Dear, I have got married by 12th Feb of this year. D next week my father in law admitted in hospital discovered multiple myeloma from that moment till now we never been anywhere no honeymoon not even to temple. And we have separate home though my hubby always wanted to stay in his uncle home. My hubbys mom dad his brother and my mother in laws two sister and three brothers along with their partners and kids lives in same totally 22 members in single home. And we have only two rooms. Where my mother in last two sisters sleep with their husband we being newly married sleep in hall along others that too my hubby in one corner and me in other corner. Single bathroom we should all use it. Ours is love marriage before marriage he loved me so much. But now changed it a complete mummy's boy. We can't talk anything can't go anywhere all people will interfere in our personal. Hubby shakes his head for whatever his mom says. I was brought up in a luxurious way. It's very hard for me to handle these things and many hidden inside. My age is 23 and my hubby age s 27. Am under complete frustrated going mad. Please do help me. Waiting for your reply.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist46yrs exp

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You are in a bad situation not doubt but there is also a medical contingency and so a lot of things have to be tolerated. But your husband's attachment to his mother's apron strings is something of concern. many times during courtship you can observe these signs however subtle they may have been if you looked carefully. Now it is too late and you are already into your marriage. You will have to learn to live with it because you will spend your whole life trying to change this man and may also encounter a lot of resistance from both him and his mother. so you are then left with the alternative of sharing your husband with your MIL, fortunately not physically. You must inform him though that the first two years of your marriage will determine the next years of your life. By the looks of it, it seems to be going all wrong. You must learn to tolerate or else move into your own home, immediately. The last idea is the best if you can convince him. If you are patient and can out the medical emergency, then it would be a prudent time to initiate all these possibilities. Look at the cost of doing it now or later. If you pushed any agenda now, you could jeopardize the relationship itself. This is not worth taking the risk. 

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