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Dr. Juliet Nathwani

Psychiatrist, Mumbai

Dr. Juliet Nathwani Psychiatrist, Mumbai
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Hello and thank you for visiting my Lybrate profile! I want to let you know that here at my office my staff and I will do our best to make you comfortable. I strongly believe in ethics; a......more
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I feel so depressed and lonely. I am pregnant and just want to be care of all. Don't know what happened to me. I am so aggressive now a days. If my husband don' t asked about me b my pain. I want to be so suicide at that moment.

BDS, Certification in hypnotherapy, Certification in N.L.P, Certification in Gene and behavior, Psychology at Work
Psychologist, Gurgaon
All due to changed body-chemistry. Temporary phase. Let the anger/aggressiveness come & go, don't wrestle with it.
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How to improve my mind to concentrate on study please give me some advice, I m a engineering student.

BHMS
Homeopath, Faridabad
Hi. Homoeopathic medicines are very effective for increasing concentration, but if done with yoga, will give you great results! But practice the following poses if you don’t have any medical condition or pregnancy or else take an advice from your concern doctor and then only perform these. 1.Shashankasana: Sit in Vajrasana with hands on the thighs. The upper body is straight and relaxed. Inhaling raise both arms above the head. Exhaling keep the back straight and bend upper body and arms forward from the hips, until arms and forehead touch the floor. The buttocks remain on the heels. Breathing normally remain in this position for a while. Relax the whole body, especially the shoulders, neck and back. Inhaling keep the back straight and raise the upper body and arms. Exhaling return to the starting position. Practice the exercise 3 times in total. Remain bending forward for sometime and consciously perceive the movement of the breath on the spine. 2.Virasana: Sit in Vajrasana. Hands rest on the thighs and the body is relaxed. Bring the left foot beside the right knee with the sole of the foot flat on the floor. Place the left elbow on the left knee and rest the chin in the hand. Right hand rests on the right thigh. Tuck the toes of the right foot under. The right knee remains in contact with the floor. Transfer the weight onto the right heel. Concentrate on a fixed point in front. Breathing normally remain in this position for as long as comfortable. Return to the starting position. Repeat on the other side. 3.Sit in Vajrasana. Body is straight and hands rest on the thighs. Relax the whole body. Inhaling stretch the arms above the head, then bring them behind the back and grasp the left wrist with the right hand. Exhaling bend the body forward from the hips, keeping the back straight, until the forehead touches the floor. The buttocks remain on the heels. Breathing normally concentrate on the whole body and relax. Remain in this position for as long as comfortable. Inhaling slowly bring the body upright. At the same time stretch the arms above the head. Exhaling return to the starting position. Medication: Take homoeopathic medicine - Anacardium 200/ once daily.
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I am a CA student. I need to sleep less. What are the ways to reduce sleeping time. I want to reduce my sleeping time. So that I can concentrate on my studies.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
If you sleep less for concentration, it will defeat the very purpose. You will lose concentration and you will also feel quite unhealthy. If it is only during the exams, then you could reduce sleep. Otherwise, sleep is very essential for concentration.
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Hi ! This is Naushad here. I'm 47 yrs of age. For the last 3to 4 months I've been having this severe pain in my feet at the bottom heel area. The pain is very severe espiacially in the mornings when i get up. I am hardly able to walk. Initially the pain was only in the mornings and night after I used tocome back from work. But of late the pain is there throughout the day. The pain is there in both the legs. I've checked my uric acid twicw and both the reports are normal. Please advice. Thanks

BHMS
Alternative Medicine Specialist, Mumbai
Dear , Kindly think of ruling out the calcaneal spur. This is a bony growth which gives you a pain. It could also be planter fasciitis. Consult local physician and get the right kind of foot ware to suite your feet. Metaphysically one gets heel pain when one has to bear the brunt, responsibilities, pressure or blame from others. If this is the case, learn to address these feelings.
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I am a student and my memory is too weak, I can't learn my chapters so please help me to grow my memory.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning at least five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. There are some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid sugar and junk food.
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I am suffering from anxiety my brain think so much negative like death and bad health.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Anxiety is a very normal emotion, which gives rise to feelings of nervousness every now and then. An anxiety disorder is a serious medical condition in which people experience a high degree of distress and mental trauma, which causes difficulties in leading a normal life. People suffering from this medical condition experience high levels of anxiety and nervousness almost all the time. Here are the symptoms that indicate you're suffering from anxiety disorder. 1. Excessive worry - This condition persists if you worry about the day to day activities a bit too much on a regular basis. It is identified when you start taking too much stress about very petty things, which tends to affect you in an adverse manner. A noticeable sign of excessive worry can be too much fatigue. 2. Sleep problems - Problems falling asleep at the right time and problems in maintaining a sound sleep are two signs that indicate you have an anxiety disorder. 3. Irrational fears - This symptom is not generalized; instead, it is specific and subjective in relation to a particular thing or situation. The fears that are experienced under this category are sudden and unexpected in nature and there is no fixed rationale behind these fears. 4. Muscle tension - Muscle discomfort and pain is one of the leading physiological causes of an anxiety disorder. The pain felt is chronic and pervasive, and is very common among people facing situations of anxiety. If you are exposed to constant periods of anxiety, you will experience fatigue, muscle pains and unwillingness to work. 5. Chronic indigestion - Problems related to the digestive system are also a sign of anxiety disorder. In this case, you may face constant digestive problems accompanied by a common disorder called IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome). IBS refers to an anxiety situation in the digestive tract, which is characterized by stomach aches, cramping, bloating, gas, constipation, and/or diarrhea. Apart from the above-mentioned symptoms, other symptoms of an anxiety disorder include stage fright, self- consciousness, panic attacks, memory flashbacks, perfectionism, compulsive behaviors, self- doubt, and such others. Symptoms vary depending on the type of anxiety disorder, but general symptoms include: •Feelings of panic, fear, and uneasiness. •Problems sleeping. •Cold or sweaty hands and/or feet. •Shortness of breath. •Heart palpitations. •An inability to be still and calm. •Dry mouth. •Numbness or tingling in the hands or feet. “Anxiety is a normal, predictable part of life. However, “people with an anxiety disorder are essentially phobic about the feeling state of anxiety.” And they’ll go to great lengths to avoid it. Some people experience generalized anxiety disorder (GAD), excessive anxiety about real-life concerns, such as money, relationships, health and academics, Others struggle with society anxiety, and worry about being evaluated or embarrassing themselves, he said. People with obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) might become preoccupied with symmetry or potential contamination. “The bottom line is that people can experience anxiety, and anxiety disorders, related to just about anything. Most of these steps contribute to a healthy and fulfilling life, overall. For instance, “making some basic lifestyle changes can do wonders for someone coping with elevated anxiety,” Take these steps from today. 1. Take a deep breath. “Deep diaphragmatic breathing triggers our relaxation response, switching from our fight-or-flight response of the sympathetic nervous system, to the relaxed, balanced response of our parasympathetic nervous system,” according to, clinical psychologists. Who have suggested the following exercise, which you can repeat several times: Inhale slowly to a count of four, starting at your belly and then moving into your chest. Gently hold your breath for four counts. Then slowly exhale to four counts. 2. Get active. “One of the most important things one can do [to cope with anxiety] is to get regular cardiovascular exercise,” For instance, a brisk 30- to 60-minute walk “releases endorphins that lead to a reduction in anxiety.” You can start today by taking a walk. Or create a list of physical activities that you enjoy, and put them on your schedule for the week. Other options include: running, rowing, rollerblading, hiking, biking, dancing, swimming, surfing, step aerobics, kickboxing and sports such as soccer, tennis and basketball. 3. Sleep well. Not getting enough sleep can trigger anxiety. If you’re having trouble sleeping, tonight, engage in a relaxing activity before bedtime, such as taking a warm bath, listening to soothing music or taking several deep breaths. And, if you’re like many people with anxiety whose brains start buzzing right before bed, jot down your worries earlier in the day for 10 to 15 minutes, or try a mental exercise like thinking of fruits with the same letter. 4. Challenge an anxious thought. “We all have moments wherein we unintentionally increase or maintain our own worry by thinking unhelpful thoughts. These thoughts are often unrealistic, inaccurate, or, to some extent, unreasonable,” Thankfully, we can change these thoughts. The first step is to identify them. Consider how a specific thought affects your feelings and behaviours. Is it helpful or unhelpful? These are the types of thoughts you want to challenge. Therefore it is suggested asking yourself: “Is this worry realistic?” “Is this really likely to happen?” “If the worst possible outcome happens, what would be so bad about that?” “Could I handle that?” “What might I do?” “If something bad happens, what might that mean about me?” “Is this really true or does it just seem that wa Then, “reframe or correct that thought to make it more accurate, realistic and more adaptive.” Here’s one example: “I would feel embarrassed if I tripped on the stage, but that’s just a feeling; it wouldn’t last forever, and I would get through it.” 5. Say an encouraging statement. Positive, accurate statements can help to put things into perspective. See these examples: “Anxiety is just a feeling, like any other feeling.” and “This feels bad, but I can use some strategies to [cope with] it.” 6. Stay connected to others. “Social support is vital to managing stress,” Today, call a loved one, schedule a Skype date or go to lunch with a close friend. “Talking with others can do a world of good.” Another option is to get together and engage in an activity that improves your anxiety, such as taking a walk, sitting on the beach or going to a yoga class. 7. Avoid caffeine. Managing anxiety is as much about what you do as what you don’t do. And there are some substances that exacerbate anxiety. Caffeine is one of those substances. As said, “The last thing people with anxiety need is a substance that makes them feel more amped up, which is exactly what caffeine does.” 8. Avoid mind-altering substances. “While drugs and alcohol might help to reduce anxiety in the short term, they often do just the opposite in the long term,” Even the short-term effect can be harmful. Experts have treated countless clients whose first panic attack occurred while they were taking drugs such as marijuana, ecstasy or LSD. “Panic attacks are bad enough if you are straight and sober, so imagine how bad they are if you are high, and can’t get un-high until the drug wears off.” 9. Do something you enjoy. Engaging in enjoyable activities helps to soothe your anxiety. For instance, today, you might take a walk, listen to music or read a book, 10. Take a break. It’s also helpful to build breaks into your day. As it is said, this might be a “simple change of pace or scenery, enjoying a hobby, or switching ‘to-do’ tasks.” “Breaking from concerted effort can be refreshing.” 11. Problem-solve. It is suggested considering how you can address the stressors that are causing your anxiety. Today, make a list of these stressors and next to each one, jot down one or two solutions. 12. Pick up a book. There are many valuable resources on anxiety, which teach you effective coping skills. Some recommended are Dying of Embarrassment for people with social anxiety; The BDD Workbook for body dysmorphic disorder; The Imp of the Mind and The OCD Workbook for obsessive-compulsive disorder. It is suggested Stop Obsessing for adults with OCD (and Up and Down the Worry Hill for kids with OCD). For people with panic attacks, it is suggested Don’t Panic: Taking Control of Anxiety Attacks. For a general overview of cognitive-behavioural therapy for anxiety, 13. Engage in calming practices. “Meditation, yoga, or other calming practices can help minimize anxiety in both the short and long term.” Sign up for a yoga class or watch a yoga video online. (Curvy Yoga is a wonderful and sizes.) Meditate right now for just three minutes resource for yoga for all shapes 14. Contact a therapist. “Sometimes anxiety can be difficult to manage without professional help,” Many organizations include databases of providers who specialize in anxiety (along with helpful information). 15. Accept your anxiety. “If you really want to effectively manage your anxiety, the key is to accept it,” This might sound counterintuitive. But anxiety, “in and of itself,” isn’t the real problem. Instead, it’s our attempts at controlling and eliminating it, he said. “Not accepting these unwanted inner experiences is the actual source of so much of our self-induced suffering.” Accepting anxiety doesn’t mean “resign[ing] ourselves to a life of anxious misery. It simply means that we are better off recognizing and fully accepting the existence of anxiety and other uncomfortable emotional states that are inevitable, but transitory,” So if you experience anxiety today, simply observe it. “Think of it like a wave of the ocean; allow it to come in, experience it, and ride it out.” Anxiety can feel overwhelming. It can feel like chains around your feet, weighing you down. But by taking small steps – like the ones above – you can minimize your anxiety and cope effectively.
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I am 31 year old female. I have a boy of 5 years. From the last few days he became very aggressive on small issues. I am very tensed. What should I do now in this regard or how should I manage the situation? Please suggest.

MD- Homeopathy
Homeopath, Pune
Sometimes children may weird way. You have to be patient and handle them carefully. First of all try to rule out cause of such behaviour. It could be related to home, school or friends. Talk with him and try to convince him that this is not good and it is harming him as well. Though he is small, if you talk carefully he can understand his mistake. If it doesn't help then please take homoeopathic treatment that will help him to improve his behaviour. Homoeopathic medicines excellently act on mind and helps children grow better.
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I'm addicted in drinking. I started drinking daily around half quarter. Will this affect my health. I'm trying to avoid it but I'm not able. Will it effect my liver. Do you suggest any good medicine.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lybrate-user, alcohol is a poison. It will affect your liver. In fact, it has already started affecting your liver. Please quit smoking. I know it is not easy to quit. You may need motivation therapy and deaddiction treatment. Please consult a psychologist
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I have 20 year old boys. And lots off deprecation. because study is so hard so please any help.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear, you must be able to understand concentration, attention span, recollection and distraction. If you are able to watch a movie for two hours continuously, if you are able to play a game for an hour, then you do not have any concentration problems. You can't be attentive towards your studies because you are not interested in it. You are able to watch movie and play game because you are interested in it. Human cannot be attentive towards anything for more than 10 minutes. Then you should study in such a way that your attention is continued and make the subjects are interesting to you. Effective learning techniques should help you. Recollection depends on anxiety, stress and other physical and circumstantial factors. Distractions while studying are plentiful. You should be able to overcome distractions or avoid distractions. Please understand the above. Change your study style and attitude accordingly. I can help you with" effective learning" techniques. Take care.
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My husband is 32 year. Now facing mood swing problem in working time like dream, old memories, flash back. And we have done mri. Some minor thickness on rt. Brain side but dr, said that its not a big issue it is a migrane aura and give medicine. But what is the treatment of mood swing?

General Physician (AM)
Alternative Medicine Specialist, Chandigarh
Requires detailed questioning so as to ascertain his personality and to treat him symptomatically. Treatment is available, safe and without side effects in biochemic system of medication, in the mean time try (biochemic) kali phos 30x 4 pills 4 times a day and tranquil 4 pills 4 times a day.(homeo) consult privately with details please.
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My eight year old son is very lazy and aggressive in nature, how can I change him ?

Hypnotherapist, DCS, BSIC, Advanced Trainee of Transactional Analysis, Advanced Skills in Counselling
Psychologist,
Children learn from their environment. How is the atmosphere in your home, school and his friends circle? also he will be lazy in some activities and active in some others. Try to understand if he's interested in these activities. What is your reasons for wanting him to do it? is there any other thing that he likes and willing to do and you will also get your thing done? slowly you will need to develop negotiating skills to talk with your son as he's close to becoming a teenager. Children respond very well to negotiations. Don't try to change him. It'll boomerang on you as he's already aggressive.
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I was a very good student with sharp memory power. But ftom last 2 3 years my memory power is decreasing I am not able to remember things properly even not lectures. It is effecting my studies my exams my grades. Please give me some suggestions so that I can bring my memory power back. It is effecting my mental as well as social life.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lybrate-user, welcome to lybrate. Memory and mind power depends mainly on three aspects. Understanding, storage and recollection. To understand what you are studying, you must be able to be attentive or concentrate. Concentration is possible when you are interested in that subject. Creative way of learning can help you concentrate and understand easily. When you are able to understand and concentrate, it is stored within your brain. If you read more and more it will be store in long term memory. Third part is retrieval. Whenever you want to retrive what you learned and stored, your brain gets the request, searches the database and retrieves the information for you. The retrieval may prove to be difficult if you are anxious, stressed, worried or tired physically or mentally. Retrieval is more easy when you are relaxed and healthy. Brain needs nutrients to keep itself sharp. Fruits, vegetables and dry fruits provide much needed nutrients for your brain. Include at least one fruit in your daily diet. Physical exercises, entertainment, hobbies, relaxation, memory games like sudoku etc help keep your memory sharp and active. You may consult a psychologist online or in person for advice, counseling and therapy. Take care.
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How to get maturity, still got fear ,childish ,no response of life ,I am OK with my friends but starting a new relationship is sucks for me especially with girls ,how to overcome this .

Masters in Clinical Psychology & Certified Cognitive Behaviour Therapy Practioner, Certified Neuro linguistic programming Practioner, Masters in Clinical Psychology, Post Graduate Diploma in Child and ADolescent Counselling
Psychologist, Pune
Maturing is not an easy process for human beings. It never has been easy, and yet it is necessary in all cases. Here are some notes about the process that I have discovered working with many clients. Here are a few principles to begin with. We all are born with flaws. Everyone begins life with certain character flaws or immaturity. This is very important to understand well. No one is born perfect. Everyone gets better or worse during life. One’s character or maturity level may get better or worse depending upon your upbringing, your home environment, the books you read, the friends you have, the school you go to. In addition, all of your experiences, including traumas, illnesses, work experiences, relationships and more can influence how fast you mature or develop your character. Character development can be forced quickly, or done slowly. The other thing to realize is that you can develop your character quickly by literally forcing it, or you can do it slowly by trial and error methods, for example. For example, one can learn that lying is a bad idea if one has a very strict parent who punishes you severely for it. That is the fast method. Others learn the lesson slowly by lying in business and then being fined or going to jail, for example. Some people learn not to lie by lying to a spouse and then causing the relationship to break up, or lying to a child and then having that child rebel years later and end up a drug addict. These are slower methods of learning the lesson. Developing character slowly is not so good, as there is much to do and learn. Therefore, it is wise to look for methods that are not too harsh, yet will develop your character or help you mature as fast as possible. Maturing has something to do with the control of the spirit over the soul, and the control of the soul over the body. This is a more advanced concept, but an important one. Human beings are part animal, part human or mental/emotional beings, and part spiritual beings. The more the spiritual part rules, the more mature the person is or will soon become. The more the “animal” part rules, the less mature the person is, in general. The mental/emotional part of you can help you mature if your ideas and feelings are loving and caring, and if your mind works perfectly. However, if your ideas and feelings are cruel, mean and hateful, then the mental/emotional part of you may stop your development or maturity. Mineral compounds within the brain can cause character flaws, while other chemical substances can promote or assist maturity or character development. I have learned this by working with nutritional balancing science for over 30 years. Nutritional balancing can easily be used to promote maturity, although it may sound odd. Many clients report that they are more loving, better parents, better spouses, more aware of themselves, and so on when they follow a complete nutritional balancing program that we set up for them. Beware of others who say they are doing nutritional balancing, as it may not be the truth. Based on the principles above, here are some basic suggestions to mature faster and develop a wonderful character. 1. Self-love. This is absolutely required. You must value yourself. This usually just takes some time to realize that you are not worse or more inadequate than others. There are others who are smarter, more beautiful, more talented, etc. However, many others are much stupider, much more ugly inside or out, and so on. You must come to accept yourself as you are to mature. You must also stop trashing yourself. This means eat the best food possible, sleep enough, dress decently, keep wholesome company, speak, think and act with dignity and courage, and be all you can be. All of this is part of self-love, an essential ingredient for maturity. 2. You must learn to be tough with yourself, and very committed. You must stay on your path. You must not waiver in your desire to mature, and you must realize there is a part of all of us that does not want us to mature and succeed. That part will oppose you at every turn. It makes you doubt yourself, hate yourself, and even loathe yourself. You must get tough with it, fight it and defeat it. It is like the story of the dragon that was supposed to protect the damsel in the castle, but the dragon gets “too protective”, out of control and also stops the knight in shining armor. The knight in shining armor and the damsel must slay the dragon in order to save the knight and for her to move out of the castle and move on in her life. It is the dragon of doubt, fear, confusion, depression, and death. This is the dragon we all have. Maturing has to do with becoming “tough as nails” with it, letting it know its days are numbered, and that it is time for the dragon that may have been useful earlier in life to retire and die. The damsel must affirm that she or he does not need this type of “protection” any more, and that the dragon is now preventing maturity by stepping on opportunities that present themselves at the castle of life. 3. Look for truth and side with it. You must take sides on issues and decide what you believe in, and why. You can change your mind, but maturing has to do with finding truth, as you see it, and living your truth. This is a must. Anything that helps you do this is good – reading, listening to lectures, talking with wise adults, and other things. 4. Side with the mature side of yourself. Realize that everyone, including yourself, has a childish, immature aspect and a more mature aspect. You must take sides and favor and go with the more mature adult side of yourself, and stop whining, complaining, moaning, indulging and feeling sorry for yourself – which is siding with a more childish side. You must “be a man” or “a real woman”, in other words, and “face the music”, rather than run away, play dead, or hide. 5. Learn to be clever to outsmart the lower self. This means to realize that your opponent inside of you, the immature you, is clever and you must outsmart it at every turn so that it does not gain the upper hand. This is not about cleverness with others, although it may involve others who seek to bring you down to their immature level in relationships, business, cheating in school, or anything else. You must see that clever means smart and savvy with yourself, and out of this you will become more “street smart” with others, as well. 6. Take control inwardly, rather than allow others to control you, even if you are in prison. Maturing has something to do with taking inward control of your life. It has to do with making sure the soul and the enlightened brain rule the body, for example, and not the other way around. Immature people allow the body to rule the brain, in many cases. This is called anxiety and fear. It also has to do with making sure the spirit in you rules supreme. This means you must be true to yourself, true to your word, no lying, no cheating, no corruption. Until you do this, you are not a mature person, no matter what your age or status in society. Immature people are backwards in this respect, and are never inwardly in control, even if they have millions of dollars, beautiful houses and a beautiful family. It is about taking internal control of your emotions, feelings, thoughts and actions. 7. Be of service. True maturity is to be of service. This may seem controversial, but I maintain it is true. Really mature people know that life is about service, and little else. They give up the childish wants, needs, preferences, aversions and so on and just move ahead in service. These are the people we associate maturity with. They weather the storms, handle all situations with grace and as much ease and equanimity as possible, and manage to smile through it all. This is all part of being of service, a large topic dealt with in the article entitled Service Basics. 8. Maturity requires a belief in a higher power, sometimes referred to as the Creator, God, the High Self or the Real Self. Also, this creative force or Creator is loving, not harsh and arbitrary. This will also sound strange to some people. What I mean is that the universal force of love and power must be seen as real and benign. These are the two essential qualities referred to here. If you think there is no God and I can do whatever I please, you are not likely to mature. If you believe that life is just an accident, and there really are no rules, you are not likely to mature. After all, why mature when everything is just an arbitrary fact, with no truths and no beliefs that are worth standing up for, defending and living in your life. This is a very common attitude today in the Western world, though it may not be expressed exactly this way. Many people simply do not believe in anything except maybe their immediate wants, and feelings. Many with this belief live selfishly because they see nothing beyond themselves as physical bodies in a “rat race” or “dog-eat-dog world”. Many of the “Occupy Wall Street” protestors are of this nature. Most participants in these protests are not deep thinkers or mature people. However, it is not enough to believe in God, or in an order of the universe greater than yourself. You must also see that force or being as benign. Many believe in God, Christ, Allah, etc. But they see their Creator as harsh, warlike, judgmental or even dark and hateful. This also mitigates against true maturity, which is a dedication to love and spreading your treasure or loving nature in the world. If you believe that God is not love, you are not likely to emulate that in your life. But if you can view your Creator or order of the universe as “friendly” to use the word Albert Einstein used about the universe, then you are likely to live this way, as well. 9. Look for the lessons in every situation, rather than focus on poor you. Mature people always look for the lessons and try to gain from every experience. Immature people tend to focus mainly on their own lack of comfort, anger, fear, rage, depression or other conditions. So to mature, always look for the lessons and perhaps why a situation has arisen, instead of focusing on your own needs, wants, aversions, or loves. 10. Read the bible to mature. While there are many books one can read to help one mature, one of the best is the Holy Bible, both the old and the new testaments. The reason is not because it is “the word of God”. I don’t know whether it is, since it was written by men and women. However, the stories and morals and lessons have to do with maturity in most cases, so it is a good learning tool. It is far better than going to the movies, watching most television, hanging out with friends, and even going to work every day. 11. Capitalism, not socialism, tends to help people mature. In contrast, socialism tends to make people angry and lazy by causing people to demand government “benefits” and to believe they should take or steal from the productive people and “give” to the unproductive ones. 12. Give up hopelessness and cynicism. This may sound odd, but many people, deep down, feel trapped, hopeless, and quite negative. This tendency or attitude must go in order to really mature. Nutritional factors can be at the root of hopelessness, but so can an immature attitude. After all, if there is no hope, why put the effort in to mature? This is sadly how a lot of people think. 13. Give up your anger and make a new choice. Anger always tends to derail the maturing process. It is somewhat the opposite of maturity. When a situation presents itself to you that is terribly upsetting, you basically choose either to become very angry, or to mature from it. Please think about this, and start letting go of anger. If you consciously decide you will not go to anger, no matter what, your only other choice, in some ways, is to mature. 14. Meditate in a certain way. Begin the Roy Masters meditation exercise and do it faithfully, every day, for at least 1 hour. You can do two half-hour sessions or one hour session. This is discussed in a separate article entitled Meditation For Healing on this site. This meditation, as compared with most others, will 1) bring up your traumas for healing quickly in many cases, and 2) improve your self awareness quickly. Greater awareness, mirroring, reflecting and similar methods can be very helpful to speed up development. 14. Follow a nutritional balancing program in its entirety. This may also be very powerful and helpful for maturing. I hear reports almost on a daily basis that a person is more calm, more relaxed, easier to live with, more aware of themselves, kinder, gentler and so on as a result of following a nutritional balancing program. The program can get rid of traumas that are blocking maturity, and toxic metals that lend various negative aspects to any personality. A separate article discusses this, entitled Character Development And Nutritional Balancing.
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I am taking anti depression medication. From last 7 month alprazolam and composition composition of 1st one and ampitrptilline hydrochloride of the 2nd one. I jst want to know does it would harm my memorising power and yes 1st one is of 20 mg and 2nd one is of 10 mg.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lybrate user. These medicines will actually help you improving your memory and concentration ability. Don't worry. I also suggest rigorous physical exercise or out door games. Take care.
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My friend is in depression because he is not getting admission in the college he wants. How can I help him in this matter medically.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear, you should be able to distinguish between disappointment and depression. Disappointment also brings on symptoms identical to depression but they are short lived. I think one or two online counseling methods should clear your many doubts. Please let me know your friends willingness for such counseling sessions. Take care.
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Some times I feel unhappiness. I blame others what I do, not find result what I have to do face depression.

MBBS, MD Psychiatry, DNB Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Nagpur
Feeling unhappy and sad persistently for no apparent reasons is a sign of underlying depressive disorder. It's just an escape for the mind to blame others for our happiness, it's another sign of a weakened mind. Consult a psychiatrist for counseling and medical help if required. Depression like any other illness is completely treatable. You may consult me online for any queries or treatment thereof.
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My husband is 32 year. Now facing mood swing problem in working time like dream, old memories, flash back. And we have done mri. Some minor thickness on rt. Brain side but dr, said that its not a big issue it is a migrane aura and give medicine. But what is the treatment of mood swing? I have already consult with neurologist and he give the medicine topaz-50mg and divaa 500 mg.

MD, BHMS
Homeopath, Bhilai
Please you r taking mood elevators but beware in long run he will get addicted. Please consult some homoeopath with high belief and patience, he will get cured and can consult privately with me also. Thank you.
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I have always pain in my headache, always think about a girl whom I loved and want to marry her after became an IAS officer, but she is of other caste and always tell me that her parents will said no completely, I told her that study is the only thing that solve everything. I and she is in first year of graduation and we have 2-3 years from now to prepare for any government service exam and for her I am preparing for UPSC and definitely an IAS officer after 3 years, but she do not like to study. Everyday we have so much arguments on this topic that now I decided to broke up and I done this yesterday. I told her that I will show you my face when I became an IAS officer just after 3 years from now.

Master of Arts, Clinical Psychology, Ph.D., Neuropsychology
Psychologist, Udaipur
Dear lybrate-user, The headaches are due to the emotional and mental conflict regarding the situation. I know it is easier said to forget your love and focus on study. But you have to look in the mirror and do a reality check. Reality is that you are still a fresher in college. Break ups are never easy. But one has to face it coz that is ground reality. I would suggest you that whenever headaches happen, take strong deep breaths till the fullest of lungs and then just let the breath go. It will help you focus on your goal. Also know that Love is all about maturity. Emotional and mental. First befriend with yourself. Love yourself. You will get the right partner in mean time. You can contact for further assistance.
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I have done something wrong with money and now the news is spread to my parents. They are reacting hard what shall I do now.

M.S. Counselling and Psychotherapy
Psychologist, Bangalore
You are very young, and obviously did not expect something will go wrong like this. I can imagine you to be in shock. You also might be feeling angry and hopeless. I guess, you did not have any bad intentions, and it is a pure mistake of judgement on your part. I can understand your parents' anger. They are angry for two things - first is their hard earned money is lost and second thing is they might be feeling betrayed by you, because you did not tell them about this, earlier. Now, for you - you need to understand that there are natural consequences for everything. So, if you have done something wrong without your parents' knowledge you need to know that the natural consequence would be their anger and loss of trust. And you need to face that. At the same time, they need to understand that at your age, because of lack of experience, such things happen. Hence, they should not be very strict or hard with you. Presently, you may explain to them, what you were thinking and expecting, when you indulged with their money. You need to make them understand, what did you expect to happen and what were your intentions. Then ask for forgivance and at the same time assure them of two things - one is how would you like to earn back that money (have some concrete plans) and how can they have faith in you again. If you are genuinely feeling sorry for what has happened and if you talk to your parents openly, citing your mistake of judgement and commitment to work hard in furture and not to lose their faith again, they will accept you with your mistake. Give them some time. For you, you need to know that you are very young and you need to be cautious in future. At the same time, you are a normal human being. And it is human to make mistakes. Allow yourself to accept this as a mistake and don't keep blaming yourself all the time. Learn from this experience. The bond you have shared with your parents, till now, will help you to come out of this. Be genuine and truthful. Take care.
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Cupping Therapy in psychological disorders

MD (U), Bachelor of Unani Medicine and Surgery (B.U.M.S)
Unani Specialist, Delhi
Cupping Therapy in psychological disorders

Cupping Therapy in Psychological disorders

Cupping can be very relaxing to the body and the mind. Cupping is usually performed in a very relaxing and calm atmosphere. The therapist is very gentle with what they do, and the strokes that they make with the cup are very similar to most massage therapies. Cupping therapies are very relaxing. It is often used to treat anxiety, chronic pain and insomnia. By relaxing the body, it can help relax the mind, triggering a positive hormonal response, which can greatly affects a person’s mood.

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