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I am 25, I am single, I masturbated two times in month but I have to completely stop now Bec I suffering from headache and mental issue due to that So 1) I am asking that it is okay to leave masturbation. 2) I not believe in sexual need it is right 3) I have to completely stop masturbation upto my marriage or right partner. What and how can I do.

B.Sc(Hons) Mumbai Univ., ND, MD - Alternate Medicine, Aroma Therap., Bach Flower Rem, Mental Health Cert.
Alternative Medicine Specialist, Mumbai
I am 25, I am single, I masturbated two times in month but I have to completely stop now Bec I suffering from headach...
Hi I will prescribe some harmless but effective flower remedy available in homoeopathy shops. Try to buy original medicines. Mix 4 drops of olive + 4 drops of hornbeam + 4 drops of mimulus + 3 drops of honeysuckle. Mix these with 100 ml water and drink it every night once before sleeping.
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I have a bf. Bt. Wo na to commit karta h na hi ha karta h. M smjh ni pati kya karu. Maine life plan ki hui h uske sath bt. Uska ni pta. M marnr ki bolu to dar jata h.Bt still do not understand wt should I do. I love him so much. Use khona ni chahiti bt wo na kuch kehta h na btata h. Kya karu?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
I have a bf. Bt. Wo na to commit karta h na hi ha karta h. M smjh ni pati kya karu. Maine life plan ki hui h uske sat...
Dear user. I can understand. Stress is simply a reaction to a stimulus that disturbs our physical or mental equilibrium. In other words, it's an omnipresent part of life. A stressful event can trigger the “fight-or-flight” response, causing hormones such as adrenaline and cortisol to surge through the body. A little bit of stress, known as “acute stress,” can be exciting—it keeps us active and alert. But long-term, or “chronic stress,” can have detrimental effects on health. There is nothing to worry much about stress because stress is part of your body's defense mechanism. Stress is essential too. You may not be able to control the stressors in your world, but you can alter your reaction to them. I need to know, what are the causes with which you are stressed? Once you know the reason, you will be able to adjust with it with some tips and tricks. Please let me know the details. Take care.
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I get fear to talk a person If I am facing that person for first time I will be fine if I need to talk to that same person second time I get fear and not able to face any person at all and I get unwanted thought and I get fear and I speak to person I get stammer to talk is it becoz of fear and I feel comfort spending time alone individual ly suggest me what should I do.

MASLP, Bachelor of Audiology & Speech Language Pathology (B.A.S.L.P)
Speech Therapist, Nashik
I get fear to talk a person If I am facing that person for first time I will be fine if I need to talk to that same p...
Hello, as reported by you the answer to your question is in the question itself. You have to reduce your anxiety n fear. There is no reason to fear if you are talking to a person try to practice in front of mirror. Approach people with positivity no one is going to judge you. If stuttering persists consult a speech therapist. Regards.
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I'm 30 years old I want to stop sleeping pills sunidra how can you help. I also take anti depressant.

M.S. Counselling and Psychotherapy
Psychologist, Bangalore
I'm 30 years old I want to stop sleeping pills sunidra how can you help. I also take anti depressant.
It seems something is bothering you because of which you have lost your sleep. I hope you are taking these antidepressant tablets after consulting a doctor. It appears to me that you are upset about something in your life. May be you are not able to express your feelings to anyone or to the concerned person. But suppressed feelings come out in the form of psychosomatic pains, sleep disorders, unjustified anger or sadness or other health issues. Please check with yourself what is happening to you? you need to get in touch with your own feelings. It is also important to express your feelings assertively so that you can take rational decisions in life and enjoy your life. You may consider talking to a counsellor who will help you in finding the root cause of your sleeplessness and depression and will also help you in boosting your communication skills. Taking medication for a longer time will have side effects. Take care.
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Nowadays I am very dull, I am not getting interest to speak with anyone, not interested to go to office, not getting interest at anything, feeling comfortable if I sleep alone. Earlier I was not like this. All are telling that I am changed, even I am feeling the same, what is the cause, situation,and solution for this.

MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Chennai
You seem to be suffering most likely from Depression, kindly consult a psychiatrist, get evaluated for the severity and based on the assessment treatment would be suggested. Don't worry recovery in most cases is good and quick. All the best.
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Hi i am 41 yrs old and i m going true bad condition course my son is very naughty and I get angry on him and beat him I just don' t understand what I say and do please advise me to help me make things better.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear, anger and aggression are emotions. Anger comes when you become irritated. Irritation happens when you don't like something, or when something is repeated. As anger is an emotion, it should be vent out. You should be able to throw anger out instead of controlling it. But more perfect will be, know the frustrating situations and stop being emotional. If practiced properly, you will not get irritated at those circumstances at all. Those techniques are much easier to understand. Take care.
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Hello, I'm facing nervousness and anxiousness till now at the age of 21. Specially in a group of people around me. And I can't able to control it. I think it's natural. Kindly suggest me some tips to get rid of it because its making bad effect on my career as well as in my colleagues.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
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You have to practise mind control and do meditaion and yoga. You mingle with friends and make it a habit to socialise.
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Alcohol Abuse - 6 Ways It Impacts Your Relationship

MBBS
Sexologist, Jaipur
Alcohol Abuse - 6 Ways It Impacts Your Relationship

You may think that it is just a harmless drink or two at the end of the day to help you relax. it's just a few drinks when you get together with friends. or it's just that you need to get rid of the office stress. We all need to catch a break sometimes, which makes our favorite brand of drink our best friend. Trouble starts when 'a drink or two' moves to a level where you can't hold the drink anymore. It affects your ability to think straight and take decisions that you may regret in retrospect. Alcoholism not only has serious health consequences but also can ruin your life and relationships. Don't tread down the path of self destruction, or this is what you'll find:

  1. Conflict: It is not a coincidence that fights are common when one or both partners are caught up with alcohol abuse. It is said that if there is too much alcohol in your system, it hampers with your ability to make rational decisions. It allows you to become inconsiderate about others, and give more importance your addiction over their requirements. It, to an extent, numbs you to what others feel, and makes you drink even more.
  2. Financial loss: Alcohol costs money. And the more you spend to keep up with your addiction, the more money flows out of your monthly household expenses, monthly savings and retirement plans. And this money literally goes down the drain. Like any other addiction, once you start alcohol abuse, you need it everyday. Drinking may go on to impact your ability to hold on to your job as no one will eventually want to hire someone who has alcohol on their breath at 9am during client meetings. Alcohol is a strict restriction in certain professions where you may put other people at risk. At the very best, you'll be left with a warning. At the worst, you'll lose your job and end up with no work and no money to support your addiction.
  3. Accident prone: In 2014, 9,967 people died in drunk driving crashes - one every 53 minutes. This may sound only like a statistic to you - until you speak to the families who lost their loved ones or have to see them suffer through loss of limbs or brain function to bear lifelong suffering. And as far as you are concerned, you may end up seeing the wrong end of a prison. Such things have a profound impact on your relationship - many of which fail to last through the ordeal. 
  4. Infidelity: You've seen it a thousand times in movies - which actually might get reflected in reality, if you wake up next to someone whose name you don't know. 
  5. Infertility: Alcohols and babies don't mix. Too much alcohol intake can stop women from making and keeping a baby. 
  6. Divorce: An alcoholic husband or wife is a valid ground of mental trauma applicable in a divorce. If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult a Sexologist.
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I am feeling heaviness in left pectoral and sometimes pain in chest, and back that comes and go anytime. I am also suffering from anxiety attacks .if this pain anxiety related then it remain all the day or not. I am confused this is heart related or not .and I don't have any symptoms. But chest pain remain constant that is comes and go please give me suggestions this is normal or not. I am just 19 year old.

MBBS, Dip.Cardiology, Fellowship in Clinical Cardiology(FICC), Fellowship in Echocardiology
Cardiologist, Ghaziabad
I am feeling heaviness in left pectoral and sometimes pain in chest, and back that comes and go anytime. I am also su...
Your age is very uncommon to have heart problems. Anxiety can be your culprit. Having a pain in your chest can be scary. It does not always mean that you are having a heart attack. There can be many other causes, including Other heart problems, such as angina Panic attacks Digestive problems, such as heartburn or esophagus disorders Sore muscles Lung diseases, such as pneumonia, pleurisy, or pulmonary embolism Costochondritis - an inflammation of joints in your chest Some of these problems can be serious. Get immediate medical care if you have chest pain that does not go away, crushing pain or pressure in the chest, or chest pain along with nausea, sweating, dizziness or shortness of breath. Treatment depends on the cause of the pain. To rule out cardiac issues. Get a ECG and 2D echocardiography done. If they are normal then get a TMT done.
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My brain is not working in some times and I forgot something easily. What are best fruits and foods to improve brain power. Is the eggs are any help to improve brain power.

PDDM, MHA, MBBS
General Physician, Nashik
To improve your memory :- Give your brain a workout by solving puzzles. Don't skip the physical exercise. Get your 7 hours of sleep. Make time for friends. Keep stress in check by yoga and meditation. Have a laugh. Eat a brain-boosting diet like Almonds, fruits and high protein diet. Identify and treat health problems. Take practical steps to support learning and memory. Avoid multitasking.
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Avoid Alcoholism

MBBS
General Physician, Indore

How to avoid alcoholism

Alcoholism can easily sneak up on you if you aren't careful. When your social life revolves around going to bars or there's a keg party every weekend, it's hard to keep things under control. Changing your routine and making a serious plan to cut back on your consumption is a good way to start. If the time comes when you think you've crossed the line from casual drinking to alcohol abuse, it's time to seek outside help. If you follow a few simple steps, you can learn more about how to reign in your drinking habit before alcoholism becomes a reality.

Part one of three:
Reducing the amount you drink


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Keep alcohol out of your house. It's a lot easier for alcohol to become a daily, insidious habit if you always keep it within reach. If your liquor cabinet is always stocked, you can easily be tempted. If there is a half-drunk bottle of wine or a six pack is chilling in the fridge, it's going to be tough to avoid drinking. The first step to avoiding alcoholism is to keep it out of your house when it's not serving an immediate social purpose. If you don't want to stop drinking but just cut back to a healthy amount, not surrounding yourself with it is a good place to start. Stock your kitchen with other tasty drinks you can substitute for alcohol when you want something comforting to drink. Tea, sparkling water, lemonade, root beer, and soda are better for you than alcohol.
If you have a party and there's a lot of leftover alcohol, give it away to friends. If no one wants it, pour it down the drain. Don't get trapped into thinking you have to finish it because you don't want it to go to waste.



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Don't drink when you're feeling bad. Drinking when you're bored, lonely, stressed, sad, or feeling any other negative emotion can lead to a dependency on alcohol. Since alcohol is a depressant, it can actually make things even worse. Try drinking only on social occasions, when everyone's having a good time and there's a reason to celebrate. Don't fall into the trap of making every day a day to celebrate. Make sure you save drinking for truly special occasions when someone has something worthy of celebration.


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Slow down your sipping. If you tend to guzzle your drinks, you'll be more likely to drink too much on any given evening. Slow yourself down by sipping your drinks slowly, taking more time to finish each drink. You can help this by ordering your drinks straight, so the taste of sweet mixers doesn't mask the alcohol and make you think you aren't drinking any. You should also drink a glass of water or a soft drink for every alcoholic drink you consume. Drinking water will help fill you up and keep you hydrated. You will be less likely to guzzle drinks if you are properly hydrated and feel fuller. Do not engage in beer drinking contests or any activity that involves chugging excessive amounts of alcohol in a short period of time.



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Stop going to bars as often. Since the purpose of bars is to sell drinks, you're automatically going to feel pressured to buy one. The low lights, the smell of alcohol mixed with perfume and cologne, and the sexy vibe everyone's exuding present an atmosphere that may be hard to resist. Since the whole environment is geared towards drinking, it's best to avoid bars altogether when you're trying to cut back.
If you're invited to a social function that takes place at a bar, like happy hour with your boss and coworkers, try ordering a club soda or another nonalcoholic drink. If the place has a food menu, order yourself a treat so you'll still feel like you're indulging. When you do go to bars, choose places that have more going on than just drinking. Go to a place with pool tables or bocce ball, for example, so the focus isn't solely on how much alcohol you can keep down. You may find it easier to drink less when there are distractions.


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Do activities that don't involve drinking. People spend a lot of time in bars when they could be doing something more active. Suggest alternatives to your group of friends next time you have a get-together. You could play a pick-up sport, go for a walk or bike ride, go to a movie or play, or go to a music show or art opening. Choose a venue that doesn't sell alcohol or an activity that isn't conducive to drinking. This will not only make you cut back on your drinking, it will make you healthier overall by getting you more active.


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Hang out with people who don't drink. Some people are going to insist on drinking, even when you invite them to activities outside the bar. They'll brown bag it at the movie theater or pack a flask to bring on your hike. If you're seriously trying to avoid alcohol, make plans with other people who are in the same boat. That way you won't be faced with the presence of alcohol every time you want to have a little fun. This may mean cutting people out of your life if it becomes a problem. If you really like the person that drinks all the time, learn to say no instead when they are around. Just because he is drinking doesn't mean you have to. Maybe they will pick up on your attempts to cut back and do the same.


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Take up exercising. Exercising is a great way to help yourself kick an alcohol habit. Drinking makes a lot of people feel slow and sluggish, and it can also lead to bloating and weight gain. If you make it a goal to be physically fit, you'll soon get frustrated with alcohol's effect on your progress. Try signing up for a 5k or joining a community soccer or basketball team. You'll soon find yourself passing on alcohol the night before you need to be at your physical best. Along with exercise, make sure you're eating well, getting sleep, and generally taking care of yourself so you'll be less prone to drinking.



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Recognize withdrawal symptoms. If you cut back significantly on your alcohol consumption, you may start to experience some withdrawal symptoms. There are both physical and mental withdrawal symptoms that you might experience. Withdrawal causes trembling hands, irritability, shaky and tired feelings, difficulty sleeping, poor concentration, and bad dreams. If you were a heavy drinker, you may experience some additional symptoms, such as sweating, nausea, headache, lack of appetite, vomiting, and palpitations.
 

Hi, she is addicted to smoke at age of 22. She is struggling to come out and needs help. Please help me with suggestions to bring her back on please.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear, Tobacco is addictive. Cigarette also contains 4000+ carcinogenic chemicals other than nicotine. The best method is to leave it and continue with your will power. There are other methods like Nicotine Replacement therapy and pharmacotherapy combined. If your friend ready to stop smoking and willing to get the support she need, she can recover from nicotine addiction and abuse abuse?no matter how bad the addiction or how powerless she feel. The first step in treating nicotine addiction is accepting that she have a problem. Confronting an addiction and accepting responsibility for her actions isn?t easy. But it?s a necessary step on the road to treatment and recovery. She should then consult a psychiatrist / psychologist who fill follow this treatment. 1. Detoxification using medicines. 2. Behavior modification with the help of therapies. 3. Counseling. 4. Medication to sustain and 5. Long term support. These given steps are essential for any addict to get effectively rid of smoking. Therefore, you need take her and stick to the treatment plan and cooperate with your psychiatrist / psychologist. Take care.
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I have a problem of money, I am very depressed and always thinking about money and feeling mad, how can change my mind and how to stop thinking about Money.

M.Phil - Psychology
Psychologist, Chandigarh
I have a problem of money, I am very depressed and always thinking about money and feeling mad, how can change my min...
Hi lybrate-user, can understand the mental pressure onto u. But stressing on it can not build money. You need right directions to work on your work your personality to add on how you can cope better and thinking more positive about life. If your are not workimng in right direction you might not be getting the right results.
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I sometime happy sometime angry. So please tell me what I do? I have very stares.

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry, MBA (Healthcare)
Psychiatrist, Davanagere
Good Afternoon ~ If you are looking for answers to problems that have become disabling, i.e. Have become so distressing that you are not able to lead a normal productive life which could be not going to school or college, work in a normal fashion or have interpersonal relationships in a normal way then I believe that you should consult a psychiatrist. I can prescribe medications based on your symptoms on a private paid consultation which will be completely confidential and therefore can reveal more information during that time.
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I am 37 years old male after 9 years of long struggle I got married 9 months before with my lover I cried and I got more problems in this period, after marriage my grandma died within 3 months she is very affectionate to me I always caring grandma and frequent visiting to hospital for grandma and after death of grandma within a week I got panic attack and then I take medicine from General Physician for a week and stopped and after 1 month again I got panic attack I take same medicine and stop after a week and after 1 month again I got panic attack I went MD neurologist he suggest me to take medicine for at least 4 to 6 months now I am on 4th month but till now im feeling sometimes anxious, dizziness, always thinking about my health like I would die and I can not travel alone in a bus and lack of interest and feeling uncomfortable in chest can not take spicy food. But panic attacks is not shown from past 4 months thank god. Please suggest me what to do further im just 9 months married im trying for baby I got varicocele problem also for that im. Taking medicine along with anxiety medicines in my wife get more worried about me.

Masters in Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Lucknow
I am 37 years old male after 9 years of long struggle I got married 9 months before with my lover I cried and I got m...
Hi lybrate-user, if you really want to cure your anxiety forever, you need to have a long term treatment plan that takes into consideration your anxiety symptoms, what you're suffering from, how badly you're suffering, and your specific anxiety disorder. First and foremost, don't let your anxiety cause you to make poor decisions about anxiety treatments. The reality is that most" rapid" treatments don't work. You'll find many people that claim that they have an extract or a medicine that can cure your anxiety immediately, and unfortunately it's never the case - it's people taking advantage of you in your time of need, and hoping the placebo effect will be enough to cure your anxiety. Even prescription medications have a" false" component. Prescription medicines can give you some help with anxiety, but that help is only temporary, and your mind and body can actually become dependent on these medications. As soon as you stop taking them, your anxiety may not only come back - it could even be worse than before. Curing your anxiety is a process - it's a process that can happen, for everyone, but those that hope they can get instant anxiety help are going to be disappointed, and possibly taken advantage of. Your symptoms define your anxiety if you really want to cure your anxiety forever, you need to have a long term treatment plan that takes into consideration your anxiety symptoms, what you're suffering from, how badly you're suffering, and your specific anxiety disorder. Imately effective treatment. Setting up a long term plan - making realistic goalsi possible to reduce your anxiety every day. There are countless tips to learn to manage it. But you need to do two things: you need to make sure that you're giving yourself realistic goals. You need to make it a long term plan. You can get anxiety help now - help that will genuinely reduce your experience with anxiety. But it will only reduce it so much. You'll still need to keep at it, and commit to it in a way that will guarantee short and long term results. Realistic goals will ensure that you don't give up. You're bound to have setbacks, because life isn't stress free. A long term plan will also make sure that you keep at it - you'll not only have something to do next, you'll also know what to do next. For example, let's look at several strategies you can do right now that will reduce your anxiety: start jogging jogging isn't just for your health. Jogging releases endorphins, which are neurotransmitters that improve mood. It also tires muscles, and there is evidence that extra energy in muscles becomes converted to a feeling of anxiety. Sleep better getting more sleep will fight anxiety right away. Far too many people are allowing themselves to be sleep deprived, but sleep is one of the most important and easy tools your mind has for coping with stress. Breathing training many anxiety symptoms, particularly for those with anxiety attacks, are a result of inadequate breathing techniques. Anxiety can actually train your body to breathe poorly, leading to hyperventilation and a variety of related symptoms. Exposure therapy exposure is a cognitive behavioral technique that trains you to get used to things that used to cause you anxiety. For example, if you often get anxiety when you feel dizzy, you spin around in a chair and use a variety of techniques to calm your mind. Lifestyle changes many lifestyle changes that you will need to make in order to live with anxiety also require long term changes. For example, who you spend time with may need to change, as will how you react at your workplace. These strategies take longer, and require more effort and planning on your part. They're also not immediately successful, and there are often setbacks. Realistic goals and an effective and healthy plan can reduce the effects of these setbacks. You'll also need to be okay with admitting to yourself that you have an anxiety problem that needs to be solved. If you continue to try to fight the truth about your anxiety, you'll struggle to overcome it. Anxiety and stress are very real problems that affect people every day, and there's nothing wrong with you if you suffer from them. As soon as you can come to terms with your anxiety, you'll be on the right path towards treating it. Consult for psychotherapy for anxiety.
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Sir I am drinking alcohol one or two times in one month is there any. Problem to my health.

MBBS, MD Psychiatry, DNB (Psychiatry)
Psychiatrist, Kolkata
Certainly alcohol has many ill effects. To begin with, it is habit forming and one can easily become dependant on it. It can cause memory problems, liver damage, accidents, passing out (black outs) and not to forget, social as well as monetary problems. Try and curtail your intake or even quit altogether. It is better to stay away from vices.
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Hi I have been on nexito 5 mg and lonazep 0. 5 mg for past 5 years approx prescribed by a psychiatrist since I had been under severe work related stress for about 6 years. The psychiatrist has recommended that I should continue these medications or try tapering them off. Whenever I have tried to discontinue one or both medications I find that I am not able to get a good nights sleep. I seem to be semi awake most of the night. I am also on concor am 5 & telsar h for my bp for over 10 years. I am a 57 year old male. I also seem to have put on about 10kgs weight which I am now unable to lose despite exercising. Please advise

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear, all of your conditions including hypertension are stress related. You are having stress, still. But you do not do any corrective measures. The best way to be away from stress is to exercise, being active and entertained. You are putting weight not because of stress, but because of your life style. Changing your life style should help you. You may post a private question to me. I will help you. Take care.
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My wife is very angry lady, she have angriness all time day night, she get anger on small issues, She is house wife and I am working. When I go to office ,she gets alone So please help to improve her behaviour.

M.Sc - Applied Psychology, MS - Counselling and Psychotherapy, PG diploma in child guidance and family therapy
Psychologist, Delhi
Hello lybrate-user. See the steps for managing anger 1. Keep Your Cool and Maintain Composure "Breathing. Corresponds to taking charge of one's own life. ― Luce Irigaray, philosopher One of the most common characteristics about aggressive, intimidating, and controlling individuals is that they like to deliberately upset you in order to push your buttons, pull your strings, and keep you off balance. By doing so, they create an advantage over you, from which they can exploit your weakness. The first rule of thumb in the face of a difficult person is to keep your cool. The less reactive you are to provocations, the more you can use your better judgment to handle the challenge. When you feel upset with or challenged by someone, before you say or do something you might later regret, take a deep breath and count slowly to ten. In many instances, by the time you reach ten, you would have regained composure, and figured out a better response to the issue, so that you can reduce, instead of exacerbate the problem. If you're still upset after counting to ten, take a time out if possible, and revisit the issue after you calm down. If necessary, use phrases such as “I’ll get back to you…” or “Let me think about it…” to buy yourself time. By maintaining self-control, you leverage more power to manage the situation. 2. Keep Your Distance and Keep Your Options Open “You can’t fly like an eagle if you hang out with turkeys!” — Anonymous Not all aggressive, intimidating, or controlling individuals are worth tasseling with. Your time is valuable, and your happiness and well-being are important. Unless there’s something important at stake, don’t expend yourself by trying to grapple with a person who’s negatively entrenched. Whether you’re dealing with an angry driver, a pushy relative, or a domineering supervisor, keep a healthy distance, and avoid engagement unless you absolutely have to. There are times when you may feel like you’re “stuck” with a very difficult person, and there’s “no way out.” In these situations, keep your options open. Consult with trusted friends and advisors about different courses of action, with your personal well-being as the number one priority. We’re never stuck unless we have blinders on. Keep your options open. 3. Depersonalize and Shift from Reactive to Proactive “Don't take anything personally…What others say and do is a projection of their own reality…When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.” — Miguel Angel Ruiz Being mindful about the nature of aggressive, intimidating, and controlling people can help us de-personalize the situation, and turn from being reactive to proactive. One effective way to de-personalize is to put yourself in the other person’s shoes, even for just a moment. For example, consider the offender you’re dealing with, and complete the sentence: “It must not be easy…” “My friend is so aggressive. It must not be easy to come from an environment where everyone was forced to compete…” “My manager is really overbearing. It must not be easy to have such high expectations placed on her performance by senior executives…” “My partner is so controlling. It must not be easy to have grown up in a family where he was told how to think and act in every way…” To be sure, empathetic statements do not excuse unacceptable behavior. The point is to remind yourself that people do what they do because of their own issues. As long as we’re being reasonable and considerate, difficult behaviors from others say a lot more about them than they do about us. By reducing personalization, we can be less reactive and concentrate our energy on problem-solving. For more in-depth information on reducing or eliminating over fifteen types of negative attitudes and feelings, see my book (click on title): “How to Let Go of Negative Thoughts and Emotions (link is external).” 4. Know Your Fundamental Human Rights* A crucial idea to keep in mind when you’re dealing with a difficult person is to know your rights, and recognize when they’re being violated. As long as you do not harm others, you have the right to stand-up for yourself and defend your rights. On the other hand, if you bring harm to others, you may forfeit these rights. Following are some of our fundamental human rights: You have the right to be treated with respect. You have the right to express your feelings, opinions and wants. You have the right to set your own priorities. You have the right to say “no” without feeling guilty. You have the right to get what you pay for. You have the right to have opinions different than others. You have the right to take care of and protect yourself from being threatened physically, mentally or emotionally. You have the right to create your own happy and healthy life. These Fundamental Human Rights represent your boundaries. Of course, our society is full of people who do not respect these rights. Aggressive, intimidating, and controlling individuals, in particular, want to deprive you of your rights so they can control and take advantage of you. But you have the power and moral authority to declare that it is you, not the offender, who’s in charge of your life. Focus on these rights, and allow them to keep your cause just and strong. 5. Put the Spotlight on Them & Reclaim Your Power A common pattern with aggressive, intimidating, and controlling people is that they like to place attention on you to make you feel uncomfortable or inadequate. Typically, they’re quick to point out there’s something not right with you or the way you do things. The focus is consistently on “what’s wrong,” instead of “how to solve the problem.” This type of communication is often intended to dominate and manipulate, rather than to sincerely take care of issues. If you react by being on the defensive, you simply fall into the trap of being scrutinized, thereby giving the aggressor more power while she or he picks on you with impunity. A simple and powerful way to change this dynamic is to put the spotlight back on the difficult person, and the easiest way to do so is to ask questions. For example: Aggressor: “Your proposal is not even close to what I need from you.” Response: “Have you given clear thought to the implications of what you want to do?” Aggressor: “You’re so stupid.” Response: “If you treat me with disrespect I’m not going to talk with you anymore. Is this what you want?” Keep your questions constructive and probing. By putting the difficult person in the spotlight, you can help neutralize her or his undue influence over you. A second technique you can use to interrupt negative communication is to change the topic. Simply say “By the way…” and initiate a new subject. When you do so, you’re taking charge of the flow of communication, and setting a more constructive tone. 6. In Relatively Mild Situations, Display Superior Composure Through AppropriateHumor "Keep smiling, it makes people wonder what you're up to. — Anonymous Humor is a powerful communication tool. Years ago I knew a co-worker who was quite stuck-up and intimidating. One day a colleague of mine said “Hello, how are you?” to him. When the egotistical co-worker ignored her greeting completely, my colleague didn’t feel offended. Instead, she smiled good-naturedly and quipped: “That good, huh?” This broke the ice and the two of them started a friendly conversation. Brilliant. When appropriately used, humor can shine light on the truth, disarm difficult behavior, and show that you have superior composure. In my book “How to Successfully Handle Aggressive, Intimidating, & Controlling People (link is external),” I explain the psychology of humor in conflict resolution, and offer a variety of ways one can use humor to reduce or eliminate difficult behavior. 7. In Serious Situations, Set Consequences to Compel Cooperation When an aggressive, intimidating, or controlling individual insists on violating your boundaries, and won’t take “no” for an answer, deploy consequence. The ability to identify and assert consequence (s) is one of the most important skills you can use to "stand down" a difficult person. Effectively articulated, consequence gives pause to the offending individual, and compels her or him to shift from violation to respect. In “How to Successfully Handle Aggressive, Intimidating, & Controlling People (link is external),” consequence is presented as seven different types of power you can utilize to affect positive change. In conclusion, to know how to handle aggressive, intimidating, and controlling people is to truly master the art of communication. As you utilize these skills, you may experience lessgrief, greater confidence, better relationships, and higher communication prowess. You are on your way to leadership. I WILL SUGGEST YOU TO GO AND CONSULT ANY PSYCHOLOGIST FOR THIS THEY WILL GUIDE YOU PROPERLY WITH THERAPY SESSION .AND BEFORE THIS STEP .TALK TO YOUR WIFE IN A GOOD MOOD THANK YOU ALL THE BEST.
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Hi My son 14+ age class-x can' t study absolutely except math mobile Tv addicted. what should I do?

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I don' t fully understand your problem but let me see what I have understood and answer accordingly. He is going through his adolescence. He is expected to have problems with concentration, will get distracted very easily, will be very suggestive to his peers only and will love the entertainment media, if it has to do with adult, forbidden things, in particular. You need to treat him like a friend, sometimes like a child when he wants it so, and many times like an adult. He is obviously confused about these roles and so will you be? he is confused transcending from childhood to adulthood. Most times, we parents, still treating them like? our? little children, tend to come down harsh on them with heavy disciplining etc. This will not work and may only invite rebellion and aggression. You must ally with him; make him feel that you understand his thinking, needs and values. In a very subtle and gradual manner you can succeed to push in a few of your concerns and tell him in a palatable manner what is the best things you would like him to do? but make it feel like it is his idea. You need to be very careful, because some of them can rebel by doing some drastic thing (to themselves or to others) just to spite you. Keep in constant communication with your teen. In some things you can restrict the use of tv and mobile phone, subject to some compliance to study time or work responsibility in the house etc. But again be careful how you go about it. All of you must be on the same page when dealing with him. Any discord between you and your wife, he will exploit it or use it to play games. Remember it is his life and he is at a very critical juncture. You don? t want to do something that might have a permanent negative bearing on his life. In all this never, ever let him feel, even remotely, rejected.
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I have been suffering for last 15 days with a tongue ulcer and treating with homeopathy medicine. Doctor told nothing to be worried. I do smoke. After 15 days also it is not come down. Please guide me.

MDS - Orthodontics, BDS
Dentist, Dhamtari
An ulcer lasting that long may be misdiagnosed, insist on getting a tissue biopsy done. Meanwhile keep the mouth clean. Swish & spit with warm salt-water after meals, till suggested otherwise.
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