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1. Slight Curly hair and front side hair growth is less 2. What to do for increase concentrate mind in reading and another activities, Pl also suggest for mind growth.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
1. Slight Curly hair and front side hair growth is less
2. What to do for increase concentrate mind in reading and an...
You must visit a trichologist for your for your hair loss problem. For developing your memory examine the following factors: I suspect that the adolescent issues with regard to hormones may be affecting your ability to concentrate and remember. When the hormones play up, it lasts for a period of close to two years and during that time you could be influenced by three signs directly impacted by the chemical: you will tend to become aggressive and rebellious, you will become sexually active, and you will have acne and pimple problems. The hormonal imbalances may not only impact your memory because of the chemical but also bring some distractions that come with it. But you may work on the following even if the hormones kick in: Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning at least five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. There are some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid sugar and junk food.
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My son used to do very well in school and all of a sudden he is getting very bad marks in the 9th Standard. His promotion is doubtful. So my husband thought of taking him to a psychiatrist and see what his problem is. I have put him for Maths & Science in two different places but still he is not fairing well. Please advise.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
He does not need to go to a psychiatrist, as yet. Instead, take him to a counselor for teenagers and let him/her assess his situation. He is going through a mid-adolescent crisis, and a lot of your description is typical of such a phase. But it cannot be neglected. It must be investigated and he needs to be counseled. You may also find out from his teachers about his behavior at school, both in class and out of it. Check out about his friends and their habits too. He is distracted by something, and his mind may be occupied by much daydreaming. I don?t know if you have tried talking to him. If you haven?t, do so without being judgmental. Listen, and see if you can get into his frame of mind and be supportive without showing any alarm, even if you hear some frightful things. If you have been too strict with him, he may not open up to you. You may also talk to his closest friend, in strict confidence, to find out about anything he knows about your son. If there were any developmental milestones that were disturbed by any events, then report that to the counselor. I am assuming that his only current problem is academic in nature. One of you can also help him with his studies, being very patient and gentle. Simplify the concepts, and help him memorize certain basics so that he is equipped to progress to higher levels of performance using them as his platform. There is the likelihood of him lacking some important fundamentals that is hampering his shifting to higher level concepts for his grade. If so, repeat those concepts all over again in a simple and sure manner to enable him. And the last thing to consider is that he may have been using an auditory mode of learning that may be very inadequate for higher levels where the visual mode is more effective. Ideally, he would do best with the combination mode of audio-visual learning.
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Hi doctor I generally get stressed out from even a smaller things. How to get rid of it. I am 25 and I don't know how to ride bike and whenever I think to try I feel I can't I get nervous and everytime think y I can't. I am also getting bladed day by day. How could I control my stress. I feel myself inferior most of time even though I am an MBA and university topper I am unable to get the job I deserve.

DHMS (Diploma in Homeopathic Medicine and Surgery)
Homeopath, Ludhiana
Hi doctor I generally get stressed out from even a smaller things. How to get rid of it. I am 25 and I don't know how...
Actually you are lachink Self confidence .Due to this you are not doing justice with your capabilities..Your lack of self confidence is taking to at the back foot in every aspect of life and you are falling prey to it.Dont get diheartened and face life with courage and determination.Homoeopathic treatment will lead you to the right direction.For that a proper case taking is required.
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Hii doctor I am just 15 years now I am studying 10th I am just forgetting everythingwithin a day after reading please help me how to remember.

DHMS (Hons.)
Homeopath, Patna
Hello, loss of memory, lack of concentration may cause due to stress, anxiety, over pressure of work, insomnia, malnutrition, some sort of serious diseases. Be, stress free, first. Go for meditation to reduce your stress, nourish your neurones to calm your nerve down to restore your memory, back. Tk, plenty of water, free from contaminants to hydrate your body to prevent constipation. Tk, easily digestible diet on time avoiding gastric disbalence which may produce negative feelings. Tk homoeo medicne: @ anacardium 30-6 pills, thrice orally. @ five phos 4x-4 tbs, thrice a day. Avoid, junk food, alcohol, nicotine, tk care, i'll love your feedback for further, follow up, please.
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All About Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

DPM, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Mumbai
All About Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

An event or an accident that leaves us overwhelmed can lead to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, also known as PTSD. A particularly stressful situation or event that has created terror or been overly dramatic or dangerous can lead to stress and anxiety long after the individual has physically come out of the situation. This kind of a traumatic condition is usually what characterises PTSD. This condition is something that is persistent, and can linger on for a long time, calling for medical supervision and care. Here's a list of things you need to know about PTSD.

  • Duration: Post Traumatic Stress Disorder usually lasts up to six months. Yet, there are cases where it lingers on and requires treatment for some particular types of symptoms or behavioural changes. Usually, the patient's behaviour is a result of one or more of the symptoms discussed below.
  • Re-experiencing Symptoms: These symptoms include flashbacks and life like re-imagination in the form of dreams and nightmares. In many cases, the patient may remember and re-experience the entire scene or series of events that have led to the trauma in the first place. This can be triggered by a memory or association with words, events and other such things that have to do with the memory of the traumatic episode.
  • Avoidance Symptoms: A traumatised patient may go out of his or her way to avoid things that are remotely close to the traumatic incident. They may fear a reoccurrence or a reminder of the event and may avoid addressing the trauma altogether. Patients suffering from this symptom may have created a mental block, and may not be able to remember the exact details of the event. They may also feel emotions like fear, guilt, depression and even worry, over the past incident which led to the trauma in the first place. 
  • Arousal Symptoms: Arousal or reactivity symptoms may trigger the same reactions that the person showed during the traumatic experience. These may include being on edge constantly in anticipation of a reoccurrence, or even getting startled by the slightest thing since the mind is already occupied with thoughts of the event, constantly. Anger and emotional outbursts may also be caused due to these symptoms.
  • Mood Symptoms: Mood swings are the most common outcome of these symptoms. The patient may experience a complete lack of enthusiasm and drive to indulge in activities like hobbies and socialising. Also, the patient may end up harbouring feelings of negativity towards family, friends and strangers, besides going through phases of guilt and self blame for the occurrence of the traumatic event.

PTSD can be a debilitating disorder in the emotional sense, and should be treated by a psychiatrist in case it lingers on for more than six months.

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There was a fight between me and one of friend, he is a year older than, unexpectedly while we were arguing he just gave me sock on the left side of my brain which created a loud sound and I couldn't do pay him for that, since then I just get memorized of his angry face, feeling depressed, and I think I am having some problem due to that.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
There was a fight between me and one of friend, he is a year older than, unexpectedly while we were arguing he just g...
Dear lybrate-user. This is a common eventuality and you don't have to worry much about that. The situation will continue to haunt you for some time unless you engage yourself in your normal activities. Don't worry. Ignore it for the time being. Take care.
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Hi I am 32 and married .My concern is about controlling anger and having negative thinking about the matters related to my spouse. This is leading to misunderstandings and quarrels between us which is in turn effecting my health and peace if mind. Please advise what can be done to avoid such temperament .

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lybrate user. I can understated. Anger and aggression are emotions. Anger comes when you become irritated. Irritation happens when you don't like something, or when something is repeated. As anger is an emotion, it should be vent out. You should be able to throw anger out instead of controlling it. But more perfect will be, know the frustrating situations and stop being emotional. If practiced properly, you will not get irritated at those circumstances at all. Those techniques are much easier to understand. I suggest anger management therapy. Negative thinking about your wife and her activities and behavior could be due to your own ego and disrespect. There could be behavioral problems with your wife too. I need to know more about it. Anyhow, there is nothing to worry. Most of the psychological problems can be cured with scientific therapy methods. Take care.
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My voice is not gud and not clear for this what to do and to improve my memory any clues.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lybrate user. I can understand. Please don't worry about voice. You can correct it through voice therapy. Exercise, sleep, proper rest, social interaction, usage of brain etc ensures memory and mind power. Take care.
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4 Symptoms Of Borderline Personality Disorder!

MBA (HR), D.Sc, MS - Counselling and Psychotherapy, M.Sc - Psychotherapy
Psychologist, Pune
4 Symptoms Of Borderline Personality Disorder!

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is defined as a mood disorder that affects one's interaction and relationships with others. It generally develops during adolescence and persists into adulthood. It has been seen that those with a traumatic history of neglect or emotional, physical or sexual abuse are more prone to developing it. Though it affects people varyingly, these are some symptoms that help diagnose BPD.

1. Emotional instability - 
Intense feelings of rage, sorrow, anger, guilt and emptiness or loneliness are experienced by some sufferers of BPD. Extreme mood swings, lasting for a short span of time, are common in BPD. They may also have issues with their self-image where they cannot place themselves and don't know what they feel about themselves or who they are.

2. Disturbing thoughts - One may experience disturbed thinking and the range of severity is rather wide. One may question his or her existence and need constant reassurance to believe other, or hear voices that tell one to harm oneself or others. In some cases, hallucination and developing delusional beliefs become a common phenomenon that greatly upset the mental condition of the sufferer.

3. Impulsive behavior - Indulging in impulsive behavior is a common sign of BPD. Those suffering from BPD may develop suicidal tendencies and threaten to self-harm. Partaking in risky and irresponsible behavior such as gambling, drinking, drug abuse, having unprotected sex with strangers, going on unrestrained shopping sprees and shoplifting are not uncommon for those with BPD.

4. Intense but unstable relationships - Sufferers of BPD live in a fear of abandonment and feel that the people they love might leave them. They make all possible efforts to prevent being left alone. They may beg, cling and track their loved ones to avoid being left alone. The opposite may also occur and sufferers might feel that they are being smothered by others. This results in actively pushing away loved ones. A combination of these feelings leads sufferers to give out mixed signals which is confusing and often hurts them and their loved ones. If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult a Psychologist.

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Natural anti-depressants

Masters in Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Lucknow
Natural anti-depressants
Dopamine is a chemical in the brain that's associated with feelings of pleasure & happiness. Exercise is one of the best ways to increase your brains dopamine production, giving you the much needed mood improvement.
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My semester exams are going start on July 5 onwards. At what timing should I study? I reading but I am loosing concentration and memory loss. Means on seeing the book, I think I know everything, Its so easy to remember, but After closing the book, I can't recall even a single sentence of that answer! I know the theme of the answer , but i'm unable to present it on the paper . Please guide me ? Give me tips for how to remember the answers .

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
My semester exams are going start on July 5 onwards. At what timing should I study? I reading but I am loosing concen...
Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem-solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning, at least, five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position, you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. There is some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid sugar and junk food. You may also include these noted foods that are good for your brain health: Brain-Friendly Foods MIND stands for Mediterranean-DASH Intervention for Neurodegenerative Delay. But the MIND approach “specifically includes foods and nutrients that medical literature and data show to be good for the brain, such as berries,” says Martha Clare Morris, ScD, director of nutrition and nutritional epidemiology at Rush University Medical Center. You eat things from these 10 food groups: •Green leafy vegetables (like spinach and salad greens): At least six servings a week •Other vegetables: At least one a day •Nuts: Five servings a week •Berries: Two or more servings a week •Beans: At least three servings a week •Whole grains: Three or more servings a day •Fish: Once a week •Poultry (like chicken or turkey): Two times a week •Olive oil: Use it as your main cooking oil. •Wine: One glass a day You avoid: •Red meat: Less than four servings a week •Butter and margarine: Less than a tablespoon daily •Cheese: Less than one serving a week •Pastries and sweets: Less than five servings a week •Fried or fast food: Less than one serving a week.
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I lost somebody close last week. I am feeling very depressed. I'm not interested in anything. I have an headache all the time. Please help me.

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
I lost somebody close last week. I am feeling very depressed. I'm not interested in anything. I have an headache all ...
What you are going through is greaving. Loosing loved one is not easy to deal with emotionally. I am sorry for your loss. There are few things I would like you to try. 1. When you feel sad. Feel the feeling of sadness fully. You may close your eyes and let that sadness flow through your mind and body. If tears flow let them flow. Cry it out. Feeling what you feel fully and totally is healing. Once you feel your sadness fully. You might feel the lightness in your heart. Feel that too and say out loud. How wonderful! and engage your mind remembering some good qualities and good times you spent with the person you are missing. 2. Regular simple breath awareness meditation also help manage your loss. 3. You may also l write daily 3 to 5 things you are grateful to every morning. These things could be as simple as having a bed to sleep and food to eat. Affirm what you write and add new thing in your list for 7 to10 days. If you are not feeling any change over next 2 weeks or if you lack motivation to initiate and maintain above activities feel free revert and we could work together for few weeks to months to reverse your cycle and help you appreciate what you have. Hope this helps wishing you very best.
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I take medician for last 6 months, no improvement, for stress, angry (m, d) trichy, I like to stop, and also think change doctor, what I do, please reply,

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear, anger is an emotion. Emotions comes when we are frustrated due to something which we do not expect. You are talking about stress. In that case, your anger could be due to stress. Why do you get stressed? what are the reasons for your anger and grustrations? if you are able to explain them, you will be able to manage them. Remember, when an emotion comes, you need to vent it out, do not suppress. But if you learn to adjust with that situation, you never get emotional. God bless you. Take care.
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HI doctorsI always anger on small things on my family or my girlfriend. I love tooo much my girlfriend but I also anger tooo much on her. So hlp me plz.

BHMS
Homeopath, Faridabad
Hello, there are few yoga poses which helps in calming your mind and relieves stress, but first learn these under a qualified yoga-teacher as many poses are prohibited in certain diseases or medical conditions! exercises: practice shavasana or corpse pose as it looks like a dead body. If practiced correctly and with full efforts, can relax every body part, relaxing not only the body but also the mind: spread the legs one to two feet apart, the toes are turned outwards, the heels facing each other, a comfortable distance apart. Bring the arms a little away from the body, palms turned upward. Relax the neck and allow it to turn to the side if it is more comfortable. Close the eyes and focus the attention on the body, breathing normally. Begin focusing each body part and relaxing it, then moving on. Keep the mind focused on relaxation, the breath should be normal. Relax the whole body. (the mind and body are deeply connected. If the mind is occupied by thoughts and worries then the shavasana will be unsuccessful. Therefore one has to acquire the stability of the mind along with the stability of the body.) anuloma involves inhaling through both nostrils together and exhaling each breath alternately between the left and right nostrils. The thumb of the right hand is used to manipulate the right nostril, while the pinky and ring finger are used to control the left nostril. There are many other poses of yoga like balasan, setu bandha sarvangasan, uttanasan, garudasan, savasana, triconasana, viprita karani, marjaryasana, dhyana, bhujangasana, anulom-vilum, pranayam, etc. Another stress-buster can be getting involved in any of your hobbies (may be a childhood hobby which you used to enjoy a lot!) - dancing, singing, painting, listening to soothing music, playing musical instruments, etc. (believe me, you would really enjoy doing this alone as well or may be with your friends, kids). Medication: take homoeopathic medication - schwabe's bacopa monierri 1x/ thrice daily and kali phos. 6x/ once at night - take them for 4 weeks.
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Actually I smoked 2or 3 cigarettes in a day. From the last two days I am suffering from throat pain chest pain I want to know what happen to me and solution.

MBBS, DPM
Psychiatrist, Bangalore
Actually I smoked 2or 3 cigarettes in a day. From the last two days I am suffering from throat pain chest pain I want...
Congratulations Yugandhar for thinking of cigarettes as cause for throat and chest pain. This is the best time, to plan and to stop smoking permanently. If you go on, you may need more and more cigarettes and stopping them will be more and more difficult. However check with your doctor your throat and chest. There are other causes for it - they will be treated accordingly.
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I am in the second year of degree college and my concern is that I have no friends in college. Like literally no friends, also I have some social anxiety. When I see people around me, I don't find things to talk and I think that I just don't fit in, sometimes I do talk to random people but I don't end up becoming friends. What is the issue? Is it that I don't fit in? There are some people that I want to talk to but I don't like to seem desperate so I don't make the move. This is becoming a huge problem as I fear that I will not get a guy because no guy talks to me. I feel that I just don't know how to socialize and don't know to communicate may be because I am not fun or my face is ugly or I am not audible at times. Should I change myself. And the bigger problem is now that people know me as an introvert they would rather not talk to me at all. I am not friends with anyone in the college and I am a total loner. What should I do? My college life has become an hell.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I am in the second year of degree college and my concern is that I have no friends in college. Like literally no frie...
Those people who suffer from a rejection issue find themselves in this predicament. Find out why these people are neglecting you. Are you doing something to cause this? There must be a way you behave or present yourself that they are choosing to neglect you. Once you have identified that, change that behavior in you. Before you do so ask yourself, do you love yourself first of all? I suspect that there may be a problem of self-acceptance and self-love. If you don’t love yourself, then you may depend on others too much for the love you need. Inevitably, they will reject you or at least neglect you. You could be suffering from the rejection issue from which all these outcomes will be activated. This is how social priorities are normally set: first you love god, then yourself sufficiently, and then others. If you are full of appropriate love, you will attract others’ love by default. As easy as that!!! The identity crisis is typical of someone who is dependent on others for acknowledgement and tends to identify with other personalities. You probably suffer from low self-esteem. But far worse than that is my fear that you may have some serious rejection issues. The fear of acceptance may then trigger a performance-oriented individual who will depend entirely on other people’s opinion and assessment of himself. This will make you even more vulnerable and susceptible to rejection, and you may hurt very badly and easily at the slightest sign of rejection. There is a way about this, but meet with a counselor and see what can be worked out to learn to accept yourself first. If you did this you will naturally perform well and will not depend on others, entirely, for their acceptance. If you know of any reason to believe that this rejection is true from your childhood it would help tremendously. Talk to your parents and find out what they remember or you could take them with you to meet with the counselor. If you learn to accept yourself first then the identity may be formed, but the best way to develop an identity is to know your emotions and how to express them. Your feelings are a very good indicator of who you are. A counselor will help you do this well. You already sound like someone who has a poor self-image. This itself can push people away inadvertently. This can be resolved with some work with a counselor.
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I am in a depression. I feel depressed some time in morning when I wake up n sometimes in mid day. Suggest some ways. So that I can come out of it.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
I am in a depression.
I feel depressed some time in morning when I wake up n sometimes in mid day. Suggest some ways....
Being depressed can make you feel helpless. But Along with therapy and sometimes medication, there's a lot you can do on your own to fight back. Changing your behaviour – your physical work, lifestyle, and even your way of thinking -- are all natural depression treatments .these tips can help you feel better -- starting right now. 1. Get in a routine. If you’re depressed, you need a routine depression can strip away the structure from your life. One day melts into the next. Setting a gentle daily schedule can help you get back on track. 2. When you're depressed, you may feel like you can't accomplish anything. That makes you feel worse about yourself. To push back, set daily goals for yourself. "Start very small,” "Make your goal something that you can succeed at, like doing the dishes every other day. As you start to feel better, you can add more challenging daily goals. 3. Exercise- It temporarily boosts feel-good chemicals called endorphins. It may also have long-term benefits for people. Regular exercise seems to encourage the brain to rewire itself in positive ways. How much exercise do you need? You don’t need to run marathons to get a benefit. Just walking a few times a week can help. 4. Eat healthy. There is no magic / special; diet that corrects depression. It's a good idea to watch what you eat, though. If depression tends to make you overeat, getting in control of your eating will help you feel better. Although nothing is definitive, there’s evidence that foods with omega-3 fatty acids (such as fish) and folic acid (such as spinach) could help ease depression. 5. Get enough sleep. Depression can make it hard to get enough sleep and can make depression worse. What can you do? Start by making some changes to your lifestyle. Go to bed and get up at the same time every day. Try not to nap. Take all the distractions out of your bedroom -- no computer and no TV. In time, you may find your sleep improves. 6. Take on responsibilities. When you’re depressed, you may want to pull back from life and give up your responsibilities at home and at work. Staying involved and having daily responsibilities can work as a natural depression treatment. They ground you and give you a sense of accomplishment. If you're not up to full-time school or work, that’s fine. Think about part-time. If that seems like too much, consider volunteer work. 7. Challenge negative thoughts. In your fight against depression, a lot of the work is mental -- changing how you think. When you're depressed, you leap to the worst possible conclusions. You might feel like no one likes you, but is there real evidence for that? You might feel like the most worthless person on the planet, but is that really likely? It takes practice, but in time you can beat back those negative thoughts before they get out of control. 8. Check with your doctor before using supplements. "There's promising evidence for certain supplements for depression, Those include fish oil, folic acid. Always check with your doctor before starting any supplement, especially if you’re already taking medications 9. Do something new. When you’re depressed, you’re in a rut. Push yourself to do something different. Go to a museum. Pick up a used book and read it on a park bench. Volunteer at a soup kitchen. Take a language class. "When we challenge ourselves to do something different, there are chemical changes in the brain, "Trying something new alters the levels of [the brain chemical] dopamine, which is associated with pleasure, enjoyment, and learning. 10. Try to have fun. If you’re depressed, make time for things you enjoy. What if nothing seems fun anymore? "That's just a symptom of depression, You have to keep trying anyway. As strange as it might sound, you have to work at having fun. Plan things you used to enjoy, even if they feel like a chore. Keep going to the movies. Keep going out with friends for dinner. When you're depressed, you can lose the knack for enjoying life, you have to relearn how to do it. In time, fun things really will feel fun again.
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I am 24 years old.I am any time very upset and my weight low 45 kg only. what should I do?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
I am 24 years old.I am any time very upset and my weight low 45 kg only. what should I do?
Dear , you are always upset. This could happen due to many reasons. For youngsters like you, the probable reasons are disappointment or stress. Can you elaborate? you must be able to distinguish between mental disease and mental disorder. Your problem is a mental disorder. Not a mental disease. These mental disorders are usually treated with a combination of medicines and other means like awareness, meditation, psychotherapy techniques, life style changes etc. I think two or three counseling sessions and psycho therapy techniques should solve your problem. Let me know if you are willing to undergo counseling sessions and tailor made psycho therapy through mobile. Take care.
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I m suffering from anxiety and ocd. Had medicine for 23 months.Still not everything all right. Suggest

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear , Anxiety and OCD are mental disorders and not mental diseases. Medicines alone cannot cure mental disorders. Mental disorders need brain re-programming. Psychotherapy, meditation, change in life style etc help you achieve brain reprogramming. Give me more details about your anxiety and OCD. Be as detailed as possible. Take care.
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Hello there, I don't know what to do in my life, as I am detain from my engineering college for one year and feeling too much depressed. I did completed my diploma engineering with good grades but I don't know somehow I can't manage to do well in bachelor of engineering. So now I have time for one year and I don't know what to do, even I can't think and concentrate on anything. Even today morning I can't even brush my teeth, it's like I don't know how to do it. Please help me to get out of this mental situation, sometime I really feel to do suicide, but I know it's not the end. Please suggest me what to do. Thanks.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Hello there,
I don't know what to do in my life, as I am detain from my engineering college for one year and feeling ...
You are angry with yourself and then you are turning the anger inwards which is causing you the depression. Go meet with a counselor and deal with this anger. You will need to occupy yourself and as well as get some tutoring for your engineering and prepare yourself to perform better. If you like you could work part-time and honorarily in an engineering firm related to your specialization to keep in touch with the practical aspects. Failure can be a stepping-stone to success. If you will it can be done and better too. In the meantime do the following: Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem-solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning, at least, five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position, you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. There is some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid sugar and junk food. You may also include these noted foods that are good for your brain health: Brain-Friendly Foods MIND stands for Mediterranean-DASH Intervention for Neurodegenerative Delay. But the MIND approach “specifically includes foods and nutrients that medical literature and data show to be good for the brain, such as berries,” says Martha Clare Morris, ScD, director of nutrition and nutritional epidemiology at Rush University Medical Center. You eat things from these 10 food groups: •Green leafy vegetables (like spinach and salad greens): At least six servings a week •Other vegetables: At least one a day •Nuts: Five servings a week •Berries: Two or more servings a week •Beans: At least three servings a week •Whole grains: Three or more servings a day •Fish: Once a week •Poultry (like chicken or turkey): Two times a week •Olive oil: Use it as your main cooking oil. •Wine: One glass a day You avoid: •Red meat: Less than four servings a week •Butter and margarine: Less than a tablespoon daily •Cheese: Less than one serving a week •Pastries and sweets: Less than five servings a week •Fried or fast food: Less than one serving a week.
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