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Dr. Srilekha Biswas is a trusted Psychiatrist in Amherst Street, Kolkata. She is currently practising at Dr. Girindra Sekar's Clinic in Amherst Street, Kolkata. Book an appointment online with Dr. Srilekha Biswas and consult privately on Lybrate.com.

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Hi, My father is suffering from Depression and he takes 1 tablet a day of around 5mg . Please guide me what i do for releasing the same.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
You have not mentioned what drug it is that your father is taking and for how long he has been depressed. I suggest that he also goes for counseling and learns some skills around coping with life. Have him expose himself in the sunlight for at least 30 minutes every day; make him do regular and vigorous exercise, if he fit enough; have him socialize, engage in outside activities; eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits, and vegetables); sleep for around 8 hours only; cheer himself up with sitcoms; attend workshops, seminars, conferences, talks, spiritual discourses; do Yoga and meditation; and learn stress management.
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I am 27 year old student. I have some memory problem. I quickly forget what I read .so I can not understand what should I do to improve my memory power.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
7 Ways to Remember Anything Research-based strategies to boost your memory and keep it strong 7 Strategies for Remembering 1.Become interested in what you're learning. We're all better remembering what interests us. Few people, for example, have a difficult time remembering the names of people they find attractive. If you're not intrinsically interested in what you're learning or trying to remember, you must find a way to become so. 2.Find a way to leverage your visual memory. You'll be surprised by how much more this will enable you to remember. For example, imagine you're at a party and are introduced to five people in quick succession. How can you quickly memorize their names? Pick out a single defining visual characteristic of each person and connect it to a visual representation of their name, preferably through an action of some kind. Remember: Memory is predominantly visual. 3.Create a mental memory tree. If you're trying to memorize a large number of facts, find a way to relate them in your mind visually with a memory tree. Construct big branches first, then leaves. Branches and leaves should carry labels that are personally meaningful to you in some way, and the organization of the facts ("leaves") should be logical. 4.Associate what you're trying to learn with what you already know. It seems the more mental connections we have to a piece of information, the more successful we'll be in remembering it. This is why using mnemonics. Write out the items to be memorized over and over and over. 5.When reading for retention, summarize each paragraph in the margin. This requires you to think about what you're reading, recycle it, and teach it to yourself again. Even take the concepts you're learning and reason forward with them; apply them to imagined novel situations, which creates more neural connections to reinforce the memory. 6.Do most of your studying in the afternoon. Though you may identify yourself as a "morning person" or "evening person" at least one Study. Suggests your ability to memorize isn't influenced as much by what time of day you perceive yourself to be most alert but by the time of day you actually study—afternoon appearing to be the best. 7.Get adequate sleep to consolidate and retain memories. Not just at night after you've studied but the day, you study as well. Far better to do this than to stay up cramming all night for an exam.
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I am 38 years old male. I have intermittent explosive disorder from last 3 months.What to do?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
You must be able to distinguish between mental disease and mental disorder. Your problem is a mental disorder. Not a mental disease. These mental disorders are usually treated with a combination of medicines and other means like awareness, meditation, psychotherapy techniques, life style changes etc. I think two or three counseling sessions and psycho therapy techniques should solve your problem. Let me know if you are willing to undergo counseling sessions and tailor made psycho therapy through mobile. Take care.
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I am an introvert guy. But want to talk to people but i'm not able to do that. How can I become extrovert?

MBBS, MD (AIIMS, Gold Medalist), Diploma in CBT (UWS, Glasgow)
Psychiatrist, Delhi
I am an introvert guy. But want to talk to people but i'm not able to do that. How can I become extrovert?
Your intrinsic nature of being an introvert cannot be completely altered and there is no need to do so because being an introvert has several advantages. But, the disadvantages of being an introvert can be modified, thus getting benefits of both worlds. This is generally done by way of intensive psychotherapy. Medicines may help to some extent. If you are really keen on this and willing to put in effort and time, you can get back to me on this. Take care!
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Hi, I am asking should I drink alcohol? because I am taking it how can I get rid from it.

MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Chennai
Alcohol dependence involves intense craving or desire to drink alcohol. People drink for pleasure or rationalize it on external factors like family problems, work tension, etc. They drink continuously, i.e. Almost daily or even weekly once or twice with withdrawal symptoms, tolerance, bodily damage, etc. Due to alcohol they and/ or others are affected significantly. You need to consult a psychiatrist and go for 3 steps of de addiction. 1st is detoxification, when alcohol is stopped and the withdrawal is made smooth with minimal discomfort, 2 nd is maintenance and further deaddiction when the physical problems and psychological state of the individual is maintained and anti-craving drugs started 3 rd rehabilitation, when relapse prevention is the goal, while maintaining deaddiction. All the best.
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Hi, I am 31 years old male. I am suffering from anxiety, panic disorders and intrusive thoughts. I am also taking medicine for BP since last 2 years. I feel depress, full of negativity and all negative symptom like sleeping disorder suicidal thoughts etc. I am doubting everything including my sexuality. earlier I was so much wanted to have relation with a girl but suddenly my feeling changed My friends all used to tease on sexuality and making abusing comments on me like you like to eat what girls like and so on which I can't tell you also in paste faced abusing behavior which constantly appearing in my imagination. It was really a bad feeling. I am virgin now that also stuck in my mind like why I am still virgin. I was watching porn a lot but now stopped and I wanted to have sex but waiting till get married. Please guide.

Masters in Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Lucknow
Hi, I am 31 years old male. I am suffering from anxiety, panic disorders and intrusive thoughts. I am also taking med...
Hi lybrate-user, I can understand what you are going through. It must be overwhelming. I would like to know your schedule- your activities on a normal day. What makes you doubt on your sexuality- are not getting aroused now or something else? I would want you to start exercising daily for 30 minutes and practice mindfulness breathing daily for 15 minutes. Mindful Breathing The primary goal of mindful breathing is simply a calm, nonjudging awareness, allowing thoughts and feelings to come and go without getting caught up in them.  Sit comfortably, with your eyes closed and your spine reasonably straight. Bring your attention to your breathing. Imagine that you have a balloon in your tummy. Every time you breathe in, the balloon inflates. Each time you breathe out, the balloon deflates. Notice the sensations in your abdomen as the balloon inflates and deflates. Your abdomen rising with the in-breath, and falling with the out-breath. Thoughts will come into your mind, and that’s okay, because that’s just what the human mind does. Simply notice those thoughts, then bring your attention back to your breathing.  Likewise, you can notice sounds, physical feelings, and emotions, and again, just bring your attention back to your breathing. You don’t have to follow those thoughts or feelings, don’t judge yourself for having them, or analyse them in any way. It’s okay for the thoughts to be there. Just notice those thoughts, and let them drift on by, bringing your attention back to your breathing. Whenever you notice that your attention has drifted off and is becoming caught up in thoughts or feelings, simply note that the attention has drifted, and then gently bring the attention back to your breathing. It's okay and natural for thoughts to enter into your awareness, and for your attention to follow them. No matter how many times this happens, just keep bringing your attention back to your breathing. Have warm glass of milk and warm water bath during night to sleep well. Discuss your concerns with me for therapy.
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I am suffering from anxiety my brain think so much negative like death and bad health.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
I am suffering from anxiety my brain think so much negative like death and bad health.
Anxiety is a very normal emotion, which gives rise to feelings of nervousness every now and then. An anxiety disorder is a serious medical condition in which people experience a high degree of distress and mental trauma, which causes difficulties in leading a normal life. People suffering from this medical condition experience high levels of anxiety and nervousness almost all the time. Here are the symptoms that indicate you're suffering from anxiety disorder. 1. Excessive worry - This condition persists if you worry about the day to day activities a bit too much on a regular basis. It is identified when you start taking too much stress about very petty things, which tends to affect you in an adverse manner. A noticeable sign of excessive worry can be too much fatigue. 2. Sleep problems - Problems falling asleep at the right time and problems in maintaining a sound sleep are two signs that indicate you have an anxiety disorder. 3. Irrational fears - This symptom is not generalized; instead, it is specific and subjective in relation to a particular thing or situation. The fears that are experienced under this category are sudden and unexpected in nature and there is no fixed rationale behind these fears. 4. Muscle tension - Muscle discomfort and pain is one of the leading physiological causes of an anxiety disorder. The pain felt is chronic and pervasive, and is very common among people facing situations of anxiety. If you are exposed to constant periods of anxiety, you will experience fatigue, muscle pains and unwillingness to work. 5. Chronic indigestion - Problems related to the digestive system are also a sign of anxiety disorder. In this case, you may face constant digestive problems accompanied by a common disorder called IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome). IBS refers to an anxiety situation in the digestive tract, which is characterized by stomach aches, cramping, bloating, gas, constipation, and/or diarrhea. Apart from the above-mentioned symptoms, other symptoms of an anxiety disorder include stage fright, self- consciousness, panic attacks, memory flashbacks, perfectionism, compulsive behaviors, self- doubt, and such others. Symptoms vary depending on the type of anxiety disorder, but general symptoms include: •Feelings of panic, fear, and uneasiness. •Problems sleeping. •Cold or sweaty hands and/or feet. •Shortness of breath. •Heart palpitations. •An inability to be still and calm. •Dry mouth. •Numbness or tingling in the hands or feet. “Anxiety is a normal, predictable part of life. However, “people with an anxiety disorder are essentially phobic about the feeling state of anxiety.” And they’ll go to great lengths to avoid it. Some people experience generalized anxiety disorder (GAD), excessive anxiety about real-life concerns, such as money, relationships, health and academics, Others struggle with society anxiety, and worry about being evaluated or embarrassing themselves, he said. People with obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) might become preoccupied with symmetry or potential contamination. “The bottom line is that people can experience anxiety, and anxiety disorders, related to just about anything. Most of these steps contribute to a healthy and fulfilling life, overall. For instance, “making some basic lifestyle changes can do wonders for someone coping with elevated anxiety,” Take these steps from today. 1. Take a deep breath. “Deep diaphragmatic breathing triggers our relaxation response, switching from our fight-or-flight response of the sympathetic nervous system, to the relaxed, balanced response of our parasympathetic nervous system,” according to, clinical psychologists. Who have suggested the following exercise, which you can repeat several times: Inhale slowly to a count of four, starting at your belly and then moving into your chest. Gently hold your breath for four counts. Then slowly exhale to four counts. 2. Get active. “One of the most important things one can do [to cope with anxiety] is to get regular cardiovascular exercise,” For instance, a brisk 30- to 60-minute walk “releases endorphins that lead to a reduction in anxiety.” You can start today by taking a walk. Or create a list of physical activities that you enjoy, and put them on your schedule for the week. Other options include: running, rowing, rollerblading, hiking, biking, dancing, swimming, surfing, step aerobics, kickboxing and sports such as soccer, tennis and basketball. 3. Sleep well. Not getting enough sleep can trigger anxiety. If you’re having trouble sleeping, tonight, engage in a relaxing activity before bedtime, such as taking a warm bath, listening to soothing music or taking several deep breaths. And, if you’re like many people with anxiety whose brains start buzzing right before bed, jot down your worries earlier in the day for 10 to 15 minutes, or try a mental exercise like thinking of fruits with the same letter. 4. Challenge an anxious thought. “We all have moments wherein we unintentionally increase or maintain our own worry by thinking unhelpful thoughts. These thoughts are often unrealistic, inaccurate, or, to some extent, unreasonable,” Thankfully, we can change these thoughts. The first step is to identify them. Consider how a specific thought affects your feelings and behaviours. Is it helpful or unhelpful? These are the types of thoughts you want to challenge. Therefore it is suggested asking yourself: “Is this worry realistic?” “Is this really likely to happen?” “If the worst possible outcome happens, what would be so bad about that?” “Could I handle that?” “What might I do?” “If something bad happens, what might that mean about me?” “Is this really true or does it just seem that wa Then, “reframe or correct that thought to make it more accurate, realistic and more adaptive.” Here’s one example: “I would feel embarrassed if I tripped on the stage, but that’s just a feeling; it wouldn’t last forever, and I would get through it.” 5. Say an encouraging statement. Positive, accurate statements can help to put things into perspective. See these examples: “Anxiety is just a feeling, like any other feeling.” and “This feels bad, but I can use some strategies to [cope with] it.” 6. Stay connected to others. “Social support is vital to managing stress,” Today, call a loved one, schedule a Skype date or go to lunch with a close friend. “Talking with others can do a world of good.” Another option is to get together and engage in an activity that improves your anxiety, such as taking a walk, sitting on the beach or going to a yoga class. 7. Avoid caffeine. Managing anxiety is as much about what you do as what you don’t do. And there are some substances that exacerbate anxiety. Caffeine is one of those substances. As said, “The last thing people with anxiety need is a substance that makes them feel more amped up, which is exactly what caffeine does.” 8. Avoid mind-altering substances. “While drugs and alcohol might help to reduce anxiety in the short term, they often do just the opposite in the long term,” Even the short-term effect can be harmful. Experts have treated countless clients whose first panic attack occurred while they were taking drugs such as marijuana, ecstasy or LSD. “Panic attacks are bad enough if you are straight and sober, so imagine how bad they are if you are high, and can’t get un-high until the drug wears off.” 9. Do something you enjoy. Engaging in enjoyable activities helps to soothe your anxiety. For instance, today, you might take a walk, listen to music or read a book, 10. Take a break. It’s also helpful to build breaks into your day. As it is said, this might be a “simple change of pace or scenery, enjoying a hobby, or switching ‘to-do’ tasks.” “Breaking from concerted effort can be refreshing.” 11. Problem-solve. It is suggested considering how you can address the stressors that are causing your anxiety. Today, make a list of these stressors and next to each one, jot down one or two solutions. 12. Pick up a book. There are many valuable resources on anxiety, which teach you effective coping skills. Some recommended are Dying of Embarrassment for people with social anxiety; The BDD Workbook for body dysmorphic disorder; The Imp of the Mind and The OCD Workbook for obsessive-compulsive disorder. It is suggested Stop Obsessing for adults with OCD (and Up and Down the Worry Hill for kids with OCD). For people with panic attacks, it is suggested Don’t Panic: Taking Control of Anxiety Attacks. For a general overview of cognitive-behavioural therapy for anxiety, 13. Engage in calming practices. “Meditation, yoga, or other calming practices can help minimize anxiety in both the short and long term.” Sign up for a yoga class or watch a yoga video online. (Curvy Yoga is a wonderful and sizes.) Meditate right now for just three minutes resource for yoga for all shapes 14. Contact a therapist. “Sometimes anxiety can be difficult to manage without professional help,” Many organizations include databases of providers who specialize in anxiety (along with helpful information). 15. Accept your anxiety. “If you really want to effectively manage your anxiety, the key is to accept it,” This might sound counterintuitive. But anxiety, “in and of itself,” isn’t the real problem. Instead, it’s our attempts at controlling and eliminating it, he said. “Not accepting these unwanted inner experiences is the actual source of so much of our self-induced suffering.” Accepting anxiety doesn’t mean “resign[ing] ourselves to a life of anxious misery. It simply means that we are better off recognizing and fully accepting the existence of anxiety and other uncomfortable emotional states that are inevitable, but transitory,” So if you experience anxiety today, simply observe it. “Think of it like a wave of the ocean; allow it to come in, experience it, and ride it out.” Anxiety can feel overwhelming. It can feel like chains around your feet, weighing you down. But by taking small steps – like the ones above – you can minimize your anxiety and cope effectively.
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I'm in a relationship from last 8 months and we were very happy in beginning. He used to call me, text me, listened to me, understood me. But now things have completely changed. He feels bored with me, we make love sometimes but not sex. What should I do to bring back my relation?

Diploma in Family Medicine, M.Sc - Psychotherapy
Sexologist, Pune
A relationship changes many times during our life times. It may get better or may get worse. Sometimes it remains status quo. But at no point one can experience the same moments or feelings that one has experienced in the past. Because we also change during the course of time. Give yourself some time, if you really care for each other it is likely that you will stick on. But do not spoil the present moment with expectations. Just enjoy being with each other.
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Hi I'm 25years old. Please tell me how to get rid of social phobia. I can't speak and I can't face people who raising their voice for simple things also. Kindly tell me the way.

M.D,Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Amritsar
Social phobia is a psychiatric disorder. Start tab sertraline 50mg daily after breakfast. Continue and report after2 weeks.
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I am talking myself in nights while sleeping. Please tell me how to get rid of it?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
I am talking myself in nights while sleeping. Please tell me how to get rid of it?
Dear user. Sleep talking, or somniloquy, is the act of speaking during sleep. It's a type of parasomnia -- an abnormal behavior that takes place during sleep. It's a very common occurrence and is not usually considered a medical problem. Ignore it for better results. Take care.
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Hello, My Husband shows high anger on small things. Even for small mistakes he thinks a lot feel sad, get angry. Je doesn't have control when he gets angry. Even in love he behaves same. He have lots of love and in sad. He will be sad. Even if we try to ask him to o control he said he can't. I don't know what to do. Help me.

L L. B..,, M.Sc psychy,, N L P, P.G.D.G.C, M.S psychotherapy,, M.A child care, M A, clinical psy, M.A,social psychiatry,, M.Phil., psychology., Ph.D .,psychology
Psychologist, Vijayawada
Your husband is in emotional in balance. Emotional relaxational therapy helps him very much. Analyse his conditions of mental health. To know reasons of his personal problems. Why he is unable to control his thoughts. Later modify his behavioral thoughts. Please consult good psychologist.
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Do we any solutions for the Parkinson disease in India? Is it a heredity disease? Past 2 years my uncle is suffering from parkinson.

MSPT (Master of Physical Therapy)
Physiotherapist, Chennai
There are a lot of advanced options available for management of parkinson disease. Brain implants are giving good results. Give good therapy as well.
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How can I stop excessive thoughts and concentrate my mind. Due to this I'm not able to focus on any work.

BHMS
Homeopath, Faridabad
How can I stop excessive thoughts and concentrate my mind. Due to this I'm not able to focus on any work.
Hi. Homoeopathic medicines are very effective for increasing concentration, but if done with yoga, will give you great results! But practice the following poses if you don’t have any medical condition or pregnancy or else take an advice from your concern doctor and then only perform these. 1.Shashankasana: Sit in Vajrasana with hands on the thighs. The upper body is straight and relaxed. Inhaling raise both arms above the head. Exhaling keep the back straight and bend upper body and arms forward from the hips, until arms and forehead touch the floor. The buttocks remain on the heels. Breathing normally remain in this position for a while. Relax the whole body, especially the shoulders, neck and back. Inhaling keep the back straight and raise the upper body and arms. Exhaling return to the starting position. Practice the exercise 3 times in total. Remain bending forward for sometime and consciously perceive the movement of the breath on the spine. 2.Virasana: Sit in Vajrasana. Hands rest on the thighs and the body is relaxed. Bring the left foot beside the right knee with the sole of the foot flat on the floor. Place the left elbow on the left knee and rest the chin in the hand. Right hand rests on the right thigh. Tuck the toes of the right foot under. The right knee remains in contact with the floor. Transfer the weight onto the right heel. Concentrate on a fixed point in front. Breathing normally remain in this position for as long as comfortable. Return to the starting position. Repeat on the other side. 3.Sit in Vajrasana. Body is straight and hands rest on the thighs. Relax the whole body. Inhaling stretch the arms above the head, then bring them behind the back and grasp the left wrist with the right hand. Exhaling bend the body forward from the hips, keeping the back straight, until the forehead touches the floor. The buttocks remain on the heels. Breathing normally concentrate on the whole body and relax. Remain in this position for as long as comfortable. Inhaling slowly bring the body upright. At the same time stretch the arms above the head. Exhaling return to the starting position. Medication: Take homoeopathic medicine - Anacardium 200/ once daily.
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Hi there are any other person is an excellent idea what to say that I can see a lot of the organisation and a bit t to the right thing to remember the name of a problem with what you want me to be a bit like.

BHMS
Homeopath, Raebareli
Hi there are any other person is an excellent idea what to say that I can see a lot of the organisation and a bit t t...
Cognitive therapy using speech or language therapist can be of help in patients with mild to moderate memory loss.
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Opinion on controlled intake of alcohol. Which is less harmful-Whisky brandy vodka or beer.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
All alcohols are equally harmful. There is no safe alcohol and more harmful ones. Controlled intake can lead to severe addiction later on. So it is advised not to have alcohol even in controlled manner.
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I have anxieties problem and also depression get the tension any small problems I have social phobia like fear with speak please advice suitable medicine.

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Mumbai
I have anxieties problem and also depression get the tension any small problems I have social phobia like fear with s...
Tremors, feeling anxious or nervous, sense of panic, sweating, increased heartbeat, feeling of impending doom, stomach discomfort, dizziness etc are signs of anxiety. These can be debilitating. If the anxiety us overwhelming, consult a psychiatrist at the earliest. With the right medication and counseling, it is likely your symptoms will improve. Other than that, try yoga, deep breathing, meditation, moderate exercise, progressive muscular relaxation and guided meditation.
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If I swallow the garlic is it cures the night fall problem? please answer me my age is 19 I didn't addicted to alcohols.Please tell.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
If I swallow the garlic is it cures the night fall problem? please answer me my age is 19 I didn't addicted to alcoho...
Nonsense, there is no connection between nightfall and garlic. Garlic is good for you. Nocturnal emissions are absolutely normal anyway and it is a discharge of excess semen and is a natural process. At this age, there will be more of this activity and is absolutely normal.
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Hello doctor, Am married. Am 4 months pregnant too. Now a days I cannot control my emotions. Am feeling emptiness in my life. This is my second marriage. But love marriage. So no parents support still. So am taking care of my pregnancy. Thing is we were decide to register our marriage in front of my parents. But they are not ready to do anything for us. Then I confirmed my pregnancy 2 months back. We are so happy. He is also having daughter but he is not speaking to his ex wife. But still he is taking care of his daughter. I just accepted all these. Some 25 days back his one of college friend started to message him. She is married and having 2 female kids. She is not happy with her husband. She was my husband’s close friend. Earlier I didn’t take much serious. One day I had to see their message. From that message she is trying to occupy my husband. My husband mind get distracted. I warned him smooth. But he didn’t listen. He told some reasons. We had discussion regard this. He told, he ll maintain his limits. But she is living in Australia. She wants to meet him in hotel. They r planned to book a room to meet. I frankly asked him regard this. He told, “she knows she is doing bad. So cannot meet out. We are just friend am not going to do anything physical. She does’t need any physical. She wants some care. She is my 13 year friend. So I cannot stop her feelings”. Doctor I do not know what to do. I spoke to him very calmly. But no result. He feels am not trusting him. But there is very less chance to meet together. Because she cannot come alone from her home to here only for meeting. He is speaking and discussing something with me. But he is messaging as her lover. She is taking much advantage. There is no time limits. She is keep on msging to him. If he didn’t respond she is calling. Daily 6 hr minimum they r chanting or speaking. Because of this am getting more depress. I tried to take care of him as my best. But no result from his side. Still he is msging to her. Please let help me to solve this issue. I don’t know how long time they may going to msg like this. totally my all happiness and family life gone. Now a days he is not attaching with me. He didn’t allow me to touch him. He is trying himself to stay away from me. He is always angry towards me. It all happening because of that girl. Please advice me how to handle this.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
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Am married. Am 4 months pregnant too. Now a days I cannot control my emotions. Am feeling emptiness in ...
You need to be in absolutely good health both emotionally and physically for the pregnancy's sake. There is obviously something more than meet the eye going on in this contact. She, being in Australia where their culture somewhat permits these type of liaisons, you cannot just blindly trust their intentions. The fact that they need to meet is itself a sign that there is more to this meeting. Please go and meet a marriage counselor and sort out these problems before it gets too late, which I suspect that it may be already too late. Since you do not have parental backup, you depend a lot on this relationship being steady. You must fight for this resolution but try as much as possible to avoid too much stress. You cannot continue to kind and soft about saving your marriage at this juncture and after what has been going on. There is a risk that he may just dump you but that does not mean you should​ just concede without a good fight.
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My friend is 48 yrs old extremely intelligent and successful business man. He always had the habit of worrying too much. Lately he started hearing voices. He went to ENT and was told he is suffering from SCHIZOPHRENIA. He is absolutely normal a. Earlier he was a very optimistic person nowadays he has become pessimistic. This is the only apparent change in him. Can his situation worsen if untreated. What is the course of action to be taken. As a friend how can I support him.

MD - Psychiatry, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Delhi
Your friend appears to be having psychosis and he needs a detailed psychiatric evaluation. Schizophrenia is a possibility, but other disorders which may cause hearing of voices (hallucinations) need to be assessed as well. During this period, it is very important to give him a good patient listening, a family member/close friend should accompany him to a psychiatrist for evaluation asap and we should ensure that he takes treatment (medicines and counselling) regularly and someone should be with him most of the time for the first 2-3 weeks.
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