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How Relationship Counsellor Can Help You?

Dr. P Gupta 87% (10 ratings)
Ph. D - Psychology
Psychologist, Jammu
How Relationship Counsellor Can Help You?

Marriage is perhaps the most important relation in an adult’s life. That’s why it needs extra care and attention, especially when things are not exactly gung ho. This is where marriage or marital therapy comes in.

Marriage counseling is the process of counseling the married couple to recognize and to reconcile or at least manage differences and repeating patterns of stress upon the marital relationship.

Basic practices of marital therapy

  1. The basic practices of marital therapy focus primarily on the process of communicating. Counselors use a method called active listening.
  2. Another method used is called “Cinematic immersion”. Both these methods have one important thing in common- they help counselors create a safe environment where each partner can express feelings and hear the feelings of the other.
  3. Emotionally focused therapy for couples or EFT-C is also used. This is based on attachment theory and uses emotion as an agent of change and target, both.
  4. Behavioral couples’ therapy is another method used. It is actually a proven way out of marital discord. This method focuses on integrating the twin goals of acceptance and change for couples in therapy.

The successful couples usually make concrete changes to accommodate the needs of the partner and also show greater emotional acceptance of the other.

Role of the relationship counselor
A couple therapist is usually someone with a degree in psychiatry or counseling. And her primary role is to listen, understand and facilitate better communication between the couple. The counselor also:

  1. Provides a confidential tete-a tete, which normalizes feelings
  2. Enables each partner to be heard and to hear themselves
  3. Works as a mirror to reflect the marriage’s difficulties to the partners
  4. Outlines the potential and direction for change
  5. Delivers important information
  6. Improves communication
  7. Identifies the repetitive, negative interaction cycle that drives a problematic marriage as a pattern
  8. Understands the source of emotions behind that negative pattern
  9. Re-organizes these key emotional responses to offset the pattern
  10. Creates new patterns of interaction
  11. Increases emotional attachment between partners

When should you seek marital therapy?

  1. When you avoid communicating or your communication has become negative- This usually means bad language, verbal abuse, and sometimes physical abuse.
  2. When you or your partner have sought out other sexual partners – Marital therapy can save a marriage after an affair if both partners want and work out the kinks in their relationship.
  3. Lack of intimacy in the marriage- This is the stage when partners just occupy the same space without communication, or exchange of feelings or touch.

Marriage counseling is a long process. And another thing to remember is that it can’t save a marriage that is unsalvageable. So, go in for marital therapy with an aim to do what’s the best for you and your partner.

In case you have a concern or query you can always consult an expert & get answers to your questions!

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Marriage Counselling: Role of the Relationship Counselor

Dr. Sampada Kathuria 93% (51 ratings)
MS - Counselling & Psychotherapy, BA - Psychology, MA - Counseling & Psychology
Psychologist, Delhi
Marriage Counselling: Role of the Relationship Counselor

Marriage is perhaps the most important relation in an adult’s life. That’s why it needs extra care and attention, especially when things are not exactly gung ho. This is where marriage or marital therapy comes in.

Marriage counseling is the process of counseling the married couple to recognize and to reconcile or at least manage differences and repeating patterns of stress upon the marital relationship.

Basic practices of marital therapy

  1. The basic practices of marital therapy focus primarily on the process of communicating. Counselors use a method called active listening.
  2. Another method used is called “Cinematic immersion”. Both these methods have one important thing in common- they help counselors create a safe environment where each partner can express feelings and hear the feelings of the other.
  3. Emotionally focused therapy for couples or EFT-C is also used. This is based on attachment theory and uses emotion as an agent of change and target, both.
  4. Behavioral couples’ therapy is another method used. It is actually a proven way out of marital discord. This method focuses on integrating the twin goals of acceptance and change for couples in therapy.

The successful couples usually make concrete changes to accommodate the needs of the partner and also show greater emotional acceptance of the other.

Role of the relationship counselor
A couple therapist is usually someone with a degree in psychiatry or counseling. And her primary role is to listen, understand and facilitate better communication between the couple. The counselor also:

  1. Provides a confidential tete-a tete, which normalizes feelings
  2. Enables each partner to be heard and to hear themselves
  3. Works as a mirror to reflect the marriage’s difficulties to the partners
  4. Outlines the potential and direction for change
  5. Delivers important information
  6. Improves communication
  7. Identifies the repetitive, negative interaction cycle that drives a problematic marriage as a pattern
  8. Understands the source of emotions behind that negative pattern
  9. Re-organizes these key emotional responses to offset the pattern
  10. Creates new patterns of interaction
  11. Increases emotional attachment between partners

When should you seek marital therapy?

  1. When you avoid communicating or your communication has become negative- This usually means bad language, verbal abuse, and sometimes physical abuse.
  2. When you or your partner have sought out other sexual partners – Marital therapy can save a marriage after an affair if both partners want and work out the kinks in their relationship.
  3. Lack of intimacy in the marriage- This is the stage when partners just occupy the same space without communication, or exchange of feelings or touch.

Marriage counseling is a long process. And another thing to remember is that it can’t save a marriage that is unsalvageable. So, go in for marital therapy with an aim to do what’s the best for you and your partner.

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Can anyone suggest a good relationship counselor in India who provides online counseling? Thanks in advance.

Dr. K V Anand 94% (26133 ratings)
BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology, Positive Psychiatry and Mental Health
Psychologist, Palakkad
Can anyone suggest a good relationship counselor in India who provides online counseling? Thanks in advance.
Dear user. I understand. If you want online relationship counseling, I can suggest myself for the same. I have more than 15 years of experience in many areas of counseling especially relationship counseling. Before online counseling provide all details of the relationship issues to me. Take care.
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When To Approach A Marriage Counselor?

Dr. Nisha Khanna 88% (51 ratings)
Ph. D - Psychology
Psychologist, Delhi
When To Approach A Marriage Counselor?

Relationship Counselling/ Marriage counselling is usually considered as a last option for the couple. A list of reasons that you should approach Relationship Counsellor/ Marriage Counsellor.  if :

  • you are in the early stages when the first trouble arises.
  • you usually feel unhappy and helpless in the relationship or marriage.
  • you are on the edge of break up.
  • you are in a bad relationship or marriage.
  • you are in emotional/mental/physical torture.
  • you are going through a phase of stress, depression etc.
  • you are not getting respect in the relationship.
  • you are quietly suffering and hoping the relationship will survive.
  • you are begging him or her to change.
  • you are promising him or her that you will change (although you don’t want to)
  • you can’t be honest about your feelings and can’t talk about them freely with your partner.
  • you are afraid of your partner’s temper, so you avoid making him/her angry.

Marriage Counselling - How The Counsellor Will Help You?

Ph.D Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Ranchi
Marriage Counselling - How The Counsellor Will Help You?

Marriage is perhaps the most important relation in an adult’s life. That’s why it needs extra care and attention, especially when things are not exactly gung ho. This is where marriage or marital therapy comes in. 
Marriage counseling is the process of counseling the married couple to recognize and to reconcile or at least manage differences and repeating patterns of stress upon the marital relationship.

Basic practices of marital therapy

  1. The basic practices of marital therapy focus primarily on the process of communicating. Counselors use a method called active listening.
  2. Another method used is called “Cinematic immersion”. Both these methods have one important thing in common- they help counselors create a safe environment where each partner can express feelings and hear the feelings of the other.
  3. Emotionally focused therapy for couples or EFT-C is also used. This is based on attachment theory and uses emotion as an agent of change and target, both.
  4. Behavioral couples’ therapy is another method used. It is actually a proven way out of marital discord. This method focuses on integrating the twin goals of acceptance and change for couples in therapy.

The successful couples usually make concrete changes to accommodate the needs of the partner and also show greater emotional acceptance of the other.

Role of the relationship counselor
A couple therapist is usually someone with a degree in psychiatry or counseling. And her primary role is to listen, understand and facilitate better communication between the couple. The counselor also:

  1. Provides a confidential tete-a tete, which normalizes feelings
  2. Enables each partner to be heard and to hear themselves
  3. Works as a mirror to reflect the marriage’s difficulties to the partners
  4. Outlines the potential and direction for change
  5. Delivers important information
  6. Improves communication
  7. Identifies the repetitive, negative interaction cycle that drives a problematic marriage as a pattern
  8. Understands the source of emotions behind that negative pattern
  9. Re-organizes these key emotional responses to offset the pattern
  10. Creates new patterns of interaction
  11. Increases emotional attachment between partners

When should you seek marital therapy?

  1. When you avoid communicating or your communication has become negative- This usually means bad language, verbal abuse, and sometimes physical abuse.
  2. When you or your partner have sought out other sexual partners – Marital therapy can save a marriage after an affair if both partners want and work out the kinks in their relationship.
  3. Lack of intimacy in the marriage- This is the stage when partners just occupy the same space without communication, or exchange of feelings or touch.

Marriage counseling is a long process. And another thing to remember is that it can’t save a marriage that is unsalvageable. So, go in for marital therapy with an aim to do what’s the best for you and your partner.

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Role Of A Family Counsellor!

Dr. Nisha Khanna 88% (51 ratings)
Ph. D - Psychology
Psychologist, Delhi
Role Of A Family Counsellor!

Family Counselling or Family Therapy is a treatment designed to deal with specific issues affecting the dynamic and functioning of a family. It is used to help a family through difficult phases, major changes, emotional, behavioural or mental health problems amongst family members.

A family counsellor is a ‘neutral’ or an objective individual whose main role present in a family counselling session is to help undo the troubled relations of a family. They help members of the family to communicate effectively, to understand the other family member’s perspective and to bridge the gap or differences between the family members.

Objectives of a Family Counsellor

  • Having a healthy discussion on issues troubling the family.
  • Diagnosing the mental and/or emotional issues.
  • Finding effective treatment strategies to alleviate the client/family’s problem.

How can a Family Counsellor help you?

  • If a member of the family suffers from any severe mental illness like schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, substance abuse disorder, etc. the family counsellor can help the other family members understand and psycho-educate and teach them ways to adjust to the psychological changes that their family member may be undergoing.
  • The family counsellor can help with issues arising from generation-gap between child-parent, child-grandparent, child-step parent, child-guardian, etc.
  • The family counsellor can help with issues arising from divorce families, blended families, nuclear families, joint families, etc.
  • The family counsellor can also help with unmarried parents, live in relationships, LGBT couples raising a family, cross- culture or religious background families, etc.
  • The family counsellor can also help with issues stemming outside the family like societal attitudes.
  • The family counsellor can also deal with issues when a member is being the scapegoat, is struggling with feelings of outcast or is receiving very little support from other members of the family, etc.
  • The family counsellor helps with developing empathy and understanding towards each member of the family.
  • The family counsellor helps with addressing each and every issue contributing to the problem.
  • Family counsellor helps in solving the effects of any pattern of problems.

More importantly, Family Counselling / Family Therapy aids in improving the family relationships by:

  • Getting the family closer post, a crisis.
  • Developing honesty between every family member.
  • Developing trust between every family member.
  • Developing a supportive and empathetic family environment.
  • Reducing sources of tension and stress within the family.
  • Helping family members get over painful past.
  • Encouraging family members to forgive each other.
  • Developing conflict resolution for issues in the family.

 

Know Your Attachment Style that Rules Your Relationship? - Marriage Tips by Counsellor Shivani

Ms. Shivani Misri Sadhoo 87% (50 ratings)
Post graduate in counselling psychology
Psychologist,
Know Your Attachment Style that Rules Your Relationship? - Marriage Tips by  Counsellor Shivani

Do you know every relationship we hold in our life is governed by our attachment style and it’s our style of attachment (security, anxiety, dismissive etc) that affects everything from our partner selection to how well our relationships progress or how they end?

That is why recognising our attachment pattern can help us understand our strengths and vulnerabilities in a relationship. 

For example, the person with a working model of anxious/preoccupied attachment style feels that in order to get close to someone and have your needs met; you need to be with your partner all the time and get reassurances. To support this perception of reality, they choose someone who is isolated and hard to connect with. Similarly, when there is a secure attachment pattern, a person is confident and self-possessed and is able to easily interact with others, meeting their own and other's need as well.

Delhi's eminent Marriage & Relationship Expert (Counsellor) Shivani Misri Sadhoo shares the different style of attachment that governs every relationship are :-

Secure Attachment Style– Securely attached people tend to be more satisfied in their relationships. A secure adult has a similar relationship with their romantic partner, feels secure and connected while allowing themselves and their partner to move freely.

Secure adults offer support when their partner feels distressed. They also go to their partner for comfort when they themselves feel troubled. Their relationship tends, to be honest, open and equal, with both people feeling independent, yet loving toward each other. 

 

Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment –Unlike securely attached couples, people with an anxious attachment tend to be desperate to form a fantasy bond. Instead of feeling the real love or trust toward their partner, they often feel emotional hunger. They’re frequently looking to their partner to rescue or complete them. Although they’re seeking a sense of safety and security by clinging to their partner, their actions at times, push their partner away.

Even though anxiously attached individuals feel unsure of their partner’s feelings and unsafe in their relationship, they often become clingy, demanding or possessive toward their partner. 

 

Fearful-Avoidant Attachment – A person with a fearful avoidant attachment lives in an ambivalent state, in which they are afraid of being both too close to or too distant from others.  They attempt to keep their feelings at bay but are unable to do so. They can’t just avoid their anxiety and/or run away from their feelings. Instead, they are overwhelmed by their reactions and often experience emotional storms. 

They tend to be mixed up or unpredictable in their moods. They see their relationships from the working model that you need to go toward others to get your needs met, but if you get close to others, they will hurt you. In other words, the person they want to go to for safety is the same person they are frightened to be close with. As a result, they have no organized strategy for getting their needs met by others.

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Steps to Keeping Your Cool and Saving Your Relationships - Tips by Relationship Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo

Ms. Shivani Misri Sadhoo 87% (50 ratings)
Post graduate in counselling psychology
Psychologist,
Steps to Keeping Your Cool and Saving Your Relationships - Tips by Relationship Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo
You may image or you might already have experienced this situation - one unfortunate day your best friend or co-worker or your partner tell you something insulting, hurts you, screams at you and you forget that moment that they might be suffering from a momentary mood swing or they might have miss-understood you and YOU DON’T WAIT and insult them back, scream back at them – risking, weakening or even destroying your relationships.

Relationship counsellor Shivani Sadhoo suggests that when we are under anger attack from our loved ones, the first instinct that works for us is – either to fight back immediately or getting shocked or surprised how to react – these two reactions generally make the situation worse.

The right thing one should practice is MINDFULNESS. That is building the ability to judge and understand the crisis situation first and then react accordingly. Here are some simple steps to improve your interpersonal skills and to save your valuable relationships in the time of a fight.

Identify your impulse that precedes your anger response.

When you get angry the moment prior reacting to our anger our body shows some impulse, i.e. sensation that rises up through our body prior launching anger reaction—these impulses are like - rapid heartbeat, feeling heat in your ears , raising your voice, clenching your jaw (different people have different kind of impulses). When you can pick up on these warning signs, you can give yourself time to make a deliberate choice. At that moment, you are practicing anger management.

Control the impulse.

The goal is to keep your body and mind in control if you're quick to fight, give yourself a time-out: shift your focus on your body instead. Concentrate on feeling the heat beneath you, then take long deep breaths from your diaphragm; try inhaling through your nose on a count of two, holding till six and exhaling through your mouth on seven.

Accept extreme anger is wrong

Many of us believe the expression of anger is a sign of strength or an instrument of self-defence. It is true to some extent BUT when anger gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to all kind of problems —problems at work, in our personal relationships, worsens our BP & heart condition and in the overall quality of your life. It can make you feel as though you are at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion. Remember that unless we accept extreme anger is BAD no matter what we practice or think, we cannot improve ourselves and lead a healthy and happy life.


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Sexual dysfunction-overview BEST Sex problem Counsellor & Sex Therapist in ALLAHABAD

Dr. B K Kashyap 89% (111 ratings)
Bachelor of Ayurveda, Medicine and Surgery (BAMS)
Sexologist, Allahabad
Sexual dysfunction-overview   BEST Sex problem Counsellor & Sex Therapist in ALLAHABAD

Sexual dysfunction-overview

Definition:

Sex is one of the basic instincts of human life. It is as important as food, clothing and shelter. Sex is not just for human reproduction or making babies, but it is also a mode of physical and mental relaxation. Lack of proper sex education by our government and educational institutions has led to mushrooming of quacks, hakims, vaids & unqualified sex specialists. This is one of the major reasons fo a Dr B K Kashyap qualified in male sexual diseases to overcome to rescue of the patients of northern India in tackling their sexual problems. Following are the few quaries and their answers which one comes across in sexual medicine practice.

As many as one third of all men experience some form of difficulty during sexual activity, yet only a few take the step forward to seek treatment for the same. It can be embarrassing to discuss one's sexual problems with a physician but patients must understand that if this gives an effective solution in the end, it is well worth the effort.

Male sexual dysfunction can be described as any form of difficulty in the sexual activity that prevents the concerned man (or the couple) from experiencing satisfaction. Sexual activity can be divided into phases of excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution and the problem can be related to any of these phases. The result can be any of the following: loss of libido, erectile dysfunction, ejaculation problems such as premature / retarded / retrograde ejaculation or absence of orgasm. The good news is that male sexual dysfunction is treatable with Ayurved Dr B K Kashyap and the response is we have been treating patients years now and have had good results in most cases. We strongly advocate

that patients share their concerns with their partner as well as the treating physician to get the best results. In addition, it is advisable that patients take adequate steps early on because seeking timely treatment can help to prevent any complications in their personal lives due to sexual dysfunction.

• Causes of sexual weakness / E.D. :-

• How does erection occur :

• Ayurved treatment Approach:

Ayurved Approach:


Erectile dysfunction (E.D.) :-
Erectile dysfunction (ED), a more precise term for impotence, has ben defines as the inability of the male sexual performance. A more specific defination diagnosis of E.D. is the persistent of repeated inability for atleast three months to attain sexual performance.

Premature ejaculation :-


It means uncontrolled ejaculation/semen emission before or shortly after the enters the vagina during sexual intercourse.

How does erection occur :-

For erection to occur, several parts of the body must together. The brain sends messages to control the nerves, hormone levels, blood flow and muscles that cause and erection. If anything interferes with these messages or if any part of the system does not function correctly; an errection will not occur.

The brain controls all sexual functions, from preceiving arousal to initiating and controlling the psychological , hormonal, nerve and blood flow changes that lead to an errection.

Arteries deliver the extra blood to the penis that causes it to stiffen, veins then drain the blood out of the penis after intercourse.

Nerve impulses relay signals of arousal and sensation to and from the penis.

Hormone, including testosterone, control the male sex drive. Testosterone is secreted by the testicles.

Investigation required to know the exact cause of sexual weakness/E.D. :-

a) Physical Examinaton
b) Blood Test & Urine Test
c) Pipe Test
d) Penile blood flow studies
e) Sleep monitoring

Misconceptions in our society related with sexual weakness/E.D .
Ans:
a) Does Masterbation cause weakness ?
Ans: NO

b) Can the size of Penis decrease with age ?
Ans: NO


Causes of sexual weakness / E.D. :-

E.D is generally categorized as :-

1. Organic :
a) Endocrinologic
b) Neurologic
c) Vascular

2. Psychogenic :
a) Performance anxiety
b) Relationship conflict
c) Sexual inhibition]
d) Conflicts over sexual preference
e) Sexual abuse in childhood
f) Fear of pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases.

3. Mixed/Others:
a) Age
b) Depression-Tension
c) Smoking
d) Diabetes
e) Renal, Hepatic dieases.
f) Heart dieases
g) Anger
h) Some medications
i) recreational drugs like alchohol, marijuna, cocaine, heroine also cause E.D.

How does erection occur :-


For erection to occur, several parts of the body must together. The brain sends messages to control the nerves, hormone levels, blood flow and muscles that cause and erection. If anything interferes with these messages or if any part of the system does not function correctly; an errection will not occur.

The brain controls all sexual functions, from preceiving arousal to initiating and controlling the psychological , hormonal, nerve and blood flow changes that lead to an errection.

Arteries deliver the extra blood to the penis that causes it to stiffen, veins then drain the blood out of the penis after intercourse.

Nerve impulses relay signals of arousal and sensation to and from the penis.

Hormone, including testosterone, control the male sex drive. Testosterone is secreted by the testicles.


Typically sexual disorders in women are sterility, dyspareunia (painful sex) and vaginal dryness. Men commonly suffer from erectile dysfunctions and problems of premature ejaculation. Sexual disorders very often arise from psychological factors such as fear and incompatibility of partners. These disorders may also be precipitated by smoking, hormonal imbalances, diseases like mumps and diabetes and the prolonged use of drugs like contraceptive pills.

Conventional treatment may lead to various side effects. In women, blurred vision, tender breasts and depression is not uncommon. And in men it could lead to mental confusion, gastric problems, dizziness and headaches

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