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Dr. B R Dey

Psychiatrist, Pune

Dr. B R Dey Psychiatrist, Pune
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I am a 19 years old guy. I do not have any sister and being from a rural family. I am not used to be in contact with girls much. Now studies took me at IIT. Here when I talk to girls, I just hesitate and so I prefer company of boys. I am more introvert also. So need counselling to have confidence while talking to girls. I know it will be problematic when I will be facing interviews etc. Please advise.

Hypnotherapist, DCS, BSIC, Advanced Trainee of Transactional Analysis, Advanced Skills in Counselling
Psychologist,
I am a 19 years old guy. I do not have any sister and being from a rural family. I am not used to be in contact with ...
Yes counselling helps to get back your confidence in different situations. As you grow older you will be thrown in different situations which you may have never faced before. But it will be important for you to master the art of changes so that you can excel in your life. I suggest that you don't label yourself as an introvert because you will start behaving accordingly and you could find it very difficult to undo the damage done.
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Hi doctor! Can you suggest some tips to increase concentration and memory power? Thank you!

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
CONCENTRATION TIPS Here’s some tips to get into a state of deep concentration where work / or studies flow easily so that you can do well in examinations/ and or do your work well. 1) Cut Off the Noise Getting into a state of concentration can take at least fifteen minutes. If you are getting distracted every five, you can’t possibly focus entirely on your work. Request that people don’t interrupt you when working on a big project. If you are required to answer phones and drop-in’s immediately, schedule work when the office is less busy. 2) Structure Your Environment The place you work can have an impact on your ability to focus. Try to locate yourself so you are facing potential distractions such as doors, phones or windows. This way you can take a glance to assess sounds that would otherwise break your focus. 3) Clarify Objectives Know what your goal is clearly before you start. If you aren’t sure what the end result is, the confusion will make it impossible to focus. 4) Divide Blobs. If you have a large project that needs work, clearly identify a path that you will use to get started working on it. If the sequence of actions isn’t obvious, it will be difficult to concentrate. Taking a few minutes to plan not only your end result, but the order you will complete any steps, can save hours in wasted thinking. 5) Know the Rules Get clear on what the guidelines are for the task ahead. What level of quality do you need? What standards do you need to follow? What constraints are there? If the rules aren’t clear from the outset, you will slip out of concentration as you ponder them later. 6) Set a Deadline Deadlines have both advantages and disadvantages when trying to force concentration. A deadline can make it easier to forget the non-essential and speed up your working time. If you give yourself only an hour to design a logo, you will keep it simple and avoid fiddling with extravagant designs. Time limits have disadvantages when they cause you to worry about the time you have left instead of the task itself. 7) Break down Roadblocks Roadblocks occur whenever you hit a tricky problem in your work. This can happen when you run out of ideas or your focus wavers. Break down roadblocks by brainstorming or planning on a piece of paper. Writing out your thought processes can keep you focused even if you might become frustrated. 8) Isolate Yourself Become a hermit and stay away from other people if you want to get work done. Unless your work is based on other people they will only break your focus. Create a private space and refuse to talk to anyone until your work is finished. Put a sign on your door to steer away drop-ins and don’t answer your phone. 9) Healthy Body, Sharper Mind What you put into your body affects the way you concentrate. Nobody would expect peak performance if they showed up drunk to work. But if you allow yourself to get chronic sleep deprivation, overuse stimulants like caffeine or eat dense, fatty foods your concentration will suffer. Try to cut out one of your unhealthy habits for just thirty days to see if there is a difference in your energy levels. I’ve found even small steps can create dramatic changes in my ability to focus. 10) Be Patient Before I write an article, I often sit at my desk for a fifteen or twenty minutes before I put finger on the keyboard. During this time I feel a strong urge to leave or do something else. But I know that if I am patient, I’ll stumble upon an idea to write about and enter a state of flow. Without a little patience, you can’t take advantage of flow when it rushed through you. If you need strong concentration I recommend periods of 90-120 minutes. Any less than that and you will waste too much time getting started before the flow can continue. More than this is possible to sustain focus, but you will probably benefit from a quick break. These are the general guidelines for concentration, studying well or doing your job. Regards.
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My mom and brother treat me and torture me physically and mentally on a regular basis though I am 30+. I have no one else to turn to. One of my friends suggested that both of them need psychiatric treatment. Please guide me.

DNB in Psychiatry, completed course from Asha Hospital, Hyderbad
Psychiatrist, Salem
Hello madam, only suggestion from my side is, you have to bring all of them to psychiatrist and get evaluated. Because noting can be done in their absence.
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I have problem to talkbanybody infrolnt of mirror. When I talk my lips n my voice become sobloudly. And my eyes going off.

Fellowship in Comprehensive Ophthalmology, DOMS
Ophthalmologist, Sangrur
I have problem to talkbanybody infrolnt of mirror.
When I talk my lips n my voice become sobloudly.
And my eyes going...
Hello this is due to decreased self confidence you should meditate and increase confidence. Smart dressing boosts confidence firm hand shake boosts confidence bold handwriting boost confidence. So try to do these.
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I am a 22 years old male. Me jab bhi apne sir ko ya senior ko call krta hu like job ke liye ya simple query ke liye tabhi ek dam se mere dil me dar sa lagta h pta nhi kyu jaise jaise call ki ring jaati h ese ese dar badta rehta h or fir jab call uth jaati h us time me jyada perfect bat nhi kar pata hu ek dar sa lga rehta h. For example agar me kisi se job ke liye bat krta hu phone pr to ajeeb sa dar lagta h or me apni bat shi se bhi nhi bol pata or mujhe jyada nye logo se milna bhi achha nhi lagta h but in sab bato se mera career nhi ban rha h please help me with this problem what should I do thank you.

MD- Homeopathy
Homeopath, Hyderabad
I am a 22 years old male. Me jab bhi apne sir ko ya senior ko call krta hu like job ke liye ya simple query ke liye t...
Don't worry. Be confident. Believe in yourself. You can do it. Medicine will only support you. You have to increase your confidence by yourself. Practice speaking with others. Start with your mirror n then slowly with family friends n then strangers. No one can judge you. You only know what you are. So just cheer up. Life is beautiful, enjoy it when you call someone take deep breath n say to yourself I am the best n I can't do anything wrong. Take lycopodium 200 4 pills once a week for 15 days and then revert. Take care.
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Hello. I m student and I m getting tired from my study. actually I am preparing for competitive exam. I can't concentration on my studies please help me.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I suspect that the adolescent issues (If you are in your teens) with regard to hormones may be affecting your ability to concentrate and remember. When the hormones play up, it lasts for a period of close to two years and during that time you could be influenced by three signs directly impacted by the chemical: you will tend to become aggressive and rebellious, you will become sexually active, and you will have acne and pimple problems. The hormonal imbalances may not only impact your memory because of the chemical but also bring some distractions that come with it. But you may work on the following even if the hormones kick in:Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning at least five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. There are some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid junk food.
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5 Tips to Enjoy & Maintain a Passionate Sex Life

PhD Human Genetics
Sexologist,
5 Tips to Enjoy & Maintain a Passionate Sex Life

Maintaining a healthy relation with your partner in bed is of utmost importance for your relationship, but it should also kept in mind that it is not the only factor which is important. Your sex life is one of the keys to a successful relationship. With the advent of time, your sexual relationship with your partner may start to fade and seem uninteresting. 

Here are 5 tips following which you can maintain a passionate sex life:

  1. Maintain overall intimacy: Regular good sex is important as it helps you to forget your daily hustle and bustle and end up in a different kind of world. Sexual intimacy is a key factor in living up your relationship. However, you should keep in mind that intimacy is not just confined to the bedroom. To maintain your spark, you must be intimate in other aspects of life as well with your partner. Preparing a meal together, dancing together, going for vacations enable to maintain intimacy in other sections instead of just the sex.
  2. Communicate: Tell your partner about your sexual preferences. Mention what you like and what is not suitable for you. Getting comfortable with each other is the most vital aspect in maintaining continued passion in your sex life. If you are not totally at ease with your partner, you may never find yourself experimenting or trying new moves in bed. Moreover, your partner is your counterpart and your most trusted companion. Communication at the level of friendship is also very important.
  3. Make Efforts and Moves: For people who are very busy and have got no time for their partners, a change in mentality is required. Instead of giving up on your sex life because of lack of time, make a move to find time and solve the problem. Taking time off will also relax your mind on account of which you can enjoy the sex better. Little things like dinner together, a shower together can be great boosters. So never ignore them. All you need is give some effort.
  4. Maintain a playful relationship: Always maintain a playful nature with your partner. Instead of pertaining to the bed, spice up your sex by choosing different locations. Indulging in sex on your rooftop under a full moon, or buying innovative, naughty sex toys allows you to gel better with your partner. Sex is enjoyed more when accompanied with laughter and fun.
  5. Be unpredictable: An ever static, same old routine dampens your sex life. Making unpredictable moves, which have got something new in them as these add new life to your sexual relationship. Try the funniest and most charming moves to surprise your partner. This ensures everlasting freshness.

Your sex life is an important part of your relationship and you should try your best to maintain the passion throughout.

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I am 25 years old. I have been suffering from depression since I was 18. I call it depression because the internet told me that it is depression owing to the symptoms but haven't consulted any doctor yet. After all these years my condition has deteriorated. I'm sad everyday. I sleep timely but when I wake up it's like I haven't slept at all and there is a gloom that sets in the morning and stays with me throughout the day. I don't feel like doing anything and I've become dangerously forgetful and this has been running my career too. Please tell me what should I do and if I can be cured.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I am 25 years old. I have been suffering from depression since I was 18. I call it depression because the internet to...
My advice is that you meet with a doctor to determine whether you are depressed or not. You cannot be completely right by studying all the symptoms. Even if you were accurate, you should have sought some p[rofessional help for all these years. I will suggest a few symptoms and even after that you must visit a professional to know for sure and find some therapy to help you. What Are Symptoms of Depression? According to the National Institute of Mental Health, symptoms of depression may include the following: •Difficulty concentrating, remembering details, and making decisions •Fatigue and decreased energy •Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, and/or helplessness •Feelings of hopelessness and/or pessimism •Insomnia, early-morning wakefulness, or excessive sleeping •Irritability, restlessness •Loss of interest in activities or hobbies once pleasurable, including sex​ •Overeating or appetite loss •Persistent aches or pains, headaches, cramps, or digestive problems that do not ease even with treatment •Persistent sad, anxious, or "empty" feelings •Thoughts of suicide, suicide attempts.
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Hi I m 30 years old I have anxiety I did not understand what I listen just now I marriage thats why my wife does not like me she blame me mental and all her relatives do not like me she ask me divorce please tell me any medicine for my brain I m insulted very much and too much stress I feel like to suicide please help me.

MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Jaipur
Hi I m 30 years old I have anxiety I did not understand what I listen just now I marriage thats why my wife does not ...
Hi, it appears from your query that along with anxiety you are suffering from depression but there is no need to worry. All these condition are treatable and for that you can see a psychiatrist. He definitely help you.
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I continuously ruminate for office work regularly that creates sleepless ness but it is not very high. How can I get rid of this.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
I continuously ruminate for office work regularly that creates sleepless ness but it is not very high. How can I get ...
Dear lybrate user. When people ruminate, they over-think or obsess about situations or life events, such as work or relationships. Research has shown that rumination is associated with a variety of negative consequences, including depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder, binge-drinking and binge-eating. I suggest you to force stop rumination. Engage in physical activities, outdoor games, entertainment etc. When in work try to provide some sort of break to yourself every half an hour. Take care.
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Mai hamesha thaka thaka sa mehsos karta hu Body mai dard bhee rahta hai. Please help me.

BHMS
Homeopath, Faridabad
Mai hamesha thaka  thaka sa mehsos karta hu  
Body mai dard bhee rahta hai. 
Please help me.
Hi,to overcome this weakness, take Alfavena malt, 2 tsf, twice daily for 1 month. BC no. 27, 5 tabs twice daily. Drink plenty of water. Eat a well balanced nutritious diet. Take Sound sleep of 7-8 hours.
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Dear Doctor, I am 35 years old male and i am not working and i am suffering from mental illness which I noticed myself I think lot about past and future after then I get nervous and depression from this I am facing lack of confidence and I couldn't do any work with confidently now a days I am getting angry from silly unusual things and I will get panic when doing work. May be I am suffering from some mental disorders from this I am getting mentally weaker day by day and am going to get Marry soon but I am worrying how should I lead my Life happily and confidently in my career and personal life please suggest some helpful things. And please suggest how to overcome stress and how to get rid out from depression and anxiety.

M.PHIL - CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGY, MA - CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGY
Psychologist, Delhi
Dear Doctor, I am 35 years old male and i am not working and i am suffering from mental illness which I noticed mysel...
Hello. I can understand your condition. The feelings of helplessness that you are describing are result of depressed mood and negative thinking. It happens sometimes that our minds think over the past too much and this makes us feel negative and low about ourselves. Thinking about past events may be considered a normal phenomena but when this gets out of control and we keep reverting to thoughts about past happenings, then we find ourselves caught up in a circle of negative thinking. We are not able to relieve us from such mental load and find no direction as how to come out of it. We develop a negative view of ourselves and we are not able to feel good about ourselves. This makes us more depressed and we feel incapable of doing anything. We get stuck to past and find ourselves helpless in face of any challenging circumstances. A new event of marriage is making you vulnerable to feel more depressed and helpless as you are unemployed and occupied in your past. This is a state of depression and it seems you may be having clinical depression which needs to be diagnosed by a mental health professional and treated in time. You are going to start a new phase of your life and therefore you need hope, courage and motivation to enter this new phase. So this is the right time for you to seek professional help and make yourself feel better about yourself. You need to work and find meaning in life. You MUST meet a psychiatrist or a clinical psychologist as soon as possible.
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Do Panic Attacks Really Come "Out of the Blue"?

M. S. in Psychotherapy and Counselling
Psychologist, Jaipur
Do Panic Attacks Really Come "Out of the Blue"?

Panic attacks can debilitate a person greatly. The panic or anxiety attacks can be extremely powerful and intense, whereby a person starts hallucinating. The level of hallucination can vary depending on the severity of the attack. Such people often hallucinate about something bad or catastrophic striking them.  They lose self-composure. In extreme cases, they cut themselves off from the outside world and recoil into their safe zone (Agoraphobia).

Panic attacks, should, by no means, be confused with depression. These attacks can be essentially divided into three phases; the start phase, it then reaches the pinnacle or the zenith, before sliding down (fades away). The duration of a panic attack can vary from long to very long periods. The whole experience can leave a person depressed, traumatized and drained out (physically and emotionally). A timely medical assistance can prove to be extremely fruitful.

Panic attacks- its causative, signs and symptoms

 A panic attack, can, indeed, come out of the blue (unexpectedly). Extreme emotional turmoil or anxiety can trigger such an attack. An over-excited nervous system might turn out to be the wrecker in chief, throwing life in jeopardy. A person might be unprepared to deal with such a situation. Though extremely difficult, the best thing would be to try and relax. The attack is just an extreme state of mind, an abstract feeling that can never come true. It will pass off soon. Panicking will only pile onto your agony. Identifying the associated symptoms can prove to be effective. 

Some of the important symptoms associated with Panic attacks include:

  • A feeling of breathlessness, suffocation and dizziness.
  • The palms appear to be sweaty.
  • A person may complain of uneasiness or chest pain. 
  • Increased palpitations are quite common during panic attacks.
  • A person might experience severe chills or heat flushes. 
  • Twitching and trembling of the muscles are often observed during the attacks.
  • An intense fear of death or going insane grips the person completely.
  • Hands, legs, arms begin to tingle.
  • During anxiety attacks, a person loses the reasoning ability.

Few short-term behavioural therapies can be of great help. Meditation, yoga and certain breathing practices can effectively ward off physical and mental fatigue. CBT or Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is a popular technique used to deal with panic attacks. This technique primarily emphasizes on the present conditions and factors resulting in panic and ways to minimize or completely eliminate the attacks.

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My son is 11 years old he has no interest in studies in sixth std. He even can't read write in Hindi English. His IQ is 100 to 110 as told by a psychologist please tell me what should I do?

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
His IQ is normal or average and he needs only motivation and help to study. If he feels excessive sleep or tiredness/ head spinning or vertigo like feeling you have to make sure you have no anaemia or hypothyroidism by doing a blood CBC & TSH and inform me directly 10 Study Tips to Improve Your Learning Study Tip 1: Underlining Underlining is one of the simplest and best known study tips. It’s easy to highlight the most significant parts of what you’re reading. One key sentence per paragraph and a few important phrases here and there. You can only retain a certain amount so it’s best to retain the most important information. Study Tip 2: Make your own note and taking notes is one of the most widespread study skills out there. Essentially the aim of note-taking is to summarise lectures or articles in your own words so you can easily remember the ideas. Study Tip 3: Mind mapping A good Mind map can save you many hours of study and further consolidate your knowledge for your exams. Mind Maps are an extremely versatile tools. They can be used for brainstorming, outlining essays or study topics and for general exam preparation, ExamTime offers the ability to create Mind Maps quickly and easily which makes them the ideal tool when it comes to exams. Study Tip 4: Flash cards:- Using these are a particularly effective method of learning when trying to assimilate different facts, dates, formulas or vocabulary. Subjects such as History, Physics, Maths, Chemistry, Geography or any language are made much easier if you incorporate Flashcards in to your study. Study Tip 5: Case Studies Sometimes it can be difficult to grasp the implications of some theories. This is where studying case studies can be a big help. Case studies can help you visualise a theory and place it in a more familiar and realistic context. This is especially useful in business or law subjects. Study Tip 6: Quizzes are an excellent way to review study notes in the weeks and days before an exam. Quizzes can show where your strengths and weaknesses are, so it allows you to focus your efforts more precisely. Moreover, if you share your Study Quiz with your classmates and test each other as much as possible you can discover even more details and areas you may have overlooked. So before any exam, make sure you create and share a bunch of different Quizzes with your Friends. Study Tip 7: Brainstorming This is another study technique that is ideal for studying with friends and/or classmates. Brainstorming is a great way to expand every possible idea out of any topic. Just get a bunch of friends together and shoot the breeze, there are no wrong answers when brainstorming – just talk and capture the ideas, you can review afterward. Study Tip 8: Mnemonic Rules Mnemonics are especially useful when memorising lists and sets. Mnemonics rules basically work by associating certain concepts with other concepts that are more familiar to us. There are many different ways to make mnemonics and these can be individual to the person. Study Tip 9: ORGANISE your study One of the most effective study skills is also one of the most often overlooked; this is organising your study. Creating a TIME TABLE gives you goals and a time in which to achieve them. Having a study timetable as you study is greatly motivational Study Tip 10: Drawing Many people find it easier to recall images rather than text that is why they are better able to memorise concepts if they associate them with pictures or drawings. If you find answer helpful please click on “helpful” tab for knowing my efforts are useful.
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I am 24 year female. Suffering from hypertension and I m short tempered. I get irritated very easily and some time gets aggressive because of it. Please help.

M.B.B.S., F.I.C.A. (USA), P.G.D.I.H, F.C.G.P., D.C.A.H
Psychiatrist, Vadodara
I feel your anger is due to situations of your life. Of-course you need to get your check up done as Dr. Vijaynath suggested. Also be aware of your anger and ask yourself what bothers u? seems you have insecurities and fear, may be due to love/future/marriage etc. Self-awareness is 80% solution.
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I think this is my psychological problem. I'm in deep love with someone. He doesn't understand. I don't feel like living anymore. I want to kill myself. But then when I think about my parents, I control myself. But I'm always in a depression state.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I think this is my psychological problem. I'm in deep love with someone. He doesn't understand. I don't feel like liv...
There is some kind of vulnerability in you to want to die for another person so easily. To make matters worse you say he does not understand. Are you saying he does not really understand or he does want to love you in return?! You must meet with a counselor along with your parents and see if there were any childhood experiences that have contributed to this vulnerability.You are just 20 and life has only begun and you already want to end it! You sound more and more like someone with a serious rejection issue. It has become so bad that I feel you are now rejecting yourself in contemplating suicide! You may be angry about something and because you think that it cannot be expressed, you are turning it inwards. The identity crisis is a typical issue of someone who is dependent on others for acknowledgment and tends to identify with other personalities. You probably suffer from low self-esteem. But far worse than that is my fear that you have this rejection issue, which is compounded with abandonment issues and separation anxiety. The fear of acceptance may then trigger a performance-oriented individual who will depend entirely on other people’s opinion and assessment of himself. This will make you even more vulnerable and susceptible to rejection, and you may hurt very badly and easily at the slightest sign of rejection. There is a way about this, but meet with a counselor first and see what can be worked out to learn to accept yourself first. If you did this you will naturally perform well and will not depend on others, entirely, for their acceptance. If you know of any reason to believe that this rejection is true from your childhood it would help tremendously. Talk to your parents and find out what they remember or you could take them with you to meet with the counselor. If you learn to accept yourself first then the identity may be formed, but the best way to develop an identity is to know your emotions and how to express them. Your feelings are a very good indicator of who you are. A counselor will help you do this well. Depression itself is anger turned inwards. Your life is very, very precious. You would be wasting it if you destroyed it for an undeserving fellow.
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Sir I am 22 year old male from india I forget things very easily and did not remember small things ie I sometimes feel like I have a short term memory problem even sometimes I did not remember ways and routes to a particular destination I feel like I have a poor since of direction although I feel like I am creative in some field like writing quotes or thinking skills but these things also effecting my studies so please help me to sort out my memory problem Thank you sir Regards.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear, Welcome to lybrate. At your age, Memory problems like amnesia, dementia or Alzheimer's are not common. Many young people do complain having problems with memory. These problems are due to either they are too busy or due to anxiety and stress. Busy people use organizers or employ a personal assistant because they can't remember every task. You need to understand this. If you still say, you are having memory problems, we need to check your memory using memory test. You may contact a clinical psychologist or neurologist for memory test and further investigation. Memory and mind power depends mainly on three aspects. Understanding, storage and recollection. To understand what you are studying, you must be able to be attentive or concentrate. Concentration is possible when you are interested in that subject. Creative way of learning can help you concentrate and understand easily. When you are able to understand and concentrate, it is stored within your brain. If you read more and more it will be store in long term memory. Third part is retrieval. Whenever you want to retrive what you learned and stored, your brain gets the request, searches the database and retrieves the information for you. The retrieval may prove to be difficult if you are anxious, stressed, worried or tired physically or mentally. Retrieval is more easy when you are relaxed and healthy. Brain needs nutrients to keep itself sharp. Fruits, vegetables and dry fruits provide much needed nutrients for your brain. Include at least one fruit in your daily diet. Physical exercises, entertainment, hobbies, relaxation, memory games like sudoku etc help keep your memory sharp and active. You may consult a psychologist online or in person for advice, counseling and therapy.Take care.
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I am 29 years old male, 6 months marry3d its love marriage with 1.5 years relationship my wife is very bold and open towards her friend especially opposite sex she use crack non veg jokes I never felt any bad about it as its todays generation let me tell you we have gap of 4 years. Am grow in traditional envoirment never touch any girl had emotional relationship before which never work out got dumped twice which makes me mentally weak den 2 years back I found her she proposed me we wer in good relation got married. At time of our first sexual encounter I came to know she was not virgin I asked her she got angried at first night I bleed due to foreskin tore as its my first time not she still I keep trust on her ok might be cycling of anything broke her hymen. Then I notice one guy remark her ao called very good friend she introduced me as very close friend I got gut feeling its something else more then friendship so I checked her conversation it found normal about life job and career never suspected them I just saw his notification on her whats app he was commenting her sexy hot and many pathetic comments I aksed her she said how hai I told her stay away from him I do not like this guy. She ignored I thought about it and said ok its der generation and these are comments on her beauty looks and figure its ok noy big deal. One day I got her facebook access I juat read her conversation very old 2 years back wid same best friend I came to know shes having physical wid him not twice thrice many times in her collage days also read comments like look for room and lodge which really shocked me it was not love at all its just lust and for fun I asked her and told her that its over she begged me not to tell any one its mistake please forgive give me one chance she do not have any kind of sexual relationship wid him after she met me we r just good friends I got very shocked ok every one has past so they keep all these things away from them after got married am not angry on her virginity lost am angry if I love her most she was happy wid me then why she still need him and how could I trust her that she do not have any relationship wid him its just friendship wala thing. We stay separate from my parents I came back wid my parents as I can not trust her any more 24x7 I think about this only can not able to concentration on my work became very aggressive had many fights out side as well as at home wid close friends this couldn't be digestive for me any more after 2-3 weeks I realize its not easy my parents to digest this for sake of future, I decided to forgive her as mistake she behave well delete all male contacts blocked his no in 2-3 weeks I felt ok still I did not trust her fully I really can not. Last week I found her g talk open with one more guy she had only physical relation ship dat devastating for me know feels so disgusting dat am I living with whore or something I hate her like anything now I do not want to touch her body I do not want her in my life but I couldn't do it as it will hurt my parents and I love them very much again she started same thing its my past please forgive me do not judge me on my past etc etc am yours only please do not tell my parents she behave very down crying alot again ask for chance to become good wife I really can not understand now how can I trust her. She broke the trust of her father how could be she will be faithful to me I think she is very much addicted to sex now we have good sex life what after if we had problem I can not trust her for ny life journey am getting sick now can not able to do anything feel to do kill my self but thats not solutions what should I do should I tell her parents but I do not think so after that anything will remain between us. What should I do please help should I file divorce she said if I file divorce she will kill herself as I know she loves me alot kind of things she did for me in past 2 years relationship but I can not trust her for her nature towards opposite sex its too much open. Please help psychiatrist help required am sick now do not know what am up to.

M.S. Counselling and Psychotherapy
Psychologist, Bangalore
I can imagine how frustrated you must be. It appears to me that you are not able to trust her anymore because she has cheated on you a couple of times. You have forgiven her and she is repeating this. I think you love her a lot and because of this you are not realising that she has promiscuous nature" faith" is very important in any relationship, especially marriage. You are probably unable to accept that she is promiscuous, because this acceptance is going to be very painful for you. But if you continue like this, you will have more disappointments and troubles in future. Please go to a marriage counsellor and try to resolve your issues. With the help of counselling, you will be able to take rational decisions. Take care.
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Oppositional Defiant Disorder - 6 Ways You Can Deal with Kids Suffering from it

D.P.M, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Mumbai
Oppositional Defiant Disorder - 6 Ways You Can Deal with Kids Suffering from it

Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) is a disorder found in young children. Some common traits of a kid suffering from ODD include disobedient behavior, vindictiveness, manipulation, anger issues and irritability. These kids are known to have a negative mindset and are very difficult to get along with.

Here is a list of ways to deal with a kid suffering from ODD

  1. Communicate you expectations clearly: Kids suffering from this disorder feels an irresistible urge to control the environment they are residing in. It helps when you lay down simple, but mandatory house rules such as not raising the voice, being kind to others, refraining from hurting family and friends etc. This will not only keep their behavior in check, but will help them to make better choices.
  2. Be calm: Make sure you don’t give your kids any room to argue. Remind them that house rules apply for everyone. A back-and-forth argument will give your kids to impose his will on you. Explain in short the parental requirement that is expected. While giving instructions make sure you maintain a calm and collective dialect. Scolding or arguing your kid will do more harm than good.
  3. Use empathy: Instead of imposing parental will, it is best to be empathetic towards your defiant kid. For instance despite your repeated warnings, if your kid continues to watch TV or hook to the play station, remind them why it is important to go to bed early. Explain to them that you understand his feeling of having to leave the day for the night, but also tell them how his favorite activities can be continued the next day.
  4. Reward scheme: Kids with ODD reacts wonderfully to a reward system. For instance, if he successfully sticks to the rules laid in the house or behaves the way he is expected, he should be rewarded for the job well done. This reward scheme should be declared well in advance. As a parent, your job is to continuously remind him about the reward if he manages to do a job well. This incentive scheme will force your kid to be obedient.
  5. Don’t use false threats: Be very precise with your kid about the instruction you want them to follow. If you want him to brush his teeth before going to sleep, make it very clear to him what would be the consequences if the instruction is not followed. Do not use empty threats. As a parent, if you fail to keep your end of the bargain, your kid will not value your word anymore.
  6. Create a routine: A routine works well with kids suffering from ODD disorder. Every task should be time bound with more than one choice. For instance, between 5 PM to 7 PM allow them to do either of the two things like playing outdoor games or spending time with the play station. If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult a Psychiatrist.
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