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Anger Management Tips

Anger - How Can You Keep It Under Control?

Mr. Soumen Mondal 88% (10 ratings)
Master in Clinical Psychology, Dip. in child Psychology, Master in Sociology
Psychologist, Kolkata
Anger - How Can You Keep It Under Control?

Do you get angry easily? Do you fume when something goes against your wish? Does your blood pressure rocket when someone tells you something that you don't like? Anger is a normal emotion of human psychology, but it is equally important to keep your anger under control. Just like any other emotion, anger too varies from person to person, and the circumstances.

Uncontrolled anger can lead to mental and physical stress. It also causes stress on relationships and damages your health. Therefore, it is important to practice anger managementexercises to control such extremes of emotions.

Here are some of the anger management tips that can help you control your anger:

  1. Think before you speak: We often say something out of anger and then regret it later. This is a common condition that has been faced by almost everyone at some point of time. Do not say things abruptly without thinking. Always take your time and think over what you are about to say.
  2. Express your anger once you are calm: Do not say things at the heat of the moment. Once you calm down, express your views on things that are bothering you. This will help you express better without hurting anyone.
  3. Exercise: Regular exercise is one of the best tools to reduce stress. Light meditative exercises performed on a regular basis such as a morning jog or deep breathing can control your anger to a great extent.
  4. Identify the specific cause: Instead of being grumpy about things that make you angry, try to find out the root cause of the issue and eliminate it, so that you don't have to face it again. Remind yourself that anger won't solve the problem and can only make situations worse.
  5. Hold no grudge: Holding on to the negative feelings can only have a negative impact on your own health. Learn to forgive others. Forgiving not only keeps the relationship healthy, but also keeps you away from stress and negative emotions.
  6. Practice relaxation tactics: When your temper reaches its height, put your relaxation tactics in action. A few tactics like deep breathing or repeating words to yourself like "Take it easy" or "Calm down" can actually calm you down during critical situations.
  7. Take a timeout: Take short breaks during stressful times of your day. This helps to release some of your stress and calm you down. You may also listen to music, take a light snack or do something that you like, to spend some time away from stressful conditions of your daily routine.
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Don't Suffer Emotional Abuse Quitely!

Dr. Nisha Khanna 88% (51 ratings)
Ph. D - Psychology
Psychologist, Delhi
Don't Suffer Emotional Abuse Quitely!

Emotional abuse is a regular pattern of threat, constant criticism, and manipulation to control and suppress the other person. It doesn’t always lead to physical abuse but equally harmful as Physical Abuse. It is extremely damaging to your self-esteem and confidence. Any relationship can be emotionally abusive like parent-child, siblings, friendship, intimate relationship (boyfriend-girlfriend) and husband-wife relationship. The most common emotionally abusive relationship is of husband and wife.

Sometimes for years, victim person doesn’t see ill-treatment as abuse. Victim person lives in denial to deal with stress and this cause individual further severe Emotional Trauma, Depression, Anxiety and Post-traumatic Stress Disorder. Abusive People have their own set of insecurities n they don’t know how to have positive healthy relationships. They mostly feel hurt, anger and powerless. Most abusers are suffering from different personality disorders like Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and Antisocial Personality Disorder and so on. If you face few of following behaviours, you need professional help and it’s a possibility of an emotionally abusive relationship:

 

  • The person feels extreme possessiveness or constant jealousy. He/she would like to control all aspects of your life and through threats or violence try to assert dominance over you. Small arguments tend to escalate physical abuse between both of you over the day to day conversations and due to their manipulation tactics you start justifying the abuse and start believing you’re the problem.
  • In the initial of relationship, a person keeps pressurizing for immediate commitment. Person demeans you, your achievements, your hopes and dreams. The person makes you feel that you are always wrong and whatever decisions you made are wrong. Whatever you do, it’s never enough and right for the person. They neglect you to punish you and may have unrealistic expectations.
  • It’s good if a couple spends quality time together but the problem starts when the person (your spouse) isolates you from family and friends. Even person had a problem with whatever you do with your spare time or to make yourself happy like exercise, car, phone, Family, Friends etc.
  • The person won’t accept own faults and blames you or others. They play the victim and blame you for everything like their problems, failures and unhappiness. They always point out faults in you and your weaknesses. They rarely say sorry.
  • The person mostly disregards your opinion, needs and ideas and always expects you to serve and obey. They may try to control you and want you to take permission to make decisions or go out somewhere. They may try to manage the finances like how you spend money.
  • The person keeps criticizing you and use vulnerable points about your past and makes you feel bad about yourself. They may humiliate you n put you down. They may call you names or bully you and make fun of you in front of others. They may use negative remarks to frighten you but won’t take others laughing at them.
  • The person may have sudden mood swings. They may not show empathy and mostly emotionally unavailable. They don’t care about your feelings. They may deny their behaviour whenever confronted.
  • A person is never happy whatever you do and you go out of the way to make the person happy. To keep the peace in the relationship, you may stay silent, whenever you are angry.
  • A person is cruel to others esp. children and animals and may have a history of hitting in the past. Person manipulates you in unwanted sex or may deny for sex to manipulate and control you.

If you are facing such issues, first thing is verbal abuse is a choice and you have to accept that it’s happening with you. You have to identify the patterns of controlling behaviour abuser use and accept the responsibility of your behaviour and start taking steps how to overcome it and finally approach us for professional help.

 

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क्रोध का प्रबंधन कैसे करें - Krodh Ka Prabandhan Kaise Kare!

Bachelor of Ayurveda, Medicine and Surgery (BAMS)
Ayurveda, Lakhimpur Kheri
क्रोध का प्रबंधन कैसे करें - Krodh Ka Prabandhan Kaise Kare!

क्रोध तब आता है जब जीवन में हम जो चाहते है और वह पूरी नहीं होती हैं. क्रोध तब और बढ़ जाता हैं जब हम सोचते हैं कि हम किसी अन्य व्यक्ति द्वारा गलत ठहराए गए हैं या हमारे साथ अन्याय हो रहा है या किया गया है. हम उम्मीदों के साथ कार्य करते हैं एवं तारीफ के माध्यम से पुरस्कृत होने की उम्मीद करते हैं. जब ऐसी स्थिति में हमारी अपेक्षाएं पूरी नहीं होती है तो हम क्रोधित हो जाते हैं. हमारी कमजोरियां हमारे क्रोध का कारण होती हैं. इस वजह से कोई अन्य व्यक्ति हमारी कमज़ोरियों का लाभ उठाते हैं. क्रोध हमारे अन्दर उबलता है और हम या तो उसे अपने अन्दर दबाये रखते हैं या जो हमसे कमज़ोर होता है उसपर प्रहार करते है. हम अपने गुस्से का को अपने द्वारा किये गयी गलतियों को सही ठहराते है. गुस्से का परिणाम आपके साथ-साथ आपसे जुड़े लोगों के लिए भी हानिकारक होता है. अर्थात क्रोध जिस पर किया जाए वह प्रभावित होता है और जो करता है वो भी. इसके कारण आपके संबंध और भविष्य दोनों खराब हो सकते हैं. इसलिए आइए क्रोध का प्रबंधन कैसे करें इस पर एक नजर डालें.

1. टहलें और व्यायाम करें
आपकी शारीरिक फिटनेस का भी स्वभाव पर काफी फर्क पड़ता है. नियमित व्यायाम, सैर या फिर योग करने से हम फिर रहते हैं और मन भी शांत रहता है. शरीर और मन स्वस्थ होने पर गुस्सा कम आता है. इसलिए नियमित व्यायाम करना चाहिए व पौष्टिक आहार खाना चाहिए.

2. अच्छी चीजों पर ही ध्यान दें
यदि आपको किसी व्यक्ति के शारीरिक हाव-भाव और आदतें अच्छे नहीं लगते लेकिन उसके विचार और बोलने का तरीका अच्छा लगता है तो आप उसके अच्छे व्यवहार पर ध्यान दें. यह आपके गुस्से को शांत करने में मदद करेगा.

3. धैर्य और विवेक
क्रोध को काबू करने के लिए सयंम और विवेक बहुत महत्वपूर्ण होते हैं. जब गुस्सा आता है तो गुस्से के कारण होने वाले नुकसान के बारे में सोचें. अपने मन में यह सोचें की आप जो बोलने वाले है उसका परिणाम क्या हो सकता है.

4. दृष्टिकोण में बदलाव भी जरूरी है
अगर आप किसी ऐसी परिस्थिति में फंस जाते हैं और जहाँ आपके हाथ में कुछ नहीं है, तो उस स्थिति में लड़ने और क्रोध करने के बजाए उस अवस्था को एक अलग नजरिए से देखने की कोशिश करें. अपने जीवन में घटित अच्छी किसी ऐसी परिस्थिति के बारे में सोचे जहाँ आप सफलतापूर्वक उसपर जीत हासिल किया है.

5. गुस्से को समझने की आवश्यकता होती है
गुस्से को समझने में बहुत ज्यादा परेशानी नहीं आती है. आपको केवल गुस्से के कारण, उसके लिए आपकी प्रतिक्रिया और उससे होने वाले नुकसान के बारे में सोचे और समझें. क्रोध के प्रति सतर्क और सावधान रहें. अपने क्रोध के कारणों के बारे में निष्कर्ष निकालें, इससे क्रोध को लेकर आपमें समझ उत्पन्न होगी.

6. गिनती गिनकर भी कर सकते हैं क्रोध प्रबंधन
कई बार किसी से बातचीत करने के दौरान ऐसी स्थितियां पैदा हो जाती हैं जब हम सामने वाले की किसी बात से क्रोधित हो जाते है हमें तेज गुस्सा आता है. ऐसे में ज्यादा प्रतिक्रिया ना देने के बजाए एक आसान नुस्खा आजामाएं और 10 तक काउंटिंग करें. यह क्रोध कम करने को सबसे पुराना तरीका है.

7. शरीर को आराम दें
क्रोध को कम करने का एक और सबसे बेहतर विकल्प है कि आप क्रोध आने पर अपनी मांसपेशियों को रिलेक्स करें. अपनी गुस्से में कसी मुट्ठी को खोलें और कसे जबड़े को रिलेक्स कर दें. गहरी सांसें लें और दो से तीन बार शरीर को ढ़ीला कार हलके से जंप करें. सारा गुस्सा हल्का हो जाएगा.

8. खुशबू से भी दूर कर सकते हैं क्रोध
आपके अंदर मौजूद तनाव और क्रोध अच्छी खुशबू से दूर हो सकता है. इसलिए आप हल्की खुशबू वाले ऑयल या सेंट आदि का इस्तेमाल कर सकते हैं. शुद्ध लेवेंडर तेल रूई में लगाकार अपनी जेब या पर्स में डाल लें या किसी ऐसी जगह पर जहां तनावपूर्ण स्थितियों में उसे आसानी से निकाला जा सके. इसे सूंघने से आपका गुस्‍सा शांत हो जाएगा.

How To Cope If Your Spouse Shuts Down?

Dr. Nisha Khanna 88% (51 ratings)
Ph. D - Psychology
Psychologist, Delhi
How To Cope If Your Spouse Shuts Down?

An individual shuts down in a relationship when a person tends to completely decline to communicate or cooperate. This can happen because many times one of the partners likes to take some time off in order to clear their mind. Some partners are very confrontational in their approach whenever disagreement arise they want to talk and sort matter immediately. But on the other hand, some people like to take their space in order to process and understand the situation. As the person who does shut down or engages in stonewalling becomes emotionally charged and tries to reduce the tension by withdrawing themselves from the situation. These people are generally considered to be avoidant by personality.

 Although silent treatment can have many catastrophic effects on your relationship it is essential to understand that the most important thing is to clarify the situation and communicate about the problem either immediately or after a certain point of time. The individuals tend to have different ways of perceiving a particular situation and thus the way they react to a situation will be completely different. Some people feel that their partner won’t be receptive to their feelings and emotions whereas others feel that stonewalling is a manipulative technique through which rather than communicating people might resort to giving the silent treatment. One of the main reasons why this occurs is because when an individual feels that their partner won’t be able to understand their feelings they start to keep things to themselves rather than to express themselves.

 Stonewalling or Shutting down is considered to be a form of fight or flight responses and can create feelings of desertion in the relationship. Whether it is intended or not but it shows that your partner is not worth responding to. If your partner shuts down below are certain ways that can help you deal with the situation as it is a silent killer to the relationship.

Ways to overcome Stonewalling/ Silent Treatment :

1. Stay Calm

It is very natural that when one partner shuts down the other person is bound to be anxious. It is essential to understand and realize the intention behind such behaviour. It is vital for both partners to understand whether this method is effective or not while negotiating.

 2. Apologize and Communicate

When a person disregards the presence and speech of the other person the message it leads is that the other person is not very important. Thus it becomes very vital to express yourself about the situation or about the partner to them even after a certain lapse of time.

Communicating is just not enough but positive communication is a very major aspect. It becomes essential that while communicating people should use more positive words and use more “I” language so that blame game doesn’t start.

3. Support and Empathy

 Many times when our partner shuts down we tend to get frustrated and persuade them to talk. Such behaviour wouldn’t convey that you support your partner. Instead, you can show your love and support by giving them their space and opportunity that they can come back and talk whenever they are prepared for it rather than to shut them out.

4. Focus on Yourself

Even though shutting down makes the other person feel unloved and can create a feeling of rejection. The person might wonder about his/her value. But if your partner engages in stonewalling it essential to keep their behaviour and their feelings towards you separate. When your partner gives you silent treatments remember that their need to take a break has nothing to do with your value in his/her life.

5. Set time

 It is very obvious that no relationship can work without communication. No matter what an individual feels it becomes necessary to share those feelings. If the couple feels they need to take certain time off make sure that you can set a certain time limit to that. The couple should not take more than 2-3 hours of the time limit.

6. Hopelessness

Many people engage in such behaviour due to the feeling of powerlessness and low self-esteem. People in many situations feel very hopeless in their relationship and believe that the situation cannot be dealt with in a more refined manner. When an individual feels that there is nothing left in a relationship the person is more likely to engage in such an act.

7. Physical Activity

It is most likely that the person who engages in stonewalling is avoidant by nature and likes to suppress most of the feelings or may not be aware of his suppressed anger. It becomes very essential for the person who is giving the silent treatment to engage in physical or creative activity to channelize the suppressed emotion. The person who is at the receiving end should focus on themselves and engage in some activities of their choice.

8. Self-Talk and Self Soothing

Self-talk is another way to keep your mind calm. It is important to remind yourself that things will be fine and that this situation will end soon. The person should also find ways to navigate through their emotions by keeping an optimistic frame of mind and viewing things in an encouraging light.

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Anger - Best Tips To Control It!

MSc - Psychotherapy & Counselling, PGD-PPHC, BASLP
Psychologist, Karnal
Anger - Best Tips To Control It!

Do you get angry easily? Do you fume when something goes against your wish? Does your blood pressure rocket when someone tells you something that you don't like? Anger is a normal emotion of human psychology, but it is equally important to keep your anger under control. Just like any other emotion, anger too varies from person to person, and the circumstances.

Uncontrolled anger can lead to mental and physical stress. It also causes stress on relationships and damages your health. Therefore, it is important to practice anger management exercises to control such extremes of emotions.

Here are some of the anger management tips that can help you control your anger:

  1. Think before you speak: We often say something out of anger and then regret it later. This is a common condition that has been faced by almost everyone at some point of time. Do not say things abruptly without thinking. Always take your time and think over what you are about to say.
  2. Express your anger once you are calm: Do not say things at the heat of the moment. Once you calm down, express your views on things that are bothering you. This will help you express better without hurting anyone.
  3. Exercise: Regular exercise is one of the best tools to reduce stress. Light meditative exercises performed on a regular basis such as a morning jog or deep breathing can control your anger to a great extent.
  4. Identify the specific cause: Instead of being grumpy about things that make you angry, try to find out the root cause of the issue and eliminate it, so that you don't have to face it again. Remind yourself that anger won't solve the problem and can only make situations worse.
  5. Hold no grudge: Holding on to the negative feelings can only have a negative impact on your own health. Learn to forgive others. Forgiving not only keeps the relationship healthy, but also keeps you away from stress and negative emotions.
  6. Practice relaxation tactics: When your temper reaches its height, put your relaxation tactics in action. A few tactics like deep breathing or repeating words to yourself like "Take it easy" or "Calm down" can actually calm you down during critical situations.
  7. Take a timeout: Take short breaks during stressful times of your day. This helps to release some of your stress and calm you down. You may also listen to music, take a light snack or do something that you like, to spend some time away from stressful conditions of your daily routine.
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Reasons For Low Self-Esteem!

Dr. Nisha Khanna 88% (51 ratings)
Ph. D - Psychology
Psychologist, Delhi
Reasons For Low Self-Esteem!

The term self-esteem is used to define a person’s confidence in one’s own worth or abilities. In other words, it is an overall evaluation of a person and how much they value, approve of, appreciate, or like oneself. This evaluation largely impacts the choices one makes since it determines, to a great extent, what one considers themselves capable and worthy of doing. Low-self esteem is not inherited. There are a number of external factors that affect our self-esteem. They are:

  1. Negative Remarks

Growing up, when a child is constantly criticized for his or her actions and all their negatives are pointed out to them, it can become difficult for them to feel confident and comfortable in their own skin, later. The shame forced on them for always “failing” and never being able to live up to the expectations of others can bring their morale down and therefore develop low levels of self-esteem in them.

  1. Negative-Self Talk

Many times when children are criticized for their actions or failures, they tend to feel disheartened and dejected. This can make them develop a negative pattern of thinking. For example, one may repeat statements like “ I am not good enough” or “ I am looking bad” to themselves till it actually becomes a core belief. Constant repetition of such statements only reinforces the negative beliefs and the self-esteem of that person becomes really low. The constant self-criticism can also lead to persistent feelings of sadness, depression, anxiety, anger, shame or guilt

  1. Childhood Neglect

When a child’s positive behaviour or achievements are ignored and are not recognized, it can make that child feel that they are forgotten, unacknowledged, and unimportant. It can also leave one feeling that they are not accountable to anyone, or may believe that no one here and now is concerned about their whereabouts. Unrecognized feelings can make a child feel small or apologetic about their existence which can later develop low self-esteem in them.

  1. Guilt from Previous Choices

People make mistakes at all stages of their lives. When one focuses on the negative consequences of choices and feels guilt over them, they create a cycle of low self-esteem. Unending remorse about past mistakes serves no useful purpose. In fact, excessive guilt is one of the biggest destroyers of self-esteem, individuality, creativity and personal development. However, what’s really important is to know that even the worst mistakes open doors for learning, insight, and change. Staying consumed with guilt will keep one away from moving forward in a positive and productive way.

  1. Unrealistic Goals

It is wonderful to be ambitious and to dream big. However, if one sets unattainable or unrealistic goals for themselves, and especially, if that is the only goal they want to achieve then they will be setting themselves up for nothing but disappointment. It is important that one focuses on their passionsneeds and interests and sets smaller milestones along the way that they know they will be able to achieve. For example, a person may want to be a famous singer one day, but to begin with, one can first set a goal of attaining 300 fans on social media and then aim higher.

  1. Bullying and Victimization

Bullying is when an individual or a group of people with more power, repeatedly and intentionally cause hurt or harm to another person. It could be physical, verbal or even social. For example, spreading nasty rumours can harm the person’s reputation in school. When a child is regularly bullied, either outside or at home, it can affect both their physical and emotional health, either in the short term or later in life. It can lead to physical injury, social problems and emotional problems too. Those who are bullied may also be at increased risk for mental health problems and can cause long-term damage to self-esteem. If a child is a victim of bullying and has developed low self-esteem, then he or she might eventually experience isolation and depression as well.

Low self-esteem doesn’t only effects the professional life of people but also their personal life. Thus, seeking help from a professional psychologist becomes very essential. A psychologist can you find ways to restore your self-worth.

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Mental Health - Ways To Maintain It!

M.Sc - Psychology
Psychologist, Hyderabad
Mental Health - Ways To Maintain It!

Mental Health is mental/emotional wellbeing. Being mentally healthy means being peaceful from within, being able to deal with life's challenges and being able to manage emotions and relationships, etc.

There is a lot of misunderstanding about "mental health" and 60% of mentally sick or disturbed people are not taken to doctors or other mental health professionals. Instead, they are taken to astrologers, or tantriks. Some are even punished for being crazy.

In today's highly stressful world people do not have time to think and plan their lives. Because of modern lifestyles and nuclear families people do not have outlets to share their feelings and express their intense emotions.

Sometimes emotional wounds like deep hurts, insults, neglect, shaming, physical and/or sexual abuse in childhood, may cause Personality or Behavioural disorders.

A person who loses temper for any small thing, or who is suspicious all the time or the one who breaks down or cries at slightest provocation, or who is jealous and possessive to the extent of being obsessed, or who is anxious all the time etc. needs to understand his/her feelings and find out the root cause of such feelings and behaviours.

Here are a few tips to develop/improve your mental health:

  1. Learn to express your feelings assertively
  2. Become aware of your own feelings and emotions
  3. Understand how to manage your emotions on day to day basis (anger, fear, jealousy etc)
  4. Review and nurture your relationships and infuse new life into them
  5. Periodically get rid of past baggage, deep hurts, spoilt relationships, unresolved issues, by resolving them in your mind
  6. Have a daily routine where your own needs and others' needs are balanced
  7. Reward yourself
  8. Develop positive attitude: focus on good events in life and positive affirmations.
  9. Introspect how often you succumb to negative emotions.
  10. Keep company of positive people
  11. Devise own methods for de-stressing
  12. Keep away from any kind of substance abuse.
  13. Have some routine exercise regime.
  14. Do not hesitate to seek professional help from - Counsellor/Psychiatrist/Psychologist

Pay attention to your Mental Health and enjoy life!

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Dementia - Tips To Manage It Well!

MBBS, Diploma In Psychological Medicine, Diploma In National Board In Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Navi Mumbai
Dementia - Tips To Manage It Well!

A lot of things can be done to cope with the initial stages of dementia. A person goes through a wide range of emotions such as fear, denial, frustration, and anger, post the diagnosis. Here is a list of tips that will help a patient with dementia to cope better:

  1. Physical health: For a dementia patient, it is very important to take care of one’s health. A good diet along with regular exercise and adequate rest is a prerequisite to manage this disorder.
  2. Regular check-ups: Regular medical check-ups with the doctor are necessary in this condition. Depression and other mental health problems should be discussed with a professional.
  3. Quit alcohol: Alcohol might give momentary pleasure from the misery, but it has long-standing implications. It reacts with the medicine and creates additional health and memory-related complications.
  4. Allocate time for difficult tasks: With time, it can become difficult to perform even the simplest of tasks. The patient should accordingly schedule the time to perform the tasks which may be difficult to carry out. Adequate breaks should be taken while performing a task to avoid getting fatigued.
  5. Redefine work: If a patient is suffering from dementia is still working, it should be ensured that the work is more manageable from a desk. Planning an early retirement may be a good idea in order to cope with dementia.
  6. Be organised: Keeping track of things can get difficult with time. It, therefore, makes sense to organise all belongings systematically. Putting labels on doors and drawers also help.
  7. Continue pursuing your hobbies: Amidst the difficulty and the depression, it is a good idea to continue doing things that are fun. While such activities might require some assistance from the doctor and family members, this helps the patient to be cheerful and healthy.
  8. Maintain notes: Since dementia is involved with forgetfulness, it makes sense to maintain a diary and keep records of phone numbers, people, appointments, etc.
  9. Communication channel: Maintaining a direct communication channel with family, friends, and relatives is a good idea. Sharing feelings will go a long way in maintaining relations with loved ones.
  10. Support group: Joining a dementia support group can be highly beneficial for the patient. It will not only give the patient company but also make sure that the patient gets a lot of useful information about the disorder. It also helps in keeping the morale up.
  11. Getting ready for the future: Things need to be meticulously planned well in advance to ensure that when the disease progresses, the patient has enough people to look after him. Things such as medical arrangements, financial assets, and property details should be carefully handed over as per the patient's wish. This will ensure a smooth run of the patients’ life when they can no longer take care of themselves.
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Passive Aggressive Nature - 6 Things You Can Do To Help!

Dr. Rahul Chandhok 91% (11 ratings)
M.D Psychiatry , MBBS
Psychiatrist, Faridabad
Passive Aggressive Nature - 6 Things You Can Do To Help!

Do you have someone who is passive-aggressive in your life? Perhaps your parents, your siblings, your partner or your friends? It can be difficult to handle such a person. When two people, who are having a healthy relationship with each other are angry with each other, they show anger, they say that they are upset, they discuss things and sort things out. There are so many different ways to express anger. But when it comes to a person with passive-aggressive behaviour, it is not going to be the same when they are angry. This is basically a way to express anger indirectly, as they are unable to or uncomfortable to express their feelings and anger openly.

They need help, and it is you who will be able to help them get out of this pain or anger. Here are six steps to changing someone's passive-aggressive behaviour:

  1. When there is an argument going on between both of you or when one of you is angry, do not say something or do something negative. This will make them shut down completely and they will never open up. It may also happen that the situation gets worse. So, take some time and calm down.
  2. Do not go for any guesswork. You are trying to help someone to get over his/her passive-aggressive behaviour. You need to know what they actually feel. So, ask them how they feel and if they have anything to say about it. This can help them open up.
  3. Brainstorming can be one of the best steps. Yes, if you think that you often argue on some common point, then you need to come up with a solution for it first. Ask for their opinion, make a list of all the points and try to make it as detailed as possible.
  4. Check out the pros and cons of your opinions. When you are done with brainstorming, you need to consider each opinion or decision you made in order to make sure that both of you are comfortable with it.
  5. Choose a win-win situation. In other words, pick up those solutions which make both of you happy.
  6. Execute your opinion or plan and evaluate if it is working for you. If plan A does not work for you, then you can still consider the other options that you left behind to draft a plan B.

Communication is very important and when you are able to communicate well, you will be able to get what you actually need. You should start to think that your feelings are valid and learn to enjoy how good it feels when others value your feelings. Open up and talk!!!

 

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Techniques Of Stress Management!

Dr. Nisha Khanna 88% (51 ratings)
Ph. D - Psychology
Psychologist, Delhi
Techniques Of Stress Management!

Stress is a common emotional or physical reaction to the demands of life. It has its own positive and negative impact depends upon how a person perceives the situation. Positive kind of stress is called EUSTRESS like excitement and energy. Negative kind of stress is called DISTRESS like the feeling of discomfort. The ability to deal with stress varies with person to person. It can bring people closer or pull apart. So there is a need to learn or manage stress efficiently. If someone is happy it doesn’t mean the absence of stress, actually it means that a person has the ability to manage stress effectively. Stress Counsellors suggest pertaining simplest techniques to overcome stress:

Managing Stress-1

  • Most stressful problems are really the absence of an idea
  • You have to convert your foolish pleasures into simple
  • Think Positive
  • Channelize your negative thoughts

Managing Stress-2

  • Change yourself before you change
  • Use your time and mind to how to reduce stress?
  • Compare yourself with yourself only not with others.
  • Manage your irritation, anger and frustration creatively and innovatively

Managing Stress-3

  • Make short-term goals in spite of the long term.
  • Manage your time as you manage your money efficiently.
  • Make only SMART goals.
  • Don’t expect too much out of you. Be

Managing Stress-4

  • You have not to worry what will people say?
  • Say “Thank you” and “Sorry” instantly.
  • Learn to say “No” and accept “No”.
  • Prioritize yourself

Managing Stress-5

  • Be thankful for what you have and ask for what you want.
  • Accept Give and Take theory, “A Law of Life”
  • Give empathetic ear to others.
  • Make forgiveness your permanent attitude

Managing Stress-6

  • Believe in yourself.
  • Do-do… keep doing it… be
  • Make humour a part of life.
  • Be appreciative about yourself and your smallest achievements.

Managing Stress-7                                                        

  • Accept some level of dust in life.
  • Do one thing at a time
  • Learn to love what you do for your living
  • Get indulge you into some constructive hobby?

 Managing Stress-8

  • Read books to get
  • Interact with others and share your ideas.
  • Be a good listener and learner too.
  • If all else fails, lower your standards.

Anyone can use above-mentioned techniques to deal with stress. If you are unable to do so, go and take the help of a professional stress counsellor to surpass. Stress Counselling makes you recognize that everyone has problems and your problems are probably no worse than someone else. Stress Counsellor or Counselling Psychologist can help you to identify the triggers of stress and how to accommodate stress in your life. Stress Counselling also suggests required steps to reduce its impact on your professional personal life and how to live happily.

 

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