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Dr. Mahua Roy

Psychiatrist, Kolkata

Dr. Mahua Roy Psychiatrist, Kolkata
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Dr. Mahua Roy is a renowned Psychiatrist in Madurdaha, Kolkata. You can consult Dr. Mahua Roy at Anubhav Clinic in Madurdaha, Kolkata. Save your time and book an appointment online with Dr. Mahua Roy on Lybrate.com.

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Hello. Mera Qsn ye h ki jb b mai kuch read krta hu yaa kisi ko koi baat explain krta hu to m ek dm se vo baat bhool jata hu. Fir 1-2 minute remind krna pdta h fir vo baat yaad aati h So. Give me some advice what shoul I do.

MD - Homeopathy, BHMS
Homeopath, Vadodara
In this condition homoeoapthic medicine is very effective.. par uske liye apko thik se consult karke davai shuru karni chahiye.. because vo thoda lambe samay ke liye leni padegi...
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What can be done to stop racing mind & restlessness problems caused in oneself by others? How to stop and avoid mental depression and mental torture on oneself ? Should I fight all strong or maniac person if he/she is the source of problem and abuse physically openly without worrying the result ? Is Brain an idiot box like an antenna of some military hardware which finds in thoughts and can telepathy happen without consent of human conscience of a mentally depressed human because its finds mental spirit strong?

Advance Diploma in Child Guidance and Counseling , Masters in Child Psychology, Bachelors in Child Psychology
Psychologist, Delhi
What can be done to stop racing mind & restlessness problems caused in oneself by others? How to stop and avoid menta...
Hello lybrate-user, l can understand your situation from your perspective. It is really challenging when you were. Finding it difficult to control the thoughts. It makes you feel restless and uneasy. It is ironical, the more you were controlling your thoughts, the more it was overpowering you. As your irrational/unrealistic thoughts creating the feeling of restless and uneasiness. It is crucial to identify the unrealistic thoughts and tackle them based on reality. Please do write more on your thoughts! stay calm and at peace with yourself.
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Hello my name is varun from many months I am suffering from gay thoughts. Although but I am straight but this thoughts question about my sexuality. But I do not want to become a gay and other things is I have constant fear of that if I would have a fight what I will do. I always living in fear of what will happen in future? Please help me about this because of this I am not able to talk with any person.

Masters in Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Lucknow
Hello my name is varun from many months I am suffering from gay thoughts. Although but I am straight but this thought...
Hi, you need to take psychotherapy/counseling to recognize your fears. They may be merely thoughts but provoking anxiety in you. You need to learn to manage that. Engage in some exercise daily for 30 minutes and practice mindfulness exercise. Mindful Breathing The primary goal of mindful breathing is simply a calm, nonjudging awareness, allowing thoughts and feelings to come and go without getting caught up in them. Sit comfortably, with your eyes closed and your spine reasonably straight. Bring your attention to your breathing. Imagine that you have a balloon in your tummy. Every time you breathe in, the balloon inflates. Each time you breathe out, the balloon deflates. Notice the sensations in your abdomen as the balloon inflates and deflates. Your abdomen rising with the in-breath, and falling with the out-breath. Thoughts will come into your mind, and that’s okay, because that’s just what the human mind does. Simply notice those thoughts, then bring your attention back to your breathing. Likewise, you can notice sounds, physical feelings, and emotions, and again, just bring your attention back to your breathing. You don’t have to follow those thoughts or feelings, don’t judge yourself for having them, or analyse them in any way. It’s okay for the thoughts to be there. Just notice those thoughts, and let them drift on by, bringing your attention back to your breathing. Whenever you notice that your attention has drifted off and is becoming caught up in thoughts or feelings, simply note that the attention has drifted, and then gently bring the attention back to your breathing. It's okay and natural for thoughts to enter into your awareness, and for your attention to follow them. No matter how many times this happens, just keep bringing your attention back to your breathing. Get back to me for proper therapy. All the best.
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I see my mental ability decreasing. So I want some mental exercise in order to increase my concentration and sharpness.

DNB Ophtalmology, MS - Ophthalmology, MBBS
Ophthalmologist, Delhi
I see my mental ability decreasing. So I want some mental exercise in order to increase my concentration and sharpness.
There r different forms of mental exercises u can do.. puzzles, number games, reasoning and logical games, word games, memory games. u can search for them online- readily available. There is one called luminosity which may help
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Nowadays my vocabulary sound is not good. It's very tough for others to understand . Mostly 'S' sound is coming while talking. What to do for this ? How can I change.

PDDM, MHA, MBBS
General Physician, Nashik
Breathe deeply and exhale on a hisssssssing sound. Repeat 10 times. Proper breathing is the foundation for a healthy voice AND control over nervous energy that can make the voice quiver. Say “Mm-mmm (as in yummy) Mmm-hmm (like yes) ” Repeat 5 times. This develops mask resonance, which creates a clean and vibrant sound by creating a clean approximation of the cords and a resonance that will sound great and project easily. Say “Mm-mmm. Mmm-hmm.” up and down your vocal range, from low to middle to high and back again, 10 times.
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I Don't have any habits related to smoking or drinking. I don't drink coffee and tea either . I am well built with moderate height of 5.8 . My sexual perspect is good too . My problem - when I get angry, I go berserk. No matter what's in my hand, I use it to throw it away in anger . I never beat women but when I get angry I get so tensed that I beat myself with whatever I have in my hand . My flow of words is also kind of shaggy when I speak during the anger mode . No proper flow of sentence in other words . I get very very arrogant, angry and mad when someone tries to harm my loved ones especially. It's as if someone has occupied my body is how people tell me when I am in anger . Anything that you could help me with in order to stop this problem?

BHMS
Homeopath, Secunderabad
Unless you make up your mind, nothing will work efficiently as expected. You have to choose every time whether you want to get agitated or be patient and behave properly. You have realized that when you get angry you lose your sense of balance and later regret because you make a fool out of your self! its just a matter of time that you can overcome most of your problems provided you have a sincere willingness to change. You can write down your thoughts and reactions in a diary and analyse where you go wrong every time you get angry. Give yourself some time (may be a few months to slow down.) your friends and close relatives can give genuine feedback if you ask them to tell them the truth about your nature. Homeopathy can work wonderfully if a proper case is taken. Till then, work on the few suggestions that I have given.
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I aged 39 years. My problems are. A) I don't recap the data or fact which have been done just before. B) I don't recap the name of people whom i know well. C) I forgetting the rout direction in moving way. D) I feel some hesitation in my middle head. E) Recently I feel headache in the back head and neck and it turned into left side after two day, i feel uneasy in my left eye and ear. Please discuss the fact and advice me what will i do. Thanking you.

M.Phil clinical Psychology, MS Psychotherapy and Counseling, PGDGC, MSc Psychology
Psychologist, Chennai
the possibilities are that you may have had the condition of learning disability with its prime impact on working memory and topography which was not identified. till now. or you are suffering from the effects of high stress which is affecting your attention concentration and memory. the body ailments are also caused by stress. meet a psychologist at the earliest for a proper evaluation and intervention. if you are in Chennai you can come and meet me
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I am a 20 years old male. I am experiencing memory loss and decrease in intelligence, I am forgetting things just happened minutes ago, and its taking time to understand things, it was all good before 2years ago. PLEASE TELL ME WHY IS THAT, AND WHAT CAN I DO TO BE CURED? PLEASE ANSWER ME.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Nothing surprising by what you say. Two years ago your hormones were pretty dormant and still waiting for its agenda to kick off. Now it has and because of that some disturbances are expected. You have not lost your memory but some more pressing physiological changes related to your age have started demanding attention, that is all. I suspect that the adolescent issues with regard to hormones may be affecting your ability to concentrate and remember. When the hormones play up, it lasts for a period of close to two years and during that time you could be influenced by three signs directly impacted by the chemical: you will tend to become aggressive and rebellious, you will become sexually active, and you will have acne and pimple problems. The hormonal imbalances may not only impact your memory because of the chemical but also bring some distractions that come with it. But you may work on the following even if the hormones kick in: Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning at least five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There are some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid all junk food.
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I am 28 years old I have joints pain and back pain almost all the time. I am not on any medication or pain killer. Used to drink alcohol, but from past 3 years I am not drinking it. Please suggest best treatment possible. Thanks.

BPTh/BPT, MPTh/MPT
Physiotherapist, Noida
I am 28 years old I have joints pain and back pain almost all the time. I am not on any medication or pain killer. Us...
Avoid bending in front. Postural correction- sit tall, walk tall. Extension exercises x 15 times x twice daily - lying on tummy, take left arm up for 3 seconds, then bring it down, right arm up for 3 seconds, bring down. Bring right leg up, hold for 3 seconds, bring it down. Then right leg up and hold for 3 seconds and bring it down. Repeat twice a day- 10 times. Bhujang asana? lie flat on your stomach, keeping the palms out, bend the neck backward, take a deep breath and while holding it for 6 seconds, raise the chest up. Release breath and relax your body. Repeat the exercise 15 times twice daily. Core strengthening exercises- straight leg raised with toes turned outward, repeat 10 times, twice a day.
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Hello I am 41 year old. I am working in govt office. I am hard worker. My boss is not supporting me. Not taking interest in my work .i have to work myself own. He favours to others who I don't like due to they are non supportive, jealous, lie blaming about unnecessary putting doubts in between friends. Due to this I am feeling insecureness in office. I am under depression day to day. Some powers and facility not getting. Overtake and overlooking is going on. Discouraging me in every step. Therefore every time in in busy thinking of office matter and boss with my subordinate who are favorite to him. Kindly suggest me needful.

MS - Counselling and Psychotherapy, Master of Arts in Clinical Psychology, Bachelor of Arts - Psychology and English Literature
Psychologist, Coimbatore
Hello I am 41 year old. I am working in govt office. I am hard worker. My boss is not supporting me. Not taking inter...
Hi lybrate-user! You need to behave differently in social situation like government office because people who are working there are of different mentality money minded, jealous, selfish and no guilty. So so you cannot show your true nature to them may be you are good in heart, helpful and honest, but these qualities does not favor them in any way either for their career or personally so you will be the odd man out. You need to be one among them just chatting but not involving in dishonest behaviour of them but otherwise you can chat with them. You need to show that you are also one among their conversation but assertive way you can be honest. Do not worry. If you still do not know how to handle inspite of the above suggestion you can definitely seek a Professional Psychologist at your locality or online consultation. If you are interested you can contact me either through text chat or online consultation yes you are most welcome. With regards,
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If a person has changed drastically like talking unnecessary things or speaking excessively is he suffering from depression.

PDDM, MHA, MBBS
General Physician, Nashik
If a person has changed drastically like talking unnecessary things or speaking excessively is he suffering from depr...
Hello, There are many aspects of depression, the more of them you have the more likely you are to have a clinical depression. Some patients feel severely depressed and suicidal. If you have these feelings you should go to the emergency department immediately. Other things that people with depression can feel are sadness, low energy, lack of motivation, poor sleep, irritability, weight gain or loss, poor self image and sometimes even a lack of touch with reality. The more of these symptoms you have the more likely it is that you have serious depression. Treatments for depression include medications, counseling and exercise. Again the more of these you do the better your chance for a successful treatment. Good luck to you,
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I m very aggressive nd goes annoyed on every second moment. I m unable to control my anger.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
If this has been a pattern for a long time I suggest that you meet with a counselor and with your parents. Your parents will be able to throw some light on where this anger is likely to come from. None of the feelings are to be controlled. The way you express them has to be appropriate. Now anger is pure energy and people mistakenly think that they must express anger violently, or aggressively, or they can damage something, or throw a fit, or kill, or hurt, or withdraw, etc. These expressions can be followed, if they are appropriate to the situation. You can instead simply talk about the feeling, write about it and share it with someone who understands; scream and shout in a situation which warrants it and so on. When the expression is most suitable, the repercussions are minimized and the other person tends to understand and is willing to apologize and sort out the matter. Many of us are inclined to worry about the consequences of expressing anger and use fear to suppress the legitimate expression. You can exorcise your anger out of your system by exercising, but it is the energy that is expended not the feeling. Unexpressed feelings will hurt you back by clinging on to a favorite organ and troubling it enough to cause it to malfunction or lead to its total dysfunction. You can also hand over the feeling to God, if you are a spiritual person, and very effectively too. All feelings must be expressed without exception.
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I am suffering from mental disability I can not concentrate on anything on myself also.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
I am suffering from mental disability I can not concentrate on anything on myself also.
Dear lybrate-user. If you cannot concentrate on tasks, that is not mental problem. Never misunderstand. Concentration is attention. The more you are creative, interested and dedicated towards a task, the more you can concentrate. Take care.
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Im suffering from acute stress, i had a break up and now im in depression!! I just want to come out from this stution and want to live a normal life but im feeling helpless, i have done everything to come out from this but in no use!!! Pls help me

MS - Counselling and Psychotherapy, MA - Psychology, aster of Science - Counseling, Psychotherapy, Phd - Counselling, Psychotherapy
Psychologist, Delhi
Breakups are always very painful and often lead to a negative state of being. one feel rejected and self esteem suffers. This point of time you need to try certain activities. 1. try to accept that this has happened nd gone, pen out feelings nd realease it completely or talk it out with one you trust. 2. try not to sit alone for long. 3. visit new places and try making new memories for yourself. 4. join some health club, this will help you to connect with your own body. 5. join some sports of your interest or a hobby you forgot long back..this bring the self esteem back. 6. get in touch with your friends, this helps you give a broader view of situation. 7. go out with or spend some time with family...it is a shock absorber. 8. lndulge in new learning, a course of your choice. 9. Try to be a little help at home. 10. if still you feel stuck, seek professional help. psychotherapy can help miraculously. take care and stay blessed.
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Hi i am 28 years old. I have problem of anger and stress. I feel anger and stress very easily. Im not happy with myself. Depression also often coming and going. Its like something want to coming out from me but its not cuming out. Since last year im dealing wid upper back pain cuz of pain also stress so much. Im looking someone to understand my problem and help me get over from it. Help me. Advice me how can I get rid of dis.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Hi i am 28 years old. I have problem of anger and stress. I feel anger and stress very easily. Im not happy with myse...
Anger management: 10 tips to tame your temper ANGER: There is a saying "Frustration begets anger and anger begets aggression. Direct anger, is expressed toward the object perceived as the cause of the frustration. If a machine does not work, you might hit it or kick it. If someone gets in your way, you could verbally threaten them or push them aside. If the source of the frustration is too powerful or threatening for direct aggression, displaced aggression is often used. The aggression is redirected toward a less threatening and more available object. An angry person often acts without thinking. The person has given in to the frustration and they have given up restraint. Anger can be a healthy response if it motivates us to positive action but all too often the actions we engage in when angry are destructive. Indeed, if we could see a videotape of ourselves getting angry, the humiliation might well help cure us of anger. When you feel frustration building, you have to practice learned responses that lead to healthy actions instead of destructive ones. GIVING UP: Giving up on a goal can be productive if the goal is truly out of reach. However, more often giving up (quitting or being apathetic) is another form of giving in to frustration. When repeatedly frustrated, people can drop out of school, quit jobs, or move away. Apathy is giving up all of your goals, so you cannot be frustrated by trying to reach them. We live in difficult time and we have to be persistent in order to accomplish. Consider how many projects you began, and then gave up, because you became frustrated and lost patience. Make a list of things you started and quit because they seemed too difficult. Now calculate the disappointment and loss you suffered by not dealing with the frustration in a more healthy way. Try to remember that quitters never win, and winners never quit. Losing your temper means you're a quitter. LOSS OF CONFIDENCE: is a terrible frequent side effect of giving up and not fulfilling your goal. A loss of self-confidence and self-esteem, means that If we quit once, then the next time we plan a goal, we may not be able to accurately assess our ability to carry it out and we stop trusting ourselves and our own abilities. This became a self-fulfilling and self-destructive attitude. You need to be able to learn that when the going gets tough, you say to yourself "It is worth it! and by following through, it not only gets the job done, but it builds self-confidence. STRESS: is the "wear and tear" our body and mind experiences as we adjust to the frustrations our continually changing environment. Too frequently, extreme, or prolonged frustration and stress strains us and generates distress signals. Our body experiences distress signals in a variety of ways, often in the form of: irritability, anger, fatigue anxiety, headache, depression, stomach aches, hypertension, migraines, ulcers, heart attacks, or colitis. DEPRESSION: Depression can affect almost every aspect of your life. It affects people of all ages, income, race, and cultures. Depression can affect the way you eat and sleep the way you feel about yourself, the way one think about things, and the way you interact with others. While we all feel depression at various appropriate times in our lives, excess or inappropriate depression cannot be easily dismissed or wished away. OTHER REACTIONS: abuse of drugs & alcohol is self-destructive and usually futile attempt at dealing with frustration, as are many eating and weight problems and addictions Whenever the immediate effects of the addictive behaviour wear off, users find themselves back in the same, or even worse, frustrating situation. Anger is among the gamut of emotions we exhibit as a reaction to a situation, and it is a 'normal' emotion too as long as it is kept under control. Some people have the propensity to explode when pushed to the extreme. They keep swallowing their emotions until they can finally do it no more, and erupt like a volcano. Others dealing with extreme anger are like a ticking time bomb. You'll never know what you unwittingly say or do can trigger an explosion. In either case, anger that cannot be controlled comes with a physical reaction. Your heart beats faster preparing you for both action and reaction. Your breathing quickens. You may clench your fist, tighten your shoulders and go into a defensive position. The problem arises out of the fact that it is almost impossible to feel anger and empathy at the same time. An angry person is seldom sensitive to the wellbeing of his victim, and hence may lash out verbally and sometimes physically. Such things done in the heat of the moment mostly leaves us with regrets. So here are a few ways to deal with extreme anger. 1.Approve it / Acknowledge it: The first step in solving a problem is recognizing that you have one. The fundamental problem here is that people believe they are on the right track and refuse to budge from their views. It is essential to realize that this step is not about deciding whether you are right or wrong, but acknowledging the fact that your reaction to the situation can be channelled in a better way. When getting someone to acknowledge their anger problem, be careful as to not use negative words like wrong, false and shouldn't. Instead, influence with positive words like can and should. Instead of saying 'You are wrong to react like this' you can say, 'I understand what you are feeling. Is there a way we can resolve this situation? 2.Understand / recognize the signs: Once you know that your problems exist, you can try devising ways that will work for you in dealing with the situation. You can count to 100 to calm yourself or simply decide to not speak until you can calm yourself. Knowing that you may enter into an argument in a situation, you can list down the points that you feel strongly about and discuss each of them one by one. Working your way through a finite list gives a better opportunity to reach closure at the end. 3.Free the mind/Find ways to let it go: Not all arguments end in closure. A lot of unsaid justifications cloud our mind repeatedly leaving us seething from the inside. Research has shown that the normal or neurological anger response lasts less than two seconds. Beyond that it takes a strong will to stay angry. Once you realize how much your anger is consuming your mind, decide to free your mind with meditation and other calming exercises. Tell yourself that some people and issues simply don't deserve your anger, emotion, reaction or time. If you or someone you know is suffering from anger management issues, consult a doctor today.
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I am a software engg by profession, recently i came across a girl in my office newly joined as intern but in a different team. 2 months back somehow i could manage to find her name and fb profile & i sent a friend request to her & she accepted that & asked me whether i know her, i said i saw you in office we work in the same company this is our first interaction. One day early morning in the office i thought i should call her for a tea & intro myself for this i just pinged her on fb to initiate a conversation however she didn't responded & in the evening she un-friend me i found it very rude & immature, if she wanted to do this then she should have not accepted the request. Next day i thought i should apologize to her for sending a friend request & normalize the issue as i don't want that we both feel uncomfortable when we see each other in the office it will very awkward situation so i did apologize to her by saying "i am sorry i din't realize how uncomfortable it would have been for you seeing unknown guy poking you" she replied its ok and went. Then whenever i use to see her i use to say Hi she also responds with Hi this went like for few days, then 2-3 times i could manage to talk to her about herself & career, guided her how she should progress in the company she talked very gently , frankly as if she is ok but whenever i see her i only initiate & she crosses as if she doesn't know me i f i don't say Hi this makes me thing "is she really comfortable talking to me" ? i should better ask her because i don't wanted that someday all of sudden she things that i am stalking & harassing her. I thought of asking her in alone over a snacks/tea for this i sent an email once "Up for Tea" but she didn't respond one day i met her personally i thought i will ask her now but somehow i couldn't get that confidence so i left it but after two days i msgd her on fb and asked can we talk about that she said yes i asked her that "are you comfortable when we talk" firstly she said "lame joke, gud nyt" i again asked her & i wrote one line along with this "that btw black suites you" after that she responded "Ques is dumb n inappropriate.I talk to my colleague about my project n work culture.Wats dere to not be uncomfy.Dont send buttering flith.I conclude_ u r nt a gud person to talk. I said i am sorry if i hurted you it's a compliment if you don't like it i take my words back i wrote sorry so many times but she didn't responded i felt like a beggar & found her very egoistic, i said don't do this i would feel guilty & it would become difficult for me to face you but she didn't respond. I started feeling for her now i don't know how to behave with her ? shall i talk to her in office normally or i should stop talking & ignore her? but if i do this i will hurt myself only because i really feel like talking to her but i don't want things to go worsen in office as it could spoil my career if she complains, Please guide me what i should do now, what should be my next course of action ?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear, I don't understand why you are pondering on the otherwise closed issue again and again. You wanted to have friendship with her. Fine. You should have stopped the moment she disagreed. You are confused because you are unable to convince you about the issue. You are doing well. Do it and go forward. Don;t ignore her at the same time don;t try to talk to her too. Occasions will come when you will be compelled to talk to her. Treat her as if she is your neighbor. Take care.
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I am in depression. I really don't know what can I do. I can't tell anyone. So please help me.

Bachelor of Arts (Psychology), MA Clinical Psychology, Diploma in Hypnotherapy, Diploma in Naturopathy & Yogic Science (DNYS), Certificate in Naturopathy & Yoga
Psychologist, Nagpur
I am in depression. I really don't know what can I do. I can't tell anyone. So please help me.
Dear Lybrate user Become self aware and start loving and appreciating yourself. Notice the infinity blessings and possibilities in your life. Reaching out to a person who is loving and understanding is helpful. Go for a walk daily. Listen good happy soothing music. Follow your hobbies and passions anything you like and enjoy doing. Ha a timely and sound sleep. Do relaxation (PMR) or meditation. Prioritize the things in your life in order to make your life balanced. Try deep breathing (belly breathing). Daydream but do not get carried away. You can contact me for a free consultation so that I get a better understanding of your problem and you get to know more about psychotherapy and clinical hypnotherapy.
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