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Dr. Pavan Shonar

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Dr. Pavan Shonar is one of the best Psychiatrists in Kandivali East, Mumbai. He is currently practising at Dr. Pavan Shonar@DNA Multispeciality Hospital in Kandivali East, Mumbai. Book an appointment online with Dr. Pavan Shonar and consult privately on

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Drinking is bad for health but after drinks alcohol and after 1 hours can we have milk aur curd it's good for health.

PGDD, RD, Bachelor of Home Science
Dietitian/Nutritionist, Mumbai
Drinking is bad for health but after drinks alcohol and after 1 hours can we have milk aur curd it's good for health.
Hye. Thank you for the query. Ideally after having alcohol you need to take a good meal of complex carbohydrates fiber proteins etc. Staying empty stomach or just having curd or milk is not the right choice. You cannot negate the bad effects of alcohol by trying to take a supposedly healthy food.
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Hi I m 28 years old . And I m chain smoker from last 10 year. initially I smoke only for passion but when this passion is changed into addiction I don't now. I know every thing about its effect and I m suffering from some of its. Like lose eye sight less sexual power etc. But even though I can't stop it. But I want to stop it right now. So please help me give me some way so that I can do it. Is that any alternative of citrate who can make me away from this one.

Ph. D - Psychology
You can control your smoking with your dedication and strong will power. Nicotine withdrawals just take 72 hours to go. If you can stay away from nicotine for 72 hours one hour at a time you can not only control your smoking but can be able to stop it forever and can lead a very happy and meaningful life. Just don't smoke and stay healthy.
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I am an employed man of 38 years with a little family connectivity due to distance of my working place from my abode. For last fifteen years ,Sometimes I suffer from backache, loss of appetite, energy loss. Is it the symptoms of depression? What is the remedy?

MD - Ayurveda, Bachelor of Ayurvedic Medicine
Ayurveda, Ernakulam
I am an employed man of 38 years with a little family connectivity due to distance of my working place from my abode....
I understand you are having some sort of multiple symptoms and not related to any specific disease. Do a blood test and find any inflammation anywhere in the body loss of appetite and energy loss might be due to sometimes mild depression for which you may try yoga nad meditation asasp.
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I am a student .But a bad idea every day get in mind. So i am not reading any book. What to do as my exam is about to happen.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear, You must be able to understand Concentration, attention span, recollection and distraction. If you are able to watch a movie for two hours continuously, if you are able to play a game for an hour, then you do not have any concentration problems. You can't be attentive towards your studies because you are not interested in it. You are able to watch movie and play game because you are interested in it. Human cannot be attentive towards anything for more than 10 minutes. Then you should study in such a way that your attention is continued and make the subjects are interesting to you. Effective learning techniques should help you. Recollection depends on anxiety, stress and other physical and circumstantial factors. Distractions while studying are plentiful. You should be able to overcome distractions or avoid distractions. Please understand the above. Change your study style and attitude accordingly. Please post a private question to me and I will help you with "effective learning" techniques. Avocados, Beetroots, Blueberries, Broccoli. Celery, Coconut Oil, Dark Chocolate etc are good for improving concentration. Take care.
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What Suicidal Depression Feels Like!

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
What Suicidal Depression Feels Like!

Depression is an illness which has a direct impact on the brain. People feel that it’s just feeling down but it is more than that. It is a serious illness caused by changes in brain chemistry. There are other factors also that contribute to the onset of depression, including

  1. Genetics,

  2. Changes in hormone levels,

  3. Stress,

  4. Difficult life circumstances.

Any of the above mentioned factors or combination can precipitate changes in brain chemistry and may lead to depression. Depression is a serious and a very common condition these days which may lead to suicide in extreme cases.

Signs of Depression:

  1. Loss of pleasure in virtually all activities,

  2. Feeling of fatigue or lack of energy,

  3. Difficulty with concentration or memory,

  4. An increase or decrease in appetite, with a corresponding change in weight.

  5. Thoughts of suicide Depression & Suicide.

A major cause of suicide is mental illness, very commonly depression. People feeling suicidal are overwhelmed by painful emotions and see death as the only way out, losing sight of the fact that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary state. Most people who succeed with living feel glad that they resist and are alive today. Suicidal thoughts may be fleeting or more frequent, passive or active. People who are in depress state often start preparing for death, such as giving away possessions or acquiring a gun and these are cause of great concern and should be taken very seriously.

How to judge if suicide is a possibility?

There may be some warning signs, though hard to predict but can be an area of concern:

  1. Being depressed or signs of some mental disorders.

  2. Talking about the loss of interest in living or not to be around.

  3. Increased social isolation.

  4. Mood swings very often.

  5. Buying suicide materials.

  6. Preoccupation with death.

While anyone can become suicidal, there are certain risk factors that make suicide more likely:

  1. Previous suicide attempts.

  2. Recent losses like loss of a relationship or job.

  3. Cultural and religious beliefs supporting suicide.

  4. Access to means of suicide.

How to help a depressed person?

  • Let the person know if you've noticed a change in their behaviour.

  • Spend time talking with the person about their experiences and let them know that you're there to listen without being judgmental.

  • Suggest the person see a doctor or health professional and/or help them to make an appointment.

  • Offer to go with the person to the doctor or health professional.

  • Help the person to find information about depression and anxiety from a website or library.

  • Encourage the person to try to get enough sleep, exercise and eat healthy food.

  • Discourage the person from using alcohol or other drugs to feel better.

  • Encourage friends and family members to invite the person out and keep in touch, but don't pressure the person to participate in activities.

  • Encourage the person to face their fears with support from their doctor/psychologist.

Remember that your loved one's depression isn't anyone's fault. You can't fix the person's depression — but your support and understanding can help.

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Panic Disorder - Best Ways To Control It!

M.Sc - Applied Psychology, Advanced diploma in counselling psychology
Psychologist, Mumbai
Panic Disorder - Best Ways To Control It!

The best way to overcome panic attacks is to educate yourself and train your mind to respond to the panic in acceptable and calming ways. In order to get over panic attacks, you will require responses that are different from what you normally do. If you keep trying the same means, you cannot expect different results. If you are willing to be relieved from anxiety, you shall have to try different methods.

You may try the following steps to help yourself cope with panic attacks:

  1. Acknowledge and accept: This is the first step to progress. You should face the reality instead of ignoring it or pretending that everything is alright. You must acknowledge that you are afraid even when there is no danger. In order to overcome panic attacks, you should learn to work with it instead of working against it.
  2. Wait and watch: By ‘wait’ it means that you should try to be in that position for some time. It’s true that you may feel insane with your fears and panics, but you should slowly count to 10 when you feel you are going crazy. Your fears would try to snatch away your ability to think or rationalize, and by waiting and watching what happens next, you could get a little span of time for regaining those innate abilities.
  3. Do something: Once you have already passed through the two initial steps of managing panic disorder, your next task is meant to comfort yourself. You could do this with some breathing exercises, by talking to yourself and by getting involved with what’s happening around you at the present. It will slowly make you feel comfortable by relaxing those parts of the body that get much tensed.
  4. Repeat if required: Now you have already started to feel better, but another wave of panic may attack you all of a sudden. You may feel that your coping strategies didn’t work. At such a point, you could simply follow all the steps from the top to feel better all over again and there’s nothing wrong in going through several cycles.
  5. End it: In this final step, you should remind yourself that your panic disorder would end and that all panic disorders end. Your only job is to make yourself feel better and cope with the challenges that you feel during the attack. Gradually, you will feel that those undesired feelings are going away, making you feel relieved.

In case you have a concern or query you can always consult an expert & get answers to your questions!

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Causes And Symptoms Of Androphobia!

MBBS, M.D Psychiatry , Diploma in Psychological Medicine
Sexologist, Navi Mumbai
Causes And Symptoms Of Androphobia!

Androphobia can be described as the unfounded and often overstressed fear of men. This phobia can affect both the genders, though younger females are more known to suffer from this kind of phobia.

Causes and origin:
Many psychoanalysts are of the opinion that women who had been victims of sexual assault or any kind of male aggression are more prone to androphobia. An unsympathetic and rude father figure can trigger this phobia in both the sexes. Many young girls are taught by their parents or caregiver to stay away from the opposite sex this can also instil a sense of fear for men in the young mind.

Intense and irrational fear of men is one of the commonest manifestations of this phobia. In many cases, the individual might experience disturbing thoughts about being assailed by men. In spite of realizing that the fear is unfounded, they still avoid any kind of association with men. In some cases, the person is extremely panicky and alert in presence of men. Extreme cases of androphobia are characterized by panic accompanied with tremors, increased heartbeat, dizziness, nauseastomach ache and chest ache.

Androphobia and sex life:
Androphobia can gravely affect the personal life of an individual particularly his/her sex life. Androphobic women intentionally keep away from male company which definitely has a negative impact on their sex life. Even mildly androphobic women are known to feel uncomfortable while talking to men. The androphobics are generally depressed individuals who prefer to keep to themselves. In spite of having feelings for a man or having the urge to have sex, an androphobic woman will hardly be able to convey her feeling because of her intense fear of manliness. The loneliness and alienation which is associated with this kind of phobia often prompts a woman to contemplate suicide.

As with most other phobias, androphobia is also a curable condition. Your psychiatrist can suggest various medications and psychotherapies to cure your condition. The exposure therapy in which the phobic is slowly exposed to the much feared subject is known to work well in many cases. The CBT or Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is another treatment for androphobia where counselling sessions are conducted so that the phobic can express and share her nature of phobia. During the sessions, the counsellor suggests ways of dealing with the phobia and keeping it under control. The objective of the Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is to recognize the pessimistic images related to men and turn them into positive ones. When none of these therapies work, the psychiatrist usually suggests anti-anxiety and anti depressant medications which improve the temperament of the androphobic. If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult a sexologist.

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Why cherophobia is happened to a person? What is its origin? How it can be cured?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Why cherophobia is happened to a person? What is its origin? How it can be cured?
Dear user. Cherophobia is the fear of gaiety, happiness, joyfulness or rejoicing. The origin of the word chero is Greek (meaning to rejoice; gaiety or happiness) and phobia is Greek (meaning fear). Could be affected due to history of extreme traumatic events - sudden death of family/friend, sudden loss of financial support, sexual abuse - rape. Medicines can't cure phobias completely instead they temporary suppress the systems. However treatments are available for phobias, such as counseling, hypnotherapy, psychotherapy, and Neuro-Linguistic programming. Take care.
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Everyday When I started for my study that time I feel heavy, like painful headache. Few month later my final exam (B. A). Please give me some home remedy without meditation. Because I try this from 1week, but it's not work for me! And I have also memory loss problem. please help me what should I do sir?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Everyday When I started for my study that time I feel heavy, like painful headache. Few month later my final exam (B....
Dear lybrate-user. The head ache could be due to stress. You need to consult a doctor first to analyze your head ache. At your age memory problems like amnesia and dementia are not common. Still if you say you have some problems, we can conduct memory eveluation tests. Please consult a psychologist online or in person for advise, counseling and required therapies. Take care.
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I am 18 years old. My brain was very lazy in summer. What is the solution of this laziness.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lybrate-user. Summer heat always draws more water from your body. This water loss and general tiredness is the reason for your laziness. Drinking a lot of water, fruit juices etc will help. Take care.
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How do We Identify Mental Illness?

Ph.D - Ph.D in Psychology, Ph. D - Education
Psychologist, Kakinada
How do We Identify Mental Illness?

We all wonder if the way we think, feel and behave are normal? For this we need to be aware of some typical signs and symptoms that show itself in emotions, thoughts and behaviours.

Let us go through this checklist to evaluate how you feel:

  1. Do you constantly feel sad or down?
  2. Do you have confused thinking or reduced ability to concentrate?
  3. Do you have excessive fears or worries, or extreme feelings of guilt?
  4. Do you feel extreme mood changes of highs and lows?
  5. Do you feel that you need to withdrawal from friends and activities?
  6. Do you feel significant tiredness, low energy or problems sleeping?
  7. Do you feel a sense of detachment from reality (delusions), paranoia (suspiciousness) or hallucinations (interactions with the unseen)?
  8. Do you feel the inability to cope with daily problems or stress?
  9. Do you have trouble understanding and relating to situations and to people?
  10. Do you have problems related with alcohol or drug abuse?
  11. Do you think you have major changes in eating habits?
  12.  Do you feel you have sex drive changes?
  13. Do you constantly feel excessive anger, hostility or violence?
  14. Do you have suicidal thinking?

The above thoughts, feelings and behaviours can be a sign of illness when the frequency and intensity increase to such a point that it affects our daily life.

Sometimes symptoms of a mental health disorder appear as physical problems, such as stomach pain, back pain, headache, or other unexplained aches and pains.

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Delayed Speech And Language

D.H.L.S, B.A.S.L.P, M.A, B.Ed .SE . ( H.I )
Speech Therapist, Delhi
Delayed Speech And Language

As with other skills and milestones, the age at which kids learn language and start talking can very. Many babies happily babble" mama" and" dada" well before their first birthday, and most toddlers can say about 20 words by the time they're 18 months old. But what if a 2-year-old isn't really talking yet or only puts two words together? 

Knowing what's" normal" and what's not in speech and language development can help parents figure out if there's cause for concern or if their child is right on schedule.

How are speech and language different?

Speech is the verbal expression of language and includes articulation (the way sounds and words are formed).

Language is the entire system of giving and getting information in a meaningful way. It's understanding and being understood through communication — verbal, nonverbal, and written.

What are speech or language delays?

Speech and language problems differ, but often overlap. For example:

A child with a language delay might pronounce words well but only be able to put two words together.

A child with a speech delay might use words and phrases to express ideas but be difficult to understand.

When do kids develop speech and language skills?

The stages of speech and language development are the same for all kids, but the age at which kids develop them can vary a lot.

During routine speech therapist/ doctors look to see if kids have reached developmental milestones at these ages:

Before 12 months

By the first birthday, babies should be using their voices to relate to their environment. Cooing and babbling are early stages of speech development. At around 9 months, babies begin to string sounds together, use different tones of speech, and say words like" mama" and" dada" (without really understanding what those words mean).

Before 12 months of age, babies also should be paying attention to sound and starting to recognize names of common objects (bottle, binky, etc.). Babies who watch intently but don't react to sound could be showing signs of hearing loss

By 12 to 15 months

Kids this age should have a wide range of speech sounds in their babbling (like p, b, m, d, or n), begin to imitate sounds and words they hear, and often say one or more words (not including" mama" and" dada"). Nouns usually come first, like" baby" and" ball" they also should be able to understand and follow simple one-step directions (" please give me the toy" etc.).

From 18 to 24 months

Most (but not all) toddlers can say about 20 words by 18 months and 50 or more words by the time they turn 2. By age 2, kids are starting to combine two words to make simple sentences, such as" baby crying" or" daddy big" a 2-year-old should be able to identify common objects (in person and in pictures); point to eyes, ears, or nose when asked; and follow two-step commands (" please pick up the toy and give it to me" for example).

From 2 to 3 years

Parents often see huge gains in their child's speech. A toddler's vocabulary should increase (to too many words to count) and he or she should routinely combine three or more words into sentences.

Comprehension also should increase — by age 3, a child should begin to understand what it means to" put it on the table" or" put it under the bed" kids also should begin to identify colors and understand descriptive concepts (big versus little, for example).

What are the signs of a speech or language delay?

A baby who doesn't respond to sound or who isn't vocalizing should be seen by a doctor right away. But often, it's hard for parents to know if their child is just taking a little longer to reach a speech or language milestone, or if there's a problem that needs medical attention.

Here are some things to watch for. Call your doctor if your child:

By 12 months: isn't using gestures, such as pointing or waving bye-bye

By 18 months: prefers gestures over vocalizations to communicate

By 18 months: has trouble imitating sounds

Has trouble understanding simple verbal requests

By 2 years: can only imitate speech or actions and doesn't produce words or phrases spontaneously

By 2 years: says only certain sounds or words repeatedly and can't use oral language to communicate more than his or her immediate needs

By 2 years: can't follow simple directions

By 2 years: has an unusual tone of voice (such as raspy or nasal sounding)

Is more difficult to understand than expected for his or her age:

Parents and regular caregivers should understand about half of a child's speech at 2 years and about three quarters at 3 years.

By 4 years old, a child should be mostly understood, even by people who don't know the child.

What causes speech or language delays?

A speech delay in an otherwise normally developing child might be due to an oral impairment, like problems with the tongue or palate (the roof of the mouth). And a short frenulum (the fold beneath the tongue) can limit tongue movement for speech production.

Many kids with speech delays have oral-motor problems. These happen when there's a problem in the areas of the brain responsible for speech, making it hard to coordinate the lips, tongue, and jaw to produce speech sounds. These kids also might have other oral-motor problems, such as feeding difficulties.

Hearing problems are also commonly related to delayed speech. That's why an audiologistshould test a child's hearing whenever there's a speech concern. Kids who have trouble hearing may have trouble articulating as well as understanding, imitating, and using language.
Ear infection especially, chronic infection, can affect hearing. Simple ear infections that have been treated, though, should not affect speech. And, as long as there is normal hearing in at least one ear, speech and language will develop normally.

How are speech or language delays diagnosed?

If you or your doctor think that your child might have a problem, it's important to get an early evaluation by a speech_ language therapistyou can find a speech-language pathologist on your own, or ask your health care provider to refer you to one.

The speech-language pathologist will evaluate your child's speech and language skills within the context of total development. The pathologist will do standardized tests and look for milestones in speech and language development.

The speech-language pathologist will also assess:

What your child understands (called receptive language)

What your child can say (called expressive language)

If your child is attempting to communicate in other ways, such as pointing, head shaking, gesturing, etc.

Sound development and clarity of speech

Your child's oral-motor status (how the mouth, tongue, palate, etc, work together for speech as well as eating and swallowing)

Based on the test results, the speech-language pathologist might recommend speech therapy for your child.

How does speech therapy help?

The speech therapist will work with your child to improve speech and language skills, and show you what to do at home to help your child.

What can parents do?

Parental involvement is an important part of helping kids who have a speech or language problem.

Here are a few ways to encourage speech development at home:

Spend a lot of time communicating with your child. Even during infancy — talk, sing, and encourage imitation of sounds and gestures.

Read to your child. Start reading when your child is a baby. Look for age-appropriate soft or board books or picture books that encourage kids to look while you name the pictures. Try starting with a classic book (such as pat the bunny, in which your child imitates the patting motion) or books with textures that kids can touch. Later, let your child point to recognizable pictures and try to name them. Then move on to nursery rhymes, which have rhythmic appeal. Progress to predictable books (such as brown bear, brown bear, what do you see?) that let kids anticipate what happens. Your little one may even start to memorize favorite stories.

Use everyday situations. To reinforce your child's speech and language, talk your way through the day. For example, name foods at the grocery store, explain what you're doing as you cook a meal or clean a room, point out objects around the house, and as you drive, point out sounds you hear. Ask questions and acknowledge your child's responses (even when they're hard to understand). Keep things simple, but avoid" baby talk"

Recognizing and treating speech and language delays early on is the best approach. With proper therapy and time, your child will be better able to communicate with you and the rest of the world.

Unwanted thoughts in mind porn thoughts for family members very upset it is from 13 years.

Psychiatrist, Mumbai
Unwanted thoughts in mind porn thoughts for family members very upset it is from 13 years.
All of us get random, unwanted and unpleasant thoughts. These thoughts come mostly from our sub-conscious mind. It's a part of our brain that is beyond our awareness and control. It is completely normal and natural to get'inappropriate' thoughts also. A thought becomes'important' when you give it an emotional value. So when you call a thought'bad'dirty'good' etc, your brain puts it in the'important thought category' if you do not label a thought and call it'just a thought' it just goes away. So first of all try to reduce the emotional or moral value of the thoughts that bother you. Your actions determine your character, not your thoughts. That said, if it is a repetitive and highly distressing thought then you must visit a psychiatrist, as it could be a symptom of obsessive compulsive disorder or ocd. There are good medical and counseling therapies for ocd.
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I am 25 yrs male. I feel loneliness most of time. I am doing job away from my home since 6 years. And think that life is bore and do not have interest in life. I have money, my family and everything. Life is burden for me. Suggest me how to overcome with this mentality and enjoy my rest life.

Homeopath, Faridabad
I am 25 yrs male.
I feel loneliness most of time. I am doing job away from my home since 6 years. And think that life...
Hello, Sometimes, it does happens with us, we go through phase when we feel lonely and isolated! Try to divert your mind by getting indulged into daily brisk walk (go to a park), light exercises specially yoga (under supervision) which decreases the release of stress hormones and increases happy hormones, take healthy food and totally avoid unhealthy/ junk food, get socializing, try to take out time for your own hobbies or play you like the most. Medication: Take Schwabe's Bacopa Monierri 1x/ thrice daily and Alfaalfa Tonic/ twice daily, both for 2 weeks. Give your feedback after 2 weeks.
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I m suffering for fever, cough, body pain from 3 days. Its look like seasonal. Can you please suggest me some medicine.

Homeopath, Faridabad
I m suffering for fever, cough, body pain from 3 days. Its look like seasonal. Can you please suggest me some medicine.
Hello, Take Schwabe’s Alpha-CF and Biocombination-11, both after every 2 hourly for 4 days. Management: - Avoid cold drinks and fried food, take healthy food. -Avoid exposure to Air-conditioner or cold air (wrap a warm stole or muffler around neck). -Avoid excessive or rough use of your voice/ shouting. -Gargle with warm water and salt 3 times a day. -Take enough sleep and rest.
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Hi doctor, how are you. I am middle class, male, 36, from india living in a metro city. I lost my father a long time ago and my mother 3 years ago. By profession, I am an un-successful software engineer. My marriage broke few years ago (it was a 3 months marriage, no children) and my wife harassed me a lot due to one sided laws in india. I have a fight with both my sisters. At present, I am living alone (with my dog). In the past few years, I have taken a lot of emotional stress due to which my health deteriorated a lot. Now, my problem is that when ever I get angry, there is a lot of pain in my kidneys. I think there is a huge problem in the lower abdominal part of my body but its not showing anything serious when I conducted the normal whole-body test. What do you suggest about my problem? Should I go for some advanced tests?

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Hi doctor,
how are you.
I am middle class, male, 36, from india living in a metro city. I lost my father a long time ...
It clearly indicates that when there is no identifiable medical reason for your problem, there is definitely a psychosomatic one for the same. Of course an advanced test may prove me wrong but from the description of all the failed relationships you have had so far and the lack of success at yoru job does indicate a man of many sorrows and stresses. If the underlying reason is not identified, especially emotions, it is very likely that you are giving yourself some bodily ailments and it will be wise to pursue a line of treatment to deal with the emotional component. You will probably save a lot of medical expense and further complications, and learn to live a life of good cheer.
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Hi i am 28 years old. I have problem of anger and stress. I feel anger and stress very easily. Im not happy with myself. Depression also often coming and going. Its like something want to coming out from me but its not cuming out. Since last year im dealing wid upper back pain cuz of pain also stress so much. Im looking someone to understand my problem and help me get over from it. Help me. Advice me how can I get rid of dis.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Hi i am 28 years old. I have problem of anger and stress. I feel anger and stress very easily. Im not happy with myse...
Anger management: 10 tips to tame your temper ANGER: There is a saying "Frustration begets anger and anger begets aggression. Direct anger, is expressed toward the object perceived as the cause of the frustration. If a machine does not work, you might hit it or kick it. If someone gets in your way, you could verbally threaten them or push them aside. If the source of the frustration is too powerful or threatening for direct aggression, displaced aggression is often used. The aggression is redirected toward a less threatening and more available object. An angry person often acts without thinking. The person has given in to the frustration and they have given up restraint. Anger can be a healthy response if it motivates us to positive action but all too often the actions we engage in when angry are destructive. Indeed, if we could see a videotape of ourselves getting angry, the humiliation might well help cure us of anger. When you feel frustration building, you have to practice learned responses that lead to healthy actions instead of destructive ones. GIVING UP: Giving up on a goal can be productive if the goal is truly out of reach. However, more often giving up (quitting or being apathetic) is another form of giving in to frustration. When repeatedly frustrated, people can drop out of school, quit jobs, or move away. Apathy is giving up all of your goals, so you cannot be frustrated by trying to reach them. We live in difficult time and we have to be persistent in order to accomplish. Consider how many projects you began, and then gave up, because you became frustrated and lost patience. Make a list of things you started and quit because they seemed too difficult. Now calculate the disappointment and loss you suffered by not dealing with the frustration in a more healthy way. Try to remember that quitters never win, and winners never quit. Losing your temper means you're a quitter. LOSS OF CONFIDENCE: is a terrible frequent side effect of giving up and not fulfilling your goal. A loss of self-confidence and self-esteem, means that If we quit once, then the next time we plan a goal, we may not be able to accurately assess our ability to carry it out and we stop trusting ourselves and our own abilities. This became a self-fulfilling and self-destructive attitude. You need to be able to learn that when the going gets tough, you say to yourself "It is worth it! and by following through, it not only gets the job done, but it builds self-confidence. STRESS: is the "wear and tear" our body and mind experiences as we adjust to the frustrations our continually changing environment. Too frequently, extreme, or prolonged frustration and stress strains us and generates distress signals. Our body experiences distress signals in a variety of ways, often in the form of: irritability, anger, fatigue anxiety, headache, depression, stomach aches, hypertension, migraines, ulcers, heart attacks, or colitis. DEPRESSION: Depression can affect almost every aspect of your life. It affects people of all ages, income, race, and cultures. Depression can affect the way you eat and sleep the way you feel about yourself, the way one think about things, and the way you interact with others. While we all feel depression at various appropriate times in our lives, excess or inappropriate depression cannot be easily dismissed or wished away. OTHER REACTIONS: abuse of drugs & alcohol is self-destructive and usually futile attempt at dealing with frustration, as are many eating and weight problems and addictions Whenever the immediate effects of the addictive behaviour wear off, users find themselves back in the same, or even worse, frustrating situation. Anger is among the gamut of emotions we exhibit as a reaction to a situation, and it is a 'normal' emotion too as long as it is kept under control. Some people have the propensity to explode when pushed to the extreme. They keep swallowing their emotions until they can finally do it no more, and erupt like a volcano. Others dealing with extreme anger are like a ticking time bomb. You'll never know what you unwittingly say or do can trigger an explosion. In either case, anger that cannot be controlled comes with a physical reaction. Your heart beats faster preparing you for both action and reaction. Your breathing quickens. You may clench your fist, tighten your shoulders and go into a defensive position. The problem arises out of the fact that it is almost impossible to feel anger and empathy at the same time. An angry person is seldom sensitive to the wellbeing of his victim, and hence may lash out verbally and sometimes physically. Such things done in the heat of the moment mostly leaves us with regrets. So here are a few ways to deal with extreme anger. 1.Approve it / Acknowledge it: The first step in solving a problem is recognizing that you have one. The fundamental problem here is that people believe they are on the right track and refuse to budge from their views. It is essential to realize that this step is not about deciding whether you are right or wrong, but acknowledging the fact that your reaction to the situation can be channelled in a better way. When getting someone to acknowledge their anger problem, be careful as to not use negative words like wrong, false and shouldn't. Instead, influence with positive words like can and should. Instead of saying 'You are wrong to react like this' you can say, 'I understand what you are feeling. Is there a way we can resolve this situation? 2.Understand / recognize the signs: Once you know that your problems exist, you can try devising ways that will work for you in dealing with the situation. You can count to 100 to calm yourself or simply decide to not speak until you can calm yourself. Knowing that you may enter into an argument in a situation, you can list down the points that you feel strongly about and discuss each of them one by one. Working your way through a finite list gives a better opportunity to reach closure at the end. 3.Free the mind/Find ways to let it go: Not all arguments end in closure. A lot of unsaid justifications cloud our mind repeatedly leaving us seething from the inside. Research has shown that the normal or neurological anger response lasts less than two seconds. Beyond that it takes a strong will to stay angry. Once you realize how much your anger is consuming your mind, decide to free your mind with meditation and other calming exercises. Tell yourself that some people and issues simply don't deserve your anger, emotion, reaction or time. If you or someone you know is suffering from anger management issues, consult a doctor today.
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I want to stop masturbation. Because I'm getting head ache very badly daily. I'm not able to concentrate on studies. ?How can I do that? Or else is there any remedy? But I want complete relief. Without any effects. Is there any problem by stopping masturbation?

MD-Ayurveda, Bachelor of Ayurveda, Medicine and Surgery (BAMS)
Sexologist, Haldwani
I want to stop masturbation.
Because I'm getting head ache very badly daily.
I'm not able to concentrate on studies.
Hello- If you want to control your desire to masturbate, then 1. Figure out what triggers you. 2. Limit your access to those triggers. 3. Avoid porn and sex-objects. 4. Distract yourself. Try a new hobby or exercise. 5. Use your bed only for sleep. Avoid spending more time than necessary in it.
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