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Dr. Jaideep Patil

Psychiatrist, Pune

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Dr. Jaideep Patil Psychiatrist, Pune
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6 Tips for Happiness

Hypnotherapist, DCS, BSIC, Advanced Trainee of Transactional Analysis, Advanced Skills in Counselling
Psychologist,
6 Tips for Happiness
6 TIPS TO HAPPINESS.(KEY CONCEPTS OF POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY)

1. Give yourself permission to be human. When we accept emotions ? such as fear, sadness, or anxiety ? as natural, we are more likely to overcome them. Rejecting our emotions, positive or negative, leads to frustration and unhappiness.

2. Happiness lies at the intersection between pleasure and meaning. Whether at work or at home, the goal is to engage in activities that are both personally significant and enjoyable. When this is not feasible, make sure you have happiness boosters, moments throughout the week that provide you with both pleasure and meaning.

3. Keep in mind that happiness is mostly dependent on our state of mind, not on our status or the state of our bank account. Barring extreme circumstances, our level of well being is determined by what we choose to focus on (the full or the empty part of the glass) and by our interpretation of external events. For example, do we view failure as catastrophic, or do we see it as a learning opportunity?

4. Simplify! We are, generally, too busy, trying to squeeze in more and more activities into less and less time. Quantity influences quality, and we compromise on our happiness by trying to do too much.

5. Remember the mind-body connection. What we do ? or don't do ? with our bodies influences our mind. Regular exercise, adequate sleep, and healthy eating habits lead to both physical and mental health.

6. Express gratitude, whenever possible. We too often take our lives for granted. Learn to appreciate and savor the wonderful things in life, from people to food, from nature to a smile.
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My question is, I am not able to concentrate on my studies. Sports When I am start studying my mind is going to divert I am going to think other things Now I am going for doing meditation Daily I need any other answers from you.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
CONCENTRATION TIPS Here’s some tips to get into a state of deep concentration where work / or studies flow easily so that you can do well in examinations/ and or do your work well. 1) Cut Off the Noise Getting into a state of concentration can take at least fifteen minutes. If you are getting distracted every five, you can’t possibly focus entirely on your work. Request that people don’t interrupt you when working on a big project. If you are required to answer phones and drop-in’s immediately, schedule work when the office is less busy. 2) Structure Your Environment The place you work can have an impact on your ability to focus. Try to locate yourself so you are facing potential distractions such as doors, phones or windows. This way you can take a glance to assess sounds that would otherwise break your focus. 3) Clarify Objectives Know what your goal is clearly before you start. If you aren’t sure what the end result is, the confusion will make it impossible to focus. 4) Divide Blobs. If you have a large project that needs work, clearly identify a path that you will use to get started working on it. If the sequence of actions isn’t obvious, it will be difficult to concentrate. Taking a few minutes to plan not only your end result, but the order you will complete any steps, can save hours in wasted thinking. 5) Know the Rules Get clear on what the guidelines are for the task ahead. What level of quality do you need? What standards do you need to follow? What constraints are there? If the rules aren’t clear from the outset, you will slip out of concentration as you ponder them later. 6) Set a Deadline Deadlines have both advantages and disadvantages when trying to force concentration. A deadline can make it easier to forget the non-essential and speed up your working time. If you give yourself only an hour to design a logo, you will keep it simple and avoid fiddling with extravagant designs. Time limits have disadvantages when they cause you to worry about the time you have left instead of the task itself. 7) Break down Roadblocks Roadblocks occur whenever you hit a tricky problem in your work. This can happen when you run out of ideas or your focus wavers. Break down roadblocks by brainstorming or planning on a piece of paper. Writing out your thought processes can keep you focused even if you might become frustrated. 8) Isolate Yourself Become a hermit and stay away from other people if you want to get work done. Unless your work is based on other people they will only break your focus. Create a private space and refuse to talk to anyone until your work is finished. Put a sign on your door to steer away drop-ins and don’t answer your phone. 9) Healthy Body, Sharper Mind What you put into your body affects the way you concentrate. Nobody would expect peak performance if they showed up drunk to work. But if you allow yourself to get chronic sleep deprivation, overuse stimulants like caffeine or eat dense, fatty foods your concentration will suffer. Try to cut out one of your unhealthy habits for just thirty days to see if there is a difference in your energy levels. I’ve found even small steps can create dramatic changes in my ability to focus. 10) Be Patient Before I write an article, I often sit at my desk for a fifteen or twenty minutes before I put finger on the keyboard. During this time I feel a strong urge to leave or do something else. But I know that if I am patient, I’ll stumble upon an idea to write about and enter a state of flow. Without a little patience, you can’t take advantage of flow when it rushed through you. If you need strong concentration I recommend periods of 90-120 minutes. Any less than that and you will waste too much time getting started before the flow can continue. More than this is possible to sustain focus, but you will probably benefit from a quick break. These are the general guidelines for concentration, studying well or doing your job. Regards 10 Study Tips to Improve Your Learning Study Tip 1: Underlining Underlining is one of the simplest and best known study tips. It’s easy to highlight the most significant parts of what you’re reading. One key sentence per paragraph and a few important phrases here and there. You can only retain a certain amount so it’s best to retain the most important information. Study Tip 2: Make your own note and taking notes is one of the most widespread study skills out there. Essentially the aim of note-taking is to summarise lectures or articles in your own words so you can easily remember the ideas. Study Tip 3: Mind mapping A good Mind map can save you many hours of study and further consolidate your knowledge for your exams. Mind Maps are an extremely versatile tools. They can be used for brainstorming, outlining essays or study topics and for general exam preparation, ExamTime offers the ability to create Mind Maps quickly and easily which makes them the ideal tool when it comes to exams. Study Tip 4: Flash cards:- Using these are a particularly effective method of learning when trying to assimilate different facts, dates, formulas or vocabulary. Subjects such as History, Physics, Maths, Chemistry, Geography or any language are made much easier if you incorporate Flashcards in to your study. Study Tip 5: Case Studies Sometimes it can be difficult to grasp the implications of some theories. This is where studying case studies can be a big help. Case studies can help you visualise a theory and place it in a more familiar and realistic context. This is especially useful in business or law subjects. Study Tip 6: Quizzes are an excellent way to review study notes in the weeks and days before an exam. Quizzes can show where your strengths and weaknesses are, so it allows you to focus your efforts more precisely. Moreover, if you share your Study Quiz with your classmates and test each other as much as possible you can discover even more details and areas you may have overlooked. So before any exam, make sure you create and share a bunch of different Quizzes with your Friends. Study Tip 7: Brainstorming This is another study technique that is ideal for studying with friends and/or classmates. Brainstorming is a great way to expand every possible idea out of any topic. Just get a bunch of friends together and shoot the breeze, there are no wrong answers when brainstorming – just talk and capture the ideas, you can review afterward. Study Tip 8: Mnemonic Rules Mnemonics are especially useful when memorising lists and sets. Mnemonics rules basically work by associating certain concepts with other concepts that are more familiar to us. There are many different ways to make mnemonics and these can be individual to the person. Study Tip 9: ORGANISE your study One of the most effective study skills is also one of the most often overlooked; this is organising your study. Creating a TIME TABLE gives you goals and a time in which to achieve them. Having a study timetable as you study is greatly motivational Study Tip 10: Drawing Many people find it easier to recall images rather than text that is why they are better able to memorise concepts if they associate them with pictures or drawings.
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Tips to Ease Stress

DHMS (Diploma in Homeopathic Medicine and Surgery)
Homeopath, Delhi
Tips to Ease Stress
Below are 10 tips that can help in easing stress.

- ask yourself what you can do about the sources of your stress. Think through the pros and cons. Take action where you can.

- keep a positive, realistic attitude. Accept that although you can't control certain things, you're in charge of how you respond.

- stand up for yourself in a polite way. Share your feelings, opinions, or beliefs, instead of becoming angry, defensive, or passive.

- learn and practice relaxation techniques. Try breathing exercises, meditation, prayer, yoga, or tai chi.

- exercise regularly. You'll feel better and be more prepared to handle problems.

- eat healthy. Avoid too much sugar. Focus on fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean protein.

- when you're stressed, you'll probably want less-nutritious comfort foods, but if you overdo them, they'll add to your problems.

- try to manage your time wisely.

- say no, where you can, to things that would add more stress to your life.
Make time for hobbies and interests.

- get enough rest and sleep. Your body needs time to recover from stressful events.

I am 27 age boy from bhopal please provide me a tip how to leave my smoking activity I had smoke daily I want to leave this Help me!

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Congratulations on your wonderful decision. You have to quit cold turkey because the body and mind will torture you endlessly while attempting a reduction in smoking. The tobacco tar in cigarette smoke lines your lung with huge patches that make that portion dysfunctional. Your oxygen carrying capacity is jeopardized, and breathing is impinged on. But don’t be discouraged because it is not too late even now to reverse all the ill-effects of smoking. I don’t know what other organs could be damaged but do go for a thorough medical check-up to assess the effects of your abuse. Regarding improving your lungs, do a lot of aerobic exercise breathing through your nostrils only. Then there are a lot of deep breathing exercises in Yoga which you can learn too. Deep breathing cleanses your system and lungs and restores it to good health. Deep breathing uses the 80% of the lungs which are not normally used in normal breathing and even when exerting yourself. The greatest effect is in the lungs because this substance is processed through the respiratory system directly through the lung surface. When quitting, you must take one day at a time; though you must give up all smoking at once, and promptly. If you look too far ahead you will get discouraged and will give up. If you sit and count the number of days you have given up, that will also focus too much on achievement. You must focus on the here and now, on that day to be precise. After all quitting is not that easy due to many factors. So even if you fail one day, you must try and try again. Very few people succeed in their first attempt. Your persistence will eventually pay off. The urge to discontinue is hampered by many factors but the worst of them is the conditioning. In fact, these conditions can exist all through the day, unlike other addictions. But your desire to want to stop is the most important factor. It is important to find out about the ill-effects of smoking to have a reason that alarms you about continuing the habit. The information is really scary but true and you must remind yourself about this every day. The nicotine in tobacco smoke stimulates the heartbeat to raise the blood pressure in no time at all. So you must avoid it like the plague: it is just very bad medicine for you. In fact, it is highly toxic too. You will need to stop smoking or consuming any tobacco related items with immediate effect. You should start vigorous exercises, gradually increasing it over a period of time. Do deep breathing exercises every time you feel like smoking (try Yoga), and replace the oral urge with some healthy food substitute to satiate the need. You may also take hard candy or chew gum. If the urge is too strong, then use nicotine gums and nicotine patches, for a little while until the smoking drive reduces, substantially. You may also join Smokers Anonymous in your city where the support is really extraordinary for like-minded people who are also in the same situation. Keep yourself occupied or engaged with interesting activities during the times when it is most tempting. Keep the company of non-smokers for some time i. E. At least for the first 21 days. Above all announce it to everyone that you have quit smoking. Here’s a piece of very good advice: even if you accidentally/willfully take a cigarette, it is not the end of the world – you can start the cessation all over again. You must persevere with the best support until you defeat this addiction. Counseling is very useful in the initial stages and when temptations are at their highest. You could also join twitter2quit program and enjoy its success to give up smoking.
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How to Maintain Good Physical and Mental Health

M.Sc. in Dietetics and Food Service Management , Post Graduate Diploma In Computer Application, P.G.Diploma in Clinical Nutrition & Dietetics , B.Sc.Clinical Nutrition & Dietetics
Dietitian/Nutritionist, Mumbai
How to Maintain Good Physical and Mental Health

The greatest wealth is health. Physical health and mental health are just the two sides of the same coin. One wouldn't be functional without the other. For a person to achieve a complete sense of well-being, he or she needs to have a functional mental and physical health. Although there are hundreds of methods such as yoga, meditation, exercise and annual checkups to maintain good health, people are not aware of them due to many factors such as lack of awareness. Yet the following are some of the habits one can adhere to in their daily lives for a healthy living. 

  1. Eat to stay fit: 'Every time you eat or drink, you are either feeding disease or fighting it.' Eating healthy is crucial as it facilitates and improves the metabolic functions of the body. One should always aim for a balanced diet consisting of adequate amounts of vitamins and minerals. Fresh fruits and vegetables should be included and fried, fat-rich and fast foods should be avoided to the extent possible. The right foods help in fighting foreign substances while the unhealthy ones breed them.
  2. Rest to be at your best: Requisite rest and sufficient sleep is essential for proper functioning of the body. If perhaps, early to bed and early to rise is not your thing, then you might try going to bed at a regular time each day. A good night's sleep rejuvenates both the body and the mind after a day's work. It can be compared to the refreshing cold water that one craves after a long run. So for those who love sleep, you people are possibly on the right track.
  3. Follow an active lifestyle: A sedentary lifestyle is perhaps the cause of a diaspora of diseases in the long run. A daily dose of physical activity is quintessential for maintaining a sound physical and mental health. Physical workouts and exercises lead to an increased circulation of blood throughout the body and help both the body and mind to stay fit. If you do not get enough time for workouts, try running or walking for at least 30 minutes a day. It will help. If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult a dietitian-nutritionist.
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I am working as a marketing manager sometimes in the morning if a something bad happens i got depressed whole day i am unable to work properly whole day what can i do?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
That is because you are obsessed. No problem. Everyone are obsessed with. Especially when something wrong happens. You also do that. But in your case, it is happening every day. That simply means, you are not engaged yourself. You are employed. If you are busy with your job, you will not have time to be obsessive with what happened. Be passionate with your job.
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How to come up from depression. Exams are on head. Had just breakup from true love. Want to overcome from it.

Hypnotherapist, DCS, BSIC, Advanced Trainee of Transactional Analysis, Advanced Skills in Counselling
Psychologist,
This is unfortunate that you had a breakup before exams.Yet a true fact. If you don't do well in exams what are the possible consequences and if they are not acceptable, then what do you do to do well in your exams? Some questions for you to answer. Regarding the depression, keep yourself occupied with studies, exercising, relaxing, friends, positive thinking, a healthy diet etc which will help you to do better in exams. If you can wait till after the exams, then do visit a counsellor who will guide you to overcome the depression too. Take care.
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I'm feeling a vital mental dissatisfaction about my health. Please suggest me to improve my health.

B.Sc(hons), Physics, B.H.M.S., PGDIT (software Engg)
Homeopath, Delhi
I'm feeling a vital mental dissatisfaction about my health. Please suggest me to improve my health.
Medicine german reckeweg natrum mur 200, 4-5 drops orally, single dose morn, empty stomach mixed fruit juice daily evening.
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Sir I am suffering with phsychyrtic problem. That ism afraid I will get heartattack. Day by day I am afraid alot.in sleep somany nightmares coming in that time my heart beat very fast please help me sir I got ECH normal report also I contact phschartist he said it was panic disorder no problem and he pricript some pills lonazep 1 mg and wallbeta20, nexito 10 pls help me sir.

Masters in Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Lucknow
Sir I am suffering with phsychyrtic problem. That ism afraid I will get heartattack. Day by day I am afraid alot.in s...
Yes lybrate-user, you are suffering from phobic anxiety. It is panic attack which you translate it as nearing heart attack. Panic is panic it never will turn into heart attack you must have noticed panic attack last for few minutes and then subsides. Anxiety is fear. It's the activation of the fight or flight system, which is the system that your body uses to react to fear responses. Anxiety disorders occur because the body is activating that response when no danger is present. But in addition to being fear, anxiety also causes other fears. That's one of the reasons that anxiety can be hard to treat without help. One of the fears it causes is a fear of cardiovascular problems (poor heart health), and often those fears end up contributing to further anxiety. It would be disingenuous to say you do not have a heart condition, because there is no way to know until you talk to your doctor. But let's assume that you're like most people - your doctor is going to tell you that nothing is wrong with your heart. So then why are these cardiovascular problems occurring? the answer is likely to be hyperventilation. Hyperventilation is also known as" over-breathing, and contrary to popular belief, it's not caused by getting too little air. It's actually caused by breathing out too much carbon dioxide. Your body needs the right balance of carbon dioxide to function. When you breathe too quickly (or breathe in more oxygen than your body needs), your cells are drained of their carbon dioxide and your entire body is forced to work much harder in order to function. Your blood vessels constrict, your brain gets less oxygen, and your heart has to beat extra fast because your blood is slowing down. This what causes the vast majority of the symptoms of a panic attack. And what makes it worse is that hyperventilation makes it feel like you're not getting enough oxygen, even though the reality is that you've taken in too much. Because of that feeling, most people continue to hyperventilate even more in order to try to get a" full breath" only to hyperventilate even further and experience a worsening of the symptoms. When you combine these symptoms with anxiety, you get a constant feeling that your heart is in poor health. The first thing you need to do is practice better breathing. Since hyperventilation causes most of the symptoms, it's important to start breathing more efficiently. Take slow, controlled breaths, and fight the urge to yawn or expand your chest. The moment you start to feel as though a panic attack is coming on, try the following: breathe in slowly, taking at least 5 seconds. Hold for two seconds. Breathe out as though whistling for 7 seconds. Never rush the air out of your body, and try to give yourself time to regain your carbon dioxide level. Don't hold your breath for too long though since holding your breath can cause similar symptoms and may exacerbate your anxiety. Controlling your breathing won't stop your panic attacks, but they should reduce the severity, and for many that alone can help reduce the frequency of panic attacks in the future. Once you've controlled your breathing it's time to combat your overall anxiety, which in turn will decrease your cardiovascular health fears. All the best consult a psychologist for same. All the best.
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I am suffering from weakness. My body pains a lot and I could not get proper sleep. Sometimes I feel like dying. Can you please solve tge issue?

BHMS
Homeopath, Greater Noida
I am suffering from weakness. My body pains a lot and I could not get proper sleep. Sometimes I feel like dying. Can ...
U have to tell your proper history such as you have any disease in past or any history of addiction or how it started. Take proper symptomatic treatment in homoeopathy, some medicine such as arnica 200, china 30 has good result in this type of cases.
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Sir from childhood I wanted to be doctor so that I always studied biology deeply and my maths was very good too. So I was always in topper 3position in class. But when in class 10 minority of my friends were opting for maths then I was feeling tough to take biology. Then was very tensed thinking too much. I took maths with additional biology. I started to prepare for IIT as my friends but when took both chance if IIT and could not qualify. Then I started feeling guilty and started preparing medical then in entrance exam I was unable to score well then I decided to. Then I thought to again qualify btech entrance first then in ibstarted preparing hard in mean time I got panic disorder and after recovering Little my mind changed to directly go for MBBS enter exam and regular attempts pmt 3 attempts but I was under medication on paroxtene 37.5 CR I thought I will leave medicine when I will qualify. But when my sgpt increased I had decrease my dosage of paroxtene. I thought too much I and I was getting sweating and panic again. And my condition worsen and within months I have now recovering but unable to decide which stream to as I have lost 6 years after+2 being a topper student in past. Now I am felling burden. Now my preparation is on verge to qualify but I am not felling interested in mbbbs after losing so many years. I am completely confused and I am on medication on panazep 25 and quetiapine 300. Please help me sir.

MBBS, MD Psychiatry, DNB Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Nagpur
Sir from childhood I wanted to be doctor so that I always studied biology deeply and my maths was very good too. So I...
Dear, it is not at all necessary that an intelligent student should go for mbbs or iit. Neither it is a rule that intelligent people do not have problems. Even if you have panic disorder and you are better on medications you can definitely go for any professional courses of your choice. Since you have completed your preparations for mbbs entrance you may give it a go. If you do not qualify you should find some better alternative without delay. Good luck.
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Im vegetarian male aged 50 yrs. My b12 level is decreased to 145. My full body is paining. What should I do?

FRHS, Ph.D Neuro , MPT - Neurology Physiotherapy, D.Sp.Med, DPHM (Health Management ), BPTh/BPT
Physiotherapist, Chennai
Im vegetarian male aged 50 yrs. My b12 level is decreased to 145. My full body is paining. What should I do?
Do take balanced diet and avoid stress anxiety and anticipating the things do regular physical activity and breathing exercises for about 30 minutes regularly best wishes.
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How to get rid of tension, insomnia and over thinking. And please suggest me some food habits.

Bachelor of Ayurveda, Medicine and Surgery (BAMS)
Ayurveda, Rajkot
How to get rid of tension, insomnia and over thinking. And please suggest me some food habits.
Morning walk with music, yoga, pranayam, meditation is the ultimate solution for tension. Before sleep take a glass of milk with 2 tab neo (charak)
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When ever I take first bite or bite after a long time time. There is severe pain in both side of jaw. Which subsequently subsides. Its present since few months now. Please advice what should i do ?

MBBS
General Physician, Mumbai
When ever I take first bite or bite after a long time time. There is severe pain in both side of jaw. Which subsequen...
Avoid pickles and papads in your diet and we need to rule out any pathology at the temporo mandibular joint after personal examination
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Hi i am Feeling depressed, tired after sleep, weight loss. Mood swings, no hunger. Thts all wrong with me.

BHMS
Sexologist, Noida
Hi i am Feeling depressed, tired after sleep, weight loss. Mood swings, no hunger. Thts all wrong with me.
Causes and Symptoms of Depression Physical inactivity or hyperactivity. Insomnia or sleeping too much. Poor or an increased appetite. Weight loss or weight gain. Decreased interest in pleasurable activities, like sex. Decreased energy and fatigue. Feelings of guilt. Worthlessness, pessimism, and hopelessness. Another remedy that can bottle things up, but reacts quite differently to the Ignatia patient is Natrum muriaticum. This is one of my most frequently used homeopathic treatments for symptoms of stress, such as those typified by mild depression.
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Me and my guy. Actually when I met him I even never knew that I will ever love him. He became my friend and than we intimately came close. And it became strong. It's almost 6 six year of a relationship. The things which bother me sometime of marriage I mean he is always afraid to talk about marriage. I don't maybe it's because he has very orthodox family and inter caste marriage are not allowed. He clearly says I love you but we don't have a future and I expect the same thing from you. Earlier these things bother me. Like I was always worried that what about our future. It's almost 6 years it constantly make me worry that we are intimately close we love each other we are so possessive we have sex and we care like husband wife. He is amazing. But I'm afraid. That if gonna talk to him about the future or wedding he ll get annoyed. Because this thing is not acceptable to him or I'm going according to him. This is an issue. I mean last we had a fight. I cannot tell you the whole thing. But yeah he became extremely furious. And said. I think you are taking sex too seriously. We should not be having sex or I think I should separate I do not want any hard feelings. Cause girls these days torchure boys. So I don't any problems for my future of my family. After hearing word separate! I cried like I cannot mention my feelings. And that to save that. I started saying his word (pls even I do not think of future. As you already told me that we won't have and do not worry I will never trouble you. Or something pls do not spoil. And more I said that night I won't be able to describe the whole) after seeing this you might think he is a bad Guy. But trust me. I see this when he is extremely angry. But I ve seen his love too. But I want commitment and a future together marriage I expect this from him. I don't have to discuss this with him. Because I'm too weak in front of him. I don't want to lose him. If it's the thing of parent I think we can convince them. He never talk to about it. I hope you can get my point. Pls suggest.

Masters in Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Lucknow
Hi, I do not know how good or bad he is, never heard his side of story or know him. All I can say is one sided expectations can kill you. You want to marry him and he does not want to talk about it. Its a tough situation, if you can be without any commitment go ahead, if you seriously can not think of it any more, you have to take a stand and be strong once and for all, stop talking and sternly ask him about future of you both. That's the only thing rational right now. Being aggressive defensive avoiding the topic will not help, unless he has already and always made clear that he will not marry than its your fault to have agreed and gone too far with him, in this case you will have to take back step to avoid future emotional harm. Consult with me for counseling.
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I had a breakup 4 months ago. And i am not able to let go of her or thinking about her.

BHARAT JYOTI, MRACGP, INCEPTOR, MD-PhD, MD - Psychiatry, FIPS, Fellow of Academy of General Education (FAGE), DPM, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Bangalore
Since she was a sexual partner, your obsession with your ex-partner is normal. You need to ignore this thought with CBT.
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I was having a relationship of 5 years but my parents didn't accept it right know I am having lot of stress and thinking about her again and again and my exams are also there after 1 week please doctor help me out I can not concentrate well please plz plz?

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
I was having a relationship of 5 years but my parents didn't accept it right know I am having lot of stress and think...
YOu have to explain the situation to parents and understand the reason for their not approving and and forget the relationship .CONCENTRATION TIPS Here’s some tips to get into a state of deep concentration where work / or studies flow easily so that you can do well in examinations/ and or do your work well. 1) Cut Off the Noise Getting into a state of concentration can take at least fifteen minutes. If you are getting distracted every five, you can’t possibly focus entirely on your work. Request that people don’t interrupt you when working on a big project. If you are required to answer phones and drop-in’s immediately, schedule work when the office is less busy. 2) Structure Your Environment The place you work can have an impact on your ability to focus. Try to locate yourself so you are facing potential distractions such as doors, phones or windows. This way you can take a glance to assess sounds that would otherwise break your focus. 3) Clarify Objectives Know what your goal is clearly before you start. If you aren’t sure what the end result is, the confusion will make it impossible to focus. 4) Divide Blobs. If you have a large project that needs work, clearly identify a path that you will use to get started working on it. If the sequence of actions isn’t obvious, it will be difficult to concentrate. Taking a few minutes to plan not only your end result, but the order you will complete any steps, can save hours in wasted thinking. 5) Know the Rules Get clear on what the guidelines are for the task ahead. What level of quality do you need? What standards do you need to follow? What constraints are there? If the rules aren’t clear from the outset, you will slip out of concentration as you ponder them later. 6) Set a Deadline Deadlines have both advantages and disadvantages when trying to force concentration. A deadline can make it easier to forget the non-essential and speed up your working time. If you give yourself only an hour to design a logo, you will keep it simple and avoid fiddling with extravagant designs. Time limits have disadvantages when they cause you to worry about the time you have left instead of the task itself. 7) Break down Roadblocks Roadblocks occur whenever you hit a tricky problem in your work. This can happen when you run out of ideas or your focus wavers. Break down roadblocks by brainstorming or planning on a piece of paper. Writing out your thought processes can keep you focused even if you might become frustrated. 8) Isolate Yourself Become a hermit and stay away from other people if you want to get work done. Unless your work is based on other people they will only break your focus. Create a private space and refuse to talk to anyone until your work is finished. Put a sign on your door to steer away drop-ins and don’t answer your phone. 9) Healthy Body, Sharper Mind What you put into your body affects the way you concentrate. Nobody would expect peak performance if they showed up drunk to work. But if you allow yourself to get chronic sleep deprivation, overuse stimulants like caffeine or eat dense, fatty foods your concentration will suffer. Try to cut out one of your unhealthy habits for just thirty days to see if there is a difference in your energy levels. I’ve found even small steps can create dramatic changes in my ability to focus. 10) Be Patient Before I write an article, I often sit at my desk for a fifteen or twenty minutes before I put finger on the keyboard. During this time I feel a strong urge to leave or do something else. But I know that if I am patient, I’ll stumble upon an idea to write about and enter a state of flow. Without a little patience, you can’t take advantage of flow when it rushed through you. If you need strong concentration I recommend periods of 90-120 minutes. Any less than that and you will waste too much time getting started before the flow can continue. More than this is possible to sustain focus, but you will probably benefit from a quick break. These are the general guidelines for concentration, studying well or doing your job. Regards.
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I am feeling down from last 6, 7 years. Everything is going wrong. I did not want to see a doctor cause I was scared to see any psychiatric. Suicidal thoughts every day. Want to go to unknown place. Want to leave family and my kid. Need nothing No money. No luxuries. Nothing. Feeling a big loser. Tired. Failure. Can't explain myself. Please advise.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I am feeling down from last 6, 7 years. Everything is going wrong. I did not want to see a doctor cause I was scared ...
You are making it worse for yourself if you do not get attention soon. Psychiatrists are not bad people and they can help you a lot when the going is tough. Since you are troubled by these doctors, go visit a counselor instead in the beginning and I am sure that person will recommend some medical help too. Having a counselor's support may make you feel better about them and medication and you will experience some support. Any way counseling must continue for a long time to be of benefit to you. I think that you are very depressed and need help soon. There is something troubling you emotionally, tremendously. I suspect it has to do with anger. Your life is very precious and for some frivolous reason that you think is insurmountable, you want to end life. And the pressure is building up with no solution in sight. Do you see how untrue all this is?! When you do therapy please explore what in your past could have affected you in this manner. Depression makes you want to withdraw, lie down, sleep, become lethargic, slow down, makes you too lazy to even think etc. You will need to fight this disease. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, and wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, eat more of proteins and vegetables, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch a lot of sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least 30 minutes but not in the scotching heat. I hope you can find someone to love and be loved too. Whatever happens please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three things lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate your sufferings.
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