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Dr. Saikat Chatterjee

Psychiatrist, Kolkata

Dr. Saikat Chatterjee Psychiatrist, Kolkata
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My favorite part of being a doctor is the opportunity to directly improve the health and wellbeing of my patients and to develop professional and personal relationships with them....more
My favorite part of being a doctor is the opportunity to directly improve the health and wellbeing of my patients and to develop professional and personal relationships with them.
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Dr. Saikat Chatterjee is an experienced Psychiatrist in Tollygunge, Kolkata. You can visit him at Mood Psychiatric & Drug DE Addiction Society in Tollygunge, Kolkata. Don’t wait in a queue, book an instant appointment online with Dr. Saikat Chatterjee on Lybrate.com.

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Health Tip:
Worrying has become a national pastime. Whether you're worrying about repaying your college loan, having job stability in an unstable economy or making sure your toddler hits all the developmental milestones at the right times, there's no shortage of material for mind sweat.

Especially for those of us interested in wellness, it can almost feel tiring to be told the importance of "letting go," "relaxing" and "unwinding." While this advice is ultimately right, there's also good reason we might feel inclined to resist it. The simple reason? Biology: all of our brains are wired to worry.

Basically, the same brain circuits that make for super human intelligence in our frontal lobes (allowing decision making, problem solving, and planning) also produce worry. For your brain, the only difference between worrying and planning is the amount of emotional involvement and self-oriented processing in a specific part of the brain. Of course, we all know worrying is charged with more negative emotions.

But your brain's number one priority is keeping you alive, and it's evolved to do that very well. Sometimes, worrying is the body's response to danger, an evolutionary mechanism to keep you alive.

But you can take concrete steps to climb out of the worry trap. You have to learn to soothe and guide your thinking brain and calm it's fear circuit. Here are some ways to begin:

1. Cultivate greater awareness about your emotions.

The first step to decreasing worry is to recognize when you're doing it. Becoming aware of your emotional state as it occurs enlists your thinking frontal cortex and suppresses the fight or flight amygdala response. In the study Putting Feelings Into Words, when participants simply labeled an emotion, their brains calmed down.

2. Take a deep breath (ideally many of them).

Taking slow, deep breaths through your nose into your diaphragm with slow exhales turns down your nervous system and reduces your body's stress response. This advice is undoubtedly not the most original, but that doesn't mean it's not effective. Think of it this way: if your breathing and heart rate naturally speed up when you are under stress, you can choose to reverse your response — by breathing slowly. This will send your body the message "I am relaxed," and you will become more relaxed as a result. It's like magic, with science.

3. Don't look back or forward.

When you find your mind drifting into the past or future, come back to the present moment, right here right now — a practice known as mindfulness. In this moment, you are OK. Your thoughts are creating your sense of danger. Bringing your awareness back into the now calms the fearful amygdala in your brain and activates your thinking neural circuits. Studies show that with repetition, mindfulness practice can lead to long term, lasting reduction of anxiety and worrying.

4. Pay attention only to what you can control.

Your brain craves control and feels happier and calmer when it just feels more in control — even if it's just an illusion. Feeling in control can reduce anxiety, worrying, and even pain. So, avoid imagining the worst possible scenarios, and instead pay more attention to what is in your control, which modulates brain activity to reduce anxiety.

5. Make a decision, even if you don't really want to.

Simply making a decision about whatever it is that you're worrying invokes your thinking brain, increases dopamine levels, and shifts your brain's perceptual focus on the things that matter the most. Making a decision — any decision — also elevates your perceived control giving your confidence and mood a boost which helps you to take positive action.

6. Go for good enough.

Worrying is often triggered by imposing unrealistic or perfectionist expectations on yourself or others. Don't aim for being the perfect parent; just be a good one. Your kid doesn't have to get into an Ivy League college. They just need to go to college. You don't have to be model thin. You just want to be healthy.

The problem with worry arises when the brain anxiety-circuits activate too frequently and get stuck in the "on" position continually which triggers the body's fear response. This then activates the stress response — which starts a downward spiral ... making you a miserable mess. So rather than make yourself more stressed out by worrying-about-worrying, think of worry as your brain just doing its job. You just don't want it to get too enthusiastic.
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My husband cheated me by chatting with different ladies online so I m in depression n not able to come out of it I get a flash of his conversation with her. N also bad dreams about him. I get irritable when I think that n feel like taking revenge so hope I am normal.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
My husband cheated me by chatting with different ladies online so I m in depression n not able to come out of it I ge...
Dear, you should be able to distinguish between disappointment and depression. Disappointment also brings on symptoms identical to depression but they are short lived. In this situation, you are worried that your husband may desert you and live with somebody else. That also means you don't trust him. Lack of trust in your husband can destroy both of your life. Please trust him. Love him so much that he will come back to you from that woman you are suspecting. That is the only way out. Take care.
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My wife have need of Psycatric therapy , she always feeling fear from God

B.H.M.S., Senior Homeopath Consultant
Homeopath,
Please give her Dr. Reckeweg's vita c - 15 / two teaspoon thrice a day for one month. Revert back after one month with feedback.
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I am getting more anger within secs for even small things which I dnt like what should I do to reduce it.

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Bangalore
Hi, you can reduce your anger by doing meditation daily for at least 30 min. Deep breath relaxation technique and psychotherapy can help you. If you get anger do / talk nothing for 10 -15 minutes, bcz you usually do wrong during anger. If still persists consult psychiatrist.
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I am really depressed. And I have tried everything but I think I should take medication.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I am really depressed. And I have tried everything but I think I should take medication.
You must go and meet with a counselor immediately and if that person advises that you meet with a doctor you must do so and cooperate to your utmost. Please visit these professionals along with your parents. In the meantime please do the following sincerely because you could resolve the problem better with good cooperation: Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. I suggest you do the opposite of what this depression makes you feel like doing (actually, not doing): you will need to fight this condition. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least, 30 minutes but not in the scorching heat. Whatever happens, please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate your sufferings. Don’t wait for others to help. Use your own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but persevere and win this battle. Above all to be really happy, you need to live in love and for love. Learn all about emotions and how to handle them and that will get you out of the depression rather easily and quickly. A counselor is there only to facilitate you, all the hard word must come from you, and your cooperation with that person is very critical for your success. Be positive every day and learn to be contented with what you have. Do some left brain exercises: it is the happy brain. Here are a few suggestions: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. Whatever happens please cooperate with the therapy and do not discontinue until the condition is completely resolved.
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I have depression since three years and I stopped antidepressants before six month. I am working in a college as a lab assistant. It's a less pressure and less hour work. But salary is less and my wife don't want to adjust. I get an offer from one company with good salary so I joined it just to test myself taking leave at current work. My opinion is to find some other earning source.

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Guwahati
I have depression since three years and I stopped antidepressants before six month. I am working in a college as a la...
Just make comfortable with the surrounding. Regular meditation and yoga would be helpful. If once again develop symptoms of depression you have to start prevoius medications after consultation with your psychiatrist.
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I am suffering from body paining and back and neck paining and frequency of urine from teenage years. I have gone through doctor treatment but shows no result. I have taken medicine now.

MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Chennai
I am suffering from body paining and back and neck paining and frequency of urine from teenage years. I have gone thr...
Symptoms are suggestive of anxiety, you need to consult a psychiatrist and get treated. All the best.
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I am unable to perform sex and I have feel no sex inside me. I feel am not man. I am obese person. I am not interested do to exercise. I like to do u-lipo. Please suggest me it good. A also my penis size is very small. I went to psychiatrist for depression and headache.

Masters in Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Lucknow
I am unable to perform sex and I have feel no sex inside me. I feel am not man. I am obese person. I am not intereste...
Hi lybrate-user I understand what you are going through. 1. There is no perfect penis size. Any size would do and make you have a satisfactory sexual life. 2. I feel you have body shaming. You are ashamed of being obese and that's why you avoid being intimate with anyone. You can go for liposuction altho exercise would be very healthy not only to reduce weight but for overall mental and emotional weelbeing too. Consult with me for therapy. All the best.
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What are the disadvantages caused by smoking and drinking alcohol regularly and which parts of body damages a lot because of smoking.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear Lybrate user. Alcohol is poison and it directly affects liver and brain. Smoking cigarettes or beedi can cause cancer, respirator disorder and brain disorders. Take care.
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I am a schizophrenia patient and addicted to tobacco. Will leaving the tobacco at one instance increase risk of pschyotic attack of schizophrenia?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Never. Instead, quitting tobacco is actually going to help you in the treatment of schizophrenia. Go ahead and quit smoking. Take care.
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His kindly let me know can I take ayurvedic or alopathic medicine for anxiety simultaneously.

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry, MBA (Healthcare)
Psychiatrist, Davanagere
His kindly let me know can I take ayurvedic or alopathic medicine for anxiety simultaneously.
Good Morning ~ Since I am not well versed in ayurvedic medications, I advise you to have at least an hour's gap between the two medications. If you need a second opinion regarding your allopathic medications, I will be more than happy to help. Look forward to hearing from you. If you need help with booking an appointment online with me on this website either text, audio or video appointment for confidential and private consultation you may do so by contacting the help desk of Lybrate.
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Alcohol Athletes: Can it affect fitness Performance?

B.Sc. Food & Nutrition, M.Sc. Food & Nutrition
Dietitian/Nutritionist, Bangalore
Alcohol Athletes: Can it affect fitness Performance?

A lot of people believe in hitting the gym during the day and then a bar at night. One feels there's no harm in drinking a little amount of alcohol now and then. Don't drink and drive isn't only for behind the wheels, it's also on the field (and the gym).

First, let's give you a list of how alcohol can affect your body, and then we can get down to details! keep in mind these effects are within 48 hours of alcohol consumption, that too just after 2-3 standard drinks.

Decrease strength
Impair hand-eye coordination
Increase fatigue (by impacting liver function)
Mineral and vitamin depletion
Disturbed sleep
Impact cellular repair (since protein is affected negatively)
Dehydration thus affecting the kidneys
Loss of endurance
Unwanted weight gain

Do you really need me to go on alcohol isn't something that recommended for most people; for athlete's it just makes matters worse. While you're training or competing, it's best to stay away from alcohol! though, the best solution is to give it up completely to live a healthy lifestyle. Now let's get down to some technical details of how it impacts your organs (just so you don't think I'm talking in air.)

So first things first. Alcohol cannot be stored as energy. This means all the alcohol in your body is converted into fat hence the term beer belly.
    
Alcohol's effect on the liver can cause a problem in the production of oxygen which then interferes with the production of atp ie a direct source of energy for the muscles.
    
Sadly drinking alcohol before your workout hinders the circulation of glucose which is essential for energy. It has also been scientifically proven that alcohol diminishes protein synthesis which in turn stops muscle growth by preventing the repair of damaged muscles.
    
Another thing alcohol does is increase the urge to urinate which leads to loss of electrolytes. No no, I'm not done yet. I've got so much more fun facts related to alcohol.

Since alcohol is a toxin it disrupts the normal cell function.
    
Alcohol also inhibits the absorption of essential minerals like zinc, folic acid, vitamin b12 etc which are needed for metabolism and new cell growth (muscle cell included). 
    
The consumption of alcohol provides only empty calories which in turn displace valuable nutrients. That's just a loss of essentials and an increase of fat!
    
Do note, heavy drinking for a night can negatively affect the brain and bodily activities for 3 whole days whereas 2 nights of consecutive heavy drinking leave an impact for 5 days! evidently dehydration, fatigue, and headaches  commonly known as hangovers really don't mix well with the physical demands of our body.
    
Alcohol disrupts your sleep cycle which in turn leads a reduction in the ability to learn and retain new information. This could range from new skills to studying games or even applying strategies in a game.
    
Excessive alcohol can prevent the secretion of human growth hormone which is essential for muscle growth as well as recovery. For an athlete, that's bad. Bad
    

It's always better to prioritize a good day's workout over a night of heavy drinking. At least the workout leaves you worn out and exhausted craving for more! alcohol just leaves you with a bad hangover which leads to false swears of never drinking again.

Eat clean, drink healthy and stay fit!

In case of any query or to book an appointment with dt. Silky mahajan please send us a mail at info@foodsandnutrition. In or call on 08067417780 (dial extension:778)

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I am a 22 years old male. Me jab bhi apne sir ko ya senior ko call krta hu like job ke liye ya simple query ke liye tabhi ek dam se mere dil me dar sa lagta h pta nhi kyu jaise jaise call ki ring jaati h ese ese dar badta rehta h or fir jab call uth jaati h us time me jyada perfect bat nhi kar pata hu ek dar sa lga rehta h. For example agar me kisi se job ke liye bat krta hu phone pr to ajeeb sa dar lagta h or me apni bat shi se bhi nhi bol pata or mujhe jyada nye logo se milna bhi achha nhi lagta h but in sab bato se mera career nhi ban rha h please help me with this problem what should I do thank you.

MD- Homeopathy
Homeopath, Hyderabad
I am a 22 years old male. Me jab bhi apne sir ko ya senior ko call krta hu like job ke liye ya simple query ke liye t...
Don't worry. Be confident. Believe in yourself. You can do it. Medicine will only support you. You have to increase your confidence by yourself. Practice speaking with others. Start with your mirror n then slowly with family friends n then strangers. No one can judge you. You only know what you are. So just cheer up. Life is beautiful, enjoy it when you call someone take deep breath n say to yourself I am the best n I can't do anything wrong. Take lycopodium 200 4 pills once a week for 15 days and then revert. Take care.
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I sm feeling depressed dance my mother passed in 2014. How I need to overcome this.

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Mumbai
I sm feeling depressed dance my mother passed in 2014. How I need to overcome this.
It is natural to feel low and miss the person you have lost. However if it is interfering with your sleep, studies or general well being, or if you feel suicidal, you need to consult a psychiatrist. It is common to feel low, cry, feel like you are alone, or lose your self confidence. Usually time is the best healer. However if things are too difficult to handle you should talk to a psychiatrist or counselor. Confide in someone close to you, who will support you in this difficult time. Don't cut off from friends or family, even if you feel like you want to be alone.
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I am a 25 years old from Bangalore I am a drug addicted person I had been using smoke cigerate gutkas pan etc I want to leave everything what medication an procedure should I used.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lybrate-user, Welcome to Lybrate. Addiction is abuse and addiction. If you’re ready to stop the substance and willing to get the support you need, you can recover from addiction and abuse —no matter how bad the addiction or how powerless you feel. The first step in treating addiction is accepting that you have a problem. Confronting an addiction and accepting responsibility for your actions isn’t easy. But it’s a necessary step on the road to treatment and recovery. You should then consult a psychiatrist / psychologist who fill follow this treatment. 1. Detoxification using medicines. 2. Behavior modification with the help of therapies. 3. Counseling. 4. Medication to sustain and 5. Long term support. These given steps are essential for any addict to get effectively rid of addiction. Therefore, you need to stick to the treatment plan and cooperate with your psychiatrist / psychologist. Take care.
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I am 60 years old always I am thinking negative I do not know how it happens I am peacefully leading my life please advise.

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I am 60 years old always I am thinking negative I do not know how it happens I am peacefully leading my life please a...
YOu have to practise mind control by meditaion and yoga , reading good books and listening to music .Practice these simple exercises and suggestions to keep your thoughts on the positive side. Only use positive words when talking. If you’re constantly telling yourself “I can’t” you may convince yourself that’s the truth. Replace these negative words with positive ones instead. Tell yourself you will do your best or that you will try your hardest instead. Push out all feelings that aren’t positive. Don’t let negative thoughts and feelings overwhelm you when you’re feeling down. Even if it’s only for a few hours a day, push your negativity aside and only focus on the good things in your life. Use words that evoke strength and success. Try filling your thoughts with words that make you feel strong, happy and in control of your life. Make a concentrated effort to focus on these words rather than those that make you feel like you are failing or incompetent. Practice positive affirmation. One of the most popular positive thinking exercises is positive affirmation. This means you repeat a positive phrase to yourself on a regular basis like “I deserve to be happy” or “I am worthy of love”. Believing that these things are true, and reminding yourself of it can help give you a more positive outlook on life. Direct your thoughts. This technique, used by psychotherapists, can help you to control your thoughts when you start to feel down or anxious. Create a happy thought, a positive image, or give yourself positive feedback to keep bad feelings in check. Believe you will succeed. There is nothing like believing in yourself to create a successful reality. Give yourself the benefit of the doubt and believe that you will succeed at fulfilling your goals. Analyze what went wrong. Thinking positively doesn’t mean denying that there is anything wrong. Instead, give yourself some time to think about the things that led up to your current situation so you can avoid future mistakes and look toward a more positive tomorrow. Give yourself credit. Often when we feel frustrated or upset we only concentrate on the bad things or the mistakes we’ve made instead of giving ourselves credit for what we do right. Allow yourself to feel confident about the things you have accomplished, even if you’ve messed up in other areas. Forgive yourself. Constantly beating yourself up about things that have gone wrong won’t change them. Tell yourself that you’re forgiven for your mistakes and allow yourself to move on. Learn from the past. The past is behind you and no matter how badly things went there is nothing you can do to change them. Whenever you feel negative thoughts about the past come up, replace them with positive thoughts about the future. Remember things could be worse. No matter how bad things get remember that they could be worse and be grateful for all the good things that are in your life, even when it seems there’s more bad than good. Think of it as an opportunity. Sometimes even the seemingly negative things in our lives present us with opportunities we wouldn’t have been strong enough to pursue otherwise. Maybe losing your job is just the chance you need to start your own business or go back to school. Come up with ideas of how to turn negative thoughts into positive ones. If you find yourself thinking you should have done this or that differently, try changing your thoughts around. Instead give yourself credit for what you did do, remember that you are not perfect or that you can do better next time. Work on visualization. Picturing what you want to accomplish or the person you’d like to be can be a great motivator to getting you there and helping you feel more positive about the distance you have to go yet. Think of ways to turn visualization into action. The next natural step of this is to think of just how you’re going to get to where you see yourself. Just picturing it isn’t going to make it happen, so create a plan to take it one step at a time until you’ve made it. Practice self-hypnosis. Self-hypnosis brings about a highly conscious state of mind that is willing to follow instructions. This means you’ll be more open to positive suggestions that will allow you to be happier and hopefully healthier in your life. List the reasons you will get what you want. If you are having trouble believing that you’ll get that big promotion or that your book will get published try sitting down and coming up with a list of reasons that you will get what you want rather than focusing on the reasons you might not.
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Gd mrng sir. Mera age 19 he mujhe memory improve karna he to konsa herbal medicine luun suna he aswagandha he. Par kya dodge he kis tarah lun kiya aur acha solution batayenge please .

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lybrate user, welcome to lybrate. Memory and mind power depends mainly on three aspects. Understanding, storage and recollection. To understand what you are studying, you must be able to be attentive or concentrate. Concentration is possible when you are interested in that subject. Creative way of learning can help you concentrate and understand easily. When you are able to understand and concentrate, it is stored within your brain. If you read more and more it will be store in long term memory. Third part is retrieval. Whenever you want to retrive what you learned and stored, your brain gets the request, searches the database and retrieves the information for you. The retrieval may prove to be difficult if you are anxious, stressed, worried or tired physically or mentally. Retrieval is more easy when you are relaxed and healthy. Brain needs nutrients to keep itself sharp. Fruits, vegetables and dry fruits provide much needed nutrients for your brain. Include at least one fruit in your daily diet. Physical exercises, entertainment, hobbies, relaxation, memory games like sudoku etc help keep your memory sharp and active. Take care.
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I am depressed and I am consulting a psychologist. How much time it can take for the treatment?

MBBS, DPM
Psychiatrist, Bangalore
I am depressed and I am consulting a psychologist. How much time it can take for the treatment?
Dear lybrate-user, I don't know what type of treatment you are taking from psychologist. If it is cognitive therapy it can be anywhere between 5 months to 6 months of weekly sessions. One needs to go step by step in therapy and it takes many sessions. Usually 18-20 sessions will do if you are regular to sessions.
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Lessons from Deepika and Ranbir on How to Manage Relationships Against All Odds

Masters of Philosphy, Master of Science, Bachelor of Sciences
Psychologist, Kolkata
Lessons from Deepika and Ranbir on How to Manage Relationships Against All Odds
Deepika and Ranbir show you how to manage relationships against all odds

Relationships may or may not always pan out the way you expect them to. Be it with a friend, family member or your partner, certain relationships may end up getting bitter over time. The reasons for this may be tensions in the relationship, break-ups, lack of compatibility, infidelity, lack of attention to details, over familiarity and so on. Although such incidents may scar you forever, it is always possible to mend your relationships, if you intend to.

The first thing you can do is to try to build a new friendship, whether it’s with your ex-lover or anyone else you may have had a fall-out with. Take for example, the former couple- Ranbir Kapoor and Deepika Padukone. These Bollywood celebrities have flawlessly transitioned from being ex-lovers to being good friends.

So how did they do it?
Through 3 simple ways Ranbir and Deepika were able to heal the past and forge a new and meaningful relationship:

1. They kept it formal while setting boundaries

Ranbir and Deepika comfortably worked with each other in several movies as on-screen lovers with no insecurities. The reason they were able to do this was because they had set clear emotional boundaries.
Being secure is essential for you to stop yourself from reliving the past. Setting clear boundaries may help you in accepting that things are different now and the relationship has changed. Both the concerned people must respect each other’s decisions in order to have cordial relations and not be uncomfortable in the other’s presence.

2. They accepted the differences between them

Ranbir and Deepika were only successful in maintaining a cordial relationship because they had embraced each other’s differences rather than attempting to change each other.
You can only do this by giving yourself a little time. You can personally try to accept how every individual has a set of distinct characteristics and then try to respect and accept them for it.

3. They were polite and lived in the present

Even after having a checkered history together Ranbir and Deepika chose to remain courteous and amicable towards one another. They only focused on the present scenario, instead of mulling over past grievances - The biggest reason why they are on such good terms.
You should try to forget the past and hope for an improved future. Whether you meet at a social or an official gathering, you must hold your ground, be professional and courteous towards the concerned person. Participating in loose gossip about the individual or acting petty doesn’t reflect well on your personality.
Also, living in the past is a sign of an unhealthy state of mind. Learn to let go, and move on.

By learning from the real-life example of Deepika and Ranbir, you too can balance all your relationships well, no matter what happens.

If you would like to consult with me privately, please click on 'Consult'.
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