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Dr. Preethi Swaroop

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry

Psychiatrist, Hyderabad

18 Years Experience  ·  0 - 600 at clinic
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Dr. Preethi Swaroop is a popular Psychiatrist in Vanaja Hospital, Hyderabad. She has had many happy patients in her 18 years of journey as a Psychiatrist. She has done MBBS, MD - Psychiatry . You can consult Dr. Preethi Swaroop at Vanaja Hospital in Vanaja Hospital, Hyderabad. Save your time and book an appointment online with Dr. Preethi Swaroop on Lybrate.com.

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MBBS - Gandhi Medical College, Hyderabad - 1999
MD - Psychiatry - Gandhi Medical College, Hyderabad - 2002

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Hello Sir, I'm 26 year old man. My problem is whenever I saw a handsome men I get attracted towards them and develop a desire to keep intimate relationship with that person. I am unable to control myself which may create bad impression in my personality. Please help me out how I can get rid of this issue.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Hello Sir, I'm 26 year old man. My problem is whenever I saw a handsome men I get attracted towards them and develop ...
Dear lybrate user. I can understand. Feeling of attraction towards a male is not homosexual attitude or gay. You may feel attraction. At the same time you are also able to maintain yourself not to do it. This is positive. Therefore you are on the right track. Don't worry unnecessarily. I suggest online counseling and cognitive therapy. Take care.
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Sir I Want to Know the effect of weed? And want to Quit Smoking because want to improve gastrointestinal what should I do?

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
When you stop it will improve a lot of better things than gastrointestinal problems. It is a good decision you have made and now it is important to implement it. Marijuana has varied findings and claims, many of which are dubious, and some for medicinal uses that are authentic. But each person reacts differently to these substances and you definitely sound like someone who is not reacting well. These drugs can precipitate underlying anxiety, quite innocuously. In the meantime, you must go on a regular exercise program, eat well and sleep well. A personality course will certainly help. Do Yoga and meditation too. If the addiction is in any way covering up some deep-rooted pain, you need to work on that and clear that out of your system. I hope you are aware that people who are addicted are often spiritually bankrupt. It would be wise for you to touch base with your faith and turn to some spiritual exercises to reform your path on the right track. I am sure it will help. Do not delay any action by denial: a typical reaction of all addicts. It comes in the form of over-confidence, some arrogance, and denying the existence of any problem. Stopping weed is like any other habit like smoking and has to be done immediately, promptly, and abruptly. When quitting, you must take one day at a time. If you look too far ahead you will get discouraged and will give up. If you sit and count the number of days you have given up, that will also focus too much on achievement. You must focus on the here and now, on that day to be precise. After all quitting is not that easy due to many factors. So even if you fail one day, you must try and try again. Very few people succeed in their first attempt. Your persistence will eventually pay off. The urge to discontinue is hampered by many factors but the worst of them is the conditioning and the high you get from the weed. In fact these conditions can exist all through the day unlike other addictions. But your desire to want to stop is the most important factor. It is important to find out about the ill-effects of smoking weed to have a reason that alarms you about continuing in the habit. The information is really scary but true and you must remind yourself about this every day. Though there are contravening information percolating from researchers of various kinds expounding its benefits. You should start vigorous exercises, gradually increasing it over a period of time. Do deep breathing exercises every time you feel like smoking (try Yoga), and replace the oral urge with some healthy food substitute to satiate the need. You may also take hard candy or chewing gum. You may also join Smokers Anonymous in your city where the support is really extraordinary for like-minded people who are also in the same situation, even though you are into weed. Keep yourself occupied or engaged with interesting activities during the times when it is most tempting. Keep the company of non-smokers of weed and cigarettes for some time i. E. At least for the first 21 days. Above all announce it to everyone that you have quit smoking. Here’s a piece of very good advice: even if you accidentally/willfully take a refill, it is not the end of the world – you can start the cessation all over again. You must persevere with the best support until you defeat this addiction. Counseling is very useful in the initial stages and when temptations are at their highest.
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I have lost someone from my life and from that I am thinking all about her. Some time's I became frustrated please help.

M.D. (Ayurveda )
Ayurveda, Patiala
I have lost someone from my life and from that I am thinking all about her. Some time's I became frustrated please help.
Kindly take ashwagandha powder, 1 tsf in half a glass of warm milk, twice a day empty stomach. Take brahmi vati gold, 1 tab, twice a day after meals with a cup of warm milk. Go for a walk in the morning for 20-25 mins. Indulge yourself in your occupation. Stay positive, worse times also pass. Good luck. Continue the regime for 1 month.
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My GF is now committed with one of my best friend from past 2 month nd I loved him a lot now she not wants to come to me I cannot live without her my age is 22 what can I do now.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
My GF is now committed with one of my best friend from past 2 month nd I loved him a lot now she not wants to come to...
I don?t know what went wrong: you need to share more information about that to truly understand this development. If it is for better (for her, that is) this may be the last you will see of her as a friend. If you have done something to provoke this reaction, then you can make amends, if it is not too late. If you do not match up to this best friend of yours, then you stand no chance to regain her love. It therefore seems with this limited information that the writing is on the wall, so to say. You must move on: if she is meant for you she will come back. But do not do anything to woo her back as yet. If her infatuation with this friend fades away at any time, you need to be there for her and she should be able to recognize that you behaved like a true gentleman through all this: Your impression in her mind will grow in bounds. In the meantime focus on your academic and career development and make yourself a more desirable partner over time.
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heel pain and treatment

MSPT (Master of Physical Therapy)
Physiotherapist, Indore
heel pain and treatment
Heel pain?
Heel pain is a very common foot complaint and may involve injury to the bone, fat pad, ligaments, tendons or muscles. Heel pain can also be referred by a pinched nerve in your lower back.

It is important to have your heel pain thoroughly assessed to ensure an accurate diagnosis and subsequent treatment.

Anyone can suffer from heel pain, but certain groups seem to be at increased risk, including:

Middle aged men and women
Active people eg running sports
People who are very overweight
Children aged between 8 and 13 years
Pregnant women
People who stand for long periods of time.
Common sources of heel pain
Achilles tendon rupture
Achilles tendonitis / tendinitis
Fibromyalgia
Heel spur
High ankle sprain
Lupus
Muscle strain (muscle pain)
Overuse injuries
Peroneal tendonitis
Pinched nerve
Plantar fasciitis
Psoriatic arthritis
Rheumatoid arthritis
Severs disease
Shin splints
Sprained ankle
Stress fracture feet
Common causes of heel pain?
Some of the many causes of heel pain can include:

Abnormal walking style (such as rolling the feet inwards)
Obesity
Ill-fitting shoes eg narrow toe, worn out shoes
Standing, running or jumping on hard surfaces
Recent changes in exercise program
Heel trauma eg. Stress fractures
Bursitis (inflammation of a bursa)
Health disorders, including diabetes and arthritis.
Heel pain treatment
Most heel pain is caused by a combination of poor biomechanics, or muscle weakness or tightness. The good news is that heel pain can be effectively managed once the cause is identified.

Most heel pain can be successfully treated via:

Pain and pressure relief techniques
Biomechanical correction eg orthotics, taping, foot posture exercises
Muscle stretches and massage
Lower limb muscle strengthening
Proprioceptive and balance exercises to stimulate your foot intrinsic muscles.
If you feel that your footwear or sports training schedule are potentially causing your heel pain, then we recommend that you seek the advice of a sports physiotherapist, podiatrist or trained footwear specialist (not just a shop assistant) to see if your shoe is a match for your foot; or discuss your training regime to see if you are doing too much.

Heel pain and injury are extremely common. With accurate assessment and early treatment most heel pain injuries respond extremely quickly to physiotherapy allowing you to quickly resume pain-free and normal activities of daily living.

Please ask you physiotherapist for their professional treatment advice.
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Hi there are any other person is an excellent idea what to say that I can see a lot of the organisation and a bit t to the right thing to remember the name of a problem with what you want me to be a bit like.

BHMS
Homeopath, Raebareli
Hi there are any other person is an excellent idea what to say that I can see a lot of the organisation and a bit t t...
Cognitive therapy using speech or language therapist can be of help in patients with mild to moderate memory loss.
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I am 30 years old. I never drive bike yet. I always use cycle. My health now ok. Because I am young. My question is: from now how many years I run cycle. My bone help to run cycle. Kindly give tips to care on bone. And must tell me age bone support me to run cycle.

International Academy of Classical Homeopathy, BHMS
Homeopath,
I am 30 years old. I never drive bike yet. I always use cycle. My health now ok. Because I am young. My question is: ...
for weight loss follow Eat a high-protein breakfast. Avoid sugary drinks and fruit juice. Drink water a half hour before meals. Choose weight loss-friendly foods Eat soluble fiber Drink coffee or tea. Eat mostly whole, unprocessed foods. Eat your food slowly. inform me progres
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I am a young female I am 20/years old I feel sometimes dealing with stress for no reason I get anxious talking to people and find it impossible to connect with others.

M.S. Counselling and Psychotherapy
Psychologist, Bangalore
I am a young female I am 20/years old I feel sometimes dealing with stress for no reason I get anxious talking to peo...
It appears that probably you have performance anxiety. If you are feeling stressed, then that means there is some reason but you are not able to understand what is causing this stress. Try to find out the source/trigger of your stress and then work on it. Each person in this world is different. You will not find a person who's ideas and thoughts will mactch with you 100%. But definitely you will have like minded people, you need to search for them. The people with whom you generally interact with may not be sharing your thoughts, ideas, and likes because of their different backgrounds and different life experiences. That is why you are finding it difficult to connect with them. There are many groups online also where you can find like minded people. About your anxiety about talking to people, do you worry about how they will perceive you? are you not confident about your social skills? if it is so, please practice the conversations when you are alone. Have realistic expectations from yourself. You also can take help of a counsellor who will help you in improving your social and interpersonal skills.
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I am 29 years old, working lady. For previous 1 year I am suffering from mental stress. Due to that I forgot many things, can' t remember what happpened 2-3 dqays ago. Is it a disease? my memory was so sharp before 1 year and now I forgot small small things.

International Academy of Classical Homeopathy, BHMS
Homeopath,
Homeopathy acts on mental emotional level without adverse effects. So accordingly me after case taking we can get rid of abov c/o. Take care. God bless u.
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Hi. I have had a very troublesome life so far. Went through a divorce, job problems and financial problems, Depression etc. I am working on several things to start my life all over again. I find that I am not able to use my brain to full potential. I am looking for a medicine/ drug which will help me improve my brain function. Make me mentally so powerful and clear which will help me achieve my goals. All my concern is I want to focus and concentrate on things I want to do and not what happened so far. I really need something to turn my brain into a computer. Can you please suggest? Thank you in advance. Wasim.

MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Patna
Hi. I have had a very troublesome life so far. Went through a divorce, job problems and financial problems, Depressio...
By reading your description, it seems you are having significant grief and regret for your past events which stills comes in your mind to affect your present. Indeed, significant past social stressor can make a person depressed but you need to be interviewed and evaluated by a expert psychiatrist before being labelled as depressed and to receive proper treatment. There is no medicine which can erase past painful memories, or make your brain like a computer, although I believe a suitable antidepressant will solve most of the concern which you have mentioned in the above description.
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My nature is becoming very weird I got angry on small thing or even without any reason and I am not able to take any decision means my mind is now confused what is it?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear user, Anger and aggression are emotions. Anger comes when you become irritated. Irritation happens when you don't like something, or when something is repeated. As anger is an emotion, it should be vent out. You should be able to throw anger out instead of controlling it. But more perfect will be, know the frustrating situations and stop being emotional. If practiced properly, you will not get irritated at those circumstances at all. Those techniques are much easier to understand. Take care.
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My age is 23. My mind is not working in sometimes. I forgot something easily. What happened to my brain. What I do to improve my brain power. Which doctor can I consult.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Your brain is like a muscle. You need to exercise it regularly. The exciting thing is that you don’t have to be a millionaire to increase your brain capacity. All you need to do is invest a little time to regularly train your brain. So what can you do? Here are 10 simple ways you can increase your brain power and improve your intelligence! 1. Do something new When you experience something ‘new’ you actually ‘stimulate’ your brain! Don’t get stuck in a rut doing the same old things – the only way to change the structure of your brain is to do something new. This creates new neural pathways, increasing your intelligence. You could take a new route to work, try a new recipe for dinner, or even a new form of exercise – mix it up! 2. Exercise regularly It’s been proven that regular exercise helps to increase brain function and enhances neurogenesis. This means that every time you exercise you are creating new brain cells! Get off the couch and get moving! Your brain will thank you for it :) 3. Train your memory How often do you hear people say “I wish I had a better memory?’ Yet no-one does anything about this! If you discipline yourself to memorise phone numbers and other important numbers (passport, credit card, insurance, driving license) you will start to see a marked improvement in your memory 4. Be curious Instead of taking everything at face value, get into the habit of questioning everyday things/products, services that you come into contact with. By being ‘curious’ and questioning everything, you force your brain to innovate & create new ideas. Curiosity may have killed that cat, more importantly it created super important things like electricity and computers! 5. Think positive Stress & anxiety kill existing brain neurons and also stop new neurons from being created. Research has shown that positive thinking, especially in the future tense, speeds up the creation of cells and dramatically reduces stress & anxiety. Try and get a handle on negative thoughts and make an effort to replace them with positive ones. 6. Eat healthy Our diets have a HUGE impact on brain function. Our brains consume over 20% of all nutrients & oxygen that we consume – so remember to feed your brain with the good stuff! (i.e. Fresh fruit and veg & plenty of OMEGA 3 oils found in oily fish)
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Hello sir .plz help me. Sir mere husband diwali se depression me hain. Mujhe kuch samajh nahi aa raha hai ki mai kaise unke sath behave karu wo ya to gum or chup ho jate hain ya fir gussa karte hain .doctor k yahan jane ko tayaar nahi hain. Unko jaise vaham sa ho gya hai. Har cheez par shak karte hain. please ap mujhe bataye k mai unke sath kaise behave karu. Mai bahut pareshan ho gai hu .mai unki help karna chahti hu unko in sabse bahar nikalne k lie. please suggest me k mai ye kaise karu.

M.Sc - Applied Psychology, MS - Counselling and Psychotherapy, PG diploma in child guidance and family therapy
Psychologist, Delhi
Hello sir  .plz help me. Sir mere husband diwali se depression me hain. Mujhe kuch samajh nahi aa raha hai ki mai kai...
Hello Lybrate user. Ma'am don't worry sab thik ho jayega .pls aap yeh steps follow karo. 1-Try to stay on the same team. "The enemy is the illness, and not the person with depression, 2-Don't get bogged down in stigma or angry feelings 3-Help this person get a proper diagnosis and treatment. 4-Show receptivity. Encourage a depressed person to talk about the way he or she is feeling, thinking or acting, and listen without passing judgment 5-Offer to go to a doctor's visit. 6-don't try told him how you're feeling what he feel cause you don't 7-help him to remember the happy moment in life 8-if he told you i'm depressed wouldn't tell him me to 9-get him out for hiking or make any hobbies he like. This is my opinion how to deal with depressed people from life experiences or if further you can personally visit your near by area .at least go and discuss this case with the psychologist.
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I have stammering problem since I was child. I talk normally without stammering when I talks to friends or someone I know, but the problem starts when I talk to any strangers or front of many people on stage due to nervousness. It also happens when someone suddenly ask a question. It's really very big problem for me, I just want to overcome it. So if you please tell me what to do, I will be very obliged. Thank you & looking for your reply.

B. Sc. Speech and Hearing
Audiologist, Delhi
Speaking situations which are in your comfort zone, you will not face a problem. But when you are stepping out from your comfort zone stammering happens. This happens to all. But problem arise when you fail to cope with the situation. So you need to strengthen your coping mechanism. Speech therapy will help.
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Sir/madam how should I get more in power to gain marks in exams and can't concentrate on studies how should I get it and is their tips to follow them.

Bachelor of Ayurveda, Medicine and Surgery (BAMS), Masters in psychology counselling
Psychologist, Hyderabad
Dear lybrate-user, try this method many people are success first and most sleep early wake up early at 4.0 am and study with fresh mind, of course subjects which you are not interested you must spend more time and repeat it many times" practice makes perfect". Switch off mobile phone when you go to bed and switch it on at 6am. Example some people they don't like mathematics but it is essential for life everyday and every time we are depended on mathematics, right from doctor to business man, including vegetable seller, we can understand many other distraction disturbed minds it is like love issues. Still not able to concentrate go for counselling help.
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I was always plumpy girl since childhood. After started taking medicine of epilepsy and thyroid, I put on lot of weight in my adolescent period. Since then I had tried many ways to reduce and from 90 kg I got down to 80 till my marriage within 1.5 years. After getting married, I put on 15 kgs n now I am 95. Now please guide me how to reduce despite having my hectic working schedule and no time to workout. These conditions are affecting me physically and mentally also. I get tired soon nd feel sad many times. Earlier through disciplined diet and massages and herbal life powder I reduced. After leaving all this I gained again. Now I am regretting since than. But now I need motivation and will power to come back to 80 kgs again. Please guide me. I want to plan my family next year. Thyroid doctor has advised me to reduce minimum 5 kgs. I feel fed up sometimes, crying also. This is all because of my weighty issues. please help me.

PG Diploma in Emergency Medicine Services (PGDEMS), Bachelor of Ayurveda, Medicine and Surgery (BAMS), MD - Alternate Medicine
Ayurveda, Ghaziabad
1. Controlling your diet and exercising regularly is the key to losing weight. Taking the following could also help in accelerating the weight loss process: taking pranacharya medohar rasayan (1-1) twice a day; taking medohar guggul (2-2) twice a day; pranacharya slim capsule (1-1) twice a day. 2. It is advisable to avoid junk, fried, fermented or oily food. You should also avoid the intake of alcohol, sugar, dairy products. 3. You should increase the intake of oats and cereals. You should incorporate a walk of at least 45 minutes in your daily regime and prayanama every morning. It is advised not to sleep immediately after taking a meal.
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My dad is very much addicted to alcohol. I want him to come out of it. But he is not willing to, he was once admitted to hospital for cell damage at liver but then he stayed for one month without alcohol later he started for 15 days n other days he does not drink. Without his knowledge can give any medication to stop alcoholic addiction. Please suggest.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
My dad is very much addicted to alcohol. I want him to come out of it. But he is not willing to, he was once admitted...
There Is no such medicine as many advertisements claim. Only strong will power, determination, attending AA meetings and diverting mind when tempted will help you stop alcohol Alcohol causes 7 types of cancer, including breast, mouth and bowel cancers. When you drink alcohol, cancer-causing chemicals are formed. Alcohol also affects hormone levels and makes cells even more likely to be damaged by smoking. The less alcohol you drink, the lower the risk of cancer. No type of alcohol is better or worse than another, it is the alcohol itself that leads to the damage, regardless of whether it is in wine, beer or spirits. And drinking and smoking together are even worse for you. Not everyone who drinks alcohol will develop cancer. But on the whole, scientists have found that some cancers are more common in people who drink more alcohol than others. Every year, alcohol causes 4% of cancers .Tips to cut down on alcohol. There are lots of simple ways to cut down on the amount of alcohol you drink. It can help to work out if there are particular times or situations when you tend to have a drink, whether that’s a bad day at work or a weekly pub quiz tradition, and plan what you’ll say and do differently next time. Have more alcohol-free days a week. For liver health it’s best to have at least 2 days off alcohol in a row each week. Try agreeing on certain days with your partner or a friend and help each other and stick to it. If you are planning to drink alcohol, decide on a limit in advance and make sure you don’t go over it. Swap every other alcoholic drink for a soft one – starting with your first drink. Try shandy instead of a pint of beer, or swap some wine for soda and have a spritzer. Don’t stock up on beer, wine or spirits at home. Finish one drink before pouring another, because topping up drinks makes it harder to keep track of how much you’ve had and when you planned to stop. Avoid buying drinks in rounds, that way you don’t have to keep pace with anyone. Tell a friend or partner that you’re cutting down on alcohol, they can support you – or even join you.
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We have got engaged and I had a gerlfriend earlier. Will it be correct to discuss about her to my would be?

BHARAT JYOTI, MRACGP, INCEPTOR, MD-PhD, MD - Psychiatry, FIPS, Fellow of Academy of General Education (FAGE), DPM, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Bangalore
Try to figure out discussing with your pnew partner. be open. follow some the following guidelines: Solutions That Can Save a Relationship. Communication All relationship problems stem from poor communication, You can't communicate while you're checking your BlackBerry, watching TV, or flipping through the sports section" Sex Even partners who love each other can be a mismatch, sexually,lack of sexual self-awareness and education worsens these problems. But having sex is one of the last things you should give up. "Sex" "brings us closer together, releases hormones that help our bodies both physically and mentally, and keeps the chemistry of a healthy couple healthy" Problem-solving strategies: Plan, plan, plan. Money Money problems can start even before the wedding vows are exchanged. They can stem, for example, from the expenses of courtship or from the high cost of a wedding. Problem-solving strategies: Be honest about your current financial situation. If things have gone south, continuing the same lifestyle is unrealistic.Don't approach the subject in the heat of battle. Instead, set aside a time that is convenient and non-threatening for both of you.Acknowledge that one partner may be a saver and one a spender, understand there are benefits to both, and agree to learn from each other's tendencies.Don't hide income or debt. Bring financial documents, including a recent credit report, pay stubs, bank statements,policies, debts, and investments to the table.Don't blame.Construct a joint budget that includes savings.Decide which person will be responsible for paying the monthly bills.Allow each person to have independence by setting aside money to be spent at his or her discretion.Decide upon short-term and long-term goals. It's OK to have individual goals, but you should have family goals, too.Talk about caring for your parents as they age and how to appropriately plan for their financial needs if needed. Struggles Over Home Chores Most partners work outside the home and often at more than one job. So it's important to fairly divide the labor at home. Problem-solving strategies: Be organized and clear about your respective jobs in the home, "Write all the jobs down and agree on who does what" Be fair so no resentment builds.Be open to other solutions, she says If you both hate housework, maybe you can spring for a cleaning service. If one of you likes housework, the other partner can do the laundry and the yard. You can be creative and take preferences into account -- as long as it feels fair to both of you. Not Making Your Relationship a Priority If you want to keep your love life going, making your relationship a focal point should not end when you say "I do" "Relationships lose their luster. So make yours a priority. Problem-solving strategies: Do the things you used to do when you first met. Show appreciation, compliment each other, contact each other through the day, and show interest in each other. Schedule time together on the calendar, Say "thank you"appreciate" It lets your partner know that they matter. Conflict Occasional conflict is a part of life. . The same lousy situations keep repeating day after day -- it's time to break free of this toxic routine. When you make the effort, you can lessen the anger and take a calm look at underlying issues. Problem-solving strategies: You and your partner can learn to argue in a more civil, helpful manner . Make these strategies part of who you are in this relationship. Realize you are not a victim. It is your choice whether you react and how you react.Be honest with yourself. When you're in the midst of an argument, are your comments geared toward resolving the conflict, or are you looking for payback? If your comments are blaming and hurtful, it's best to take a deep breath and change your strategy.Change it up. If you continue to respond in the way that's brought you pain and unhappiness in the past, you can't expect a different result this time. Just one little shift can make a big difference. If you usually jump right in to defend yourself before your partner is finished speaking, hold off for a moments. You'll be surprised at how such a small shift in tempo can change the whole tone of an argument.Give a little; get a lot. Apologize when you're wrong. Sure it's tough, but just try it and watch something wonderful happen. "You can't control anyone else's behavior. "The only one in your charge is you" Trust Trust is a key part of a relationship. Do you see certain things that cause you not to trust your partner? Or do you have unresolved issues that prevent you from trusting others? Problem-solving strategies: Be consistent.Be on time.Do what you say yent.Be sensitive to the other's feelings. You can still disagree, but don't discount how your partner is feeling.Call when you say you will.Call to say you'll be home late.Carry your fair share of the workload.Don't overreact when things go wrong.Never say things you can't take back.Don't dig up old wounds.Respect your partner's boundaries.Don?t be jealous.Be a good listener. Even though there are always going to be problems in a relationship you both can do things to minimize marriage problems, if not avoid them altogether. First, be realistic. Thinking your mate will meet all your needs -- and will be able to figure them out without your asking -- is a Hollywood fantasy. "Ask for what you need directly" Next, use humor -- learn to let things go and enjoy one another more. Finally, be willing to work on your relationship and to truly look at what needs to be done. Don't think that things would be better with someone else. Unless you address problems, the same lack of skills that get in the way now will still be there and still cause problems no matter what relationship you're in.
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I am feeling lonely and there is no one to care me and my thoughts are becoming bad day by day am hating my self even my mom dad sis couldnt understand my feeling I dont know whom to trust? I am relaxing my self by masturbating daily two times I dont know how to overcome it?

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I am feeling lonely and there is no one to care me and my thoughts are becoming bad day by day am hating my self even...
You are sounding like you are into a depression and it is progressively getting worse. You need professional help right away. I suggest that you go meet a counselor immediately and if that person advises, you may have to meet with a doctor too. Even if you are put on medication do not discontinue the counseling for a long time. Since the problem manifests so early there may be some childhood influences that are causing this depression. In that case I suggest you take your parents too, to the counselor. In the meantime please do the following sincerely because at your age you could resolve the problem better with good cooperation: Have a good night?s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. I suggest you do the opposite of what this depression makes you feel like doing (actually, not doing): you will need to fight this condition. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least 30 minutes but not in the scotching heat. Whatever happens, please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate your sufferings. Don?t wait for others to help. Use your own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but persevere and win this battle. Above all to be really happy, you need to live in love and for love: find someone to love and to love you back. If you love yourself adequately, you will never do harm to yourself. Be positive always and learn to do everything possible to invest into yourself. Life is extremely precious and because the depression, which is a mood disorder, makes you feel like giving up you must still persevere. Learn all about emotions and how to handle them and that will get you out of the depression rather easily and quickly. A counselor is there only to facilitate you, all the hard word must come from you, and your cooperation with that person is very critical for your success. Be positive everyday and learn to be contended with what you have. Do some left brain exercises: it is the happy brain. Here are a few suggestions: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. Whatever happens please cooperate with the therapy and do not discontinue until the condition is completely resolved. Because you are young the prognosis is good subject to your cooperation.
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