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Dr. Mrs. Suvra Banerje Pal

Psychologist, Kolkata

250 at clinic
Dr. Mrs. Suvra Banerje Pal Psychologist, Kolkata
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Dr. Mrs. Suvra Banerje Pal is an experienced Psychologist in Lake Town, Kolkata. He is currently associated with Mind Care Clinic in Lake Town, Kolkata. Book an appointment online with Dr. Mrs. Suvra Banerje Pal and consult privately on Lybrate.com.

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I have more tension and after eyes is red colour change after headache and fever is coming. Why. Pls help me.

MBBS
General Physician, Cuttack
I have more tension and after eyes is red colour change after headache and fever is coming. Why. Pls help me.
1.Take paracetamol 500mg,1 tablet as and when required after food up to a maximum of 3 tablets daily, 2.Drink plenty of water 3.Take rest 4.avoid stress and anxiety 5. If no relief, consult doctor
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How can I increase my memory. I forget things after some time. Please suggest me.

DHMS (Diploma in Homeopathic Medicine and Surgery)
Homeopath, Ludhiana
There is no term like memory loss at your age.It seems that you are going through tough times now a days.Try tomake things easier for yourself and follow below given homoeopathic medicine and an exercie. You will feel much better in few days BACOPPA MONNERI ( Wilmar Schwabe India) Chew 2 tab twice daily BREN-UP ( ALLEN ) Drink 2 spoon 3 times daily Bramhari pranayam daily for 15 minutes Report after 30 days
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Work related stress and anxiety is affecting my personal and family life. Have difficulty concentrating and memorizing. Is it normal? How do I manage? Please suggest effective solution.

MS - Counselling and Psychotherapy, Master of Arts in Clinical Psychology, Bachelor of Arts - Psychology and English Literature
Psychologist, Coimbatore
Work related stress and anxiety is affecting my personal and family life. Have difficulty concentrating and memorizin...
Hi lybrate-user! Yes you are right it does affect your personal and family life. When you have work pressure, long working hours, stressful working environment, continuous work schedule, latest technologies implementation and many more causes tension, anxiety, and therefore affects personal, family, unhappiness, depression and many more as you say lack of attention. It happens in IT companies, I exactly do not know what type of job you are into type of occupation also matters. Yes There is solution, but one needs to volunteer to undergo treatment for the same to overcome this problem, only then it can be solved from a Professional Psychologist or counsellor. If you need further assistance feel free to contact me either through text chat or call me when you find difficulty to manage then consult me. Take care. Come forward for the treatment. Just changing food habits alone will not help you, you will find physical improvement, but not mental pressure related to job stress and anxiety.
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I am 25 year old female. I have a real short temper and get angry at everyone around me which is having an impact on my relations. Please advice.

MD - Homeopathy
Homeopath, Aurangabad
Ignatia 30 take 1 drop 3 times x 7 day above is homeopathic medicine and available in homeopathic store also safe to take and no side effects do not take more days without my consent.
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I can not sleep at night, bed dreaming, always fell liki sleppy. And always think to masturbate? Sir please give some guidance to control. And how I can sharp my mind and increase the level of concentration?

Diploma in Paediatrics, MBBS
Sexologist, Dehradun
I can not sleep at night, bed dreaming, always fell liki sleppy. And always think to masturbate? Sir please give some...
Try to plan your priority as at this age your career is v important. Sexual deviation is common at your age so develop willpower, avoid porn, make good friends, develop some good hobby and be positive in life. Best of luck!
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I am not able to concentrate on studies what should I do to get interest on my studies.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
This must be a recent phenomenon due to your age. I suspect that the adolescent issues with regard to hormones may be affecting your ability to concentrate and remember. When the hormones play up, it lasts for a period of close to two years and during that time you could be influenced by three signs directly impacted by the chemical: you will tend to become aggressive and rebellious, you will become sexually active, and you will have acne and pimple problems. The hormonal imbalances may not only impact your memory because of the chemical but also bring some distractions that come with it. But you may work on the following even if the hormones kick in: Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem-solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning, at least, five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position, you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. There is some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid sugar and junk food. You may also include these noted foods that are good for your brain health: Brain-Friendly Foods MIND stands for Mediterranean-DASH Intervention for Neurodegenerative Delay. But the MIND approach “specifically includes foods and nutrients that medical literature and data show to be good for the brain, such as berries,” says Martha Clare Morris, ScD, director of nutrition and nutritional epidemiology at Rush University Medical Center. You eat things from these 10 food groups: • Green leafy vegetables (like spinach and salad greens): At least six servings a week • Other vegetables: At least one a day • Nuts: Five servings a week • Berries: Two or more servings a week • Beans: At least three servings a week • Whole grains: Three or more servings a day • Fish: Once a week • Poultry (like chicken or turkey): Two times a week • Olive oil: Use it as your main cooking oil. • Wine: One glass a day You avoid: • Red meat: Less than four servings a week • Butter and margarine: Less than a tablespoon daily • Cheese: Less than one serving a week • Pastries and sweets: Less than five servings a week • Fried or fast food: Less than one serving a week
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I am not mentally fit because when I go to work some kind of negative thinking comes on my mind and drag me to not do. Like I am going to a tea stall some kind of negative thinking coming and telling me that if I do this some wrong will be happen with you next. Every works comes these things What give me some advice sir. Life has gone hell.

DPM, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Mumbai
I am not mentally fit because when I go to work some kind of negative thinking comes on my mind and drag me to not do...
Your complain sounds like a symptom of ocd, obsessive compulsive disorder. Obsessions are automatic, unwanted, intrusive, repetitive and anxiety provoking thoughts. Usually there is a pattern, like in your case the thoughts come before an activity. There are medicines available to reduce these thoughts. You should visit a psychiatrist. There are counseling techniques also that will help. It is a treatable condition. Don't delay the treatment.
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I smoke from past 10 years. I took 1-2 cigarettes daily. Please advise me how can I avoid/leave smoking.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lybrate-user, smoking is injurious to health. Even when you take one cigarette per day, it is capable of cancer. Quitting is not that easy. Though deaddiction therapy is useful, I would suggest you to just quit it in one go on a fine day. You need to sustain it with the help of will power. Motivation therapy and mind power therapy should help you. Please consult a psychologist
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What I do for my improve brain?

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Homeopath,
What I do for my improve brain?
Hi, please take homeopathic anacardium 30 take 2-3 drops in few water twice a day. Anacardium is great brain tonic in homeopathy for school going child, college students and those who are preparing. For any interview. You can also take sbl alpha alpha tonic with ginseng.
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Sir I was a brilliant student from childhood I used to get distinction every time but nowadays I feel like my memory has been reduce I am not able to concentrate and oftenly I don't remember the things which I have studied please what can be the reason is it because of over masturbation which I used to do from the age of 12 years please tell me medicine name.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Yu have to check your TSH and inform I can give some tips for studying well. If you feel excessive sleep or tiredness/ head spinning or vertigo like feeling you have to make sure you have no anaemia or hypothyroidism by doing a blood CBC & TSH and inform me directly 10 Study Tips to Improve Your Learning Study Tip 1: Underlining Underlining is one of the simplest and best known study tips. It’s easy to highlight the most significant parts of what you’re reading. One key sentence per paragraph and a few important phrases here and there. You can only retain a certain amount so it’s best to retain the most important information. Study Tip 2: Make your own note and taking notes is one of the most widespread study skills out there. Essentially the aim of note-taking is to summarise lectures or articles in your own words so you can easily remember the ideas. Study Tip 3: Mind mapping A good Mind map can save you many hours of study and further consolidate your knowledge for your exams. Mind Maps are an extremely versatile tools. They can be used for brainstorming, outlining essays or study topics and for general exam preparation, ExamTime offers the ability to create Mind Maps quickly and easily which makes them the ideal tool when it comes to exams. Study Tip 4: Flash cards:- Using these are a particularly effective method of learning when trying to assimilate different facts, dates, formulas or vocabulary. Subjects such as History, Physics, Maths, Chemistry, Geography or any language are made much easier if you incorporate Flashcards in to your study. Study Tip 5: Case Studies Sometimes it can be difficult to grasp the implications of some theories. This is where studying case studies can be a big help. Case studies can help you visualise a theory and place it in a more familiar and realistic context. This is especially useful in business or law subjects. Study Tip 6: Quizzes are an excellent way to review study notes in the weeks and days before an exam. Quizzes can show where your strengths and weaknesses are, so it allows you to focus your efforts more precisely. Moreover, if you share your Study Quiz with your classmates and test each other as much as possible you can discover even more details and areas you may have overlooked. So before any exam, make sure you create and share a bunch of different Quizzes with your Friends. Study Tip 7: Brainstorming This is another study technique that is ideal for studying with friends and/or classmates. Brainstorming is a great way to expand every possible idea out of any topic. Just get a bunch of friends together and shoot the breeze, there are no wrong answers when brainstorming – just talk and capture the ideas, you can review afterward. Study Tip 8: Mnemonic Rules Mnemonics are especially useful when memorising lists and sets. Mnemonics rules basically work by associating certain concepts with other concepts that are more familiar to us. There are many different ways to make mnemonics and these can be individual to the person. Study Tip 9: ORGANISE your study One of the most effective study skills is also one of the most often overlooked; this is organising your study. Creating a TIME TABLE gives you goals and a time in which to achieve them. Having a study timetable as you study is greatly motivational Study Tip 10: Drawing Many people find it easier to recall images rather than text that is why they are better able to memorise concepts if they associate them with pictures or drawings. If you find answer helpful please click on “helpful” tab for knowing my efforts are useful CONCENTRATION TIPS Here’s some tips to get into a state of deep concentration where work / or studies flow easily so that you can do well in examinations/ and or do your work well. 1) Cut Off the Noise Getting into a state of concentration can take at least fifteen minutes. If you are getting distracted every five, you can’t possibly focus entirely on your work. Request that people don’t interrupt you when working on a big project. If you are required to answer phones and drop-in’s immediately, schedule work when the office is less busy. 2) Structure Your Environment The place you work can have an impact on your ability to focus. Try to locate yourself so you are facing potential distractions such as doors, phones or windows. This way you can take a glance to assess sounds that would otherwise break your focus. 3) Clarify Objectives Know what your goal is clearly before you start. If you aren’t sure what the end result is, the confusion will make it impossible to focus. 4) Divide Blobs. If you have a large project that needs work, clearly identify a path that you will use to get started working on it. If the sequence of actions isn’t obvious, it will be difficult to concentrate. Taking a few minutes to plan not only your end result, but the order you will complete any steps, can save hours in wasted thinking. 5) Know the Rules Get clear on what the guidelines are for the task ahead. What level of quality do you need? What standards do you need to follow? What constraints are there? If the rules aren’t clear from the outset, you will slip out of concentration as you ponder them later. 6) Set a Deadline Deadlines have both advantages and disadvantages when trying to force concentration. A deadline can make it easier to forget the non-essential and speed up your working time. If you give yourself only an hour to design a logo, you will keep it simple and avoid fiddling with extravagant designs. Time limits have disadvantages when they cause you to worry about the time you have left instead of the task itself. 7) Break down Roadblocks Roadblocks occur whenever you hit a tricky problem in your work. This can happen when you run out of ideas or your focus wavers. Break down roadblocks by brainstorming or planning on a piece of paper. Writing out your thought processes can keep you focused even if you might become frustrated. 8) Isolate Yourself Become a hermit and stay away from other people if you want to get work done. Unless your work is based on other people they will only break your focus. Create a private space and refuse to talk to anyone until your work is finished. Put a sign on your door to steer away drop-ins and don’t answer your phone. 9) Healthy Body, Sharper Mind What you put into your body affects the way you concentrate. Nobody would expect peak performance if they showed up drunk to work. But if you allow yourself to get chronic sleep deprivation, overuse stimulants like caffeine or eat dense, fatty foods your concentration will suffer. Try to cut out one of your unhealthy habits for just thirty days to see if there is a difference in your energy levels. I’ve found even small steps can create dramatic changes in my ability to focus. 10) Be Patient Before I write an article, I often sit at my desk for a fifteen or twenty minutes before I put finger on the keyboard. During this time I feel a strong urge to leave or do something else. But I know that if I am patient, I’ll stumble upon an idea to write about and enter a state of flow. Without a little patience, you can’t take advantage of flow when it rushed through you. If you need strong concentration I recommend periods of 90-120 minutes. Any less than that and you will waste too much time getting started before the flow can continue. More than this is possible to sustain focus, but you will probably benefit from a quick break. These are the general guidelines for concentration, studying well or doing your job. Regards.
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My Daughter 2.5 years old has very bad cough with Vomiting. Given all kinds of syrup. Nothing help her out. Very tensed. Do not know what to do. Please suggest me something.

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
My Daughter 2.5 years old has very bad cough with Vomiting. Given all kinds of syrup. Nothing help her out. Very tens...
I understand your worry and concern as a parent. Mostly her vomiting is due to cough. I do hope you have consulted pediatrician ans giving her medicine as per recommendation. Other than that. Give her more liquid diet instead of solid. Many times food particles could cause vomiting. Also as she is very young. As a parents it is important that you stay calm and engage her in some fun activity. Laugh with her tell her stories or what ever she enjoys. Positive and calmer environment around her will help her stay calmer and help in healing process. Support each other as a couple to reduce your anxiety and do everything that needs to be done medically. What ever virus or bacteria that is causing her cough will take. Its course before she will start recovering. Make sure she is hydrated properly. Even one spoon water and electrolyte at a time will also help. Hope she feels better soon. Wishing you all very best.
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Anxiety Disorder - An Ayurvedic Aspect

Bachelor of Ayurveda, Medicine and Surgery (BAMS)
Ayurveda, Faridabad
Anxiety Disorder - An Ayurvedic Aspect
Anxiety Disorder

Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) patients suffer from excessive, unrealistic worry that lasts through six months or more; the issues could be health, money, career problems, or just about anything. Its symptoms could include trembling, muscular aches, insomnia/sleep disorders, abdominal upsets, dizziness, irritability and poor concentration.
Causes

The various biological, psychological, and social factors that may cause Anxiety Disorder include: Heredity, Brain chemistry, Personality and Life experiences.
Symptoms

Nausea

Palpitations

Sleep disturbances

Breathlessness

Dry mouth

Feeling of panic, fear & uneasiness

Cold or sweaty extremities

Ayurvedic View

Ayurveda, which takes a comprehensive view of an individual's physical, emotional and spiritual conditions, attributes anxiety disorder symptoms to aggravated prana vata, a subsidiary of vata dosha which is associated with worry, anxiety and depression. Prana vata weakens the nervous system and triggers mental imbalance. It also weakens the neuro-hormonal system and nerve impulses. Ayurvedic treatment of anxiety disorder would involve curbing aggravated prana vata and increasing sattva guna, which envisages a stable and peaceful mind through self-realization and self-control, and appropriate changes in diet and lifestyle.
Diet & Lifestyle Advice

Fresh fruits, fruit juices, vegetables (raw or cooked or boiled), vegetable juices, sprouts, nuts, dry fruits, honey, milk, ghee, fresh butter, and buttermilk are the best to increase sattva and enrich the mind. Try to cut down, or if possible stop, the use of black tea, coffee, white flour products, chocolates, white sugar products, deep fried foods, hot spices, meat, fish, and eggs. Such restrictions benefit in anxiety disorders.

Breathing exercises: Mind has a very close relation with breathing. A person has short and shallow breathing when anxious or stressed and has deep breathing when relaxed and happy. Next time you become stressed, watch your breathing. Try to slow it down. Take a relaxed position and breathe deep using the abdomen muscles. Let the diaphragm expand while breathing in, and contract while breathing out. This will immediately relax you and reduce anxiety attacks. Exercise, meditation, relaxation techniques and Yoga postures are also recommended.

Home Remedies

Take grated fresh coconut 10g, paste of 2-3 almonds (soaked for 6 to 7 hours and peeled), powdered fennel seeds 5g , black pepper powder 2g, and powdered rock candy or raw sugar 20g. Mix all the ingredients and drink with saffron milk. To prepare saffron milk, soak 5 to 6 threads of saffron in one teaspoon of milk for 5 to 6 hours. Chew well and eat.

Have 1 teaspoonful of licorice root powder with water empty stomach in the morning. This is mentioned as a medhya rasayana in Ayurveda i.e. a mind rejuvenator.

Add some fresh rose petals in a cup of boiling water. Keep it aside till it is lukewarm. Add ½ teaspoonful of sugar to it and have this twice a day. This is a good drink to uplift mood.

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I lost my precious thing last week and I am feeling depressed from 5days what should I do?

Bachelor of Ayurveda, Medicine and Surgery (BAMS), MD - Ayurveda
Ayurveda, Bhavnagar
I lost my precious thing last week and I am feeling depressed from 5days what should I do?
hello young man there are two types of urges mentioned in Ayurveda 1) dharniya vega (urges, should b controlled, but you aren't) like chinta-stress, bhaya-fear, shoka-, krodha-short temper, maan- ego, lobha-greedy etc mental condition you should control yourself 2) adharniya vega (urges that should not be controlled, but you are controling) like sleep, urine, stool, hunger, thirst, yawn, sneeze, vomit etc. so it's too bad live with anxiety. life is a gift. a beautiful phrase :" life has either problem or not. if no problem, then WHY WORRY? if you have problem, two possibility. either you can handle or not. if you can handle, WHY WORRY? if you can not do anything for problem, then again WHY WORRY?:) my advises to you are * take life lightly * main problem is how you are reacting matters & incidence of your life & day to day * you can see half filled glass of water by two way: half is still empty(nagative attitude) or half full(positive) * take balance diet * give time for yoga * constipation should removed * you can take brahmi sankhpuspi etc ayurveda medicine * I recommended strongly, go near by ayurveda centre & take shirodhara & Nashya treatment you can cunsult me privetly
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I am 31years old lady I am getting frustrated very soon? By profession I am a teacher and I have three kids.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
I am 31years old lady I am getting frustrated very soon? By profession I am a teacher and I have three kids.
Life is full of frustrations. From the minor irritations of losing something to the major problem of continued failure towards a desired goal. Since many of the things we truly want require a degree of frustration, being able to manage frustration is required in order to allow us to remain happy and positive even in trying circumstances. Understanding Frustration Frustration is an emotion that occurs in situations where a person is blocked from reaching a desired outcome. In general, whenever we reach one of our goals, we feel pleased and whenever we are prevented from reaching our goals, we may succumb to frustration and feel irritable, annoyed and angry. Typically, the more important the goal, the greater the frustration and resultant anger or loss of confidence. Frustration is not necessarily bad since it can be a useful indicator of the problems in a person's life and, as a result, it can act as a motivator to change. However, when it results in anger, irritability, stress resentment, depression or a spiral downward where we have a feeling of resignation or giving up, frustration can be destructive. What Causes Frustration? Frustration is experienced whenever the results (goals) you are expecting do not seem to fit the effort and action you are applying. Frustration will occur whenever your actions are producing less and fewer results than you think they should. The frustration we experience can be seen as the result of two types of goal blockage, i.e. internal and external sources of frustration. Internal sources of frustration usually involve the disappointment that get when we cannot have what we want as a result of personal real or imagined deficiencies such as a lack of confidence or fear of social situations. Another type of internal frustration results when a person has competing goals that interfere with one another. The second type of frustration results from external causes that involve conditions outside the person such as physical roadblocks we encounter in life including other people and things that get in the way of our goals. One of the biggest sources of frustration in today's world is the frustration caused by the perception of wasting time. When you're standing in line at a bank, or in traffic, or on the phone, watching your day go by when you have got so much to do, that's one big frustration. External frustration may be unavoidable. We can try to do something about it, like finding a different route if we are stuck in traffic, or choosing a different restaurant if our first choice is closed, but sometimes there is just nothing we can do about it. It is just the way life is. Our goal in dealing with external sources of frustration is to recognize the wisdom of the Serenity Prayer..."God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference." One can learn that while the situation itself may be upsetting and frustrating, you do not have to be frustrated. Accepting life is one of the secrets of avoiding frustration. Responses to Frustration Some of the "typical" responses to frustration include anger, quitting (burn out or giving up), loss of self-esteem and self-confidence, stress and depression. Anger management: 10 tips to tame your temper ANGER: There is a saying "Frustration begets anger and anger begets aggression." Direct anger, is expressed toward the object perceived as the cause of the frustration. If a machine does not work, you might hit it or kick it. If someone gets in your way, you could verbally threaten them or push them aside. If the source of the frustration is too powerful or threatening for direct aggression, displaced aggression is often used. The aggression is redirected toward a less threatening and more available object. An angry person often acts without thinking. The person has given in to the frustration and they have given up restraint. Anger can be a healthy response if it motivates us to positive action but all too often the actions we engage in when angry are destructive. Indeed, if we could see a videotape of ourselves getting angry, the humiliation might well help cure us of anger. When you feel frustration building, you have to practice learned responses that lead to healthy actions instead of destructive ones. GIVING UP: Giving up on a goal can be productive if the goal is truly out of reach. However, more often giving up (quitting or being apathetic) is another form of giving in to frustration. When repeatedly frustrated, people can drop out of school, quit jobs, or move away. Apathy is giving up all of your goals, so you cannot be frustrated by trying to reach them. We live in difficult time and we have to be persistent in order to accomplish. Consider how many projects you began, and then gave up, because you became frustrated and lost patience. Make a list of things you started and quit because they seemed too difficult. Now calculate the disappointment and loss you suffered by not dealing with the frustration in a more healthy way. Try to remember that quitters never win, and winners never quit. Losing your temper means you're a quitter. LOSS OF CONFIDENCE: is a terrible frequent side effect of giving up and not fulfilling your goal. A loss of self-confidence and self-esteem, means that If we quit once, then the next time we plan a goal, we may not be able to accurately assess our ability to carry it out and we stop trusting ourselves and our own abilities. This became a self-fulfilling and self-destructive attitude. You need to be able to learn that when the going gets tough, you say to yourself "It is worth it!" and by following through, it not only gets the job done, but it builds self-confidence. STRESS: is the "wear and tear" our body and mind experiences as we adjust to the frustrations our continually changing environment. Too frequently, extreme, or prolonged frustration and stress strains us and generates distress signals. Our body experiences distress signals in a variety of ways, often in the form of: irritability, anger, fatigue anxiety, headache, depression, stomach aches, hypertension, migraines, ulcers, heart attacks, or colitis. DEPRESSION: Depression can affect almost every aspect of your life. It affects people of all ages, income, race, and cultures. Depression can affect the way you eat and sleep the way you feel about yourself, the way one think about things, and the way you interact with others. While we all feel depression at various appropriate times in our lives, excess or inappropriate depression cannot be easily dismissed or wished away. OTHER REACTIONS: abuse of drugs & alcohol is self-destructive and usually futile attempt at dealing with frustration, as are many eating and weight problems and addictions Whenever the immediate effects of the addictive behaviour wear off, users find themselves back in the same, or even worse, frustrating situation. Learning To Deal With Frustration It is unrealistic to believe you can rid yourself of frustration forever, but you can learn to do things to minimize your frustrations and to make sure you do not engage in unhealthy responses to frustration. You will need to learn to distinguish between what you hope will happen, what will probably happen, and what actually happened. Life inevitably has its ups and downs -- its moments of relaxation and times of tension. When you learn to truly accept this reality, you come one step closer to being able to deal with frustration in a healthy way. There are several types of problems that we encounter in everyday living: those which you know can be solved, those which you are not sure if they can be solved or not, those you know are totally out of your control, and those you are so confused about that you do not even know what the problem is. You need to be able to accurately assess your abilities to alter situations that prevent you from solving your problems and reaching your goal. Then you will be able to assess which of the types of problems you have encountered, and you will then be able to develop a realistic plan. Learning to take things in stride will also help you to be more content and happy which, in turn, will help you to more easily overcome anger and frustration. If you are upset, sad, anxious, or depressed you will have less patience and tolerance for everything and everybody. Treatment of Frustration Frustration and anger are fundamental emotions that everyone experiences from time to time. From a very early age, people learn to express frustration by copying the behaviour they see modelled around them, and by expressing frustration and angry behaviour and seeing what they can get away with. We all suffer from frustration, and being able to effectively deal with frustration is a very important skill to develop. Each person needs to learn how to control frustration, so that it does not control them. The following is a brief overview of types of frustration management programs and resources that have proved helpful in understanding and controlling frustration and anger. I have found several approaches to treatment that have been effective for my clients including: Individual and Group Therapy for Anger Management. A therapist who can observe and analyse your behaviour from an impartial perspective, can help you with your reality testing. A therapist knows many effective frustration and anger management strategies and will be able to help you develop a personalized set of strategies for changing both your thinking and behaviour. Depending on your needs, your therapist may work with you on breathing or meditation exercises to reduce frustration, safe and appropriate emotional and physical techniques to release frustration, communication, or cognitive restructuring (a method for disputing and changing the way you think). Relaxation and exercise Simple relaxation tools such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery can help calm down feelings of frustration and anger. Breathing deeply, from your diaphragm, will help while breathing from your chest won't relax you. While breathing, you can slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as "relax," "calm down" or "take it easy." Non-strenuous exercise, like yoga, can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer. Strenuous and vigorous exercise can also help you to work off frustration and angry feelings. Frustration can have a highly damaging impact on our frame of mind. It can turn a positive person into a person who sees nearly everything as a problem. It can slow you down, inhibit your progress, and at times completely immobilize you. We can become so wound up with our frustration that we do not, and cannot, think or act rationally. Our frustration can often exacerbate a situation and create a vicious circle. If we are convinced that our actions are not working, no matter how hard we try, we are much more likely to reduce, rather than increase, our chances of success. Remember, you cannot eliminate frustration. In spite of all your efforts, things will happen that will cause you frustration and anger. Life is filled with frustration, pain, loss, and the unpredictable actions of others. You can't change that; but you can change the way you let such events affect you. If you feel that your degree of frustration is really out of control, if it is having an impact on your relationships and on important parts of your life, you might consider counselling to learn how to handle it better. Please contact me Privately on this site or another therapist.
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How important is to stop smoking? How much alcohol can someone over 50 safely drink, and does your tolerance change with ageing?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear, welcome to lybrate-user. Tobacco is addictive. Cigarette also contains 4000+ carcinogenic chemicals other than nicotine. Nicotine and other chemicals can cause cancer of different types and areas. Throat cancer, mouth cancer, lung cancer, stomach cancer and brain problems can result. Over and above smoking may also increase the risk factor of heart attack and brain stroke. Please quit smoking. There is no safe limit of alcohol consumption. Even a drop can be fatal for liver. Quit alcohol. I suggest you to consult a psychologist or de addiction therapist. Take care.
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How to avoid stress and anxiety. I am 21 year old and I am working in a power plant at technician.

DPM, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Mumbai
How to avoid stress and anxiety.
I am 21 year old and I am working in a power plant at technician.
You cannot avoid stress and anxiety completely. They are natural, normal and in fact essential for us to survive! but you definitely need to keep them under control. Make it a regular habit to wind down. Do one or two things every day, one thing every week and one more thing once in 1-2 months, like taking a short trip, that helps you relax and be happy. For example, you may read a little before bedtime, may be go for a swim or a run every sunday, and visit your friends or relatives once a month. Eat healthy at regular intervals. Drink plenty of water. Exercise 3-4 times a week. Share your emotional experiences, good or bad, with somebody close to you regularly. But remember, some stress and anxiety is completely normal.
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I am a 22 year old boy, in a long term relationship. Since 5 years. Everything was normal till 3 years but since last 2 years I had been suffering from anxiety and a bit depression. The problem is that I hav become emotionless. I do not feel those emotions which once made me smile, made me cry, made me excited, neither in my relationship nor with anyone else. What could be the reason.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I am a 22 year old boy, in a long term relationship. Since 5 years.
Everything was normal till 3 years but since last...
Three years ago you were in late adolescence and obviously that it the last time some unresolved childhood issue will surface looking for a resolution. I feel that you need to go for counseling and explore what that issue is: I suspect from your description that it has to do with some rejection. The loss of affect may have to do with a defense against dealing with feelings. Kindly explore this with the counselor and you will find a lot of relief.
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How to increase the memory power? What are the memory power increasing food And how to eat?

MBBS, MD Psychiatry, DNB Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Nagpur
Lybrate-user. Memory is like a computer. It gets input, it studies the input and makes connections and programs to derive solutions out of it and depending upon its importance the learnt data is stored in short term and long term memory. Its difficult to increase memory" power" but yes you can certainly improve your abilities to memorize things. Follow certain recommendations as below - have a relaxed mind and brain before you start memorizing anything. - go through the topic as a whole in a few minutes, then divide it in parts accordingly, try to locate gist of every part and make connections in parts. There are no" memory power increasing foods" but dry fruits like walnuts are said to improve memory according to some studies. You can try it on your own.
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