40 years old lady and married. She have a child boy 15 years old. He studying in 10 standard. Problem is that my cousin sleep along vd husband and son on one bed. She mostly sleep with son. And always doing tight hug. She never doing gap with his boy. She take bath in front of him even change Clothes in front of his boy. And mostly touch private part also. We are doing objection many time but she said that he is his only boy and she loves him so much. And she is right. We are unable to understand her situation. please suggest us.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist46yrs exp

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No, this is not only unacceptable but it is bad for the child. Nudity in front of a grown up child and in his teens is very impressionable. She may be reluctant to break the symbiosis and it has been stretched far beyond its recommended term. He may, therefore, not grow up at the pace he should and will be a very dependent child, as he grows up further. Sleeping with the parents and physically holding in the manner you describe are all indicative of molly-codling beyond his years. Some elder person from her family can either dissuade her or she can be taken for parenting consultation to a professional. That person will explain to her the ramifications of such behavior, especially for the development of the child. Loving a child is one thing but this kind is overdone and we refer to it as'smothering and not mothering' as a boy, his concept of sexuality and manhood will all become contaminated. 

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