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Dr. Sheetal Deshmukh

Psychiatrist, Mumbai

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Can you people tell me what is pregnancy depression and how does it occurs and how to cure it?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Pregnancy depression due to so many physical and mental changes that happen withion you during pregnancy period. Hormonal activities, obsessive thinking about delivery and child rearing, food habits, lethargy and loneliness etc are the main causes. This type of depression is short lived and is supposed to be cleared after some time. Depression also could happen after delivery. Causes are almost the same. Usuallt gynacologists are trained to deal with these depression.
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Hi doctors. I'm 28 yr old male, i'm facing a lot of problems at this age. My head is paining all the day and i'm getting angry on everyone who is around me, I feel alone, I do masturbate a lot almost everyday, i'm a chain smoker. At Least 20 to 25 cigarettes per day, i'm having problems with my parents. End up with arguments and I'm going to loss my family business too, i'm elder son in my family and I don't have any respect in my family life, many people told me that i'm definitely facing some psychic problems, I do get angry everytime on everyone, my girlfriend thinks i'm psycho, i'm takin everything for granted, which leads me to live an easy life, i'm running from hard work, i'm really very tensed about my future, so I please request you to give me a right path and if you can then please consult me. I'll b thankful to you all.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Hi doctors. I'm 28 yr old male, i'm facing a lot of problems at this age. My head is paining all the day and i'm gett...
Not only is everyone else against you but it sounds like you are also against yourself! The key to your resolution is the anger you talk about: it can give you headaches, make you aggressive, make you abuse yourself, make you lethargic and non-functional, and you are close to losing your business too. You need to quickly meet with a counselor and discuss these problems. I am sure that that person will want more information about this anger. Something may have happened in your childhood and your parents could be very helpful to identify the cause. In time this anger when turned inwards will lead to depression and make you feel listless. I also recommend that you go for vigorous exercise everyday and keep with it forever. You need to get a good night?s rest and eat healthy food. You need to become responsible, respectful, and functional anyway. By this trend you may loose your family, friends, girl friend, and position in society.
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Tongue and Ceiling of my mouth always feels dry like cotton from past nearly one year. I smoke two cigarettes daily not more than that. Few days back one of my dentist friend observed that this is smoker's palate but I am not convinced as I am not a chain smoker. Please suggest what should be done to treat this problem. I never feel comfortable.

BDS
Dentist, Vadodara
Smoker's palate can be caused even if you are not a chain smoker. Dry mouth is also a side effect of smoking. Please consult a dentist and get a complete check up done. These may also be the initial symptoms of oral cancer, so I would suggest you waste no time.
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My Dear Doctors, Please I'm in a confused state of mind. Please tell me clearly. If one's weight is lost due to chronic anxiety or confusion or stress or depression, it will affect fat metabolism. So which cholesterol will increase and which cholesterol will decrease? HDL and LDL. If you clear my doubt, definitely I can focus on my work in a perfect manner.

MBBS, DPM
Psychiatrist, Bangalore
My Dear Doctors,
Please I'm in a confused state of mind. Please tell me clearly. If one's weight is lost due to chron...
Dear Raghu K, i have repeatedly answered that you need not know these details. It is for doctors to decide after studying fat metabolism. This is not the ONLY doubt that you have. Once it is cleared, you will start worrying about something-else and get confused. So, take treatment for anxiety, depression and stress and focus on your work. There are antidepressants which increase weight also.
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I am 38 years old lady. How to control or avoid aggression,(anger) and irritation during depression. I become mad due to anger. Can't control on it. Please help me.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
I am 38 years old lady. How to control or avoid aggression,(anger) and irritation during depression. I become mad due...
Some of the" typical" responses to frustration include anger, quitting (burn out or giving up), loss of self-esteem and self-confidence, stress and depression. Anger management: 10 tips to tame your temper anger: there is a saying" frustration begets anger and anger begets aggression. Direct anger, is expressed toward the object perceived as the cause of the frustration. If a machine does not work, you might hit it or kick it. If someone gets in your way, you could verbally threaten them or push them aside. If the source of the frustration is too powerful or threatening for direct aggression, displaced aggression is often used. The aggression is redirected toward a less threatening and more available object. An angry person often acts without thinking. The person has given in to the frustration and they have given up restraint. Anger can be a healthy response if it motivates us to positive action but all too often the actions we engage in when angry are destructive. Indeed, if we could see a videotape of ourselves getting angry, the humiliation might well help cure us of anger. When you feel frustration building, you have to practice learned responses that lead to healthy actions instead of destructive ones. Giving up: giving up on a goal can be productive if the goal is truly out of reach. However, more often giving up (quitting or being apathetic) is another form of giving in to frustration. When repeatedly frustrated, people can drop out of school, quit jobs, or move away. Apathy is giving up all of your goals, so you cannot be frustrated by trying to reach them. We live in difficult time and we have to be persistent in order to accomplish. Consider how many projects you began, and then gave up, because you became frustrated and lost patience. Make a list of things you started and quit because they seemed too difficult. Now calculate the disappointment and loss you suffered by not dealing with the frustration in a more healthy way. Try to remember that quitters never win, and winners never quit. Losing your temper means you're a quitter. Loss of confidence: is a terrible frequent side effect of giving up and not fulfilling your goal. A loss of self-confidence and self-esteem, means that if we quit once, then the next time we plan a goal, we may not be able to accurately assess our ability to carry it out and we stop trusting ourselves and our own abilities. This became a self-fulfilling and self-destructive attitude. You need to be able to learn that when the going gets tough, you say to yourself" it is worth it! and by following through, it not only gets the job done, but it builds self-confidence. Stress: is the" wear and tear" our body and mind experiences as we adjust to the frustrations our continually changing environment. Too frequently, extreme, or prolonged frustration and stress strains us and generates distress signals. Our body experiences distress signals in a variety of ways, often in the form of: irritability, anger, fatigue anxiety, headache, depression, stomach aches, hypertension, migraines, ulcers, heart attacks, or colitis. Depression: depression can affect almost every aspect of your life. It affects people of all ages, income, race, and cultures. Depression can affect the way you eat and sleep the way you feel about yourself, the way one think about things, and the way you interact with others. While we all feel depression at various appropriate times in our lives, excess or inappropriate depression cannot be easily dismissed or wished away. Other reactions: abuse of drugs & alcohol is self-destructive and usually futile attempt at dealing with frustration, as are many eating and weight problems and addictions whenever the immediate effects of the addictive behaviour wear off, users find themselves back in the same, or even worse, frustrating situation. Learning to deal with frustration it is unrealistic to believe you can rid yourself of frustration forever, but you can learn to do things to minimize your frustrations and to make sure you do not engage in unhealthy responses to frustration. You will need to learn to distinguish between what you hope will happen, what will probably happen, and what actually happened. Life inevitably has its ups and downs -- its moments of relaxation and times of tension. When you learn to truly accept this reality, you come one step closer to being able to deal with frustration in a healthy way. There are several types of problems that we encounter in everyday living: those which you know can be solved, those which you are not sure if they can be solved or not, those you know are totally out of your control, and those you are so confused about that you do not even know what the problem is. You need to be able to accurately assess your abilities to alter situations that prevent you from solving your problems and reaching your goal. Then you will be able to assess which of the types of problems you have encountered, and you will then be able to develop a realistic plan. Learning to take things in stride will also help you to be more content and happy which, in turn, will help you to more easily overcome anger and frustration. If you are upset, sad, anxious, or depressed you will have less patience and tolerance for everything and everybody. Treatment of frustration frustration and anger are fundamental emotions that everyone experiences from time to time. From a very early age, people learn to express frustration by copying the behaviour they see modelled around them, and by expressing frustration and angry behaviour and seeing what they can get away with. We all suffer from frustration, and being able to effectively deal with frustration is a very important skill to develop. Each person needs to learn how to control frustration, so that it does not control them. The following is a brief overview of types of frustration management programs and resources that have proved helpful in understanding and controlling frustration and anger. I have found several approaches to treatment that have been effective for my clients including: individual and group therapy for anger management. A therapist who can observe and analyse your behaviour from an impartial perspective, can help you with your reality testing. A therapist knows many effective frustration and anger management strategies and will be able to help you develop a personalized set of strategies for changing both your thinking and behaviour. Depending on your needs, your therapist may work with you on breathing or meditation exercises to reduce frustration, safe and appropriate emotional and physical techniques to release frustration, communication, or cognitive restructuring (a method for disputing and changing the way you think). Relaxation and exercise simple relaxation tools such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery can help calm down feelings of frustration and anger. Breathing deeply, from your diaphragm, will help while breathing from your chest won't relax you. While breathing, you can slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as" relax" calm down" or" take it easy. Non-strenuous exercise, like yoga, can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer. Strenuous and vigorous exercise can also help you to work off frustration and angry feelings. Frustration can have a highly damaging impact on our frame of mind. It can turn a positive person into a person who sees nearly everything as a problem. It can slow you down, inhibit your progress, and at times completely immobilize you. We can become so wound up with our frustration that we do not, and cannot, think or act rationally. Our frustration can often exacerbate a situation and create a vicious circle. If we are convinced that our actions are not working, no matter how hard we try, we are much more likely to reduce, rather than increase, our chances of success. Remember, you cannot eliminate frustration. In spite of all your efforts, things will happen that will cause you frustration and anger. Life is filled with frustration, pain, loss, and the unpredictable actions of others. You can't change that; but you can change the way you let such events affect you. If you feel that your degree of frustration is really out of control, if it is having an impact on your relationships and on important parts of your life, you might consider counselling to learn how to handle it better.
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I am an engineering student. In our college I am the topper. So I am feeling so much burden on me every time I write the exam. Because I am feeling I have to get top or else I won't survive. How will I get mental strength. Do I need to exercise? If yes will that help me?

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
You are burdened under high expectations and that can cause you a lot of stress and as a result memory loss. Please do all the following and remain committed to it for a long time, ideally.Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning at least five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. There are some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid sugar and junk food.
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My age is 24 I am interested in watching in irregular videos like femdom or bdsm scenes (in that girl whips on the hero by flogging) I want to overcome it please explain how to overcome it and I am more worry on that I am masturbating weekly 2 to 3 times by watching this videos. I am wasting lot of time in unnecessary things.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
My age is 24 I am interested in watching in irregular videos like femdom or bdsm scenes (in that girl whips on the he...
Anything that is not responsible, respectful or functional is really unhealthy for you. You need to be careful because porn may provide great sexual entertainment but it also stokes the desire, which will then lead to desire-fulfillment and that will lead to impulses. It actually objectifies women and sex to levels that make you lose respect for them. Besides, the whole thing is dramatized to such crazy levels of performance (that is why it sells too) that you are made to feel grossly inadequate. It is really far from the reality, and these are exceptional actors, with some exceptional endowments and actions that you may even look at your own spouse (later when you get married, that is) with disdain or inadequacies that are most unfair. After you have been stimulated you are left hungry in your groin to want to fulfill your desires, and if not met soon, leaves you with that raging libido, and it can goad you to do something inappropriate. In essence, it spoils a very beautiful thing and reduces it to mere physical impulses. After some time you get disgusted when you have had too much of it; whereas natural sex will never cause that effect at all. If you have so much of sexual energy you can channelize it into activities, sports, games, and hobbies. You need to distract yourself when the drive is very strong in you, which may be so if your levels of testosterone are very high too. You need to socialize with members of the opposite sex and enjoy their company to experience the different aspects of a woman and to also feel the different aspects of sex and not get frozen in the carnal part of it alone. Sex has five different dimensions to it: there is the physical aspect, the emotional aspect, the intellectual aspect, the social aspect and finally, there is the spiritual aspect. The latter may surprise you but this is where respect and regard for women and their bodies will come up to help treat them with value. If you cultivate these dimensions of sex I am sure you will perceive women differently and with a lot of respect. Eventually, when you are into a serious relationship with a woman, you will truly enjoy the whole concept of romance and being and falling in love with the real thing: That my friend will be a different ball-game. Do not play with a poor replica of sex, and shy away from the real person and thing, which are so wholesome. Similarly, masturbation can become addictive and appear to give you more pleasure over a period of time and spoil natural sex.
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I was in depression after my dad's sudden death, my mom have expired 5 yes back, now am feeling alone n world, some times want to finish myself. Please guide what I do.

DNB (Psychiatry), DPM, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Mumbai
I was in  depression after my dad's sudden death, my mom have expired 5 yes back, now am feeling alone n world, some ...
Sorry for your loss of your parents bereavement is a state of feeling aroused by loss of loved one's. It's quite normal to feel sad and low and have recurrent thoughts of the deceased person, but if these thoughts continue for long period and one is unable to concentrate in work or social life, it is advisable to consult a psychiatrist for therapy. Share your feelings with someone close you might feel relieved. It's advisable to go for counseling sessions from a qualified psychologist.
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I used to live in peace but nowadays I get very angry anything and on anyone. I want to control my anger. Share with me some tips.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Anger management: 10 tips to tame your temper ANGER: There is a saying "Frustration begets anger and anger begets aggression. Direct anger, is expressed toward the object perceived as the cause of the frustration. If a machine does not work, you might hit it or kick it. If someone gets in your way, you could verbally threaten them or push them aside. If the source of the frustration is too powerful or threatening for direct aggression, displaced aggression is often used. The aggression is redirected toward a less threatening and more available object. An angry person often acts without thinking. The person has given in to the frustration and they have given up restraint. Anger can be a healthy response if it motivates us to positive action but all too often the actions we engage in when angry are destructive. Indeed, if we could see a videotape of ourselves getting angry, the humiliation might well help cure us of anger. When you feel frustration building, you have to practice learned responses that lead to healthy actions instead of destructive ones. GIVING UP: Giving up on a goal can be productive if the goal is truly out of reach. However, more often giving up (quitting or being apathetic) is another form of giving in to frustration. When repeatedly frustrated, people can drop out of school, quit jobs, or move away. Apathy is giving up all of your goals, so you cannot be frustrated by trying to reach them. We live in difficult time and we have to be persistent in order to accomplish. Consider how many projects you began, and then gave up, because you became frustrated and lost patience. Make a list of things you started and quit because they seemed too difficult. Now calculate the disappointment and loss you suffered by not dealing with the frustration in a more healthy way. Try to remember that quitters never win, and winners never quit. Losing your temper means you're a quitter. LOSS OF CONFIDENCE: is a terrible frequent side effect of giving up and not fulfilling your goal. A loss of self-confidence and self-esteem, means that If we quit once, then the next time we plan a goal, we may not be able to accurately assess our ability to carry it out and we stop trusting ourselves and our own abilities. This became a self-fulfilling and self-destructive attitude. You need to be able to learn that when the going gets tough, you say to yourself "It is worth it! and by following through, it not only gets the job done, but it builds self-confidence. STRESS: is the "wear and tear" our body and mind experiences as we adjust to the frustrations our continually changing environment. Too frequently, extreme, or prolonged frustration and stress strains us and generates distress signals. Our body experiences distress signals in a variety of ways, often in the form of: irritability, anger, fatigue anxiety, headache, depression, stomach aches, hypertension, migraines, ulcers, heart attacks, or colitis. DEPRESSION: Depression can affect almost every aspect of your life. It affects people of all ages, income, race, and cultures. Depression can affect the way you eat and sleep the way you feel about yourself, the way one think about things, and the way you interact with others. While we all feel depression at various appropriate times in our lives, excess or inappropriate depression cannot be easily dismissed or wished away. OTHER REACTIONS: abuse of drugs & alcohol is self-destructive and usually futile attempt at dealing with frustration, as are many eating and weight problems and addictions Whenever the immediate effects of the addictive behaviour wear off, users find themselves back in the same, or even worse, frustrating situation. Anger is among the gamut of emotions we exhibit as a reaction to a situation, and it is a 'normal' emotion too as long as it is kept under control. Some people have the propensity to explode when pushed to the extreme. They keep swallowing their emotions until they can finally do it no more, and erupt like a volcano. Others dealing with extreme anger are like a ticking time bomb. You'll never know what you unwittingly say or do can trigger an explosion. In either case, anger that cannot be controlled comes with a physical reaction. Your heart beats faster preparing you for both action and reaction. Your breathing quickens. You may clench your fist, tighten your shoulders and go into a defensive position. The problem arises out of the fact that it is almost impossible to feel anger and empathy at the same time. An angry person is seldom sensitive to the wellbeing of his victim, and hence may lash out verbally and sometimes physically. Such things done in the heat of the moment mostly leaves us with regrets. So here are a few ways to deal with extreme anger. 1.Approve it / Acknowledge it: The first step in solving a problem is recognizing that you have one. The fundamental problem here is that people believe they are on the right track and refuse to budge from their views. It is essential to realize that this step is not about deciding whether you are right or wrong, but acknowledging the fact that your reaction to the situation can be channelled in a better way. When getting someone to acknowledge their anger problem, be careful as to not use negative words like wrong, false and shouldn't. Instead, influence with positive words like can and should. Instead of saying 'You are wrong to react like this' you can say, 'I understand what you are feeling. Is there a way we can resolve this situation? 2.Understand / recognize the signs: Once you know that your problems exist, you can try devising ways that will work for you in dealing with the situation. You can count to 100 to calm yourself or simply decide to not speak until you can calm yourself. Knowing that you may enter into an argument in a situation, you can list down the points that you feel strongly about and discuss each of them one by one. Working your way through a finite list gives a better opportunity to reach closure at the end. 3.Free the mind/Find ways to let it go: Not all arguments end in closure. A lot of unsaid justifications cloud our mind repeatedly leaving us seething from the inside. Research has shown that the normal or neurological anger response lasts less than two seconds. Beyond that it takes a strong will to stay angry. Once you realize how much your anger is consuming your mind, decide to free your mind with meditation and other calming exercises. Tell yourself that some people and issues simply don't deserve your anger, emotion, reaction or time. If you or someone you know is suffering from anger management issues, consult a doctor today.
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I am a student studing for engineering I want to increase my concentration and want to increase study time but movies and laptops distract me what should I do?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear, you must be able to understand concentration, attention span, recollection and distraction. If you are able to watch a movie for two hours continuously, if you are able to play a game for an hour, then you do not have any concentration problems. You can't be attentive towards your studies because you are not interested in it. You are able to watch movie and play game because you are interested in it. Human cannot be attentive towards anything for more than 10 minutes. Then you should study in such a way that your attention is continued and make the subjects are interesting to you. Effective learning techniques should help you. Recollection depends on anxiety, stress and other physical and circumstantial factors. Distractions while studying are plentiful. You should be able to overcome distractions or avoid distractions. Please understand the above. Change your study style and attitude accordingly. Please post a private question to me and I will help you with" effective learning" techniques. Take care.
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Hi im a girl 26, im studying and living alone I have few good friends but im always feeling alone depressed im feeling low, im researching it why I always need someone wz me. I always needed someone loves me cares abt me. When I building relationship loving very deeply feeling good happy and and that person is stops loving and caring, but it might happen wz anyone just I can not understand why im happy and strong wz someone only and im suffering I do not hav any bad habits or hard heavy character im very peace friendly ambitious I have great talent im good in creation but these all my abilities are stopping when I depressed,

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
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This is not at all unnatural: we are all gregarious by nature. We are social animals, needing one another, and growing from dependence to independence, and finally to interdependence. No man is an island; we cannot live alone. In fact, the test of our personality is always in a social context: what happens to us when we are with other people. Another better test is, what happens to us when we are with members of the opposite sex. And the greatest test is when we bed and board with a member of the opposite sex in marriage! we all seek love and want to give love. If you are overdependent on other people for any and everything, then that could be considered abnormal, and you will always become vulnerable to that person/s because that person/s can withdraw the love and you will hurt very badly. Moderation is the key, and extremes are to be avoided at all costs. Maybe this quality was never developed adequately in your family of origin!
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I'm just a chain smoker and I don't want to smoke is there any solution to leave cigarettes.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear, Tobacco is addictive. Cigarette also contains 4000+ carcinogenic chemicals other than nicotine. The best method is to leave it and continue with your will power. There are other methods like Nicotine Replacement therapy and pharmacotherapy combined. If you?re ready to stop smoking and willing to get the support you need, you can recover from nicotine addiction and abuse abuse?no matter how bad the addiction or how powerless you feel. The first step in treating nicotine addiction is accepting that you have a problem. Confronting an addiction and accepting responsibility for your actions isn?t easy. But it?s a necessary step on the road to treatment and recovery. You should then consult a psychiatrist / psychologist who fill follow this treatment. 1. Detoxification using medicines. 2. Behavior modification with the help of therapies. 3. Counseling. 4. Medication to sustain 5. Long term support. These given steps are essential for any addict to get effectively rid of smoking. Therefore, you need to stick to the treatment plan and cooperate with your psychiatrist / psychologist. Take care.
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I am fully depressed Everything is falling apart for me I do not know how to stop it so I think I should end my life Is there any medical way to help me? As doctors are also called god .so please help.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I am fully depressed Everything is falling apart for me I do not know how to stop it so I think I should end my life ...
At your age this claim is serious. If you have depression then there are some major ramifications to take into account. I believe there may be some genetic predisposition or there has been some childhood issue, related to anger, that needs urgent attention. You must go and meet with a counselor immediately and if that person advises that you meet with a doctor you must do so and cooperate to your utmost. Please visit these professionals along with your parents. In the meantime please do the following sincerely because you could resolve the problem better with good cooperation: Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. I suggest you do the opposite of what this depression makes you feel like doing (actually, not doing): you will need to fight this condition. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least, 30 minutes but not in the scorching heat. Whatever happens, please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate your sufferings. Don’t wait for others to help. Use your own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but persevere and win this battle. Above all to be really happy, you need to live in love and for love. Learn all about emotions and how to handle them and that will get you out of the depression rather easily and quickly. A counselor is there only to facilitate you, all the hard word must come from you, and your cooperation with that person is very critical for your success. Be positive every day and learn to be contented with what you have. Do some left brain exercises: it is the happy brain. Here are a few suggestions: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. Whatever happens please cooperate with the therapy and do not discontinue until the condition is completely resolved.
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My 17yrs daughter is feeling like lots of questens are continuesly coming in her mind and she not able to led normal life what should I do?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear , that condition is normal. Your daughter is adolescent. During this period, they need to find answers to so many questions about their present and past, gender, society, responsibility etc. You may consult a psychologist or ask a private question to me with more details. Take care.
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Hi My wife is 37 years old, she has some mental disorder since 1 years. She is not basically identify herself some time and some time she will be completely ok. What kind of symptoms is. Please advise what is the treatment.

Hypnotherapist, DCS, BSIC, Advanced Trainee of Transactional Analysis, Advanced Skills in Counselling
Psychologist,
This information is not enough for a diagnosis or treatment. You can take her to a psychiatrist and counsellor in your city for a complete checkup.
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Ma maxilofacial surgery is scheduled for next mnth. But am worried about the surgery coz of ma smoking habit. I smoke marijuana daily. I dnt wanna disclose this to my surgeon.. Do smoking marijuana got any problem with surgery. If yes, pls tell me when or how many days before surgery do I need to quit marijuana use? Pls answer.

MBBS, MD Psychiatry, DNB Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Nagpur
Smoking causes problems with anesthesia and can cause oxygen saturation problems. It would be better if you abstain from smoking completely for atleasit 2 weeks. Anyways you would have to go through a preanesthetic checkup which includes a chest xray also. If you have any respiratory complaints discuss that with your surgeon in advance.
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I am not able to focus any thing or in my studies for last seven day. Please help me to stay out of this problem.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear Gaurav, Welcome to lybrate. You must be able to understand Concentration, attention span, recollection and distraction. If you are able to watch a movie for two hours continuously, if you are able to play a game for an hour, then you do not have any concentration problems. You can't be attentive towards your studies because you are not interested in it. You are able to watch movie and play game because you are interested in it. Human cannot be attentive towards anything for more than 10 minutes. If the task is boring, it is natural that that person will sleep or feel sleepy. Then you should study in such a way that your attention is continued and make the subjects are interesting to you. Effective learning techniques should help you. Recollection depends on anxiety, stress and other physical and circumstantial factors. Distractions while studying are plentiful. You should be able to overcome distractions or avoid distractions. Please understand the above. Change your study style and attitude accordingly. Please search internet for "effective learning" techniques or you may consult a psychologist. Take care.
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I lost somebody as my close my else. He is depressed to very high .please help us?

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Mumbai
I lost somebody as my close my else. He is depressed to very high .please help us?
It is natural to feel low and miss the person you have lost. However if it is interfering with your sleep, studies or general well being, or if you feel suicidal, you need to consult a psychiatrist. It is common to feel low, cry, feel like you are alone, or lose your self confidence. Usually time is the best healer. However if things are too difficult to handle you should talk to a psychiatrist or counselor. Confide in someone close to you, who will support you in this difficult time. Don't cut off from friends or family, even if you feel like you want to be alone.
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Hello sir I'm 20 years old male studying degree. Sir I am little straight forward. I couldn't take fakeness from other people. Because it's my dad he is so fake love towards us. Unfortunately all my friends whom I'm supposed to be for 1 more year are like backstabbing kind no pure friendship. Not only me they themselves also. Fake for future use. When time comes they will show their true color, it really trouble me. please help me. And suggest me how to deal such relationships instead of reacting and depressing. please give me suggestions. please don't tell to consult doctor ,give me some suggestions if possible tnq.

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Psychologist, Pune
Hello Lybrate friend, lybrate-user being straight forward is a very nice quality. But you cannot expect everyone to be the same. Acceptance and expectance are two very different things. Expectations are only in your head and more than often you will be disappointed because of your expectations. On the other hand acceptance can make your life pretty simple. Since everyone is different and we have no control over how the other person behaves all we can do is keep a check on ourselves. And being straightforward does not necessarily mean that every time you will have to offend someone else by speaking it out. We need to maintain a necessary peace in the society and always saying it out does not help. So just stay the way you are but only modify your straightforward behavior a little so that you don't end up offending anyone. That's all. Because you are too young to conclude so much about the life. Just keep calm and continue living. Surround yourself with more positive thoughts and keep working onthem and live a happy and fruitful life. Wish you all the best.
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