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Dr. Ashok K Alimchandani

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Psychiatrist, Hyderabad

Dr. Ashok K Alimchandani MD Psychiatrist, Hyderabad
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Hello and thank you for visiting my Lybrate profile! I want to let you know that here at my office my staff and I will do our best to make you comfortable. I strongly believe in ethics; a......more
Hello and thank you for visiting my Lybrate profile! I want to let you know that here at my office my staff and I will do our best to make you comfortable. I strongly believe in ethics; as a health provider being ethical is not just a remembered value, but a strongly observed one.
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Dr. Ashok K Alimchandani is an experienced Psychiatrist in Banjara Hills, Hyderabad. He has done MD . You can consult Dr. Ashok K Alimchandani at Asha Hospital in Banjara Hills, Hyderabad. Book an appointment online with Dr. Ashok K Alimchandani on Lybrate.com.

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Hello Doctor, I am married for past 11 yrs, we had love marriage though my husbands parents were not happy with and trouble some but my husband and wife were happy but from past 3 to 4 years our relationship is ruining My husband lost all his financial gains and got cheated in business so I work in a pvt firm due to this he has started drinking heavily and abuses me speaks slang language to me and my kids, He was a very responsible and hardworking person earlier but now he has no interest to go for job nor has interest in family he has only interest in drinking and quarreling with me and he also simply suspects me on my character I am sure he is depressed due to his business loss but I have tried a lot to understand him and helped him to come out of that but he does not listen to me or anybody who tells him good Please guide me what to do with him and get him back out of this because he was a very wonderful human being loving an caring husband son and father, Please advise.

L L. B..,, M.Sc psychy,, N L P, P.G.D.G.C, M.S psychotherapy,, M.A child care, M A, clinical psy, M.A,social psychiatry,, M.Phil., psychology., Ph.D .,psychology
Psychologist, Vijayawada
Hello Doctor, I am married for past 11 yrs, we had love marriage though my husbands parents were not happy with and t...
He lost in financial status for that reason he become hopeless and escapist. Better to take the help of your elders. Or his friends. Understand the situation properly. If not possible. It is better to take him psychiatrist. Along with psychiatric medicine it is better to consult psychologist for psychological counselling. You know he is very good person. Because of his mental condition. He disturbed and suspect to you. In this stage you do not develop negative thoughts. Understand his mental status is not good. If he reject the medicine then consult psychologist. It is not done only by you. Better to take his or your elders help. It is always best. Or request him or talk like a friend when he is good mood. If he scolds you do not bother wait for right time. You have chance to win one day. Upto that wait. God will helps to you. Do not develop depression status. Remaining time you better to develop a very good friendly relations in office environment. Ok all the best.
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Symptoms And Treatment of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder!

MBBS, MD Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Kottayam
Symptoms And Treatment of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder!

A particularly stressful situation or event that has created terror or been overly dramatic or dangerous can lead to stress and anxiety long after the individual has physically come out of the situation. This kind of a traumatic condition is usually what characterises Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).

In simple words, PTSD is a neurological disorder which affects individuals after experiencing severe traumatic situations.

Symptoms of PTSD:

  1. Mood symptoms: Mood swings are the most common outcome of these symptoms. The patient may experience a complete lack of enthusiasm and drive to indulge in activities like hobbies and socialising. Also, the patient may end up harbouring feelings of negativity towards family, friends and strangers, besides going through phases of guilt and self blame for the occurrence of the traumatic event.
  2. Re-experiencing symptoms: These symptoms include flashbacks and life like re-imagination in the form of dreams and nightmares. In many cases, the patient may remember and re-experience the entire scene or series of events that have led to the trauma in the first place. This can be triggered by a memory or association with words, events and other such things that have to do with the memory of the traumatic episode.
  3. Arousal symptoms: Arousal or reactivity symptoms may trigger the same reactions that the person showed during the traumatic experience. These may include being on edge constantly in anticipation of a reoccurrence, or even getting startled by the slightest thing since the mind is already occupied with thoughts of the event, constantly. Anger and emotional outbursts may also be caused due to these symptoms.
  4. Avoidance or rumination: Those suffering from PTSD avoid being reminded of the trauma, such as people, situations or circumstances associated with the event. They try to suppress memories associated with the event.- Many others ruminate excessively and prevent themselves from coming to terms with it.

Treatment for PTSD:

Mindfulness meditation (not a treatment option) helps in recognizing cognitive dissonances and affected thought patterns and aids in recognizing and overcoming their influence. Other therapies, including Cognitive behavioral therapy (TF-CBT) and eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) are also done depending on the patient's condition.

How do medications help regulate these responses?

The medications prescribed for treating PTSD symptoms act upon neurotransmitters related to the fear and anxiety circuitry of the brain including serotonin, norepinephrine, gamma-aminobutyric acid (GABA), excitatory amino acids. There is great interest in developing agents with novel and more specific mechanisms of action than are currently available to target the PTSD symptoms described earlier while also minimizing potential side effects.

Studies show that a number of medications are helpful in minimizing PTSD symptoms. Most of the time, medications do not entirely eliminate symptoms but provide symptom reduction and could be more effective when used in conjunction with an ongoing program of trauma specific psychotherapy for patients.

Medications

Several types of medications can help improve symptoms of PTSD:

  1. Antidepressants. These medications can help symptoms of depression and anxiety. They can also help improve sleep problems and concentration. The selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI) medications sertraline (Zoloft) and paroxetine (Paxil) are approved by the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) for PTSD treatment.
  2. Anti-anxiety medications. These drugs can relieve severe anxiety and related problems. Some anti-anxiety medications have the potential for abuse, so they are generally used only for a short time.
  3. Prazosin. If symptoms include insomnia with recurrent nightmares, a drug called prazosin (Minipress) may help. Although not specifically FDA approved for PTSD treatment, prazosin may reduce or suppress nightmares in many people with PTSD.

You and your doctor can work together to figure out the best medication, with the fewest side effects, for your symptoms and situation. You may see an improvement in your mood and other symptoms within a few weeks. If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult a psychiatrist.

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How to detect that a person is smoking cigerates. And what are the counter measures for smoking cigerate. Is a cigerate a day is harmful.

DHMS (Diploma in Homeopathic Medicine and Surgery)
Homeopath, Ludhiana
Initially it can be only detected by smell of his breath while talking to him but later on the effects of smoking starts showing on body---------------myself is a homoeopath and consult me for complete details regharding how to quit this habit--------1 cigratte a day is surely very harmful in long term---------------
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I am 29 years old male I am getting confusion and no clarity for my career so that I am depressing always. Even though I am I am working in good Limited company and I am in mid career level.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I am 29 years old male I am getting confusion and no clarity for my career so that I am depressing always. Even thoug...
It is still not too late to do a career counseling session and Aptitude test to determine what exactly you are talented for. The counselor will guide you and show you the different options you may have for your strengths. Many of us fail to do these tests and our parents determine our careers. This is not the way. You may not need to leave your current occupation but modify your career path based on those findings.
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Do Juvenile Myclonic epilepsy has anything to do with memory problems? I have this disease and facing too much memory problems and confusion.

MD - General Medicine, MBBS
General Physician, Karimnagar
Hello, most of the patients with jme have normal memory and cognitive function, but some people might suffer from these. In addition these problems may also be due to anti epileptic drugs the effect of which cannot be separated. Kindly let me know what drugs you are using for jme.
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Homeopathic Remedies to Help You Manage Stress Symptoms, Before Stress Manages You

MD - Homeopathy
Homeopath, Aurangabad
Homeopathic Remedies to Help You Manage Stress Symptoms, Before Stress Manages You

Stress affects every aspect of our lives. It does not allow you to think or focus on anything else, tempts you to binge eat and takes control of your lifestyle. Stress can also cause severe health problems that can result in heart disease. Thus it is very necessary to learn how to control and manage stress. Managing your stress effectively can help you cope with it better and let your remain in control of your life.

Homeopathy is based on the belief that the mind and body are connected. Thus by treating one, the other can benefit as well. Thus when prescribing a form of treatment for any health condition, attention is always paid to the mental state of the patient. Homeopathy can be very effective in treating and controlling stress and stress related problems. When treating stress with homeopathy, it is essential to first understand the cause of stress.

Some common homeopathic remedies for stress are:

  1. Arsenic Album: This is usually prescribed to people who are generally anxious and nervous. People affected by the stress of being late for an event or meeting can also be given this remedy to ease the stress. Patients who benefit from this form of treatment are also often hypochondriacs who constantly feel that every minor symptom is a sign of a major illness.
  2. Bryonia: This is very effective remedy for all kinds of stress. It can also be used to treat stress triggered by uncertainty at the workplace and insecurity about not having enough money even though they work very hard.
  3. Calcarea Carbonica: This is also a common homeopathic remedy for work place related stress. People who are concerned about being observed or stressed by an upcoming deadline can be benefited by this medication. This type of stress can commonly be seen at the time of appraisals.
  4. Staphysagria: People who are extremely sensitive and feel that the world is unjust and unfair to them cab be benefited by Staphysagria. This is often faced by children bullied in school and people in corporate work environments. Staphysagria boosts confidence levels and thus makes the person feel less vulnerable.
  5. Ignatia: Emotional stress is very well treated by Ignatia. This homeopathic remedy addresses feelings of disappointment and guilt and stress that follows an emotional loss such as the loss of a loved one or breaking up for a relationship. It also fights the desire to withdraw from family and friends and moodiness.
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I can't getting concentration.I am a divorcee.Because of I suffered a lot from stranger people. I want peace, concentration and self confidence.On pray time also mind is totally out of control.Kindly give an advice for recover from this negatives.I need a positive attitude.Kindly do the help.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lakshmi. You are not suffering from concentration problems. You are unable to be attentive in your task because you are obsessive. There must be some reasons for your obsessive thinking. You must analyse your thoughts and prepare a log about your negative thoughts. You may post private question to me with as many details as possible. I am happy 2 help you. God bless you
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I am a 28 year old male, my question is that I feel like I have some problem with me because I tends to forget, focus, and I dont feel comfortable when face a crowd or a gatherings, I also have some problem with my hearings, etc. So would I be able to get cured because I am facing a lot of problem while in workplace, so kindly please help me. Thank you for your service.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear, from the given symptoms, you may be suffering from generalized anxiety disorder which needs to be tested for confirmation. Please post a private question to me with every details. Take care.
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I had a nice sniff of Vick inhaler which had a effect on the alcohol I had . Is it possible.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lybrate user. I can understand. Yes. Vicks inhaler fumes, if inhaled will provide a good elatedness for those people who are already on the influence of alcohol. There are no scientific provings to second the phenomenon yet. I suggest not to use such a method yet. Take care.
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Hi I am 18 years old. I am getting lot of depression nowadays due to my failure in professional foundation course after my 3 attempts. I can't concentrate in classes. My mind gets distracted. I am having head ache some times due to this. Some times I even got jealous by seeing my friends who have successful life. Can you suggest some remedies to over come this situation.

M.A-Philosophy, Masters in Psychotherapy and Counselling, B.A.M.S
Psychologist,
Hi I am 18 years old. I am getting lot of depression nowadays due to my failure in professional foundation course aft...
Do your swot analysis, find your type of intelligence everyone has different combination of intelligence if you can find your own you can succeed using it I can help you to find it.
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Age 19 Problem concentration loss I do not knw reason bt I am unable to concentrate on studies not even for 30 minutes sincerely. How can I concentrate on studies.

BHMS
Homeopath,
Dear lybrate user, take homoeopathic anacardium 200, 5 drops, thrice daily, in empty stomach. Also take homoeopathic mother tincture ashwagandha q, 30 drops, thrice daily, after meals, in a cup of water.
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I got less marks so I went depression I can't able to come out of it I need help.

BHMS
Homeopath, Delhi
I got less marks so I went depression I can't able to come out of it I need help.
It happens. Do not worry, marks doesn't tell how good you are. If you feel low, you can go for counselling.
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I had an accident last year. I can't get out of the trauma. I get afraid if I board a bus. Please help.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
I had an accident last year. I can't get out of the trauma. I get afraid if I board a bus. Please help.
Dear lybrate user. I can understand. The condition you are troubled with is called anxiety neurosis. Anxiety neurosis treatment consists of cognitive behavioral therapy, life style changes, relaxation therapy and meditation. Once you learn how to manage your anxiety yourself with the help of the above treatment methods, you will be cured and you can stop the medicines if any. The process could take some time according to the depth of the problem and the circumstances at which the patient lives. Anyhow, there is nothing to worry. Most of the psychological problems can be cured with scientific therapy methods. Take care.
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Hey Dr. My memory become week what should do. Whatever I studied in past I have forgot. If work yesterday today become clean many thing. If am too confuse from this. Plc help me.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
If your level of stress is too much it can affect your memory. Although concentration is different to memory, they can affect each other. Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem solving from several angles. Do sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night? s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, do yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling.
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I had admitted in hospital on 26th September and discharge on 30th September I was suffering from high fever and at the time of admitted it was 105 degree Fahrenheit and now I am suffering from complete body pain and headache on diagnosis fever was acute febrile illness so now what should I do to reduce body pain specially headache.

FRHS, Ph.D Neuro , MPT - Neurology Physiotherapy, D.Sp.Med, DPHM (Health Management ), BPTh/BPT
Physiotherapist, Chennai
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Do Take complete rest without focussing any negative issues with balanced diet and hyderated Avoid stress anxiety and anticipating the things
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Mam please tell me how I extend my memory power, how I improve my memory power day by day for help in study. my mind not learn anything fast if I do hard work then my mind learn anything mam I have habit of masturbate in 2 or 3 times in a month. I think masturbation can loose my memory power please tell me all merits and demerits of masturbate and how I improve my memory power line medication or yoga please tell me doctor.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Masturbation has nothing to do with memory power. The stress about you thinking it is a problem will affect your memory. So stop worrying about it. Masturbation is not really bad; it is the addiction to it that is bad. Not even the number of years is a problem but the frequency and compulsiveness to do it is to be considered for its ill-effects. At your age you may feel it difficult and it can become addictive if you have alone time, if you obsess about it, and if you are not into relationships. The problem with addiction to this is that you may go on to prefer masturbation to heterosexual contact, even when you are married. That obviously would be an insult to your wife and will lead to a lot of conflict. Heterosexual contact is very wholesome and the physiology is made exactly for penile and vaginal contact. You will instead enjoy a poor replica of this and not know or care for the difference. The second thing that can happen with addiction is that it will become compulsive and will have no boundaries or limits, since it can be done all by yourself, whenever, wherever, and however too. The big problem a lot of children get into is the guilt around this. A useful way to discharge the energy is to get into contact games, or exercises, or even hobbies to channelize it. Also you should not spend too much time alone, and you need to keep your mind occupied with other interesting things and a lot of socializing. Even if you are not interested in marriage, for whatever reasons, it will help you to get into a friendship with a girl and enjoy the relationship where there will be a lot of excitement when you fall in love. Right now your hormones may be very active and your physiological apparatus is primed and ready for sexual stimulation. But because of your age and even otherwise it is important to develop good control and not feed into your impulses. Keeping yourself occupied and living a healthy social life are the keys to manage your sexual drives. In the meantime do some of these recommendations very faithfully to improve memory: Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem-solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning, at least, five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position, you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. There is some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid sugar and junk food. You may also include these noted foods that are good for your brain health: Brain-Friendly Foods MIND stands for Mediterranean-DASH Intervention for Neurodegenerative Delay. But the MIND approach “specifically includes foods and nutrients that medical literature and data show to be good for the brain, such as berries,” says Martha Clare Morris, ScD, director of nutrition and nutritional epidemiology at Rush University Medical Center. You eat things from these 10 food groups: •Green leafy vegetables (like spinach and salad greens): At least six servings a week •Other vegetables: At least one a day •Nuts: Five servings a week •Berries: Two or more servings a week •Beans: At least three servings a week •Whole grains: Three or more servings a day •Fish: Once a week •Poultry (like chicken or turkey): Two times a week •Olive oil: Use it as your main cooking oil. •Wine: One glass a day You avoid: •Red meat: Less than four servings a week •Butter and margarine: Less than a tablespoon daily •Cheese: Less than one serving a week •Pastries and sweets: Less than five servings a week •Fried or fast food: Less than one serving a week.
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I am 53, have wife and a daughter (23) & a son (14). I am in a good position. I am diabetic and hypertensive. I am highly depressed and may commit suicide anytime. Help sought.

M.B.B.S., F.I.C.A. (USA), P.G.D.I.H, F.C.G.P., D.C.A.H
Psychiatrist, Vadodara
Other than medicine, you need a life coach, be quick, have courage. You will find life and happiness, which are inside you.
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I smoke weed for past 1yr. I when I am high my thigh muscles would experience lot of pain so that I wl nt b able to sit properly. It doesn't happen everyday but sometimes. What will be the reason behind it.

Hand Surgery, M.S. (Orthopaedics
Orthopedist, Ahmedabad
I smoke weed for past 1yr. I when I am high my thigh muscles would experience lot of pain so that I wl nt b able to s...
Dear lybrate-user first of all, you need to get rid of weeds from your life. Most problems are related to it only. Then you can have with drawl symptoms and so you need help of psychiatrist.
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Hypnotherapist, DCS, BSIC, Advanced Trainee of Transactional Analysis, Advanced Skills in Counselling
Psychologist,
It is seen that people who are repeatedly dominated and bullied over are usually submissive in that relationship. To regain control and be able to fend off such unwarranted interactions, it is important to know what stops you from talking assertively and what are you losing and gaining in the bargain. Learning some assertive skills would go a long way.
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I am suffering from marital discord and my wife hardly communicates when my parents are around. She leaves home at her own will. I am not finding any source of happiness in my marriage of 5 years.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
This is a long-standing factor, repeated and confirmed as very critical to sustain a marriage: communication. When there is no communication, there is danger that the union will collapse. You must immediately reach out to a marriage counselor and both of you must attend the sessions. If she is unwilling, you at least go and seek help as to how to make something happen from your side. Ideally, it would best for both to attend, but she may not cooperate like you have indicated. Sometimes you have to take matters in your own hands to do the right things. Passivity under these circumstances is criminal. Be firm but with love. Even when she does not talk, you can initiate conversations in subtle ways, skirting controversial issues and gradually improving and increasing non-threatening dialogues. For example, ignore the non-communication during your parents? visits but as soon as they are gone and she is open to some talking, discuss matters of the house, children, her work or yours, old friends etc. There are so many topics that are easy for conversing about. Your parents, don? t forget, are her in-laws. There is a host of problems between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law universally, that it is referred to as a syndrome. If you discus controversies with her, you will be pressing the wrong buttons. Don? t even bother about your parents being respected, if you want to save your marriage. In fact, you can tell them not to visit for some time until something positive happens between you two. You must be ingenious without it being obvious. If you play the cards right, you can make conducive communication happen in your marriage as though you had never had a problem at all!
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