discuss everything - I just need some suggestion how can I come out of this depression and live a normal life - I have a headache all the time. Joint pain all over my body - I have vitamin D3 deficiency too leading me to been in pain all the time. I feel breathless at times along with lot of tiredness - I am unable to do my routine work efficiently like before.?

M.Sc - Psychological Counseling, B.A ( Hons) - Psychology
Psychologist, Delhi
I am 33 old and mom of 4.5 years old - I am having tough time in my personal life and I feel that I am getting panick...
Hello lybrate-user, I am sorry to learn about all the difficulties you are facing. Our mind and bodies have a strong connection- our mind reflects the weakness and lethargy due to some deficiencies in the body. Similarly, the body responds by the change in emotions as a result of these physical changes which are felt by the mind. You have a small baby and you should be able to care for her/him to your fullest potential, as their childhood will not return. Therefore, I hope you are able to overcome your emotional problems, soon. As for physical problems, I would strongly advise you do a full body check-up once and get following tests done- 1. Thyroid profile 2. Vit d3 3. Vit b12 4. Hba1c (glycated sugar) once when you get your test reports consult your physician as to what diet and lifestyle modifications should be made. And also take medication, if any required. Ffollow your doctor's advise, thereafter as deligently as possible. If your body will get fitter you mind will slowly begin to feel better and the quality of your thoughts and moods will improve. You will also feel more open to talking about any life problems if they are bothering you or you're not able to find a solution to. Don't worry, this is just a temporary phase. I hope my advise helps you. Good luck.
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Hello Doctor, I am not feeling energetic, i feel very tired.I want to start my business by next year but prior to that i want to finish my education. Please suggest me some way to out ?

BHARAT JYOTI, MRACGP, INCEPTOR, MD-PhD, MD - Psychiatry, FIPS, Fellow of Academy of General Education (FAGE), DPM, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Bangalore
Thank you. To figure out exactly what you are suffering from, I need further details from you.Call on 09845033734/ or email me on Pay Lybrate Rs500 and contact me
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I had a breakup last year and since then I am losing myself and have been depressed what should I do.

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Mumbai
I had a breakup last year and since then I am losing myself and have been depressed what should I do.
The end of a relationship often feels like the end of the world. After all the time and energy you have invested in it, it is very painful when it gets over. Keep in mind that life is full of ups and downs; nothing is permanent. The pain you feel today will go away with time. Give yourself time to heal. Give time, time. In the meanwhile don't isolate yourself from your friends and family. Confide in someone you are comfortable with. Make a list of life goals, and plan how to achieve them. Relationships are an important part of your life, but they are not everything. Spend time with those close to you, indulge in some enjoyable activities. Keep yourself busy. Slowly you will see that there is a lot to life. However if you are feeling suicidal, consult a psychiatrist immediately. Don't wait to feel worse.
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I am addicted to my cell phone badly .its the time of my boards and instead of studying. I remain involved in my phone. I make plans to study but then I fail in executing them because of the temptations from my mobile. please help!

POST GRADUATE DIPLOMA IN CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGY, Masters in clinical psychology
Psychologist, Mumbai
I am addicted to my cell phone badly .its the time of my boards and instead of studying. I remain involved in my phon...
Hi Lybrate user Try to make a study schedule. Keep in mind why you are passionate about this exam and start feeling that you are very close to your destination. After exams you have free time to have fun. Make short term goals for each day hourly basis and after completion of your goal give yourself a reward it may be your mob just for 5-10 minutes. Always remember" you are the creater of your own destiny" eat healthy sleep well and just do your best. All The Best.
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Which is the best system for hypertension- alopathy, ayurveda, homeopathy or any other?

MD - Psychiatry, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Patna
Low salt and low fat diet, and regular alopathic medication. Alopathic medications are scientifically tested, doses are well calibrated, accepted world wide and certainly effective.
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My age is 30 yrs. Because of my circumstances, I have bad habit from my child age. Even I though to die for having such things and praying for that only. Please help me, how I can come out of habit.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
My age is  30 yrs. Because of my circumstances, I have bad habit from my child age. Even I though to die for having s...
Dear , stubbornness is the outcome of wrong thinking. From these many years, it shows, you have learned nothing. You need to learn from life. If you refuse to learn from life, it will be a disaster. Try to recall, how many times you tried and it never happened? you are being obsessive and impulse driven. We have psychotherapy techniques to cure your problem. Take care.
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How I can sharp my brain becoz these days my brain had become so dull that I forget what I studied in morning. At the end of the day I am with my empty hands si suggest me som remedies or exercise so that I can increase my brain power.

MD - Alternate Medicine, BHMS
Homeopath, Surat
Meditation in morning for 10 mins. Then you do this small exercise: sleep with legs raised up from waist against the wall for 10 mins daily making 90 degree angle. This will help you a lot.
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My mothers has strange mental illness she talks to herself alone (inaudible whispers) and laughs alone on older events and has very poor attention. She remains in anger most of the time and keeps on thinking useless thoughts and sometimes argues hyperactivity on useless matters .but occasionally she behaves normal without such symptoms Is she suffering from schizophrenia if yes please suggest any cure.

B.Sc(Hons) Mumbai Univ., ND, MD - Alternate Medicine, Aroma Therap., Bach Flower Rem, Mental Health Cert.
Alternative Medicine Specialist, Mumbai
My mothers has strange mental illness she talks to herself alone (inaudible whispers) and laughs alone on older event...
Hi I will prescribe some harmless but effective flower remedy. Mix 2 drops of Aspen+ 2 drops of Mimulus + 2 drops of Mustard +Cherry Plum 2 drops + 2 drops of Scleranthus + + 2 drops of White chestnut Mix these with 100 ml water and drink it every morning and night.(same dose) on empty stomach. If problem continues consult me online. These flower remedies are available in Homoeopathy pharmacy.
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My dad drunk the alcohol too much for 4 days in function now he is mentally distributed. And thinking to something to do harm him. Went to consultant he suggested some medicine used those tablets without giving any amount of alcohol. Now his body is shaking how to control it and when he will be fine if he takes tablets his age is 53.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
My dad drunk the alcohol too much for 4 days in function now he is mentally distributed. And thinking to something to...
He should admit him to a hospital for detoxification. It takes only two weeks at the most and he will come out clean and fresh. I cannot believe that in one attempt he drank so much to be affected thus. Even if it is so, he can go throgh detoxification with some counseling and find out eh exact reason in the bargain and addres that too.
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I am a great lover of pets and of course animals especially dogs. Recently I saw a newspaper a horse killed by a politician Suddenly I cried without expecting. I am so fond of animals. I can not bare them get hurting. Nearly I am an addict. How could I change that?

B.Sc(Hons) Mumbai Univ., ND, MD - Alternate Medicine, Aroma Therap., Bach Flower Rem, Mental Health Cert.
Alternative Medicine Specialist, Mumbai
I am a great lover of pets and of course animals especially dogs. Recently I saw a newspaper a horse killed by a poli...
For your condition I will prescribe you flower remedy available in all homoeopathy shops. Mix 12 drops willow +7 drops of star of bethelehem + 7 drops of mimulus + 7 drops of chicory + 7 drops of cherry plum. Mix these liquids in a small bottle. Consume orally 20 drops of this mixture with 50 ml water every 12 hours. This is because you are extremely emotional and have dislike to animals getting hurt or treated badly. Do not worry this condition can be treated try to build a strong will and confidence. Let me know about the result of this medicine.
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I use to wake late in the morning and I am feeling very tiered I start losing my memory I am not able to remember thing what I have to do or not. What is the prb I can not understand.

Masters in Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Lucknow
Hi, May be you can make some changes in your routine. Exercise/yoga is must in addition to healthy food - green leafy vegetables, less caffeine. Alcohol in moderation.If there is any particular kind of stress you need to learn to tackle in a healthy way. Dont skip breakfast, Beat tiredness with getting fit You can also read my health tip on improving concentration and memory by eating right.
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My problem is I unable to keep eye contact with any person, when i'm talking or listening.

MD - Alternate Medicine, BHMS
Homeopath, Surat
My problem is I unable to keep eye contact with any person, when i'm talking or listening.
Its because of nervousness. Just take deep breaths 10 times and then make contact. You will feel confidence.
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I am habitual to smoking. How can I reduce or stop my craving for smoking. Please advise.

BHMS
Homeopath, Faridabad
Hello,Smoking is injurious to health. Smoking can have serious effects on your life. The longer you smoke, the more damage you do to your body.If you want to quit smoking then take the below treatment:- take tabacum 200, 5 drops once in a week and arnica 30 ch, 5 drops once daily.Daphne indica 1x, 2 tabs twice daily. Revert me after 1 month.Thanks.
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Dearest sir/madam I am a 25 years old boy I always think negative since 7 months and it leads to high depression and I am really worried that It began from a day when a friend of mine asked my to help him regarding his studies and at the next the I had my own exam. I didn't get enough time to study well anyway I passed my exam but during studies I was always think that I won't study well I and I want remember that subject which I study since that I always think negative almost about everything I really want to overcome this problem I want some suggestions Thanks.

Masters in Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Lucknow
Dearest sir/madam
I am a 25 years old boy I always think negative since 7 months and it leads to high depression and ...
Hi you need some cognitive behavioral therapy to do reality testing of your thoughts. Its not a big problem and you will cope with it soon. One advice for time being is whenever you feel stressed or even before sleeping. Do some creative visualisation. Take deep breath and imagine yourself step by step achieving your goals. Take pride in your accomplishments.
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Am a chain smoker. Now am controlled it. But daily one or two cigarettes smoking continuous. What the way to am stopping. If any nikodin flavour chocolates available in store.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Even one or two cigarettes are harmful. Nicotine tabs are available but may not be in flavors you desire. Nicotine chewing gums are also there. The urge to discontinue is hampered by many factors but the worst of them is the conditioning. In fact these conditions can exist all through the day unlike other addictions. But your desire to want to stop is the most important factor. It is important to find out about the ill-effects of smoking to have a reason that alarms you about continuing in the habit. The information is really scary but true. The nicotine in tobacco smoke stimulates the heart beat to raise the blood pressure in no time at all. So you must avoid it like the plague: it is just very bad medicine for you. In fact it is highly toxic too. You will need to stop smoking or consuming any tobacco related items with immediate effect. You should start vigorous exercises, gradually increasing it over a period of time. Do deep breathing exercises every time you feel like smoking (try Yoga), and replace the oral urge with some healthy food substitute to satiate the need. You may also take hard candy or chewing gum. If the urge is too strong, then use nicotine chewing gum or nicotine patches, for a little while until the smoking drive reduces, substantially. You may also join Smokers Anonymous in your city where the support is really extraordinary for like-minded people who are also in the same situation. Keep yourself occupied or engaged with interesting activities during the times when it is most tempting. Keep the company of non-smokers for some time i.e. at least for the first 21 days. Above all announce it to everyone that you have quit smoking. Here’s a piece of very good advice: even if you accidentally/willfully take a cigarette, it is not the end of the world – you can start the cessation all over again. You must persevere with the best support until you defeat this addiction. Counseling is very useful in the initial stages and when temptations are at their highest.
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Hi I am 34 year old male, I used to smoke a lot few months back, now I totally quit smoking, now the problem is I am having constipation and couldn't sleep at night. I can't sleep for more then 3-4 hrs, and due to this my life is badly affected. Whole day I feel stressed and uncomfortable, please suggest me what to do.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Deal with your stress with a counselor to reduce its impact in these problems you are having. There is a remote connection between quitting smoking and constipation but this will disappear after some time. Eat a lot of fiber vegetables and fruits in the meantime. For the sleep problem, do not sleep during the day; don’t even lie down. Go for regular exercise (breathing through your nostrils only) at a fixed time (at about 6 am) every day, whether you sleep or not. You must develop this habit of sleeping by 10 pm latest every night and wake up at a uniform time by 6 am every morning, even if you do not get sleep. If you do not get sleep, just lie down and if you have a bed lamp (or you could get one) lie down and read something light but not exciting. Your eyes will tire and you will fall asleep. If you like you may also put on light and soft music with the sleep function on. Depending on whether you are a visual or auditory person, you may watch TV in a lying down position until you feel sleepy. Have a warm bath before going to bed (for some people a cold bath at night seems to induce sleep! If you are one of them, please do so). Place the head side of your bed in a North-South position. The room must be as dark as possible and there should be no electronic items that give off even a light LED glow. There must be ample ventilation in the room. Avoid strong odors, except lavender, on your body or in the room, or on your sheets and clothes. There should not be any live plants in your bedroom. Sleep with the lightest of clothes or without any clothing. When lying down to sleep, lie down on your left ear as much as possible. Do not sleep directly under an overhead fan. You must eat a good breakfast, a fairly light lunch, and an early dinner, which should be a very light meal. Whatever you eat in the other meals, have only a pure carbohydrate meal at night with any vegetables, and preferably before 8 pm. Do not drink much liquids after or near about dinner time. When lying down to sleep you may use the 4-7-8 breathing pattern of sleep inducement i. E. Breathe in for four counts through your nostril only, hold for 7 counts, and exhale with a whoosh sound, through your mouth only, for 8 counts. Repeat this four times in the morning and just before you sleep at night. If you know Emotional Freedom Technique or EFT (check this out either on YouTube or Google), then please practice this too for sleep induction. Self-hypnosis and slow relaxation techniques, at night will be tremendously useful. Acupuncture or acupressure will both be very useful too. Pray last thing at night before you sleep.
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I am 25 years old female. Actually I am depressed in so many ways. I didn't no how to get me out from all this sites please help me to recovering my problems.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I am 25 years old female. Actually I am depressed in so many ways. I didn't no how to get me out from all this sites ...
You must go and meet with a counselor immediately and if that person advises that you meet with a doctor you must do so and cooperate to your utmost. Please visit these professionals along with your parents. In the meantime please do the following sincerely because you could resolve the problem better with good cooperation: Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. I suggest you do the opposite of what this depression makes you feel like doing (actually, not doing): you will need to fight this condition. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least, 30 minutes but not in the scorching heat. Whatever happens, please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate your sufferings. Don’t wait for others to help. Use your own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but persevere and win this battle. Above all to be really happy, you need to live in love and for love. Learn all about emotions and how to handle them and that will get you out of the depression rather easily and quickly. A counselor is there only to facilitate you, all the hard word must come from you, and your cooperation with that person is very critical for your success. Be positive every day and learn to be contented with what you have. Do some left brain exercises: it is the happy brain. Here are a few suggestions: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. Whatever happens please cooperate with the therapy and do not discontinue until the condition is completely resolved.
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I am a 39 year old man. Since many days I am feeling like depression and lonely. 1) Is there any test. Which will suggest if a person really need psychiatrists Treatment. 2) Even if psychiatric treatment is must. I will try to avoid it. Because I heard that. The medicine once started will need to take forever throughout the life. IS IT TRUE. Thanks in advance for your suggestions.

MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Chennai
I am a 39 year old man. Since many days I am feeling like depression and lonely. 1) Is there any test. Which will sug...
There are depression rating scales to assess the severity. Not all people with depression need to take life long medications, only this who have chronic depression need to. Those with depressive episode especially first and second episode can be treated with a course of medications for few months. All the best.
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My husband has anger problem. He is regular abuser. He start with his talk with a bad words.in fight he hits me sometimes. I think that he is suffering from heen bhavna. He never realize that he is doing wrong.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Anger management: 10 tips to tame your temper ANGER: There is a saying "Frustration begets anger and anger begets aggression. Direct anger, is expressed toward the object perceived as the cause of the frustration. If a machine does not work, you might hit it or kick it. If someone gets in your way, you could verbally threaten them or push them aside. If the source of the frustration is too powerful or threatening for direct aggression, displaced aggression is often used. The aggression is redirected toward a less threatening and more available object. An angry person often acts without thinking. The person has given in to the frustration and they have given up restraint. Anger can be a healthy response if it motivates us to positive action but all too often the actions we engage in when angry are destructive. Indeed, if we could see a videotape of ourselves getting angry, the humiliation might well help cure us of anger. When you feel frustration building, you have to practice learned responses that lead to healthy actions instead of destructive ones. GIVING UP: Giving up on a goal can be productive if the goal is truly out of reach. However, more often giving up (quitting or being apathetic) is another form of giving in to frustration. When repeatedly frustrated, people can drop out of school, quit jobs, or move away. Apathy is giving up all of your goals, so you cannot be frustrated by trying to reach them. We live in difficult time and we have to be persistent in order to accomplish. Consider how many projects you began, and then gave up, because you became frustrated and lost patience. Make a list of things you started and quit because they seemed too difficult. Now calculate the disappointment and loss you suffered by not dealing with the frustration in a more healthy way. Try to remember that quitters never win, and winners never quit. Losing your temper means you're a quitter. LOSS OF CONFIDENCE: is a terrible frequent side effect of giving up and not fulfilling your goal. A loss of self-confidence and self-esteem, means that If we quit once, then the next time we plan a goal, we may not be able to accurately assess our ability to carry it out and we stop trusting ourselves and our own abilities. This became a self-fulfilling and self-destructive attitude. You need to be able to learn that when the going gets tough, you say to yourself "It is worth it! and by following through, it not only gets the job done, but it builds self-confidence. STRESS: is the "wear and tear" our body and mind experiences as we adjust to the frustrations our continually changing environment. Too frequently, extreme, or prolonged frustration and stress strains us and generates distress signals. Our body experiences distress signals in a variety of ways, often in the form of: irritability, anger, fatigue anxiety, headache, depression, stomach aches, hypertension, migraines, ulcers, heart attacks, or colitis. DEPRESSION: Depression can affect almost every aspect of your life. It affects people of all ages, income, race, and cultures. Depression can affect the way you eat and sleep the way you feel about yourself, the way one think about things, and the way you interact with others. While we all feel depression at various appropriate times in our lives, excess or inappropriate depression cannot be easily dismissed or wished away. OTHER REACTIONS: abuse of drugs & alcohol is self-destructive and usually futile attempt at dealing with frustration, as are many eating and weight problems and addictions Whenever the immediate effects of the addictive behaviour wear off, users find themselves back in the same, or even worse, frustrating situation. Anger is among the gamut of emotions we exhibit as a reaction to a situation, and it is a 'normal' emotion too as long as it is kept under control. Some people have the propensity to explode when pushed to the extreme. They keep swallowing their emotions until they can finally do it no more, and erupt like a volcano. Others dealing with extreme anger are like a ticking time bomb. You'll never know what you unwittingly say or do can trigger an explosion. In either case, anger that cannot be controlled comes with a physical reaction. Your heart beats faster preparing you for both action and reaction. Your breathing quickens. You may clench your fist, tighten your shoulders and go into a defensive position. The problem arises out of the fact that it is almost impossible to feel anger and empathy at the same time. An angry person is seldom sensitive to the wellbeing of his victim, and hence may lash out verbally and sometimes physically. Such things done in the heat of the moment mostly leaves us with regrets. So here are a few ways to deal with extreme anger. 1.Approve it / Acknowledge it: The first step in solving a problem is recognizing that you have one. The fundamental problem here is that people believe they are on the right track and refuse to budge from their views. It is essential to realize that this step is not about deciding whether you are right or wrong, but acknowledging the fact that your reaction to the situation can be channelled in a better way. When getting someone to acknowledge their anger problem, be careful as to not use negative words like wrong, false and shouldn't. Instead, influence with positive words like can and should. Instead of saying 'You are wrong to react like this' you can say, 'I understand what you are feeling. Is there a way we can resolve this situation? 2.Understand / recognize the signs: Once you know that your problems exist, you can try devising ways that will work for you in dealing with the situation. You can count to 100 to calm yourself or simply decide to not speak until you can calm yourself. Knowing that you may enter into an argument in a situation, you can list down the points that you feel strongly about and discuss each of them one by one. Working your way through a finite list gives a better opportunity to reach closure at the end. 3.Free the mind/Find ways to let it go: Not all arguments end in closure. A lot of unsaid justifications cloud our mind repeatedly leaving us seething from the inside. Research has shown that the normal or neurological anger response lasts less than two seconds. Beyond that it takes a strong will to stay angry. Once you realize how much your anger is consuming your mind, decide to free your mind with meditation and other calming exercises. Tell yourself that some people and issues simply don't deserve your anger, emotion, reaction or time. If you or someone you know is suffering from anger management issues, consult a doctor today. Anger is good. It protects you. But intense, uncontrolled anger may destroy valuable relationships. Anger is a result of anxiety and fear. When we assume that our expectations will not be met, we become anxious. When we feel unsure about our own capabilities we become anxious. This anxiety creates fear. Anxiety comes from our beliefs. All beliefs can be modified. Anger has lots of energy. Avoid arguments/confrontations when you are very angry. When you are very angry you are likely to use rough language which may damage your relations and you are likely to behave impulsively. All this you might regret later on. Following are a few techniques which will help you to manage your anger in difficult situations: 1.Sit down and have a glass of water, slowly. This will help you to calm down a little. 2.Avoid or go away from that room or situation. Tell the people concerned, that you are angry and would like to discuss it some other time. 3.Deep breathing exercises help a lot. Close your eyes, take 10 deep breaths, turn your attention towards your body. See what is happening to your body. Tell your body muscles to relax. If your heart is beating fast, if you are breathing fast, continue deep breathing, till it normalises. 4.Now understand what is making you angry. Understand your own anxiety and fear related to the issue. 5.Let the other person know how you are “feeling”. Start your statements, “I feel hurt/insulted/let down/neglected etc. When you do this”, instead of saying “You hurt/neglect me”. When you express your feeling in this manner, the other person does not feel blamed, which makes the other person more receptive. 6.Focus on the current issue, don’t bring in past situations. 7.Tell the other person, what you want or expect, instead of telling what you do not want. E.G. Instead of saying “I don’t want you to go out now”, say “I would like you to stay at home today”. 8.Listen carefully what the other person wants to tell you. Give others a chance to voice their opinions. 9.Make an eye contact and be firm but polite while communicating your point of view. 10.Understand everyone’s responsibility in the situation. Try to see, what is your share in the problematic situation? Work on that. 11.Understand what change you want. 12.Have realistic expectations from others and also from yourself. If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult me by clicking consult option.
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I feel sometimes emotionally challenged due to love. What should I do? She does not love me and I want to forget. please help.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I feel sometimes emotionally challenged due to love. What should I do? She does not love me and I want to forget. ple...
If she does not love you, then there is no use wasting time and energy on her. A relationship has to be two way. You have to consider a someone who did not exist and move on. The fact is that you need to love someone who appreciates you and wants to love you back in return. Since this girl does not love you, there is no point pining for her. This does not make her a bad girl: she just does not fancy you or whatever. You cannot force her to love you. So just carry on with life. You can talk about your feelings to someone but do not talk ill of her. Over a period of time you will get over her and may even kick yourself for having lost yourself in such a girl because there will be many lovely girls you will meet in life and they will all be different. In that midst you will find your true love.
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