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How To Fight Depression Without Drugs?

Gautam Clinic Pvt Ltd 94% (7767 ratings)
Sexologist Clinic
Sexologist, Faridabad
How To Fight Depression Without Drugs?

The condition known as depression can range from a self-limiting case of the blues to a life-threatening illness. Medications are often prescribed for depression, and if you are experiencing significant, debilitating depressive symptoms, drug therapy may be your best option for improving quality of life. If you prefer to fight depression without drugs, however, there are many simple, effective strategies to try, especially if you’re dealing with a passing case of the blues or a situational depression triggered by life circumstances. These steps can also be helpful when used along with medication for serious depression.

Tackle manageable problems. Not all problems have straightforward solutions; depression can be exacerbated by issues that are out of your control, like health problems, financial problems, and the death of a loved one. In order to overcome life’s toughest problems, it helps to get practice by tackling something you can change. What are the smaller obstacles in your life that cause you to feel negative day by day? Practice overcoming those, and you’ll gain strength to face the bigger issues.

  • Set solution-oriented goals. Think of concrete ways you can improve your situation. Has your house gotten overly cluttered? That’s something you can tackle. Make a detailed plan to clean the house, room by room, and allow yourself to feel satisfaction with each mission you accomplish.
  • Keep track of your progress in a journal. Sometimes the simple act of writing a goal down provides motivation to move forward and make a change.

Express yourself. Depression tends to cause people to retreat from life and avoid communicating a lot with other people, but it only gets worse when you keep emotions bottled up inside. Your feelings have value because they are a part of you, so find a way to express them.

  • Don’t spend too much time alone. Have daily conversations with friends, family and classmates and avoid negative people. It’s not necessary to talk about your depression; just be yourself and say what comes naturally. The most important thing is to remember you are not alone and there will be always someone ready to help.
  • Writing, dance, visual arts, music and other types of art can be extremely therapeutic forms of self expression.
  • Don’t be afraid to express sadness, fear, anger, anxiety and the other emotions that accompany depression. These feelings are as much a part of life as happiness and satisfaction. Compounding your emotions with shame will only make you feel worse.

Nourish your spiritual side. Many people find that turning to spirituality helps them find peace when they’re dealing with depression.

  • Try meditation, which is focused on developing thought patterns that lead to self-awareness and peace. Research meditation groups in your area or practice on your own.
  • If you are a religious person, consider attending your place of worship more frequently, and getting involved in groups that meet outside of services. Spending time with like-minded people will give you the comfort of being part of a community.

Be kind to yourself. Depression can lead to extremely negative feelings about one’s abilities and personality. Focus on what you like about yourself and the positive things you have to offer the world, rather than dwelling on things that are going wrong.

  • Don’t blame yourself for being depressed. Depression affects almost everyone at one point or another. You aren’t weak or cowardly; you have a condition that can be debilitating, and you’re taking steps to face it head-on. That’s brave.
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The Effect Of Mental Illness On The Family Relationship!

Dr. Swarajit Ghosh 86% (21 ratings)
MBBS, Structure of Intellect learning Specialist, Membership
Psychiatrist, Delhi
The Effect Of Mental Illness On The Family Relationship!

Mental illness affects the patient as well as the immediate family. Once the affected member has been diagnosed with a mental illness, his family members find it difficult to accept this situation. They are in a state of denial. This state later gives way to feelings of frustration, resentment, anger and helplessness.

To overcome these feelings, it is important for the family to move beyond the mental illness of its relative and not away from him. The family members must accept the reality that someone among them is ill and it is their duty to help him recover from his mental illness.

Effect of social stigma

  1. Unfortunately, mental illness draws social stigma. Many relatives of mentally ill people who are afflicted do not discuss their predicament with others. The reason is not too hard to discover- large sections of society think that mental illness is something very horrible. Very few people know that psychiatric disorders are treatable and they are as good or bad a disease as others.
  2. Strangely, while the society comes out in support of people suffering from cancer and other life-threatening diseases, in cases of mental illness it adopts a position of aloofness. The underlying thought in the minds of people is that there must be something wrong in the family of the mental illness patient.
  3. The net result is that the family withdraws from the society and gets into a shell. Guests are not invited over on social occasions and it often happens that the family gets into depression.
  4. Coping with frustration and helplessness
  5. Psychiatrists also point out to another range of emotions affecting the family members of a mentally ill person- feelings of frustration, helplessness and anger.
  6. Imagine a situation where a schizophrenic child is unable to perform even normal tasks, such as eating food. The parent will try to convince the child to have her food but the mentally ill child cannot perform even that basic function. Unless the parent understands that this is not a normal child, she will continue to try to feed it. The child will, on the other hand, resist. This will continue till the time when the parent gets frustrated and angry at her child’s behaviour. The parent will wonder why her child is not having the food by herself.
  7. This situation will not arise if the parent and other family members accept that the child is ill and needs medical intervention.
  8. This feeling can later lead to a sense of resentment and anger. Family ties can be ruptured because the members would begin to think that their social activities depend upon the medical condition of their sick family member who needs constant attention.
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Violence in a Relationship - 5 Warning Signs Of It!

Ms. Moumita Ganguly 87% (10 ratings)
M.A -Psychology, pgdg&pc
Psychologist, Kolkata
Violence in a Relationship - 5 Warning Signs Of It!

Relationships are either delicate or strong, depending upon the bonding you share with your partner. The bonding depends on various factors. Some of the most essential ones being emotional attachment, friendliness, sense of ease, mental compatibility and a feeling of sustained emotional support from the relationship. This is applicable to all relationships; be it a relationship with your spouse, a parental relation with your children, a relationship with your friends, relatives, etc.

However, it is a common factor that every relationship requires a definite level of friendship, understanding and trust to sustain. However, sometimes you may find eventual signs of distance or detachment, which could be signals of potential violence in the relationship.

  1. Sense of complete possession: This is a vital factor that intricately works behind initiating violence in relationships. Possessiveness is a form of extreme emotional condition. A sense of possessiveness lies in every relation. However, over possessiveness leads you to restrict your loved one to share his love with anyone else. It can even be severe when you may even dislike your loved one talking to anyone else. Therefore, it may lead to eventual abuse or violence in the relationship.
  2. Distrust: Trust and belief are essential elements in any relation. If you tend to lose trust on someone, you can hardly be normal in the relationship. Disbelief results in doubt and continued doubt and resistance lead you to react violently. If you constantly disbelief a person, you are ought to react out of your general personality sometime.
  3. Abuse: Use of abusive language may be a strong indication of emerging distance in a relation. A person indulges in using abusive language out of anger and frustration, both of which could be major signals of potential violence in the near future. Both abusive language and physical violence are considered as forms of violence. Therefore, initial signs of abuses should be considered immediately.
  4. Dominance: In every relationship where two persons are involved, you will usually find any one of them to be dominant. However, that is acceptable until the dominance is within a certain limit. However, if it crosses the limits of patience and acceptability, it may sometimes result in violence.
  5. Short temper Attitude: If any one of the involved persons in the relationship is short tempered, it will definitely be a lead reason of miscommunication or insufficient communication. Short tempered individuals are mostly characterised with low patience. If you do not have patience, you can never offer understanding. And above that, short-tempered attitude can be an additional disadvantage. These types of individuals fail to control their anxiety and can often be violent in relationships.
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Is There A Way You Can Overcome Frustration?

Dr. Sanjeev Tripathi 87% (126 ratings)
Masters in Clinical Psychology, Masters in Applied Psychology, Bachelor with Psychology
Psychologist, Indore
Is There A Way You Can Overcome Frustration?

In some cases, frustration can tend to be positive and can give you another perspective or view on things. It can also give you the ability to continue going further until you achieve your objective. However, there are times when you are going in circles and the dissatisfaction makes you frustrated and this frustration can cloud your mind and judgment.

To avoid that from happening, there are certain approaches that will help you overcome your frustration:

  1. Be present in the moment: When you are frustrated, you tend to think about a lot of things. This keeps the individual completely occupied with different kinds of thoughts. Even if you try to avoid it or distract yourself, you again start to remember a disappointment from your past. You need to snap out of those thoughts and calm yourself down by centring your brain and thoughts on what is presently going on around you. You can do so in the following ways:
  2. Concentrate on relaxing: Take a seat, close your eyes and simply concentrate on the live events and concentrate on them for one to two minutes. Take quiet and marginally deeper breaths than regular and inhale with your stomach and not the chest. Concentrate on what is around you as of now. The sun sparkling in through your window, the children playing out on the road, the vehicles or the individuals passing by. Take in the details.
  3. Try to be happy with what you have right now: After you have pulled your concentration and thoughts back to where they can be most useful, focus on what is still positive in your life. The easiest and least demanding approach to do so is to centre it on acknowledging what you do have in your life right now. The most unimportant of things at this point can prove to be the most beneficial. For example:
    • A warm home and a rooftop over your head.
    • Water to drink.
    • Getting to eat great food.
    • Access to the internet and other forms of technology that make life easy.
    • Your loved ones.
  4. Focus on what you can do at this moment: With the amount of frustration and anger you might be feeling, it is important for you to concentrate on what you can do at the moment i.e. at present. It might involve figuring out what has been the cause for your frustration and how it can be dealt with right now or what the alternatives for it are.

Then again, you could also take your time to understand that you may have taken a lot of pressure or things have been extreme. Hence, you have to take some time or a couple of days to simply unwind, deal with yourself and maybe calm down a bit.

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Top 10 Psychologist in Bangalore!

Dr. Sanjeev Kumar Singh 87% (192 ratings)
Bachelor of Ayurveda, Medicine and Surgery (BAMS)
Ayurveda, Lakhimpur Kheri
Top 10 Psychologist in Bangalore!

Psychological disorders such as familial trouble, personality or childhood disorders, anxiety or  depression are more common than we think. If not treated timely they can result in in terminal diseases. Therefore it is important to consult the best psychologist in Bangalore. Here is list of top 10 psychologist in Bangalore:

1. Ms. Sandhya C

M.Sc - Psychotherapy

Ms. Sandhya C is a Psychologist with 4 years of experience and is one of the most trusted Psychologists in Bangalore. She is known for her treatment of anger management, adult counseling, abnormal behavior, drug de-addiction, obsessive compulsive disorder, cognitive behavioral, grief and Premarital Counseling. She is currently practicing at J P Nagar Diagnostics & Health Centre, Bangalore.

Consultation fees: ₹500

2. Ms. Geetha.G

Master Of Science In Counseling & Psychotherapy

Ms. Geetha G. has over 9 years of experience and is a reputed counselling psychologist working with Dr. Levine Memorial Hospital, Bangalore. She has a wide range of services including abnormal behaviour, adult counselling, nicotine de-addiction and anger management. 

Consultation fees: ₹750

3. Dr. Syeda Arifa Tasneem

Msc - Clinical Psychology

Dr. Syeda is a consultant psychologist and hypnotherapist from Bangalore. She is known for her seminars on stress management, psychological disorders and music therapy in the corporate sector. She is an expert in psychological and psychotherapy, stress, family therapy and anger management, child and personal development and learning disability. She is currently associated with Apollo Spectra.
 
Consultation fees: ₹2000

4. Dr. Ms. Hema Sampath

Masters In Clinical Psychology, Diploma In Counselling Skills, NLP

Dr. Hema Sampath is a counseling psychologist and runs a counseling center called regenerating lives, a new beginning. She has been practicing as a counselor for 11 years. Her areas of expertise are adult and couple psychotherapy, stress and anger management, marital and adult counselling.

Consultation fees: ₹1000

5. Dr. Lakshmi.J

MA - Psychology, M.Phil - Mental Health & Social Psychology, PhD - Psychology

Dr. Lakshmi  is a consulting Psychologist, Psychotherapist, Counsellor & Yogic scholar. She has successfully handled cases of  intensive psychological disorders using her advanced and effective therapies. She is currently practicing at Jain University, Bangalore.

Consultation fees: ₹1200

6. Dr. Renu E George

PhD - Clinical Psychology, M.Phil - Clinical Psychology

Dr. Renu E George is a popular clinical psychologist in Bangalore. She is currently affiliated with Brain To Mind: Center For Psychological Assessment & Psychotherapy in Arekere, Bangalore and has 13 years of  experience. She is a member of Indian Association of Clinical Psychologists. Her areas of counselling are psychological assessment, premarital counseling, psychotherapy, and executive functions training for children.

Consultation fees: ₹900

7. Dr. Saul Pereira

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd

Dr. Saul is practicing as a counselling psychologist at Saul Pereira Clinic, Bangalore. He has been  practicing for over 45 years now and has successfully dealt in cases related to stress, addiction of drugs and premarital counselling and parenting issues. Other areas of his  interest are abnormal behavior, psychotherapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, OCD management and anger issues. 

Consultation fees: ₹1000

8. Ms. Samiksha Jain

Diploma in Counselling Skills, Basic skills & Counselling, Couple and Family Counselling, Basic course in integrated clinical hypnosis CHI

Ms. Samiksha Jain is known for warmth, care and personal touch in her counselling . She uses some advance techniques for her therapeutic counseling. She has an experience of over 10 years and is currently practicing at Sahara Counselling Services. Before this she was associated with command hospital, sunshine autism school, Taj vivanta and parikrama center for learning. She is a member of international transactional analysis association.
 
Consultation fees: ₹1000

9. Mr. Senthilkumar L

Diploma in psychology, PVA ayurveda

Mr. Senthilkumar L is  a Certified Ayurveda therapist and a psychologist. He specializes in counselling related to Relationship counseling, Marriage/ Couple counseling, Stress Management, Pre-marriage assessment, Work Life Balance issues. He also provides ayurvedic therapies for wellness of body and mind . Other than this he is also a Career and Life coach. He practices at live to life balance.

Consultation fees: ₹500

10. Ms. Sadhana Mishra

M.Sc - Applied Psychology

Dr. Sadhana Mishra is a reputed Clinical Psychologist and Health Psychologist in Mumbai. She has experience of solving various issues using psychoanalysis like treatment of Learning Disorders, Insomnia, Memory problems. Pre-marital Counselling, and treating psychological disorders like anxiety and depression are some other areas of interest.

Consultation fees: ₹800

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Top 10 Psychologist in Mumbai!

Dr. Sanjeev Kumar Singh 87% (192 ratings)
Bachelor of Ayurveda, Medicine and Surgery (BAMS)
Ayurveda, Lakhimpur Kheri
Top 10 Psychologist in Mumbai!

Psychological disorders are common and can impact anyone around you and including yourself. If you are confused about visiting a psychologist, there are some best psychologist in Mumbai, who are friendly. It is important to take care of mental health in the same way as you take care of physical health. But the irony is that they psychological disorders are often neglected or ignored. You can consult these top 10 psychologists in Mumbai

1. Mrs. Chhaya Jain

M.Sc - Applied Psychology, Advanced Diploma In Counselling Psychology

Mrs. Chhaya Jain is a psychologist and treats psychiatric problems without medicines. She has counselled people struggling with stress, tension and depression to live a happy life in 8 years of experience. She has special interest in cancer counselling. She currently practices at Sion Poly Clinic.

Consultation fees: ₹600

2. Ms. Rashi Anand Laskari

B.A., MA - Counselling Psychology

Ms. Rashi is a certified psychologist who is known for her an broad and collaborative approach to psychotherapy and counselling. She has experience of counselling children, adolescents, couples and families for varied psychological disorders. She is also associated with many academic institutions, and corporate houses and currently practices at Inner Light Counselling Center & Life Care Medical Center, Mumbai.

Consultation fees: ₹1500

3. Dr. Keerti Sachdeva

Ph.D - Social Psychology -, M.Phil. Educational Psychology, MSc. Child Psychology

Dr Keerti Sachdeva is an experienced and reputed psychologist with 35 years of practice.She is an active member of the Rehabilitation Council of India (RCI) and Counselors Association of India . Her areas of specialisation are social, educational and child psychology. She has been associated with some reputed schools in Delhi- NCR and Mumbai for her counselling skills and friendly nature with children. She currently practices at Positive Vibrations, Mumbai.

Consultation fees: ₹1000

4. Ms. Vijal Sejpal

Post Graduate Diploma In School Counselling (PGDSC), Certificate In Guidance & Counselling (CGC)

Ms. Vijal is a psychotherapist practicing from past 7 years and is currently associated with iThrive. She has also undergone training in REBT and Karkhuff module. She has rich experince in counselling of adolescents especially in cases of low self belief, anxiety, depression, stress, loneliness, relationship issues etc.

Consultation fees: ₹1500

5. Dr. Jimmy Mody

Diploma in Transpersonal Regression Therapy, Diploma of Clinical Hypnotherapy, Diploma in Counselling and Psychotherapy, Diploma in Hypnotherapy (DHT)

With more than 24 years of experience, Dr. Jimmy has in depth understanding psychological disorders. In addition to counselling he uses psychoanalysis, CBT, and hypnotherapy to treat cases of phobia, low self esteem etc. He currently practices at The Human Potential Clinic, Mumbai.

Consultation fees: ₹1500

6. Ms. Dipal Mehta

MA - Clinical Psychology, P.G. Diploma in Guidance and Counseling

Dr. Dipal Mehta in 17 years of practice has become a renowned name in the field of Psychology. Years of experience helps in identifying the cause of behavioural patterns and treat accordingly. Her areas of special interest are the abnormal behavioural changes, stress & anger management and successfully handled many cases of drug and nicotine de-addiction and obsessive compulsive disorder.

Consultation fees: ₹2500

7. Dr. Sanjoy Mukerji

Ph. D - Alternative Medicine, PG Diploma in Psychological Counseling

Dr. Sanjoy Mukerji in 18 years of his career is a trusted name in hi field and amongst his patients. His prime areas of interest are treating various types of problems including anxiety, stress, depression, marital problems, relationship problems and sexual problems using counselling and psychotherapy. He has conducted various seminars nationally, internationally and has been interviewed by several media houses. He is also recipient of many awards and honors. He currently practices at Be Positive clinic, Mumbai.

Consultation fees: ₹2500

8. Ms. Rachna Kothari

MA - Psychology

Dr. Rachna Kothari is practicing as a counselling psychologist at Dr Kothari clinic, Mumbai for over 15 years now. She has successfully dealt in cases related to stress, addiction of drugs and premarital counselling and parenting issues. Other areas of her interest are abnormal behavior, psychotherapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, OCD management and anger issues. 

Consultation fees: ₹5000

9. Ms. Seema Agarwal

Bsc - Hons, PG - Counseling, MA - Clinical Psychology

Ms. Seema Agarwal in 33 years of experience has helped numerous patients. She is a clinical psychologist and a behavioral trainer and has to her credit many national and international certificates in same. Her areas of expertise are adult and couple psychotherapy, stress and anger management, marital and adult counselling. She has also counselled many cases of 
Low self esteem and confidence among teenagers. 

Consultation fees: ₹1500

10. Dr. Mahima Bhomavat Innani

MA - Psychology, Certificate Course In Application of Counselling Therapies

Dr. Mahima Bhomavat Innani is a reputed Clinical Psychologist and Health Psychologist in Mumbai. She has experience of solving various issues using psychoanalysis like treatment of Learning Disorders, Insomnia, Memory problems. Pre-marital Counselling, and treating psychological disorders like anxiety and depression are some other areas of interest.

Consultation fees: ₹1000

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Goodbye Problems - Welcome Festive Season

Dr. Gauri Kadlaskar Palsule 90% (450 ratings)
MD- Homoeopathy
Homeopath,
Goodbye Problems - Welcome Festive Season

Some extra care along with regular medicines will definitely relieve your physical as well as mental concerns during festivals.

Along with festival preparations, it is necessary to remain fit and healthy. With adequate precautions and the essential medication, you can safely wipe the troubling diseases and enjoy the celebrations. Do not restrict yourself from sweets or let the noise pollution worry you; keep yourself healthy and go ahead with a bang.

The sweet tooth

If you follow a routine and check your sugar levels in the case of diabetes, do not refrain yourself from sweets. Diabetes, may it be Type 1 or Type 2, regular intake of medicines and proper diet should always be your priority. Let me also share a few tips to pamper your sweet tooth along with controlling sugar levels and diabetes.

  • Purchase your medicines ahead of time and take them regularly.

  • Portion control is the key, you can enjoy all the sweet food provided you keep a check on the quantity of food.

  • Prepare the sweets at home for yourself to remain in control of the quantity of sugar.

  • In the case of fasting, by consulting your physician, adjust your medicines according to your meal timings.

  • A daily check on your sugar level is a must.

Regulate sugar levels Biocombination no.7 , take 3 ablets a day after food for a period of 5 days or during celebration
To deak with the weakness associated with the festivities Acid Phos 200CH , 6 pills a day for a period of 5 days
General dosage during festivals Natrum Phos 3X 3 tablets twice a day after meals for a period of five days

Dealing with pollution

Festivals bring along noise and air pollution with them, making us a victim. We can set these roadblocks aside with health care measures. To avoid breathlessness and bronchial problems, let me share a few tips; it will clear off the clog in your lungs so that you can enjoy irrespective of the environmental conditions.

  • Avoid visiting polluted areas or areas where you may feel stuffy. At home, if possible, use good quality air filter for your room if you are very allergic to such situations.

  • To avoid sudden triggers, make sure you take your asthma medicines on time.

  • Regular pranayama and yoga will keep your lungs healthy and deep breathing or blowing balloons will help increase lung capacity.

  • Refrain from fried foods, and while frying at home, keep all the windows open to allow air circulation. Switch on the exhaust.

  • Avoid bursting  firecrackers which release a lot of smoke as it not only affects asthma or bronchial patients but also healthy people around you.

To prevent breathlessness and wheezing Ipecac 30CH , 6 pills once a day for a period of 5 days
For sudden episodes of breathlessness associated with wheezing Ipecac 30CH 6 pills thrice a day for a period of 3 days
Breathlessness along with cough and expectoration Antim Tart 30CH , 6 pills twice a day for a period of 5 days
Breathlessness triggered by overeating Carbo Veg 30CH, 6pills thrice a day for period of 3 days

 

Sound mind and sound body

Your brain should be as healthy as your body. Undoubtedly festivities bring joy and rejuvenate us; however, the hustle, the stress and the anxiety of perfect celebrations can lead to disturbed mental health. Right medication and a calm mind can help you work efficiently and enjoy with your loved ones. Enjoy the celebrations with a positive approach, and let these suggestions help you.

  • Do not forget to exercise and keep yourself hydrated.

  • Keep a check on anxiety, try to keep calm, and take medicines.

  • Regularly practising pranayama and yoga regularly would prove to be extremely helpful to release stress.

  • Connect with your friends or family; talk your heart out. Let the warmth of celebrations de-stress you.

Anxiety, nervousness

Kali Phos 30CH, 8 pills at night, start this meidicne 3 days before the celebrations begin and continue for a period of 10 days

Rescue remedy ( bach flower remedy) 6 drops thrice a day with warm water for a period of 10 days

Sadness and depression Ignatia 200CH 6 pills twice a day for a period of 6 days along with Passiflora mother tincture 10 drops with water at night for a period of 6 days
Irritabilty and anger Kali Phos 6X, 4 tablets thriec a day before meals for a period of 10 days. Chamomilla 30CH 6 pills thrice a day for 5 days to control anger and irritability in children.

 

Armed with this information, leave all your healthcare worries behind and immerse yourself in the joy and celebrations in the festive season.

 

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Silent Treatment- Stonewalling!

Dr. Nisha Khanna 87% (51 ratings)
Ph. D - Psychology
Psychologist, Delhi
Silent Treatment- Stonewalling!

Stonewalling is a term that was developed by psychologist Dr John Gottman, who specializes in relationship research and therapy. Stonewalling means when a person “withdraws from the interaction, shutting down and closing themselves off from the speaker because they are feeling overwhelmed or physiologically flooded”.

Stonewalling is when a person withdraws from a conversation and refuses to deal with concerns. Stonewalling occurs when individuals tends to completely decline to communicate or cooperate. Stonewalling is different from rare timeout, stonewalling occurs when an individual is absolutely denies another partner’s perspective. Stone walling occurs in various situations. Both verbal and non-verbal behavior can be an indicator of stonewalling. Stonewalling is considered to be a manipulative technique and it can hamper the relationships.

Communication is considered to the essence of every relationship. When one or both partners engage in stone walling, this reflects that the couple refuses to communicate their feelings. Communication is considered to be the essence of every relationship. Thus stone walling tends to outweigh the positive effects of communication and leads to vicious cycle where couples avoid discussing about their concerns.

Stonewalling can be considered to have psychological as well as physiological effect. Stonewalling is considered to be a form of fight or flight responses. It is considered to be a controlling tactic that can lead to emotional abuse. Stonewalling is ineffective and can damage your relationship. The problem of stonewalling is seen not only between the couples but also exist in families.

Stonewalling is considered to closing stages to communication and can appear to be hurtful to the person who is at the receiving end. It can create feelings of abdondonment and detachment in the relationship.

Despite the fact whether stonewalling is intentional or not but the message it conveys can be still very hurtful as it tend to show that your partner is  not worth responding to and their thoughts and feelings also don’t matter.

While stonewalling many times occurs in the form of coping mechanism, it can have catastrophic implications when it is used over period of time.

Stonewalling or Silent treatment can be most destructive pattern of communication that destroys relationship because it can create feeling of loneliness and rejection. Stonewalling can be frustrating, unbearable and isolating for individuals who are at receiving end.

When people engage in stonewalling is to avoid dealing with the situation, to get attention, to show power and to express anger. Every individual experiences conflict in their relationship and every couple should resolve the issue sooner rather than later. No couple can ever be conflict free. Happy couples are those who know how to deal with problems when they arrive. Showing love and affection can really help couple win the battle.

A relationship marked by recurrent stonewalling behavior can cause suffers tremendous rift between the two partners. Unless the couple, doesn’t learn how to communicate with each other more productively the problems will continue to persist. The partners become more distant from each other and the intimacy declines. They may continue to live their lives without sharing any activities or interests with each other.

Relationships can be tricky. They require a lot of patience and good communication. Many times the problem arises when the couple avoids dealing with the problem which can cause deterioration in the relationship. It is essential for the couple to learn and grow along side.

No matter what the reason is behind stonewalling it is important to communicate rather than shutting all the means of communication.

If you recognize that your partner is stonewalling you, it is also essential to understand that how you may be contributing to the problem and take steps in the desired action. When the problem seems to get out of control seek help from professional marriage counsellor or relationship expert in order to improve self-esteem and communication skills is essential.

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Common Defence Mechanisms!

Dr. Syeda Arifa Tasneem 89% (12 ratings)
Msc - Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Bangalore

Shielding your ego - common defence mechanisms:
 

We generally try to protect ourselves from things that we don't want to think about or deal with. Just remind yourself of the last time you referred to someone as being in denial or accused someone of rationalising. Both these terms are actually referred to as defence mechanisms in psychology. Defence mechanism is an unconscious psychological mechanism that reduces anxiety arising from unacceptable or potentially harmful stimuli. In short, it is a strategy used by the ego to protect itself from anxiety.

 The use of the most common defence mechanisms:

1. Denial: it is a clear refusal to admit or recognise an obvious truth about something that has happened or is upcoming. Denial functions to protect the ego from things that the individual cannot cope with. For instance, drug addicts and alcoholics often deny that they have a problem, or victims of traumatic events deny that the event ever occurred as it is too uncomfortable or traumatic to face. 

2. Repression And suppression: in both repression and suppression we tend to remove anxiety provoking memories from our conscious awareness. When we consciously force unwanted information out of our awareness it is called suppression. However, even unconscious memories, as in repression don't just disappear, they continue to influence the person's behaviour. For instance, a person abused as a child might face difficulties forming relationships as an adult.

3. Displacement: it involves venting out anger, frustration and other negative impulses on people or situations that are less threatening. For instance, rather than expressing aggression or anger towards your boss, you to tend to express it towards your spouse, children, or pets as they are less threatening and have few negative consequences.

4. Sublimation: it is a way of acting out unacceptable impulses by converting them into more acceptable forms of behaviour. As freud believes, it is a mature way of behaving normally in socially acceptable ways. For instance, a childless woman might start a day care to fulfil her desire of nurturing a child.

5. Projection: it involves ascribing our unacceptable qualities or feelings to others. For instance, if you have an aversion towards someone, you might say that person doesn't respect you or doesn't like you.

6. Intellectualisation: it helps reduce anxiety by being cold and focusing more on the intellectual components of the situation, while avoiding the stressful emotional component of a traumatic or anxiety provoking situation. For instance, a person just diagnosed with cancer might focus on learning everything about it, in order to avoid distress and distant himself from the reality of the situation.

7. Rationalisation: it involves explaining an unacceptable behaviour or feeling in a more rational or logical manner, while avoiding the true reasons for the behaviour. For instance, a student might explain his poor grades by blaming the examiner rather than his own lack of preparation.

8. Regression: it involves reverting to childhood patterns of behaviour failing to cope with stressful events. For instance, an adult fixated in his childhood days might lack maturity and may cry or sulk upon hearing unpleasant news. 

9. Reaction formation: it involves taking up the opposite feeling or behaviour in an attempt to hide true feelings by behaving in the exact opposite manner. For instance, treating someone you dislike in an extremely friendly manner in an attempt to hide your true feelings.

Although defence mechanisms are often thought of as negative reactions, some of these can actually help ease stress during critical times, diverting their attention to what is more necessary at the moment.
 

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Underlying Factors That May Trigger Aggression

Dr. Manish 90% (13 ratings)
MD - Psychiatry, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Delhi
Underlying Factors That May Trigger Aggression

Aggression or aggressive behavior can often lead to violence and destruction which can be really harmful to their loved ones. When dealing with an aggressive person, it is important to understand that aggression is not always an after effect of some provocations and can often be spontaneous. Excessive and frequent aggression can wreak havoc, affecting the person and their loved ones physically, mentally as well as emotionally. Reports suggest that cases of aggression among youngsters are rising at an alarming rate. It has also been noted that the boys exhibit more aggression than girls. Thus, proper action needs to be taken at the earliest to avoid serious consequences.

Symptoms:
The following symptoms and behavioral changes may be observed in people with aggressive nature.

  1. The person may have mood swings and remain irritated all the time. Depression may be commonly seen in such people.
  2. The person isolates himself or herself from the outside world.
  3. Insomnia and eating disorders are common.
  4. An unstable mental health.
  5. The person may exhibit signs of self-destruction.They may also cause harm to the others, including their loved ones.
  6. There may be hallucinations, delusions, confusion and poor communication skills.
  7. There may alterations in his or her personality.
  8. Lack of concentration. A person may find it difficult to read or write.
  9. Lethargy is also common in people with aggressive behavior.

Underlying factors that may trigger aggression
A person may appear aggressive physically, mentally, verbally or even emotionally. The aggressive behavior can be an outcome of a myriad of factors such as:

  1. A negative environment during the growing period: How a child is brought up can play a significant role in shaping their character. A person who had seen a lot of fights, arguments or aggression in their childhood often grows up to be aggressive.
  2. Genetics: People who have a family history of aggression and aggressive behavior (immediate family) are more likely to be aggressive.
  3. An unstable mental health with conditions such as schizophrenia, conduct disorder, bipolar disorder or Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) can also cause aggression. Aggression can also be triggered by traumatic brain injury, stress, meningitis, stroke or substance abuse (as well as withdrawal symptoms).

Managing Aggressive Behavior
A person needs to have a lot of patience while dealing with aggressive people. Such people need your support, love, care, and affection.

  1. For an effective management, try and find out the triggers of aggression and then work towards improving the situation.
  2. Meditation can have a great soothing effect and can play an important role to calm down the person. Music may be equally helpful.
  3. Sound sleep and proper rest can work miracles in reducing the associated symptoms and complications.
  4. Maintain a positive environment around the affected person. Keep the person happy, cheerful and stress-free.
  5. Don't let the person live in isolation. Try and make them interact with people. Don't give them the impression that they are not normal. Don't over sympathize with them. They need your support more than the sympathy.
  6. Don't shy away from medical help. Love and care with proper medications can work wonders.
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