Dr. Marythi Morey

If you're a woman, try to realize that all the little lies said by your spouse/boyfriend, are not said with the intention to hurt you. May be, try to appreciate the fact that he does it mainly so that you are happy. Try to ignore his little lies, rather than racking your brains over why he did so. Once you understand this, you can work around the occasional lies.

To Get Away with StuffThis is the reason why most women lie as well, right? It is often just easier to give a very simple and easy answer, as compared to saying the truth. Often, in saying the truth, confrontation is a given. As such, lying seems like a safer option.

◈ Fiction is More Believable
This is very common as well. Women have a tendency to refuse to believe something that is just too "easy" to be true. Poor men, where do they go at such a time. If they say the truth, they will be constantly questioned. So, they make up a more complex lie, and the women tend to fall for it!

◈ Just for Kicks
Many men when questioned about being late can actually speak the truth; for instance, "We got bored working, so we went to the bar after office hours, hence I got late!" - now what's there to hide in that? But no; men being boys, end up having no fun in saying that. Many men in such a situation, would enjoy making up elaborate and detailed lies for their special someone. After all, all their pent-up creativity has to be expressed somewhere, right?

◈ Half Truth
Often a man is not exactly lying, but he is not completely honest either. He will say the acceptable part of the truth and very conveniently "forget" about the unacceptable part of it; like he may say that he took a friend out for shopping, but he may just omit the part where his "friend" is actually his ex-girlfriend. Let's face it; if you are his girlfriend or wife, you would at least frown at the concept. So, to keep you happy, he would simply not mention it.

◈ To Avoid Work
Men lie to get away from chores or other errands. Like, if you need to have him pick up the laundry on the way back from office, he might "suddenly" have a very important meeting spring up. Or if he forgot to do it, he would make up a story saying that he remembered, but thought you would have already done it, instead. Silly, I know, but that is the way a man's mind works, at times.

◈ To Make You Feel Better
Now, if you have cooked the worst meal ever, you would not want him to tell you that in the face, right? More so, men have been trained to tell the woman the food is good, come what may, if they care about her. So, in such a case his lie to you would be something like "the food was amazing". You wouldn't mind this lie, would you?

◈ Lying is Normal
Don't go by the above statement completely; it applies only to certain men who believe it's a normal thing to do. For some men, blurting out lies is a very easy thing and they are quite habituated in doing that. It's the best thing they can do for they don't value their relationship. They would probably keep on lying if they haven't fallen into a soup, and if lying has helped them achieve their goal.

Cheating and lying can be a bad combination. Why do men cheat on women? There may be several reasons. All you have to remember is that, it is not always the man's fault. If you keep a constant distance from him, or if you never trust him, then you are driving him into indiscretion. So, if his behavior makes you suspicious, it is best if you sit down and sort it out with him. Either ways, cheating, in my opinion, is unacceptable, the rest is your decision!

In the realm of sexual relations, Incest is one of the longing social taboos. In order to curb this social taboo, many governments have introduced law banning incest. Basically, this is a sexual relationship between those who are blood-related, which is also called as Consanguineous relationship. This is also called as Genetic Sexual Attraction (GSA) which can be between siblings, half siblings, donor children, adoptees, biological mother and father, nephew and so on. This is a social evil, and experts have some remedies so that you can deal with genetic sexual attraction.

Causes:

According to an article published in Spanish Magazine AFIN in July 2013, separation of siblings for quite a long time is one of the known causes for genetic sexual attraction. At the same time, the magazine points out that there are instances that even those who are not separated have this mania of genetic sexual attraction. Some of the other interesting aspects of GSA can be explained as follows:

1. It is said that children who grow in close proximity since their childhood develop reverse sexual attitude or imprinting with their siblings, parents and with other consanguineous relationships. This reverse sexual attitude actually suppresses sexual desire with consanguineous relationship. This theory is also called as Westermarck Effect. This can be the pointer to the question How to deal with Genetic Sexual Attraction because consanguineous relationship separated for years may not have the Westermarck Effect.

2. It is pointed out that when siblings who are separated for long duration of time are sexually mature when they meet each other. In other words, they were not members of the nuclear family, and this long absence can attract each other for a closer relationship. In addition to this, the siblings are biologically and mentally so grown up that they have made their own hard imprint of their character, taste and so on. It is a combination of these factors that makes them an exception to the Westermarck effect.

Symptoms of GSA:

Extreme awareness about the other person, hard desire to stay or talk, distractible behavior, unnecessary talking, holding hands or touching or making use of every opportunity to have some kind of physical contact, daydreaming are some of the known symptoms of GSA.

Remedy Available:

One of the ideal remedies for those suffering from GSA is to seek help of appropriate medical fraternity in the earliest possible time. This is one of the most ideal approaches to deal with genetic sexual attraction. It is also suggested that you should ensure that the siblings meet at regular intervals. This can help the siblings to have Westermarck Effect. If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult a doctor and ask a free question.