Common Specialities
{{speciality.keyWord}}
Common Issues
{{issue.keyWord}}
Common Treatments
{{treatment.keyWord}}

Dr. Rupa Talukdar

Psychologist, Kolkata

Dr. Rupa Talukdar Psychologist, Kolkata
Submit Feedback
Report Issue
Get Help
Feed
Services

Personal Statement

Our team includes experienced and caring professionals who share the belief that our care should be comprehensive and courteous - responding fully to your individual needs and preferences....more
Our team includes experienced and caring professionals who share the belief that our care should be comprehensive and courteous - responding fully to your individual needs and preferences.
More about Dr. Rupa Talukdar
Dr. Rupa Talukdar is a popular Psychologist in College Street, Kolkata. You can visit her at Mind's Eye in College Street, Kolkata. Save your time and book an appointment online with Dr. Rupa Talukdar on Lybrate.com.

Lybrate.com has top trusted Psychologists from across India. You will find Psychologists with more than 31 years of experience on Lybrate.com. You can find Psychologists online in Kolkata and from across India. View the profile of medical specialists and their reviews from other patients to make an informed decision.

Info

Languages spoken
English
Hindi
Professional Memberships
Rehabilitation Council of India (RCI)

Location

Book Clinic Appointment

Mind's Eye

#5, Bidhan Sarani, Flat-3/D, College Street. Landmark: Near Vidyasagar College & Opp. Kali Mandir, KolkataKolkata Get Directions
...more
View All

Consult Online

Text Consult
Send multiple messages/attachments
7 days validity
Consult Now

Services

View All Services

Submit Feedback

Submit a review for Dr. Rupa Talukdar

Your feedback matters!
Write a Review

Feed

Nothing posted by this doctor yet. Here are some posts by similar doctors.

Hi doctor, I hv extracted 3molar teeth more than a year back and I couldn't extract the 4th one/dur to stress in college.(i was said that all 4molar shld be removed since it has no space to grow and its starts decaying). So nw my question is will this un extracted tooth make other teeth weak? N my mouth got bad smell due to that tooth, is der any other problems if I dnt remove the tooth? Thank you.

BDS
Dentist, Ghaziabad
Hi doctor, I hv extracted 3molar teeth more than a year back and I couldn't extract the 4th one/dur to stress in coll...
Hello. Yes these 3rd molors should get extracted because they will strat hurting there near one and harm those. Bad smell is due to food lodgement and pocket formation irt erupting tooth. So you should get these tooth extracted.
Submit FeedbackFeedback

I can not concentrate on my work since the day I broke up with her. Please help me.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
It looks like you are pining for her after the break up. Have you analyzed why you two had this fallout? If it your fault, then apologize and see if she is amenable. If not you may have done something quite unforgivable. It seems you have discovered that a heterosexual relationship is very different from normal relations. It is very intense, and the very thing that makes it attractive (the opposite sex and all its nuances), can also be its nemesis. You must learn what that difference was about your past relations and this particular one and find out how to live with a love relationship. There must be love, respect, commitment, honesty, trust, and freedom in the romantic scene. If however, this is final, then remove all associations of hers: gifts, notes, letters, cards, emails, and any reminders to get her out of your system, not just the mind. Keep the good memories but don’t indulge in them. Get back to your old pals and revive those contacts. Normally when we get a girl friend, we drop all our friends and live exclusively with her. This is not a good thing to do, generally. So do get back to them and get into good social circles. They will help you get over her. Do not talk ill or malign your ex to your friends, whatever was the reason. That is unfortunately a very bad habit many of us have – we must still respect her reputation and treat her with dignity. Since this break up is so serious for you that you cannot concentrate, do meet up with a counselor and talk about your feelings, openly. This is not the end of the world and she is not the only girl in life. You will find another but learn not to repeat the mistakes that led to the breakup. This time choose wisely and behave like a true gentleman.
Submit FeedbackFeedback

I'm into a serious problem. I remember every incident with the dates but certain things I'm not at all able to remember for which I've proofs. please help me.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear Lybrate user, At your age, Memory problems like amnesia are not common. Many young people are having problems with memory. These problems are either they are too busy or due to anxiety and stress. Busy people use organizers or employ a personal assistant because they can't remember every task. You need to understand this. If you still say, you are having memory problems, we need to check your memory using memory test. If you want more of my help in this regard, please contact me. Take care.
Submit FeedbackFeedback

I am suffering for my breakup I lost lost everything in my life I am very upset now please tell me any solution.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
I am suffering for my breakup I lost lost everything in my life I am very upset now please tell me any solution.
You need to cheer up and realise that one break up is not the end of life and you have many chances lying ahead and go on positively.
Submit FeedbackFeedback

Good Afternoon Sir/madam, I want to ask about my bad habits. I am to much like addicted to my phone. I can't concentrate on my study+job well. How to control my minds and heart ?. Thanks

MBBS
General Physician, Mumbai
I will suggest you to do suryanamaskar pranayam daily as per your capacity for a minimum of six months.
1 person found this helpful
Submit FeedbackFeedback

Can the adverse effects of alcohol like low libido and poor sexual function and low testosterone levels be reversed by quitting alcohol? Or need to be on some medication? Query for 32 year old male weighing 86 Kgs, height 5'8.

MBBS, MD (AIIMS, Gold Medalist), Diploma in CBT (UWS, Glasgow)
Psychiatrist, Delhi
Can the adverse effects of alcohol like low libido and poor sexual function and low testosterone levels be reversed b...
Dear lybrate-user, please remember that no medication can help reverse alcohol related damage if alcohol use continues. If you stop alcohol use, there is a very good chance that sexual problems will reverse. However, if the use has been very long and in large quantities, it may not be reversible. In any case please do not waste money on fake products that claim to improve sexual health along with continued alcohol use. You might want to get a liver function test (blood test) done to see the extent of damage. Hope that helps!
3 people found this helpful
Submit FeedbackFeedback

I am loosing my appetite as I have stopped consuming weed and even anxiety so please doctor help me out through this.

BDS, Certification in hypnotherapy, Certification in N.L.P, Certification in Gene and behavior, Psychology at Work
Psychologist, Gurgaon
I am loosing my appetite as I have stopped consuming weed and even anxiety so please doctor help me out through this.
When one is on dope, one flies off to an internal fanciful world to avoid stressful situation (but reduces the coping up mechanism) there is only psychological dependence, no physical dependence of weed. Since you have just left, the flying off is halted, so the real world looks little intimidating, but is temporary phase, it will wane soon. Try doing some physical activity and focus and enjoy on the increased awareness/alertness and higher physical energies.
1 person found this helpful
Submit FeedbackFeedback

Hello Doctor, 1. How to keep our mood (nerve system) normal? 2. How to keep ourselves far from stress & pressure?

M.Phil (Child and Adolescent Psychology)
Psychologist, Unnao
Hello Doctor,
1. How to keep our mood (nerve system) normal? 2. How to keep ourselves far from stress & pressure?
Hello lybrate-user there are some psychological therapies t control your mind. And counselling willalso help you.
Submit FeedbackFeedback

Hi. I am suffering from severe mood swings. At times I feel too energetic and on the other I break down . Not able to concentrate on anything. I have a problem of irregular period. Are they connected. Please help.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Hi. I am suffering from severe mood swings. At times I feel too energetic and on the other I break down . Not able to...
The mood swings are of major concern and you will need to visit a doctor and a counselor to work on that. Whether your irregular periods is connected to the mood swings is quite likely because of the stress you may be undergoing. At your age, this observation is good and important as this is the final stage for resolutions and problems that need attention as they crop up more during this phase. The mood swings are likely to do with a problem of unresolved anger and while that sounds simple, it isn't. So with all seriousness cooperate with both therapies for the best results and be careful that you do not quit therapies just because you may be feeling fine: the doctor and the counselor​ should make that decision.
2 people found this helpful
Submit FeedbackFeedback

Hello I am completed my graduation (B. Tech) till I am studying well but now not concentrating on studies long time reading 3 hours is more headache and pain full. What I do for studying long time?

M.A- Psychology
Psychologist, Mumbai
Hello I am completed my graduation (B. Tech) till I am studying well but now not concentrating on studies long time r...
If your issue is about lack of concentration, that may because of boredom and monitony of same things for which you may have lost interest in studies. Hence you need to change the pattern of studying or take a break. You may want to check if there are other problems in your life that are bothering you and may be of more concern whcih is why you may be unable to concentrate. Take breaks while studying. Give yourself some credit which you complete a goal in study whcih will keep you motivated. Try doing some physical exercise to keep your mind and body fresh. Change time of studies. If you used to study at night. Start studying in the morning from now. Do not study when in your bed ir dinning table. Have a proper chair to study. Sitting on the same bed that you sit may make you feel sleepy or tired as your emotions are connected to that same place.
2 people found this helpful
Submit FeedbackFeedback

I am 32 years old. I am facing obsessive compulsion disorder. I am having three types of problem they are 1. I am getting two thoughts at a time like while crossing road my mind gets puzzled and not able to take decision to cross the road 2. I am getting obsessive. Thoughts and fear of useless thoughts for example I will die with headache. 3. I am not satisfied with my work. There is repetitive questions arises in my mind. These all things makes me irritated, anxiety, and I fail to enjoy my day to day life. Please doctor help me.

Masters in counseling psychology, Counseling psychologist, Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapist
Psychologist, Mumbai
Frankly speaking you need to take proper counseling for this problem as its not so simple. Please consult a psychologist or a psychiatrist. Your problem can be treated with proper counseling. Please don't hesitate and get help. A professional will be able to help you find the root cause of your anxieties which are causing these symptoms. And please do not self diagnose. Not necessary you have ocd. Many people go through such a phase.
2 people found this helpful
Submit FeedbackFeedback

Sir/mam. My boyfriend got a married. So m usko bhula nhi pa rahi hu. please help me. Actually hum dono avi v kbi kbi milte or baate bhi krte h. But me chati hu ki av vo apni wife k sath khush rahe. Or hum dono ek achhe dost ki trah rahe .I don't know But av kuch dino se mera msg/call ka bhi reply nhi kr raha h.he is sub inspector in Delhi. Samajh nhi aa raha ki me khud ko kaise ussey dur kru. Because Meri study achhe se nhi ho pa rahi h .uske baare me sochti rahti hu. Kosis bhi krti hu ki uske bare me na sochu. But I don't know. Sir please help me. Actually jab vo mujhe baat krta h to me achhe se padhti hu.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Sir/mam. My boyfriend got a married. So m usko bhula nhi pa rahi hu. please help me. Actually hum dono avi v kbi kbi ...
Dear lybrate user. I can understand. You can be a good friend to your ex boyfriend. But you must also make sure that your friendship does not interfere with their family life. Your confusion is because you still has some crunch towards that married man. Leave it. I suggest online counselling. Take care.
1 person found this helpful
Submit FeedbackFeedback

What is a procedure to quite smoking while I consumed more than 5 cigarettes a day.

BHMS
Homeopath,
Dear Mr Abhijeet.....you can try Homeopathic Mother Tincture DAPHNE INDICA Q, 30 drops in water, thrice daily after meals to de-addict smoking
Submit FeedbackFeedback

Anxiousness in Kids - Tips To Help You Manage It!

Masters in Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Navi Mumbai
Anxiousness in Kids - Tips To Help You Manage It!

Worrying is a natural tendency among children. While some of it helps children excel, too much worrying can lead to anxiety related disorders. From friendship woes to homework to fear of failure, there could be a lot of factors that can lead to anxiousness in a kid. This problem is mostly witnessed in school going, children. Some of the common symptoms that are portrayed include the need to be perfectionists, seeking of constant reassurance, getting sick worrying too much, scared of participating in a group event etc.

How to prepare your child to overcome anxiety?

  1. Help them prepare: One major cause of anxiousness in a child is ill preparation. Be it tests or essays, if a child has not prepared well, he tends to get nervous and suffer from anxiousness. The solution is to teach them various study techniques such as flashcards and quizzes. If this is done regularly and reviewed meticulously, your child will get over the fear of failing and perform better.
  2. Teach them to focus: Losing focus is a major tendency among kids who tend to suffer from anxiety related disorders. Keeping the concentration going is a major skill that needs to be taught by parents. Kids often sit blankly during tests thinking others are far smarter than they are. Some good method to teach focus is to teach them reverse counting, slow breathing technique, frequent consumption of water etc.
  3. Pass on the anxiety: Anxiousness has to be passed in form of something. Certain activities, therefore play great strokes in addressing anxiousness. Teach your kids to distress in the form of TV or teach them to write when they are anxious. This not only takes off anxiety from the equation, it helps a kid to relax without the fear of failure.
  4. Reassurance: Kids suffering from anxiousness often need repeated reassurance about the task in hand. The task here for a parent is to make their kid understand that failure will not impact their relationship with their parents. Often the failure of letting someone down makes a kid anxious. Constant reassurance will curtail the tendency. This being said, parents should ensure that this doesn’t become a habit for the kid. The idea is to make them comfortable and make them less dependent on you.
  5. Relaxation techniques: A study published by the Journal of School Counselling argued that kids who practised relaxation techniques are far less likely to suffer from anxiety and stress related disorders as compared to their peers. Some of the relaxation techniques that can be easily learned and practised include breathing exercises, meditation, yoga and so on. This exercise helps children to focus and concentrate more. If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult a psychologist.
4985 people found this helpful

I lost somebody close last year and since then feel very depressed and prefer keeping to myself all the time. Please help me.

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
I lost somebody close last year and since then feel very depressed and prefer keeping to myself all the time. Please ...
Lybrate-user, what you are going through is greaving. Loosing loved one is not easy to deal with emotionally. I am sorry for your loss. There are few things I would like you to try. 1. When you feel sad. Feel the feeling of sadness fully. You may close your eyes and let that sadness flow through your mind and body. If tears flow let them flow. Cry it out. Feeling what you feel fully and totally is healing. Once you feel your sadness fully. You might feel the lightness in your heart. Feel that too and say out loud. How wonderful! and engage your mind remembering some good qualities and good times you spent with the person you are missing. 2. Regular simple breath awareness meditation also help manage your loss. 3. You may also l write daily 3 to 5 things you are grateful to every morning. These things could be as simple as having a bed to sleep and food to eat. Affirm what you write and add new thing in your list for 7 to10 days. If you are not feeling any change over next 2 weeks or if you lack motivation to initiate and maintain above activities feel free revert and we could work together for few weeks to months to reverse your cycle and help you appreciate what you have. Hope this helps wishing you very best.
Submit FeedbackFeedback

I am a bank employee 25 years of age. For almost a year I have been dealing with Short temper. I become angry at anything easily. I can not bear even a bad word about me. I feel like killing the other person. I started throwing and breaking things away while im angry. Punching and kicking anything that comes before me. I can not even stand people misbehaving with other people that I know. Its becoming lethal day by day. I was not like that. Since the time I came into this job I have turned out to be like this. My blood pressure started to remain high, brain gets drained. Excessive work load, lack of holidays, lack of job satisfaction plays an important role in it. Shall I seek professional help.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Yu have depression and may need antidepressants and try these tips. Anger management: 10 tips to tame your temper ANGER: There is a saying "Frustration begets anger and anger begets aggression. Direct anger, is expressed toward the object perceived as the cause of the frustration. If a machine does not work, you might hit it or kick it. If someone gets in your way, you could verbally threaten them or push them aside. If the source of the frustration is too powerful or threatening for direct aggression, displaced aggression is often used. The aggression is redirected toward a less threatening and more available object. An angry person often acts without thinking. The person has given in to the frustration and they have given up restraint. Anger can be a healthy response if it motivates us to positive action but all too often the actions we engage in when angry are destructive. Indeed, if we could see a videotape of ourselves getting angry, the humiliation might well help cure us of anger. When you feel frustration building, you have to practice learned responses that lead to healthy actions instead of destructive ones. GIVING UP: Giving up on a goal can be productive if the goal is truly out of reach. However, more often giving up (quitting or being apathetic) is another form of giving in to frustration. When repeatedly frustrated, people can drop out of school, quit jobs, or move away. Apathy is giving up all of your goals, so you cannot be frustrated by trying to reach them. We live in difficult time and we have to be persistent in order to accomplish. Consider how many projects you began, and then gave up, because you became frustrated and lost patience. Make a list of things you started and quit because they seemed too difficult. Now calculate the disappointment and loss you suffered by not dealing with the frustration in a more healthy way. Try to remember that quitters never win, and winners never quit. Losing your temper means you're a quitter. LOSS OF CONFIDENCE: is a terrible frequent side effect of giving up and not fulfilling your goal. A loss of self-confidence and self-esteem, means that If we quit once, then the next time we plan a goal, we may not be able to accurately assess our ability to carry it out and we stop trusting ourselves and our own abilities. This became a self-fulfilling and self-destructive attitude. You need to be able to learn that when the going gets tough, you say to yourself "It is worth it! and by following through, it not only gets the job done, but it builds self-confidence. STRESS: is the "wear and tear" our body and mind experiences as we adjust to the frustrations our continually changing environment. Too frequently, extreme, or prolonged frustration and stress strains us and generates distress signals. Our body experiences distress signals in a variety of ways, often in the form of: irritability, anger, fatigue anxiety, headache, depression, stomach aches, hypertension, migraines, ulcers, heart attacks, or colitis. DEPRESSION: Depression can affect almost every aspect of your life. It affects people of all ages, income, race, and cultures. Depression can affect the way you eat and sleep the way you feel about yourself, the way one think about things, and the way you interact with others. While we all feel depression at various appropriate times in our lives, excess or inappropriate depression cannot be easily dismissed or wished away. OTHER REACTIONS: abuse of drugs & alcohol is self-destructive and usually futile attempt at dealing with frustration, as are many eating and weight problems and addictions Whenever the immediate effects of the addictive behaviour wear off, users find themselves back in the same, or even worse, frustrating situation. Anger is among the gamut of emotions we exhibit as a reaction to a situation, and it is a 'normal' emotion too as long as it is kept under control. Some people have the propensity to explode when pushed to the extreme. They keep swallowing their emotions until they can finally do it no more, and erupt like a volcano. Others dealing with extreme anger are like a ticking time bomb. You'll never know what you unwittingly say or do can trigger an explosion. In either case, anger that cannot be controlled comes with a physical reaction. Your heart beats faster preparing you for both action and reaction. Your breathing quickens. You may clench your fist, tighten your shoulders and go into a defensive position. The problem arises out of the fact that it is almost impossible to feel anger and empathy at the same time. An angry person is seldom sensitive to the wellbeing of his victim, and hence may lash out verbally and sometimes physically. Such things done in the heat of the moment mostly leaves us with regrets. So here are a few ways to deal with extreme anger. 1.Approve it / Acknowledge it: The first step in solving a problem is recognizing that you have one. The fundamental problem here is that people believe they are on the right track and refuse to budge from their views. It is essential to realize that this step is not about deciding whether you are right or wrong, but acknowledging the fact that your reaction to the situation can be channelled in a better way. When getting someone to acknowledge their anger problem, be careful as to not use negative words like wrong, false and shouldn't. Instead, influence with positive words like can and should. Instead of saying 'You are wrong to react like this' you can say, 'I understand what you are feeling. Is there a way we can resolve this situation? 2.Understand / recognize the signs: Once you know that your problems exist, you can try devising ways that will work for you in dealing with the situation. You can count to 100 to calm yourself or simply decide to not speak until you can calm yourself. Knowing that you may enter into an argument in a situation, you can list down the points that you feel strongly about and discuss each of them one by one. Working your way through a finite list gives a better opportunity to reach closure at the end. 3.Free the mind/Find ways to let it go: Not all arguments end in closure. A lot of unsaid justifications cloud our mind repeatedly leaving us seething from the inside. Research has shown that the normal or neurological anger response lasts less than two seconds. Beyond that it takes a strong will to stay angry. Once you realize how much your anger is consuming your mind, decide to free your mind with meditation and other calming exercises. Tell yourself that some people and issues simply don't deserve your anger, emotion, reaction or time. If you or someone you know is suffering from anger management issues, consult a doctor today. Anger is good. It protects you. But intense, uncontrolled anger may destroy valuable relationships. Anger is a result of anxiety and fear. When we assume that our expectations will not be met, we become anxious. When we feel unsure about our own capabilities we become anxious. This anxiety creates fear. Anxiety comes from our beliefs. All beliefs can be modified. Anger has lots of energy. Avoid arguments/confrontations when you are very angry. When you are very angry you are likely to use rough language which may damage your relations and you are likely to behave impulsively. All this you might regret later on. Following are a few techniques which will help you to manage your anger in difficult situations: 1.Sit down and have a glass of water, slowly. This will help you to calm down a little. 2.Avoid or go away from that room or situation. Tell the people concerned, that you are angry and would like to discuss it some other time. 3.Deep breathing exercises help a lot. Close your eyes, take 10 deep breaths, turn your attention towards your body. See what is happening to your body. Tell your body muscles to relax. If your heart is beating fast, if you are breathing fast, continue deep breathing, till it normalises. 4.Now understand what is making you angry. Understand your own anxiety and fear related to the issue. 5.Let the other person know how you are “feeling”. Start your statements, “I feel hurt/insulted/let down/neglected etc. When you do this”, instead of saying “You hurt/neglect me”. When you express your feeling in this manner, the other person does not feel blamed, which makes the other person more receptive. 6.Focus on the current issue, don’t bring in past situations. 7.Tell the other person, what you want or expect, instead of telling what you do not want. E.G. Instead of saying “I don’t want you to go out now”, say “I would like you to stay at home today”. 8.Listen carefully what the other person wants to tell you. Give others a chance to voice their opinions. 9.Make an eye contact and be firm but polite while communicating your point of view. 10.Understand everyone’s responsibility in the situation. Try to see, what is your share in the problematic situation? Work on that. 11.Understand what change you want. 12.Have realistic expectations from others and also from yourself. If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult me by clicking consult option FrustrationLife is full of frustrations. From the minor irritations of losing something to the major problem of continued failure towards a desired goal. Since many of the things we truly want require a degree of frustration, being able to manage frustration is required in order to allow us to remain happy and positive even in trying circumstances. Understanding Frustration Frustration is an emotion that occurs in situations where a person is blocked from reaching a desired outcome. In general, whenever we reach one of our goals, we feel pleased and whenever we are prevented from reaching our goals, we may succumb to frustration and feel irritable, annoyed and angry. Typically, the more important the goal, the greater the frustration and resultant anger or loss of confidence. Frustration is not necessarily bad since it can be a useful indicator of the problems in a person's life and, as a result, it can act as a motivator to change. However, when it results in anger, irritability, stress resentment, depression or a spiral downward where we have a feeling of resignation or giving up, frustration can be destructive. What Causes Frustration? Frustration is experienced whenever the results (goals) you are expecting do not seem to fit the effort and action you are applying. Frustration will occur whenever your actions are producing less and fewer results than you think they should. The frustration we experience can be seen as the result of two types of goal blockage, i.e. Internal and external sources of frustration. Internal sources of frustration usually involve the disappointment that get when we cannot have what we want as a result of personal real or imagined deficiencies such as a lack of confidence or fear of social situations. Another type of internal frustration results when a person has competing goals that interfere with one another. The second type of frustration results from external causes that involve conditions outside the person such as physical roadblocks we encounter in life including other people and things that get in the way of our goals. One of the biggest sources of frustration in today's world is the frustration caused by the perception of wasting time. When you're standing in line at a bank, or in traffic, or on the phone, watching your day go by when you have got so much to do, that's one big frustration. External frustration may be unavoidable. We can try to do something about it, like finding a different route if we are stuck in traffic, or choosing a different restaurant if our first choice is closed, but sometimes there is just nothing we can do about it. It is just the way life is. Our goal in dealing with external sources of frustration is to recognize the wisdom of the Serenity Prayer. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. One can learn that while the situation itself may be upsetting and frustrating, you do not have to be frustrated. Accepting life is one of the secrets of avoiding frustration. Responses to Frustration Some of the "typical" responses to frustration include anger, quitting (burn out or giving up), loss of self-esteem and self-confidence, stress and depression. Learning To Deal With Frustration It is unrealistic to believe you can rid yourself of frustration forever, but you can learn to do things to minimize your frustrations and to make sure you do not engage in unhealthy responses to frustration. You will need to learn to distinguish between what you hope will happen, what will probably happen, and what actually happened. Life inevitably has its ups and downs -- its moments of relaxation and times of tension. When you learn to truly accept this reality, you come one step closer to being able to deal with frustration in a healthy way. There are several types of problems that we encounter in everyday living: those which you know can be solved, those which you are not sure if they can be solved or not, those you know are totally out of your control, and those you are so confused about that you do not even know what the problem is. You need to be able to accurately assess your abilities to alter situations that prevent you from solving your problems and reaching your goal. Then you will be able to assess which of the types of problems you have encountered, and you will then be able to develop a realistic plan. Learning to take things in stride will also help you to be more content and happy which, in turn, will help you to more easily overcome anger and frustration. If you are upset, sad, anxious, or depressed you will have less patience and tolerance for everything and everybody. Treatment of Frustration Frustration and anger are fundamental emotions that everyone experiences from time to time. From a very early age, people learn to express frustration by copying the behaviour they see modelled around them, and by expressing frustration and angry behaviour and seeing what they can get away with. We all suffer from frustration, and being able to effectively deal with frustration is a very important skill to develop. Each person needs to learn how to control frustration, so that it does not control them. The following is a brief overview of types of frustration management programs and resources that have proved helpful in understanding and controlling frustration and anger. I have found several approaches to treatment that have been effective for my clients including: Individual and Group Therapy for Anger Management. A therapist who can observe and analyse your behaviour from an impartial perspective, can help you with your reality testing. A therapist knows many effective frustration and anger management strategies and will be able to help you develop a personalized set of strategies for changing both your thinking and behaviour. Depending on your needs, your therapist may work with you on breathing or meditation exercises to reduce frustration, safe and appropriate emotional and physical techniques to release frustration, communication, or cognitive restructuring (a method for disputing and changing the way you think). Relaxation and exercise Simple relaxation tools such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery can help calm down feelings of frustration and anger. Breathing deeply, from your diaphragm, will help while breathing from your chest won't relax you. While breathing, you can slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as "relax, "calm down" or "take it easy. Non-strenuous exercise, like yoga, can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer. Strenuous and vigorous exercise can also help you to work off frustration and angry feelings. Frustration can have a highly damaging impact on our frame of mind. It can turn a positive person into a person who sees nearly everything as a problem. It can slow you down, inhibit your progress, and at times completely immobilize you. We can become so wound up with our frustration that we do not, and cannot, think or act rationally. Our frustration can often exacerbate a situation and create a vicious circle. If we are convinced that our actions are not working, no matter how hard we try, we are much more likely to reduce, rather than increase, our chances of success. Remember, you cannot eliminate frustration. In spite of all your efforts, things will happen that will cause you frustration and anger. Life is filled with frustration, pain, loss, and the unpredictable actions of others. You can't change that; but you can change the way you let such events affect you. If you feel that your degree of frustration is really out of control, if it is having an impact on your relationships and on important parts of your life, you might consider counselling to learn how to handle it better. Please contact me Privately on this site or another therapist.
1 person found this helpful
Submit FeedbackFeedback

My wife has always have a negative thought. There's everything opposite to me. How should I get her in the positive track.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
She has to try and do meditation and attend a counselling, read books and listen to positive speeches.
1 person found this helpful
Submit FeedbackFeedback

Sir I'm 20 years but I could not concentrate about my studies properly, when I start studying my mind will deviate and start thinking about the past things through which I can not concentrate on my study. What can I do?

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem-solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning, at least, five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position, you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. There is some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid sugar and junk food.
1 person found this helpful
Submit FeedbackFeedback

I think I am depressed. I do not talk to my friends parents and family. Wake up at night. Not able to focus on my work. Kindly suggest what should I do.

MBBS, DPM
Psychiatrist, Bangalore
I think I am depressed. I do not talk to my friends parents and family. Wake up at night. Not able to focus on my wor...
Dear Nitin, Please answer the following questionnaire and get back to me. Brief Patient Health Questionnaire (BPHQ) Over the last 2 weeks, how often have you been bothered by any of the following problems? Please mark as 0.Not at all 1.Less than 7 days 2.More than 7 days 3. Nearly every day a. Little interest or pleasure in doing things b. Feeling down, depressed, or hopeless c. Trouble falling or staying asleep or sleeping too much d. Feeling tired or having little energy e. Poor appetite or overeating f. Feeling bad about yourself — or that you are a failure or have let yourself or your family down g. Trouble concentrating on things, such as reading the newspaper or watching television h. Moving or speaking so slowly that other people could have noticed. Or the opposite — being so fidgety or restless that you have been moving around a lot more than usual i. Thoughts that you would be better off dead or of hurting yourself in some way
1 person found this helpful
Submit FeedbackFeedback

I am a regular smoker now I am feeling breathing problem while climb stairs or run for while. How to increase lungs capacity? and suggest me to quit smoking asap.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Smoking directly attacks the respiratory apparatus. You can ill-afford to continue smoking unless you want to kill yourself early and in a most miserable way! You must seriously take a call and quit smoking now. Here’s how you can go about it: The habit can be very difficult to halt because of the many conditions attached to smoking. In fact these conditions can exist all through the day unlike other addictions. But your desire to want to stop is the most important factor. It is important to find out about the ill-effects of smoking to have a reason that alarms you about continuing in the habit. The information is really scary. The nicotine in tobacco smoke stimulates the heart beat to raise the blood pressure in no time at all. Tobacco tar smears the lung surface and causes big patches over time to become dysfunctional. So you must avoid it like the plague: it is just very bad medicine for you. In fact it is highly toxic too. You will need to stop smoking or consuming any tobacco related items with immediate effect. You should start vigorous exercises, gradually increasing it over a period of time. Do deep breathing exercises every time you feel like smoking (try Yoga), and replace the oral urge with some healthy food substitute to satiate the need. You may also take hard candy or chewing gum. If the urge is too strong, then use nicotine chewing gum or nicotine patches, for a little while until the smoking drive reduces substantially. You may also join Smokers Anonymous in your city where the support is really extraordinary for like-minded people who are also in the same situation. Keep yourself occupied or engaged with interesting activities during the times when it is most tempting. Keep the company of non-smokers for some time i.e. at least for the first 21 days. Above all announce it to everyone that you have quit smoking. You must persevere with the best support until you defeat this addiction. Counseling is very useful in the initial stages and when temptations are at their highest. All the damage you incurred earlier because of the smoking can be reverted back to normal in quick time. To improve the lung capacity do aerobic exercise and breathe only through your nostrils. As time goes by you will build stamina. Deep breathing uses the 80% of your lung capacity that normal breathing does not get to use. This type of breathing also massages your lower abdomen and brings good health to those organs too.
Submit FeedbackFeedback
View All Feed