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Dr. Ms. Puja Modi is a popular Psychiatrist in Karve Road, Pune. He is currently practising at Trimiti Clinic in Karve Road, Pune. You can book an instant appointment online with Dr. Ms. Puja Modi on has top trusted Psychiatrists from across India. You will find Psychiatrists with more than 32 years of experience on You can find Psychiatrists online in Pune and from across India. View the profile of medical specialists and their reviews from other patients to make an informed decision.


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I loose concentration in studies day by day. When ever I start studying. I lost somewhere and think of other things instead of studies.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
CONCENTRATION TIPS Here’s some tips to get into a state of deep concentration where work / or studies flow easily so that you can do well in examinations/ and or do your work well. 1) Cut Off the Noise Getting into a state of concentration can take at least fifteen minutes. If you are getting distracted every five, you can’t possibly focus entirely on your work. Request that people don’t interrupt you when working on a big project. If you are required to answer phones and drop-in’s immediately, schedule work when the office is less busy. 2) Structure Your Environment The place you work can have an impact on your ability to focus. Try to locate yourself so you are facing potential distractions such as doors, phones or windows. This way you can take a glance to assess sounds that would otherwise break your focus. 3) Clarify Objectives Know what your goal is clearly before you start. If you aren’t sure what the end result is, the confusion will make it impossible to focus. 4) Divide Blobs. If you have a large project that needs work, clearly identify a path that you will use to get started working on it. If the sequence of actions isn’t obvious, it will be difficult to concentrate. Taking a few minutes to plan not only your end result, but the order you will complete any steps, can save hours in wasted thinking. 5) Know the Rules Get clear on what the guidelines are for the task ahead. What level of quality do you need? What standards do you need to follow? What constraints are there? If the rules aren’t clear from the outset, you will slip out of concentration as you ponder them later. 6) Set a Deadline Deadlines have both advantages and disadvantages when trying to force concentration. A deadline can make it easier to forget the non-essential and speed up your working time. If you give yourself only an hour to design a logo, you will keep it simple and avoid fiddling with extravagant designs. Time limits have disadvantages when they cause you to worry about the time you have left instead of the task itself. 7) Break down Roadblocks Roadblocks occur whenever you hit a tricky problem in your work. This can happen when you run out of ideas or your focus wavers. Break down roadblocks by brainstorming or planning on a piece of paper. Writing out your thought processes can keep you focused even if you might become frustrated. 8) Isolate Yourself Become a hermit and stay away from other people if you want to get work done. Unless your work is based on other people they will only break your focus. Create a private space and refuse to talk to anyone until your work is finished. Put a sign on your door to steer away drop-ins and don’t answer your phone. 9) Healthy Body, Sharper Mind What you put into your body affects the way you concentrate. Nobody would expect peak performance if they showed up drunk to work. But if you allow yourself to get chronic sleep deprivation, overuse stimulants like caffeine or eat dense, fatty foods your concentration will suffer. Try to cut out one of your unhealthy habits for just thirty days to see if there is a difference in your energy levels. I’ve found even small steps can create dramatic changes in my ability to focus. 10) Be Patient Before I write an article, I often sit at my desk for a fifteen or twenty minutes before I put finger on the keyboard. During this time I feel a strong urge to leave or do something else. But I know that if I am patient, I’ll stumble upon an idea to write about and enter a state of flow. Without a little patience, you can’t take advantage of flow when it rushed through you. If you need strong concentration I recommend periods of 90-120 minutes. Any less than that and you will waste too much time getting started before the flow can continue. More than this is possible to sustain focus, but you will probably benefit from a quick break. These are the general guidelines for concentration, studying well or doing your job. Regards.
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I have a bad habit of smoking, a minimum of 6 to 8 cigarettes per day since 3 years. Sometimes when I cough from the throat to spit I notice a bit of blood in my spit. It does not happen always but sometimes like once in a month. Is this a sign of throat or lung cancer? Please let me know any precautions or tests I can do.

Bachelors in Psychology, Masters in Psychology, Post Graduate Diploma in Guidance and Counselling
Psychologist, Jalandhar
Hi, Just consult with physician and try to reduce it. It is not a good habit. If you seriously want to reduce it I can help you. If you want you can consult me and discussed your problem. I could help you overcome this problem completely, at one consultation itself if you feel free to contact me either through text chat or call me when you find difficulty to manage, if you feel this one suggestion will help you no problem.
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My friend is getting angry very easily how can we treat his mood disorder by ourselves.

L L. B..,, M.Sc psychy,, N L P, P.G.D.G.C, M.S psychotherapy,, M.A child care, M A, clinical psy, M.A,social psychiatry,, M.Phil., psychology., Ph.D .,psychology
Psychologist, Vijayawada
Analyse his problems. Why he get irritated. Take further step to overcome from the problems. Better to understand his side of the problem. Help to him. With loving nature and affection everything will be solved. Better to be friendly. Spend with him most him. Treat him as a child. Do not hesitate, feel with him friendly. Do not criticise. Ok happy days.
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I am 28 years old women unmarried battling with mood swings and lack of interest in any activity. I started menstruating when I was just 8 years old. I noticed that I lost interest in my studies sports friends etc. I developed difficulty in concentrating on anything and started even masturbating for a long period of time. I enjoyed isolation and slowly it became a problem. I have a problem of dreaming a lot as if I have lost contact with the reality. Before menstruation things were very normal. I was an active child who enjoyed studying and playing and was also athletic. Despite of all the problems I managed to clear all my exams with 70% marks. Over a period of time I developed the problem of sinusitis, PCOD and I also developed facial hair. I am taking medication for it .my periods have reduced a lot and I feel tired all the time and I also stopped masturbating. Things have become dull in my life. I have lost interest in everything and feel a sense of worthlessness. Deep down I feel that I have the ability to do a lot of things in life but I am stopped from doing it. Also I have the problem of head ache and running nose since a long time. I want to enjoy life and live it to the fullest and I do not want to feel tired all the timed.

Master of Clinical Psychology, Post Graduate Diploma in Psychological Counselling
Psychologist, Pune
I am 28 years old women unmarried battling with mood swings and lack of interest in any activity. I started menstruat...
lybrate-user, symptoms mentioned here indicate depression which is treatble with Psychiatric medicines and Psychological counselling. First of all you need to start n continue with Psychiatric medicines from a psychiatrist. You should start counselling from a Psychologist. It will help you to deal with negative thoughts and to manage your mental stability. Psychologist will teach you different relaxation techniques which helps to release anxiety and depression.
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I have a stage fear.I can write down the thing. But it come to speaking with strangers or on stage everything gets blurred.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Stage fear can be quite paralyzing although it hardly has anything to do with the stage. It is really a fear of people. We are gregarious by nature, social animals and need each other for survival and growth. Yet, the very thing that should be our strength can become our weakness, for various reasons. This last fact has to be discovered: what happened to you to develop this extent of anxiety around speaking to people. Are you afraid of being judged and rejected for what you have to say? Have you grown up with a lot of criticism? Do you have a serious rejection issue? The answers to these questions could open a can of worms with which you can do some work. Fear is the bottom-line. Do a personality development course, public speaking course, conversing skills course, join a Toastmasters Club, practice elocution skills, and above all talk to a counselor to help with the underlying fear. These will see you through, if you are sincere and committed.
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I am disturb for my study. Mostly when I read then I can not learn the topic for a long time and I forget after some time.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear user, You must be able to understand Concentration, attention span, recollection and distraction. If you are able to watch a movie for two hours continuously, if you are able to play a game for an hour, then you do not have any concentration problems. You can't be attentive towards your studies because you are not interested in it. You are able to watch movie and play game because you are interested in it. Human cannot be attentive towards anything for more than 10 minutes. Then you should study in such a way that your attention is continued and make the subjects are interesting to you. Effective learning techniques should help you. Recollection depends on anxiety, stress and other physical and circumstantial factors. Distractions while studying are plentiful. You should be able to overcome distractions or avoid distractions. Please understand the above. Change your study style and attitude accordingly. Please post a private question to me and I will help you with "effective learning" techniques. Avocados, Beetroots, Blueberries, Broccoli. Celery, Coconut Oil, Dark Chocolate etc are good for improving concentration. Take care.
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How can I reduce Internet use please suggest me little bit depression and mood swing problem.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
How can I reduce Internet use please suggest me little bit depression and mood swing problem.
Use willpower to reduce the internet use. Switch off the device after half hour usage. 5 Ways to Fight Depression If you feel depressed, it's best to do something about it — depression doesn't just go away on its own. In addition to getting help from a doctor or therapist, here are 5 things you can do to feel better. 1.Exercise. Take a 15- to 30-minute brisk walk every day — or dance, jog, or bike if you prefer. People who are depressed may not feel much like being active. In addition to getting aerobic exercise, some yoga poses can help relieve feelings of depression. Two other aspects of yoga — breathing exercises and meditation — can also help people with depression feel better. 2.Nurture yourself with good nutrition. Depression can affect appetite. One person may not feel like eating at all, but another might overeat. Proper nutrition can influence a person's mood and energy. So eat plenty of fruits and vegetables and get regular meals (even if you don't feel hungry, try to eat something light, like a piece of fruit, to keep you going). 3.Identify troubles, but don't dwell on them. Try to identify any situations that have contributed to your depression. When you know what's got you feeling blue and why, talk about it with a caring friend. Talking is a way to release the feelings and to receive some understanding. 4. Express yourself. With depression, a person's creativity and sense of fun may seem blocked. Exercise your imagination (painting, drawing, doodling, sewing, writing, dancing, composing music, etc.) and you not only get those creative juices flowing, you also loosen up some positive emotions. Take time to play with a friend or a pet, or do something fun for yourself. Find something to laugh about — a funny movie, perhaps. Laughter helps lighten your mood. 5. Try to notice good things. Depression affects a person's thoughts, making everything seem dismal, negative, and hopeless. If depression has you noticing only the negative, make an effort to notice the good things in life. Try to notice one thing, then try to think of one more. Consider your strengths, gifts, or blessings. Most of all, don't forget to be patient with yourself. Depression takes time to heal. If you are happy with these answers please click on "useful” link so that I can know my efforts are not wasted. If you want more clarifications or prescription for medicines consult me on this site to ask me directly and not in open questions session It's not easy to say exactly what causes depression and anxiety – it's different for everyone. Sometimes a difficult time in you or your mates' life can set off depression or anxiety, sometimes it's caused by a combination of things that has built up over time and sometimes, there's just no obvious cause at all.
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Hello doctor I am 18 year old and I suffered from stammering so much for last 15 years and I do speech therapy for 2 years but not my stammering was not cure! please suggest me what can I do!

Speech Therapist, Hyderabad
Speech therapy from a well qualified speech pathologist will surely help. Please consult a speech pathologist with masters degree with good clinical experience.
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I lost somebody close last year and since then feel very depressed and prefer keeping to myself All the time please help me.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
I lost somebody close last year and since then feel very depressed and prefer keeping to myself All the time please h...
Dear lybrate-user. Such separation related grief and depression are normal and there is nothing to worry. Wait for some more months. Take care.
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Independence Day Special - It's Time We Liberate Our Women!

International Certified Addiction Professional
Psychologist, Mumbai
Independence Day Special - It's Time We Liberate Our Women!

On the 15th of August 2017, we celebrate our 70th Independence Day. 70 years ago, Pandit Nehru’s words, “At the stroke of the midnight hour, when the world sleeps, India will awake to life and freedom…” resounded in every home across India. But, are we really living a life that echoes this freedom?

Especially, when it comes to Indian women, are they truly free? Can they make their own choices, take their own decisions and live their lives the way they wish to? Is she free from criticisms? Is there an unconditional acceptance for her? Does her external appearance is still a parameter to judge her character? If you think about it carefully, you will realize why the answer to this is negative. We may be an independent country, but we still have miles to go before we can say that Indian women are truly Independent.

Why is it important for women to be Independent?

Being balanced is an independence: One of the definitions of independence is the ability to live your life without being influenced by other people. It means your thoughts, emotions and decisions should be coming from within you.

Take charge of your life: Personal independence is not just about financial independence. Being financially independent can definitely improve the quality of life, but apart from that living up to your caliber can provide the identity. Your small or big contribution at a workplace is bringing the dignity. Though India may have a skewed sex ratio, women still make up for a large segment of the population. When an average Indian woman is not financially independent, she is considered to be dependent on the working males in her family. And that is when she loses her power to make choices and take decisions for her own actions. Education is the key to make rational decisions. Take charge of education, work, the money you earn but also give attention to emotional and mental well-being.

Take for instance the story of Shirin as played by Konkona Sen Sharma in the movie “Lipstick Under My Burkha”, who moonlights as a saleswoman. Her role as a wife is restricted to living by her husband’s dictates and being a mother to her three children. However, if she were encouraged to be more independent, the family could have lived a more comfortable life. She too would have been a much happier woman if she had control over her own life.

Happiness or life satisfaction?

When we encourage women to be more independent, we also nurture their talents. Take for example the story of young Rehana, again from the movie “Lipstick Under My Burkha”, while her parents only want her to work in the family tailoring shop, she dreams of pursuing music and living a more cosmopolitan life. However, her restrictions make her shoplift and take a more deviant path. As families, if we could give our daughters the independence to pursue their own interests, we might not only discover endless hidden talent in them, but it would also curb anti-social behaviors. In short, few things can lead to short term happiness but life satisfaction is based on how well you are at balancing all significant areas of your life.

What can you do to make women Independent?

Challenge the biased behaviors: Discrimination against a girl child begins very early in life. From the time she is a fetus, illegal sex determination tests are carried out for selective abortion. When she is a little girl; she is given less to eat as compared to her brothers and is kept at home and taught household chores rather than being sent to school. This is one of the main reasons why Indian women grow up to be dependent on others. Thus, the first step towards making them independent is to educate them.

Accept yourself conditionally: You may not be perfect all the time, you may have the past and might have repented on your decisions several times but now here life gives you an opportunity to regain the control. Redesign the life by changing the perceptions and taking rational decisions. Tell yourself that you are a priority for yourself. Remember you can not serve from an empty vessel.

Guilt free gifts: You deserve all the attention and appreciation, do not wait for someone else to notice your hard work. You can reward yourself for each small achievement. You know the significance of small things thus you pay attention to yourself. Avoiding our own needs, neglecting your own needs and sacrifices does not make you the best mother, wife or person etc. Understand that marriage is only a part of their lives and the goal for a woman is not just to raise a family. Have a guilt free time and reward for yourselves. Be a source of happiness for own self.

Moneywise be wise: Women are defamed for doing extra expenses, we may sometimes buy on emotional reasoning and land up spending disproportionately. Your hard earn money should give you long term security and also should contribute to improving your quality of life. Invest carefully, plan for your future & be wise.

Holistic health: Holistic health considers physical and psychological well-being. You do housekeeping for physical fitness and it is important to be conscious about your shape and size. You may avoid health complication by being physically active but looking at our daily stressful lifestyle our 'psychological housekeeping' also is important. 'Emotional hygiene' is also equally important, as it will allow you to enjoy the freedom you achieve with hard work.

Thus this Independence Day, let us make a promise to ourselves to do whatever we can to make every Indian woman around us independent in every aspect of her life. Remember, it is only when each man and woman is independent that a country can be truly independent.

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I am passing through a very hard time. Recently I broke up my 2.5 years relation with my girlfriend. Her mother refused me. I tried my level based to patch up the matter. And I was not in a position to escape her as both of us were determined to marry after compromise from both family. 1 month ago I talked last time with her and we both realized the situation. She tried to contact with me but every time I refused. But recently she is getting close with one of my friend with home I used to study during M. Sc. 5/6 years back. And the matter known to me via fb friend. After listening the matter from that day I am feeling weak to her and repeatedly remembering our sweet memories. I am trying to get rid of this. My sleeping habit also changed and became short. Last night I blocked that friend in fb. My family is searching a girl to marry recently. I am having financial problem too as I am repairing my home to look better for marriage purpose. I listen to music, view movies. But major problem is that I stay alone far from my home due to job. I have been trying to forget everything but when some of friend ask about her I became very emotional and helpless. please suggest me some way so that I can pass this hard time.

Sexologist, Mumbai
I am passing through a very hard time. Recently I broke up my 2.5 years relation with my girlfriend. Her mother refus...
Breakdown is a chance for break through. Read stories of great people. Inspiring stories catapult change. Some people work intensely so that their mind is engaged in something productive, meaningful and give a sense of fulfillment. Keep a sentry to watch your thoughts. Politely tell, "Go away" to unwanted thoughts. Reading good books, engaging in hobby helps tide over sour patches of life. Best,
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How To Deal With Schizophrenia?

MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Chennai
How To Deal With Schizophrenia?

Schizophrenia is a complex disorder that includes delusions, loss of personality, confusion, aggression, social withdrawal and mystic behavior. People suffering from schizophrenia may apparently hear voices or tend to feel that others are controlling their minds, their thoughts or plotting against them.

Schizophrenia can be hereditary. But the condition cannot be predicted except in the case of strong family history. Also, while prediction of Schizophrenia is difficult, its prevention is no easy. It cannot be prevented except where it occurs due to drug abuse like cannabis. Also, prevention can only be talked about in first episode cases and the best way to prevent is to take medicines properly.

Three ways to keep Schizophrenia at bay:

1. Socializing and meeting people - Socializing helps you build up a high self-esteem, lowers stress and keeps you busy and distracted. It is important to connect with friends to avoid isolation.

2. Exercise and DietExercise and intake of high nutrition diet are important to take care of your body. Fish oil has omega 3 fatty acids that can prevent psychotic disorders from getting worse. Consumption of these types of foods can prove to be beneficial in preventing the disorder.

3. Timely consultation - Consulting a psychiatrist if you have any symptoms, like suspicious feelings or unusual thoughts is an essential step to regulate the condition before it fully develops.

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I had a pregnancy scare recently, and now every time I have sex even with condom the whole time I feel tensed and take an ipill, I cannot stop thinking about it and I feel sweaty when I do. These anxiety issues first started when I went through a bad breakup, I always need something to worry about, I am not able to let myself live in peace, is this an anxiety disorder? My head feels very heavy and often I feel alone like noon will understand what is happening in my head.

Bachelor of Unani Medicine and Surgery (B.U.M.S)
Ayurveda, Indore
I had a pregnancy scare recently, and now every time I have sex even with condom the whole time I feel tensed and tak...
Yes dear this is anxiety disorder but in easy language it's just over thinking. Don't over think about situation try yoga and meditation. Stay away from contraceptive pills they cause hormonal imbalances in long use. Consult me privately if you need more consultation. Tc.
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Please suggest some medicine to flush out Nicotine from the body as I am a chain smoker and wanted to quit it. Tried to quit it for some time however unable to continue it.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
No such medicines and you have to stop smoking and do breathing exercise .Best age to stop smoking is before 40 ,In fact do not start all Only by using strong will power and avoiding all situations where you feel like smoking, chewing tobacco or drinking or using drugs/ weed, avoiding friends who smoke and diverting mind by reading or chewing a gum, like NICORETTE and taking a walk when you crave for a smoke can all help. You can chew Nicorette gum which is nicotine replacement. There are medicines available. Which can be prescribed if asked personally Cigarette smoking is a leading preventable cause of mortality. It kills more than 60 lakh people worldwide every year. More than 50% of regular smokers would invariably die from tobacco-related illnesses which includes heart attack, cancer or asthmatic lung diseases. Best age to stop smoking is before 40 31st May is “World No Tobacco Day” Quitting smoking before the age of 40 is associated with larger decline in premature death than stopping it at a later date. Best age therefore to stop smoking is before 40. However, stopping smoking even after the age of 50 is still associated with lower risk of death as compared to those who continue to smoke. Even in smokers aged 80 years or more, quitting smoking appears to reduce some mortality.
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Dentist, Yamunanagar
Consumption of counter pain relievers is advisable. A pain killer which reduces inflammation is highly recommendable. Some common ones are ibuprofen and aspirin.
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Premarital Self-Sexual Assessment - Why Is It A Must?

FFIM, Bachelor of Unani Medicine and Surgery (B.U.M.S)
Sexologist, Hyderabad
Premarital Self-Sexual Assessment - Why Is It A Must?

People often consider their wedding as the most important day of their lives. Well however, that is a myth. The most important days of your life are followed by your wedding. That is the time that you lay the foundation for a strong and happy married life. The building of this foundation may be affected by some things, the most important factor being failing venereal activities.

Go to a specialist before your big day, so that the days that follow don’t embarrass you in front of your partner.

Become aware:
Not being aware of your sexual potencies is a threat to your conjugal life. People today are too busy planning their wedding and making lavish expenses.  But most often they ignore another important factor.

Do you know what is that?
What is important apart from this is the premarital self sexual assessment. Don’t let your first time with your partner be the very first time you test your abilities. Even a good car needs its test run before it leaves the factory and almost every car needs a good service for better performance. That is exactly what premarital self-sexual assessment is.

In case you are not all that aware of the self-assessment techniques or need an expert’s guidance, make your way to a specialist, in this case, a Sexologist and get help. Checking your sexual wellness before your wedding is the most important task at hand and nothing tops it on the priority list.

Why do you need premartial self sexual assessment?
In case you are torn between the decisions of whether to visit a sexologist or not, here are a few factors that make Premarital Self Sexual Assessment mandatory for you-

  1. It helps you to assess your ability to perform
  2. It helps you to make sure of your parenting future
  3. It helps you to prevent yourself and your partner from any STDs (sexually transmitted diseases), and most importantly
  4. It saves you from the embarrassment of non or unsatisfactory performance for the first time, post wedding

How does premartial self sexual assessment works?
There are some ways that you can self-assess your sexual potencies. Some of the most effective ways include:

  1. Ejaculation Time: Monitor whether you are stricken by premature ejaculation. If yes, take the help of a specialist to delay it. Also, check whether you have a satisfactory ejaculation. Non- satisfactory ejaculation can lead to some health issues in the future.
  2. Erection Wellness: A great help extended by the premarital self-sexual assessment is checking of your erection wellness. In case there is the unsatisfactory erection, treatment from a specialist can help you reach optimal erection.
  3. Libido Wellness at Home: Another factor to be addressed during premarital self-sexual assessment is Libido Wellness at home.
  4. The Complete Recovery from ED and PE: Dual Action Package is the most effective way of dealing with any unsatisfactory sexual condition. Here is where it becomes important for you to consult a sexologist before marriage. A sexologist will provide you with the best Premarital Sexual Assessment as well as the best treatment to put you in the best of your form.
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I am 18 years old. I am having problem of getting short tempered. Now what should I do?

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
I am 18 years old. I am having problem of getting short tempered. Now what should I do?
Start by considering these 10 anger management tips. 1. Think before you speak In the heat of the moment, it's easy to say something you'll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything ? and allow others involved in the situation to do the same. 2. Once you're calm, express your anger As soon as you're thinking clearly, express your frustration in an assertive but nonconfrontational way. State your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them. 3. Get some exercise Physical activity can help reduce stress that can cause you to become angry. If you feel your anger escalating, go for a brisk walk or run, or spend some time doing other enjoyable physical activities. 4. Take a timeout Timeouts aren't just for kids. Give yourself short breaks during times of the day that tend to be stressful. A few moments of quiet time might help you feel better prepared to handle what's ahead without getting irritated or angry. 5. Identify possible solutions Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand. Does your child's messy room drive you crazy? Close the door. Is your partner late for dinner every night? Schedule meals later in the evening ? or agree to eat on your own a few times a week. Remind yourself that anger won't fix anything and might only make it worse. 6. Stick with 'I' statements To avoid criticizing or placing blame ? which might only increase tension ? use "I" statements to describe the problem. Be respectful and specific. For example, say, "I'm upset that you left the table without offering to help with the dishes," instead of, "You never do any housework." 7. Don't hold a grudge Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If you allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. But if you can forgive someone who angered you, you might both learn from the situation. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want at all times. 8. Use humor to release tension Lightening up can help diffuse tension. Use humor to help you face what's making you angry and, possibly, any unrealistic expectations you have for how things should go. Avoid sarcasm, though ? it can hurt feelings and make things worse. 9. Practice relaxation skills When your temper flares, put relaxation skills to work. Practice deep-breathing exercises, imagine a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase, such as, "Take it easy." You might also listen to music, write in a journal or do a few yoga poses ? whatever it takes to encourage relaxation. 10. Know when to seek help Learning to control anger is a challenge for everyone at times. Consider seeking help for anger issues if your anger seems out of control, causes you to do things you regret or hurts those around you.
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Hi I am a 25 years old female, I was in a very bad pain I had panic attacks twice and all but I never gave up my confidence, (my grandma has passed away on sept 1st 2016 by suiciding at age of 76 cause of depression, I was pretty normal after that for a month, I had a small argument with my husband and I told him in a fight simply you make depressed all the time and word got stuck in my mind and I started thinking that am I depressed and will I suicide and I started comparing the symptoms she faced before death that even I have such and even I may do so. That things got me panic attacks) later I stood strong and and dared to keep thinking about whats bothering me all the time and started making the image of me suiciding or death of mine when I close my eyes and slowly fear is gone, I mean I do not panic of it anymore, then I had been to meditation classes which made me ease that death is jus a normal part of life and retardation belief made me strong. Now I go for zumba dance classes which is so interesting for me. I do not want to be on medicines anyway, only thing is I started training my subconscious mind too. That no matter I got to be happy and strong. But still I get a sudden thought do not do this you ll die anyway. But I never stopped from doing it. I fight with it showing I will do it. I keep getting a thought why all this better to die when we ll born again. But again I keep telling my self no I had been gifted this life I can not waste it. I keep telling myself never I should suicide no matter what. Thats so irritating for me. And will this thoughts be with me forever? M worried will I get back this anxiety again? Or more do I need any specific NLP or hypnosis to get back to original me? I feel like I should erase all the things from my mind from past 3 months what I was facing and be original me back? Is there any such treatment. I do all my regular activities attending parties and all but I feel that am not enjoying myself coz of something thought bothers me in between, but I was worst before only used to think abt death 24 hrs as of now I guess I hardly think 10 to 15 times a day which will give a throat ache at times and then I get to work and m normal again? Is it a must I need medicines now for this or counselling would help. And please tell me how the result would be in both ways? I may sound stupid but I want that to happen. Cause at times am very happy but such sudden thoughts make me feel worse coz thats not me. Am not a loser.

Master of Arts, Clinical Psychology, Ph.D., Neuropsychology
Psychologist, Udaipur
Hi I am a 25 years old female, I was in a very bad pain I had panic attacks twice and all but I never gave up my conf...
Dear lybrate-user, No, you are not a loser. I would rather say that you are very very Brave to overcome the impulse of unconscious mind. It is also brave to train your subconscious mind and redirect it to channelize your latent energies to dance and meditation. Keep doing both. For the recurrent thought pattern, yes hypnosis can help you. You can have a online hypnosis session if you wish to with me. A lot of things can handled by it. You can contact me on Lybrate private consultation for hypnosis session. NLP is for immediate short term results to tackle the anxiety or panic. Medication will not address the recurrent though pattern. So in opinion hypnosis and training in self hypnosis will help you a great deal.
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I love sex & legs of girls. So I hv done HP daily. please tell me what kind of med I used for ignoring of sex.

DHMS (Diploma in Homeopathic Medicine and Surgery)
Homeopath, Ludhiana
I love sex & legs of girls. So I hv done HP daily. please tell me what kind of med I used for ignoring of sex.
There is no such medicine to control this habit, just your strong will power can achieve this target and forthat I will guide you with some points which you will have to implement in your lif style-------------- 1. Do exercise daily in the evening, for 30 minutesafter dinner, this will make you tired at night. And since masturbation is often done at night, so when you are exhausted, you will give preference to sleep not to masturbation. -------------------------------- 2. Avoid sitting on your bed. Use a table/chair, and always sit with other people, if possible ---------------- 3. When the urge is very intense take a cold shower! it is not only shown to calm the mind but have many other benefits to overall health and energy.------------------------- 4. Think about your family or anyone else and if they were watching you. ----------------------- 5. When you feel the need to masturbate, take a brisk walk or jog. Always try to occupy yourself when the urge arises. --------------------------------------- 6. Exercise more and get out of the house. This is a great way to take your mind off everything.---------------------------------------- 7. Motivate yourself by reminding yourself that abstaining will increase sexual performance, because if you don't do it as much you will have more energy and be more easily aroused when you have sex with someone, whoever it may be, and also you will have a stronger orgasm since you are less desensitized to the feeling. For optimum hormone levels, keep masturbation to no more than once a week. Studies in men have shown that not masturbating for up to a week slightly increases testosterone, after this it goes back down.---------------------------- 8. Take your mind off it with (non-sexual) music.--------------------------- 9. Set tiny goals for yourself, start with going 3 days clean, the third day is the speed bump, get past that and you know that you're committed. Then go a week, then 10 days, then two weeks, then 17 days, etc. ---------------------------------- 10. Try fasting. Abstain from food or drink in a few hours everyday can distract your mind from sexual urge. Fasting will also act as a diet from stimulating food or drink for a certain period. If you do it regularly you will have better control upon your urge.----------------------
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I had am feeling low and lost all the time. I know what things can help, but I'm unable to do them. I feel distracted and diverted to all non priority things all the time. I know meditation, and exercise and good sleep and all such good things will help but I am not able to focus on them or do them. What should I do? Before 2 years I had undergone an episode of depression. I overcome it well. I have been strongly handling things but off lately this is happening. What can I do?

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Mumbai
Loss of interest, decreased concentration and attention, feeling low and disturbed sleep or appetite are some of the signs of depression. Consult a psychiatrist who will assess you in detail. If you are feeling suicidal or hopeless, seek professional help immediately.
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