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From some months I feel bad towards my sexual activity. I think again and again same thing about girls. I don't want to think that things but I can't.why?

From some months I feel bad towards my sexual activity. I think again and again same thing about girls. I don't want ...
Hello and welcome to Lybrate. I have reviewed your query and here is my advice. You may be having OCD. I suggest telephonic counseling and online psychotherapy for you.
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Pornography - Does It Impacts The Sexual Life?

Pornography - Does It Impacts The Sexual Life?

The stereotype about pornography is that they are meant for single men who surf the web whenever they are lonely, which, in turn, testifies to the fact that it is the only pastime to overcome solitude. But the reality is that people who are in steady relationships also consume porn which brings the question of whether pornography affects the quality of their relationship.

Popular media has been cautioning youngsters against porn addiction since it may lead to men objectifying their female counterparts and having desires that expect them to behave like porn stars. But studies conclude that most young men and about half the women population think that watching pornography does no harm to their relationship.

The disagreement between men and women:
In most cases, men and women show disagreement on two issues: first, how porn is consumed, i.e., alone or with a partner or in groups and secondly, the frequency of its consumption. Young men enjoy watching porn with their peers and their porn choice tends to be different from older men and women. Some might enjoy extreme scenes with all sorts of humiliation including bondage sex and find such things enjoyable where they can together have fun just like the women present in the act. On the other hand, older men mostly love watching porn with their partners and prefer stuff showcasing instances where the female in the film is filled with desire and enjoys every bit of the act.

Understanding the effects of pornography on a relationship:
It is time to consider whether consuming pornography is really as benign as people think it to be. Let us take a deeper look at it:

Relationships without pornography consumption are much stable and stronger:
In a research conducted in America comprising men and women aged between 18 and 34 who were in a relationship, the researchers took into consideration the intensities of negative communication, dedication, level of commitment, sexual satisfaction and infidelity. It was found that people who didn’t indulge in pornography suffered from lower levels of negative communication while having higher levels of physical satisfaction.

Indulging in porn consumption reduces commitment:
The researchers also found that watching porn makes a person vulnerable to the thoughts of all the prospective sex partners which can lower down the amount of fidelity and dedication that you have for your soul mate. It may also make you disinterested in the person lying right beside you in the bed in favour of a person you are fantasizing.

There is no harm in watching porn but the key word here is the frequency. You can consume porn but make sure it doesn’t interfere with your personal relationship and ruin anything between you and your partner.

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What is the treatment for nymphomania as my friend's mother has excessive sexual desire. Her age is 51.

What is the treatment for nymphomania as my friend's mother has excessive sexual desire. Her age is 51.
Hello friend, thanks for reaching out here for help. Sexual desire are controlled by hormone in the body. As per Ayurveda imbalance of fire energy or pitta can influence hormonal flow in the body to cause such symptoms along with anxiety, stress, mood swing, irritation, hurtful speech. In turn, it's an outburst or expression of stress in mind. She may need a few stress management solutions, few lifestyle changes, relaxation techniques along with counseling support to overcome this problem. Be positive. She will be alright soon. Feel free reach me online or through Lybrate chat for further assistance.
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Hypersexuality - Everything You Should Know!

Hypersexuality - Everything You Should Know!

When a person is preoccupied with physical fantasies to the point of dysfunction for at least six months, he or she suffers from hyper sexuality. Hyper sexuality is also known as nymphomania or compulsive sexual behavior. These sexual fantasies are usually combined with a compulsive pursuit of non-intimate or casual sex, excessive masturbation habit, pornography, objective partner sex and romantic intensity.

It is more complex than just having an unusually high sex drive because sexual activity gives the addict an intense feeling of euphoria, suppressing other thoughts which cause distress, self-loathing and shame. This interferes with the daily regimen of activities. Treatment and management of sex addiction is imperative because it is disruptive and harmful not just to you but also to others.It also damages relationships, careers and self-esteem. 

People suffering from hyper sexuality exhibit the following symptoms: 

1. They engage in compulsive masturbation
2. They frequently hire prostitutes
3. Usage of phone sex services excessively
4. They have multiple extramarital affairs
5. They plan out sexual activities excessively
6. They engage in one night stands frequently
7. They are emotionally detached from their sexual partners
8. They prefer unprotected sex
9. They obsess about an unattainable sexual partner
10. They show tendencies of paraphilia

The primary and identifiable causes of hyper sexuality are as follows:

1. Biochemical imbalances in neurotransmitters and nervous system disorders
2. Medical conditions that damage certain parts of the brain of affect brain functioning
3. Overproduction of hormones such as androgens (present in males and females) 
4. Being predisposed to hyper sexuality due to genes 
5. Altered neural pathways
6. Suffering from childhood abuse
7. Dysfunctional family dynamics

Sexual addiction is believed to be a dysfunctional adult response towards emotional or character regulatory deficits and innate personality as well as abuse, early detachment disorders and trauma. Hyper sexuality is a symptom of a lot of mental disorders such as bipolar disorder, adult attention deficit disorder or obsessive compulsive disorder. 

Sex addicts usually do not seek treatment for their addiction until the consequences of their activities are dire and have an overt negative effect on their health, relationships, finances and career. Since addicts feel ashamed and despise themselves, they usually do not seek help until they hit rock bottom. However, it is crucial to treat this disorder in order to lead a happy and fulfilling life where one is not controlled by their addiction.  You can also take the package for having safe sex.

Hyper sexuality can be treated using the following methods:

  1. Psychotherapy
  2. Group Therapy
  3. Family and couples therapy
  4. Support groups
  5. Self-help groups
  6. Medications
    1. Antidepressants
    2. Anti-androgens
    3. Luteinizing hormone releasing hormone (LHRH)
    4. Mood Stabilizers
    5. Naltrexone
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Porn - Why You Need To Quit To Enjoy Your Sex Life?

Porn  - Why You Need To Quit To Enjoy Your Sex Life?

As they say, it is all in the mind. The chemical and psychological correlation between the brain and intercourse is way too high. Arousal and physical gratification are chemical reactions and with watching porn, what starts as an innocent indulgence can play a major role in these chemical pathways and alter the natural course of things.

What many people don’t realize is that by watching too much porn, the mind’s channeling is affected and therefore the levels of satisfaction are altered. Read on to know some ways that porn harmfully affects your body.

  1. Personal disconnect: By watching too much porn, a person does not need a partner to get aroused and satisfied. In most cases, the porn and the re-runs of it induce the arousal and gratification. Therefore, when there is an actual partner involved, their role is minimalized and therefore they feel neglected. The partner never feels wanted or satisfied in these relationships.
  2. Kills libido: Because the person connect is so less, there is no drive to enjoy a good sexual relationship. The partner is not required to turn the addicted person on and so there is no sex drive. There is no role for cajoling, cuddling, or anything that gets personal. It is a mechanical process, and therefore, for the partner, it can be a very harrowing experience. The definition of “normal” keeps changing and evolving for the porn watcher, which may not be easily accepted by the partner. This can lead to a lot of expectation mismatch and failing relationships.
  3. Short-lived: Because watching porn is all about satisfying the urge for yourself, it is only that in the mind. There is no consideration for foreplay or intimacy or what the other person could be wanting. This makes it very selfish, leaving a wide gap in terms of loss of intimacy, which is very much expected here.
  4. Playing it rough: Most people who watch porn gradually move to violent forms of sex and therefore expect to follow it in their lives too. This again can lead to forced impersonal sexual experiences which leave both the partners very unhappy.
  5. Mechanical: In most porn watchers, the end result is not to enjoy the whole act but to reach a high and be done with it. This makes it mechanical, again adding to the bitterness in the relationship.
  6. Selfish behavior: As noted in all of the above instances, it always becomes too much of what one person wants. There is very less consideration for the partner, which makes your relationship unhealthy.

So, while watching porn is one’s personal decision, but watching it within a certain limit may keep you from its side effects, and not let it rule your sexual expectations.

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Hello doctor, I want to decrease sexual desires in me. I am always feeling unsatisfied with my partner. But I love her very much so that I want to decrease my sexual potential so that I will not get frustrated of being unsatisfied sexual life.

Hello doctor, I want to decrease sexual desires in me. I am always feeling unsatisfied with my partner. But I love he...
Dear user. There are many psychological causes of low female sex drive, including: mental health problems, such as anxiety or depression. Stress, such as financial stress or work stress. Poor body image. Low self-esteem. History of physical or sexual abuse. Previous negative sexual experiences. I suggest counseling for her. Take care.
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I am a 22 years old male. I feel sexually attracted to my own sister. I had some mild feelings since childhood, but it became strong since teenage. I started feeling to be loved her sometimes feel guilty about it. But, I could not control myself.

I am a 22 years old male. I feel sexually attracted to my own sister. I had some mild feelings since childhood, but i...
Hello and welcome to Lybrate. I have reviewed your query and here is my advice. If you have sexual affinity towards your sister, you have to change your thinking pattern. Cognitive restructuring or brain rewiring will help you. I suggest telephonic counseling for you. You can contact me for further advice and treatment options. Let me know if I can assist you further. Take care.
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Good morning doctor. I have faced some problem. I do not have control on my sex feelings I am student can't constant my studies please tell me the solution.

Good morning doctor. I have faced some problem. I do not have control on my sex feelings I am student can't constant ...
Dear lybrate-user, first of all you have to make you busy in some work or studies or else you can join gym also and avoid watching porn video .do meditation for mental strength daily to increase your focus and willpower to quit masturbation. Whenever thoughts of masturbation comes to your mind, replace these thoughts by good thoughts by saying or teaching your mind that these thoughts are not good for health and sex. Slowly and steadily, you will definitely win over masturbation. For more information please consult us privately on Lybrate.
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Symptoms And Treatment Of Sexual Addiction!

Symptoms And Treatment Of Sexual Addiction!

While sex is an important part of an adult’s life, it may also come with a number of problems for certain people. Sexual addiction is a problem faced by many and includes a wide range of behavioural patterns when it comes to sex and excessive indulgence in the same. This condition may impact the life of an individual in a significant and even debilitating manner. While many people may confuse this with mere addiction to porn, this is not true. Let us find out more.

Types of Sexual Addiction: There are a number of ways in which sexual addiction may be characterised. As mentioned above, it does not merely include addiction to pornography or any other aspect of sex. It may include an addiction of one or multiple aspects, which include pornography as well. The various forms of sexual addiction include pornography addiction, addiction to fantasy or masturbation, addiction to sadistic behaviour, addition to prostitution, and other excess sexual activities and pursuits like exhibitionism.

Symptoms and Signs: There are a number of physical and emotional symptoms and signs of this condition. The patients suffering from this condition may end up isolating or alienating their partners, which is one of the most common giveaways of this condition. They may also go from one relationship to another in no time at all, with multiple partners in many cases. Also, they will not really have healthy relationships with their partners because of their fantasy based perceptions when it comes to sex. The physical symptoms of this condition include falling prey to venereal diseases and infections on a frequent basis, as well as the exposure to unwanted pregnancy in at least 70% of the cases, as per many medical reports. Anxiety, depression and substance abuse are also some of the common outcomes of this kind of addiction.

Treatment: Sexual addiction and sexual dependency can be treated by first of all treating the physical manifestations of this condition and its symptoms like infections and other ailments. This will be done with the help of medication in most cases. Further, the patient will be put through CBT or cognitive behavioural therapy as well as other forms of sex therapy so that the evaluator or psychologist may find the root cause behind the condition.

This kind of therapy usually follows the route of exhaustive discussions in which the patient will be asked to talk about his or her emotions and problems. These will then be used in order to reprogram the attitude and thinking of the patient. In such cases, the patient will also be encouraged to invest time and effort in the emotional side of a committed relationship so that the dependency on sex may reduce.

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Hi, For last 3 or 4 years whenever I look at a girl young or an old lady I look at their breasat automatically, even though I do not want to my eyes automatically goes on boobs I can not control it. Its embracing me daily in day to day life. Example-once I went to dominos and the order counter girl noticed I was looking at her boobs she went to next counter and send that counter boy. That was so embracing. I know its not a disease like a physical disease, so I do not think I there is any medicine. It has to be some mental problem. And yes I tried all those google tips and trickslike looking at the eyebrow or colour of the eyes etc, nothing works. So any hope for me?

Hi, For last 3 or 4 years whenever I look at a girl young or an old lady I look at their breasat automatically, even ...
Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is a common mental health problem. Symptoms typically include recurring thoughts and repetitive actions in response to the recurring thoughts. A common example is recurring thoughts about germs and dirt, with a need to wash your hands repeatedly to "clean off the germs" However, there are many other examples like sexual thoughts, counting, checking, orderliness, etc. The usual treatments are cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), a selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI) antidepressant medicine, or both. Treatment often works well to reduce the symptoms and distress of OCD greatly. All the best.
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