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Dr. Sheena

Psychologist, Mumbai

Dr. Sheena Psychologist, Mumbai
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I was a very bright student till high school and now I'm in college. I can't score like I used to and I feel very depressed because of my failures. I can't make myself and others happy and don't fit anywhere. I feel weird about myself.

M.S. Counselling and Psychotherapy
Psychologist, Bangalore
I was a very bright student till high school and now I'm in college. I can't score like I used to and I feel very dep...
College life is different. You might need some more time to adjust to the new enviornment and new subjects, new teachers etc. It is also important to see if you have chosen the subject/stream of your choice. If you do not find the subjects interesting it will be difficult for you to score good marks. Don't compare yourself with anyone else. Do not fall under parental or peer pressure. Set your own, realistic goals and try to achieve them. Also understand that failures are part of our lives. Your failures do not make you worthless. Do not worry about what others think about you. Have faith in your abilities and keep trying consistently. All the best.
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I am man. I am in love with a one girl but. Girls is not share time in me. So I am mentally disorder any time. And missing in any work and others and night 2-3 am not sleeping.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I am man. I am in love with a one girl but. Girls is not share time in me. So I am mentally disorder any time. And mi...
If that girl is not spending time with you then she may not be interested in you. If she has a problem with her family or any such thing then she can at least tell you about it. These are important signs to indicate her commitment and if she loves you or not. At least you must have the courage to ask her and find out why she is not willing to spend time with you! In fact love is spelt with these letters, TIME. If someone is willing to spend time with you it indicates how much they are committed to you and therefore how much they love you. So do not waste time on this girl and don?t get disturbed since she is not as interested as you are. Go and love someone else who deserves your love. Now you may not like what I am saying but this is the truth and you are only disturbing your health by not sleeping too. This relationship must bring the best out of you, if not it is not good for you, period. Loe is a two way relationship.
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I want to make my fitness better. I am job doing person and have stress regarding my work, so I want to b fit and want to have sharpness mind. Any suggestions.

MBBS
General Physician, Mumbai
I want to make my fitness better. I am job doing person and have stress regarding my work, so I want to b fit and wan...
Nice question , simply make fruits and vegetables your daily habits , and drink cow's milk in night every day before sleeping, milk enhance clarity of mind
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Sir I am suffering from some anxiety and depression since last one and half year. I consulted a psychologist she preferred me tricyclic antidepressant, imipramine, but that has so many side effects. Now I am taking fluoxetine, prozac, at my own, and somewhat I feel good but that is making me excessive yawning. Is that normal, should I keep taking it or I should stop it.

DNB (PSYCHIATRY), DPM, MBBS,
Psychiatrist, Gurgaon
Sir I am suffering from some anxiety and depression since last one and half year.
I consulted a psychologist she pref...
I would strongly advise against taking psychotropic drugs without prescription. There are minimum and maximum therapeutic doses and only a clinician can guide you so you don't suffer any serious side effects. Please see a psychiatrist.
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Actually my problem is I can't walk most times doctors are saying its because stress. Please advice

Psychologist, Calicut
Actually my problem is I can't walk most times doctors are saying its because stress. Please advice
Feeling weak in the knees or experiencing “jelly” or “rubber” legs is a common stress response reaction. Most people in fearful or stressful situations experience weak legs. The degree of weakness often is directly proportional to the degree of fear or stress. Also, since stress hormones are stimulants, a body that is persistently stress response overstimulated can become tired and feel weak. This weakness often is experienced in the limbs, such as the arms and legs. Fortunately, stress-caused weak legs is not caused by a serious disease, and is therefore, not a cause for concern. Once your stress and anxiousness have been addressed, this symptom diminishes and eventually disappears.
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I am Saurabh Joshi, 26 year age male. I do a lot of things for my loved ones and I love to do things for others. I want nothing for my self. But problem is that I think too much when they do not give importance for what I have done for them. Instead they started ignoring me. I go too depression and become very anxious and always think that what I have done wrong, why such think always happens to me, in short I feel like a victim. But still I do not stop doing good things to them. So tell me the solution that how can I overcome from my problem of over thinking. Thanks.

MBBS, MD Psychiatry, DNB Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Nagpur
I am Saurabh Joshi, 26 year age male. I do a lot of things for my loved ones and I love to do things for others. I wa...
Dear lybrate-user, your problem does not seem to be" overthinking" or" doing good things for others" on one end you say that you do not want anything for yourself, but on the other hand you expect appreciation of your good deeds. I think you need to start thinking rationally. Your" overexpectations" are irrational beliefs that need to be rationalised through counselling. Consult a ret therapist or a cbt therapist for counselling.
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I am 40 years old my question is my wife suffering from depression. Here problem is that she feel sleepy and yawn, yawning is also difficult,

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I am 40 years old my question is my wife suffering from depression. Here problem is that she feel sleepy and yawn, ya...
She is into a sadness-related depression. She must immediately meet with a counselor and seek professional help. It is not to her good to avoid people anyway and must be involved in social activities as much as possible. She may refuse but you must insist and make her involved. In the meantime let her do the following sincerely because at her age she could resolve the problem better with good cooperation: Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. I suggest she does the opposite of what this depression makes her feel like doing (actually, not doing): she will need to fight this condition. She must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose herself to some sunlight every day, at least 30 minutes but not in the scotching heat. Whatever happens, she needs to incorporate these three important adaptations in her life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If she did these three, lots of things will go well in life. Have her pray and have faith in God to alleviate her sufferings. She should not wait for others to help, eventually. She should use her own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but if she perseveres she will win this battle. Above all she should be really happy; she needs to live in love and for love: find someone to love and to love her back. If she loves herself adequately, she will never do harm to herself. Let her be positive always and learn to do everything possible to invest into herself. Life is extremely precious and because the depression, which is a mood disorder, makes her feel like giving up she must still persevere. Learn all about emotions and how to handle them and that will get her out of the depression rather easily and quickly. A counselor is there only to facilitate her, all the hard word must come from her, and her cooperation with that person is very critical for her success. She can do some left brain exercises: it is the happy brain. Here are a few suggestions: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. Whatever happens please cooperate with the therapy and do not discontinue until the condition is completely resolved.
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Doctor please help me, I'm really feeling very much depressed in my life I've lost my happiness. I even thought to suicide at times, I tried to buy sleeping pills. I was getting a feel like am I supposed to live. The girl I loved more left me suddenly and never said what was the reason behind but this happened year and half ago. I couldn't forget her nor anything she gave me. Please give solution doctor but it's really hard for me to move on.

MBBS, MD Psychiatry, DNB Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Nagpur
Doctor please help me, I'm really feeling very much depressed in my life I've lost my happiness. I even thought to su...
Your loss is understandable. But your mourning and sadness about your loss is taking too long for you to recover. Feeling sad, depressed and hopeless about life are signs of depression. Without any further delay I would suggest you to reach out and consult a psychiatrist with a family member with all your details so that an appropriate management can be started. Depression like any other illness is treatable and once you are out of it you will be fine. Follow few suggestions. Never stay alone always speak out if you have feelings of self harm or suicide and ask someone for help. Talk to friends and family and people who care about you.
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I forget the things and don't remember it, what should I do to improve my memory.

Master in Clinical Psychology, Ph. D. in Psychology
Psychologist, Lucknow
First of all you must start to give positive instructions to your mind that your memory is good or strong, and whenever you forget the things while doing something and that stuck your mind so rather than give up go step by step back to your mind what were you actually doing and what for I m here to do. And this practice will improve your memory power.
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Mam I am 19 years old girl and I am studying in b.com .i want to ask you that I am getting too much lazy and too much sleepy .per day around 15- 19 hours of a day I use to sleep .all these are very much effect to my study .plz give me a solution of this problem and give me effective deit plan so that I can concentrate on my study.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Mam I am 19 years old girl and I am studying in b.com .i want to ask you that I am getting too much lazy and too much...
It is possible that you are undergoing a spurt in the growth hormone and male sex hormone. The former will make you feel a lot of exhaustion and sleepiness. You are going through the final phase of adolescence and this sleepiness you talk about are expected. During this time there will be a spurt in the production of the male sex hormone, testosterone, which has a duration of two years. Due to this chemical alone there are three identified features that present itself over which you will have poor control: you will be sexually active, aggressive and rebellious, and you will have acne and pimple problems. Then if you have unresolved childhood issues, they will compound the situation and fuel uncontrolled behavior. Please remember that you may not be aware of all this. Exercise will channelize a lot of your energy and help you to deal with the situation better. Meditation will also help. Make sure you get good sleep, a minimum of 8 hours and do not exceed 9 hours. Talk to a counselor, if there are unresolved childhood issues. For concentration do some of these recommendations very faithfully: Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem-solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning, at least, five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position, you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. There is some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid sugar and junk food. You may also include these noted foods that are good for your brain health: Brain-Friendly Foods MIND stands for Mediterranean-DASH Intervention for Neurodegenerative Delay. But the MIND approach “specifically includes foods and nutrients that medical literature and data show to be good for the brain, such as berries,” says Martha Clare Morris, ScD, director of nutrition and nutritional epidemiology at Rush University Medical Center. You eat things from these 10 food groups: •Green leafy vegetables (like spinach and salad greens): At least six servings a week •Other vegetables: At least one a day •Nuts: Five servings a week •Berries: Two or more servings a week •Beans: At least three servings a week •Whole grains: Three or more servings a day •Fish: Once a week •Poultry (like chicken or turkey): Two times a week •Olive oil: Use it as your main cooking oil. •Wine: One glass a day You avoid: •Red meat: Less than four servings a week •Butter and margarine: Less than a tablespoon daily •Cheese: Less than one serving a week •Pastries and sweets: Less than five servings a week •Fried or fast food: Less than one serving a week.
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My girlfriend got married with other, so I am not able to forget our memories & feel hurt. Please help to overcome.

DNB in Psychiatry, completed course from Asha Hospital, Hyderbad
Psychiatrist, Salem
My girlfriend got married with other, so I am not able to forget our memories & feel hurt. Please help to overcome.
Tell me how one can do anything for you now. See man, be practical, she got married to someone. You too have to do it. If your routine is disturbed then you can consult psychiatrist for short term medication.
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I lost somebody last year and now I fell very lonely. I don't want to talk anyone. Pls help me wht I do.

DHMS (Hons.)
Homeopath, Patna
I lost somebody last year and now I fell very lonely. I don't want to talk anyone. Pls help me wht I do.
Hi, relax! take, homoeo medicine @ staph 30-6 pills, thrice, orally. @ ignatia30-6 pills, thrice" go for meditation to reduce your stress and to inculcate confidence from within. Take, care.
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My fiance is having a best friend and he proposed her in December 2014 she had recently separated from her boyfriend. Both my fiance and that girl are school friends. She initially said yes and said he would be perfect for her. But later in Feb 2015 she said she is not getting feelings for him and she was in love with someone else. He insisted that she should take time she behaved rudely with him but he waited and said take your time. This continued till December 2105 then he accepted her as friend he continues to be her best friend. She behaves very rudely sometimes with him and he even cries for her. But still he thinks she is her best friend and he will take care of her. Then in Feb 2016 family introduced me to him and we said yes to each other after 2-3 meeting he told me about his past and he said she is still her best friend because she is very nice girl. He was happy that he has me and her in his life two angels in his life. Later on I found that he gets upset if she says something to him and he cries and he fears that she may leave if he will something to her he always pleases her and gift her to make her remember him. He said to me she is important in my life. He loves me I can see that but he sometimes behave rudely with me but he never behaves in that way with her. I told him that she is important in her life more than me but he said he loves me more than her. I told him that you won't want to accept the truth. He loves me he cares for me whenever he behaves rudely he says sorry. But I don't know what is happening with him and it will be going to difficult after marriage and I accepted their relation because I know he wants both in her life but sometimes I feel it is going to change my nature after marriage. I told him to consult a psychiatrist. He said he needs no psychiatrist and said no one cares for his feelings.

psychologist
Psychologist, Delhi
Dear Lybrate user thanks for the query ,Its good that both of you love and understand each other, its obvious that your fiance have soft feeling for that girl and its more than normal friendship, you must talk to your fiance about this matter ,you should give him some space and time on the other hand you should also consider the bonding between them otherwise it can be problem for you in future. There should be balance in every relation ,if at any time again that girl will say yes to your fiance then? Just consider on all points before marriage .if you need my help you can contact me .take care.
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i am suffering from free floating anxiety. How many more years it will take to get rid of medicine? I am totally fed up with pills. Am under medicial supervision sine Dec 2012.

Hypnotherapist, DCS, BSIC, Advanced Trainee of Transactional Analysis, Advanced Skills in Counselling
Psychologist,
Besides the pills, you can go for counselling to get to the root cause of the problem and develop skills to feel confident and in control. Meditation yoga homeopathy and ayurveda are excellent alternative treatment options too which dont have side effects.
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After 2 months my exam are being near I am so stressed about it special for English language I again & again think about energy which are losses in masturbate and bad impact of hair falling how can be more concentrate my study My age are going for in government preparation Many times I followed geeta bible rules but sometimes I get nervous when I do not follow them I much think about what I did from morning to night at least 10 time think about it My memory are weak I try 2-3 hour study at a time but not getting good result forgetting them in 3 4 day please suggest me.

MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Chennai
u r making ur situation more confused by mixing normal habits like masturbations, with religious scriptures, which were written at times many centuries back. don't become obsessed with them, get into things at hand. study well, remove the masturbatory guilt and don't bother about hair fall, it s not in ur hands.
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Nothing good has happened in my life since a year I have terrible anxiety, Most of the time Too much negativity around me. So since a year I've been sitting completely alone in college and None of the girls want to talk to me Because the professors Try to like flirt with me. All the proffesors are really young. I give them hints to stop, bluntly confront them by saying sir, please don't make so much eye contact with me, the other people in the class feel bad but they never listen. The girls feel bad They keep on making eye contact with me. It looks really bad, know. I was even the CR Of the class So that added up to the problems. Class representative. I was give a lot of work. I got really frustrated with everything and I decided to leAve that post. My family knows about this and they too worry. The college professors are seeing me like for the 100th time not the first time then why do they have to act like that? 1st time they see me I can understand They will come next to my desk n teach n what not. It's annoying If I sit on the last bench also they will come and teach there. I've always respected teachers I can't live peacefully I don't give them any dirty hints. I'm suffering from a bad allergy too I have an allergy Of cold n dust I was earlier unaware of it So like previous October to cool myself I used to have a lot of cold water That's caused my allergy to become really severe So severe that I find it hard to breAthe So that also added to my anxiety I have usually had a good immunity However I had suffered once from vitamin D deficiency. That seemed to have made my immunity weakMy mother doesn't talk to me She went off to London [And after 2-3 months She completely stopped talking to me So since 4 months we have not spoken I told my family about all this My grandparents and my father stay with me My grandfather took it in a negative way He started misbehaving with me Doing a little drama. Acting weird Instead of helping n supporting me I broke down And I have around 4-5 close friends 2-3 of them ditched me in May They just completely stopped talking to me for no reason However that's not much of an issue now They suddenly started talking again also and I didn't push it further too And question them too much. I feel really anxious and low. How do I help myself?

MPhil Clinical Psychology, Masters in Psychology
Psychologist, Gurgaon
Nothing good has happened in my life since a year I have terrible anxiety, Most of the time
Too much negativity aroun...
After reading what you have asked, i would say that its not easy to tell you in few lines what to do to help yourself, I think the good idea would be to meet a counselor and discuss your concerns. There seem to be complicated things in your life and a counselor can help you learn skills to cope with these issues. It can take few sessions of intervention.
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I am 23 years old male. I am working in MNC in Bangalore. I don't have clear goal in my life. I also lack in decision making. How to figure out what is that I should pursue? How to improve decision making skill?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lybrate user. I can understand. Goals are always set according to a persons skills and desire. You should know your dormant skills. Once you know them you can pursue a career path based on those skills and you will be success. There is a psychometric test which measures your dormant abilities and skills. Contact me for that test. To have confidence and decision making skills, you need experience. Know your skills, set a goal, pursue career path, gain experience and knowledge. You are success. Take care.
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She gets angry very much on small issues and beats her children and me to outburst her emotions how to control her anger.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Frustrationlife is full of frustrations. From the minor irritations of losing something to the major problem of continued failure towards a desired goal. Since many of the things we truly want require a degree of frustration, being able to manage frustration is required in order to allow us to remain happy and positive even in trying circumstances. Understanding frustration frustration is an emotion that occurs in situations where a person is blocked from reaching a desired outcome. In general, whenever we reach one of our goals, we feel pleased and whenever we are prevented from reaching our goals, we may succumb to frustration and feel irritable, annoyed and angry. Typically, the more important the goal, the greater the frustration and resultant anger or loss of confidence. Frustration is not necessarily bad since it can be a useful indicator of the problems in a person's life and, as a result, it can act as a motivator to change. However, when it results in anger, irritability, stress resentment, depression or a spiral downward where we have a feeling of resignation or giving up, frustration can be destructive. What causes frustration? frustration is experienced whenever the results (goals) you are expecting do not seem to fit the effort and action you are applying. Frustration will occur whenever your actions are producing less and fewer results than you think they should. The frustration we experience can be seen as the result of two types of goal blockage, i. E. Internal and external sources of frustration. Internal sources of frustration usually involve the disappointment that get when we cannot have what we want as a result of personal real or imagined deficiencies such as a lack of confidence or fear of social situations. Another type of internal frustration results when a person has competing goals that interfere with one another. The second type of frustration results from external causes that involve conditions outside the person such as physical roadblocks we encounter in life including other people and things that get in the way of our goals. One of the biggest sources of frustration in today's world is the frustration caused by the perception of wasting time. When you're standing in line at a bank, or in traffic, or on the phone, watching your day go by when you have got so much to do, that's one big frustration. External frustration may be unavoidable. We can try to do something about it, like finding a different route if we are stuck in traffic, or choosing a different restaurant if our first choice is closed, but sometimes there is just nothing we can do about it. It is just the way life is. Our goal in dealing with external sources of frustration is to recognize the wisdom of the serenity prayer. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. One can learn that while the situation itself may be upsetting and frustrating, you do not have to be frustrated. Accepting life is one of the secrets of avoiding frustration. Responses to frustration some of the" typical" responses to frustration include anger, quitting (burn out or giving up), loss of self-esteem and self-confidence, stress and depression. Anger management: 10 tips to tame your temper anger: there is a saying" frustration begets anger and anger begets aggression. Direct anger, is expressed toward the object perceived as the cause of the frustration. If a machine does not work, you might hit it or kick it. If someone gets in your way, you could verbally threaten them or push them aside. If the source of the frustration is too powerful or threatening for direct aggression, displaced aggression is often used. The aggression is redirected toward a less threatening and more available object. An angry person often acts without thinking. The person has given in to the frustration and they have given up restraint. Anger can be a healthy response if it motivates us to positive action but all too often the actions we engage in when angry are destructive. Indeed, if we could see a videotape of ourselves getting angry, the humiliation might well help cure us of anger. When you feel frustration building, you have to practice learned responses that lead to healthy actions instead of destructive ones. Giving up: giving up on a goal can be productive if the goal is truly out of reach. However, more often giving up (quitting or being apathetic) is another form of giving in to frustration. When repeatedly frustrated, people can drop out of school, quit jobs, or move away. Apathy is giving up all of your goals, so you cannot be frustrated by trying to reach them. We live in difficult time and we have to be persistent in order to accomplish. Consider how many projects you began, and then gave up, because you became frustrated and lost patience. Make a list of things you started and quit because they seemed too difficult. Now calculate the disappointment and loss you suffered by not dealing with the frustration in a more healthy way. Try to remember that quitters never win, and winners never quit. Losing your temper means you're a quitter. Loss of confidence: is a terrible frequent side effect of giving up and not fulfilling your goal. A loss of self-confidence and self-esteem, means that if we quit once, then the next time we plan a goal, we may not be able to accurately assess our ability to carry it out and we stop trusting ourselves and our own abilities. This became a self-fulfilling and self-destructive attitude. You need to be able to learn that when the going gets tough, you say to yourself" it is worth it! and by following through, it not only gets the job done, but it builds self-confidence. Stress: is the" wear and tear" our body and mind experiences as we adjust to the frustrations our continually changing environment. Too frequently, extreme, or prolonged frustration and stress strains us and generates distress signals. Our body experiences distress signals in a variety of ways, often in the form of: irritability, anger, fatigue anxiety, headache, depression, stomach aches, hypertension, migraines, ulcers, heart attacks, or colitis. Depression: depression can affect almost every aspect of your life. It affects people of all ages, income, race, and cultures. Depression can affect the way you eat and sleep the way you feel about yourself, the way one think about things, and the way you interact with others. While we all feel depression at various appropriate times in our lives, excess or inappropriate depression cannot be easily dismissed or wished away. Other reactions: abuse of drugs & alcohol is self-destructive and usually futile attempt at dealing with frustration, as are many eating and weight problems and addictions whenever the immediate effects of the addictive behaviour wear off, users find themselves back in the same, or even worse, frustrating situation. Anger is among the gamut of emotions we exhibit as a reaction to a situation, and it is a'normal' emotion too as long as it is kept under control. Some people have the propensity to explode when pushed to the extreme. They keep swallowing their emotions until they can finally do it no more, and erupt like a volcano. Others dealing with extreme anger are like a ticking time bomb. You'll never know what you unwittingly say or do can trigger an explosion. In either case, anger that cannot be controlled comes with a physical reaction. Your heart beats faster preparing you for both action and reaction. Your breathing quickens. You may clench your fist, tighten your shoulders and go into a defensive position. The problem arises out of the fact that it is almost impossible to feel anger and empathy at the same time. An angry person is seldom sensitive to the wellbeing of his victim, and hence may lash out verbally and sometimes physically. Such things done in the heat of the moment mostly leaves us with regrets. So here are a few ways to deal with extreme anger. 1. Approve it / acknowledge it: the first step in solving a problem is recognizing that you have one. The fundamental problem here is that people believe they are on the right track and refuse to budge from their views. It is essential to realize that this step is not about deciding whether you are right or wrong, but acknowledging the fact that your reaction to the situation can be channelled in a better way. When getting someone to acknowledge their anger problem, be careful as to not use negative words like wrong, false and shouldn't. Instead, influence with positive words like can and should. Instead of saying'you are wrong to react like this' you can say'i understand what you are feeling. Is there a way we can resolve this situation? 2. Understand / recognize the signs: once you know that your problems exist, you can try devising ways that will work for you in dealing with the situation. You can count to 100 to calm yourself or simply decide to not speak until you can calm yourself. Knowing that you may enter into an argument in a situation, you can list down the points that you feel strongly about and discuss each of them one by one. Working your way through a finite list gives a better opportunity to reach closure at the end. 3. Free the mind/find ways to let it go: not all arguments end in closure. A lot of unsaid justifications cloud our mind repeatedly leaving us seething from the inside. Research has shown that the normal or neurological anger response lasts less than two seconds. Beyond that it takes a strong will to stay angry. Once you realize how much your anger is consuming your mind, decide to free your mind with meditation and other calming exercises. Tell yourself that some people and issues simply don't deserve your anger, emotion, reaction or time. If you or someone you know is suffering from anger management issues, consult a doctor today.
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