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Dr. Prachi Chivate

Psychiatrist, Thane

Dr. Prachi Chivate Psychiatrist, Thane
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Dr. Prachi Chivate is one of the best Psychiatrists in Dombivali, Thane. You can meet Dr. Prachi Chivate personally at Icon Hospital in Dombivali, Thane. Book an appointment online with Dr. Prachi Chivate on Lybrate.com.

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Hi, I am Kunal Singh 23 years old I am looking for job but didn't get it, struggle lots but no benefits, that's why I am suffering from depression.

DHMS (Diploma in Homeopathic Medicine and Surgery)
Homeopath, Ludhiana
Hi, I am Kunal Singh 23 years old I am looking for job but didn't get it, struggle lots but no benefits, that's why I...
Do not worry, this happen to everybody at this age or certain part of their life--------do not feel depressed and keep on trying--------------cowards talk of depression and it provokes a negative feeling----------so do not allow negativity engulf you as it will only lead to darkness-----------------------for mental relaxation take below given homoeopathic medicine------------ d-stress drops (adven lab) drink 15 drops in 20 ml fresh water 3 times daily------------
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I am suffering social anxiety disorder since childhood. What are the treatments available for social anxiety disorder.

MD Psychiatry, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Chandigarh
I am suffering social anxiety disorder since childhood. What are the treatments available for social anxiety disorder.
Hi, Social anxiety disorder can be treated by two modalities. The first one is medications. These primarily include SSRI group of medications together with benzodiazepines. However, there are multitude of drugs available to chose from. Often a combination of medications is required. The second mode of treatment is psychotherapy. Of all types of psychotherapy, Cognitive Behavior therapy is the most common type and the mst effective type used. It consists of weekly or bi-weekly sessions which will focus on reducing anxiety in social situations. The best possible results are often seen when a combination of medications and Cognitive behavior therapy is used together. I do hope that I was able to answer your query. Best wishes.
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Doctor I am a moderate smoker and I was smoked 1 year now I stop this smoking habit. How can I clear my lungs doctor?

Bachelor of Ayurveda, Medicine and Surgery (BAMS), Masters in psychology counselling
Psychologist, Hyderabad
Excellent lybrate-user, that you stopped smoking, don't worry about toxins it is normal process automatically toxins will be cleared, walking in fresh air daily in garden or top of your building helps lungs to clear early.
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My husband takes alcohol daily 2 bottles since 25 years. Want to know the medicine to make him stop drinks.what can i do?

MD - Psychiatry, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Patna
Suddenly you may not expect change from him. You may motivate him to gradually reduce the amount and frequency. It is very difficult to leave alcohol at once. De-addiction is not possible at home. If he gets motivated he can be admitted at a de-addiction centre or a psychiatric hospital for the same. I wish you both all the best.
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I am suffering from marital discord and my wife hardly communicates when my parents are around. She leaves home at her own will. I am not finding any source of happiness in my marriage of 5 years.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
This is a long-standing factor, repeated and confirmed as very critical to sustain a marriage: communication. When there is no communication, there is danger that the union will collapse. You must immediately reach out to a marriage counselor and both of you must attend the sessions. If she is unwilling, you at least go and seek help as to how to make something happen from your side. Ideally, it would best for both to attend, but she may not cooperate like you have indicated. Sometimes you have to take matters in your own hands to do the right things. Passivity under these circumstances is criminal. Be firm but with love. Even when she does not talk, you can initiate conversations in subtle ways, skirting controversial issues and gradually improving and increasing non-threatening dialogues. For example, ignore the non-communication during your parents? visits but as soon as they are gone and she is open to some talking, discuss matters of the house, children, her work or yours, old friends etc. There are so many topics that are easy for conversing about. Your parents, don? t forget, are her in-laws. There is a host of problems between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law universally, that it is referred to as a syndrome. If you discus controversies with her, you will be pressing the wrong buttons. Don? t even bother about your parents being respected, if you want to save your marriage. In fact, you can tell them not to visit for some time until something positive happens between you two. You must be ingenious without it being obvious. If you play the cards right, you can make conducive communication happen in your marriage as though you had never had a problem at all!
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I have some concentration problem I am finding for last few months. I had very good attentive mind. Kindly suggest.

BHMS
Homeopath, Faridabad
Hi. Homoeopathic medicines are very effective for increasing concentration, but if done with yoga, will give you great results! But practice the following poses if you don’t have any medical condition or pregnancy or else take an advice from your concern doctor and then only perform these. 1.Shashankasana: Sit in Vajrasana with hands on the thighs. The upper body is straight and relaxed. Inhaling raise both arms above the head. Exhaling keep the back straight and bend upper body and arms forward from the hips, until arms and forehead touch the floor. The buttocks remain on the heels. Breathing normally remain in this position for a while. Relax the whole body, especially the shoulders, neck and back. Inhaling keep the back straight and raise the upper body and arms. Exhaling return to the starting position. Practice the exercise 3 times in total. Remain bending forward for sometime and consciously perceive the movement of the breath on the spine. 2.Virasana: Sit in Vajrasana. Hands rest on the thighs and the body is relaxed. Bring the left foot beside the right knee with the sole of the foot flat on the floor. Place the left elbow on the left knee and rest the chin in the hand. Right hand rests on the right thigh. Tuck the toes of the right foot under. The right knee remains in contact with the floor. Transfer the weight onto the right heel. Concentrate on a fixed point in front. Breathing normally remain in this position for as long as comfortable. Return to the starting position. Repeat on the other side. 3.Sit in Vajrasana. Body is straight and hands rest on the thighs. Relax the whole body. Inhaling stretch the arms above the head, then bring them behind the back and grasp the left wrist with the right hand. Exhaling bend the body forward from the hips, keeping the back straight, until the forehead touches the floor. The buttocks remain on the heels. Breathing normally concentrate on the whole body and relax. Remain in this position for as long as comfortable. Inhaling slowly bring the body upright. At the same time stretch the arms above the head. Exhaling return to the starting position. Medication: Take homoeopathic medicine - Anacardium 200/ once daily.
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Sir my age is 25 years old. My mind alwas tinking use less of maters. Not concerate to job.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear, you are unable to concentrate on your job simply because you are not doing your job sincerely. Passion towards job is to cultivated first. Love working, because work is worship. If you don't like the current job, quit it and go for a job you like, and then don't look salary, look for passion. Take care.
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Sometimes forgot to remember very little matters. Is this somehow connected with thyroid hormone?

MBBS, MBA (Healthcare)
General Physician, Delhi
Sometimes forgot to remember very little matters. Is this somehow connected with thyroid hormone?
if thyroid level is ok , it should not be. some times it occurs in hypothyroidism. when it is badly controlled. do your thyroid profile test , free t3 free t4 tsh. avoid stress if any. take proper sleep.
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How to improve my self. Please give me a suggestion. Please tell me what can I do?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear , self consists of attitude, aptitude, experience, perception, heredity, trait etc. To improve yourself, you have improve all these aspects. To improve all these aspects, it is long journey. We learn from our experiences and others experiences.
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I am 25 years old and I want to know about nicotine patches everything about it dosage and consumption.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Nicotine patch is used for: Helping you to quit smoking. Nicotine patch is a smoking deterrent. It works by providing low levels of nicotine, which may help you to quit smoking by lessening the physical signs of withdrawal symptoms. Do NOT use nicotine patch if: • you are allergic to any ingredient in nicotine patch Contact your doctor or health care provider right away if any of these apply to you. Before using nicotine patch: Some medical conditions may interact with nicotine patch. Tell your doctor or pharmacist if you have any medical conditions, especially if any of the following apply to you: • if you are pregnant, planning to become pregnant, or are breast-feeding • if you are taking any prescription or nonprescription medicine, herbal preparation, or dietary supplement • if you have allergies to medicines, foods, or other substances (including adhesive tape) • if you have skin problems at the application site • if you have heart problems, irregular heartbeat, or if you have had a recent heart attack • if you have high blood pressure • you continue to smoke, chew tobacco, use snuff, or use any other nicotine-containing products (eg, nicotine gum) • if you take medicine for asthma or depression, or if you are using another medicine to stop smoking Some MEDICINES MAY INTERACT with nicotine patch. Tell your health care provider if you are taking any other medicines. Ask your health care provider if nicotine patch may interact with other medicines that you take. Check with your health care provider before you start, stop, or change the dose of any medicine. How to use nicotine patch: Use nicotine patch as directed by your doctor. Check the label on the medicine for exact dosing instructions. • An extra patient leaflet is available with nicotine patch. Talk to your pharmacist if you have questions about this information. • Do not apply to skin that is oily, burned, irritated, or damaged in any way. • Remove backing from patch and immediately press onto a clean, dry, hairless part of your upper arm or hip. Press firmly and count to 10 to be sure it sticks well. • Wash your hands after applying or removing the patch. • Apply a new patch at the same time each day. Be sure to use a different skin site to avoid skin irritation. • Do not cut the patch in half or into smaller pieces. • Do not wear more than 1 patch at a time. • Wear each patch for 16 to 24 hours. Do not leave the patch on for more than 24 hours because it may irritate your skin and lose its strength. • After removing the used patch, fold it in half with the sticky sides together. Discard the patch out of the reach of children and away from pets. • If you miss a dose of nicotine patch, use it as soon as possible. If it is almost time for your next dose, skip the missed dose and go back to your regular dosing schedule. Do not use 2 doses at once. Ask your health care provider any questions you may have about how to use nicotine patch. Important safety information: • Nicotine patch comes in different strengths. Talk to your doctor about which strength is right for you. • Do NOT use more than the recommended dose or use for longer than 10 weeks without checking with your doctor. If you feel the need to take nicotine patch after 10 weeks, check with your doctor. • If you begin to have vivid dreams or other sleeping problems, remove the patch at bedtime (after wearing it for about 16 hours). Put on a new patch when you wake up the next day. • Avoid getting nicotine patch in your eyes. If you get nicotine patch in your eyes, wash them out immediately with cool tap water. • Do not smoke or use tobacco products while you are using nicotine patch. This includes times when you are not wearing the patch. • Nicotine patch should be used as part of a larger program to help you stop smoking. If you need help choosing a program, talk with your health care provider. • Tell your doctor, dentist, or other health care provider that you use nicotine patch before you receive any medical or dental care, emergency care, or surgery. • If you will be having a magnetic resonance imaging (MRI), tell your doctor that you use nicotine patch. You may need to remove the patch before having the MRI. • Nicotine patch may cause harm if it is swallowed. If you, a child, or a pet may have taken it by mouth, contact your poison control center or emergency room right away. • Use nicotine patch with caution in the ELDERLY; they may be more sensitive to its effects. • Nicotine patch should not be used in CHILDREN younger than 18 years old without first checking with the child's doctor; safety and effectiveness in these children have not been confirmed. • PREGNANCY and BREAST-FEEDING: Nicotine patch may cause harm to the fetus. If you think you may be pregnant, contact your doctor. You will need to discuss the benefits and risks of using nicotine patch while you are pregnant. Nicotine patch is found in breast milk. If you are or will be breast-feeding while you use nicotine patch, check with your doctor. Discuss any possible risks to your baby. When used for longer than a few weeks or at high doses, some people develop a need to continue taking nicotine patch. This is known as DEPENDENCE or addiction. Do not suddenly stop taking nicotine patch without your doctor's approval. If you do, you may have WITHDRAWAL symptoms. These may include anxiety, craving, impaired concentration, increased appetite, irritability, nervousness, sleep disturbances, and weight gain. Possible side effects of nicotine patch: All medicines may cause side effects, but many people have no, or minor, side effects. Check with your doctor if any of these most COMMON side effects persist or become bothersome: Abnormal or vivid dreams; mild redness, itching, or burning at the application site; trouble sleeping. Seek medical attention right away if any of these SEVERE side effects occur: Severe allergic reactions (rash; hives; itching; difficulty breathing; tightness in the chest; swelling of the mouth, face, lips, or tongue); blurred vision; fast or irregular heartbeat; nausea; severe or persistent dizziness or headache; swelling or persistent (more than 4 days) redness at the application site; vomiting; weakness. This is not a complete list of all side effects that may occur. If you have questions about side effects, contact your health care provider. Call your doctor for medical advice about side effects. To report side effects to the appropriate agency, please read the Guide to Reporting Problems to FDA. General information: • If you have any questions about nicotine patch, please talk with your doctor, pharmacist, or other health care provider. • Nicotine patch is to be used only by the patient for whom it is prescribed. Do not share it with other people. • If your symptoms do not improve or if they become worse, check with your doctor. • Check with your pharmacist about how to dispose of unused medicine. This information should not be used to decide whether or not to take nicotine patch or any other medicine. Only your health care provider has the knowledge and training to decide which medicines are right for you. This information does not endorse any medicine as safe, effective, or approved for treating any patient or health condition. This is only a brief summary of general information about nicotine patch. It does NOT include all information about the possible uses, directions, warnings, precautions, interactions, adverse effects, or risks that may apply to nicotine patch. This information is not specific medical advice and does not replace information you receive from your health care provider. You must talk with your health care provider for complete information about the risks and benefits of using nicotine patch. Disclaimer: This information should not be used to decide whether or not to take this medicine or any other medicine. Only your health care provider has the knowledge and training to decide which medicines are right for you. This information does not endorse any medicine as safe, effective, or approved for treating any patient or health condition. This is only a brief summary of general information about this medicine. It does NOT include all information about the possible uses, directions, warnings, precautions, interactions, adverse effects, or risks that may apply to this medicine. This information is not specific medical advice and does not replace information you receive from your health care provider. You must talk with your healthcare provider for complete information about the risks and benefits of using this medicine.
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I am feeling difficult in remembering names, memories and other activities. I am feeling annoyed with my brain. I want myself to be as normal. How to notice a problem with my brain?

MS - Counselling and Psychotherapy, MPHIL
Psychologist, Mumbai
For helping with memory, repeating helps. Repeat the names you wish to remember. Have a task list written down for the activities that you wish to do. Learn to be relaxed. Don't stress over and over that you have a memory issue. If you feel it's severe go to a doctor and get a thorough check up done.
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Dear Doctor, due to unnecessary chronic anxiety, my weight is getting reduced. I'm already underweight. My bmi is 17.2.I have a feeling of vomiting and I can't sleep at night. Is it harmful for health? Can it cause heart problem such as anorexia? I'm male. I'm in a confusion. Will it lead to heart problem and diabetes? I'm male, age 29.

MBBS, MD - NEUROPSYCHIATRY
Psychiatrist, Bangalore
Dear Doctor, due to unnecessary chronic anxiety, my weight is getting reduced. I'm already underweight. My bmi is 17....
Yes anxiety can cause a lot of problems like reduces weight and decrease in appetite. But the good news is that it can be treated. At this age I don't see any reason as why you will get a heart disease. However anxiety can cause palpitation and patients think it is because of heart disease. This is not true. You can try relaxation exercises.
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I'm suffering from stuttering problem, all doctors said there is no solution. Can you please tell me any solution.

Bachelor of Audiology & Speech Language Pathology (B.A.S.L.P)
Audiologist,
Consult the speech therapist & take speech therapy continues apply all techniques or practice at home like reduce your speech of rate whenever speaking someone, take a small breath to start the words, do relaxation exercises. I hope after speech therapy solved your problem.
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Sir or madam, how can concentrated in study more time, and mind is open so give me physical idea and yoga.

BHMS
Homeopath, Faridabad
Hello, take Bacopa monnn.1x, 2 tabs twice daily. Do meditation for half an hour in the morning daily. Do yoga and deep breathing exercises like Pranayam. revert me after 1 month.
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As m bipolar and taking Buprion 300 at morning n resque ls at night n clonazepam morning n evening but still I feel very worried fr my future as I am into job due to have lose in business my age is 42 but thin fit by body. Bt notice that my sex drive is low n tried forcedly to do sex no sperm cm out pls explain what is the problem is it due to medicine or due age. Which medicine cn bring my libido back plshelp.

BAMS, MD Ayurveda
Sexologist, Lonavala
As m bipolar and taking Buprion 300 at morning n resque ls at night n clonazepam morning n evening but still I feel v...
One of the simplest home remedies Saffron is a mild aphrodisiac 1. Soak 10 almonds in water overnight 2. Peel off the skin and crush them the next morning 3. Take 1 cup hot cow's milk 4. Add the crushed almonds 5. Add a pinch of ginger powder 6. Add a pinch of cardamom powder 7. Add a pinch of saffron 8. Mix well 9. Drink this every morning Causes: • Anxiety • Incorrect diet • Unhealthy lifestyle it will surely help you.
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Sir what are the ill effects if we are stressed mentally. What are the measures should take to be free.

BAMS, MD Ayurveda
Sexologist, Lonavala
Sir what are the ill effects if we are stressed mentally. What are the measures should take to be free.
One of the simplest home remedies Natural home remedy using cashew nuts and milk: 1. Crush some cashew nuts to powder 2. Take 1 tsp of cashew nut powder 3. Add 1 cup of warm milk 4. Mix well 5. Drink every day This is very helpful for you.
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After doing some work my body start paining aur I feel very tired and not able to do any work I feel I should not get up from bed and feel very sleepy.

MBBS
General Physician, Hyderabad
After doing some work my body start paining aur I feel very tired and not able to do any work I feel I should not get...
Hi! It may be due to aneamia( blood kum) You have to eat very well Like fruits , vegetables, eggs, nuts and nonvegetarian. Otherwise you have to see a physician to get thorough evaluation.
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Sir sometimes I am sick and sometimes I am happy. Doctor recommend me zapiz 0.5 mg to get relief. But sometimes I went to a deep depression and I don't know what to do.

MBBS, MD Psychiatry, DNB Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Nagpur
Sir sometimes I am sick and sometimes I am happy. Doctor recommend me zapiz 0.5 mg to get relief. But sometimes I wen...
You seem to have a bipolar personality, the one in which your mood keeps swinging from a happy to sad state, within different periods. Episodes of depression, particularly long lasting are common in such disorders. Instead of just continuing the prescribed medication as and when needed, consult your treating psychiatrist with detailed complaints. You may contact me online for any further queries and assistance.
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I had epilepsy problem some twenty five year ago. I gradually reduced the dosage and I was alright. Bud suddenly had an attack yesterday. What should I do.

MD - Psychiatry, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Panchkula
Hello mam. You must contact your doctor without a delay as your condition needs re-evaluation and maybe, your medicines need to be continued. If you want to reduce or stop your medication, it must be done under guidance of your doctor only, as unsupervised change of medication is always harmful. Please take care.
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How To Bounce Back From Failure - Tips From A Pyschologist

Hypnotherapist, DCS, BSIC, Advanced Trainee of Transactional Analysis, Advanced Skills in Counselling
Psychologist,
How To Bounce Back From Failure - Tips From A Pyschologist
HOW TO BOUNCE BACK FROM FAILURE

“It's fine to celebrate success, but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure,” Bill Gates said. We always shower praise on those who have triumphed. Very rarely do we examine all the times the successful people have failed, and analyze how they turned their “luck” around. In this tip, you will understand how to turn failure into success and bounce back with more fervour.

1. A SUCCESSFUL MINDSET: If you’re striving to achieve anything then failure is inevitable. “Whenever you’re trying a new experiment, whether it’s a new job, a new product, a new hobby, a new boyfriend or girlfriend–whatever it is–you need to give some thought to what is your strategy and which are the possible ways to achieve it. Do you have any plan B or plan C if plan A fails? What will you do if nothing works out...and how to minimise the losses as well as taking advantage of the opportunities that you have. Assessing your opportunities and threats to success is very important. When a newly wedded girl comes to stay with her In laws, she might need to have a number of ways in her kitty to make her place in the new household rather than just stick to a few traditional ones. If one technique doesn't work, try something else. Disaster strikes when creativity is not given a place and failure was not factored in. Feeling helpless doesn't add upto success. Optimism is what people need to bounce back with.

2. LEARN AND IMPROVE WITH EACH FAILURE: Failure is just an opportunity to learn and improve. It’s a teaching moment that should be analyzed with a practical, clear mind. It helps to see mistakes as stepping stones to learning and improving and using it as an opportunity to bounce back. Every person should behave like a scientist with a mind open to exploring, assessing, making mistakes and changing. Mistakes must be embraced as being part of the process of success. If we don’t make mistakes it means that we’re not trying, and if we’re not trying then we’re not learning and getting better. Your self-worth should not rest on perfectionism, but rather value your ability to accept and learn from your mistakes. Not everyone is willing to admit when they’re wrong, which can hamper progress and relationships. When Meena and Arun started dating each other, they didn't know each other well and tried to impress each other in ways that was not working out well for both of them. It was very frustrating for them to see that their relationship was not working out. In counselling, they realised that they were not asking what each can do to impress the other. Meena told Arun that she would like to be taken out to plays and theatre by her future partner and Arun told Meena that he would like to take weekend trips to nearby destinations to get to know his partner well. When they both started doing what the other appreciated, they got to know each other better and relationship started blooming. Thus Arun and Meena assessed the situation, were open to discussion and found an amicable solution instead of thinking of their previous efforts as failure and giving up.

3. LOVE YOUR CRITICS: How do you feel when your work gets criticised repeatedly by your boss, manager or your husband. It mighty be hurtful and demeaning to hear critical feedback, but if many people are saying the same things about your work or behaviour, then maybe it's time to give it a serious thought. When Saira was often told that she wasn't cooperative enough in team activities and tends to slacken and pass on work to other members, her mind started working. She had got the same comments in her previous organisations. She started seeing a grain of truth in this feedback and took steps to rectify complaints that stood out common in all the feedbacks and reworked her way back to become a sought after team member. Her next years' appraisal was better and got her an increment. Saira triumphed, because she knew how to learn from criticism.

4. ACCEPT FAILURE AS AN IMPORTANT PART OF LIFE: Shivani was heartbroken when her 15 year old perfect son started doing badly in exams. Her world fell apart when she came to know that he had secured 73% in 10th grade. She felt that she had failed as a parent and her son as she had not devoted enough time to her son as she was a working mother. In counselling, she was asked if she knew any parent who had never failed their kids and were always there for them. Shivani couldn't come up with any names of such mothers who had been perfect to the core. Yes, that's how real mothers are...you will fail sometimes and you will win sometimes. Every moment you are real with your child, you are succeeding as a mother. Accepting failure as a part of life and knowing that you gave it your best shot is good enough. There's magic in feeling genuine regret rather than overkilling guilt and shame. Own your failure openly, publicly, and you'll reap a harvest of forgiveness, trust, respect, and connection—the things you thought you'd get by succeeding. Ironic, isn't it?

5. GO WITH YOUR GUT: When you see a red flag, pay attention. How many times in life have you kicked yourself for not listening to that little voice in your head that says, “Something is wrong here”?. Preetam gave an interview with an organisation, going by their market reputation. Yet during the interview, he picked up feelings of dissonance within the company. After joining them, he realised that his gut was right..the company was going through major shuffle and policy changes, which were not working out for Preetam.

6. BE A PROBLEM SOLVER AND STAY CALM: In a crisis, people tend to get anxious. Maintaining a sense of Zen will not only allow you to think more clearly but will also set the tone for those around you. Kapil used to get tensed over small details. He realised that in the larger scheme of things they were really not that important. He focussed his energies on things that were more important for him to reach his monthly targets. This started calming him down.

7. FIND A SOLUTION: You need to figure out how to address and remedy the situation. Start by considering your end game — what’s the ultimate outcome you’d like to see? — and work backwards from there. Daya wanted to be a good father to his children. He wanted them to remember him as a gentle and loving father. He started working backwards and his daily actions and behaviours showed to his children that Daya was a loving father. He played with them, took them for cricket coaching, went swimming, shared personal success and failures and most of all listened to them when they had to say something.

8. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY OF YOUR MISTAKES AND FAILURES: If you screwed up, don’t make excuses — just apologise genuinely for any errors on your part. Remember, that no one is perfect and it's human to err. Prema was a caring mother. She had many dreams about her daughter and wanted her to do well in studies and be a well behaved child of the family. But when her daughter started showing disinterest in studies and marks started falling, Prema used to beat up her daughter in her anxiety to do well. In counselling Prema understood that her intentions were good, but the way she communicated were not helping the situation as Prema's daughter hated her mother and maintained distance. Prema owned up her mistakes and apologised for her errors to her daughter. She also took remedial action to be accepting of her daughter and gave her the space to make her own mistakes and learn from them.

9. BECOME PROACTIVE: Don’t let a small mistake linger and turn into a bigger one. That’s not to say you should simply be reactive, but i f you know you did something wrong, deal with it right away. Say, for example, you stuck your foot in your mouth during an important business meeting and inadvertently offended your boss or a client. Acknowledge the gaffe, apologize and try to move on without beating yourself up. Remember that, “In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.

10. DEFINE YOUR OWN SUCCESS AND FAILURES: Its important to have your own definition of both rather than how the world sees and defines success and failure. Find answers to questions like: How would you be behaving when you have succeeded, what must happen to feel successful, how will your life change when you are successful? Every person has a very different view and definition for success and making it your own definition can spell failure. Don't let the world tell you whether you have failed or succeeded. It's also excellent for self esteem and works as a protective shield from potential damage.

So, next time there’s that misstep, mistake or misunderstanding, remember to take a deep breath and be your own best publicist by remaining calm, seeking the solution and seeing the challenge as an opportunity to lead and learn.







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